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Absolutely perfect

He is like a living fluffy toy spider

This is my favorite story and teaching point from his book. I finally understood why I didn't feel heard. I love it when he explained that "All judgments are a tragic expression of unmet needs."

Of course there is much wisdom and kindness in the core practical guidance he offers, but there was a lot here that troubled me too - the attacks on thinking, the slightly messianic tone, the casually and unhesitatingly made massive, simplistic-seeming claims about the nature of all humanity and existence... After finishing this fourth video, I went and read Chapman Flack's essay 'The Subtle Violence of Non-Violent Communication'. Did a lot to clarify my misgivings. I strongly recommend it.

So satisfying

4th to comment!😂. But anyway, Marshall May say that anger means that we are not connected to our needs! But when he says anger i Think that hatred is more acurate! Anger is used to overcome obstacles, or quit in the case of frustration! In the case of hatred, we see the person we hate as Merkels an obstacle to us meeting our need, wich just leads us to want to kill Them, in order to destroy that obstacle, so that they Can meet their needs! Or to prevent Them from threatining other pepoles needs, like their need for safety!

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Always brilliant and so easy to forget. I am so grateful for Marshalls recordings. As I don't dip into the book as much as I could. 💓🙏🏽🌈🙌🏽🧿

Ameeeen pour toutes ces âmes qui ont soif de cette délivrance !!

How do you spell that word? 10:30 I been trying to look up Adolf Eichmann to find the word, but I can't track it down.

Brilliant - without communicating observable behavior, we only see “enemy images”. Thank you Marshall Rosenberg, whoever is running this channel and NVC. More of this in the world please.❤

Sadly, even after 10 years since this event, the US still sends weapons to support the genocidal Israeli army, and there is little concern among American politicians for what is happening in Palestine.💔

Thank you for that channel and for bits of knowledge from Mr Rosenberg❤

That one made me cry!

0:47 resolution, solution will find us when the connection is there I love that phrase! But connection could take much longer to establish & it is not as simple as pointing out to the needs. How to come to connection? - this should be the focal point of work. To start with there is a trust, empathy & listening, letting it all out in the open. But we still are lost in forcing NVC-logic & quick fix for the show. This is a show. And he is enjoying his show.

Static language - I would expand on it. And I'd begin with giving it symbolic pictures. It is like a crutch, lost in unfinished learning curve. It is like a template. It is dead. Because it is just a container. Life is dynamic & constantly pulsating 💓 - expanding & contracting. The static is just a snapshot of it, if we would stop it for a moment, freeze it, but we can't stop life, so it is bubbling along without any concern for us - we can or we can't catch up with it. Dynamic language is all inclusive, it include unacceptable, it include all the static elements of it in its flow. This is what so hard to grasp with understanding, because understanding itself is static, we only understand what is old.

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Thank you so much!!! Can you let me know where to find the source video? Is this a training video or course?

Thank you so much for posting this! This source video is private, where can I find the full length version?

Does this work in written communication such as email or text? Also when expressing I need xxx can we say I appreciate communication for example?

Become aware of what alienating story it is that you were telling yourself which causes you to become angry

Never trust a man in clip klops

Because that’s what you are a scrourger

Thankyou

I was deeply disappointed with my cognitive behavioural therapist training because I could not see any depth or human understanding. A colleague brought DVDs with Marshall Rosenberg to our monthly peer supervision. 4 of us watched many hours together and Marshall did not disappoint. He made our lives better.

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Did this amazingly crazy mofo invent this stuff?

I loved Marshall

Shame the path Jordan Peterson chose to walk. His old lecture videos are magical.

This channel is amazing, more ppl should know about it

Lovely

Need of the hour! I feel this is one of the greatest gift to the humanity by Sir Marshal.

Self-fullness and full empathy - they change the world ❤️

the only way to stop hurting other people is to become a nice dead-person

so, what's an empathic reaction to the initial statement?

"When people trust that you value what is alive in them, what they are feeling and needing in the moment. ....this makes compassionate connecting much easier."

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"Never put your but in the face of an angry person." That is just brilliant. That is good advice for living a peaceful life. I have to remember this to be able to live by it!

Ok Thank you

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Excellent. Now, I understand

Don’t do anything that isn’t play. Interesting concept to take into practice.

Here's my notes on today's video: Say what we want and not what we don't want - in the positive. It has to be clear action language (doable action). Say, "I would like you to ..." The person should think that it is a request and not a demand. How do we react when they don't do what we want? That is how people would know whether it is a demand or request. It is not about the tone but the reaction of the person. Don't use manipulation but we can be "dogging" for our needs. Make a request and not a demand. "Could you tell me what I was requesting so that it doesn't sound like a demand?" How do we treat people when they don't do what we want? Wishing that we could all communicate the NVC way.

I so delight watching Marshall act out jackal and giraffe on "will you love me" with his puppets. Bringing play into such an important subject and powerful concept.... I'm smiling, loving how unassuming, playful moments like this continue to change and grow me.

Praise the effort expended and trying various strategies to reach a desired goal, in a "not yet" mindset, per Carol Dweck.

I think that "no" said politely, should be considered a valid choice when used by women, since we rarely use it. No is a complete answer.

What he misses (perhaps because of this time period?) is that men tend to go right to solution and "fix" women or our problems. Men historically have a hard time finding and using words that express feelings and needs, not rewarded in a patriarcal society. Women are socialized to identify feelings and we have a much larger vocabulary and experience with other women in articulating them. Sometimes for women, expressing needs and what we want specifically, is tough if we have been primarily focused on and rewarded for focusing on and meeting others'/mens' needs. Our voices are historically and today, ignored or overlooked, even if the motivation is not evil. But..."the road to hell is paved with good intentions."

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