Tara Palmer Tomkinson & The Struggle of Addiction | HOW ARE YOU FEELING | WEEK 5
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- čas přidán 6. 03. 2018
- ** Originally Posted on Feb 15 2017 **
This week Nadia and Mark take a closer look at one of the biggest and toughest questions to answer - the meaning of life. Covering everything from the impact of over-thinking, chasing perfection and feeling full of life, but not being able to connect with it. They also touch poignantly on the death of Tara Palmer-Tomkinson and her own struggles with addiction in her life.
It completely resonates with me what mark is saying through this video.
Man I just want to keep posting on this video cos the content is soooooo good. Nadia you do have amazing emotional intelligence and intuition
Thank you for being so open & honest it’s really helping me know I’m not alone. Big hugs to you both x
I really relate to mark. I understand everything thing he is saying because I’m exactly the same and it’s mentally exhausting. I wouldn’t wish my mind on anyone it’s an awful way to live I’m always on high alert and can never just relax and be “ normal” .
robbo291181jessica I’m the same and I’d say the most helpful thing has been therapy and learning to love myself more as corny as it sounds
Everything we do is pointless in the long run. Just accept it.
Absolutely everything you said, Mark. All my life (46 years) I've lived with that exact thought process, that constant, endless battle; a war within oneself. It is, at times, all consuming. You know the world is Technicolor but, when that cloak of darkness descends, your world becomes black and white. There exists both a numbness of being, and an acute overload of sensations coexisting at the same time; an endless noise and an inability to hear.
I believe why we turn to oblivion (or long to, as recovering addicts), is to still the noise, the sensory overload, the restlessness, the creeping sense that something awful is 'round the corner, and to feel something, anything, other than numb.
The upside, the payoff, is that because we are capable of feeling such painful depths of darkness, we in turn are capable of feeling such depths of love, lightness, laughter, joy, wonder that people who don't suffer a lifetime battle with depression are unable to experience. This is because we don't take the Technicolor (when we DO see it) for granted. And when we see it, it's suddenly intoxicating: we absorb every pixel for however long it lasts. Life would be so much easier, more peaceful if that darkness didn't exist, but it would be less beautiful too.
I over think everything I can’t help it 🤷🏻♀️ & it’s drove me insane. I’ve tortured myself. Life’s hard & we won’t ever really know why we are here or the meaning of it. I sometimes think this is hell & we are being tested every day of our life’s.
Brilliant stuff I'm early in recovery I need this nadia n Mark I don't feel on my own x
Sending you both love and light. It's not easy just to cheer yourself up when your down. All I would say is "this too will pass" easier said than done, however, it is true. It was awful about Tara. I never met her, however, I could sense by just watching her on the telly she was a good soul.RIP. The shock of Caroline Flack taking her own life has a similar shocking effect. She was also talented and full of life, now it's hard to grasp this life is no more.
I remember Tara on Fame Academy and she was a wonderful person. ❤
Nadia is so right. But man I can relate to Mark. Crikey. I’m so curious and I think about things deeply all the time and it can get so exhausting.
Rebecca Ellliott
It is thought that creates our sorry.
Be physiologically in the present moment, for it is energizing and vibrant, and full of happiness, the opposite of the exhausting thoughts, ;-)
And what a lovely tribute to Tara guys ❤️
The moment is never gone unless your thoughts are controlling you.
The moment is where everything is, truth, love, joy, and happiness.
But most people don't know how to be happy.
Because people do not choose to be unhappy.
They are unhappy because they don't know how to be happy.
Sustainable happiness can only be found physiologically in the present moment.
Your thoughts are always about the past or the future, they take you out of the present moment, destroying your present happiness. Fears of the future or hurts from the past. Thoughts are what causes our depression and sadness.
There is a vast area of living free of thoughts that most people are completely unaware of. A state of mind that is unburdened, light, bright, alert, and aware free of thoughts.
Even thinking about nice memories from the past will eventually bring sadness, because that happy time in the past ended and you want it repeated, so you feel sad.
We are so preoccupied with the past or the future that we are not living in the present. Watch people walking in public and look how many of them have their heads down looking at the ground, deep in the past or future worries. That's if they are not already looking down into their mobile phones.
When you realize that the world is a much more shiftier place than you thought it was when you were young, and there is not always a happy ending, but just endings it's hard. I blame children's story books and holy books for filling our young little impressionable brains with fairy tales and lies that we just have to untangle land sadly let go of down the road and it's hard, or worse yet never untangle them and never see reality. Now in reality realize it is short and precious and you must make the most of every minute you have whilst you still have it. Love the ones who are worthy in your life while you can.
Love, love, love these chats, but they are impossible to hear!! The volume on my laptop is at max and all I can hear is mumbling. Is it just happening to me??
yep - just listened to it fine here xx
Must say Mark is very handsome
I’ve seen him skipping
Our external awareness becomes insensitive to the beauty around us because we are preoccupied with our past hurts or future worries.
Our awareness is constrained due to our thoughts.
Thoughts are destructive and distracting from the present moment.
Can you just be without thoughts being the engine of your actions?
This concept goes completely against our western social conditioning.
Eventually, we lose our awareness and sensitivity. We don't see or hear the beautiful butterfly, or notice the babies innocent smile, or feel the wind in our hair, or the colours in nature, because we are so occupied in our thoughts.
We have stooped 'being', and are all 'becoming', chasing, accumulating, to be richer, to be cleverer, to be successful, to be enlightened.
Truth, happiness, joy, love, enlightenment, it's all here in the present moment, not over there somewhere.
We don't have to travel, all we have to do is to be, and observe without judgement.
Do I want to take him for a week ??? Nadia, NO !! He is gorgeous , but my husband is just like this . He thinks just like Mark. Tara Palmer Tompkinson was so effervescent and attractive . Who knew the torment. ?? I felt angry when Amy Winehouse died . And now more recently Caroline Flack . I suddenly feel like I want to cry . Blimey !🙏
Is it not the ego that asks what is the meaning to life.
Why should there be a greater meaning to life?
It's important what YOU do with your life.
If we are psychologically living in the moment, would you need any meaning? Would you need any hope?
Why destroy your present reality with an imaginary future worry that may never come at all?
It's people's thoughts that is the cause of their sorry.
Be in the moment free of your thoughts and ego.
Be comfortable with the self, and do not escape and distract from the self.
Understand how your engine works or you will forever have trouble with your car.
Be proud of your children growing up to become responsible adults.
But don't use them to escape from your own loneliness.
It is wrong to state that everything is a negative, please look into your children's eyes in the moment and tell me that again?
Check out The 12d shield by Lisa Renee on utube. It protects your electro magnetic body from negative thought forms etc
Fucking lucky!
Mark, read Isaiah 41: 10.
Tara was a drug addict. She didn't have depression, not in the true sense. Drug paranoia is not depression, it's a by product being a junkie. Before anyone says addiction is a disease, it's not, it's a choice.
And you wonder why you can't get on Gogglebox? Get over yourselves lol
@@marymcgee9993 I don't wonder any such thing. I don't know what led you to think such nonsense.
Maybe drugs?