How the Way You Think About Time Affects Your Mental Health
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- čas přidán 19. 09. 2023
- In today's video, Dr. Tracey Marks delves deep into the psychological construct of 'time perspective'. Ever pondered how your view of the past, present, and future impacts your mental well-being and decisions? From Dr. Philip Zimbardo's pioneering Time Perspective Inventory to strategies for achieving a balanced outlook, this video offers insightful guidance on ensuring your perception of time promotes mental wellness. Whether you're reminiscing about the past, enjoying the present, or planning for the future, find out how to keep a healthy balance for optimal mental health.
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Thank you for this video. I am a 15 year old black boy that has been struggling with anxiety and depression for years, and my counselor showed me this video. It was explained and presented so well, and I am now motivated to fix my time mindset to improve my life. 🙏🏾
So proud of you! Keep learning and growing! You are not alone. 37 Black woman here!
Thank you Dr. Marks for supporting all of us as we become our best selves while also enjoying our present as much as we can.
amen
This was truly one of your best video! Thanks for all you do!
Oh wow thanks so much you guys. I’ll try to make some more like this 🙏🏽❤️
wow, just wow !!! soooo incisive and sooo beneficial !!! thank you Dr. Marks 💕
I gotta say, I love how professional yet personal you are in these videos. I find that a lot of psychiatry CZcamsrs are either too professional and cold or unprofessional and that irritates me the most. You walk the fine line perfectly.
the perfect balance ! kind of awe inspiring actually 🥰
After the passing of both my parents in my 20s, I feel that I’ve been traumatize by time. I find nothing pressing or important enough to have any type of desire to do. I keep trying to push through in there honor but drag everyday. I feel that my ADHD has gotten significantly worse with the trauma of time also.
This girl is really the bomb. Common sense. I know she has a lot of higher learning, I get that but you just can't help liking her the way she makes things so easy to get.
Past-Negative focus has domimated my thoughts for decades. I can't seem to let go of missed opportunities...
I like your practical approach on such a complex subject. I prefer spending most my time and thoughts in the present, but I'm often sofar into the future that my present becomes impacted by that which is not yet manifested!
I also have always been amazed by the long lasting negative impressions made on children. As a young Lad. I could remember at an picnic outing, then going to the mens room with my two brothers and Dad. The public park bathroom urinals in Ohio, were much like a big out house, as I recall it reminded me of a large oval sink, at which we all stood around ( the thought of which was despicable) I was so embarrassed. I needed to go but was emotionally frozen.
Some 20 years later for employment purposes I had to take a urine sample test with the HR guy standing by I froze and was unable to provide a sample. That always happened, until one HR guy ran the sink water, and it worked, it actually triggered something in my head.
I could only imagine how the effects of those that have suffered trauma and unbearable losses struggling to live in the here and now or present.
Truly
Dan Mc Curry
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experience Dan 😊
This video seems to be very helpful. It is very hard to decide which focus about time is more useful at the moment with ADHD. I will rewatch it and procrastinate and reprogram myself about time.
That's why walking keeps me focused on the present and enjoy being in the moment taking in all the things of interest on the way
That makes it a little easier to understand the issues that we have to get through 😊
oh dr. tracey, you are my angel as always 😭 this is so timely, i broke down last night out of the blue and i think this was the major reason for it. and honestly, my perspective of time has always been a concern of mine. so thank you so much !! will definitely spend time reflecting on this 💖🙏🏽
Awesome. I wish you the best ❤️
Very informative. Please give us a lecture about nostalgia, especially nostalgia that invokes sadness. Thanks, Dr. Marks.
I think that it copes from a struggle fully accept change as inevitable/be resistant to it.
This is very insightful information/advice. The challenge, however, in my personal situation, in which I don’t think I’m the only one, is to overcome the fatalistic, the regret, uncertainty, being very depressed. I technically have a lot to look forward to, but I can’t help but think that the nice things, the beautiful moments of the past, won’t be topped. I’m all over the place, I know. Anyway, as I said at the beginning of my comment, Dr. Marks is on point with the outlines of the time/mental health perspective. It’s up to us how to embrace these aspects…
Don't be in competition with anyone, especially yourself. Life is an all-seasons marathon.
Absolutely!! Stay in the present moment.
Thank you Dr. Marks for taking the time to break down these videos that are so easy to understand. Such a relief. BALANCE.✌
I've never heard any of this. Very interesting
Thanks! Please keep kicking butt, Dr. Marks!
Thanks a bunch! I really appreciate it. ❤️
Yup this is wat I been struggling with…just turned 30 this year.UGH
Don’t take it for granted that it will just work itself out. I’ve struggled with this forever, and I’m in my forties now.
I feel like this just solved half my problems lol. Now i know how to recognize and combat these negative feelings. Thank you so much❤❤❤
I am stuck in present fatalistic perspective cause of chronic illness. Not easy not to focus on the pain and the limitation which is accompanied with mcas + adhd + comorbid depression.
You’re one of the best teachers! I love how you explain everything so that we can all understand it.
My mother is constantly focused on past negative and present fatalistic.. it has been this way for years. It has ruined our relationship and my two brothers won’t even talk to her anymore. I can only be around her in small doses. She goes from crying about the things she did wrong, to attacking us for being terrible children and not wanting to be around her ( I am 44, my brothers are 42& 47). The thing is, she was not a terrible mom when we were growing up. She loved us and worked hard to provide for us. Our dad worked off and on due to severe back problems, but he was a good dad too. But when I was 13 my mom left my dad, and the last I would say 15 years has gotten bad with her. She is in a constant depression and often irrational. My daughter who use to be the one to be around her the most, doesn’t even like going to see her anymore. It breaks my heart, I really miss having a relationship with my mom. She has been in therapy for a long time and it really hasn’t seemed to work, as things have really only gotten worse.
I wish there was a way to help her focus more on the positive, but I feel like this loop has her so trapped there is no way out.
I’m sorry to hear this. My mother in law behaves in the same manner. Always dwelling on stuff that happened 50 years ago. I would get your mom involved in some volunteer work. Perhaps she likes animals and can volunteer at a shelter. If she likes books, she can volunteer at a library. If that’s not her thing may be an exercise group.
Oh my goodness, Dr. Tracey thank you sooooooooo soooooo soooo very much for this info! U completely described my situation: present-fatalistic , thanks heaps for giving us ways to balance our focus out. This has been super empowering, I finally understand what "I have", it has a name! And ways to mitigate it 😱 thank you with all my heart ❤
To remember to look at the time one has to have a memory jog that creates a prime to stare at a time piece.
I am going to share this with my high school students- wow! They need a high school course on Time Management and Emotional Sobriety/Intelligence in every school. Maybe then our students could start to feel better and safer.
I wish they would. I’m a 41 year old that still struggles with all of that.
I’m a past positive person. I’m also a grateful-for-every-day person. 😌❤️🙏🏽
I sometimes stuck with memories with my daughter being a baby, how happy I was😀
Dr Tracy Marks
Thank you from South Africa❤️
Thank you Dr Tracy
Thank you for this Tracey, wish I knew this when I was a mental health nurse, would have been very helpful working with anxious & patients experiencing depression.
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Thank you Dr. Marks for all the inspiring and educational videos that you have put up. My childhood was extremely traumatic due to which I have lived my entire life feeling unreal as if I am looking through slightly opaque glass. It is profound when I put on my prescription glass. I would be very thankful if you could provide your valuable insight in this matter. Thank you ❤
This is exactly what I was looking for going to archive this thank you so much
Absolute gold ❤
Thank you Dr Marks. Your videos have helped and are helping me navigate my mental wellness journey. I like the new series and animations. With love from Guyana ❤
Thank you Dr Tracey , i incredibly appreciate your video and have watched every single one of your video. They are incredibly helpful. Thank you for pursuing this, despite the discomfort :)
❤🎉 Thank you for posting definitely Food for Thought = Never Give Up the Person you Are Becoming Needs You Keep Going Rise Higher 💪 God is Awesome All the Time 🙌
Hello and good morning ma'am. Your anger series helped me quite a bit. You gave me access to therepy that was much needed. Thank you kindly.
Thank you for sharing this specific content, Doc. This is very timely and enlightening for me. Hopefully, if I can follow through your suggestions, I can free myself.
Moderate planning and mindfulness ....yes for balance i like this thank you
I had no idea that I’m present fatalistic, I struggled to understand why my mind is the way it is & what exactly my mind state is.
Yo no fr
i am none of the first listed, i think we need to live like this could be our last day, because it really can be, one day i went showering and i came out of the shower and my flat burned.
and out of nowhere my father died.
life can be ended any moment and we should be graceful about every moment we have, because it really can be any second
i am near-future oriented you could say
Very very very important perspective
Great video -- although thinking that it's hedonistic to take a selfie with your grandma at a birthday party is pretty amusing.
she's so good with the content!!!
Dang, I have my focus priorities completely backwards… no goals, few past positive, too much focus on past negative(no free will, so try not to think about that too much) and the most focus on present fatalistic(don’t believe in free will) yikes!
JUST what I need it yo hear today, thank you ❤
This is excellent, thanks Dr. Marks!
As one thinks so shall they be
I happened upon your channel and am very happy. Your voice is pleasant, which helps when watching the video.
Thank you as always.
I've been struggling with this mental gymnastic since last year. It's definitely a terrible thing to have on your mind constantly.
What exactly?
You mean If you want to be aware of every single moment of your day, controlling your thoughts and your emotions, you have to be something like a ZEN master or a Yedi?
I agree. Maybe you just cannot do this the whole day, but you could use a timer to remind you to get aware If you are planning or suffering or watching Netflix and give you the opportuneiy to reset your mind. That's my plan.
It's like OCD. Where the memory of a passing moment is more clear than the moment itself. Doing this 24/7 became a habit because of my sleep apnea diagnosis last year. I've gotten better at it but this OCD that I developed is the thing I still struggle with.
@@F1rsttimerI totally understand your dilemma. 😢💐
@@ceterisparibus8966 You'll get through it. It's much easier when you can explain it to someone close to you and they can help ease you back in the current moments.
Thank You
This is an excellent video. Thank you.
Thank you, Dr. Marks, I wish you could be my doctor.
Thank you 🧍🏽♀️
Sound advice.
Thanks, Doc
Very fascinating! Thank you for this
All the present fatalistic folks raise your hands 😃🙋♂️
Yeah that’s definitely my prime perspective, followed by future, then present hedonistic. I don’t think of the past much because I just don’t feel connected to it, would rather forget. I know I have experience positive things in the past, but I just don’t “feel” them and have a hard time recalling them.
I appreciate this video a lot along with the suggestions, but I’m struggling with implementation.
Brilliant, as usual! ❤
I have a question, Why is it that as we get older time seems to go by faster ? As children time moved so slow, was that because we lived in the moment and not the future?
Three reasons:-
(1) Because we experience time not in a linear way, but as a proportion of the time we have been alive. So if you are 5 years old, one period of 24 hours is a significant proportion of your whole life. But when you are 65 years old, one period of 24 hours is nothing to speak of, in the context of your whole life.
(2) Because we pay more attention to novelty. When you are a child you might see something new every day, so you remember it. For example, going to a carnival for the first time is all new. But when you are old, you almost never see anything new, (you might have been to 30 carnivals) so experiences don’t register in your brain, and you don’t remember them. Your life becomes just a blur of repeating the same experiences over and over again. In other words, life becomes boring.
(3) Energy. When you are in your 20s, for example, you have more energy and you are awake for more hours of the day. I’m in my late 60s and I’m tired. I sleep for 12 hours in every day now. So I am only awake for 12 hours. So the days seem to be only 12 hours long and therefore they pass quickly.
I really needed this
Yesss thank you 😊
New content for me, useful informationm
Thanks!
Excellent.
This was interesting. Thanks doc.
Thank you for this video, I found it both easy to understand and informative. ☺ I would say I struggle the most with future-oriented thinking... and I can definitely relate to what you said about planning a lot for the future until you magically find yourself in that ideal life. To be fair, I'm in a bit of an uncommon situation since my parents and I move every few years and lately I've been feeling conflicted because on one hand, I would love to be able to put your advice for balancing future-oriented thinking into action but on the other, I also feel like I can't get too comfortable with where I am now.
I still have a lot of reasons to be hopeful for the future, though; it's possible that we'll be moving again next year, but back to our home country, so I really think I'll be able to start taking more steps towards my independence because a) I'm technically an adult now, b) even if I don't, I could see myself living there for the foreseeable future more than where we currently live, which is a nice city but I have no real ties to it other than having lived here for the past four years (which is a considerable amount of time, yeah, but because of the pandemic, I haven't really... done much here, I don't really have friends, I don't even speak the language fluently) and c) when I do manage to become independent (I mean, even if I'm not living on my own by the time my dad gets transferred again, maybe I could just say "ok, have fun, I'm staying here lol" and then sort out whatever I have to sort out (like, you know, where I'm gonna live)), I really won't have to worry about moving again for the foreseeable future. Maybe I'll even be able to live in the same home for five consecutive years! Ain't that crazy?
So yeah. And, like, I do try to focus on the happiness I can experience in the present, and I do feel it, but I think I'll be happiest when I have a more... stable life. I want to get a job so I can earn my own money and eventually go live on my own, I want to form close friendships with people who I spend time with because I want to and not just because I kind of have no choice other than being alone because we go to the same school, I want to manage my time properly so I can do all that - work to earn money, hang out with friends - as well as hone my true passion, writing. This is what I want my life to become after I start my twenties next year. Maybe a reason why I have the problems with time management that I have is that at the back of the mind is always the knowledge that things are going to change relatively soon. Well, I want to be able to improve so I can have that stable life when the time comes when I won't have to worry about everything changing again unless I want it to (not because my dad's bosses or whatever say so). That's really what I want: control, freedom, joy. It's probably weird for a nineteen-year-old to say they want to "settle down" but can you really blame me? Don't get me wrong, I don't necessarily resent the life I've been living but I feel like I can appreciate what I've been able to experience, living in so many different countries, while also acknowledging that I don't feel like the way I've grown up has been "normal". Does that really make me "ungrateful"?
I would say more but this is comment long enough. Thank you again, Dr Marks. I enjoyed this video and reflecting on it and writing this comment in response has been very helpful, I feel like I understand myself that little bit more now. 😊
* the editing on this video is 🔥
Great video dr Marks
Thank you Dr Tracey Marks. If only I could swap brains with you for just one day. Great video. Kind regards. 😀
15 mins ago I said I was going to get up and have a shower and I've delayed it. Now it's 4:15pm, thinking I will get up in 15 mins at 4:30pm
Very interesting!! ❤
My problem with time is that it feels nonlinear. It feels as though time "skips". The only way to not become lost in all of the time issues you mentioned is to be present. I don't strive to be happy. I strive to be present.
Hi! Big fan of your videos! Noticed a boo-boo in this one. In the slide that lists all 5 types of time thinking, you wrote "Past Hedonistic" and "Past Fatalistic". You then explained that these ways of thinking concerned the present. Small error but thought you might want to know.
Yes, and constructively stated. A good reminder/example for me.
@@incorrigiblycuriousD61Why?
Whoops thanks for that. I must have missed that when I reviewed it. I wish YT would let use edit and re-upload.
@DrTraceyMarks how are you doing beautiful 😍 more face time please 🙏
@@ceterisparibus8966 I had undiagnosed ADD until mid-adulthood and my focus used to get easily derailed when someone talking made a factual error. I would miss the rest of what they were saying and say something like that's wrong or that's not true. I didn't mean to be an a$$hole, but I had to learn to say, "Wait, are you sure, would you repeat that?" or similar. And yes, I've been interviewed twice by professionals about autism spectrum because of my lack of social skills and such. My brain just froze up when Dr. Marks made that mistake, but now I can tell myself, "I know what she meant and she knows what she meant," so I just let it go. Progress.
Great content
I Love your videos and i would like to ask a question for next video: How neurodiversity affects work ?
This is great. This would be a great TikTok vid for a quick reminder. Let's make it happen!
Could you cover BPD at some point and how mixed with ADHD it could present as bipolar? I don't think people know. Ty
Okay intro!!! 😍🧠✨💅🏻
You called hedonistic and fatalist thinking "past" in the intro, then "present" in the description.
Super video thank you
You're welcome and thank YOU!
for mental health
OK, so here is my question I am severely ADHD, and I have bipolar. I go back-and-forth and swing between these constantly one week. I’ll feel one way, the next week I will feel the other. And sometimes I will feel two at one time. It has had a very damaging affect on the quality of my life and I can’t control it or seem to find a middle ground because once I get my bipolar a little under control I still have the constant intrusive thoughts cycle that comes with ADD.
Very interesting video
It's time to read Proust's Remembrance of Things Past.
Reading Proust is certainly no present hedonistic choice ;)
If this is the same book I think of, the English title sounds odder than it should
Hi Doctor! Do you like abilify for bipolar when seroquel is causing too high heart rate when taking at night and seroquel is intolerable and inability to take higher much needed doses.
Yes time was the main theme to be evaluated in the voyage of the HM Endeavour of Captain Cook. It's concealed by the revelations of Asimovian insight attributed Professor Stephen Hawkings. Could Professor Hawking communicate. I guess we will never know(?)
I'm related Professor Paul Davies and my ancestors built the Pembroke bark that became the HM Endeavour of Captain Cook.
I'm about make a pilot mini doc for youtube about the design work and the projects of the Endeavour;)
Good morning! Dr.Marks! Hope you doing well!
Can you please make a video about Glutamate in the brain!
Hi, Dr.Tracey! Can bipolars develop schizophrenia if they don't treat bipolar disorder with medication? I've hesrd that there's a connection between these 2 disorders. Is it true? I've been diagnosed as bipolar 1 and there are 2 schizophrenics in my family, so this possibility concerns me. Could you do a video about it? Thanks, Isabel ❤
Focus on:
1. Past-positive
2. Future-oriented
3. Present-hedonistic
4. Past-negative
5. Present-fatalistic
my body is programed to look for matching digits in time. it's like automatic. i'll glance at the time and it'lll be something like 1:11, or 2:22. stuff like that. Even when i wake up in the middle of the night, it'll be 3:33. Even the clock on the stove (which is the wrong time) will show that. I dunno what it's all about, but my body is automatically programed to look for each day.
HOWEVER! ... I also always catch the "ALMOST" matching digits. So I will see a lot of 1:12. Or 3:34. Like I just missed it. It's just so strange that my body knows when to look. I don't consciously think about it.
Age 25 male
Plz tell me about olanzapine 5mg em taking this med from 7 months as i saw reviews of this med that it causes diabetes plz help me out em so confused whether to continue or not plz help me out for gods sake and why doctors don't tell this to patients
What about someone like me. I try not to think about the past or the future. I just kinda do what I gotta do at that moment rather good or bad.
I think of time as an artifact of general relativity and the geometry of space. When I stand, time is moving slower at my feet than at my head. What we experience as gravity is actually just the energy that binds our subatomic particles seeking its lowest energy state, which happens to correspond with the longest geodesic path of travel and thus slowest “time” when matter curves space around itself.
Minute amounts of “time travel” are needed for matter to behave the way we experience it on Earth (technically, no two Planck coordinates within you are aging at the same rate), and this can be measured with atomic clocks.
@@willywagtail4182 Sorry.. what it is the point of you writing this.. for your ego or for the benifit of others.. no offence intended ..genuine question ..if "you" just BE "not doing "you can actually experience no time ..best feeling ever!!?(But the catch is there's no you!)
That is amazing information. I grew up on Ray Bradbury, Kurt Vonnegut etc. with a sci-fi junkie for a mom. So much of what they have written intertwines with Einstein, Hawking, deGrasse Tyson, etc. Now I pose a question: Is it possible that species developed to think with their heads instead of their feet because the gravitational pull is less? Even snakes lift their heads. We’re rooted to gravity through our feet, they already have quite a job. Whereas the head otherwise would be relatively useless, and many times is, lol.
I knew of Ted the singer/ voice over guy, but your scientific also?
Okay?
@@BigBeanBilly 💓
Dr. Marks, can you make a video about mixed personality disorder?
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Your mental health is like a garden. It needs to be nurtured and cared for in order to thrive.
Water it regularly with self-compassion.
Fertilize it with positive thoughts and experiences.
Weed out negative self-talk and limiting beliefs.
Prune away the things that are draining your energy.
Protect it from the elements of stress and anxiety.
Now do one on time blindness.
Your visuals are amazing do you have a visual collaborator its amazing 🔥🔥🔥❤❤❤
Thank you but the credit goes to my editors www.5filmsmedia.com/
@@DrTraceyMarks well i love ur content, thank u for the link!
Hey there Dr. Marks. Just wanted to point out: there's a bit of grittiness to your microphone quality in this video which is a little bit distracting and I think I noticed it in micro-dosing video too. Just thought you should know.
Edit: if it's actually your voice though and not a microphone issue, please know it's not overly distracting to the point where it ruins the quality of the video, it's easy to get used to.