I feel open, understanding, compassionate after just a few minutes of listening to her. It's amazing how the right words, and with the right tones and inflections, can convey so much wisdom. Wishing safety, health, and happiness to you all ^_^
I listened to half way. I cannot agree with the basic premise. There are those I know and who I love. There are those I know with whom I have not always had the best relationship. So far I agree, then there are the innumerable strangers who I meet every day and whose kindness humbles me. I look around and I see love everywhere.
This talk demonstrates quite directly and simply an aspect of our own "ignorance" and how that affects our relationship with everything and everyone in the relative sense when we are still dwelling in our notions of self and other, subject and objet. It is our ignorance, not so much as in the sense of stupidity, but in regards to ignoring. In that sense, there is great insight even within our ignorance. This is not really a "religious" talk in the Western sense. The functioning of the mind itself can be the essential matter and suffering is the overall issue. From a purely pragmatic viewpoint, concerning all of our relations, the talk delivers valuable reflections in the form of sound advice that one can easily test by way of practice.
I have been listening to ven Chodron's teachings and Breakfast corner for some years now and am so grateful that You Tube has enabled this across the ocean that divides. I just watched the slide show diary and loved how it showed the dedication and love and especially the mantra track that accompanied it. Thank you for continually sharing. I hear that this 2023 winter has been extreme so I am sending prayers of comfort. 🙏
The very first video of Ven Thubten Chodron that I saw back in 2015. She's an incredible woman, who has advanced gender equality and equanimity within Buddhism and beyond. She takes ancient eastern philosophies and relates them to our western way of life using laughter, warmth and kindness. This video is from 2004, she's grown in wisdom and kindness. sabbe satta sukhi hontu!!!
BUDDHA teaching is always TRUTH . even you believe it or not it wont change it. like fire is always hot . you see it touch it u get burnt, blind people touch it still get burnt. that is the TRUTH THE RULE. Cause and effect
Thank you, peaceful1987, for posting this. I happen to like Thubten Chodron's talks quite a bit and was quite taken with her talk on Transforming problems (the first of her videos I've seen, also on youtube) and had had her recommended to me by a kind Tibetan-American Buddhist. While her speaking style (or for that matter the topics discussed) won't appeal to everyone, I think she communicates very clearly from a place of great personal authenticity.
Hello Thubten Chodron. You made a great impact on me after I picked up your little book "I wonder why" from a temple in Singapore. Your clear explanation & even tone (in the book) was extremely comforting to me in difficult times, & I carried the book around like an amulet in my bag & read it over & over.. Definitely I have progressed in my practice so now I am learning Dharma exponentially on the web. Your kindness & radiant smile illuminated my life, for which I'm deeply grateful..
+Jenayalynn Riojas It may be alright to find it hard. In other words, you may be discovering the place where that occurs and obtain insight into the process and outcomes of it, first. It being hard to do may be secondary to the valuable insights you obtain from attending to the idea of it and noticing the difficulty. Maybe you can keep in mind that to do the exchange in no way requires you to condone the behavior or enable it. It might be easier to consider the person and their core and needs and even motivations as the place of exchange and the behaviors as a way to see the impact and effects that they have. What suffering might result for that person due to that? Do you need to judge it, in that sense, or just recognize it for what it is? That is a place for compassion to arise, actually. There can and will be ethical problems in different situations in relation to your practice, you know. So, if you continue to practice, you make it simpler and easier for yourself to resolve them with your own, appropriate behavior and response, rather than an impulsive reaction--insights do arise naturally when unimpeded. Go easy and continue. Ask lots of questions. Tashi Delel
We are what we are, we react as we react. It’s nice thinking to believe that we could be otherwise, kind and compassionate as speakers like this suggest, but we’re not. We’re none of those things. We are who we are and life is as it is. There’s not even anyone who can observe this; it just is.
Everything I need to do . I have so much in built anger and get consumed by anger. Unfortunately the things my own family and people closest to me have done had completely ruined my life and future. It’s so hard but I am going to try. Very hard.
Thank you. She is incredible ,fantastic personality. I made my own conclusion .Used to be a Christian ,then deeply regret. I spend so many ears worshiping to a bloody nonsense .
+nikolas aylta Remember that time is empty. Don't regret your past or treat it as ignorance, merely rejoice in the fact that you are now on the path of the Sangha, which, provided you take seriously, you will never stray from until you reach enlightenment.
Quq Balam Lol, "Believe nothing, no matter where you read it or who has said, not even if i have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense." Buddha. Does that sound like a religion that 'worships nonsense'. Buddhists don't worship anything and buddhism is a living tradition with ongoing debate, which includes scientific alterations. Do your research before you make yourself look like an idiot.
You have the right to believe that. You are suffering, you just do not realize it yet. One day you will realize it and want to do something about it. Then you will pray for someone like Pema Chodron to teach you the way out of your suffering.
Happy people have the potential to uplift other people and make them happy too. Happiness is contagious and, unfortunately, misery is also contagious. Fortunately, happiness is more contagious because it tends to attract "normal people" (i.e. neither particularly happy nor unhappy people) whereas misery tends to repel "normal people". Everyone can experience temporary mood-elevation, but it takes skill to be truly happy. It's both wise and compassionate to develop this skill. May you be happy.
This advice is all well and good between healthy individuals. But please, if you know someone with a personality disorder or mental illness, KNOW that all the compassion in the world won't change them Go, and save yourself, while being compassionate from AFAR 🙏
Awareness leads to perfection. Aware all within us and all around us is an awakening mind. Aware to change, to improve and make a difference, yet whether that awareness attached any negative, unpleasant or agitated feeling is only the person knows the person’s mind.
The Buddha teaching is the deepest science and very profound. It's a vision not a belief. The vision arise to you when one is completely free from words. If you r free from the words you r free and you become the universe. You become the nature. You set free from time and distance the duality. You become eternal: how? The person we believe in us would be a fake belief and then you see there is no one in or out. You become eternal. Just like the experience you have in deep sleep. There is no I in deep sleep. The I only exist on awake state, with words.
+debbiewasshername Maybe she's baby-talking because she has limitless compassion and she sees everyone as her infant. Babies don't baby talk. It is the mothers that do.
Given the situation in the world today, when people are persecuting and killing their fellow human beings, how does one balance the need to protect innocent victims without falling victim to hatred of those who persecute and murder?
If you remain yourself, and retain your innocence, don't be mean, jealous, envious, resentful, unforgiving, and just keep moving on. Don't be lazy, find something to do, and then do it all the way. Don't cheat, or steal, or want all the time. Be patient, because one day you'll want someone to be patient for you.
This is the first time I've seen or heard of Thubten Chodron. I'm trying to listen with an open mind, but I have difficult with her style. It sounds like she's talking to first graders. (Although, maybe for beginners that's ok.)
I also feel a little strange with her style. But she is only human. We all have faults and some like us more than others. (I probably ave many more than her) I do not believe or enjoy everything I hear. I take a bit here and a bit there. For me, it is much more balanced way to learn my own path with this. My lesson: learn to care. Good luck.
***** I see your point. It is easy for us to forget what it will be like for beginners. This is not really appropriate for them. If I had started with this...I would have never of bothered looking at the precepts.
(part 2) It seems to be easier for many of us to instinctively focus on the negatives in ourselves and others. It takes a bit of effort to go against that habit and to form a new, more skillful, habit. It is worth it though, if we want to be happy. This is not living in denial of the negative; it is acknowledging cause and effect, and being pragmatic. Focusing (too much) on negativity leads to depression. Focusing (about 90%) on positive aspects of ourselves and others leads to happiness.
(part 1) It's not simply a matter of projection to see the good qualities in others. I can see (what I would deem to be) good qualities in the vast majority of people, in spite of also being able to see certain qualities that I might not like in the very same people. It is a matter of goals. If your goal is to be happy, then it is wise and skillful to focus primarily on the positive qualities in yourself and others...
"If youre going to be selfish, be wisely selfish.. not stupid selfish that is only concerned with "I" while disregarding & neglecting others" ~ Dalai Lama
38:37 (edit)🤔she seems to still have some ?prejudice🙊 lol 😆 unconscious..picking George bush vs bin laden 😂👍interesting. The mind is really amazing.😊🧘♀️Good teachings and great truths🗣🧘♀️☮️🧡
We feed on our grudges, that is why we do not let go. The greatest fasting is to fast from grudges. We instead choose to fast from food because it is easier.
I thought it was very profound when she said, "just because someone is wrong, why do you have to be angry?"
We create our friends, enemies and strangers ourselves in our own mind!!!
So simple but so profound.......
She is smiling all the time! So beautiful
“If we’re still miserable, what good does it make being right?” Thank you for your message 🙏🏻
I realize Im kind of randomly asking but do anybody know a good website to stream newly released series online?
@Saint Zyaire ehh lately I have been using flixportal. just google for it:D -leroy
@Leroy Lewis Thanks, signed up and it seems like they got a lot of movies there :D Appreciate it !!
@Saint Zyaire happy to help :)
There have been many times I'm "right" but it gives me no pleasure saying I told you so either.
I feel open, understanding, compassionate after just a few minutes of listening to her. It's amazing how the right words, and with the right tones and inflections, can convey so much wisdom. Wishing safety, health, and happiness to you all ^_^
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I listened to half way. I cannot agree with the basic premise. There are those I know and who I love. There are those I know with whom I have not always had the best relationship. So far I agree, then there are the innumerable strangers who I meet every day and whose kindness humbles me. I look around and I see love everywhere.
Such a loving and gentle teacher and such clear teachings. Thank you for your kindness and compassion.
Agreed :) Shoryu Bradley at Gyobutsuji Zen Monastery is also like this :) Deep Zen practice there.
I am watching her talk for the first time. she is so Wise. She is so AMAZING! :O
Sadho SAdho Sadho :)
This talk demonstrates quite directly and simply an aspect of our own "ignorance" and how that affects our relationship with everything and everyone in the relative sense when we are still dwelling in our notions of self and other, subject and objet. It is our ignorance, not so much as in the sense of stupidity, but in regards to ignoring. In that sense, there is great insight even within our ignorance.
This is not really a "religious" talk in the Western sense. The functioning of the mind itself can be the essential matter and suffering is the overall issue. From a purely pragmatic viewpoint, concerning all of our relations, the talk delivers valuable reflections in the form of sound advice that one can easily test by way of practice.
I have been listening to ven Chodron's teachings and Breakfast corner for some years now and am so grateful that You Tube has enabled this across the ocean that divides. I just watched the slide show diary and loved how it showed the dedication and love and especially the mantra track that accompanied it. Thank you for continually sharing. I hear that this 2023 winter has been extreme so I am sending prayers of comfort. 🙏
The very first video of Ven Thubten Chodron that I saw back in 2015. She's an incredible woman, who has advanced gender equality and equanimity within Buddhism and beyond. She takes ancient eastern philosophies and relates them to our western way of life using laughter, warmth and kindness. This video is from 2004, she's grown in wisdom and kindness. sabbe satta sukhi hontu!!!
Gender shouldn't matter ;)
BUDDHA teaching is always TRUTH . even you believe it or not it wont change it. like fire is always hot . you see it touch it u get burnt, blind people touch it still get burnt. that is the TRUTH THE RULE. Cause and effect
Thank you, peaceful1987, for posting this. I happen to like Thubten Chodron's talks quite a bit and was quite taken with her talk on Transforming problems (the first of her videos I've seen, also on youtube) and had had her recommended to me by a kind Tibetan-American Buddhist. While her speaking style (or for that matter the topics discussed) won't appeal to everyone, I think she communicates very clearly from a place of great personal authenticity.
love ,love, love . . thank you - Thubten Chodron you are the best I have ever met !!
THANKS VEN THUBTEN CHODRON! GREAT TALK !
THUBTEN CHODRON WONDERFUL TALK. YOU CHOOSE THE RIGHT PATH. THANK YOU VERY MUCH
i love this so much; thank you so much for the beautiful truth-tellings < 3
I am thouroughly enjoying this video as my first dharma talk. I love it.
Great talk, seems like common sense but I don't think the message of the importance of forgiveness can ever be overstated :)
so beautiful. thank you so much, venerable thubten!
Hello Thubten Chodron. You made a great impact on me after I picked up your little book "I wonder why" from a temple in Singapore. Your clear explanation & even tone (in the book) was extremely comforting to me in difficult times, & I carried the book around like an amulet in my bag & read it over & over.. Definitely I have progressed in my practice so now I am learning Dharma exponentially on the web. Your kindness & radiant smile illuminated my life, for which I'm deeply grateful..
This Talk giving me some delightful idea that I am seeking so long .! Thanks
thanks for uploading/finding this ...Sunday fare. Very quick lady..
This talk is wonderful. I find it hard to self exchange when others are abusive no matter what you do. . .
+Jenayalynn Riojas It may be alright to find it hard. In other words, you may be discovering the place where that occurs and obtain insight into the process and outcomes of it, first. It being hard to do may be secondary to the valuable insights you obtain from attending to the idea of it and noticing the difficulty.
Maybe you can keep in mind that to do the exchange in no way requires you to condone the behavior or enable it. It might be easier to consider the person and their core and needs and even motivations as the place of exchange and the behaviors as a way to see the impact and effects that they have. What suffering might result for that person due to that? Do you need to judge it, in that sense, or just recognize it for what it is? That is a place for compassion to arise, actually.
There can and will be ethical problems in different situations in relation to your practice, you know. So, if you continue to practice, you make it simpler and easier for yourself to resolve them with your own, appropriate behavior and response, rather than an impulsive reaction--insights do arise naturally when unimpeded. Go easy and continue. Ask lots of questions.
Tashi Delel
wow. she's so eloquent. what a great talk on bodhicitta
here is a person who can make budisme simpel and clear !
Thank you so much for your videos. You are teaching me every day. Again tank
long life Ani Thupte Choedon la, Respect and love from Tibet
Brilliant! Excellent message.
We are what we are, we react as we react. It’s nice thinking to believe that we could be otherwise, kind and compassionate as speakers like this suggest, but we’re not. We’re none of those things. We are who we are and life is as it is. There’s not even anyone who can observe this; it just is.
Thank you for sharing this.....such a great teacher. :)
Thank you for such clear reminder.
I really enjoyed this Dhamma Talk. Thanks for sharing it.
Thank you so very much, Blessings!
thanks for your fresh teachings.. Namastë.
so useful and nice teaching that is made for normal people ... funny too !
What she says is so true; families really show you whether you can walk the talk, and also are very good places to learn how to do so.
Excellent talk. Thank You.
I listen to this to relax. A very relaxing video
wonderful enriching and so true ! thank you alot !
Perfect! Love it!
nammo amitaba...thank you for your teaching
Transformative. Thank you very much.
Everything I need to do . I have so much in built anger and get consumed by anger. Unfortunately the things my own family and people closest to me have done had completely ruined my life and future. It’s so hard but I am going to try. Very hard.
GRATITUDE FOR HER AND THANK YOU SISTER.
Beautiful teachings
Thank you so much, thubten chodron. Amitabha.
A very inspiring dharma talk about relationships. thanks! =)
Thanks for the good teaching video.
Beautiful, thank you :)
Thank you. She is incredible ,fantastic personality. I made my own conclusion .Used to be a Christian ,then deeply regret. I spend so many ears worshiping to a bloody nonsense .
yep me too when through the same bull
+nikolas aylta Remember that time is empty. Don't regret your past or treat it as ignorance, merely rejoice in the fact that you are now on the path of the Sangha, which, provided you take seriously, you will never stray from until you reach enlightenment.
You replaced a bloody religion that worships nonsense for another bloody religion that worships nonsense.
Quq Balam Lol, "Believe nothing, no matter where you read it or who has said, not even if i have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense." Buddha.
Does that sound like a religion that 'worships nonsense'. Buddhists don't worship anything and buddhism is a living tradition with ongoing debate, which includes scientific alterations. Do your research before you make yourself look like an idiot.
Johnny Tightlips Where does Buddha say that?
thank you, great teaching, this teaching has helped me deeply! Jai!
Thanks for sharing the very good thing.
She is wonderful!
I love her! I've been learning these concepts for a while, but some teachers just put things in a way that's so easy to understand.
reminding me how important it is to look into our soul.
She is so wonderful.
Sadhu sadhu
Thank you!
Amazing!
this was a very interesting and i am going to watch it many times as there is so much in the teaching.
By,
Debra Linder .
You have the right to believe that. You are suffering, you just do not realize it yet. One day you will realize it and want to do something about it. Then you will pray for someone like Pema Chodron to teach you the way out of your suffering.
Happy people have the potential to uplift other people and make them happy too. Happiness is contagious and, unfortunately, misery is also contagious. Fortunately, happiness is more contagious because it tends to attract "normal people" (i.e. neither particularly happy nor unhappy people) whereas misery tends to repel "normal people". Everyone can experience temporary mood-elevation, but it takes skill to be truly happy. It's both wise and compassionate to develop this skill. May you be happy.
This advice is all well and good between healthy individuals. But please, if you know someone with a personality disorder or mental illness, KNOW that all the compassion in the world won't change them
Go, and save yourself, while being compassionate from AFAR 🙏
Now....Ven. Thubten IS telling it like it is...........Modern day America is just like this.
What a drag this place is, in one large sense
wise will realize the truth... Supreme Buddha's Dhamma is the greatest test in the world..
Thank you very much!
Awareness leads to perfection. Aware all within us and all around us is an awakening mind. Aware to change, to improve and make a difference, yet whether that awareness attached any negative, unpleasant or agitated feeling is only the person knows the person’s mind.
The Buddha teaching is the deepest science and very profound. It's a vision not a belief. The vision arise to you when one is completely free from words. If you r free from the words you r free and you become the universe. You become the nature. You set free from time and distance the duality. You become eternal: how? The person we believe in us would be a fake belief and then you see there is no one in or out. You become eternal. Just like the experience you have in deep sleep. There is no I in deep sleep. The I only exist on awake state, with words.
the I is called "ego", perception of self and the world. Ego stops us from seeing the universe for what it is.
I like buddhis dharma
Exactly, thank you.
shes on the path, and the comments that shes baby talking show the commenter is the baby. This girl is growing and making her way, namaste
debbiewasshername it's not baby talk, it's sweet talk.
+debbiewasshername This child saw a book with a red cover once and thought it must be about something red. Then, she read the book.
goog points, namaste
+debbiewasshername Maybe she's baby-talking because she has limitless compassion and she sees everyone as her infant. Babies don't baby talk. It is the mothers that do.
good points, namaste
Given the situation in the world today, when people are persecuting and killing their fellow human beings, how does one balance the need to protect innocent victims without falling victim to hatred of those who persecute and murder?
If you remain yourself, and retain your innocence, don't be mean, jealous, envious, resentful, unforgiving, and just keep moving on. Don't be lazy, find something to do, and then do it all the way. Don't cheat, or steal, or want all the time. Be patient, because one day you'll want someone to be patient for you.
Again thank you
that`s knowledge !!!
This is the first time I've seen or heard of Thubten Chodron. I'm trying to listen with an open mind, but I have difficult with her style. It sounds like she's talking to first graders. (Although, maybe for beginners that's ok.)
Making something difficult look so easy a first grader could understand it's something I find very enviable. I suppose each has his own preferences.
I also feel a little strange with her style.
But she is only human. We all have faults
and some like us more than others.
(I probably ave many more than her)
I do not believe or enjoy everything I hear. I take a bit here and a bit there. For me, it is much more balanced way to learn my own path with this. My lesson: learn to care.
Good luck.
You might prefer the videos of Pema Chodron, also a Buddhist nun, who is older, has a deeper voice, and her own unique way of speaking.
***** Great.
***** I see your point. It is easy for us to forget what it will be like for beginners. This is not really appropriate for them. If I had started with this...I would have never of bothered looking at the precepts.
I love him
I like her! She is funny :)
This is my favorite dharma talk ever.
(part 2) It seems to be easier for many of us to instinctively focus on the negatives in ourselves and others. It takes a bit of effort to go against that habit and to form a new, more skillful, habit. It is worth it though, if we want to be happy. This is not living in denial of the negative; it is acknowledging cause and effect, and being pragmatic. Focusing (too much) on negativity leads to depression. Focusing (about 90%) on positive aspects of ourselves and others leads to happiness.
Thank you Ani la.
Thank you.
what's that beautiful choir at the beginning ? what is it called ??
smile and the world will smile back...
amazing thanks
nonno bon professeur (monja buen maestro)
wise AND cute!
(part 1) It's not simply a matter of projection to see the good qualities in others. I can see (what I would deem to be) good qualities in the vast majority of people, in spite of also being able to see certain qualities that I might not like in the very same people. It is a matter of goals. If your goal is to be happy, then it is wise and skillful to focus primarily on the positive qualities in yourself and others...
Lovely!
Tashi Delek🇳🇿🌺❤️
"If youre going to be selfish, be wisely selfish.. not stupid selfish that is only concerned with "I" while disregarding & neglecting others"
~ Dalai Lama
I just love her! She has taught me so much!
Good education so useful
38:37 (edit)🤔she seems to still have some ?prejudice🙊 lol 😆 unconscious..picking George bush vs bin laden 😂👍interesting. The mind is really amazing.😊🧘♀️Good teachings and great truths🗣🧘♀️☮️🧡
A fundamental Question !! Do we as individuals continue to live on in an alternative dimension when this physical body dies ?
very good!
Life is emptiness. Watch your own mind to experience the ultimate
Buddhism is greatest export of India.
❤❤🙏
Our anger or fear is an indicator, but not an excellent one. Anger or fear are more likely to warp reality in a way that impedes grounded judgement.
We feed on our grudges, that is why we do not let go. The greatest fasting is to fast from grudges. We instead choose to fast from food because it is easier.