Aslam u alaikum sir,ap ny es topic py bt ki,bht khub, mashaAllah.. I'm divorced ,6year k bd separation ho gai, bhot sacrifice kia ,apna ghar bachna cha but ....!! But hamari society kisi ki taklif ko ak issue bna deti h😢 .Allah hr behn byti k naseeb bhot achy kry,Allah dushmn ki byti ko b naik bakht kry.ameeen Allahumma ameen
Absolutely right... Pakistan main shyd. 00001%log b aisay ni Han jo Dr SAHAB ki tarhan sochty hn. Otherwise kisi b divorcey say shadi krna log sharmindagi mehsos krty Han. Or phir koi unmarried male yah khawish kr day to sb say phly usky family members uska boycott krty Han thn usky relatives tanay daitay Han KY unmarried larkian Mar gain theen. Then us insan KY frnds.... Wo krna b chahay to kr ni skta.... As for as a married person wo 2nd krna chahay to 1st one kbi ijazat ni day gi. Agr wo shakhs phir b kr ly to fasad jhgray ky ilawa kuch ni hota..... Yah aik harsh reality hy..
@@ZOUQEQALAM I agree with everything you said. I just want to add that it is not easy for a woman to share her husband with another woman. From a woman's point of view it is very hurtful. So it is understandable that a woman won't agree to a husband's second marriage. Just like a man cannot share his wife with another man, a woman can't share her husband either.
If i said any thing wrong , kindly forgive me . This is only to bring to light that its high time our women study and put into practise their study of the deeni practises ...coz plz reflect upon our society's shortcomings .... Dont we see already many divorce cases on the rise ... Dont we witness haraam relationships among our youth women common now as compared to years back...dont we hear and see some of the married brothers keeping extra-marital affairs or maybe Halal 2nd marriages hidden away / locked away and increasingly more family break-ups and our children affected.... What do you think are the solution to these issues ... Definitely to Set our lives and live as set by the Boundaries set by our deeni islam... Unless we do not Mould our livings and our mindset to follow the way a true islamic community should be as , Our lives are going to be In disharmony and we shall never be Content .
Indeed sir.. Hum log bs apne marzi ka deen chun lety hain hum moral ethic values bhul jaty hain. Divorce lene khula lena aik dag ban jata haa. But main samjhti hon k Allah ne sb k leye kuch na kuch acha aur behtreen socha hota ha agr bura waqt aya ha to acha b aye ga bs eman ki mazboti honi chaye.
Aslmlkm recently got divorced. Aur rishtaydaro k rawiye aisay badlay hain jesay mujhe koi achoot ke beemari hai. Kindly pray for my mental health . Aur Allah pak logo ke soch ko acha rakhnay ke taufeeq ada kre ameen
Astagfirullah logo ko pata nhi kya masla hota orat zaat SE job kre to problem divorce ho jay to problem koi baat kray to problem jaidad me hisa to problem, Allah maaf kre hmare mashra abhi bhi dark ages main hay ab dunya modern ho gai Hy talaq koi buri chez nhi, mardo ko koi Kuch nhi bolta kbhi
Divorce koyi aib nahi hai Allaha tala ne khud ijazat di hai to logo ko dafa kariye,, logg sirf bura behave karte magar ummid allaha se rakhiye aachi vali
Please Pray For My Sister I'm Broken inside .. Feeling Shame that I'm Her Brother Not Doing Anything for Her Not Helping her She Loves me Alot Same as My Mother Do .. I belongs to poor family Got Selected on merit in MBBS by her Help I am on scholarships in my uni.. I have No any Sources To Help Her I'm just 21 years old My Elder Brothers my Parents are So Much worry about her ..only thing I can do for her Only Dua in Namaz May Allah help her . I can Burn my all wishesh for Her to see her happy and satisfied .. Respect Ur Sisters They Are Ur 2nd mother and 1st friend..
He completely missed the actual root cause! The actual root cause, at a very high level, is that Muslims in general have left the Quran and Sunnah of the Prophet sulAllahu alaihe wa sullum. We read the Quran but don't even attempt to understand it and implement it in our lives, Subhan Allah. May Allah help us Ameen Ya Allah.
M b divorced hon r log ye sun k k divorce hue h chor k chly jaty han ab m depression m ja rae hon pray for me hmari society m divorced grls ki koe jga ni ha
Y u r suffering yourself because of ppl talk! If u won't take care of yourself no one else will. Us Allah ki taraf dekho jess nay tum ko zindagi aur sehat dae. Go out study part find and look for job. ALLAH HELP THOSE WHO HELP THEMSELVES
Divorce and delay marriage r same Jin lrkio ki age zaida ho jti h society us ko bht mentally torture krti h Wo lrki kisi shadi yan famil gathering main ni jti log aik swal krty hain shadi kr lo rishty bnd ho jain gy Agr rishty jb 25 main bnd ho jain tou phr zaida age p blame keo Divorce ka tou kch pochain na log zahni mareez bna daity hain Allah aysay logo ko lazmi pochy
Jee, buhat achi baatein ke hein aap ny.. Lakin mein ye batana chahti hon k Unmarried larky, divorced, widow, old age khatoon sy shadi aaj bhi karty hein lakin sirf American, Europe, etc nationality holders, ya Rich khatoon sy....
Thank you for addressing a difficult topic such as this. You pointedly said that society needs to provide solution for this problem. Ironically elderly women are the biggest culprits. These women elevate the boys status while they may be completely inept and seeking out capable and beautiful girls for them, ultimately resulting in a failed marriage.
Is your mother or grandmother elderly and culprit as you say or do you just like to insult other mothers? Don't put all the blame on boys and their mothers. Everyone wants the best for themselves and their loved ones. This is not charity that you are expecting people to feel sorry and bring an unwanted girl to their home. Girls and their parents aren't blind or stupid. They should do due diligence and check everything before accepting a proposal. Once you agree to a proposal and made your decision, stick to it and deal with the consequences. If girls or their parents make mistakes in choosing a suitable match and what's best for them and their daughters, they should deal with the consequences of their wrong decision. Do you expect others who have no fault in this to pay for their failed marriage? Society already has a solution for divorced women. They should except polygamy and become 2nd or 3rd wife but they reject such proposals and are looking for single young man with wealth. Why would a single young man in his prime, who's financially stable would marry a 2nd hand divorced woman with a baggage from previous marriage?
@@braveheart8318 so much hate inside you. Why did prophet PBUH married a divorced women? When it will happen to your sister then your second hand sisters will haunt you.
The girl with this status should be confident and never allow society to give her a tag of بدنصیبی . If you are single and having kids or not after this case it doesn’t mean that you have no rights to live like others. Joy happiness are same for you as well..Just start to make your bond strong with اللہ سبحان و تعالی and then you will know what is life exactly. Its precious and beautiful with this bond. I am also a part of this status with one daughter and received all type of rubbish from this society but never mind it and staying very satisfied and happy bcz i know ; Allah is with me and with all of them they want him by their side . InshaAllah and Alhumdulilah
It depends how the family reacts when a girl got divorce .i m also divorced and still suffering.because family & society always blame aurat.and treat that aurat like a dead body
@@janemark8452 you are right, my own mother put me down after my divorce...basically my parents are happy if I sleep around with men and hide this act but if I marry a man then I will not be considered a good daughter.
@@noortooba8070 its a Test/Azmaish or maybe punishment due to Ones Sins which we know or not /sins committed unknowingly or knowingly /sins committed Openly or hidingly .... A muslim who is in difficulty must recite "istighfar alot " ( Astaghfirullah ) & ...."Seek Help from Allah Ta'Ala with Patience and Prayer " .... Allah Ta'Ala forgives and Blesses the life of one who remembers him greatly and the Heart which is Content is the heart that is spent in dhikr and setting ones life and daily routines as per deeni teachings . To live , earn an Halal living is also another pre-requiste to Being Blessed with Respect and Content of heart and Blessings in Life too. May Allah Ta'Ala Bless us with more understanding of our deen and Blessed with Taufeeq to practise it as per its teachings and to lead a Virtous Blessed life . . ..aameen..
Divorce ya widow ku khud itna independant uuna chahiye k koi un pe tars na khaye. Jab insan financially strong huta h tu kisi ki majal nhi huti kuch kehnay ki.. aj kal koi kisi ku support nahi karta. Apna bojh khud uthana parhta h.
My sister also got divorced in very young age. She was 21 years old when she got divorced. Now she is 22 years old. Rishta dhondna buht mushkil ho jata sirf 2 behnen hen donu ki shadi ak din hui mery pas baby bhi ha lakin wo..... Bs ab yahee dua ha Allah usku acha sath dey. Mere mother bhi unfortunately nhin rheen . Mery akely father Kay leye rishta dhondna buht mushkil hogeya ha Log bhaag jaty hen ziada ye sun kr divorce wali Kay sath hm ne nhin krna. Kui ye nhin sochta agr mere beti ku divorce hoti tu ma Kia kr leta.
You can contact me if u don't mind. Mjy apney bhai k liye rishta daikhna he. Hmm 3no behnain married hain ALLHAMDULLILAH. Or 1 bhai he jis k liye daikhna he rishta
Plzz mri sistr ky ly dua kijyga...oska bhi acha naseb khul jy... Kun ky job wli lrki ko bhi koi khas acha nh smjhty...my sis unmarride...but gormnt job krti hy.
We need to understand that no woman wants to stay with the label of *unmarried* or *divorcee*. There are problems, or there might be some constraints. Only of we start seeing other's kids as our own will we be able to realize what they're going through is not their fault but a situation that can come in anybody's life.
People made children problem from both sides. Basically kids should be in father's jurisdiction primarily so women can easily to become wife of anybody and women also should accept second marriage husband's kids so issue can be resolved easily
Well I think if there are many divorced women then there are also divorced men too. Why divorced men don't marry other divorced or widowers? In academic studies girls are more than boys but in society the ratio is not too worse.
Es men boht sary factors hen first of all k takriban her divorced mard ko 2nd bhi kanwari larki mil rahi hoti hai to wo q divorced ki tarf jay ga? 2nd jo society men mard or aurton ki population agr brabar ho to eska ye matlb to nahi k her aik mard se aik orat ki shadi kr di jay boht c or bhi baten hoti hen... Hmary maushery men orat ka berozgar hona to koi burri bat nahi gher sambhalny wali females ki qadar zyada hai... So agr koi female job kr rahi hen ya nahi ker rahi kisi aisy mard k supurd nahi ki ja sakti jo berozgar ho ya larki k parallel ni ho Or bhi kai burayan pai jati larkon men to ya jitni larkon ki tadad khrb ho to utni larkion ki zindgi barbad kr di jay kya??? 2nd option doosri shadi to es pe pehly to doosri biwi banna tayar ni hoti zyada tr wo bhi kanwara ya akela dhond rahi hoti hen to wo achy wala to available ni hota to phir wo 2nd biwi banny pe razi hoti hen to pehly wali biwi ni manti..
This time topic is not well defined or may be incomplete .It’s not possible that each and every divorced and un married girl get married with a nice person, or (jor k rishta is really difficult)people do propose divorces either to take financial benefits or any other desires and mostly it’s lust or change in their boring married life k ab dub k rahegi. Sir you should more speak out social behavior with unmarried and divorces. People say cruel things in sympathy cover please creat awareness that marriage is the best option but it’s ok to be single also it’s not an embarrassment neither lacking of something. They’ve right to spend life with peace.
You said right it's ok to be single...but you need to become independent and must hv financial freedom so you don't beg inforont of someone for your needs..and enjoy your own life being a single human being
Yes 👍 if u chose to be single then be independent. Simple, unfortunately ppl like to spice up there life by talking shit abt vounlarable ppl. Let them, remember u can only change yourself!
Asalam o alaikum...im very much junior in studies and experience than sir ,,but don't know when and why ,my thoughts are exactly the same as sir is saying,,sometimes i felt may b im mad ,,but im v much happy and relaxed now...may Allah bless all of us and take us to right path ameen ameen ameen .
Current population of boys in Pakistan : 107,195, 947 ( 50.8) Current population of girls in Pakistan : 103, 769, 479 (49.2) But due to increasing rate of death of young boys in Pakistan in the age of 25 mostly increases girls population.
Sir ye Pyary Nabi S.W ki hadees mubarak b hai "qayamat k nazdeek ourton ki tadaad mardon sy zayada ho jaye gi yahan tk k 1 mard 50 orton ka sarbrah ya hami ho ga "🙏🙏👍🌷💞🇵🇰🇵🇰
Very true. Infact in olden days sub-continent people were more broad minded than now. Husband accepting a second marriage to a divorced /widowed women and accepting her kids from a former marriage was very common. But now a days men do not accept a divorced / widowed women who have already got kids with former husband.
I know i,m late but why should a woman accept a disloyal man it's not about being broad-minded 2nd marriages should not be accepted it does no good for any party it's just making one woman's life better and another woman's life worse sharing one man is not easy nor acceptable for most women.
Instead of accepting second marriage with a divorced woman why don't men just marry a divorced woman instead of 1 virgin and 1 widowed, make it make sense 🤔
Sir it's my honour that I hear you always. And it's feel good when I hear you because the way you talk is different and upto the mark. Sir I appreciate you may ALLAH make our society positive and make us role for the rest of the world 😇
Sir ji I'm basically from INDIA, Now I'm working in Qatar as a media profession, aap ki jo sooch hai bilkul 110 percent sahi kaha hai, mai bhi aisa hi socha hu magar hame dene ke liye koi agge nahi badta hai kyu aisa.. Khasam se kai ladkiyan divorced n widows hai main unka saath dena socha, magar koi agge nahi badta .. Wahi dusre ku deke pareshan hore log magar acche ki saath nahi dete log...
Dusri bv banner se behtar Hai k ase mard se shadi ki Jaye jis ki bv ki death ho Gaye ho ya us ki pehli bv se divorce ho Gaye ho kun k usko hakikat Mai wife ki zarorat hogi Jo pehle se married Hai wo agar naiki k liye bhi dusri shadi kare GA to uski puri family disturb ho Jaye gi naiki k chakar Mai wo apni bani bnaye family se bhi hath dho baithe GA
Boht shukriya Allah apko ajr day... boht sahi topic chuna ap ny :-) 1 point reh gya... Age Difference... bari larki aur chota larka iss mein kia harj hai??? Humaray nabi Muhammad Mustafa SAW bi 25 saal k thay jab Khadija R sy shadi hui thi. Humara moashrah har cheez ko taboo bna k logon ki zindagian tang kyun krna chahta hai???
Learn some skills such as make a cooking channal on u tube or go for freelancing if u r good in English and IT work... don't beg for your needs to other people..make your own path your own career
Sr meri shaddi hue shaddi k 2 mnth bad apny man baap k ghr agae meri beti peda hony wali thi fr divoce hogae ab meri beti h or mery pas koi job ni h ghr wala ka behav b bht bura h msc ki hue h kya aap meri koi help kr skty koi job wagaira agr koi arrange krdyn
Hr ghr ki story hn mere ghr main bhi yhe story hn divorce lrke motti lrkiyun ko koi nh qbl krta jinke waja se bki sister ki life PR bht effect phrta hn life name understanding trust .respect not comprises name log glt khty hn life compromise life name understanding .
Assalamoalikum dr sahab jazakallah khair behtareen video. Aik naiki kaa kam app log ye bhi start karain k kisi bhi wajah say mazoor bachay aapas main shadi karain or es k liye koi plate form banana buhat zarori hai
@@haseebullah9033 example meri aik teacher buhat educated magar wo aik poun say mazoor thee or un k husband nabeena us hi university main teacher hain un dono ki shadi hoi or wo buhat zabardest zindagi guzar rahay hain
This is Indian coulter and more of people lived in this indo Pak area years n years . They not leave bad habits, although convert in Islam.Second married is not crime.
First of all pakistani men donot get married to a widow or divorced because they are trying to help that person . But if this divorce or widow person has money or green card they will marry them immediately. Men are doing second marriages for pleasure. And many times these men don’t allow second wife to have children because simply they cannot afford children from first marriage and second marriage. So many of them ask for abortions. The main thing is women need to financially independent. With education so they are not forced to marry someone who is not suitable to them. Hazrat khadija was a widow but she was a businesswoman . We have great examples of muslim women who were financially independent and were able to take care of their families instead of depending on their fathers, brothers. Women should get married with her own choice and when she finds a suitable person
Great work sir.. Agr islami Mashra bn jaye yahan to shyd ese maslay peda b na hun Ap ye topic b samne laen k lazmi nahi k jese hm hain wesa hi ya us se brh k rishta hmen milay blk ilam or dolat k na hotay huay b agr koi ba ikhlaq or acha deen dar rishta ho to Khida ra na rad kren betyun ki umren na zaya kren
Great topic sir and beautifuly elucidated , second marriage off course not in practice since long and the main hurdle in this act is women herself, wo kehtae hain k aurat , aurat ki dushman hoti hai ....
You are out of your mind, there are many men who are sexually not ok or are abnormal but no one would expect a woman to have a second husband 😂 let's be serious now loyalty is the main thing that we look for in a marriage and most women have the right to expect loyalty from their husbands. My brother, the thing is that 2nd marriage just sound very easy but is the hardest thing one can do most of us wouldn't buy parrot's or cats due to the fear that what if we didn't take good care of them or what if we hurt it's feelings so, how can we expect men to do justice between women that are humans well, most men don't do justice many women are unhappy in second marriages. Last but not the least JEALOUSY, jealously is not a social construct or a concept jealousy is in our nature both in men and women and it would be very cruel to expect women to be happy with their husbands marrying other women. Aurat hoti hogi aurato kee dushman bhai laikin wafadari aur jalan fitrat mai hai jo Allah nai banayi hai isliye yaha par aapki baat ghalat hai
Aslam u alaikum sir,ap ny es topic py bt ki,bht khub, mashaAllah..
I'm divorced ,6year k bd separation ho gai, bhot sacrifice kia ,apna ghar bachna cha but ....!!
But hamari society kisi ki taklif ko ak issue bna deti h😢 .Allah hr behn byti k naseeb bhot achy kry,Allah dushmn ki byti ko b naik bakht kry.ameeen Allahumma ameen
Same mere sath b aise hua ap wali story hi lgti hy apki oulad hy?
ALLAH PAK AP KO SBIR DY AMEEN
Allah sabar da
Same mery 7 bhi yehi hoa he 4 sal hoaye hen Mujhe
Meri shadi ko 6 saal ho gae h Aullad nh ho rae ...tu ab shohar tallaq daina chahty h ...Kiya kro mere liye tu aggy kunwa or peachy khae h 😢😢😢😢
Your daughters are so lucky to have you as their father.
Indeed
آپ بھی اچھا انسان بن کر اپنے پیاروں کے لیئے اچھا ثابت ہو سکتے ہیں۔
Absolutely right... Pakistan main shyd. 00001%log b aisay ni Han jo Dr SAHAB ki tarhan sochty hn. Otherwise kisi b divorcey say shadi krna log sharmindagi mehsos krty Han. Or phir koi unmarried male yah khawish kr day to sb say phly usky family members uska boycott krty Han thn usky relatives tanay daitay Han KY unmarried larkian Mar gain theen. Then us insan KY frnds.... Wo krna b chahay to kr ni skta.... As for as a married person wo 2nd krna chahay to 1st one kbi ijazat ni day gi. Agr wo shakhs phir b kr ly to fasad jhgray ky ilawa kuch ni hota..... Yah aik harsh reality hy..
@@ZOUQEQALAM I agree with everything you said. I just want to add that it is not easy for a woman to share her husband with another woman. From a woman's point of view it is very hurtful. So it is understandable that a woman won't agree to a husband's second marriage. Just like a man cannot share his wife with another man, a woman can't share her husband either.
If i said any thing wrong , kindly forgive me .
This is only to bring to light that its high time our women study and put into practise their study of the deeni practises ...coz plz reflect upon our society's shortcomings ....
Dont we see already many divorce cases on the rise ...
Dont we witness haraam relationships among our youth women common now as compared to years back...dont we hear and see some of the married brothers keeping extra-marital affairs or maybe Halal 2nd marriages hidden away / locked away and increasingly more family break-ups and our children affected....
What do you think are the solution to these issues ...
Definitely to Set our lives and live as set by the Boundaries set by our deeni islam...
Unless we do not Mould our livings and our mindset to follow the way a true islamic community should be as , Our lives are going to be In disharmony and we shall never be Content .
Indeed sir.. Hum log bs apne marzi ka deen chun lety hain hum moral ethic values bhul jaty hain. Divorce lene khula lena aik dag ban jata haa. But main samjhti hon k Allah ne sb k leye kuch na kuch acha aur behtreen socha hota ha agr bura waqt aya ha to acha b aye ga bs eman ki mazboti honi chaye.
ماشاء اللہ! مختصر انداز میں بہت سی باتیں سمجھا دی آپ نے. جزاک اللہ خیرا
Aslmlkm recently got divorced. Aur rishtaydaro k rawiye aisay badlay hain jesay mujhe koi achoot ke beemari hai.
Kindly pray for my mental health . Aur Allah pak logo ke soch ko acha rakhnay ke taufeeq ada kre ameen
How ?
Astagfirullah logo ko pata nhi kya masla hota orat zaat SE job kre to problem divorce ho jay to problem koi baat kray to problem jaidad me hisa to problem, Allah maaf kre hmare mashra abhi bhi dark ages main hay ab dunya modern ho gai Hy talaq koi buri chez nhi, mardo ko koi Kuch nhi bolta kbhi
Aur tum ny jis ka ghr brbad kiya uska kya
Sis be patient society ha e aisi ha .log siwae baton k kar b Kya skte han
Divorce koyi aib nahi hai Allaha tala ne khud ijazat di hai to logo ko dafa kariye,, logg sirf bura behave karte magar ummid allaha se rakhiye aachi vali
ماشاءاللہ حق بات کہی آپ نے بہت زبردست
Please Pray For My Sister I'm Broken inside .. Feeling Shame that I'm Her Brother Not Doing Anything for Her Not Helping her She Loves me Alot Same as My Mother Do .. I belongs to poor family Got Selected on merit in MBBS by her Help I am on scholarships in my uni.. I have No any Sources To Help Her I'm just 21 years old My Elder Brothers my Parents are So Much worry about her ..only thing I can do for her Only Dua in Namaz May Allah help her . I can Burn my all wishesh for Her to see her happy and satisfied ..
Respect Ur Sisters They Are Ur 2nd mother and 1st friend..
May Allah help you
May Allah bless her😔
Good
He completely missed the actual root cause! The actual root cause, at a very high level, is that Muslims in general have left the Quran and Sunnah of the Prophet sulAllahu alaihe wa sullum. We read the Quran but don't even attempt to understand it and implement it in our lives, Subhan Allah. May Allah help us Ameen Ya Allah.
Khaandaani baat kahi hai Dr Javed Iqbal ne sir u r absolutely right.
Bht bht bht zbrdst mozo pr ap nay baat ki or bht achay andaz say smjhaya ALLAH Paak ap ko behtrin jaza day or hmain aml ki tofeeq ata frmay
M b divorced hon r log ye sun k k divorce hue h chor k chly jaty han ab m depression m ja rae hon pray for me hmari society m divorced grls ki koe jga ni ha
Y u r suffering yourself because of ppl talk! If u won't take care of yourself no one else will. Us Allah ki taraf dekho jess nay tum ko zindagi aur sehat dae. Go out study part find and look for job. ALLAH HELP THOSE WHO HELP THEMSELVES
I am also divorced girl
Divorce and delay marriage r same
Jin lrkio ki age zaida ho jti h society us ko bht mentally torture krti h
Wo lrki kisi shadi yan famil gathering main ni jti log aik swal krty hain shadi kr lo rishty bnd ho jain gy
Agr rishty jb 25 main bnd ho jain tou phr zaida age p blame keo
Divorce ka tou kch pochain na log zahni mareez bna daity hain
Allah aysay logo ko lazmi pochy
I m also divorce 😢
U r right
Mashallah sir aapka ek ek lafz true hai aur haqiqat per mambni hai.💯
درست فرمایا! ہمارا اسلامی معاشرہ نہیں ہے۔یہی سب سے بڑا مسئلہ ہے۔
Jee, buhat achi baatein ke hein aap ny..
Lakin mein ye batana chahti hon k
Unmarried larky, divorced, widow, old age khatoon sy shadi aaj bhi karty hein lakin sirf American, Europe, etc nationality holders, ya Rich khatoon sy....
Suub same nhi hoty.
Thank you for addressing a difficult topic such as this. You pointedly said that society needs to provide solution for this problem. Ironically elderly women are the biggest culprits. These women elevate the boys status while they may be completely inept and seeking out capable and beautiful girls for them, ultimately resulting in a failed marriage.
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slam. sir plz financially kaisy hud ko support krain ? kya CZcams sy income mil skti .. ya islya k main divorced hun r boht trouble main hun.
Is your mother or grandmother elderly and culprit as you say or do you just like to insult other mothers?
Don't put all the blame on boys and their mothers. Everyone wants the best for themselves and their loved ones. This is not charity that you are expecting people to feel sorry and bring an unwanted girl to their home. Girls and their parents aren't blind or stupid. They should do due diligence and check everything before accepting a proposal. Once you agree to a proposal and made your decision, stick to it and deal with the consequences. If girls or their parents make mistakes in choosing a suitable match and what's best for them and their daughters, they should deal with the consequences of their wrong decision.
Do you expect others who have no fault in this to pay for their failed marriage? Society already has a solution for divorced women. They should except polygamy and become 2nd or 3rd wife but they reject such proposals and are looking for single young man with wealth. Why would a single young man in his prime, who's financially stable would marry a 2nd hand divorced woman with a baggage from previous marriage?
@@fatimanazar9612 koi skill seekhen online aur sell Karen. CZcams is tough to rank these days. Unless you have very unique idea
@@braveheart8318 so much hate inside you. Why did prophet PBUH married a divorced women? When it will happen to your sister then your second hand sisters will haunt you.
JAZAKALLAH ..GREAT JOB ..realy hapy to listen this topic.. m always agree with your every word.
The girl with this status should be confident and never allow society to give her a tag of بدنصیبی . If you are single and having kids or not after this case it doesn’t mean that you have no rights to live like others. Joy happiness are same for you as well..Just start to make your bond strong with اللہ سبحان و تعالی and then you will know what is life exactly. Its precious and beautiful with this bond. I am also a part of this status with one daughter and received all type of rubbish from this society but never mind it and staying very satisfied and happy bcz i know ; Allah is with me and with all of them they want him by their side . InshaAllah and Alhumdulilah
you are bold n model for us
It depends how the family reacts when a girl got divorce .i m also divorced and still suffering.because family & society always blame aurat.and treat that aurat like a dead body
@@janemark8452 you are right, my own mother put me down after my divorce...basically my parents are happy if I sleep around with men and hide this act but if I marry a man then I will not be considered a good daughter.
@@alia7919 Wait...you sleep around? How is that ok as a muslim woman?
Assalamu alaikum, 34 Years separated/widow MALE having a kid,
from Hyderabad INDIA.
No demands, only serious people can reply me...
Doing brilliant work...to inform us...giving path for life.....
Allah pak apko sehat or iman wali lambi zindgi ata farmaey
Ameen 🤲
سر آپ بہت اچھے باتیں کرتے ہو
is lye khte larkiyon ko educate kya jae.... take kal ko agr wo divorced ya widow ho jae to apne pairon pr khari ho saken.... independent ho saken... 🙌
I m 100 prcnt agree
ہم بھی اچھا انسان بن کر اپنے پیاروں کے لیئے اچھا ثابت ہو سکتے ہیں۔
😊yes agree 💯
Allah hr beti k naseeb naik farmaye aameen suma aameen
amin
Ameen
Ameen 🤲
Achy insan, chahy mard ho ya aurat sab he zaleel hoty hen.......
Kameeny r be hiss log mazy se rehty hen
You are right
Blkul
Asa kyun hota ha never got the answer
@@noortooba8070 its a Test/Azmaish or maybe punishment due to Ones Sins which we know or not /sins committed unknowingly or knowingly /sins committed Openly or hidingly ....
A muslim who is in difficulty must recite "istighfar alot " ( Astaghfirullah )
& ...."Seek Help from Allah Ta'Ala with Patience and Prayer " ....
Allah Ta'Ala forgives and Blesses the life of one who remembers him greatly and the Heart which is Content is the heart that is spent in dhikr and setting ones life and daily routines as per deeni teachings .
To live , earn an Halal living is also another pre-requiste to Being Blessed with Respect and Content of heart and Blessings in Life too.
May Allah Ta'Ala Bless us with more understanding of our deen and Blessed with Taufeeq to practise it as per its teachings and to lead a Virtous Blessed life . . ..aameen..
Ap ki baat bilkul theek ha hum jitny achy bantay han utna bura hota ha hamary saath buray log mazay karty han
Divorce ya widow ku khud itna independant uuna chahiye k koi un pe tars na khaye. Jab insan financially strong huta h tu kisi ki majal nhi huti kuch kehnay ki.. aj kal koi kisi ku support nahi karta. Apna bojh khud uthana parhta h.
I hope everyone could understand this notion of reality
Very nice and very incredibly informative thinking ,very common issue in our society.
Highly appreciated, whatever you have said is so motivated for such ladies..
Bad people are motivations for bad guys
Excellent sir very well said🖒 Hope so society can understand it!
Dear Sir , can you arrange any group of people who arrange this type of marriage (Divorce and other)
Mansoor Karachi
My sister also got divorced in very young age. She was 21 years old when she got divorced. Now she is 22 years old.
Rishta dhondna buht mushkil ho jata sirf 2 behnen hen donu ki shadi ak din hui mery pas baby bhi ha lakin wo.....
Bs ab yahee dua ha Allah usku acha sath dey.
Mere mother bhi unfortunately nhin rheen .
Mery akely father Kay leye rishta dhondna buht mushkil hogeya ha
Log bhaag jaty hen ziada ye sun kr divorce wali Kay sath hm ne nhin krna. Kui ye nhin sochta agr mere beti ku divorce hoti tu ma Kia kr leta.
Hira muslim
You can contact me if u don't mind. Mjy apney bhai k liye rishta daikhna he. Hmm 3no behnain married hain ALLHAMDULLILAH. Or 1 bhai he jis k liye daikhna he rishta
May ALLAH make some source for you sister
@@mohammadbinrauf862 zabardast.may Allah give you jaza and make you a role model
Plzz mri sistr ky ly dua kijyga...oska bhi acha naseb khul jy...
Kun ky job wli lrki ko bhi koi khas acha nh smjhty...my sis unmarride...but gormnt job krti hy.
We need to understand that no woman wants to stay with the label of *unmarried* or *divorcee*. There are problems, or there might be some constraints. Only of we start seeing other's kids as our own will we be able to realize what they're going through is not their fault but a situation that can come in anybody's life.
@Numrah Khan Shirazi
Agreed
People made children problem from both sides. Basically kids should be in father's jurisdiction primarily so women can easily to become wife of anybody and women also should accept second marriage husband's kids so issue can be resolved easily
Assalamu alaikum, 34 Years separated/widow MALE having a kid,
from Hyderabad INDIA.
No demands, only serious people can reply me...
Very true
I want 2nd merrage any woman interested
Well I think if there are many divorced women then there are also divorced men too. Why divorced men don't marry other divorced or widowers? In academic studies girls are more than boys but in society the ratio is not too worse.
Es men boht sary factors hen first of all k takriban her divorced mard ko 2nd bhi kanwari larki mil rahi hoti hai to wo q divorced ki tarf jay ga?
2nd jo society men mard or aurton ki population agr brabar ho to eska ye matlb to nahi k her aik mard se aik orat ki shadi kr di jay boht c or bhi baten hoti hen...
Hmary maushery men orat ka berozgar hona to koi burri bat nahi gher sambhalny wali females ki qadar zyada hai...
So agr koi female job kr rahi hen ya nahi ker rahi kisi aisy mard k supurd nahi ki ja sakti jo berozgar ho ya larki k parallel ni ho
Or bhi kai burayan pai jati larkon men to ya jitni larkon ki tadad khrb ho to utni larkion ki zindgi barbad kr di jay kya???
2nd option doosri shadi to es pe pehly to doosri biwi banna tayar ni hoti zyada tr wo bhi kanwara ya akela dhond rahi hoti hen to wo achy wala to available ni hota to phir wo 2nd biwi banny pe razi hoti hen to pehly wali biwi ni manti..
Agreed
@Mrs Shahzad Agreed
Assalamu alaikum, 34 Years separated/widow MALE having a kid,
from Hyderabad INDIA.
No demands, only serious people can reply me...
I will marry any divorced but mature lady only ..if you have someone then contact me plz
Assalam walikum sirjee from 🇮🇳
Assalam o Alikum and Walikum Asalam are the correct words . ap ko bhi salam bhai
@@ateeqqazi2046 thanks for the correction.
Love you
I really respect u prof sahab
This time topic is not well defined or may be incomplete .It’s not possible that each and every divorced and un married girl get married with a nice person, or (jor k rishta is really difficult)people do propose divorces either to take financial benefits or any other desires and mostly it’s lust or change in their boring married life k ab dub k rahegi. Sir you should more speak out social behavior with unmarried and divorces. People say cruel things in sympathy cover please creat awareness that marriage is the best option but it’s ok to be single also it’s not an embarrassment neither lacking of something. They’ve right to spend life with peace.
You said right it's ok to be single...but you need to become independent and must hv financial freedom so you don't beg inforont of someone for your needs..and enjoy your own life being a single human being
@@hafsaabbas2115 absolutely right
Yes 👍 if u chose to be single then be independent. Simple, unfortunately ppl like to spice up there life by talking shit abt vounlarable ppl. Let them, remember u can only change yourself!
Asalam o alaikum...im very much junior in studies and experience than sir ,,but don't know when and why ,my thoughts are exactly the same as sir is saying,,sometimes i felt may b im mad ,,but im v much happy and relaxed now...may Allah bless all of us and take us to right path ameen ameen ameen .
sirf 1 divorce ki waja sy jitne b qualities hon hamari society mein raadh kr de jati hn or bachargee ka tag lga diya jata hy
Asa kch b nai h.. hazaro log hn accept krnay walay divorce wali girls ko.. bs insan ko na-umeed nai hona chahie.
@@awais222 shaed
Allah sab Ko Islaam ke in rules Ko follow krne ki Hidayat de jin par Allah ne Falah aur jazay Khair ataa farmaya hai...🌺 Ameen 🤲
السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته.ماشاءاللہ.جزاك الله
Shukriya sir...welldone...
Excellent beautiful message
Allah apko lambi zindagi day ye log hamari qimti sarmaya hai..Allah inko hamesha hamary sat rakhy.Ameen.
Current population of boys in Pakistan : 107,195, 947 ( 50.8)
Current population of girls in
Pakistan : 103, 769, 479 (49.2)
But due to increasing rate of death of young boys in Pakistan in the age of 25 mostly increases girls population.
Assalamu alaikum, 34 Years separated/widow MALE having a kid,
from Hyderabad INDIA.
No demands, only serious people can reply me...
Weldone sir i appriciate u i salute u thanks a lot apne b hamary bary socha
Plz make more videos about thus topic. Jazakillah
Sir ye Pyary Nabi S.W ki hadees mubarak b hai "qayamat k nazdeek ourton ki tadaad mardon sy zayada ho jaye gi yahan tk k 1 mard 50 orton ka sarbrah ya hami ho ga "🙏🙏👍🌷💞🇵🇰🇵🇰
Very true. Infact in olden days sub-continent people were more broad minded than now. Husband accepting a second marriage to a divorced /widowed women and accepting her kids from a former marriage was very common. But now a days men do not accept a divorced / widowed women who have already got kids with former husband.
I know i,m late but why should a woman accept a disloyal man it's not about being broad-minded 2nd marriages should not be accepted it does no good for any party it's just making one woman's life better and another woman's life worse sharing one man is not easy nor acceptable for most women.
Instead of accepting second marriage with a divorced woman why don't men just marry a divorced woman instead of 1 virgin and 1 widowed, make it make sense 🤔
Divorced girls should marry divorced men and widows should marry widowers
Well said
Bilkul theek kha...dr sahab
اللّٰہ پاک تمام بہن بیٹیوں کے نصیب اچھے کرے آمین
ایک ایک لفط دل میں اُتر رہا تھا۔
Ghndoo, Baytoon ky bary main kya khyal hy...?
Thanks for sharing this video. GOD BLESS YOU!
Sir apkiliyeee words nahii hai apkii aik vedio dosre se behtar hai .....Allah apko lambi zindagee our sehat dy Aameeen
I'm Indian
Sir my dream is to meet you And Inshallah I will succeed 💓💓
Boht mufid baty btay ap na jzakallah
Please is topic pr or video banaye taki logo ko samjh aaye ki allah ke sab bato me hiqmat he or mere rab ka koi farman galat nhi ho sakta
Thank you doctor sab 👆
Yes
Apka hr ht word golden word hy
Sir it's my honour that I hear you always. And it's feel good when I hear you because the way you talk is different and upto the mark. Sir I appreciate you may ALLAH make our society positive and make us role for the rest of the world 😇
👍
Absolutely right sir
Masha Allah sahi kaha .
Sir ji I'm basically from INDIA, Now I'm working in Qatar as a media profession, aap ki jo sooch hai bilkul 110 percent sahi kaha hai, mai bhi aisa hi socha hu magar hame dene ke liye koi agge nahi badta hai kyu aisa..
Khasam se kai ladkiyan divorced n widows hai main unka saath dena socha, magar koi agge nahi badta ..
Wahi dusre ku deke pareshan hore log magar acche ki saath nahi dete log...
Mera sath day dain I'm a divorced
@@syedajaveria3318 ji welcome,
Aap kaha se hai,mujhe message kariye
Thank you sir.
Very informative and nice 🎉
Sir you gave a very positive message.
Asalamoalikum sir bht he sahi baat kahi😇
Islam main role model Hazoor SAW ki zaat hai . Unki zindgi hmain zindgi k har pahlo main rehnmai karti hai. Or aj k topic py bhi rehnmai mlti hai.
Dusri bv banner se behtar Hai k ase mard se shadi ki Jaye jis ki bv ki death ho Gaye ho ya us ki pehli bv se divorce ho Gaye ho kun k usko hakikat Mai wife ki zarorat hogi Jo pehle se married Hai wo agar naiki k liye bhi dusri shadi kare GA to uski puri family disturb ho Jaye gi naiki k chakar Mai wo apni bani bnaye family se bhi hath dho baithe GA
Bht achi batyn ki apny well done
Bilkul theek farmya ap nay
Informative Video
Thank you so much sir m from india
Allah key Deen Furqa tukrtey maat kijjiey ❤Quran sura 6 AlAnaam Ayat 159
Boht shukriya Allah apko ajr day... boht sahi topic chuna ap ny :-) 1 point reh gya... Age Difference... bari larki aur chota larka iss mein kia harj hai??? Humaray nabi Muhammad Mustafa SAW bi 25 saal k thay jab Khadija R sy shadi hui thi. Humara moashrah har cheez ko taboo bna k logon ki zindagian tang kyun krna chahta hai???
I like your name.......great name......love from USA
Ur right
Plz make more videos on this topic...how become independent after widow..or divorce
Learn some skills such as make a cooking channal on u tube or go for freelancing if u r good in English and IT work... don't beg for your needs to other people..make your own path your own career
Masha Allah
Sr meri shaddi hue shaddi k 2 mnth bad apny man baap k ghr agae meri beti peda hony wali thi fr divoce hogae ab meri beti h or mery pas koi job ni h ghr wala ka behav b bht bura h msc ki hue h kya aap meri koi help kr skty koi job wagaira agr koi arrange krdyn
Yr mai b aap k Waly halaat sy guzar rahi hon kia karon
Hr ghr ki story hn mere ghr main bhi yhe story hn divorce lrke motti lrkiyun ko koi nh qbl krta jinke waja se bki sister ki life PR bht effect phrta hn life name understanding trust .respect not comprises name log glt khty hn life compromise life name understanding .
Uncle g apki batain achi lagi😊
Aoa sir apny bohat acha topic chuna hy Meri b life aesiproblem se huzar rahi hy
Bht achy se sumjhaya ap ne v nice
Assalamoalikum dr sahab jazakallah khair behtareen video. Aik naiki kaa kam app log ye bhi start karain k kisi bhi wajah say mazoor bachay aapas main shadi karain or es k liye koi plate form banana buhat zarori hai
Lekin agar wo dono mazoor hain to wo 1.2sray ka sahara kesay banain gay?
@@haseebullah9033 example meri aik teacher buhat educated magar wo aik poun say mazoor thee or un k husband nabeena us hi university main teacher hain un dono ki shadi hoi or wo buhat zabardest zindagi guzar rahay hain
Good Topic,,,,,
Thank you
Good information sir
This is Indian coulter and more of people lived in this indo Pak area years n years . They not leave bad habits, although convert in Islam.Second married is not crime.
First of all pakistani men donot get married to a widow or divorced because they are trying to help that person . But if this divorce or widow person has money or green card they will marry them immediately. Men are doing second marriages for pleasure. And many times these men don’t allow second wife to have children because simply they cannot afford children from first marriage and second marriage. So many of them ask for abortions. The main thing is women need to financially independent. With education so they are not forced to marry someone who is not suitable to them. Hazrat khadija was a widow but she was a businesswoman . We have great examples of muslim women who were financially independent and were able to take care of their families instead of depending on their fathers, brothers. Women should get married with her own choice and when she finds a suitable person
I am your big fan 😊
Aap khyal bahoot nek h
JazakALLAH Sir...
sir apne bilkul sahi kaha agr waqai islamic talimaat k sath ibadaat b barh jain to hamari society ki problem solve ho jain gi
Kaash sab soch ap jaise ho jaye to duniya mai koi badnaam ladki he nahi rahe ge 😢😢😢
great words
Seriously this topic is very sensitive hai
Iam going to done this sir 🥰❣️
Great work sir..
Agr islami Mashra bn jaye yahan to shyd ese maslay peda b na hun
Ap ye topic b samne laen k lazmi nahi k jese hm hain wesa hi ya us se brh k rishta hmen milay blk ilam or dolat k na hotay huay b agr koi ba ikhlaq or acha deen dar rishta ho to Khida ra na rad kren betyun ki umren na zaya kren
You are very good person
Nice advice thanks doc
Great topic sir and beautifuly elucidated , second marriage off course not in practice since long and the main hurdle in this act is women herself, wo kehtae hain k aurat , aurat ki dushman hoti hai ....
You are out of your mind, there are many men who are sexually not ok or are abnormal but no one would expect a woman to have a second husband 😂 let's be serious now loyalty is the main thing that we look for in a marriage and most women have the right to expect loyalty from their husbands. My brother, the thing is that 2nd marriage just sound very easy but is the hardest thing one can do most of us wouldn't buy parrot's or cats due to the fear that what if we didn't take good care of them or what if we hurt it's feelings so, how can we expect men to do justice between women that are humans well, most men don't do justice many women are unhappy in second marriages. Last but not the least JEALOUSY, jealously is not a social construct or a concept jealousy is in our nature both in men and women and it would be very cruel to expect women to be happy with their husbands marrying other women. Aurat hoti hogi aurato kee dushman bhai laikin wafadari aur jalan fitrat mai hai jo Allah nai banayi hai isliye yaha par aapki baat ghalat hai