Why men won’t commit & women have 'unrealistic' standards
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- čas přidán 30. 11. 2023
- Today’s conversation is long overdue! I wanted to have a real, raw, conversation around singleness and dating, especially in these times where so many opinions are flying around, leaving young people confused and discouraged. Who better to unpack this with than the IFBNW herself??? We’re discussing why men won’t commit, if women really have unrealistic standards, marriage shaming, movies on the 1st date, and so much more.
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Hey guys, thank you for your patience 🥺🤍 this was all I could put up, the full audio episode is available on Apple & Google Podcasts, Spotify, Anchor & everywhere you have podcasts
Please I can't find your account on sportify
Hi Ezinne, I couldn't find the continuation of this episode on the Apple podcast, what is the episode's title?
Love love lovveeeddd every bit of this conversation😍🥰🥰❤️ Thank you and God bless you Mrs Ezinne Zara🙏✨️
Valuable lesson learnt: Whatever you’ve started with God and He has approved of, will be sustained by Him. Don’t leave God out of the equation.
Stephan speaks said “some men will be lessons, some will be a waste of time and one will be the man God has for you.”
8:31 When she mentioned that she had asked God to give her signs to know if she should be in that relationship was very interesting to me. In my personal growth as a renewed and more open Christian, I've learned to pay more attention to patterns rather than signs. We keep hoping for this one big event or occurrence to say "Yes this is it, this is the sign I've been hoping for" but you'll save yourself a lot of time and heartache by paying more attention to patterns or repeating habits, actions, responses & situations that incur doubt or pain in your interactions and relationships with others.
If you're able to identify this and actually act on it you exponentially increase your awareness, conviction and self respect too.
I pay attention to patterns too because it certainly leading somewhere. We are formed by patterns
Definitely agree with this. Sometimes you can ask/hope for a certain sign and the enemy will bring that to confuse you. I think the sign should not be asked for in isolation. I.e. we should also check habits, whether or not we have peace, what others say about the relationship (like parents, close friends...)
I feel like being single with God is different than being single and in the world. When I’m focused on God there’s always something new to learn / to do each day. I’m so consumed with pleasing the Lord that I’m like am I even ready for a husband LOL. But when I was in the world I was always left wanting.
I’m halfway through and I’m screaming because the timeliness and accuracy of this episode, my whole life literally. Thanks ezinne ❤❤❤
See God! 🥺
This might be unrelated but I just got clarity on “The fruit of the Spirit is…”
I always hear it and I’ve never understood why a fruit can be many things but like I just got it because a fruit can actually be many things😭😭😭
I’m still so young but I remember I wasn’t interested in marriage and I in fact thought that I was called to lifetime consecration. In fact I mocked some singles like me who prayed for their future husbands😅 but I suddenly started to desire it and I made an agreement with the Lord that I’ll only start praying for the husband at the end of 2023 and it’s the end of 2023😂 This video is so timely and I’m grateful ❤
Me toooooo 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I literally had the plan to start praying about it by 2024, and 2024 is already here😂
I was in this table too but God is helping me to understand his way and there by praying for my spouse too❤😊
I was just listening to your podcast on boomplay and i heard the part where you said don't marry potentials, marry a person that is ready to grow.
It really hit hard bcus I've always had this thought in head❤
As we all know, we not perfect or above mistakes, but being with someone that is always ready to change and has an open minded to grow is a very wonderful thing❤
me I have no experience dating, and my POV on marriage has changed over the years. I have moved from being certain that I didn't want marriage, to being super busy with life and career, then, like Ifeoma said, knowing that there were things that I needed to work on (my mind, relationship with God, my convictions, even about relationships and marriages) before (thinking of) bringing someone else into the equation.
Now, though, as someone who's evolved (on all sides) and recognises their consecrated life, I may have fallen into the pit of not attempting anything (opening myself up) until I have confirmation from God about it, like Ezinne pointed. Or, maybe I'm just guarded/critical and do not want any man to show me shege...with the situation of the streets being what it is
Ezinne with the “uuuuh uuh “😹😹
what I took from this video is youtrain yourself to be a better wife from how you treat others
This conversation was really gooooddd and intelligent in every sense of it. I could relate with what Ifeoma said about not wanting to date for while then all of a sudden, you begin to desire it and I'm like, yea, that's me. There were lots of learning points for me. Also that we as women, become honest with ourselves that we are not always the victims in situations and we, too, do have our own flaws. It's also not a bad thing to pray for your relationship and marriage even as you desire to be in one. Thinking about it, I feel it's a good way to put the desire into good use. lol. I enjoyed this conversation. Thank you Ezinne 💜. Heading to the pod to continue.
Ohhhh! I went through what ifeoma just talked about at the beginning ..me and God agreed that Pls just close this door for me cos I'm not super there yet yet...nothing happening..crazy enough God's been propelling me to pray for my marriage slowly
#thankful
Learnt and confirmed alot...thank you 🥰
The intro goes crazyyyy well done Ezinne
This was so good❤
The last stage of acceptance ❤️
Thank you for sharing
So grateful for this video❤
Learnt alot😊
Thank you for this, love every second of it
I truly enjoyed this! Niceeee! ❤
Thank you so much Ezinne for this video and I’ll like to thank ifeoma for being so honest and relatable. ❤
This is so insightful! Thank you Ezinne
Thank you for sharing, Ifeoma.
Thanks for sharing ❤
Thank you so much Ezinne and Ifeoma for sharing. This conversation was definitely needed.
Thank you so much for sharing this
🥺🥺🥺 I'm so happy for this, this is something I've been waiting for
Thanks Zinny and Ify❤️
I was jotting and putting down lessons
Carrying God along even after hearing from Him is the master Key 🔑
I felt blessed by this thank you so much!❤
Wow, thank you Ezinne❤
Loved every part of this❤
Thank you very much Ezinne and Ifeoma🤝Very informative and educative🙏😊
Thank you ma@Ezinne Zara.
If God has approved my relationship, I still need Him in every phase and conversation. Getting a go ahead is the most simplest things God can approve of, Keeping my relationship needs more of God's approval.
Thank you ma
Ezinne I love your podcast!
This was sooooo wholesome.❤
Ah, this episode will be juicy. Let's dig innnn >>>
It's here!☺️
OMG i kept laughing and screaming like you guys took the words from my heart i was as excited as ifeoma 😂😂😂 so much to take in thank you guys ❤
Thank you for sharing. I laughed and learned too😊
Thank you so much for this conversation. Related to this on so many levels, learned and laughed a lot too😂😂
So beautiful. Thanks for sharing❤
The way I shouted when I got this notification 😂❤
I thoroughly enjoyed this.
Watching this video has just enlightened me to go to God and have conversations with Him about relationships, cause He’s the one that knows it best.
I’ve sort of been depending too much on societal advice and not talking to God about it often.
Thank you Ezinne and Ifeoma 🥰🥰
I really enjoyed this episode😂❤
This video came at the right time, for sure! ♥
This is beautiful ❤
Ezinne thank you for all your videos. So profound.
I love your podcast
I love love this video already. Thank you Mrs Ezinne for posting❤
Thank you so much for this video, Ezinne and Ifeoma. I've learnt a lot ❤ It was definitely a heart to heart, spirit to spirit conversation.
This was so timely😊🎉
I love how Ifeoma speaks, sooo good😍❤️
I listened to the podcast on Spotify last night, I’m even more excited to be seeing it here again.
Thank you Ezinne and IFBNW.
God bless you.😊
This ‘we need to talk’ table😂
I always look forward to these 🥹🥹♥️
Seriously, thank you Ifeoma and Ezinne for talking about this. It's so needed.
10:44😂😂 ‘’This can’t be it o’’
Exactly what I thought too! I went back for further confirmation because my expectations were so unreal😆
Waouh this podcast is SO edifying 😳 I’m so glad to hear that before getting into a relationship. Thanks girl ✨🤍
Okay. I lovvee this conversation. Thank you for this video❤❤
Thank you Ezinne and Ifeoma, this was timely and made me see things in a clearer light❤️
That was pretty good. Thanks girls.
Fruit of the spirit! That's deep.
First off, I found IFBNW when you brought her on the podcast last season and have been following her on IG since then. A super wise and fun woman!! 😍😂😍 I'm glad you brought her back esp for this convo. I just finished watching here, would def catchup on the full version soon 🥳💃🏾
Thank you ❤
Bruh it's like ifeoma and I were in the same situation
Im glad she shared this
It blessed me!
Love you bothhhhh❤
Very valid points. Those three points are so important to me too. I appreciate this , its very relatable
God bless you ma'am
this is so timely, God thank you for bringing me to watch this
Ooooofff!! What a wonderful video this is, I learnt quite a number of things. Firstly, let me say that I love your smile and your aura Ezinne❤. Ifeoma is such a lively lady and sooo prettyyy. Ladies filled with wisdom! God bless you both ❤🙏🙏
This is my first time hearing from Ezinne Zara and I loved this conversation
Oh my God . Ezinne God bless you for bringing ifeoma, ifeoma you diad exactly what happened to ke this year , omo i could relate to your story 😊
I can't wait to watch this.
Thank you Ezinne
I can relate to Ifbnw so much omgggg
"Going out more and wearing less omdsss" 😂😂 Ezinne pleaseee 😂😭 7:30
The way this content is reaching the right people is amazing. Thank you very much 🥹 and may God continue to bless you
This was so fun to watch and eye opening at the same time❤
Thanks you our honorable host for always and God bless and keep ifeoma too😍
Ifeoma is literally just like mee wow 😭
I really really enjoyed this episode. You guys opened my mind, said a lot of truths and created a balance about that topic of God said. I also got inspired to pray for my Marriage didn't really see it as important. Thank you Ezinne❤
Hi Ezinne, I really enjoyed watching this. When I saw this appear more than once on my feed, I knew I definitely had to watch it. One of my major takeaways was that it is God who is ultimately love that would carry the both of you through when you're in a relationship and not necessarily just how you feel towards each other.
It's very encouraging seeing this content. Thank you very much❤.
I can't wait to check out the full episode💃
This is so hilarious 😂
Nooooooooooooo I didn't want it to end🥺😫😣
Gloryyyy. The video is up
Our God! 20:20 when you talk about how God’s ses His children is amazing. I have learned a lot from your videos. Thanks!
That beginning 😂
This video was for me
Peace, Anger, Disappointment, Sadness and Acceptance
The Truth is that, what is termed as unrealistic standards , is actually GOD, speaking to the woman , of how HER MAN, should be. Only what is GOOD comes from GOD, and not with is average, or trying. Now this doesn't mean HE should be 100% when you meet HIM, but GRACE can make that happen. If He isn't, then you both have to work your way up to that level. You the Woman, should note that you must be that thing, that you must have those features, that you need your Husband to have.
I enjoyed very minute of this ma'am! So much lessons to learn. I'd really love that we get more of this topics, it's nice to hear topics like this on a christian/Godly view. God bless you! More strength ❤
Wise women 💜
God will not speak bad about His children! Hmmmm!! 🔥🔥Reminds me of the story of Job
I recently started talking to a guy I met on a dating app..we met and everything was okay...when I came back I unmatched him...now I feel quity...he haven't really reached out to me even tho he have my number.. I feel he is my person. At the same time I feel he has somebody serious
Thank you for this but a little constructive criticism,,, please allow your guest to speak and finish before interrupting 💙
Done with the pod! We go again!❤❤
Please for the link. I can't find it on sportify
Where do we get the full video??
Ifeoma is me, me is Ifeoma😅
Omo my faves oo 😍. Let me like 10,000 times
Are you on Spotify?
Amen! Thank you Jesus for all that you're doing in my life and what you will continue to do.
I knew it was herrrr