Motorcycles and Depression

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  • čas přidán 25. 08. 2024

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  • @Budivastta
    @Budivastta Před 6 lety +444

    I don’t think I’ve ever seen an perfect explanation on why people ride, I’ve been suffering from depression and I’ve tried everything possible to clean my head, to be peaceful, I’ve tried pills, painting, photography, a lot of different “solutions”, but riding was the only thing that cleared my head, it filled a hole (as you said) that I didn’t know I needed, I don’t know, it’s confusing for me to explain.. Suicidal thoughts were gone, everything gone, just me and my bike on the road, I had a really hard childhood, and now being a young adult trying to figure the world out, it helps, sorry if I don’t make sense..

    • @eagbaseballadventures3067
      @eagbaseballadventures3067 Před 6 lety +18

      You make sense I was in the same boat anxiety is terrible I still deal with it from time to time and also the bad thoughts but riding always have help me a lot. Just remember your not alone many of us goes thru the same feeling.

    • @EvitaStenqvist
      @EvitaStenqvist Před 6 lety +6

      Joao Dias hey, I feel you man, you make sense

    • @bradshaw2288
      @bradshaw2288 Před 5 lety +8

      For me my mind is doing so much to just stay safe and to stay alert and look out for those that aren't watching for me that everything seems to fade to white noise, therefore in what seems to me the most bizarre way my mind is able to in effect shut down and rest, and if ever a mind needed to reboot it's mine,lol... Im sure a lot of y'all can relate... thx! D~

    • @h.d.mech.mortenson2098
      @h.d.mech.mortenson2098 Před 5 lety +10

      I feel you ! Reading the Bible, especially the Psalms really helps me as well. David was a incredible person who went through many highs and lows.

    • @Alistair
      @Alistair Před 5 lety +5

      I think pills and porn are pretty much just addictions, getting a rush. Being out on a bike lets you think through and process everything, and live more in the moment. Something like that. I love walking and road trips for processing serious shit

  • @nightrodspecial426
    @nightrodspecial426 Před 5 lety +169

    Driving is like watching a movie, riding is like staring in a movie

    • @akoni90
      @akoni90 Před 4 lety

      Nicely put.

    • @hollyibbotson5290
      @hollyibbotson5290 Před 4 lety

      Riding is like being in the movie 👍

    • @AQS521
      @AQS521 Před 4 lety

      Perfect way to put it.

    • @whoaitstiger
      @whoaitstiger Před 4 lety

      @@hollyibbotson5290 That's what he said. 🤦
      EDIT: My bad, I got _whooshed_ by a quote. 🤦‍♂️

    • @hollyibbotson5290
      @hollyibbotson5290 Před 4 lety

      @@whoaitstiger no its a quote from Jupiter's travels.

  • @afterburner2869
    @afterburner2869 Před 4 lety +56

    I have two therapists sitting in my garage as we speak.

  • @guestuser6150
    @guestuser6150 Před 4 lety +74

    As a person who has been divorced and also on anti-depressants more than once, I found the best way to combat depression is to look up different ways to eliminate depression and do as many of those things as you can. Exercise, get 8 hours of sleep, eat healthy, end your shower with 2 minutes of 100% cold water, avoid alcohol, meditate, ride a motorcycle, go to counseling, volunteer in your community to help those less fortunate, etc.

    • @DanDanTheFireman
      @DanDanTheFireman  Před 4 lety +7

      Exactly. I've struggled with that though. Motorcycles can only do so much. It's a full lifestyle change.

    • @HooDRidEWhiteY
      @HooDRidEWhiteY Před 4 lety +2

      Bro, those are great suggestions. Avoiding alcohol is huge for me as its my achilies heel. Best of luck Sir.

    • @zxumwmki3604
      @zxumwmki3604 Před 4 lety +2

      Being in nature is what makes me feel happiest without fail esp difficult terrain where you have to really focus
      That, and going to my nature spots by bike 😁

    • @grayson1946
      @grayson1946 Před 3 lety

      @@DanDanTheFireman Dan, thank you so much for your videos. They are very helpful. I have geared Up like you suggested, but still have not found a helmet I really like. The one you have here looks really good. Could you tell me what one it is? Thanks, and best wishes.

  • @mattwilhite8876
    @mattwilhite8876 Před 6 lety +144

    Ddfm I started riding after I lost my daughter, it helped my heart. Riding classes my mind and makes all of the other things go away.

  • @KeltonCS
    @KeltonCS Před 5 lety +87

    I’m on medication for depression and anxiety and recently got a motorcycle. Best decision for my mental health I made in years.

  • @isaachuerta
    @isaachuerta Před 6 lety +131

    Thank You! For Being Genuine, Humble, and Real.

    • @boseisgood
      @boseisgood Před 6 lety +3

      ISAAC HUERTA True that!! Sincere thanks!!

  • @rustyshackleford9604
    @rustyshackleford9604 Před 6 lety +141

    There is something about going down the road on two wheels that makes a bad day so much better

    • @Chrizke22
      @Chrizke22 Před 5 lety +1

      rusty shackleford lol the best name ever

    • @MindBodySoulOk
      @MindBodySoulOk Před 4 lety +2

      absolutely

    • @sneakywoolcarpet1341
      @sneakywoolcarpet1341 Před 4 lety +2

      I totally agree with you, but I'm not gonna give this comment a like. I wanna keep that 69 going !

    • @masonmax1000
      @masonmax1000 Před rokem

      makes any and every day that much better.

  • @mikemccormick8115
    @mikemccormick8115 Před 4 lety +32

    I tried everything; golf, sky diving, bungee jumping, a Ferrari, surfing, strip clubs, hypnosis, 3somes, 4somes, 5somes, sailing around the world, traveling to 35 countries, and then I rode a motorcycle and my depression was gone!

  • @anessenator
    @anessenator Před 4 lety +30

    "I can't afford it now" is something that is so heartbreaking

  • @forrestculver7301
    @forrestculver7301 Před 6 lety +72

    I ride for the feeling of absence. It requires so much energy, physical and mental, to ride well and ride safely. Riding puts me in a zone. It helps me to relax so I can better deal with what’s troubling me when I get home. Nothing else matters except that moment.

    • @jbob2176
      @jbob2176 Před 6 lety +8

      Papa Spaceflight I ride for the same exact reasons as you. You have to put away every thought and just focus on the ride. When I’m done it’s like I hit the reset button on life’s challenges which allows me to review and reprioritize what’s important to take on and what I can let go. I call it throttle therapy.

    • @RockBoyy1
      @RockBoyy1 Před 4 lety +2

      A reply after long time but I'm glad I see other people like this, riding is simply like meditation for me, I could ride all day and would still do it just because of the sense of peace it gives me, when you ride you cannot take any problem with you, you leave everything even yourself in the past and simply are there present and focused.

    • @D3athduo
      @D3athduo Před 4 lety +3

      @@jbob2176 Ayy I call it the same thing ^.^ it's great, especially when you're in a bad spot and just need to escape. Physically, you can go ride, mentally, you can just be alone with the bike.

    • @TheRazePlayz
      @TheRazePlayz Před 4 lety +5

      Jumping on the bandwagon here, I drove and will now be riding because when I take the helm my mind is focused on the vehicle and the road, I love the mechanical action of matching good shifts and taking corners smooth and efficient, speed and danger aren't the only things a motorcycle can offer.

  • @leemunro1429
    @leemunro1429 Před 6 lety +52

    I recently lost my wife and bought a bike, after I sold my last bike 30 years ago I understand man...

    • @igniteflow
      @igniteflow Před 4 lety +2

      lee munro I’m sorry for your loss. Ride safe.

    • @TheMacClayne
      @TheMacClayne Před 3 lety

      Deep thoughts with you. i'm sorry... hang on. I'm sure she will be with you during your rides. Regards

  • @Silidons91
    @Silidons91 Před 6 lety +39

    I'm 26. I was a Deputy Sheriff for two years, and then lateraled to a local smaller (~160 sworn) Police Department. I worked there for almost a year, and was one week from being off of training (I was on Ghost Phase if anyone know's what that is). FTO is long here in SoCal (Five Phases, 6 weeks each for that dept). I was doing great until my ghost FTO treated me like absolute shit. He lied on my evaluations and everything. I felt so helpless. I ended up having to resign, and the Deputy Chief told me that I just "didn't fit in" with that department. That was a year and a half ago. I have not been able to get back into being a sworn peace officer ever since this happened. So much bullshit happened at that department, but I couldn't do anything about it because I was afraid to lose my job. I saw uses of force that were not reported, I saw a bunch of bullshit politics. A few months after that happened, I took the MSF course and got my M1. I've been riding on and off for the time being, and I definitely feel like it's been a life saver to me. I can't even say how many times I thought about doing really stupid shit. It's very depressing, especially when peace officers have a high rate of suicide already.
    I am working now, but as a non-sworn Tribal Officer. I can't stand it, too much of a constant reminder of my past. I've been debating throwing in my two weeks, taking some time off, and riding my bike through multiple states and seeing the countryside. I think it will be a great life experience and help me get out my mindset.
    Thanks for the video.

    • @Need4speedirl
      @Need4speedirl Před 4 lety +1

      Sounds a lot like my father. He’s now 64. He lost his job as a police officer during his training period because he “didn’t fit in”. Don’t let it hold you back but also stay out of that line of work. You’ll be a better person finding a new way to make a living. I have so many friends in LEO positions and they all have the same negative outlook on life. It’s really sad to watch them change as the job takes its toll on them emotionally.

    • @Silidons91
      @Silidons91 Před 4 lety +5

      @@Need4speedirl My buddy was actually watching this video and linked it because he recognized where I worked / my bike in the pic. I will update and say that I have now been employed as a Deputy Sheriff at a new department for the past year. I met someone who was a Detective at the department, and he really helped me get hired. I still sometimes wonder what I should do - if I should continue working here, or what. I actually got a Class A license, and was looking to become a power lineman. Who knows, I'm now about to be 28. Been through a decent amount of shit for my age I suppose.

    • @theophany1770
      @theophany1770 Před 4 lety +5

      I liked that you used the term Peace Officer and not Law Enforcement. Sounds like you're a rare breed. Hope you're doing well

  • @SG-kt3vj
    @SG-kt3vj Před 6 lety +64

    I am a mental health professional and could not appreciate your vulnerability more! Men are typically treatment resistant...thank you for showing them its ok!

    • @juanmejiagomez5514
      @juanmejiagomez5514 Před 4 lety +5

      @J G treatment resistant because although they might proactively be looking for a therapist, they tend not to open up too much about some emotions or some thoughts

    • @MindBodySoulOk
      @MindBodySoulOk Před 4 lety +4

      With the current red flag laws, pending legislation, and the continuous assault by the left on the 2nd Amendment, I would not recommend anyone seek help from mental health professionals.

    • @kleinbottled79
      @kleinbottled79 Před 4 lety +6

      @J G See a shrink for depression, potentially lose your ability to own a firearm. See the issue yet? I don't agree with 'no one' seeking mental health help. Some people need help more than they need to assist in upholding our rights. But for a guy who is on the fence, it is a serious consideration. I'd contend that goofyfoot's comment makes at least 'some' sense.

    • @kleinbottled79
      @kleinbottled79 Před 4 lety +1

      @J G Solid argument right there. You must be a real intellectual.

    • @john.t645
      @john.t645 Před 4 lety +1

      @J G he is literally right though.

  • @dknight1221
    @dknight1221 Před 6 lety +17

    Dan I am a new rider and I am experiencing all of it brand new it's like having the power of absolute chaos at the end of your right hand, twist the wrist and unleash the beast. Twist and let go and hear and feel the rumble of the deacceleration it's F-ing Awesome and absolutely terrifying all at the same time when I started out I would only ride in my neighborhood until I was comfortable enough to go to the main roads and I remember 25mph felt like a comfy speed and at 30 I was like wow I can believe 30 feels so fast so I went 40 and was like scared for real.A week later I went on the main road and had to go 45and 50 and I was like oh Jeez I need a priest for my last rights 😁 I was so scared at 50mph a month later I was on U.S. 301 and it was 55mph but all the other vehicles normally roll at 65 or 70. I went 60 and the wind was pushing me back my head was bobbing up and down my hands were locked on the grips like the jaws of a Pitt bull it felt like any second this machine would explode into a million pieces and I would be vaporized in the explosion but I held on, because others do it so I held on and just gave it a pinch more throttle to see 65 and quite possibly the end of my time here on Earth. But instead at 61 suddenly it got smooth and quiet and I felt kinda warm NO NOT BECAUSE I PEED MYSELF OR ANYTHING. It was just a calm I can't explain I let go of all of the fear and struggle and strife and and when I got to the other side of the Fear It was just a beautiful moment all at once just me and this remarkable machine at one with the road it's movements and mine go hand and hand. I had a beautiful view of the Chesapeake Bay off in the distance and a long straight road ahead it was 84° and sunny and suddenly I was enjoying it and I was aware it was there but minutes before that wrapped in fear I was blind .
    Motorcycle riding has helped me conquer fear and helped me push on ,Dogs and Music have gotten me through my darkest days of deppression. I'm a guitar player and when I was going through my divorce my dog Sascha when I would get in to my apartment from work and just wanted to bury my head in the sand she was so happy to see me every day and even waking up every morning full body wag.She was a good girl.Rip.

  • @ItsBeenDanBefore
    @ItsBeenDanBefore Před 6 lety +52

    I'm in a very similar boat as you. I started riding because my parents are bikers (Mum used to ride a Fazer 300 but gave up due to M.E/chronic fatigue and my dad used to ride a Triumph Tiger 955I but now rides a self-restored 1989 Honda CBR1000F). I always wanted to ride a motorcycle because my dad always came home after a ride with his friends with a massive smile on his face, which I hoped I could emulate. Since a very young age (maybe 9-11), I started to suffer from paralysing depression and extremely severe anxiety and it's only gotten worse, especially after being diagnosed with autism and going in for another examination for another two personality disorders. And after many suicide attempts and four bouts of therapy, I needed a way to escape everything. So, at 15, I got my first motorcycle (a 50cc Yamasaki, because the UK laws are incredibly "caring") so that I could later do my Compulsory Basic Training at 16 and start riding. And over the past 11 months, the bike has been a frustrating pain in the ass to keep running but it still gives me a bit of relief a lot of the time. To be honest, without a bike in the garage, I may actually be dead. And even though it's been a difficult battle with my mental illness that's only getting worse and worse, I know that I always have those two wheels to give me even 30 minutes away from everything.
    So, yeah, thank you, Dan, for being one of the few motovloggers to bring this kind of thing up. It's honestly so intriguing to hear a similar story from across the pond.

  • @RichO1701e
    @RichO1701e Před 4 lety +13

    I've been through some dark times recently, even to the point when I was driving on the motorway, in a car, I'd be wondering how fast I'd need to be driving for the smash to be instant and little to no pain.
    But passing my bike test this year has helped me realise how much I like being alive. The fear factor has become my friend. Having that fear of coming off, having an accident, worrying about that car pulling out at that junction, all helped me appreciate how attached to life I am.
    Great video DDTF

    • @davidgutierrez3827
      @davidgutierrez3827 Před 3 lety +1

      The dark tomes dont last forever but the joy of riding can. Keep going and good luck

    • @farishenderson5738
      @farishenderson5738 Před 3 lety

      That’s so true mate

    • @PW.6060
      @PW.6060 Před 3 lety

      I can relate in a way. I thought I wanted to die until I started riding. Then I realized that I really don't.

  • @jaromor8808
    @jaromor8808 Před 4 lety +16

    When you dream of flying you don't see yourself sitting in a flying chair... You imagine steering with your body, tilting and banking, maybe even feeling the wind... Riding is so much closer to flying.

    • @robertrogala9371
      @robertrogala9371 Před 4 lety +1

      Yes, mr recurring dream of flying. My bike is so close to that. And yes Dan, it is therapy

  • @DANOnTheRoad1
    @DANOnTheRoad1 Před 5 lety +9

    This video has a really deep message, i'm passing through a depression, right now i'm under medication. I just rode a motorcycle for the first time and I can say that it was the best moment of my life, I felt so alive. Now I wanna get a bike for me as a way of relaxing and relief anxiety. Greetings from Mexico.

  • @nelsonturner501
    @nelsonturner501 Před 4 lety +41

    Riding or the gun range, either one clears my head.

    • @qdllc
      @qdllc Před 4 lety +5

      I thought you wrote “riding ON the gun range.”

    • @fuckgoogle8857
      @fuckgoogle8857 Před 4 lety +8

      @@qdllc that would make all the other bullshit seem insignificant.

    • @claytonatkinson865
      @claytonatkinson865 Před 4 lety +7

      qdllc that’ll clear your head for real.

    • @bradtidball5206
      @bradtidball5206 Před 4 lety +3

      Either way it's just you and the machine. I'm with you buddy.

  • @hollyibbotson5290
    @hollyibbotson5290 Před 4 lety +5

    Riding forces me to think about the here and now, life in the moment. You can't day dream or worry about your bills or relationships. That gives riding a special place in my heart. I'm a mental health nurse, riding keeps me sane 😊

  • @alangoudie243
    @alangoudie243 Před 5 lety +5

    Every word you said , I know exactly how you feel. I’m 47 and purchased my 1st bike 6 weeks ago. Being a noob, I have that “holy crap, this is dangerous” feeling but, it’s diminishing with every ride and I’m absolutely in love with riding!
    I have watched hours of your videos and let me sincerely thank you for what you do Sir!

  • @drLazyEvil
    @drLazyEvil Před 4 lety +4

    Wow man, I've been watching your videos for a while but just got onto this one. At age of 32, depression, anxiety, trouble with partner I bought my first bike (ever, haven't ridden before) this summer, and oh man, got instantly hooked up. The sense of clear mind while you ride, the drive to learn and improve your skills, works like a bliss. I'm feeling sick if I don't get out to ride, feel addicted to it. Too bad weather is crap in uk... oh well, better get those waterproofs.

  • @jeast9648
    @jeast9648 Před 4 lety +6

    I' m about to get an r3 and I am depressive but I've never relied on medication and don't want to. But I understand where you're coming from and I feel for you. Also I want to thank you for making me want to be a responsible rider and maximize safety. It might be depression that drives this obsession or it could be a part of me that I will never be able to shake but either way I don't think it's a bad thing. Look at it like a hobby and not a medication dude. You're doing good things for a lot of riders so just keep at it and eventually things will work out. I'm sure you've seen some shit and that can't help your mental state so I just want you to know that there are people out there that want you to succeed and be happy. Sorry for the long form comment but it's just how I feel. Keep riding and keep making other newbies safe. Thank you for all you've done and all you continue to do.

  • @StarTrekBro
    @StarTrekBro Před 5 lety +5

    I didnt even realize motorcycles would be a great therapy when i started. But on the first ride I realized. I literally didnt think of anything else but what was around the corner. It clears your mind completely

  • @davewolf8869
    @davewolf8869 Před 6 lety +4

    Subbed because of the dogs comment... My dogs have carried me through some terrible times... They're heavenly representations of the perfect love of God

  • @warnerjohnson1338
    @warnerjohnson1338 Před 4 lety +8

    50 some years ago when I bought my first motorcycle, (BMW R/90), it was to keep me from exploding from a stress/shit job. Long distance road riding was my tonic and I'd be away for 2 months or more. My wife put up with it!
    When my legs gave out and I could not handle two wheels any longer I got a Jeep and that has helped me come down from the "rush" of the open road and the endless tunnel of wind. At 84 I am thinking about sprouting wings or having my center of gravity removed. Jesus has a place for me, Old Buddy. How about yoy?

  • @MrDarkbluewater
    @MrDarkbluewater Před 6 lety +16

    I liked when you talked about the motorcycle filling in a spot. When I was unable to continue my hobby and way of transportation which was my bicycle, I decided I would try a motorcycle to fill the gap. I actually rode almost 1000 kilometers in one day to visit a friend in another country only a couple of months after getting my license.

    • @BEPPEJHA
      @BEPPEJHA Před 6 lety

      MrDarkbluewater badass!

    • @nahfam360
      @nahfam360 Před 6 lety +4

      I got my motorcycle license and bought a motorcycle the next day. That was a month ago and I've already put almost 3000 miles on it. It's so addictive and I still get an adrenaline rush on every ride!

  • @sicdedworm09
    @sicdedworm09 Před 3 lety +2

    I’ve suffered from anxiety and depression since my teen years. Having so much to focus on while riding is extremely calming in my head and takes you off any focus from the other stresses in life. Be well Dan. We love you. BTW I want your FTR!!

  • @nick8874
    @nick8874 Před 6 lety +14

    It takes my mind off the war in my head. :(

  • @PaulGuy
    @PaulGuy Před 4 lety +2

    Mental health is something we desperately need to talk more openly about, thank you for doing so on your channel and having a spot on your Discord to do so.

  • @saber5821
    @saber5821 Před 6 měsíci +1

    As someone with anxiety and depression getting my bike licence was a step forward in what I saw as a healthy way of moving forward in life and as a milestone for my life. now that i have it it made me feel like i have independence and more freedom and also a scene of worth

  • @northerniltree
    @northerniltree Před 4 lety +14

    After a car recently pulled in front of me, I collided with it and was flung high into the air at an extreme velocity. Below, I saw the world as it was, along with my shattered motorcycle. People had stopped, and some were staring at me. I decided right there and then not to blame life situations for any failures on my part, and that I needed to keep going, no matter what. I even thought about my next motorcycle. But, by now, the ground was approaching fast, and I did my best at cartwheeling to a stop. After dusting myself off, I went down a local dealer and saddled up again. I don't need Dr. Freud. I need Dr. Harley. :)

    • @robert2935
      @robert2935 Před 4 lety +2

      I had a similar incident. Someone pulled out in front of me and I tried to avoid it, clipping the rear end of an SUV shattering my tibia and fibia and then flying down the road. It is really weird when you can actually think of certain things while you're in mid-flight during a accident. 4 months later about another motorcycle 😎

  • @kungfuman82
    @kungfuman82 Před 6 lety +13

    This video makes a whole lot of sense. I'm in nursing school and have major issues with anxiety and can't afford a bike yet, but I want one so bad. I've ridden a scooter around Scottsdale once and my first time on a motorcycle didn't go so well (whiskey-throttled my uncle's Indian, but I didn't crash! Didn't let me on it after that though), but I still want one. There is certainly a unique feeling of freedom when on two wheels.

  • @Lowlander119
    @Lowlander119 Před 4 lety

    It is hard to explain Dan, but you did a great job doing so. I've been in 2 serious crashes and gave up riding for a year each time... but then I'd end up in a depression and go back... and by God, I'm fucking happy again. Nowadays a pull less crazy shit (although I was zero fault both crashes and was paid out) and I wear hi vis at night and during the rain. Fucked up so say but fact is I'd rather take a chance and keep loving SOMETHING DEEPLY in life than give it up for safety. I love to ride, thank God my dad got me into it, spreading the love in my friend group as well, and making them all watch your videos, keeps me vigilant. Thank you for your channel, its incredibly valuable.

  • @Steverinomeister
    @Steverinomeister Před 4 lety +5

    Motorcycles been making me feel better 50 years.

  • @kawaiifemboy5008
    @kawaiifemboy5008 Před 5 lety +2

    Word for word exactly why I also love riding. It's dangerous but yet I'm always in control and focused. Let's me clear my head and just focus on the road and riding safe instead of the things bothering me. Motorcycles are the best man

  • @akashjoe2515
    @akashjoe2515 Před rokem +1

    Helps a lot man really, twisting that throttle takes away that pain for a second. THROTTLE THERAPY is the best.

  • @pcalhoun18
    @pcalhoun18 Před 3 lety +1

    I had a mental relapse my junior year of college and lost a lot of things I was working for and have been having to “reinvent” myself. I started riding a year after it happened and the only thing that seemed to bring me the same excitement for a career aspiration has been first responding and working towards being a fire fighter. I’ve definitely looked up to you since you talk about riding from not only a rider’s perspective but as a first responder and how much you really go into the medical side of things. I hope I’m able to eventually get my body strong enough again to pass the PAT and be a successful fire fighter. I finally dropped my ego and started taking medication a few years back and it has taken a while to find the right one. Also, sticking with therapy and making sure I go back if I finish a treatment but notice things slipping. I hope you are still doing well with your recovery. Therapy is expensive, so I feel you. Keep doing your thing and thank you for being open about this. It helps me feel less alone.

  • @russellsitaro8505
    @russellsitaro8505 Před 5 lety +1

    Hey Dan
    The one thing about depression is we tend to put up a false front. Everyone around me has no idea that I go to sleep each night hoping that I don’t wake in the morning. I’m 59 and just got back into riding a year ago after almost 40 yrs. I’m in a better place now. When I go for a ride I feel good about me. As you said I’m in control. I’m hyper aware when I’m riding. I’m not riding because I have a death wish. Im riding to stay alive. When I get back home I don’t want to shut the bike off but I now have a drive for a next time. So I’ll ride soon and live on.
    Thanks for being so open.

  • @DJ_CJ_NL
    @DJ_CJ_NL Před 4 lety +1

    I've suffered from depression in the past, recently i've lost a lot of weight (around 30 kg) and i finished my degree. Now i've made a huge change in my life, working. I started getting my motorcycle license because i feel i need it in my life, i need to experience the freedom and see the world from a bike in order to compensate being at one place for so many hours per day. I know this is something that i have to get used to. The bike will def help me with it. Also i love the feeling of riding. It's amazing.

  • @joelismith68
    @joelismith68 Před 3 lety

    Just stumbled across this 2yrs after you published it.
    I have just walked away from a workplace that was toxic and causing so much stress and anxiety.
    Thankyou Dan for being honest about your situation. Too many of us just try and suck it up and act tough or ignore our mental health or think we're weak.
    By you sharing your experiences you're helping to normalise mental health issues and I hope and pray that anyone seeing this who is suffering depression or anxiety will seek help

  • @tw1nair
    @tw1nair Před 6 lety +43

    Absolutely man! In the last 12 months I discovered my wife was having an affair, then she left me. I've spent months and months trying to keep our family together. I'd forgiven her, I wanted to talk to her with a therapist to find out why she felt she needed to have an affair, but it's an uphill battle. I want her back, I really really want her back. Our son wants us to be back together, but she's still on the fence. I feel the window of opportunity is still somewhat open, even though it's very close to being shut. Regardless, I needed something to put a smile on my face, desperately. So I bought myself a new motorcycle. It has certainly helped me with my path to recovery. Having said that, I am not an angry or aggressive person. SO I ride carefully. But riding a motorcycle is the best fun I can have with my pants on.
    Also, your videos have also helped. I'm a long time viewer, first time commenter. But after seeing this I felt I had to speak up.
    So, thank you. You're doing more for random strangers than you realise.

    • @h.d.mech.mortenson2098
      @h.d.mech.mortenson2098 Před 5 lety +1

      If you both love each other and want to be together you can overcome any hurdle.My wife and I have proven that. Ive made some big regrettable mistakes yet we love each other and weve been together for 18 years now. I dont deserve her and Im blessed to have her as my wife. Counselling is a must ! Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, it never fails. Best wishes to you.

    • @simongarcia5330
      @simongarcia5330 Před 5 lety +4

      I'm in kind of the same boat. Me and my wife were together 22yrs and have recently separated. She has seen someone else in the process. As you, I have forgiven and have begged to work on things to get back together. We have 4 kids in the middle. The only good part I have to say is we are still best friends. Long story short, I had crippling depression and have suffered massive loss over the past 5 years losing my little brother sister 10 days later, best friend, cousin, aunt and uncle.. riding is an escape from what weighs on my shoulders and has been the best therapy for me. Zx6rr is the new meds. Ride safe all

    • @shrey761
      @shrey761 Před 4 lety +15

      She cheated on you and SHE'S on the fence? Reevaluate your life man. Don't let her destroy it

    • @tona8055
      @tona8055 Před 4 lety

      Hey Man, she cheated on you. You have nothing to feel bad about. And, take it from someone who is the son of a broken marriage: it's better for all of you that you are not together. Just try to see your son every time you can. For me it only takes one instance of treason to hate the guts out of the person.

    • @tona8055
      @tona8055 Před 4 lety +1

      PS: It's normal to be tempted by another person even when you're married. Tempted. It happens. It's not normal to let yourself go and then hide it from your significant other.
      For me, affairs completely destroy the trust I would have in them. Who says they wouldn't cheat on you? They already did. They clearly didn't love you enough to think about you when they did. That's my reasoning at least

  • @hutchd71
    @hutchd71 Před 4 lety +40

    I would thinking getting married is far more dangerous than ride'ing a motorcycle.

    • @HisnameisRich
      @HisnameisRich Před 4 lety +1

      @Paul Wieringa or you can do both :)

    • @chucksherron
      @chucksherron Před 4 lety +4

      A marriage has a 50% failure rate. Riding motorcycles has a much lower level of risk.

    • @ConservativeCalifornian1032
      @ConservativeCalifornian1032 Před 3 lety

      @Paul Wieringa not for everyone. Id rather ride than get married honestly. All marriage is is just tying yourself to a person who might not even love you the way you thought they did and get the government involved so they ruin your life and take all your stuff and kids when theyre tired of you. My motorcycle would never do that so ill stick to riding.

    • @ConservativeCalifornian1032
      @ConservativeCalifornian1032 Před 3 lety

      @Paul Wieringa no. I think you just got lucky. Dont try to change my mind on something ive seen first hand and have countless stories. I aint falling for that lovey dovey marriage shit. It aint real.

    • @ConservativeCalifornian1032
      @ConservativeCalifornian1032 Před 3 lety +1

      @Paul Wieringa reported my comment? Seriously? Just shows me that im right and youre too afraid to admit it. Have a good life you poor naive man.

  • @adrianv6693
    @adrianv6693 Před 6 měsíci

    Riding is joy. Pure joy. I have a long history with mental illness. I have a team of medical support and am aptly medicated! Riding is one of the only things that removes negative thought and immerses me in the moment. If that came in a tablet it would be wonderful. 😊

  • @anthonybenavides720
    @anthonybenavides720 Před 6 lety +1

    Dan, I started riding in January and got my first Harley. I had some experience riding before but never had my own bike. But, I’ve taken to it like a wildfire in a forest.
    Thank you for this video. I’ve been going through a really hard time. I’ve hit a low point in my life and am having a hard time bouncing back and recovering but I know the feeling of getting on my Softail and riding for even an hour.
    Thanks for putting words to the feeling I get when I ride. I can relate to all of the missteps people have had and I appreciate you making these videos! Ride safe!

  • @michaelfehmer2129
    @michaelfehmer2129 Před 4 lety +1

    While I do not suffer from depression, there is something cathartic about riding and being on the open road and do believe there are healing processes that come when riding. It's not a replacement for seeking help if you are depressed or struggling emotionally if you need help get it; but it does reduce stress... well it does for me anyway!

  • @PaWrevivalTeam
    @PaWrevivalTeam Před 5 lety +12

    So that's why I want to ride.. I'll be buying my first scooter hopefully this year. Thanks for this video.

    • @joeyflett8675
      @joeyflett8675 Před 4 lety +1

      Totally worth it! I hadn't ridden in years but my Wife bought me a 2015 50cc Saga Deluxe for fun and it quickly became an important therapy device.

    • @DFENSFL
      @DFENSFL Před 4 lety +2

      Do it!

    • @roberta7734
      @roberta7734 Před 4 lety +5

      Get a Grom, rather than a scooter

    • @MrMann-gt1eh
      @MrMann-gt1eh Před 4 lety

      Evad Aicrag ^this

    • @roberta7734
      @roberta7734 Před 4 lety

      @@MrMann-gt1eh the grom?

  • @gtomcat321
    @gtomcat321 Před 3 lety

    Ive ridden motorbikes since I was 5 yrs old & never been without one. Now I am 46 & have 7 bikes. However, when I had clinical depression & in such a deep dark hole I couldn't even find a spark of enthusiasm to get my gear on & go for a ride. This is when I had to seek therapy & get on medication which is Citalopram. This gradually helped me rise out of the dark hole I was in to get me back out on the bike again. I also realised thats It's not just the riding that is therapy, it's also the cameraderie of riding with other like minded people on their bikes too & stopping off for a coffee & having banter & laughs that makes the whole riding experience complete. Peace 🙂✊🤟

  • @kiasax2
    @kiasax2 Před měsícem

    I began riding motorcycles when I was 10. I bought a Puch 125 from a great uncle. It took my Pop and me 2 weeks to put it back in the road.
    I'm 65 next month, so I've been riding for about 55 years. I still ride and I'm riding my first cruiser, a Honda Shadow Aero.
    I'd like to buy a Honda CB1000R, but that'll have to wait until I've put some cash together.
    I'm a Cherokee American combat veteran who has PTSD, survivor's guilt, and traumatic brain injury from multiple concussions in combat. That's left me with a never-ending, intractable migraine.
    However, riding my bike is great for my mental health. Even my wife, who is a mental health counselor says that riding my bike is good for me.
    I'm not positive I totally agree with you about some of these ideas. I just love riding, it makes me feel better.
    Stay safe!

  • @leeandjude
    @leeandjude Před 4 lety +1

    Total fantastic explanation.
    I suffer from depression and I always describe my bike as my church.
    I don't speed at all on the bike but you can have your moments. It's just so nice to cut out all your distractions and channel your thoughts on just riding.
    I have never ever been angry on my bike even when I have nearly been knocked of twice.
    I was a late comer to riding but I will never give it up.
    Cars? Pah! Long gone

  • @hughmoody8508
    @hughmoody8508 Před 3 lety +2

    New rider here, I feel you bro. The focus that comes from being right there, you and the road and nothing else matters. That feeling is hard to get for people with problems. I feel like a broke junkie rn since my bike's unrideable but damn did this video helped me understand what it is I'm chasing. Love what you do and how you do it brother

  • @mang3139
    @mang3139 Před 4 lety

    Same boat here Dan, divorced, now on Prozac, riding. Wonderful new wife. LIFES GREAT! Thanks for sharing. It always feels good to know your not the only one.

  • @awesomysticehab4493
    @awesomysticehab4493 Před 5 lety +2

    Same here. I’ve been riding for over a decade and it got me through everything. I just ride me when I’m depressed. Not ride faster. Lol. Take long trips. Explore some new scenery. Good for the soul. One life, live it! 🏍

  • @JDH8208
    @JDH8208 Před 4 lety +6

    My wife passed away 6 weeks ago and I feel numb. I cry almost everyday from missing her and riding is one of the only things that gives me some relief from grief. Riding is good for the soul.

    • @MrMann-gt1eh
      @MrMann-gt1eh Před 4 lety +1

      Jim8208 my heart aches for you man. I’ve lost a few very close people to me the last few years and months. Last night I finally broke. It weighs on you eventually. Your wife would want you to keep riding and seek others that ride. Find riding groups. It’s a great way to keep living. You’re still alive man. You HAVE to keep living. I don’t know why the Lord chose you to outlive her. I can’t explain that either. I’ve run that trough my head lately and it’s been painful. I did hold my baby son in my arms 2 years ago while he went to God though. I quit my job and enrolled in school full time. Used my mind to its max. Keep using your mind and living man.

    • @44musher
      @44musher Před 4 lety +1

      Your not alone friend, hang in there. I pray that peace can be found for you and I know it will.

    • @JDH8208
      @JDH8208 Před 4 lety +1

      @@MrMann-gt1eh Thank you so much for your reply. It's nice to know there are kind compassionate people in this world like you.

    • @JDH8208
      @JDH8208 Před 4 lety

      @@44musher Thank you, I really appreciate the kind words.

    • @kaleidoscopeon
      @kaleidoscopeon Před 4 lety +1

      Hope you feel better soon my man. Hang in there and I am sure she wants you to be happy from the other side. Hugs!

  • @Domitianvs
    @Domitianvs Před 4 lety +1

    I've been following this chanel for quite some time now, and this one just popped up in my feed, despite being over a year old. I've also gone through bouts of depression, both brought on by stressfull work situations, and from just having a genetic predisposition. I kept getting a motorcycle as a goal for finishing therapy, and with getting a license in Sweden seeming to be a lot more complicated than in the US, I wasout of that depression when I actually got the bike and when I started riding properly. Then some rougher times rolled along again, and what I discovered was actually very similar to what you're talking about here, while at the same time being the complete opposite, in a way.
    I found myself being more careful while riding. I found that it wasn't really possible for me to be angry or upset while riding, it kept me in the moment, and when I was riding, I couldn't get lost in thought spirals or get hung up on problems or people in my life, I knew that that would end up with me going off the road (and not in a good, deliberate sort of way). The gentle vibrations from the engine would keep me grounded in the moment and the place I was going through, no matter what speed we're talking. Feeling the wind, smelling the smells, and so on also helped. Call it meditation, call it mindfullness, call it whatever you feel works for you. Just feeling the bike doing its thing, concentrating on your placement through the next corner, trying to anticipate what will happen a bit farther up the road etc. really kept me going.
    I don't really have a point to make here, just wanted to share a bit. Thanks for all your fantastic videos, DDFM!

  • @Medic1647
    @Medic1647 Před 4 lety

    I can understand and can relate to everything you said about power, control, and living on the edge to perhaps escape our troubled lives. I was a Paramedic with the City of Milwaukee and I got into motorcycle racing while I was with the Department as another avenue of 'risk and danger'. I got addicted to the "high" I got as a Paramedic and motorcycle racing continued to give me that "High" when I wasn't working. 15 years later, after leaving the Department after 10 years, I am still a die hard rider but for different reasons now; for good reasons where I feel a sense of Community and Brotherhood and the Adventure of the open road.

  • @wolfstadt_
    @wolfstadt_ Před 4 lety

    Idk but for me riding is true therapy. Getting my first motorcycle helped me out of a serious depression. I never did risky or dangerous things, but just being on the road on my bike was enough. I could be extremely sad or be having the worst day and getting on my bike would just make everything melt away. It gives you a sense of power, freedom, and it gets your mind out of negative loops and thoughts because your brain is too focused on the road and enjoying the ride. I could be having a terrible day and getting on my motorcycle and going for a ride focuses my mind on the present moment and nothing else matters but my current surroundings and riding safe. Just gets you in a zone and puts you in a present state.

  • @acemichael5510
    @acemichael5510 Před 3 lety +1

    I remember the first day I ever heard a Harley Davidson fire up. I was going through my first heavy wave of depression that I have ever been in. When I heard the V Twin fire up, I was hooked and never went back. Riding has become apart of my soul.

  • @hh750x
    @hh750x Před 6 lety +1

    Thank you for this video. Its so spot on, with how I feel and with why I took up motorcykling at the age of 60. Ride safe and I wish you all the best.

  • @Wintersdark
    @Wintersdark Před 4 lety +1

    It's a big part of why I ride, and why I ride year round even in -20c. No matter what, when I'm on a motorcycle, I'm happy. Any motorcycle. Going anywhere.
    So, commuting to work gets me happy heading in, and happy coming out.
    It's absolutely therapy for me. It has been for more than 25 years, and will remain so for as long as I'm physically able.
    I did start after my divorce, but I've gotten long past that (and am married again with kids).
    For me, I have a lot of stress throughout my life that I cannot change. On a bike though, it's all gone. I'm 100% present in the moment, and nothing else matters. I do ride angry/etc, but for me that's because the moment I start riding - I'm no longer angry.

  • @JynxyLynx
    @JynxyLynx Před 2 lety

    every time my depression hits hard i like to come back and watch this video. Needless to say I just got out of an episode last night. I don't have a motorcycle (for financial reasons) but my ex roommate would let me ride theirs occasionally and I feel in love with the freedom I felt. I knew it wasnt a cure but it really helped me escape the stress and distract myself until I came out of my episode. Mental health isn't something you can easily find help for around here (without being thrown in a ward till your episode ends, not even being seen by a professional). I'm moving soon and the options for mental help there is way better... and who knows? Maybe i can finally get a motorcycle. (Also I have full gear but no bike XD)

  • @h.d.mech.mortenson2098

    I battle with depression as well and I just got my license and a bike and im having a blast !! Keeping busy helps me with my depression. Some days when its cloudy and overcast I have to drag myself out of bed but I keep battling and talk to a counselor which does help me. Thanks for talking about this Dan. Beat wishes on your future endeavors ! Enjoy the time with your kids.

  • @Winchestersxp
    @Winchestersxp Před 4 lety

    Depression leaves a giant hole in your life ...and people fill that void with anything that brings joy ...Motorcycles are a great therapy! I just subbed because of this video ! Life after being diagnosed with depression is much better than life before !

  • @roger201288
    @roger201288 Před 4 lety +5

    Crying while riding is an amazing feeling.. it really is like the spidermans black suit

  • @justincriswell4354
    @justincriswell4354 Před 3 lety

    I also struggle with depression/anxiety. I had turned to drugs/alcohol in the past and just like you it followed my divorce. She took everything including my four children. Riding REALLY helps! (also on prescriptions)
    Thank you so much for being candid and honest with us! THIS video definitely makes you my favorite CZcams channel by far! Love it brother!

  • @jamssnana4084
    @jamssnana4084 Před 4 lety

    So good to hear a man speak openly about his struggle with depression. Respect.
    I didn't know this about you, Dan. I only "found" you a few months ago. I'm sort of the opposite; I have panic disorder. I'm actually agoraphobic. Adrenalin is not my friend. But hubby love to ride, and I've learned that if we don't push ourselves, those fears get bigger than us. Damned if I'll let that happen!!!
    Great vlog...as usual!

  • @davidblack7528
    @davidblack7528 Před 5 měsíci

    Always feel better after a long ride. Ride in Texas, lots of great roads to ride on about 30 miles out of town. A couple of great resturants in the country to stop and have lunch and get back on roads that few people ride on during the work week. I am retired and getting away is great therapy. Best of luck in your retiring from Fire Fighting.

  • @leroybrown6042
    @leroybrown6042 Před 4 lety

    Nice to hear someone talk openly about riding and depression. I salute you for openly talking about your depression and journey as someone who has been through it. I've been through the anti depressant cycles and the best thing that has happened for me was learning to meditate. I think it's been scientifically proven now to beat depression and is part of what we seek when we ride. Being in the present moment.
    Much love

  • @sergiogarcia4347
    @sergiogarcia4347 Před 4 lety

    I can totally relate to all this and everyone's comments. I ride because it is just me and my thoughts, no one else. I went through a nasty divorce, which really made me reflect on myself as a man and what i stood for, my ethos, and what i stood for. Went to therapy, which helped a little, i had a good therapist, but ultimately i learned that it was up to me to have a plan for my life, what i wanted, where i wanted to be. I went back to school received 3 college degrees and an MBA, landed with a good position as an EHS manager. it keeps me on my toes, i am responsible for several hundred people across the state, i travel often. But when i am home or not working, I ride every chance i get. I will ride into the mountains, the desert, down to San Felipe, or Baja, Grand canyon, Death Valley, Yosemite, you name it. not married, dont need a woman, to suck me dry, and spend money on stuff i could care less about. go MGTOW guys that also helps to stay sane, and alive. Nothing like going down the highway and feel that power between your legs, almost feels like flying! Stay safe Dan keep up the videos!!

  • @sajjanj
    @sajjanj Před 4 lety +2

    Riding my motorbike is like meditation.. Clears my mind and leaves me feeling better. Therapeutic indeed!

  • @eugenet453
    @eugenet453 Před 4 lety +1

    I had my first ride ever a couple of weeks ago when I was exhausted from depression. Focus is what heals all wounds, I think

  • @FernandoMoreno-di3et
    @FernandoMoreno-di3et Před 2 lety

    Hi Dan, thank you for posting this. Your video and everyone's comments kind of blew my mind plenty of others have gone through and are going through what I'm going through. I'm new to riding and am just loving it. I feel like I'm going to ride for the rest of my life.

  • @slickchims8736
    @slickchims8736 Před 6 lety

    Motorcycles are freedom. Freedom from all the anxiety and worries and like you said, it gives you back the power and control you feel you're losing in your life. Ive been riding lately in the some of the ways you described, taking highly unnecessary risks and this video has been an eye-opener. Thank you

  • @yes-bb9ro
    @yes-bb9ro Před 6 lety +4

    I started riding last november. Though the road here in Metro Manila is not as wide, not as crowded, not as good as where you're riding but the feeling is the same. I feel good when im riding.

  • @JetCooper3D
    @JetCooper3D Před 4 lety

    Thanks for sharing man. Takes a strong person to admit that we are all vulnerable and when you do, we will all close ranks around you, with respect and friendship.

  • @pgreeky
    @pgreeky Před 4 lety

    Damn. Subscribed right after watching this. Bought a bad ass Sportster w/ t bars and a sissy bar for my first bike just cause I loved the old school look and loved the idea of feeling free while riding without any electronics around, kind of an escape from social media and all that crap. Went through a horrible break up and went through major depression. Flunked all my classes in college that semester and just didn’t feel like living. My buddy also got me into bikes and I got that feeling of power back. Such a cool way to get back on my feet. Depression is no joke, and I now know how important it is for us to treat ourselves so we can get that control back in life. Thanks for sharing all your knowledge! I learn a lot from you!

  • @mikehagan4320
    @mikehagan4320 Před 3 lety +1

    Outstanding video!!!
    I Can Relate.
    You are Doing Great Work for People. You Seem like You are where you Belong.
    Best Wishes! M.H.

  • @bumblebach
    @bumblebach Před 6 lety

    The feelings you're struggling to explain are exactly that, complicated. Riding is a way to feel focus, control, and power. It's a way to reconnect with who you are, or who you were, outside of whatever issues are causing you emotional stress. I felt as if a part of my heart died after a breakup last winter, and I was struggling to remember how to be the person all my friends and family knew and loved. I felt hollow for so long, and getting on the bike helped breathe life back into my heart and soul. Pain is a fact of human existence, but as with everything else, it is temporary. I understand what you're trying to say, and I know many others do as well. I call it "throttle therapy". I wish you the best of luck in this new chapter of your life, and I hope your channel continues to grow; you deserve it.

  • @timpowers4192
    @timpowers4192 Před 6 lety

    Wow man, thank you so much for sharing this! I've been watching your videos for a couple months now, since I got my bike. I first stumbled on your videos when I was searching for tips for beginning riders, and you should take pride in knowing that you pretty much taught me how to ride safely and responsibly!
    I got my bike the beginning of this summer, pretty much specifically for dealing with my depression. My wife of 8 years left me last September & our divorce was finallized in June. I took it extremely hard and tried like hell to save our marriage, but to know avail. It was by far, hands down the absolute worst thing I've ever been through, and I wouldn't wish what I went through on my worst enemy.
    So my good buddy offered to sell me his 96 Vulcan 800 Classic. I'd always wanted a motorcycle, and I finally had an opportunity to get one, as he was very awesome by letting me pay him when I can. And like I said, I got it for the purpose of getting through the depression, but it was amazing to see this video and know that I'm not the only one who got into riding for that purpose.
    I'd like to add to your reasons riding helps with depression: I love the feeling of riding down the highway & meeting other riders on the road & WE ALL WAVE to each other! It provides a sense of belonging & brotherhood to fill that space of feeling alone!
    Thank you again for not just this video, but all of your content! You're such an amazing human being!

  • @stuartharris81
    @stuartharris81 Před 4 lety

    I got into riding for the exact same reason. Certainly not a cure but definitely helped me. Keep up the good work.

  • @dylancade2003
    @dylancade2003 Před 4 lety +23

    I started riding after my divorce and I rode like a moron ..... can’t think about your wife cheating if your weaving traffic at 120 Thankfully I diddnt hurt myself or anyone else in my time of dumbassary

    • @arthurmchugh5184
      @arthurmchugh5184 Před 4 lety +1

      Dumdassary!! Well done !!😎😎🏍

    • @Lowlander119
      @Lowlander119 Před 4 lety

      I try to remember my phase as well when I see another rider being a complete asshat... then again, I still do have my asshat moments, just to less a degree and less frequently

    • @user-rb8bl3gs9k
      @user-rb8bl3gs9k Před 4 lety

      Glad you're safe bro.. Keep your head up

  • @awp1958
    @awp1958 Před 3 lety

    Been riding and touring on a bike actively since 1986, the same year I started working as a teacher. The bike was my only transport for many years. Riding on a calm quiet morning has always been relaxing and does help to keep my blood pressure down.
    After teaching for 28 years and getting pushed into roles I really didn't want depression started to hit me hard. Riding wasn't enough, but luckily I wasn't scared to seek help or too embarrassed to talk about it. In the end the solution was to walk away from that job and find something else that I could leave at the end of each day and not think about it.
    The bike is still a calming experience though. I have had the big crash too, putting me in hospital for 2 weeks. I did go back to Riding after recovery though, its part of my life, especially tootling around on my sidecar with my Border Collie.
    If you are having problems please seek help.

  • @MahShuDontFit
    @MahShuDontFit Před 4 lety

    I started riding earlier this year just because my grandpa passed away. He never rode but as a child I use to remember how I talk about it with him. His passing made me realize how short life was I needed something to make feel connected with my childhood and also reminded me of him. As a new rider relearning how to drive/ride took all my attention away from that and it helped. Definitely had a couple of rough months fighting against suicide and riding helped a lot as well. I wanted to escape to run away from my fears, depression, and negativity.

  • @MyHumboldtLife
    @MyHumboldtLife Před 4 lety

    Thank you so much for sharing your story with depression and the great advice to seek help. There is such a stigma associated with anxiety and depression, particularly when it comes to what society expects of "real" men. I've personally spent hundreds of hours in therapy off and on over my 50 years on this rock and have been on anti-depressants for about 30 years. But I never really thought about the therapeutic side of riding until you mentioned it in this video. I've been riding since I was 9 and have had a variety of bikes, from dirt, to dual sport, to street, but I never really considered that my love of riding had anything to do with my depression. But you nailed it when you mentioned the intense focus and being in total control of things. And the dangerous behavior being part of it too. When depressed it's all about regaining a sense of control and riding plays a big part in that. Anyway, I don't want to go on and on, but I wanted to say thank you for sharing your experiences. It really struck a chord with me and I hope your being so candid helps others. Take care and keep the shiny side up!

  • @tokyocoates
    @tokyocoates Před 4 lety

    It is making 100,000s of small decisions, with instantaneous feedback, each of which not only saves your life but turns your mouth into a smile a yard wide.

  • @gunner4373
    @gunner4373 Před 6 lety

    My situation is so very similar. Nasty divorce. Depression etc. I rode my whole life, raced Motocross for a decade but for the duration of my marriage I rode rarely and owned about 4 dirt bikes (she was ok with dirt, not street). Due to my riding background I've discovered that I need to be extremely careful on the road. I guess my addiction to adrenaline makes riding my current bike seem pretty boring and my broken brain wants to thrash the hell out of the bike and myself some days. Even had to fight the urge to aim straight down the grill of an oncoming vehicle a few times. The plus side is that getting back on the bikes is helping me remember who I am and where I came from. Helps greatly with my self confidence and pushing me to be outside, seeking adventure, instead of pondering the recent destruction of my life and kidnapping of my children. Great vid, and stay safe out there!

  • @johnnycash8447
    @johnnycash8447 Před 4 lety

    great vid. I know I'm probably depressed so I totally relate to wanting the feeling of control you're talking about...but I also see it as a way to regain a sense of self and feeling of control in a society that is obsessed over social media and phone usage in general. I feel like technology is taking over and the bike feels like a great way to disconnect and to own the machine in a sense rather than the machines owning us. I don't know if this is still the depression talking and if I took medicine/got therapy then I wouldn't have such a negative view of society and thus wouldn't want to ride as bad

  • @RichJarvis
    @RichJarvis Před rokem

    Bro, also a Brother Fireman who retired after only 13 years after crushing my ankle at a job…
    Rollin with everything your sayin Bro
    Keep doing what you do

  • @avarria5872
    @avarria5872 Před 2 lety

    My therapist calls motorcycles the ultimate mindfulness exercise. I have pretty bad anxiety and depression. When I am on my bike, all that disappears. The only downside is that the therapy only lasts as long as the ride lasts. It comes back when I get off the bike. My bike is in the shop right now, so all I can think about is getting back on and enjoying myself.
    Riding also lets me enjoy work more. Like most people, I don't like my job. However, I always get excited when thinking about commuting to and from work when I get to ride.

  • @zacharys332
    @zacharys332 Před 4 lety

    DDFM I would like to add to what you are saying. When I am riding, everything else is just what it is - a problem, but that problem doesn’t live in my mind when I’m on my bike. On my bike I am connected and present - I feel alive and untethered to the stress that comes with living. I am one with my machine, gliding across the pavement and dipping through corners. Life on a motorcycle is here and now - I am the master of my own existence.

  • @chop2093
    @chop2093 Před 4 lety

    I totally get it man. Like you said, riding a bike gives us mental focus and clarity and removes all of life’s stresses. The control thing is powerful too , as it lets us control something when we feel like we have no control in other areas. I know when I ride my R6, the power is addicting and knowing that feeling of power is just a twist of the wrist away....hard to explain to people who don’t ride.

  • @lindseyangell986
    @lindseyangell986 Před 5 lety

    Seeing my psychologist and psychiatrist is okay, they are helping me with my PTSD and depression...with meds and weekly visits to my psychologist with meds. After 10 years without a motorcycle I just purchased my first H-D FXLR Low Rider..cannot wait to ride...my birthday is 29 March. I am pretty sure at 66 years of age,a year later than expected that this will help me as I truly miss riding. I gave my dirt bike, ninja 250, and Kawasaki LTD 550to a friend of mine...for free because after back surgery including fusion and cages, I lost the feeling from my waist down and had to use a walker, then later a cane and eventually walking only occasionally without the cane up to about a mile. Thank you for sharing...I do not like NOT being in control...maybe, no really I am OCD but thanks once again.

  • @michaelfawkes4794
    @michaelfawkes4794 Před 5 lety

    I've been wanting to ride for a long time but for many different reasons just didn't, suffering from bouts of depression was definitely one and probably fear was another. I've really only been interested in cruisers, then finally one day the penny dropped and just went and did it. I got my license, got myself a bike and haven't looked back that sense of freedom is worth all the risks and gives the chance for that period to leave all your problems behind.

  • @trevinjacobson6655
    @trevinjacobson6655 Před 6 lety +1

    Damn dude. That’s awesome you’re so open, good video and “rant” I appreciate it

  • @babayaga1237
    @babayaga1237 Před 4 lety +1

    This is a path of healing....relaying to people in way to help them about what they might be going through.

  • @SauvikRoy
    @SauvikRoy Před 4 lety

    I felt the same. I did 10000km in 3months on my new bike. I was annoyed from people at work and was drifting towards self destructive ideas, drinking and driving and all such things. I had a little crash one day, and the bike was gone for a while. I saw things outside, that always repelled me away. I didn't like it, but like you said yourself, this is like bandaid. To truly fix, what's broken, I don't know, I'm struggling myself, it has to be fixed at source. If some things are beyond repair, you replace them, just like in the bike. And, truly always have an insurance plan. Everything, even your life has a quantified value. Where it's unbound, is in your heart though. Make sure that you work to get a hell of an insurance estimate. You're free, just like the bike! Love yourself, fight tough. See you around brother!

  • @anythingacoustic1
    @anythingacoustic1 Před 6 lety

    This really hits home. I started motorcycle riding because of depression and it really held me up in a dark time in my life

  • @seanpgrimm
    @seanpgrimm Před 6 lety

    100% agree. My bike is my stress outlet and escape from everything school and work throws my way. There comes a moment on every single ride where I can't help but smile from ear to ear, and then I proceed to scream for a second like a lunatic. Words can't describe how much I enjoy riding and what it does for my anxieties.

  • @David-zh7zn
    @David-zh7zn Před 6 lety +4

    Dan I had to sell my 2013 48 because I wasn't riding it and didn't make sense to keep it. I still ride my dirt bike but gotta wait till my weekend to enjoy it. Watching your videos make me want to buy a Harley again. You show how to enjoy riding and be safe doing it. Thanks 🖖