Turns out the experts were wrong... AGAIN
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He’s so right. I got mad at my mother and didn’t talk to her for about two months. She sent me a letter. “You can be mad and you can decide not to talk to me. But you can’t change the fact I will always be your mother. That is forever. “ So, I came to my senses, and picked the phone and called her. 😊
This man is Pure Wisdom in the form of a human being. This video should be shown to all couples looking for marriage, regardless they are Jews or not.
And loads of relieving sense of humor, LOVE the guy😂
And regardless if you are not jew..
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Right on brother I would show this to my son before he gets married… Lol… Keep on rocking
When I was a young boy I watched the movie Shenandoah for the first time. The part where Doug McClure asks Jimmie Stewart for his daughter's hand hit me like a bolt of lightning. Jimmie asked if he liked his daughter and he replied he loved her. He said I didn't ask if you loved her but if you liked her. He then proceeded to explain why liking the one you marry is more important than loving them. Or as an old song goes, men are really simple, love is like a pimple, once you squeeze the the juices out it just fades away.
I've never forgotten that part of the film. It was insightful. The scene where Stewart does the grace before meals was marvellous too.
As a kid living in Stepney Green London a friend of mine grandmother’s would look after me an old Jewish lady, and I remember my father lighting her fire on Saturday. We where Irish kinda bonded together but old Jewish men with beards would come once every week and sit and talk while she spoke with my Grandmother and this Rabbi reminds me of them all.
I LOVE the humor this gent adds. It's wholesome and wonderful. ❤
This teaching hit hard! I always knew why my relationships failed, but hearing Rabbi Friedmans teaching just sealed what I always knew. I could've listened to the Rabbi for hours. ✝️💜
How I wish I would have had access to this precious wisdom when I was growing up and in my 20s when I was desperately looking for a mentor when there were none to be found. Thank you rabbi for bringing heaven to earth! 🌎
Males need role models like this!
@@sciencenotstigma9534 before I discovered Rabbi Friedman, I'd been doing quite well with the lessons of Dr. Jordan B. Peterson; it was actually in the list of similar videos that I found the good Rebbe.
I've been waiting for someone to say this for years. The idea of love has ruined more marriages and lives than anything else in the modern world.
@muzaffarkrylov2365Agape...love..love..love!!!
Perhaps the concept of the fairytale prince on a white horse. Or Hollywood love stories, especially from the golden age of Hollywood. This created a standard that was unrealistic concerning love and marriage. But there still has to be that "je ne sais pas" that draws people together
@@elysejosephs7302 yea that's what i'm talking about.
@elysejosephs7302 Truth is the outer appearance will grow older and change, and fade away. However, the inner beauty will become better with wisdom and is the truth we should be looking for in the other. Also, isn't je ne said pas" mean "I don't know" in French?
@@robinbanion3772 yes
Well, my commitment to one Women was a eternal oath, "I" have no regrets, only happiness and peace. "I" have seen the other side . One Women is really all you need. You wouldn`t want anymore, it causes hatred and regrets.
So relaxing, so fun, yet so much inspiring. I am a christian with a great interest in Judaism thought and spirituality. With his humor, unique personality, thought provoking and wide range of his knowledge, R. Friedman brings compelling thought. Feed my soul and spirituality. Thank you so much.
Im in the process of converting to Judaism and thia is my favorite Rabbi! I was cleaning while listening and thought he said married people shouldn't be naked in front of one another. I was going to IMMEDIATELY rewinding the video. Then I heard him say that's not if you're married (apparently he was talking about people dating) he said if you're married let your hair down! This Rabbi us wonderful. I live in Rapid City SD and there is virtually no Jewish community here. I made the decision to move in the spring. I decided in Minneapolis. I then learned it remembered that he is in Minneapolis!
Thank you Rabbi Friedman, I follow you regularly and I am learning much more from you than most are able to teach. You are awesome and very much loved by my family and I. You make a wonderful difference in our lives!
My parents were married for 72 yrs, my father passed in 2022. Their marriage seemed miserable many different times. Rabbi is correct. They HAD each other, and my mother is lost right now without her other half.
Same with mine. 63 years. Couples like that don't seem to exist anymore. I never once heard my father raise his voice to my mother. A couple to envy. I wanted that but my husband divorced ne 7 years ago. I'm OK with knowing I'll never have it but hope my children find it
There is no unconditional love including the love God, who demands obedience.
I was once told by and expert, not to blindly trust everything experts tell you and since he was an expert I guess you have to believe that.
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He speaks from a special perspective. You have to sort out what makes sense, what hits something inside and resonates.
@@elysejosephs7302 I guess irony and oxymorons doesn´t resonates with you ?
There's some truth in this ❤
@Uriel-Septim. exactly whst are you trying to say? I respect the Rabbi and his point of view based upon the Torah. Am I convinced that this is truly the"word of God" that was delivered through man? The answer is no. But I still see some wisdom in what he says
*I finally got what Rabbi Friedman stands for. He treats or seems to be bothered by statements that are so 'light in reasoning' that they breach a certain limit of being awkward.*
Shalom Rabbi ,shalom I Mrs. Mary Ravi kumar an Indian who believes n also follows messianic Judaism .for the past one year I've been watching you on CZcams you give great knowledge to your students.
I know these things to be true in a relationship because I was never more alone than when I was married. Don't see myself ever doing it again...
What about Agape love instead of Eros love?
Ditto. I will live in freedom and joy with my beloved with no strings attached.Let God be your judge in all you do and you cant go wrong.
But attraction is the glue that cements the relationship
@@robinbanion3772 What is Eros love?
@elysejosephs7302 I wonder if the glue you are talking about is taught by movies, TV, paparazzi, glamor and gossip? All are superficial . To know the soul of another, you must dig deep to find the true human being within.
Rabbi Freedman!!!
This amazing lecture has truly been an utterly awesome experience!!! So much intelligence and wisdom I have been enjoying every minute of it!!!
I live in Eretz Yisrael and i would love for this lecture to be translated into hebrew so i could share it with my husband and married children! I have to say-being married for more then 30 years this session was heart opening and eye opening So much important information!!!
Please tell me the name of your book if it is anything like this lecture then it has probably got to be a BESTSELLER!!!!!
Thank you and May Hashem bless you with lots of strength and good health to continue inspiring with your G-dly given חכמה!!! G-d bless you and your family.
Rabbi, I feel it is important to point something out here.
The theme song from the sitcom "Married with children" and the show itself wasn't to teach us what love and marriage are. It wasn't referring to a proper state of being together.
The show itself made a mockery of love and marriage, through normalizing dysfunction.
People found it funny because on some level, by that point, almost every family had a form of dysfunction so they could relate to what they were seeing.
And by making us laugh about it they "normalized" it, which made our consciences go, "Oh. This is ok. It's funny because it's not just me. It's normal for this to be happening."
So it "normalized" the dysfunctional behavior we were seeing on the TV as well as within our own home within our conscience.
It's called predictive programming.
And the thing is... The amazing thing that Dylan Mulvany brought to the surface intentionally or not...
Is that this concept of just "normalizing" what we like, but others don't is now seeded in our subconscious mind... Through predictive programming.
His answer quite plainly to people who were uncomfortable with him pretending to be a woman while wearing tight leather shorts that revealed his "bulge" was...
Well... Let's just "normalize" the bulge then.🤷
But believe me when I say that the majority of things that have been "normalized" in our subconscious minds are anything BUT normal human behavior. 👍
War. Dissension. Outbursts of wrath. Selfish pursuits for selfish purposes. Me, me, me.
All of it is garbage.
You can't work together when you are too busy working against each other in a competition to meet your needs or desires, right?
So what is the answer then?
I wish I knew. But I do know this... People can't change their ways when they can't see that they need to.
Censorship doesn't JUST censor what is considered "bad".
Censorship is also being used HUGELY to keep what IS good buried beneath the surface so VERY FEW CAN SEE.
See, that the thing about science... Their ideals are geared towards getting results, with no proactive thinking whatsoever.
It's just like HEY! This WORKS! Wooooo hooo! 🥳 And then they run with it.
And it works for a while... Until something they never considered a possibility starts happening...
They discovered they could program our subconscious minds through "television"...
"tell-a-vision"...
Not realizing if THEY could do it, once someone figured out what THEY were doing, they could simply begin telling a DIFFERENT vision, that would strongly impact and change the subconscious minds of all of those they have worked so hard to program. 🤷♀️
OOPS. 😬😂
A woman in a video I watched said there was a big difference between the atmosphere on CZcams and Instagram. She said she preferred posting on CZcams because of it.
That's because the "vision" that is being told here on CZcams is far different from the vision being told on the other social media sites.
People should stop being so hard on CZcams for censorship. They have to follow the "laws" too. Despite our circumstances and the hurdles they've had to jump over in this circus of social media, they've continued to allow enough good vision to be spread around to change the entire atmosphere.
Just think about that for a minute.
You make a lot of crucial points about this world we live in today. Ongoing, non stop predictive program is for real. But look how many people keep their "tell-a-vision", are addicted to it, think life just isn't possible without it. Those of us who don't have one are considered shocking, LOL! Be very careful what you allow your mind to be exposed to.
❤awesome thank you Rabbi ❤️🌻🙏
Love is not a feeling it’s an act of your will.Well done Rabi
hardly; it is exactly a feeling which may or may not be present and cannot be forced by any act of will. All one can in fact control is one's behavior and we all should.
@donnasherwood283 Sounds like you're talking about attraction/lust/infatuation, which is commonly thought of as love, but we're not talking about that kind of love which is fleeting and often superficial.
i am a 73 year old woman with a vast experience with men. I know the difference among all those things and love very clearly. I think many from your community mistake love for things such as respect affection and commitment to community mores and there is nothing wrong with that. I grew up with a community of greeks where many of the older generations had arranged marriages. Some grew in affection and regard and frankly kept the families together and a form of bond of affection came into play. I think of this as Fiddler on the Roof song where he wants to know if golda loves him. He knows the difference hoping it had evolved into that. There really are all sorts of stories in life and this topic cannot necessarily be reduced as handily as this wonderful rabbi attempts to do. I have loved and lost 4 men to deaths from the age of 25 and still feel intense love for them. My second husband was a man I married for reasons other than love he died in '14 and I still feel profound respect for him but it was never love. I do not think any connection i have made, and there have been quite a few, was either fleeting or superficial. @@TroublezAhead00
@TroublezAhead00 but there still has to be some attraction, some spark that glues things together. If not, then you can basically marry anyone. I guess this is where the Rabbi is coming from. Orthodox marry by being matched, and often meet only a few times before they get married. In essence they know little to nothing about each other
many from community would say they have "arranged" meetings not marriages. I think is a little disingenuous as my impression is immense pressure is put on the young to get married. As the ancient romans said "too much familiarity breeds contempt" so maybe this approach has some genuine value to it. Looking at the job our young in the west are doing with all the freedom in the world it may be more sensible. I knew quite a few from the greek immigrant community who had this arrangement and if one values the elusive "happiness" above all else outcome was mixed contempt, disappointment and anger often the result. But more true in our 50% divorce rates of today.@@elysejosephs7302
People don’t know what true love is. Most identified lust as love, idolatry as love, and pleasure as love, etc.
And emotions, too, as love... Love is not an emotion, it is a logical, rational decision to consistently treat someone as you want to be treated.
Love and Marriage go together like a Horse and Carriage 🙂 Yes the Show with Ed ONeil Married with Children mocked this ideal too. The PROBLEM is It is NOT LOVE... it is our Definition of Love. Most just see this word meaning strong affection and emotions.. which we can have at times.. but the real Definition is CARING and A CHOICE to take a vested interest in SOMETHING. Which means not Always enabling Evil or the fuzzy feelings all the time with it. So YES the MOST HIGH LOVES US and Thank God for that...but it is with PERFECT LOVE which we are trying to learn this more Perfect Love by practicing this with others. Blessings!
Agape love is unconditional love to the sacred of the other!!!
@@robinbanion3772 Well said! Amen
I realize you can love unconditionally, but you have to realize that no one is obligated to love you unconditionally back, whether you choose to continue to love unconditionally or not it is your choice, and loving someone unconditionally doesn’t mean you have to accept one’s bad behavior.
I appreciate you as a philosopher and man of God. I am trying to improve my relationship and understanding of God, and at the same time apply that to my future wife and our struggles as a couple. I feel lucky to hear you speak words with such meaning.
To love someone based upon their importance to you is mercenary.
What a pure well thought out comment I truly thank you. Kindest regards from Ireland.
This Rabbi is so good lector, wisdom he is sharing👍
Shabbath shalom this Rabbi preaching guided by the Spirit of Wisdom in Spirit of Understanding...shalom...Rabbi..from Philippine...the Queen of the South...shalom...cebu..shalom
Thanks for expressing this Wisdom ❤❤❤❤
I love this sermon.
God Bless you Rabbi Friedman. I'm tuned in on how you put reality and spirituality in to perspective. As a Korean male I've never heard such godly wisdom.
Outstanding Rabbi and Thank You ❤️
Your very inspiring to listen to
Aren't there 5 kinds of love? For most folks they only think of Eros(erotic). But all people need to understand and practice Agape(unconditional).
Unconditional truth......
This is so true!! Years ago I turned my back on God and after approximately 26 she divorced me! She remarried and I stayed single and after reading the Bible and getting more understanding as there was a being telling me not to get married and I listened! She’s in adultery now and millions of people are in this category.
Brilliant lecture ❤❤
I wish I'd found a Man of this quality to advise me in my early years.
Perhaps i wouldn't have made so many mistakes and caused such harm to others and myself.
It's never too late
Dear Rabbi Friedman. I feel sorry for anyone who listens to this lecture. Love is not an emotion. Love is the outpouring of one’s deepest wellsprings. When one is fortunate to undergo such transformation, the wellsprings themselves search for and discern the complementary, harmonious, passionate, other wellsprings. The two wellsprings have no secrets from each other and ultimate romance envelopes the souls. And yes, that is the reason…
(let’s see if I’ve enticed you enough). Shavua tov. ❤️❤️❤️ Happy Monster
I think this is the best video the Rabbi has made.
When you hear the truth concerning such a maligned subject as marriage, it fits neatly in with other truth, like copacetic puzzle pieces. And reveals the God of creation.
Love without Wisdom is blind. Wisdom without Love is lame.
Sorry, love is not a feeling but a commitment and a convent to a relationship.
Ironically , it would be safer to dress immodesty in the home than on the street . It is something to think about . Great talk about love, Rabbi.
So true...thank you Rabi... men are devastated, but some women are utterly faithless and crave attention from attractive men other than their husband.
My husband divorced me after 27 years marriage and 5 children. I didn't want useless flattery. I wanted him to find me attractive because men are more visual so I'd ask if he liked a certain hair do or make up. I was a military wife for 25 years and he deployed a lot. When my husband wasn't home men who weren't accompanied by their wives weren't admitted into my home barring a plumber or something. People laughed at me but I was raised to have not only self respect but respect for my spouse. When he left me for a girl he went to high school with I was devastated. I have MS and ended up in a nursing home fir a couple of months. That was 7 years ago. Had he not left me I wouldn't be converting more than likely. I don't think all men are bad and I have no animosity towards him. Life goes on. There are abusive and mean men and there are women who are gold diggers and big flirts. But that's not all. Just my opinion. ☺
@@susanlett9632Very good and intelligent comment 👌❤
I have never been Married, and I have never Died...and so "In the Name of Love" is redundant! I know both Good and Bad can Love, in fact, Evil Lives to Love! Love is not the Answer at all, and it is not the Ingredient we are Missing! Joy is the Oil that Fills the Lamp!
In Fact, Love cannot be Bought or Sold...but it is Joy which can be Purchased!
Not married but saw the whole thing happy I did tbh 👌
Did he not make one being, with flesh and spirit: and what does that one require but godly offspring? You must then safeguard life that is your own, and not break faith with the wife of your youth. (Mal 2:15 NABO)
While the translations vary, this one makes my point. We all have an eternal partner in life. The creation story is about the earth being created with a plan for salvation and restoration of those who have become corrupted by sin. The sin of Adam is prophetic of the sacrifice, which is made to justify the sentence.
Agape love is to love the sacredness of the other. I think that most find it difficult to put another first. However, it is impossible to truly love another if you can't love yourself!!!
Love and marriage go together like oil and water. Love is what happens after marriage.
Total generation=gene rations= we get our daily rations=regeneration of the nation, thanks for this bliss kiss(of Word)
On second thoughts... Yes, you are right in saying to me I could've ordered a less burning coffee for myself :)
Beautiful
I needed ya 20yrs ago dang 😅
Save them both. Love Doesn’t make things great it simply connect us to the obvious and breaks down our pain
what we learn about this session it’s not easy to find any other relationships in Jewish community of modern life style because each person is unity also in Jewish life
Having unconditional love for someone is different than giving it carelessly and spoiling that love. I think having unconditional love is real and if one sets boundaries concerning it, they won't be taken advantage of or condone aspects they don't like. I love a person but he will not be welcome if he thinks and behaves in a manner I deem unacceptable.
This gentleman makes a lot of very good points
Very good and appreciated.
Happy holidays brothers
if you live in the name of love you are all right.thank you.
Today in millions of countries USA UK Europe has healthy crisis most people live alone or change each month or six months their partners it’s not good
GOD is the only expert and until we follow scripture according to GODS word; we will not have harmony....
שבת מבורך לך ולשך
Thank you
God's commands are universal for all mankind.. Thank you.
God is love the quality a of love are good for us as a race when we excercise the quality's of love.patience, forgiveness,understanding etc...love is important so is common sense
You tell’M rabbi 💪
All of a sudden the word "healthy" has climbed in the top 3 of most abused word. Everything is characterised as healthy or not healthy. This gives out the same putrid smell like "normal" & "not normal"
Love is something that you do
exactly “Love is an action”, which requires self-sacrifice. much like a horse pulling a carriage. We all need to put in labor and not allow the other to carry all the weight.
Generous with words can be flattering, watch out.
Love is not an emotion..Love is a Value that incorporates all emotions...like any value...it can go up or down..when it's down...the emotion is negative..when the value is high the emotion is positive
In America live disturb destroy people of stress full marriage they are mostly divorced in not good convictions or life in partnership
I have MS. After my husband of 27 years left me i was all alone. We had five children in eitht years who were all grown at the time of the divorce but were still at our house a lot) long story short I moved far away and was so lonely it hurt. I ended up in a nursing home for months unable to walk. That was seven years ago. Stress ans lonliness can break a persons emotional, physical and mental health.
That's truly awful. May you find happiness and peace, and good health x
@@pineapplesnoopy1876he did me a favor. Had he not I'd probably still be in a Baptist church keeping my mouth shut most of the time when the pastor said something foolish (Not all the time though) and not worshipping but sitting passively amongst others worshiping a dead carpenter. No offense to anyone but having Hashem and the Torah and rabbis like this man teaching me I'm overwhelmed with joy. The only greater joy will be actually converting. But I have to move. No orthodox synagogue here in Rapid SD
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Brilliant!❤
God said, "Love your neighbour."
Many of the points he makes resonate with Muslims, especially about intimacy and sanctity.
Thank you rabbi
❤✡️🤣👌🙏 Rabbi Manis Friedman : always very interesting with a lot of humor !!
I don't understand what about God loving us unconditionally?
Marriage for money is not really love it’s not functional but sometimes there cheater of marriage
Thanks rabbi
Hey brother like your vidio. Jim
When religion goes hand in hand with science, things are very serious. It seems like there is no way out of this.
Their way of thinking & acting all in a... friiish package. New ways to talk, backed by science now.
This is a nightmare
a earth without love isn ´t good
Very interesting fact.
If this is true, how can a man be allowed to marry numerous women?
By the time religions were created by man, they thought, earth is the middle and only place of humans.
I'd love your feedback about what I just did. Thank you.
This just proves we are so dumb we can believe anything.
Everything u said is absolutely true
God love is behind your understanding
He’s gonna get it when he gets home.
I like his hat.
What a Wisdom .
🙏🙏🙏
@manisfriedman how are you learning והיו לבשר אחד and where is this פשט from because it's not from רשי על התורה in my understanding it's talking about 2 DNA becoming one as the child if I understand correctly?
You'll down whatever the currency demands in the name of forced in ignorance.
I respectfully disagree . My mother told me she would love me no matter what. She turned love in to a fact . I felt secure and would not want to disappoint her because of the gift of love she gave me. So consequently I behaved pretty well.
It all sounds like utopia, I will never understand how it is possible to become one
neither is telling them they will go to Gehenna and be erased from the book of Life, and when they need you most you throw them in the streets like trash