I had a natural birth. I was in labor for 22hrs and pushed for an 1hr 45 mins. But still it was a good experience. For me it was actually more just intense and physically demanding than painful. I had watched Bridget Taylor’s videos on how to breathe through contractions and that helped me so much. I would say the worst pain like actually pushing her out was probably a 7/10. I just wanted to give that perspective. I know the pain is worse for some than others.
Being active is ALWAYS a plus (unless you're on prescribed bed rest of course). Doesn't have to be anything crazy, but yes, regular activity/exercise really does help!
That is helpful, I’ve seen videos and just seems like the worst thing ever. People are so different too, my pregnancy has been so mild compared to many
Thank you for this video. I’m sorry the anesthesiologist made that rude comment. I work in the healthcare industry (eye surgery) and we always say that it’s our millionth procedure however it’s always the patient’s first eye procedure.
Yeah my eye doctor was weird. I wear glasses and am so sensitive to anything going in or near my eye. The horrible doctor snapped at me for flinching and called me a child. I'm a mother and probably older than her. I'm allowed to be worried about my eye...
Great video. Somewhat educational, if we won’t forget that everybody is different. I had 2 babies, both with epidural. But such a different experience. With my first I came in too early to the hospital. I was at my weekly appointment with OB/GYN and he said that I dilated to 3 cm and need to go to the hospital, cause I was having a contractions. My water did not broke. At the hospital nurses were coming to me 3 times asking to let them to brake my water, on 4th time I couldn’t hold the barrier and agreed. (After I gave birth I googled if it was necessary to broke a water and apparently no, that water was a cushion) So before they broke water I could manage contractions, but right after they broke it, OMG it was so painful, pain increased from 4 to 8 in a second , of course you will ask for epidural. So my thought to it, if they would leave me alone and let me to progress as it is I wouldn’t go for epidural. With epidural I felt every contraction, I felt an urge to push, I was shaky at some point of labor( it is natural effect of a body with or without epidural) but I did not have back pain, my legs were fine, I could walk right after delivery, I peed really fast. Btw they put catheter because you do not feel when you need to pee, you are numb in that area, you can not hold that muscles, so not pee yourself they have to put it in you. With my second labor I got to the hospital dilated at 8 cm , this time my water popped (same I did not have a crazy gush of it just dripping) And I was so sure that no one will offer epidural to me that I was so confused when they did. I do not remember saying yes to it cause I was fully in labor mode, unfortunately I was by myself, and nobody could talk on my behalf. In like 5 seconds anesthesiologist appeared and started the process. This time it was painful. I felt pain going to my left leg( he was in a rush, cause of my active labor, and I was having strong contractions so I couldn’t sit still) Bad idea, really bad idea, but hospital were making money out of me. They did not care. When they finished with epidural, they checked me and I was at 10 already. We started to push, but I couldn’t feel anything, I had to rely on nurses and my OB. At one point between contractions nurse told me if I want to push I can do it. I asked her if it my contraction, she said no, just to speed up the process🤦🏻♀️ That irritated me so much!!! Anyway I was able to walk right after delivery again, took a little longer to pee or 💩, but in next week(already at home) I struggled to stand up and walk. I had an awful pain from my back to my legs, at some point I thought I won’t be able to walk at all. Sorry for such a long comment, but can I just add couple advises from my experience: 1. Do not let medical stuff to brake your water unless it is medical emergency 2. If you dilated closer to 10, you do not need epidural,Cause that will slow things. 3. Always have somebody with you, husband, mom, friend, doula anybody who can protect your interests!!! 3.
It’s sooo true…I have 2 kids . Pregnant with my third. First time had epidural. Got horrible back pain . Same as you had pain in my leg , totally can move my both legs, was filling catheter, and OMG , the pushing… I was screaming with epidural. WITH . My second baby was without. Construction was a lot easier to manage , pushing was painful, but I was able to take a shower, walk. HOLD my baby , and breastfeed… oh .. I will never ever want to induced me without medical reasons, broke my water or give me a pitocin because I just overdue. No thanks lol
@@juliachetverzhuk6023 Congratulations with third pregnancy, can I say it like that?! I want to have third baby, but struggling with weight. Want to loose it before getting pregnant. But my hormones, I think, f… up 🤦🏻♀️after pregnancies
I had an 11 hour natural birth by choice. I personally am more afraid to get an epidural, and sign up for possible life long back pain. It really wasn’t that bad. I’m about to have my second baby naturally as well. God created us to do this 💪🏼 Ofcourse it’s painful, but it’s tolerable.
Good for you that god was with you on the day. The epidural was with me on mine. Stop judging..we are different. You don't get to decide what is tolerable for another woman sweetie 😉
@@louiseray9274 are you just going through every comment here and reaching for ways to be offended? Victim mentality. You’re the one judging these women who are simply sharing about their experiences and preferences.
I wish I could’ve been stronger for the natural birth 😢 I was induced and the contractions were so painful that I couldn’t do it! But we are trying for a second baby and my doctors are doing everything they can not to have me induced so fingers crossed I can do this ❤
I’ve planned to get the epidural, but listening to you describe it, it seems almost thrilling to go through the whole thing and to feel it all. Like such a connection to your baby and motherhood. Go you! 💪🏻 I probably will still go the medicated route but this definitely makes me think or even consider that if I can’t get medicated I’ll still be alright.
I think it's important to note that first births are much longer (and therefore, often more painful and exhausting) vs second births which are much quicker since baby number 1 has already trailed the way. So comparing the two has to consider this huge factor! Also pitocin makes contractions more close together and intense (ie more painful), which makes women resort to an epidural more often
I had a midwife and an induction, also after 12 hours of contractions and crazy pain, had an epidural and loooved it. But I was able to feel my contractions coming and was able to lift my legs. 2 hours active labor pushing and she was out! The epidural numbed me just enough so I could focus on pushing and not the pain. I was out of the hospital the following day. Took a walk around the hospital that evening! Everyone's experiences are so vastly different. Love your birth, however the outcome :) happy healthy mama's and babies.
Right, i thought you can control how much epidural is being given to you. Like if you are completely numb you’d ask them to reduce the flow, and they do so that you can feel a little better, and vice versa.
Loved this video! Currently 19 weeks pregnant with my first and am trying to educate myself as much as possible so I can make an informed decision. It helps to hear the pain described so I can understand a bit more what to expect if I go natural. Thank you for sharing your stories!
Same! I told my birth planner I’m not doing an epidural and she told me not to cut it fully out of the picture bc she had it and it was GREAT for her. Kind of upset me with that right there.
I love the honesty! This is good for deciding moms. I had my first son unmedicated and am planning the same for my second son this month. If anyone is deciding, I would research as much as possible about unmedicated and read as many books as you can. I prepare my whole pregnancy to cope with the pain and it is not easy! I suggest the book Ina Mays Guide to Childbirth. It’s amazing, we are built for this.
I’m going back and forth on the natural vs epidural choice. You mentioned having a catheter being a con, but the thought of being able to relax and not having to get up to pee sounds great 😂 I’m not someone who is bothered by needles or medical procedures, you can do pretty much whatever you want to me in a medical setting and I’ll just be like “cool.”
I had an epidural with all of my births, and I actually felt everything (it just took the edge off). Basically, I knew when to push, got the shakes, and everything!
When I had my daughter I had to be induced and after 3 days of on and off labour I was finally far enough to get my waters broken and for things to move along faster. I have to say, the epidural was an absolute relief. I slept for the first time since going into the hospital! I totally agree about not knowing to push, and having to rely on the nurses, and that did bother me. This time around, I do intend on natural, but will have to see how that goes.
I just found out I’m pregnant with baby number 3. I have been tossing the idea around of natural birth. As I got induced (medical reasons), and had epidural both times. If all goes well this time, I want ALL natural. Thank you for this video!
Recently had my first baby boy! I watched all the videos, read books and bought a course online for birthing naturally.. I created a birth plan and everything! I ended up being in labor for 27 hours.. let me tell you I WANTED that epidural so bad but it was too late! The last 12 hours or so were brutal!.. really no words to describe the pain! I was so exhausted and his heart rate was dropping so they ended up using the vacuum thing to help get him out faster! So unexpected and kinda traumatic to be honest! I think I would do it again without N epidural BUT I would make sure to have a doula with me and even consider going to a birthing center! I could tell the dr and nurses with me that night weren’t used to moms with no epidural. Which is unfortunate but I know having a doula next time will be game changer and just knowing now what to expect will help me mentally! Just happy me and baby are healthy! I’m with you on The catheter 😂 that was a big reason why I didn’t want the epidural! I’ve never had one and I just really don’t want one ahah!
Every woman labour and delivery is different, my kids are 36 and 34 and I still remember it like yesterday, but I can tell you if I knew everything that you can find on the Internet about pregnancy labour and delivery I would have been terrified to have a baby , the less you know the better ,, my advice is enjoy your pregnancy to the fullest , the most important thing is to concentrate on your breathing and be prepared in your mind that you might need a c section , good luck 👍
I got the shakes too after my natural birth. I think it was the adrenaline or the cold from sudden blood loss (I hemorrhaged), but I remember being so hungry and wanting to order food but I couldn’t hold the hospital menu still enough to read it even an hour after she was born. Still it was an absolutely amazing experience that I highly recommend. It helps if you know you don’t plan on using pain medication you can do more mental and physical prepping for labor pain.
I'm single, trusting God to be married soon and this video is helpful to prepare my mind on what to expect and decide between epidural and natural births.
Thank you for sharing your experiences! I'm a first time mom due in 6 weeks and there's just so many different opinions out there on how I should deliver and it is super scary! Watching this, I feel like I have a better idea of what I'm going into to make a more informed decision. 💗 Thank you again!
I had a natural birth with my first- it was also only 7 hours total from water breaking to my daughter being born, I also had the shakes after! They told me it was adrenaline and hormones from the birth & is normal. I’m due with my second soon and I’m nervous for the pain again but hoping it will be quick like the first! Thanks for sharing your experiences!
I’m currently pregnant with my 7th baby I had all of them natural and I’m planning on having this one natural too, our body was made perfect to bring life to this world 🙏🏼 it’s not easy, a lot of pain but its worth it, I had my 5th one with midwives only and it has been the best experience out of all of them, they know where and when to massage you, they know exactly what you’re going through and they know what to do to help you with contractions and pain. God bless all mothers in the world.
Keep your God to yourself and let others women have the births they choose without shaming please 🥺 do you think I consider my medicated births to be not "worth it". Please get over yourself.
Great story!! Will consider for when I have a second baby. I had my daughter all natural without any pain meds at ALL because I progressed so fast. Guess it might be good to do next time as well 😀
Your body was in shock and full of adrenaline. But you rocked that! Thank you for both of your stories!! I’m considering natural birth and trying to absorb as many other experiences as I can before I decide.
Thank you 😊 I’m so glad I could help! My advice is to listen to your body! In the end whether you have an epidural or natural all that will matter is your sweet baby being in your arms! Hope all goes well for you ❤️
I've done both too, no induction or membrane sweeping. I think labor was harder with natural, but recovery is so much easier. Pushed 3 times with natural, 1.5 hours with epidural.
I had an epidural early into my labor like at 2 cm. I was a chicken. Lol, and I was in labor 24 hrs. The epidural wore off, so by morning, I had a second epidural. When it was time to push, I couldn’t feel anything. Dr was telling me to push but it was weird cause I couldn’t feel a thing. Very strange pushing with no feeling. I remember afterwards I was shaking like a leaf. When they put her in my arms, I was shaking n teeth were chattering. I had to give her back to the nurse because I felt weak all over and could barely hold onto her. I believe getting the epidural so early slowed down my labor alot. I have one child and said I would never get pregnant again. Labor was long n difficult. She’s a healthy 23 year old now and I’m very grateful for my one.. 🙏🏽
I’m glad I’m not the only one I think I’ll just have one and done there’s some good positive stories but then there’s some bad ones this is my first and I’m so hesitant on whether to take epidural or not they just seems to be more cons and then there’s pros…
I'm 27 weeks with my first and I want to have a natural birth. Everyone around me says I'm going to want the epidural. I can't say for sure because it's something I've never experienced before. Thank you for sharing your experience!
Whatever you choose I hope all goes smoothly and congratulations on your precious baby! He/she will change your life forever and bring you so much joy and purpose ❤️
Love your video and your honesty!! I am an expecting first time mama due with my first baby in 4 months! I have been going back and forth trying to decide what I want! Your pros and cons video really helped me. It's hard being a first time mom because you really don't know what to expect. Thank you for being so real. Some of your epidural cons really turned me off from getting it and I am thinking maybe pushing out a baby with pain is worth it LOL
Thank you so much for watching! I hope everything goes smoothly with your pregnancy and delivery! Just remember a short time of pain for a lifetime of joy! ❤️
This video and comment section is so informative, thank you! I plan to be a mother in the next few years when I build up a savings and get my own place and am tired of my current job and feel like transitioning to SAHM.
Home birth, 12 hours from water breaking to delivery. 20 min of pushing, I had a positive experience. I'm due with our second in about 2 weeks and have the same plan. However, this time I'm struggling with SPD and have been very emotional. My husband, midwife and 3 helpers. 80% of labor was in a birthing pool and on a balance ball. Breathing through and getting lost in the natural high put me in a meditative state. I hope we have another fast positive experience!
I am from Norway and I think we get a lower dose of epidural here. I had epidural when I gave birth to my son, and I could get up and use the bathroom as normal at least during the labour, and was able to take a shower soon afther the birth.
Great video. I’ve had only one baby and that was two months ago. I regret allowing the gynecologists convince me to have an epidural because it’s just a scam. When the anesthesiologist came I was 7cm and was having intense and very painful contractions that were less than one minute apart. He noticed that my oxygen level was low and I wasn’t supposed to get the epidural but because they had to make money off me he went ahead and gave it to me, only just a tiny dose. This didn’t help me with pain, the pain got worse and it slowed down my labor, I was 9cm for more than three hours and was feeling a strong urge to push all through . I later got an episiotomy to help my baby come out, he was 3.5kg at birth. I feel my labor would’ve been better if my health practitioners were more considerate.
I also have same experience like yours. Doctor breaks my water. Got ketheter. also got epidural. After 41hours trying i had a c-section. Then i got my 1st baby boy on july 3rd..it was a horrible experience in my life 😢 but now I am soo happy with my baby. Alhamdulillah for everything.
Thank you for your honest suggestion in the end.. I was thinking both in my mind.. But I would prefer to choose natural birth (in sha allah). Good and genuine info. 😊👍
My son only started dying after the epidural was placed and I only agreed to the epidural because I was pretty sure I was gonna need a c-section because of the literal incompetence I was witnessing with who I learned later was a 4th year resident. I saw her put something in my iv and she wouldn’t tell me what it was… I was very adamant about not wanting pitocin since she first said that word to me… I had fallen in my backyard and she decided that they needed to induce me, and when I hadn’t given birth by her next shift she decided that she needed to speed things up which I objected to because the shift before had told me everything was progressing fine and I didn’t need Pitocin if I didn’t want it which I didn’t… when my best friend had an epidural with her daughter, they had to call a code to save her life during her labor because she almost died… It was almost immediately after they placed the epidural that my son went into cardiac distress and his heart rate went lower than my resting heart rate which is 30-40 bpm… I’m screaming for them to just cut my six years in the making IVF rainbow baby and this 4th year resident is arguing that she “just needs more time” and started rolling me around on the bed as I’m wrapped around the Peanut ball from hell as I call it as I’m listening to my son dying on the fetal heart monitor. I’m screaming “IM A FUCKN NAVY CORPSMAN VETERAN! Just give me a Fuckn knife and I’ll do it my fuckn self if y’all are just gonna listen to this incompetent one over here!” she leaves the room saying she’s going to get more Pitocin so I know she was giving it to me against my will and because I couldn’t feel the connection with my son to breathe through my contractions like I had before the epidural even went they became more intense… I was only 1.5 cm before the epidural and my contractions were one right after another with no breaks… when they finally did the c-section I apparently only at 5 cm my husband told me… At one point during the c-section I heard them say “WE HAVE A baby…” trialing off and I heard “shhhh”s and then commotion as they rushed in a crash cart and I heard them doing code procedures as I fell asleep… then I woke up and heard him cry for the first time… my son was still born because of that incompetent 4th year resident who insisted on my getting an epidural which I didn’t want as well as she had an obsession with Pitocin… I keep seeing videos on Facebook and Instagram of mothers telling their families they are “just settling in for their inductions” and then it shows like “45 minutes later” with them holding a baby… that’s not healthy… people and their children are going to die… just like my son did and was lucky enough to be brought back… Seems to me, birth is a contest for L&D residents and possibly even full on doctors… My sons birth experience can’t just be an anomaly. There’s a lot more that went on but I don’t want to bore anyone as I prolly already have… I’ll never have an epidural again unless I’m gonna have a repeat c-section because of my past emergency c-section… and I’ll never have an induction again because I’ve read they are contraindicated if one has had a c-section… I’m also gonna have a doula… the only reason I didn’t have one this time was because they were hard to find during this pandemic… People need to pay attention to what the medical personnel are doing and don’t be afraid to speak up as in “if you see something out of sorts say something…” be your best advocate and know your rights as a patient.
The other reason I’ll never have an epidural and one reason I didn’t want one in the first place is because birth is painful… not just for the one birthing, but the one being birthed… so I felt it would be selfish of me to not endure the pain right along with my child… for if my child can endure it who am I not to endure it with them.
Oh and something else that was very interesting, I heard 3 other people laboring while I was there. The first one was beautiful and amazing! They even started chanting afterwards! I was very motivated by it! I had been cheering them on “you got this mama!” “You can do it!” Not loud basically to myself but it was very motivating to me to feel as if I was helping this laboring person especially if maybe they were alone. After I heard the baby’s first cry and the chanting, a medical staff yelled into my room “that was with no epidural! Are you sure you don’t want one?” “NOPE! I’m good bring on the pain! NO PAIN NO GAIN! IF MY CHILD CAN ENDURE IT SO CAN I! Pain is weakness leaving the body! What don’t kill me makes me stronger! IF THAT MOTHER CAN DO IT SO CAN I!” There was not answer from who ever it was… I feel they push these epidurals so hard because they just don’t want to listen to us laboring And they hurry inductions so they can get back to making their videos for Facebook and Instagram and such talking about what they supposedly hear patients say during labor as they dance around like snobby children that know everything to basically brag that they can “work hard and play hard at work and still remain competent.” So that they can “boost their morale” If this is “competent” health care in the American L&D, Goddess help us…
I’m 15 weeks, feels like we’re together in this journey. May God protect our angels growing inside and when time comes may we have safe labour and delivery🙏🏾
Really interesting hearing your story. My first was natural (two hour precipitous) and traumatic. I tore and it took me a long time to heal. So for my second I had an epidural. Maybe they gave me a lighter dose than it sounds like they gave you because I could still move my legs and felt the urge to push. I was up, moving around an hour later after skin to skin time and I felt great. No pain and it was so relaxed and peaceful. I did have epidural site pain like you for a couple of weeks. I also got a UTI from the catheter. For my third, I had a natural birth because there wasn’t time for an epidural. I’m expecting my fourth and I’m going to play it by ear. Not sure what I’ll do.
I had a 40 hour active labor natural birth. It was challenging, and it hurt, but it wasn't hell like you'd think. I'm going to have #2 natural also. During crowning they let me use some nitrous to take the edge off, that was really nice. There are more pain management options than just epidurals, make sure you ask ahead of time! The shakes is adrenaline! You're really alive lady! Some people get the same thing after hunting, they call it "buck fever"
All births are an achievement..I hate med birth shaming. I had epidural on first, failed epidural and emergency section on second. Bottom line I've two healthy toddler girls and literally nobodys business what medicine I chose to take! Not your baby, not your business. Oh and still remember feeling my first born coming out.
I’m 36 weeks pregnant and have been trying to watch lots of videos to be prepared. I originally decided to have an epidural but lately I’ve been debating on whether I should. Honestly, I’m no good with pain so I think I’ll go with the epidural anyways! Love ur vid! 💕
Thank you so much for sharing! I hope all goes smoothly for you and baby and no matter what you decide it will be the best day of your life when you get to meet you baby ❤️
Now you would be 37 weeks, I am now 36 weeks 3 days. Are you dialated now? When should we start having contractions? It's my first time so I'm really confused.
Hi Sumayya! So, you're 36 weeks. In ordinary circumstances, you won't have dilated at all yet. Some women have a cm or two, especially if they've had more than one child before. At this stage in a healthy pregnancy, you'll have Braxton Hicks contractions, basically practice contractions. They feel different than real contractions, I felt them more at the top of my belly rather than the bottom, but I get them there too so that's not a given. Real contractions feel like period cramps. Some women (like me) experience what's called prodromal labor. Some call it false labor. If you get it, it can start as early as 37 weeks, or you could not have it at all. What prodromal labor looks like is mild contractions that start to get regular, then stop upon rest or a bath. With my fourth, every night I would get contractions around 4-5 minutes apart for a couple hours, then I'd take a bath and drink some water, lay down and they'd stop. That was my big clue I entered real labor-a bath and rest did nothing to slow them. So in short, no, you shouldn't be dilating yet, or contracting other than practice labor ☺️
@@kleinemaus6094 Hello Kleine, Thanks a lot dear! Your reply cleared my some doubts. Especially the one that I am not dialated yet and yes, I am having false labour. This is my first pregnancy through IVF at the age of 25. Our problem was that my amh level was low and my husband has asoospermia (no sperm present in semen bcs of blockage). My doc said that she will do SC delivery on 38 weeks bcs of IVF baby even though I and my baby is healthy. So, I changed the hospital and went to a doc who assured that she will try to do normal delivery. Does anyone know if IVF babies should be delivered in C - Section early or is it possible for them to be delivered vaginally? I am so scared, I want to dialate as soon as possible so that I wouldn't go to C - Section. In India some doctors are greedy, they do C - Section for extra money. 😔😔
@@ThriftandSip great news! The epidural did it’s job! And I pushed out my baby girl in 36 minutes at 39 weeks! Remembering your video and experience really helped! God bless!
I've had four children, and am currently 21 weeks with our 5th. 3 epidurals, one unmedicated, this one will be a home birth. Excluding extreme circumstances, childbirth is about *preparation.* Yes. It hurts. But it's not pain in the sense that every human knows (unless you're panicked, and start that fear-tension-pain cycle). For me, I spent a lot of time during Braxton Hicks pretending it was the real deal and focusing on my breathing. In for 4, out for 6. The biggest hurdle isn't the physical sensations. Its your mind. I thought that was a bit of hooey but it's absolutely correct. Unmedicated birth, even with the absolutely abysmal, bullying tactics of the hospital staff, was FAR better for me. Give me tha pain every day, with the ability to control what I'm doing to manage it, over being chained to a bed by a needle in my spine. For me, that made all the difference.
Some of us don't have that luxury. I never had waves of contractions I went from 0 to 100 also not your place to tell us what's better. It's every woman's own choice. "Chained to a bed" is shaming language Hun 😂
Did you not notice the multiple times I said "for me," including the being chained to the bed? I've had 4 kids, 3 with epidurals. Believe me, I understand when it's too much. I think your response was less about me "shaming" you and more about how you may have felt about your birth(s) personally, and that frankly isn't my problem. Is yours. I have no shade towards anyone who gets an epidural. But *for me* it was the best choice I ever made to go without. It changed the birt experience and also, unlike my previous 3 pregnancies, I did not have crippling Post Partum Depression and Anxiety after my unmedicated birth. That's *my* experience.
@@louiseray9274 you’re projecting your own judgmental attitude. Leave her alone, she’s talking about what was best for her. You feeling ashamed doesn’t equate to someone else shaming you.
I was in labor with my first for 20 hours and 22 with my 2nd. I really tried to go natural with my 2nd but after co tractions for 16 hours I gave up and got an epidural. I’m really praying my third I can do natural just because like you said the catheter sucks and I want to experience the quicker recovery with natural.
Whether you put to birth naturally or by epidural honestly the most important thing at the end is that your baby is born. No one gets a trophy for putting to birth naturally or by putting to birth using an epidural. Plus you are not weak for choosing an epidural you are strong. Whatever you choose the most important thing is at the end of the day is both parties need to raise their kids and there’s no difference the kids born by epidural and those born naturally when you see them. Compare it to conceiving naturally or by IVF. Do any of such kids look different? It’s up to you to make a choice and do what suits you. Some people put to birth naturally and have terrible vagina tears and some people also put to birth by epidural get vaginal tears. The most important thing is to pray to the Lord Jesus and commit it in prayer before making a choice.
Yes you won't get a trophy, but the experience will be a whole lot different especially if an unmedicated birth was your goal. You don't have to get a trophy to do something, its about having the birth experience you wanted to have
I had a natural birth, no meds as I requested. Then my asshole doc stitched me up with no anesthesia! The nurse tried to hand him the needle, he pushed her hand back! Horrible experience in Raleigh, NC
I don’t think any mother expects a trophy…I really hate it when people say this. No offense, but definitely think about this before you ever say this to a woman who gave birth. Yes, you raise children at the end and you have your baby no matter how you birth, but the labor and childbirth experience is very important. It can set the tone for PPD, as well. Unmedicated or epidural, women are badasses and they should feel empowered. No one expects a trophy 🙄. The experience is extremely important though.
Not always the case either. I had an epidural, went hypotensive and my baby was born with an out of whack heartbeat because of all the ephedrine they had to give me to try to bring my blood pressure up. So she's fine now yes but I put her through undue harm upon delivery because of the epidural.
Ik this was 2 yrs ago, but I’m almost 27 weeks and I’m starting to freak out bc Idk what to do and this video definitely helped me. I’ve been taking childbirth classes and I felt so overwhelmed…. I knew my body was made to do this but I was scared I wouldn’t be able to bc my pain tolerance is a 0 as well. But after watching this video, it hasn’t given me some peace of mind that I can go naturally and still be okay ☺️ THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SHARING!!
It makes my heat happy to know I could help you in some way! Just trust your body and remember the beautiful baby you will get to meet at the end of the pain! It will be so worth it! I hope all goes well for you and appreciate your support of my channel so much!
@@Lauranessa1 I had my baby at 39 weeks and I got an epidural bc I had to be induced…. Best decision I ever made however, the effects from it lasted 3 days only on my left side 3 days after I had him…. That’s the only con is that the side effects could last a while after you have your baby… BUT I could not have done it without the epidural.
Thank you for this video! I am almost 4 months with our first baby and your post is very educational! I’m thinking that even though this will be my first time giving birth I want to do it naturally
I had my first baby in 2018 and i took epidural. It was one of best decision. People are so negative about epidural and i took it and had same vaginal birth as someone who didnt had epidural. I was more fresh and calm while they are screaming and shouting and stressing out thier body. I am currently 36 weeks prag and already told my midwife that i consider epidural.
I’m glad it worked out for you! Everyone is different and that’s the beauty of being a mom we can choose what works best for us! I hope all goes smoothly for your next baby 😊
At which stage of active labour did you get the epidural? Like when you are 4- 5cm dialited ? I want to know which time is the best time as a first time mother. I want to have a decent experience without the crying or screaming 😅 I hope to go hospital exactly on the right time so they don't have to send me back home early and I hope to get the epidural in the right time during active labour, but who knows what will really happen. Also don't have a extremely high pain tolerance either
Everyone is different. I didn't scream, had a natural birth. Was calm and breathed throughout. Never stressed, went with the flow. Look forward to doing it again. Epidural had side effects and do yes there is reason to question it. Overall to each their own and you get a baby in the end. But there are more risks to epidural than natua.
During the transition period in labor (just before the pushing stage), there is a 'period of fear' as I call it. xd it was really intense for me. I was convinced I wasn't going to make it, and figured the baby might have a tiny chance if they did a c-section right then and there. The fear and the thought that my body can't do it was just so intense!! Thankfully, I was just fine though my brain thought otherwise.
My first was an induction because of my water breaking and I just had IV pain meds. The next 3 were all unmedicated birth center/ homebirths and all 4 have been good, but my favorite is being home with the whole family. I get the shakes when I'm in transition.
Same here with the transition shakes. I did have shakes after my first baby which was epi but not my birth center babe or My homebirth babe. Will be having another homebirth in feb!
It sounds like your natural birth was similar to my 4th birth. Back to back contractions are a killer! I went from 3cm to pushing in an hour. My first 3 births were a nice gradual build up and much easier and calmer births.
I’m pregnant with my first baby and I really want to have an unmedicated birth. I’m not crazy about the idea of so many drugs or medical interventions when labor is something my body was created to do. I also don’t want to torture myself and want to feel good when I bring my baby into the world. It’s a tough decision but I appreciate you sharing your experiences so much!
Thank you for this video -- I was particularly curious about women who have done both and if they had to have a another baby which route they took and your answer was natural unmedicated birth which is what I'm leaning toward. 😊
Omg natural birth scares me but so does the epidural. I don’t really like my options 😂 I’m 8 weeks pregnant and first time mom. I don’t know how I’m going to do this. 🤣
Hello! Thanks for watching! I only had it for maybe 10-20 minutes after then they came and took it out and made me get up and use the bathroom. It’s been almost 7 years since I gave birth so my recollection is foggy 😂
I had pitocin and contractions came and ramped up fast, had my baby in 6 hours but i was pushing for 4 hours. The pain was so intense, sometimes my whole body shook from the pain
I had an unmedicated birth in 2019 and my brain took me to a different mental state and honestly the labor and delivery were not the worst parts for me and I don’t remember it being super unmanagable pain-wise but the recovery felt harder and that was probably bc I went back into a normal mental state instead of labor adrenaline
When you said you didnt know if you were gonna survive this i chuckled bc im that dramatic 😂 (not dramatic in a bad way bc anything can happen but the way you said it was funny 😂😊)
The shaking is a hormonal surge. After baby is born. It’s normal. I worked in a birthing center for many years. We always told women to not fight the shakes let it happen. Warm blankets helped some.
I wish I would have known it is so normal! Just one of those things you don’t find out until you go through it. It is so nice you work at a birthing center! That must be a rush of adrenaline all the time watching all the precious babies be born! So cool!
Pitocin helps your uterus contract. It is a synthetic form of oxytocin. So yeah, pitocin would help speed up your laboring process. Also, you talking about having the shakes. I only had that with the second of my three natural childbirths. And that's because my body was going into shock because I did not pass a clot well at first and my uterus was having a hard time clamping back down. It's not cause of natural childbirth, per se. My midwives we're able to take care of it pretty quickly and then I was doing much better again. But it could be a clot having a hard time passing in the afterbirth.
Oh I had the shakes soo bad too but I had an epidural. I’m planning for a natural birth for my second because honestly I didn’t like the epidural experience. I think it was the experience I needed as a first time mom though. I was just so nervous about everything I went into it so unprepared. My water broke and no contractions started over 7 hours so they started pitocin and a few hours later I got the epidural.
Yes I agree being a first time mom I also felt so unprepared of what to expect. Even after the birth I had no idea about the bleeding and all the postpartum care
Definitely go for the natural and get a midwife. My water broke for my 1st at 10:30am and no contractions until like midnight. Baby was born naturally at 8:40am. My midwife was never concerned or mentioned any interventions.
I just had my first baby 2 weeks ago, spontaneous natural birth, he came too quick for me to get pain killers, and yes right afterwards I had the shakes so bad, my body went into shock and after an hour I stopped shaking, but at 6am the next morning I got the shakes again, definitely not a great feeling
I have had two babies and got the epidural both times. The shakes is how I knew it was time to push with my second baby. Once I started shaking I told my husband that it was time.
I was induced and had an epidural but I felt the need to push, I felt the pressure and I also could move my legs. So I guess it’s different for everyone?
I have had epidurals with both of my babies and much rather prefer to have it. Yes some of the side effects suck but it is better than dying from the pain and women do die from the intense pain. I did not have any lasting back pain from my epidurals. Also they took off the IV after having an epidural so I was able to walk normally. Yes it was a little difficult to pee in the beginning but again much rather would prefer that over the pain.
Love this video! My first was also the same I went to go pee and I just kept peeing and I was like what?? Lol it was my water . But i went to hospital wasnt progressing and got pitocin. I was so mad I was planning on natural but with it being my first and the extreme pain and my nurse kept saying get an epidural i caved at 9cm. My sons heart rate went down bunches of nursed and drs came rushing in saying he needs to come out now or he might not make it . All because of the epidural I felt I was talked into. The afterward was horrible couldn't stand and my legs so numb now when I sit for long periods . My second was natural and got to the hospital at 8cm and I said no epidural and it was so amazing . I felt it all and the hardest part was the transition time from contractions to pushing I lost my breathe I had 2 contractions back to back besides that moment it was amazing . And with the epidural they told me hey you need to push out the placenta now but without it I was like dont i need to push the placenta ? They're like oh no it's already out. Haha I was like what?! I was so in the moment and it was amazing . I was just super hungry afterward. I do disagree though with the period pain you said . I've always had horrible period cramps and I felt that going through my periods so painful every month helped me with labor it felt like nothing until I got to the 8cm mark when it felt worse then my period cramps. So I was like I can do this. Lol
What wonderful birth stories. I just have one "criticism" is I would say to stop calling un-medicated birth "natural". ALL BIRTH IS NATURAL whether medicated or not. Just a pet peeve of mine but lovely stories nonetheless. Glad you had some good experiences. My first daughter was induced and I also got an epidural. I'm 29wks pregnant now and I'll leave it up to when the time comes on if I get an epidural or not. 🙂
Thank you! I can't wait to meet the new little one! Hope your family stays healthy and happy! You're a brave mama for giving birth both ways! There's always risk and it's difficult either way! But you seem like you are so positive regardless of the scenario and that is amazing!
I also went through epidural 20 days ago when my daughter born.. it was the best experience.. If epidural Anesthesia is given correctly then u ll will feel the contractions but with a very less pain..
Can I please ask when you got the epidural? Becuase I know that I want it 100% but I want to know when is the best timing for it? Like in active labour 4-5cm dilated? Or more later on? It only lasts for 1-2 hours I believe too
@@zua240 It doesn't matter when you get an epidural because the medication is given constantly and as long as you need it and in the dosis you want. What you meant here is probably the "spinal" which is an injection close to where the epidural would be placed and only last for a few hours. It is usally applied for an uncomplicated c-section but you can also get shortly before you get to stage where baby starts moving down the birth canal.
This was such an educational video but let me tell you everyone’s experience is different! I just had my baby 2 weeks ago and I went up to 7cm until I asked for the epidural. The pain was unbearable most of my pain was in my hips and back (I could feel my hips widen). Once I got the epidural I felt really itchy and my pain was mainly on my back side and i had to keep rotating because the epidural works with gravity. Also I could still move! The nurses even said that my epidural was weird because I could still move on my own. Once I reached 10 cm and it was time to push they shut off my epidural so that I could feel the contractions. I didn’t know they shut it off! The meds went away in an instant and boy let me tell you that pain was different I felt this insane feeling of fire in my vagina and pressure in my back. I yelled, “I need to fucking push!” After an 1hr of pushing my baby came. It was 36 hrs of labor and pin but I’d do it all over again. ❤
Wow what an incredible story! Thank you for sharing! It is true no labor is the same. I’m so glad you shared. And I know it’s crazy how we go through so much but we would do it all over to meet our precious babies ❤️
I had the membranes separated. It was my first birth. It went really fast. I asked for the epidural, but it did not work. Don't know why. It was in a lot of pain, and it all went away as soon as I started to push. I remember very clearly thinking that if someone asked me for watever reason to stop pushing, he or she would be thrown out of the window.
I couldn't get up after my unmedicated birth either due to the shaking...I couldn't walk. So all the women saying you can get right up after..not me. Lol I have had both an epidural and unmedicated and this is my take away. If your vagina rips or tears its sucks either way. I m so scared to go through it again because I do not want to feel that intense pressure again
Yea having a tear is awful! With my first I cried every time I went to pee because it burned so bad! Babies are a beautiful gift but us mamas go through so much to have them!
Ah... I'm pregnant woth my 3rd and considering doing the birthing center this time but scared of having no option for epidural!!!! Both my forat and second birthing experience were like 7 or 6 hours total with no complications and I had epidural.. only pushed for like 30 or 20 min each time.. so.. thinking I can handle a natural birth... just need to get past the fear of pain... I labored mostly at home till I was close.. second baby I had epidural for only 30 min until baby came! I can probably handle extra 30m without epidural right??
I was asking the Dr can u print out paperwork that show what's in the epidural how will it affect me in the long run he wasn't able to tell me he said I might as well it because imma have back problems regardless of what decision I make I said since u not able to give me paperwork so I'm able to read for myself what's in the shot I will just have my baby natural I did I was screaming omg it hurt but it was worth it ...
Just before pushing does anyone get freaked out? I pray I don’t pass out and opt to C section just Freon fear even though I fear C section far more than vaginal birth
The shaking is from adrenaline. It can also happen during labor so your body can compensate you for the pain. I think that if you went into the natural birth as a plan, it wouldn't have been as scary. You would just be more prepared for the oncoming pains of birth. Good video
I’m due right about now with my fourth baby! First baby I had I was a coward and then after that it’s been natural. Like you I was going to die in my head and I was shaking so badly after my last birth I said never again but here I am again!
I got the shakes after my emerency c section well more I felt cold it was almost summer where I am lol my reaction to the epidural was great other than I threw up from the medication but my mum dose the same to anaesthetic stuff too.kinda sad I had to waste a nice lunch. I was scared to get my epidural but it was fine the lady who did mine was sweet. When i have number 2 I hope i get her because I'm not gonna bother with a vbac screw 44 hours n a c section again
I really appreciate the comment. I am not comfortable posting that on here but if you simply google the cost of epidural that would give you somewhat of an idea without insurance I can only imagine the cost!
I did it without an epidural, but WITH pitocin. I had to be induced. And I can tell you, the pain is 10 times worse than having done it without pitocin. Because pitocin forces the contractions. It causes them to be more intense with less rest. Also, I just learned that the shakes are caused by adrenaline and hormonal changes. But I can also say that during my first baby’s birth, I got an epidural, but I still got the shakes. It was crazy. Plus, I felt too relaxed with it and I had a hard time getting enough oxygen. I had to have a respirator put over my nose and mouth. I didn’t like that. So, with my 5th baby this time around, I’m going natural and hopefully no pitocin. 😂
I can agree. I had two labor and deliveries both without epidurals. My first I was given pitocin and my second I wasn’t. The difference in contractions was night and day. The contractions from pitocin were so intense and so close together that all I could do was lay in fetal position for two hours straight before pushing. (There was a blessing though! I was laughing and smiling while pushing because I was so relieved to be done with the contractions.) 😂The contractions with the second labor without pitocin was a breeze in comparison.
@@HH-yq6ch That gives me hope! Thank you for sharing that. I haven’t gone into labor yet but that experience with my 3rd child haunts me. That’s funny you were so happy to be pushing and done with laboring. I remember after my baby was finally born, I cried and cried tears of joy just to be done with it all (which actually didn’t end up being the end). I wish it had been because I was so happy to see my baby, but it wasn’t.
I had a natural birth. I was in labor for 22hrs and pushed for an 1hr 45 mins. But still it was a good experience. For me it was actually more just intense and physically demanding than painful. I had watched Bridget Taylor’s videos on how to breathe through contractions and that helped me so much. I would say the worst pain like actually pushing her out was probably a 7/10. I just wanted to give that perspective. I know the pain is worse for some than others.
Were you active during your pregnancy? Do you think that helped with the pain? Asking because I’m not sure of epidural or natural birth
Being active is ALWAYS a plus (unless you're on prescribed bed rest of course).
Doesn't have to be anything crazy, but yes, regular activity/exercise really does help!
That is helpful, I’ve seen videos and just seems like the worst thing ever. People are so different too, my pregnancy has been so mild compared to many
Thank you for this video. I’m sorry the anesthesiologist made that rude comment. I work in the healthcare industry (eye surgery) and we always say that it’s our millionth procedure however it’s always the patient’s first eye procedure.
Thank you and btw cool user name 😊
Yeah my eye doctor was weird. I wear glasses and am so sensitive to anything going in or near my eye. The horrible doctor snapped at me for flinching and called me a child. I'm a mother and probably older than her. I'm allowed to be worried about my eye...
Great video. Somewhat educational, if we won’t forget that everybody is different.
I had 2 babies, both with epidural. But such a different experience.
With my first I came in too early to the hospital. I was at my weekly appointment with OB/GYN and he said that I dilated to 3 cm and need to go to the hospital, cause I was having a contractions. My water did not broke. At the hospital nurses were coming to me 3 times asking to let them to brake my water, on 4th time I couldn’t hold the barrier and agreed. (After I gave birth I googled if it was necessary to broke a water and apparently no, that water was a cushion) So before they broke water I could manage contractions, but right after they broke it, OMG it was so painful, pain increased from 4 to 8 in a second , of course you will ask for epidural. So my thought to it, if they would leave me alone and let me to progress as it is I wouldn’t go for epidural. With epidural I felt every contraction, I felt an urge to push, I was shaky at some point of labor( it is natural effect of a body with or without epidural) but I did not have back pain, my legs were fine, I could walk right after delivery, I peed really fast. Btw they put catheter because you do not feel when you need to pee, you are numb in that area, you can not hold that muscles, so not pee yourself they have to put it in you.
With my second labor I got to the hospital dilated at 8 cm , this time my water popped (same I did not have a crazy gush of it just dripping) And I was so sure that no one will offer epidural to me that I was so confused when they did. I do not remember saying yes to it cause I was fully in labor mode, unfortunately I was by myself, and nobody could talk on my behalf. In like 5 seconds anesthesiologist appeared and started the process. This time it was painful. I felt pain going to my left leg( he was in a rush, cause of my active labor, and I was having strong contractions so I couldn’t sit still) Bad idea, really bad idea, but hospital were making money out of me. They did not care. When they finished with epidural, they checked me and I was at 10 already. We started to push, but I couldn’t feel anything, I had to rely on nurses and my OB. At one point between contractions nurse told me if I want to push I can do it. I asked her if it my contraction, she said no, just to speed up the process🤦🏻♀️ That irritated me so much!!! Anyway I was able to walk right after delivery again, took a little longer to pee or 💩, but in next week(already at home) I struggled to stand up and walk. I had an awful pain from my back to my legs, at some point I thought I won’t be able to walk at all.
Sorry for such a long comment, but can I just add couple advises from my experience: 1. Do not let medical stuff to brake your water unless it is medical emergency
2. If you dilated closer to 10, you do not need epidural,Cause that will slow things.
3. Always have somebody with you, husband, mom, friend, doula anybody who can protect your interests!!!
3.
It’s sooo true…I have 2 kids . Pregnant with my third. First time had epidural. Got horrible back pain . Same as you had pain in my leg , totally can move my both legs, was filling catheter, and OMG , the pushing… I was screaming with epidural. WITH . My second baby was without. Construction was a lot easier to manage , pushing was painful, but I was able to take a shower, walk. HOLD my baby , and breastfeed… oh .. I will never ever want to induced me without medical reasons, broke my water or give me a pitocin because I just overdue. No thanks lol
@@juliachetverzhuk6023 Congratulations with third pregnancy, can I say it like that?! I want to have third baby, but struggling with weight. Want to loose it before getting pregnant. But my hormones, I think, f… up 🤦🏻♀️after pregnancies
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Wow if this was your experience as a white woman I can only imagine how my birth is gonna be 🤦🏾♀️
I had an 11 hour natural birth by choice. I personally am more afraid to get an epidural, and sign up for possible life long back pain. It really wasn’t that bad. I’m about to have my second baby naturally as well. God created us to do this 💪🏼 Ofcourse it’s painful, but it’s tolerable.
Good for you that god was with you on the day. The epidural was with me on mine. Stop judging..we are different. You don't get to decide what is tolerable for another woman sweetie 😉
@@louiseray9274 Where did I judge sweetieee? I shared what I did & what I wouldn’t do, and my experience. Go start an argument with someone else.
@@louiseray9274 are you just going through every comment here and reaching for ways to be offended? Victim mentality. You’re the one judging these women who are simply sharing about their experiences and preferences.
I wish I could’ve been stronger for the natural birth 😢 I was induced and the contractions were so painful that I couldn’t do it! But we are trying for a second baby and my doctors are doing everything they can not to have me induced so fingers crossed I can do this ❤
This open my eyes I don't think I want to do an epidural anymore
I’ve planned to get the epidural, but listening to you describe it, it seems almost thrilling to go through the whole thing and to feel it all. Like such a connection to your baby and motherhood. Go you! 💪🏻 I probably will still go the medicated route but this definitely makes me think or even consider that if I can’t get medicated I’ll still be alright.
Pro: you feel everything
Con: you feel everything
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I think it's important to note that first births are much longer (and therefore, often more painful and exhausting) vs second births which are much quicker since baby number 1 has already trailed the way. So comparing the two has to consider this huge factor! Also pitocin makes contractions more close together and intense (ie more painful), which makes women resort to an epidural more often
I had a midwife and an induction, also after 12 hours of contractions and crazy pain, had an epidural and loooved it. But I was able to feel my contractions coming and was able to lift my legs. 2 hours active labor pushing and she was out! The epidural numbed me just enough so I could focus on pushing and not the pain. I was out of the hospital the following day. Took a walk around the hospital that evening! Everyone's experiences are so vastly different. Love your birth, however the outcome :) happy healthy mama's and babies.
How is back pain now Felicia ? I’m planning to take epidural
@@suhilaabrim597 back pain is non existent :) I'm 10 weeks postpartum now. Getting the epidural felt like a little poke in comparison to contractions
Right, i thought you can control how much epidural is being given to you. Like if you are completely numb you’d ask them to reduce the flow, and they do so that you can feel a little better, and vice versa.
I am 37 weeks pregnant and hoping to have natural birth
And your video made me even sure about this 👍
Thank you for the wonderful video! I’m 37 weeks with my first baby and sharing your experiences is really helpful for me!!💖 I’m so ready to do this!!💪
Loved this video! Currently 19 weeks pregnant with my first and am trying to educate myself as much as possible so I can make an informed decision. It helps to hear the pain described so I can understand a bit more what to expect if I go natural. Thank you for sharing your stories!
Congratulations! I hope everything goes smoothly for you whatever you decide!
Same! I told my birth planner I’m not doing an epidural and she told me not to cut it fully out of the picture bc she had it and it was GREAT for her. Kind of upset me with that right there.
I love the honesty! This is good for deciding moms. I had my first son unmedicated and am planning the same for my second son this month. If anyone is deciding, I would research as much as possible about unmedicated and read as many books as you can. I prepare my whole pregnancy to cope with the pain and it is not easy! I suggest the book Ina Mays Guide to Childbirth. It’s amazing, we are built for this.
Thank you so much for watching and for your thoughtful comment! It is amazing what we can do if we just stick our mind to it!
I’m going back and forth on the natural vs epidural choice. You mentioned having a catheter being a con, but the thought of being able to relax and not having to get up to pee sounds great 😂 I’m not someone who is bothered by needles or medical procedures, you can do pretty much whatever you want to me in a medical setting and I’ll just be like “cool.”
I had an epidural with all of my births, and I actually felt everything (it just took the edge off). Basically, I knew when to push, got the shakes, and everything!
When I had my daughter I had to be induced and after 3 days of on and off labour I was finally far enough to get my waters broken and for things to move along faster. I have to say, the epidural was an absolute relief. I slept for the first time since going into the hospital! I totally agree about not knowing to push, and having to rely on the nurses, and that did bother me. This time around, I do intend on natural, but will have to see how that goes.
Exactly what labor feels like! It stretches and goes back and you feel everything until your baby is out
So so true!
Thanks for sharing! I’m due in December and this was super helpful! 🙌🏻
Same 🎉
I just found out I’m pregnant with baby number 3. I have been tossing the idea around of natural birth. As I got induced (medical reasons), and had epidural both times. If all goes well this time, I want ALL natural. Thank you for this video!
Recently had my first baby boy! I watched all the videos, read books and bought a course online for birthing naturally.. I created a birth plan and everything! I ended up being in labor for 27 hours.. let me tell you I WANTED that epidural so bad but it was too late! The last 12 hours or so were brutal!.. really no words to describe the pain! I was so exhausted and his heart rate was dropping so they ended up using the vacuum thing to help get him out faster! So unexpected and kinda traumatic to be honest! I think I would do it again without N epidural BUT I would make sure to have a doula with me and even consider going to a birthing center! I could tell the dr and nurses with me that night weren’t used to moms with no epidural. Which is unfortunate but I know having a doula next time will be game changer and just knowing now what to expect will help me mentally! Just happy me and baby are healthy!
I’m with you on The catheter 😂 that was a big reason why I didn’t want the epidural! I’ve never had one and I just really don’t want one ahah!
Every woman labour and delivery is different, my kids are 36 and 34 and I still remember it like yesterday, but I can tell you if I knew everything that you can find on the Internet about pregnancy labour and delivery I would have been terrified to have a baby , the less you know the better ,, my advice is enjoy your pregnancy to the fullest , the most important thing is to concentrate on your breathing and be prepared in your mind that you might need a c section , good luck 👍
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Thank you so much for sharing :) I'm 38 +5 and trying to get as much insight as I can about the different options.
I got the shakes too after my natural birth. I think it was the adrenaline or the cold from sudden blood loss (I hemorrhaged), but I remember being so hungry and wanting to order food but I couldn’t hold the hospital menu still enough to read it even an hour after she was born. Still it was an absolutely amazing experience that I highly recommend. It helps if you know you don’t plan on using pain medication you can do more mental and physical prepping for labor pain.
I'm single, trusting God to be married soon and this video is helpful to prepare my mind on what to expect and decide between epidural and natural births.
Loved hearing your experience!!! And yes I agree I feel like with the epidural your body being numb made it hard for you to feel everything.
Thank you for sharing your experiences! I'm a first time mom due in 6 weeks and there's just so many different opinions out there on how I should deliver and it is super scary! Watching this, I feel like I have a better idea of what I'm going into to make a more informed decision. 💗 Thank you again!
Thank you so much for watching and I hope all goes so well with your delivery ❤️
I had a natural birth with my first- it was also only 7 hours total from water breaking to my daughter being born, I also had the shakes after! They told me it was adrenaline and hormones from the birth & is normal.
I’m due with my second soon and I’m nervous for the pain again but hoping it will be quick like the first! Thanks for sharing your experiences!
I’m currently pregnant with my 7th baby I had all of them natural and I’m planning on having this one natural too, our body was made perfect to bring life to this world 🙏🏼 it’s not easy, a lot of pain but its worth it, I had my 5th one with midwives only and it has been the best experience out of all of them, they know where and when to massage you, they know exactly what you’re going through and they know what to do to help you with contractions and pain.
God bless all mothers in the world.
Wow seven children naturally that is amazing! You go superwoman! Thanks for sharing your experience with me!
@@ThriftandSip thank you!!! 🥰🙏🏼❤️
Keep your God to yourself and let others women have the births they choose without shaming please 🥺 do you think I consider my medicated births to be not "worth it". Please get over yourself.
@@louiseray9274 😂😂 sorry you got offended by my comment, re read I never ever said what you’re accusing me of.
God bless 🙏🏼
Great story!! Will consider for when I have a second baby. I had my daughter all natural without any pain meds at ALL because I progressed so fast. Guess it might be good to do next time as well 😀
Yes! If your first was fast be ready for the next one to be faster
Your body was in shock and full of adrenaline. But you rocked that! Thank you for both of your stories!! I’m considering natural birth and trying to absorb as many other experiences as I can before I decide.
Thank you 😊 I’m so glad I could help! My advice is to listen to your body! In the end whether you have an epidural or natural all that will matter is your sweet baby being in your arms! Hope all goes well for you ❤️
I've done both too, no induction or membrane sweeping. I think labor was harder with natural, but recovery is so much easier. Pushed 3 times with natural, 1.5 hours with epidural.
Thank you for sharing. You're a great storyteller. Very authentic. Congratulations!
Thank you so much!
I had an epidural early into my labor like at 2 cm. I was a chicken. Lol, and I was in labor 24 hrs. The epidural wore off, so by morning, I had a second epidural. When it was time to push, I couldn’t feel anything. Dr was telling me to push but it was weird cause I couldn’t feel a thing. Very strange pushing with no feeling. I remember afterwards I was shaking like a leaf. When they put her in my arms, I was shaking n teeth were chattering. I had to give her back to the nurse because I felt weak all over and could barely hold onto her. I believe getting the epidural so early slowed down my labor alot. I have one child and said I would never get pregnant again. Labor was long n difficult. She’s a healthy 23 year old now and I’m very grateful for my one.. 🙏🏽
Thank you so much for sharing! I’m sorry you had that experience I am so happy your daughter was healthy
I’m glad I’m not the only one I think I’ll just have one and done there’s some good positive stories but then there’s some bad ones this is my first and I’m so hesitant on whether to take epidural or not they just seems to be more cons and then there’s pros…
Shaking is due to the adrenaline and it can happen regardless of whether or not you had the epidural.
Wow good to know thank you! It was a really strange feeling
Yes and well said. Shaking is not due to epidural but due to adrenaline.
Yup i had shakes with both births - one with and one without an epidural!
Great video, so helpful ❤❤ Thank U so much
I'm 27 weeks with my first and I want to have a natural birth. Everyone around me says I'm going to want the epidural. I can't say for sure because it's something I've never experienced before. Thank you for sharing your experience!
Whatever you choose I hope all goes smoothly and congratulations on your precious baby! He/she will change your life forever and bring you so much joy and purpose ❤️
Love your video and your honesty!! I am an expecting first time mama due with my first baby in 4 months! I have been going back and forth trying to decide what I want! Your pros and cons video really helped me. It's hard being a first time mom because you really don't know what to expect. Thank you for being so real. Some of your epidural cons really turned me off from getting it and I am thinking maybe pushing out a baby with pain is worth it LOL
Thank you so much for watching! I hope everything goes smoothly with your pregnancy and delivery! Just remember a short time of pain for a lifetime of joy! ❤️
First timer and I like this video very much. Thanks for sharing
So informative thank you for the details on both 🎉❤
I love the voice changes when you’re repeating what the nurse said
This video and comment section is so informative, thank you! I plan to be a mother in the next few years when I build up a savings and get my own place and am tired of my current job and feel like transitioning to SAHM.
Home birth, 12 hours from water breaking to delivery. 20 min of pushing, I had a positive experience. I'm due with our second in about 2 weeks and have the same plan. However, this time I'm struggling with SPD and have been very emotional. My husband, midwife and 3 helpers. 80% of labor was in a birthing pool and on a balance ball. Breathing through and getting lost in the natural high put me in a meditative state. I hope we have another fast positive experience!
That sounds beautiful! I wish I had a birth like that!
@@ThriftandSip for any mama dealing with SPD, sciatica, or muscle tightening I highly recommend chiropractor care!
I am from Norway and I think we get a lower dose of epidural here. I had epidural when I gave birth to my son, and I could get up and use the bathroom as normal at least during the labour, and was able to take a shower soon afther the birth.
Epidural it is. Thank you for this video!♥️
Great video. I’ve had only one baby and that was two months ago. I regret allowing the gynecologists convince me to have an epidural because it’s just a scam. When the anesthesiologist came I was 7cm and was having intense and very painful contractions that were less than one minute apart. He noticed that my oxygen level was low and I wasn’t supposed to get the epidural but because they had to make money off me he went ahead and gave it to me, only just a tiny dose. This didn’t help me with pain, the pain got worse and it slowed down my labor, I was 9cm for more than three hours and was feeling a strong urge to push all through . I later got an episiotomy to help my baby come out, he was 3.5kg at birth. I feel my labor would’ve been better if my health practitioners were more considerate.
I also have same experience like yours. Doctor breaks my water. Got ketheter. also got epidural. After 41hours trying i had a c-section. Then i got my 1st baby boy on july 3rd..it was a horrible experience in my life 😢 but now I am soo happy with my baby. Alhamdulillah for everything.
Did you get induced?
Nice! Same thing with me with that epidural
Thank you for your honest suggestion in the end.. I was thinking both in my mind.. But I would prefer to choose natural birth (in sha allah). Good and genuine info. 😊👍
My son only started dying after the epidural was placed and I only agreed to the epidural because I was pretty sure I was gonna need a c-section because of the literal incompetence I was witnessing with who I learned later was a 4th year resident. I saw her put something in my iv and she wouldn’t tell me what it was… I was very adamant about not wanting pitocin since she first said that word to me… I had fallen in my backyard and she decided that they needed to induce me, and when I hadn’t given birth by her next shift she decided that she needed to speed things up which I objected to because the shift before had told me everything was progressing fine and I didn’t need Pitocin if I didn’t want it which I didn’t… when my best friend had an epidural with her daughter, they had to call a code to save her life during her labor because she almost died…
It was almost immediately after they placed the epidural that my son went into cardiac distress and his heart rate went lower than my resting heart rate which is 30-40 bpm… I’m screaming for them to just cut my six years in the making IVF rainbow baby and this 4th year resident is arguing that she “just needs more time” and started rolling me around on the bed as I’m wrapped around the Peanut ball from hell as I call it as I’m listening to my son dying on the fetal heart monitor. I’m screaming “IM A FUCKN NAVY CORPSMAN VETERAN! Just give me a Fuckn knife and I’ll do it my fuckn self if y’all are just gonna listen to this incompetent one over here!”
she leaves the room saying she’s going to get more Pitocin so I know she was giving it to me against my will and because I couldn’t feel the connection with my son to breathe through my contractions like I had before the epidural even went they became more intense… I was only 1.5 cm before the epidural and my contractions were one right after another with no breaks… when they finally did the c-section I apparently only at 5 cm my husband told me…
At one point during the c-section I heard them say “WE HAVE A baby…” trialing off and I heard “shhhh”s and then commotion as they rushed in a crash cart and I heard them doing code procedures as I fell asleep… then I woke up and heard him cry for the first time… my son was still born because of that incompetent 4th year resident who insisted on my getting an epidural which I didn’t want as well as she had an obsession with Pitocin…
I keep seeing videos on Facebook and Instagram of mothers telling their families they are “just settling in for their inductions” and then it shows like “45 minutes later” with them holding a baby… that’s not healthy… people and their children are going to die… just like my son did and was lucky enough to be brought back…
Seems to me, birth is a contest for L&D residents and possibly even full on doctors… My sons birth experience can’t just be an anomaly. There’s a lot more that went on but I don’t want to bore anyone as I prolly already have…
I’ll never have an epidural again unless I’m gonna have a repeat c-section because of my past emergency c-section… and I’ll never have an induction again because I’ve read they are contraindicated if one has had a c-section…
I’m also gonna have a doula… the only reason I didn’t have one this time was because they were hard to find during this pandemic…
People need to pay attention to what the medical personnel are doing and don’t be afraid to speak up as in “if you see something out of sorts say something…” be your best advocate and know your rights as a patient.
The other reason I’ll never have an epidural and one reason I didn’t want one in the first place is because birth is painful… not just for the one birthing, but the one being birthed… so I felt it would be selfish of me to not endure the pain right along with my child… for if my child can endure it who am I not to endure it with them.
Oh and something else that was very interesting, I heard 3 other people laboring while I was there. The first one was beautiful and amazing! They even started chanting afterwards! I was very motivated by it! I had been cheering them on “you got this mama!” “You can do it!” Not loud basically to myself but it was very motivating to me to feel as if I was helping this laboring person especially if maybe they were alone.
After I heard the baby’s first cry and the chanting, a medical staff yelled into my room “that was with no epidural! Are you sure you don’t want one?” “NOPE! I’m good bring on the pain! NO PAIN NO GAIN! IF MY CHILD CAN ENDURE IT SO CAN I! Pain is weakness leaving the body! What don’t kill me makes me stronger! IF THAT MOTHER CAN DO IT SO CAN I!”
There was not answer from who ever it was…
I feel they push these epidurals so hard because they just don’t want to listen to us laboring
And they hurry inductions so they can get back to making their videos for Facebook and Instagram and such talking about what they supposedly hear patients say during labor as they dance around like snobby children that know everything to basically brag that they can “work hard and play hard at work and still remain competent.” So that they can “boost their morale”
If this is “competent” health care in the American L&D, Goddess help us…
Loved your video and your message in the end! 💝 Its only our 14 th week but I guess you have to prepare before hand.
Thank you so much for watching! I’m hope you have a smooth rest of your pregnancy
I’m 15 weeks, feels like we’re together in this journey. May God protect our angels growing inside and when time comes may we have safe labour and delivery🙏🏾
Every woman, every pregnancy will be different . That even if you have 20 babies, they'll be different . Thanks for sharing !
Really interesting hearing your story. My first was natural (two hour precipitous) and traumatic. I tore and it took me a long time to heal. So for my second I had an epidural. Maybe they gave me a lighter dose than it sounds like they gave you because I could still move my legs and felt the urge to push. I was up, moving around an hour later after skin to skin time and I felt great. No pain and it was so relaxed and peaceful. I did have epidural site pain like you for a couple of weeks. I also got a UTI from the catheter. For my third, I had a natural birth because there wasn’t time for an epidural. I’m expecting my fourth and I’m going to play it by ear. Not sure what I’ll do.
Thank you for sharing your experience with me! It is so fascinating how each one of us has a different experience with child birth.
I had a 40 hour active labor natural birth. It was challenging, and it hurt, but it wasn't hell like you'd think. I'm going to have #2 natural also. During crowning they let me use some nitrous to take the edge off, that was really nice. There are more pain management options than just epidurals, make sure you ask ahead of time!
The shakes is adrenaline! You're really alive lady! Some people get the same thing after hunting, they call it "buck fever"
Yessss 🎉
All births are an achievement..I hate med birth shaming. I had epidural on first, failed epidural and emergency section on second. Bottom line I've two healthy toddler girls and literally nobodys business what medicine I chose to take! Not your baby, not your business. Oh and still remember feeling my first born coming out.
I’m 36 weeks pregnant and have been trying to watch lots of videos to be prepared. I originally decided to have an epidural but lately I’ve been debating on whether I should. Honestly, I’m no good with pain so I think I’ll go with the epidural anyways! Love ur vid! 💕
Thank you so much for sharing! I hope all goes smoothly for you and baby and no matter what you decide it will be the best day of your life when you get to meet you baby ❤️
Now you would be 37 weeks, I am now 36 weeks 3 days. Are you dialated now? When should we start having contractions?
It's my first time so I'm really confused.
Hi Sumayya!
So, you're 36 weeks. In ordinary circumstances, you won't have dilated at all yet. Some women have a cm or two, especially if they've had more than one child before.
At this stage in a healthy pregnancy, you'll have Braxton Hicks contractions, basically practice contractions. They feel different than real contractions, I felt them more at the top of my belly rather than the bottom, but I get them there too so that's not a given. Real contractions feel like period cramps.
Some women (like me) experience what's called prodromal labor. Some call it false labor. If you get it, it can start as early as 37 weeks, or you could not have it at all. What prodromal labor looks like is mild contractions that start to get regular, then stop upon rest or a bath. With my fourth, every night I would get contractions around 4-5 minutes apart for a couple hours, then I'd take a bath and drink some water, lay down and they'd stop. That was my big clue I entered real labor-a bath and rest did nothing to slow them.
So in short, no, you shouldn't be dilating yet, or contracting other than practice labor ☺️
@@kleinemaus6094 Hello Kleine, Thanks a lot dear!
Your reply cleared my some doubts.
Especially the one that I am not dialated yet and yes, I am having false labour.
This is my first pregnancy through IVF at the age of 25.
Our problem was that my amh level was low and my husband has asoospermia (no sperm present in semen bcs of blockage).
My doc said that she will do SC delivery on 38 weeks bcs of IVF baby even though I and my baby is healthy.
So, I changed the hospital and went to a doc who assured that she will try to do normal delivery.
Does anyone know if IVF babies should be delivered in C - Section early or is it possible for them to be delivered vaginally?
I am so scared, I want to dialate as soon as possible so that I wouldn't go to C - Section.
In India some doctors are greedy, they do C - Section for extra money. 😔😔
@@ThriftandSip great news! The epidural did it’s job! And I pushed out my baby girl in 36 minutes at 39 weeks! Remembering your video and experience really helped! God bless!
Hey saw you watch a video of mine 🤗 I love hearing birthing stories 😊 subscribing
Thank you! I’m glad you enjoyed and thanks for sharing the support 😊
I've had four children, and am currently 21 weeks with our 5th. 3 epidurals, one unmedicated, this one will be a home birth.
Excluding extreme circumstances, childbirth is about *preparation.*
Yes. It hurts. But it's not pain in the sense that every human knows (unless you're panicked, and start that fear-tension-pain cycle). For me, I spent a lot of time during Braxton Hicks pretending it was the real deal and focusing on my breathing. In for 4, out for 6.
The biggest hurdle isn't the physical sensations. Its your mind. I thought that was a bit of hooey but it's absolutely correct.
Unmedicated birth, even with the absolutely abysmal, bullying tactics of the hospital staff, was FAR better for me. Give me tha pain every day, with the ability to control what I'm doing to manage it, over being chained to a bed by a needle in my spine. For me, that made all the difference.
Some of us don't have that luxury. I never had waves of contractions I went from 0 to 100 also not your place to tell us what's better. It's every woman's own choice. "Chained to a bed" is shaming language Hun 😂
Did you not notice the multiple times I said "for me," including the being chained to the bed?
I've had 4 kids, 3 with epidurals. Believe me, I understand when it's too much.
I think your response was less about me "shaming" you and more about how you may have felt about your birth(s) personally, and that frankly isn't my problem. Is yours.
I have no shade towards anyone who gets an epidural. But *for me* it was the best choice I ever made to go without. It changed the birt experience and also, unlike my previous 3 pregnancies, I did not have crippling Post Partum Depression and Anxiety after my unmedicated birth. That's *my* experience.
@@louiseray9274 you’re projecting your own judgmental attitude. Leave her alone, she’s talking about what was best for her. You feeling ashamed doesn’t equate to someone else shaming you.
I was in labor with my first for 20 hours and 22 with my 2nd. I really tried to go natural with my 2nd but after co tractions for 16 hours I gave up and got an epidural. I’m really praying my third I can do natural just because like you said the catheter sucks and I want to experience the quicker recovery with natural.
Whether you put to birth naturally or by epidural honestly the most important thing at the end is that your baby is born. No one gets a trophy for putting to birth naturally or by putting to birth using an epidural. Plus you are not weak for choosing an epidural you are strong. Whatever you choose the most important thing is at the end of the day is both parties need to raise their kids and there’s no difference the kids born by epidural and those born naturally when you see them. Compare it to conceiving naturally or by IVF. Do any of such kids look different? It’s up to you to make a choice and do what suits you. Some people put to birth naturally and have terrible vagina tears and some people also put to birth by epidural get vaginal tears. The most important thing is to pray to the Lord Jesus and commit it in prayer before making a choice.
Yes you won't get a trophy, but the experience will be a whole lot different especially if an unmedicated birth was your goal. You don't have to get a trophy to do something, its about having the birth experience you wanted to have
I had a natural birth, no meds as I requested. Then my asshole doc stitched me up with no anesthesia! The nurse tried to hand him the needle, he pushed her hand back! Horrible experience in Raleigh, NC
@@angelawoodlief7242 oh shit I'm in Raleigh/Durham as well. Which hospital was it?
I don’t think any mother expects a trophy…I really hate it when people say this. No offense, but definitely think about this before you ever say this to a woman who gave birth. Yes, you raise children at the end and you have your baby no matter how you birth, but the labor and childbirth experience is very important. It can set the tone for PPD, as well. Unmedicated or epidural, women are badasses and they should feel empowered. No one expects a trophy 🙄. The experience is extremely important though.
Not always the case either. I had an epidural, went hypotensive and my baby was born with an out of whack heartbeat because of all the ephedrine they had to give me to try to bring my blood pressure up. So she's fine now yes but I put her through undue harm upon delivery because of the epidural.
Ik this was 2 yrs ago, but I’m almost 27 weeks and I’m starting to freak out bc Idk what to do and this video definitely helped me. I’ve been taking childbirth classes and I felt so overwhelmed…. I knew my body was made to do this but I was scared I wouldn’t be able to bc my pain tolerance is a 0 as well. But after watching this video, it hasn’t given me some peace of mind that I can go naturally and still be okay ☺️ THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SHARING!!
It makes my heat happy to know I could help you in some way! Just trust your body and remember the beautiful baby you will get to meet at the end of the pain! It will be so worth it! I hope all goes well for you and appreciate your support of my channel so much!
How it go? I’m 34+2
And idk what to do.. pros and cons with epidural I hear more cons and there’s pros! my pain tolerance zero as well😢
@@Lauranessa1 I had my baby at 39 weeks and I got an epidural bc I had to be induced…. Best decision I ever made however, the effects from it lasted 3 days only on my left side 3 days after I had him…. That’s the only con is that the side effects could last a while after you have your baby… BUT I could not have done it without the epidural.
Thank you for this video! I am almost 4 months with our first baby and your post is very educational! I’m thinking that even though this will be my first time giving birth I want to do it naturally
Same ❤
I had my first baby in 2018 and i took epidural. It was one of best decision. People are so negative about epidural and i took it and had same vaginal birth as someone who didnt had epidural. I was more fresh and calm while they are screaming and shouting and stressing out thier body.
I am currently 36 weeks prag and already told my midwife that i consider epidural.
I’m glad it worked out for you! Everyone is different and that’s the beauty of being a mom we can choose what works best for us! I hope all goes smoothly for your next baby 😊
@@ThriftandSip u are right. Thanks alot.
At which stage of active labour did you get the epidural? Like when you are 4- 5cm dialited ? I want to know which time is the best time as a first time mother. I want to have a decent experience without the crying or screaming 😅
I hope to go hospital exactly on the right time so they don't have to send me back home early and I hope to get the epidural in the right time during active labour, but who knows what will really happen. Also don't have a extremely high pain tolerance either
Everyone is different. I didn't scream, had a natural birth. Was calm and breathed throughout. Never stressed, went with the flow. Look forward to doing it again. Epidural had side effects and do yes there is reason to question it. Overall to each their own and you get a baby in the end. But there are more risks to epidural than natua.
During the transition period in labor (just before the pushing stage), there is a 'period of fear' as I call it. xd it was really intense for me. I was convinced I wasn't going to make it, and figured the baby might have a tiny chance if they did a c-section right then and there. The fear and the thought that my body can't do it was just so intense!! Thankfully, I was just fine though my brain thought otherwise.
How Did you convince yourself sis? FTM due in Jan. I feel that final stage may make me think twice so tips pls!
I yelled "what the F was I thinking?!" Lol! So glad I get the chance to experience it all again.
This idea exactly how my brain will work 😢
My first was an induction because of my water breaking and I just had IV pain meds. The next 3 were all unmedicated birth center/ homebirths and all 4 have been good, but my favorite is being home with the whole family. I get the shakes when I'm in transition.
That is so wonderful! You are such a strong mama! Thanks for sharing
Same here with the transition shakes. I did have shakes after my first baby which was epi but not my birth center babe or
My homebirth babe. Will be having another homebirth in feb!
It sounds like your natural birth was similar to my 4th birth. Back to back contractions are a killer! I went from 3cm to pushing in an hour. My first 3 births were a nice gradual build up and much easier and calmer births.
I also said the same thing to my husband when the pain got intense. Your saying that made me lol 😆 because it's so true.
I’m pregnant with my first baby and I really want to have an unmedicated birth. I’m not crazy about the idea of so many drugs or medical interventions when labor is something my body was created to do. I also don’t want to torture myself and want to feel good when I bring my baby into the world. It’s a tough decision but I appreciate you sharing your experiences so much!
I’m thinking about a home birth by myself .
Thank you for this video -- I was particularly curious about women who have done both and if they had to have a another baby which route they took and your answer was natural unmedicated birth which is what I'm leaning toward. 😊
I’m so glad you enjoyed my video! Thank you so much for watching! I hope all goes smoothly for you with your delivery 🥰
@@ThriftandSip I’m not even pregnant yet 😬 but your video has gotten me so excited and inspired!
I've had both ☺️ 3 epis, 1 unmedicated, currently pregnant with #5. This one will b a unmedicated home birth!
Omg natural birth scares me but so does the epidural. I don’t really like my options 😂 I’m 8 weeks pregnant and first time mom. I don’t know how I’m going to do this. 🤣
Thanks for you video mama ! For how long did you have catheter on after baby was born?
Hello! Thanks for watching! I only had it for maybe 10-20 minutes after then they came and took it out and made me get up and use the bathroom. It’s been almost 7 years since I gave birth so my recollection is foggy 😂
Thank you 💕
I had pitocin and contractions came and ramped up fast, had my baby in 6 hours but i was pushing for 4 hours. The pain was so intense, sometimes my whole body shook from the pain
Wow thanks for this video... I learnt alot. My all three birth were natural and non epidural. But the Epidural birth sounds cool
Wow 3 natural births you are an amazing woman! Thanks for watching
@@ThriftandSip all women who give birth are amazing not just unmedicated ones
@@louiseray9274 She has called other women who have had medicated births amazing as well.
I had an unmedicated birth in 2019 and my brain took me to a different mental state and honestly the labor and delivery were not the worst parts for me and I don’t remember it being super unmanagable pain-wise but the recovery felt harder and that was probably bc I went back into a normal mental state instead of labor adrenaline
Thank you
When you said you didnt know if you were gonna survive this i chuckled bc im that dramatic 😂 (not dramatic in a bad way bc anything can happen but the way you said it was funny 😂😊)
Yes girl! Labor is no joke! 😂
The shaking is a hormonal surge. After baby is born. It’s normal. I worked in a birthing center for many years. We always told women to not fight the shakes let it happen. Warm blankets helped some.
I wish I would have known it is so normal! Just one of those things you don’t find out until you go through it. It is so nice you work at a birthing center! That must be a rush of adrenaline all the time watching all the precious babies be born! So cool!
Pitocin helps your uterus contract. It is a synthetic form of oxytocin.
So yeah, pitocin would help speed up your laboring process.
Also, you talking about having the shakes. I only had that with the second of my three natural childbirths. And that's because my body was going into shock because I did not pass a clot well at first and my uterus was having a hard time clamping back down. It's not cause of natural childbirth, per se. My midwives we're able to take care of it pretty quickly and then I was doing much better again. But it could be a clot having a hard time passing in the afterbirth.
i had an epidural and had the shakes after birth and day later.. it was horrible
Oh I had the shakes soo bad too but I had an epidural. I’m planning for a natural birth for my second because honestly I didn’t like the epidural experience. I think it was the experience I needed as a first time mom though. I was just so nervous about everything I went into it so unprepared. My water broke and no contractions started over 7 hours so they started pitocin and a few hours later I got the epidural.
Yes I agree being a first time mom I also felt so unprepared of what to expect. Even after the birth I had no idea about the bleeding and all the postpartum care
Definitely go for the natural and get a midwife. My water broke for my 1st at 10:30am and no contractions until like midnight. Baby was born naturally at 8:40am. My midwife was never concerned or mentioned any interventions.
I just had my first baby 2 weeks ago, spontaneous natural birth, he came too quick for me to get pain killers, and yes right afterwards I had the shakes so bad, my body went into shock and after an hour I stopped shaking, but at 6am the next morning I got the shakes again, definitely not a great feeling
That sounds so scary! I’m glad you are both well and healthy! Thanks for watching 😊
I have had two babies and got the epidural both times. The shakes is how I knew it was time to push with my second baby. Once I started shaking I told my husband that it was time.
I was induced and had an epidural but I felt the need to push, I felt the pressure and I also could move my legs. So I guess it’s different for everyone?
Was induced with my first and went natural. With my second I’d like to try and go natural but if I’m induced again, epidural definitely
I am 37 weeks pregnant and still searching for the way how I want to deliver my baby.
This was really helpful just wanted to thank you! 🙏🏼👍🏻
Thank you so much for watching! Congrats on your soon to come bundle of joy!
I have had epidurals with both of my babies and much rather prefer to have it. Yes some of the side effects suck but it is better than dying from the pain and women do die from the intense pain. I did not have any lasting back pain from my epidurals. Also they took off the IV after having an epidural so I was able to walk normally. Yes it was a little difficult to pee in the beginning but again much rather would prefer that over the pain.
Love this video! My first was also the same I went to go pee and I just kept peeing and I was like what?? Lol it was my water . But i went to hospital wasnt progressing and got pitocin. I was so mad I was planning on natural but with it being my first and the extreme pain and my nurse kept saying get an epidural i caved at 9cm. My sons heart rate went down bunches of nursed and drs came rushing in saying he needs to come out now or he might not make it . All because of the epidural I felt I was talked into. The afterward was horrible couldn't stand and my legs so numb now when I sit for long periods . My second was natural and got to the hospital at 8cm and I said no epidural and it was so amazing . I felt it all and the hardest part was the transition time from contractions to pushing I lost my breathe I had 2 contractions back to back besides that moment it was amazing . And with the epidural they told me hey you need to push out the placenta now but without it I was like dont i need to push the placenta ? They're like oh no it's already out. Haha I was like what?! I was so in the moment and it was amazing . I was just super hungry afterward. I do disagree though with the period pain you said . I've always had horrible period cramps and I felt that going through my periods so painful every month helped me with labor it felt like nothing until I got to the 8cm mark when it felt worse then my period cramps. So I was like I can do this. Lol
Thank you so much for sharing your story! It is amazing how we all go through something totally different during child birth! You are amazing!
What wonderful birth stories. I just have one "criticism" is I would say to stop calling un-medicated birth "natural". ALL BIRTH IS NATURAL whether medicated or not. Just a pet peeve of mine but lovely stories nonetheless. Glad you had some good experiences. My first daughter was induced and I also got an epidural. I'm 29wks pregnant now and I'll leave it up to when the time comes on if I get an epidural or not. 🙂
Yes your absolutely right! I misspoke there. Thanks so much for your feedback and for watching! Hope everything goes smooth for your delivery!
Thank you! I can't wait to meet the new little one! Hope your family stays healthy and happy! You're a brave mama for giving birth both ways! There's always risk and it's difficult either way! But you seem like you are so positive regardless of the scenario and that is amazing!
I like that.
Yes!
I also went through epidural 20 days ago when my daughter born.. it was the best experience.. If epidural Anesthesia is given correctly then u ll will feel the contractions but with a very less pain..
Can I please ask when you got the epidural? Becuase I know that I want it 100% but I want to know when is the best timing for it? Like in active labour 4-5cm dilated? Or more later on? It only lasts for 1-2 hours I believe too
@@zua240 It doesn't matter when you get an epidural because the medication is given constantly and as long as you need it and in the dosis you want. What you meant here is probably the "spinal" which is an injection close to where the epidural would be placed and only last for a few hours. It is usally applied for an uncomplicated c-section but you can also get shortly before you get to stage where baby starts moving down the birth canal.
This was such an educational video but let me tell you everyone’s experience is different! I just had my baby 2 weeks ago and I went up to 7cm until I asked for the epidural. The pain was unbearable most of my pain was in my hips and back (I could feel my hips widen). Once I got the epidural I felt really itchy and my pain was mainly on my back side and i had to keep rotating because the epidural works with gravity. Also I could still move! The nurses even said that my epidural was weird because I could still move on my own. Once I reached 10 cm and it was time to push they shut off my epidural so that I could feel the contractions. I didn’t know they shut it off! The meds went away in an instant and boy let me tell you that pain was different I felt this insane feeling of fire in my vagina and pressure in my back. I yelled, “I need to fucking push!” After an 1hr of pushing my baby came. It was 36 hrs of labor and pin but I’d do it all over again. ❤
Wow what an incredible story! Thank you for sharing! It is true no labor is the same. I’m so glad you shared. And I know it’s crazy how we go through so much but we would do it all over to meet our precious babies ❤️
I had the membranes separated. It was my first birth. It went really fast. I asked for the epidural, but it did not work. Don't know why. It was in a lot of pain, and it all went away as soon as I started to push. I remember very clearly thinking that if someone asked me for watever reason to stop pushing, he or she would be thrown out of the window.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience! Those contractions are no joke!
I couldn't get up after my unmedicated birth either due to the shaking...I couldn't walk. So all the women saying you can get right up after..not me. Lol I have had both an epidural and unmedicated and this is my take away. If your vagina rips or tears its sucks either way. I m so scared to go through it again because I do not want to feel that intense pressure again
Yea having a tear is awful! With my first I cried every time I went to pee because it burned so bad! Babies are a beautiful gift but us mamas go through so much to have them!
Ah... I'm pregnant woth my 3rd and considering doing the birthing center this time but scared of having no option for epidural!!!! Both my forat and second birthing experience were like 7 or 6 hours total with no complications and I had epidural.. only pushed for like 30 or 20 min each time.. so.. thinking I can handle a natural birth... just need to get past the fear of pain... I labored mostly at home till I was close.. second baby I had epidural for only 30 min until baby came! I can probably handle extra 30m without epidural right??
You got this mama!
My mom said the same thing about pitocin with her labor. It tells your body to stop producing oxytocin so the contractions start hurting worse! 😭😭
I was asking the Dr can u print out paperwork that show what's in the epidural how will it affect me in the long run he wasn't able to tell me he said I might as well it because imma have back problems regardless of what decision I make I said since u not able to give me paperwork so I'm able to read for myself what's in the shot I will just have my baby natural I did I was screaming omg it hurt but it was worth it ...
This was so helpful. Thank you so much.
Just before pushing does anyone get freaked out? I pray I don’t pass out and opt to C section just Freon fear even though I fear C section far more than vaginal birth
The shaking is from adrenaline. It can also happen during labor so your body can compensate you for the pain. I think that if you went into the natural birth as a plan, it wouldn't have been as scary. You would just be more prepared for the oncoming pains of birth. Good video
I’m due right about now with my fourth baby! First baby I had I was a coward and then after that it’s been natural. Like you I was going to die in my head and I was shaking so badly after my last birth I said never again but here I am again!
Giving birth is never cowardly.
Your epidural fear completely reflects mine. 🤣😬
I got the shakes after my emerency c section well more I felt cold it was almost summer where I am lol my reaction to the epidural was great other than I threw up from the medication but my mum dose the same to anaesthetic stuff too.kinda sad I had to waste a nice lunch. I was scared to get my epidural but it was fine the lady who did mine was sweet. When i have number 2 I hope i get her because I'm not gonna bother with a vbac screw 44 hours n a c section again
Curious about how different or similar your hospital bills were between the two.
I really appreciate the comment. I am not comfortable posting that on here but if you simply google the cost of epidural that would give you somewhat of an idea without insurance I can only imagine the cost!
I did it without an epidural, but WITH pitocin. I had to be induced. And I can tell you, the pain is 10 times worse than having done it without pitocin. Because pitocin forces the contractions. It causes them to be more intense with less rest. Also, I just learned that the shakes are caused by adrenaline and hormonal changes. But I can also say that during my first baby’s birth, I got an epidural, but I still got the shakes. It was crazy. Plus, I felt too relaxed with it and I had a hard time getting enough oxygen. I had to have a respirator put over my nose and mouth. I didn’t like that. So, with my 5th baby this time around, I’m going natural and hopefully no pitocin. 😂
I agree the pitocin with my first baby made the contraction so much worse! I hope things go quick and smooth with your delivery this time!
@@ThriftandSip Thank you!
I can agree. I had two labor and deliveries both without epidurals. My first I was given pitocin and my second I wasn’t. The difference in contractions was night and day. The contractions from pitocin were so intense and so close together that all I could do was lay in fetal position for two hours straight before pushing. (There was a blessing though! I was laughing and smiling while pushing because I was so relieved to be done with the contractions.) 😂The contractions with the second labor without pitocin was a breeze in comparison.
@@HH-yq6ch That gives me hope! Thank you for sharing that. I haven’t gone into labor yet but that experience with my 3rd child haunts me. That’s funny you were so happy to be pushing and done with laboring. I remember after my baby was finally born, I cried and cried tears of joy just to be done with it all (which actually didn’t end up being the end). I wish it had been because I was so happy to see my baby, but it wasn’t.