Narcissist: My Gut Instinct Rules, My Intuition is FACT!
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- čas přidán 18. 04. 2024
- Narcissist knows best, knows it all, and is always right.
Perceives himself as infallible and omniscient. Knowledge emanates only from the inside (intuition and confabulation, internal object, failed othering).
Magical thinking.
Information from the outside suspect because people are either stupid or malevolent and cannot be trusted.
Lacks curiosity about other people and life except when goal-oriented.
Constricted curiosity.
No learning, only syllogisms and deductions (internal rhetoric). Infinite knowledge base to draw on.
Impaired reality testing reframes all data to conform to cognitive distortions and biases and avoid dissonance (internal confirmation bias).
Knows best and always right.
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The lack of curiosity. This is the red flag I constitutionally couldn’t ignore.
Then the years of studying the scientific observations of what I finally began seeing and that was right in front of me the whole time. Fortunately I discovered Doctor Professor Sam Vaknin and have studied his intensely now for years.
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Sam Vaknin speaks the TRUTH. This is incredibly insightful, relevant information, especially for people who have to deal with NPD close ones. Narcissists are completely broken inside but it doesn't always appear that way from the outside. The more I understand all the mechanisms and insanity of it the less I suffer emotionally from being subjected to it. Thank you.
In the dance of love, we once did twirl,
With promises whispered, in a precious world.
But shadows lurked in corners, unseen and deep,
From a childhood scarred, where dreams did weep.
His charm was a mask, hiding wounds so raw,
A past filled with pain, leaving him with a flaw.
Seeking validation, in every glance and word,
His heart closed off, his emotions stirred.
I tried to reach out, to heal and to mend,
But the walls grew taller, a fortress to defend.
His love was a puzzle, so hard to decode,
A reflection of a past, on a lonely road.
With empathy and care, I held on tight,
Hoping to break through, to the inner light.
But sometimes love's not enough, to fill the void,
In a heart that's been hurt, and emotions destroyed.
So I walked away, with tears in my eyes,
Knowing I couldn't fix, the pain that lies.
For love's truest form, should uplift and heal,
Not drown in the past, where shadows steal.
sam vaknin
@sirpseudonymous5555 This poem was written by chatGPT.
Once again fascinating, logical, and cohesive information! Of all of the info that I have discovered on this subject, your lectures are extremely informative!! I thank you so very much! Knowing The psychological aspects of this disorder, has helped me learn!! I’m in therapy now and dealing with my own trauma from childhood and your lectures are an immense aid! The fact that “ there is no other “ to the narcissist helped me to no longer personalize what I allowed to happen in my relationships with narcissists! It is absolutely fascinating and macabre !!!Thank you thank you thank you!!!
I listen to you everyday, I should start taking notes. Thank you for bringing me down to earth.
Hi Sam, thank you for saving my mental health by proving all I've ever thought and understood from my partner is not my own assumptions but instead make total sense.
Omg mine will constantly tell me "thats YOUR assumptions!" about complete facts & truths, denyingany wrong doing on their part & flat refuse to prove me wrong, lol. Just repeats "assumptions"😂
@@the_grassy_noel honestly same 🥴 it's so draining... 🫂 Once I told him very calmly that I need to be with someone with whom I can discuss things and share points of view and learn openly from each other, and maybe he needs to be with someone as cynical as him, someone that shares those boxed views, he said "but I dont want that" and I said "then why should I?", and his head almost exploded.
If you're still in that situation or even if you're out, I'm sending you strength and positivity! 😊
Still in the 'game', 16 years+.... working hard to understand and get out safely.
Would you please do a video on how to heal from this abuse? I’m shattered after 8 years of marriage. I do not know who I am anymore & I feel I’m good for nothing.
Watch the Narcissistic Abuse Healing playlist.
Sam, marvelous lecture. May I make a request? A video on Einstein exploring the idea that he was a narcissist. Many thanks.
He mighr have had Autism, which has similar behaviour to narcissism, but different.
I wanna hear this too. Considering how he seemed to envy his first wife's brilliance, abandoned her and married his distant cousin, ive always had a sneaky suspicion he may have been an a$$hole.
Wonderful video -- thanks, Sam! Reminds me very much of a documentary on Max called "Love Has Won: The Cult of Mother God". Virtually the same thing happened to my covert narc mother; that particular belief structure seems to validate everything narcissists already believe about themselves and gives them a moral framework to justify their actions to themselves and everyone around them. "My intuition is always right, my emotions are facts, because I'm LITERALLY God."
There is no end to the expanse of knowledge you share! Thank you so much for sharing an intellectual perspective for those of us who need it, and thank you for the $10 words! Cheers from Croatia!
❤Sam, thanks for sharing the inner world of these crazy guys😀👍
He knows because he is ...
Ah my daily Sam vaknin fix🎉🥳
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Playing board games with a narcissist is very fun. Try it. I thought he was joking and didn't take it seriously until then. If only I had known earlier what I was dealing with.
I always wondered whether my father believed his own lies. This helps me answer that question. The eldest of my three younger brothers knows he’s lying, sometimes, but not always. He has a narrative about all of us, and will tell me my memories are wrong. This is the reality in which you have to deal with him. Your truth is irrelevant. In fact, he’s hostile toward it, and anything else that doesn’t fit his self-induced fantasy.
God as much as I hate social media, when I see comments that I connect with it’s like a god send. I 100% relate, agree and connect with your statement. Sending my hugs your way ❤ it’s tough (understatement). Very reassuring and validating to see others have the same experiences. When they make you feel so crazy, these comments help a lot!
Lots of love!
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Hello; I am currently reading your book and every page confirms observations I'd made for years about an individual. One demented example of his "intuition", in my case, was him strongly suspecting our son was not his. It wasn't even plausible, as at the time of his conception, we were together 24/7 for months, which he should've remembered, with his titanic memory. Was I surprised when he started denying the Holocaust and claiming Covid was a hoax? Not exactly.
Thanks. Can you please post a review on the Amazon page of my book?
@@samvaknin Sure. Thank you so much for all the insight.
Even a broken clock is right twice a day.
If you've cheated in the relationship it's reasonable to suspect that regardless of circumstance
@@blinkyy1088 I hadn't. It was completely unprovoked. That's what made it so weird.
I have been helping a man for two years ago, and while i was there i stole all the things he a year later could not find! Good he got revenge on my car and motorbike in the end! The universe is in balance now.
i get sick at my guts its wrong.
in my chest my heart its right
Sam, das ist wirklich interessant, wenn man bedenkt, dass gerade in der spirituellen "Szene" (und manchen religiösen Philosophien) das Prinzip gilt: Der Mensch kreiert durch die Kraft seines Geistes seine gesamte persönliche Realität mit allem drum und dran. Magisches Denken...?🤔
Magical thinking AND grandiosity.
I meet a few that are in spiritual circles,
Or call
Themselves witches or shamans.
They know your future and what’s best for you and manipulate you for money
Search the channel for "guru".
The original, "Dr. Sam Vaknin indroduction" is my favorite song, now!😂🤗Shoshanim!🤓 You're playing my song, doc!😅
@samvaknin Would this be why when i asked a question, he would respond, "I assumed..." and then give a skewed response? This happened almost daily. It was maddening. I would say, if you don't know something please ask and then we can be on the same page but year and year (24 years) he STILL did not ask and still did not learn from the EXACT same issues. He made the same incorrect inferences over and over.
Great topic, Sam, thanks 💪💪👍👍
Per H via his therapist: he has a warrior’s mindset, no self reflection, no curiosity.
Per me? Very dangerous. Absolutely believes his delusions of omnipotent thinking/ knowing but calls others delusional when confronted and becomes explosively angry.
Edited: “internal confirmation bias”. That be it. Thank you Dr Vaknin
Beyond twisted......a grandiose false fantasy world...
Experience creates intuition and the study of science as a process can create intuitive discernment.
Sam explaining why the world is headed down a dark path at the moment. Can the sane humans stop the momentum?
If there's no learning would a narcissistic academic consider the writers of all those books studied and mainly the ones they agree with an equal?
Or inanimate and internalized, like an inner voice until proven otherwise?
Maybe if they meet them in person they automatically perceive them as a part of themselves and therefore someone who is supposed to automatically like them or compliment them in some way? (or maybe they think 'they must be some distant relatives of mine-genetically 90+% similar to me and almost as perfect as me, therefore they hold all the facts'?)
Otherwise their studies, their facts become false and cognitive dissonance occurs?
I wonder what's going on in their minds.
Do narcissists have a tendency to basically act like fanboys/fangirls in academia over someone they agree with?
Yup. God
Thanks Sam.
Explains the propensity to gravitate toward conspiracy theories and being susceptible to grifters
I guess as his “best best friend” he will drop me once he moves abroad and I stop being his storage space holder. Since I am playing along to avoid having to deal with his fallout tactics, but I don’t give him any real satisfaction of adulation and occasionally call him for his pointless lies about his “non-existent private life”, he must be going mental not pushing me away! 😅 Because he needs my services. Very sad. I have to keep reminding myself he is mentally sick to maintain my compassionate side present.
Be cautious staring into the abyss.
I need an appointment, please😢
Does it is fair to say that the main difference between a narcissistic patient and a patient with chronic shame is that in the first case an ego doesn't exist, and in the second case only part of it is disturbed?
It is one of many differences.
@@samvaknin Thank you, Professor
Hey, would you say that when it comes to brain function and how personality type reflects a particular way a person perceives reality, would the MBTI personality type INFP be narcissistic and ENFP be borderline?
Search the channel.
Can a narcissist struggle with erotomania ?
Yes.
@@samvaknin thanks. Do all people struggling with erotomania and/or limerence, are narcissists? I know these are different things but I feel like they are linked
Does he actually believe that he's always right or does he need to have the final word about everything to control others?
Exactly, when presented with the evidence they will find a way to disregard it or manipulate the circumstances/story/others as much as possible to prove he's right.
Is it correct to say he got stuck in his/her infant stages of development where the child hasn't developed awareness of the other? And that's why they behave as a child, using people and things for his wellbeing and being unaware of others' wellbeing and having tantrums when things/people are not like he/she wants them to be with a lack of regard for context where they explode?
Watch the From Child to Narcissist playlist and search the channel for "right".