Popping in to say that this is absolutely true in my case. I felt massively uncomfortable in my body as i gained weight, just as Becky described in the video, for months and months. Very slowly, that has shifted. I've been recovered for many months now (to the point where I would have to stop and really think hard and calculate the amount of time thats gone by, because recovery and food rarely enters my brain anymore). I now feel neutral towards or even (pretty frequently now which is mind blowing) positive towards my bigger body. But it took about a year for the body hating phase to pass, and another year of disliking (but not hating) to reach this phase. It absolutely does shift with zero disordered behavior, and yes it is absolutely worth it. Be patient and keep going!
Such great advice. Thanks, Becky. Applies to heaps of things. Bit humbling, really😊 It is very interesting when there is no (healthy or viable) way out of something, the brain generally settles down and starts trying to put it's desire to comfort and problem solve into the new direction.
Hello Becky! I’ve recently been in recovery for a little over a month and have been all in. I have been watching your videos and they’ve been a great help however I’ve been slipping a bit recently and thought it would be helpful to reach out. My names jazmine and I’m 15 years old, female. Recently, I’ve been all in and honoring all my hunger and it was going great, however just this week I would say I’ve been starting to hold back, I’ve noticed changes in my body and have been feeling uncomfortable in my skin. I’m still eating my 3 meals everyday but I’ve been finding it hard to allow myself snacks, dessert, just mental hunger yk. I had extreme hunger since I started all in and have felt like it’s definitely gone down, but then again I don’t know if it’s me telling and forcing myself to believe it’s gone down or not. I’ll get to the point by saying I’m definitely scared to allow myself to continue eating to my mental hunger, one, because I feel like I’ve already put on a visible amount of weight and I really don’t want to put on a lot more. 2, I’m terrified if I keep allowing myself to eat whatever I’ll go overshoot and I’m scared what my parents will think or people around me because every time I express this all they say is “no that won’t happen, you’re young” or “that’s not your genes” I’m scared of the possibility that it will happen and then they’ll judge me. 3, I’m scared I’m just tricking myself into thinking I have mental hunger and am just making it up or that I don’t actually know when I feel satisfied or not. What does it actually feel like to be satisfied and know you actually don’t want more? I feel like sometimes I can be like “ok yeah that’s good enough, or that was good I’m done now” but still feel like I should or want to eat more but what if then I’m just forcing it? I feel full after meals and throughout the day yet find myself thinking of food, and it’s usually always the same food (cereal, crackers, chips, bagels) so what if its actually just becoming a habit to think of those foods? I’m scared and don’t know what to do. I’m being blind weighed but I just look at myself and I feel like I know I’ve put on a lot of weight. To add, I haven’t restricted for long, a little under a year I would say. I had gotten to around 15 pounds underweight for my age/height but I just don’t think I’ve restricted long enough to continue being this hungry if it really is hunger. Please help, thank you so much.
i have no hunger cues after 12 years disordererd eating , anorexia and intermittent fasting. i was down to bmi 12 and 10 years below bmi 18. ,more on the lower end and highly addicted moving and trying to earn my food. so how can i relearn thiis? i was wishing for extremhunger but i have no contact to myself -- the problem was always no food all day long and eating in the evening. my brain plays tricks because i am rather no way sportive and i am near "healthy" in terms of weight.
Popping in to say that this is absolutely true in my case. I felt massively uncomfortable in my body as i gained weight, just as Becky described in the video, for months and months. Very slowly, that has shifted. I've been recovered for many months now (to the point where I would have to stop and really think hard and calculate the amount of time thats gone by, because recovery and food rarely enters my brain anymore). I now feel neutral towards or even (pretty frequently now which is mind blowing) positive towards my bigger body. But it took about a year for the body hating phase to pass, and another year of disliking (but not hating) to reach this phase. It absolutely does shift with zero disordered behavior, and yes it is absolutely worth it. Be patient and keep going!
Hey Becky, Your hair is looking great 💁♀️!
Such great advice. Thanks, Becky.
Applies to heaps of things.
Bit humbling, really😊
It is very interesting when there is no (healthy or viable) way out of something, the brain generally settles down and starts trying to put it's desire to comfort and problem solve into the new direction.
Hello Becky! I’ve recently been in recovery for a little over a month and have been all in. I have been watching your videos and they’ve been a great help however I’ve been slipping a bit recently and thought it would be helpful to reach out. My names jazmine and I’m 15 years old, female. Recently, I’ve been all in and honoring all my hunger and it was going great, however just this week I would say I’ve been starting to hold back, I’ve noticed changes in my body and have been feeling uncomfortable in my skin. I’m still eating my 3 meals everyday but I’ve been finding it hard to allow myself snacks, dessert, just mental hunger yk. I had extreme hunger since I started all in and have felt like it’s definitely gone down, but then again I don’t know if it’s me telling and forcing myself to believe it’s gone down or not. I’ll get to the point by saying I’m definitely scared to allow myself to continue eating to my mental hunger, one, because I feel like I’ve already put on a visible amount of weight and I really don’t want to put on a lot more. 2, I’m terrified if I keep allowing myself to eat whatever I’ll go overshoot and I’m scared what my parents will think or people around me because every time I express this all they say is “no that won’t happen, you’re young” or “that’s not your genes” I’m scared of the possibility that it will happen and then they’ll judge me. 3, I’m scared I’m just tricking myself into thinking I have mental hunger and am just making it up or that I don’t actually know when I feel satisfied or not. What does it actually feel like to be satisfied and know you actually don’t want more? I feel like sometimes I can be like “ok yeah that’s good enough, or that was good I’m done now” but still feel like I should or want to eat more but what if then I’m just forcing it? I feel full after meals and throughout the day yet find myself thinking of food, and it’s usually always the same food (cereal, crackers, chips, bagels) so what if its actually just becoming a habit to think of those foods? I’m scared and don’t know what to do.
I’m being blind weighed but I just look at myself and I feel like I know I’ve put on a lot of weight. To add, I haven’t restricted for long, a little under a year I would say. I had gotten to around 15 pounds underweight for my age/height but I just don’t think I’ve restricted long enough to continue being this hungry if it really is hunger. Please help, thank you so much.
i have no hunger cues after 12 years disordererd eating , anorexia and intermittent fasting. i was down to bmi 12 and 10 years below bmi 18. ,more on the lower end and highly addicted moving and trying to earn my food. so how can i relearn thiis?
i was wishing for extremhunger but i have no contact to myself -- the problem was always no food all day long and eating in the evening. my brain plays tricks because i am rather no way sportive and i am near "healthy" in terms of weight.