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As a husband with adhd and a daughter with it as well I've found way too mange it and teach my daughter to comes too terms with her condition i explain to her that there nothing to be ashamed about her brain just works differently and she needs to work and handling it lucky i have a wonderful wife who been loving and supportive

The label still sucks. We already suffer from the stigma of appearing to be slow and incompetent. People think we are making a conscious choice to work slowly. Also the constant references to children leaves us adults feeling abandoned.

Excellent, thank you so much

god i love how much $ i seem to need to have to be an adhd mom, LOL i'm a single mom, this advice is for rich people, but thanks for trying i guess

Being ADHD myself, imo it maybe best if an ADHD person partners with another ADHD person or remains single as there’s a chasm between the Neuro-typical and Neuro-divergent behaviors and unless there is boundless love, understanding and empathy on both sides it’s bound to be a conflicted relationship. This divergence is not only problematic in romantic relationships but also in families and schools where Neuro-divergent people are forced to conform to a Neurotypical world. The ADHD brain is now being studied, researched bringing better understanding to both ADHD and non-ADHD alike; so we can learn to balance each other out.

1: medication 2: know your preferences vs your limits 3: meet weekly to plan practical things 4: make time for fun 5: good sex matters

My partner goes into a negative spiral over the silliest things. Yesterday there was a baseball game and we were both watching it and all was going well and the team partner likes was ahead and then in the last inning the manager did something -changed pitchers or something and partner's fav team lost by one point. Partner immediately had a tantrum. He started saying oh that manager he’s such an a hole and F him and he needs to leave or he should be fired and he was just going on and on. I kept saying “regulate regulate your emotions!”He continued on so I said is this useful ? is this helping you to repeat this over and over again about what an ahole The Team manager is? So it was almost 730 at night and I said I’m going to bed. I’m not gonna listen to this so I went in the bathroom and took a bath and he went in his room - we sleep apart-- and went to sleep. I thought how immature and ridiculous and I went to bed, about 830 and I slept OK but I woke up thinking about it. This morning partner was over it but how stupid to get so upset over a ball game and to carry on like a child! I feel so sad and hopeless. I want him to see his doctor but how many family doctors understand ADHD?

do you have specific help for adults working as a nurse? I am struggling with time management at work with getting charting and assessments done on time

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This is excellent information, and presented in a very organized manner. Thank you!

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And who cares about us, the spouses who live with an ADHD adult ?

It’s so funny that the reverse is almost always true. Most adult ADHD people have borderline and narcissistic personality disordered traits and characteristics. They overlap so much that it becomes a huge issue for where to draw the boundary between the ADHD and a personality disorder.

covert narcs are far more dangerous for mental health

I was diagnosed with ADHD in my fifties and realized that I'd been struggling with it all my life. Getting on medication for it was a blessing! Then my psychiatrist took me off of the medication (amphetamines) because she said it could lead to Alzheimers and I was in my early sixties. I"m 70 now and I really miss that medication! Does anyone know of some holistic medicines that would help?

If you feel like you cannot be sure of your memories, decisions, or opinions, then you are more susceptible to a don’t rock the boat bias, or to blindly trusting in the authority or knowledge if someone else, and you end up spending so much energy on dealing with that uncertainty that you cannot make plans that will potentially help you, especially if those plans are difficult, require courage, are risky, or if you are unsure of facts pertaining to those plans. So, for example, you don’t need to turn some one’s family against them if you can convince them they their family has abandoned them or are a threat. Also if you make someone constantly focus on external problems of exaggerated proportions or tgat are wholly fictitious, they have no ne tap energy or time to deal with the fact that you are in fact the real problem.

I tried many ADD medications and they worked its just that the come down was the worst thing ever for me so I had to stop. Id give anything to not have ADD or autism. Just let me keep my logical thinking. I feel like I dont belong anywhere.

The last time I tried to kill myself, my family wouldn't even see me in the hospital. In fact no one did, I had to cut off all communication via phones, because I realized they cared more about getting sleep for work than visiting me. F**** this worldl

Ong this is an amazing video. I have so much to learn n relate. love you forever.

For Perfectionists, it's a tragic self-fulfilling prophecy: By worrying about failure, our worry causes us to underperform. Whereas, if we were more carefree and had more confidence, our performance would better align with the high standards we set for ourselves.

I want to enroll as adha coach. Please suggest any site/online recognized institution

Amazing work

I ve been through it all. Next week bye bye 😂😂😂

Can you make this into some shorts. Its so boring I can't bear it

Yes the narcissistic/ toxic person most definitely weaponises your ADHD, mental health or vulnerability against you such as your memory etc. F.O.G = Fear, obligation, guilt

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Parenting with AHDH is so hard, especially when you're not diagnosed or newly diagnosed. When you start to understand how AHDH impacts you and your parenting style you begin to have a bit more compassion for yourself and learn methods and tips that work for you instead of trying things that don't work for someone with a unique brain ❤😊

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I didn’t know this was common for people with ADHD. I just got out of first relationship in college and was diagnosed while in college. I never built up what a relationship was supposed to look like growing up. My partner did treat me like I was nothing I didn’t know any better. He would rotate between the same people and cheat. He would verbally abuse me and not think he did anything wrong. I couldn’t even get him to understand the concept of empathy. I kept giving him chances because I thought he would change. I was going to leave before and then he started to try. He bought me flowers, he helped with things, and he took me out. It never got better I knew things were going to get worse. I never trusted him. I didn’t know how to leave without being pulled back in. I’m glad I left before things got more violent.

just diagnosed with ADHD and medicated 2 months ago. 33 yrs of marriage my husband is a saint he. Just said the medication has saved his life

The comments really prove that the real problem isn’t a “disability.” These are bad people.

My husband is 23 years old, Adhd only issue I use I had with him was lack of communication, but I love him a lot, and trying to keep our marriage works best. He is so kind ,geniun, more like a good friend of mine.

I'm in a relationship with someone who I think already has learned helplessness through their relashionship with their mother. We are still young and living with our parents, and their mother seams to always "cover" for his responsabilities, at the point that he doesn't even know where to start when he has to organize his own dresser. For me, who's parents almost never cover up for my responsabilities, even when I'm incapable of doing them due to relapses in my depression, it's even more frustrating to see that. He always asks for his mother for help with literally everything, and that would be fine if she didn't step in most of the time to just do the things for him instead of helping. I'm really friends with my his mom, and we've talked about her husbands behaviour, which i always called "weponized helplessness", because he's the kind of person to just say "oh, I can't do that, I don't know how to do it as well as you do" to every little thing, from housekeeping to simple tasks like going out to buy groceries. I've literally seem this 40 year old man promise for 2 whole days to go to the supermarket, that turned into "I'll go, but can you come with me hon? I don't know how to choose the right things" and finally she just gave in and went herself. I went with her because I felt so unconfortable with the whole situation, and on the way there she said to me that it was knnd of her fault for him being like that, cuz she always stepd in to cover for his lack of responsability. I just fear she's doing the same with my partner and it might become normalized to them. We've talked about their father's behaviour, and they also get really frustraded with it, but when I talk about how odd it feels that they go to their mother for everything and just let her do it for them, they really don't get why I get so irritaded. We've had some short-heated arguments about it. Of course, I could never compare them with their father, for multiple reasons but mostly because they're still young and might really need the help still. Sometimes I even stop to think if I'm not frustrated because I also need that help, but I can't and never had this need met with my parents. But even if I can attribute part of my frustration to this, I know there is part that's actually about them. I just don't know how to talk to them about it. One of my biggest fears is assuming a "parent" role in a romantic relationship, and sometimes I see myself doing things for them that are much of a mother kind of thing to do. But I can't stand things that they haven't got done be there for days, specially because I know that if it stays that way, their mother will end up doing it. And she's already pretty overworked being a stay at home and caring for a neurodivergent 3 year old and her manchild of a husband. So even if I ask my partner if they want help getting something done - help, not me doing it for them - and they decline, if it's still there the next day I'm so inclined to do it because of their mother. It just feels like a non win situation sometimes, you know? Anyways, I'm rambling here cuz I'm out of therapy for months now and I just started typing and couldn't stop anymore lol but if someone actually reads it, thanks for coming to my Ted Talk 🙏

I like to explain Executive Function as POSITIVE skills which stands for: Planning, Organization, Self-awareness, Initiation, Time-management, Inhibition, Visualizing outcomes, and Evaluating priorities.

Awesome thank you

Thank you. I first understood my mother was a covert narc, then my husband, got out of there, went to weekly therapy then finally discovering I have ADHD😢

This is quite something and needs to be watched and listened to over and over again.

That's a bright future step that I like to take in the near future

Hi, am here because my son had ADHD and he just committed suicide may 22, 2024 and he was 21. Am trying my best to understand why he did this, he did tell me back when he was 10 years old that he wanted to take he’s life because he said he couldn’t understand school and I did talk to him about it but I guess it wasn’t good enough. Am feeling heartbroken and wishing I could of done more

I always knew I was "different" but always overlooked ADHD, all I ever heard about it was that it was about hyperactivity and not being able to sit still. The fact it's so much different in women than men is why I missed what was under my nose. Hearing about girls with ADHD and some of the bizarre thing I do I thought were just Victoria things other girls with ADHD do. Like talking for a really long time really fast and not even pausing to swallow. I'm just so desperate to get everything out I'm like in a state of "I have to talk NOW, I have to say this NOW, I can swallow later" until five minutes later I'm sounding like Sid the sloth from Ice Age........and I'm still talking.

Great content and lots of informations about adhd. Thank you 😊

I've been in classrooms with the 'whirling dervish' ADHD child and the school has had no real resource or plan, despite the various IEP stuff. And, the effect is children being parked for hours each day, not learning much. I've watched this wondering how to be of service.

Dang when he said that fear of pain is a big factor of why we don’t commit suicide it hit me hard. If I wasn’t so scared of pain I would already be gone

Just realizing how blessed I am. I just git diagnosed inattentive type at 38, after post natal depressions, anxietydisorder and 3 burnouts. Everything makes sence now. But I'm lucky that my husband is my rock. We divide the complete care load, we work both part time. He has also all the appointments in his agenda for both of us, in case (often) I forget something. He knows what my ADD struggle is and looks out for me. But poor fella went through a lot with me. 😅 Sending out so much love to all the ADD moms.

I have to get all the shit together around the house, work and basically everything in everyday life what money can't buy. And i still feel sorry I can't make my spouse feel better while she's scrolling through useless Instagram crap. Or when she's walking up tired at 9 while I'm mixing concrete in my backyard since 7 am. Am I selfish?

Crap. Less than 5 min in and I have to rewind because my mind wondered. 🤦🏽‍♀️

Shooting for a B+ when my parents were dissatisfied by the one A- on my report card 💀🫠 feels rough, but I get how that Should help. Just feels rough

What an amazing and informative video ❤❤ Thank you😊

really emotional 😢

great video ! i really recommend more of these for us young women who are struggling thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️