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33 yo single and childfree woman from Sweden here 👋

For the first time in my life (I am 33) I have found a woman like myself 😂 Relate to everything you are saying

Hearing you speak about not having the qualities needed to be the parent you want to be is exactly why I do not want kids. Physical touch and constant noise would totally DRAIN me and I would not be able to control my temprament around my kids no matter how much I would love them. The ”selfish” argument is so stupid and so wrong.

As I m reading lately on some public comments: DONT Explain Yourself To Demons.. Who are Commited to Lies!!!!

If you're childfree, stop wasting time talking about being childfree and start living your childfree life.

You did not change the conversation. Of course you have the right to decide for yourself. What I think is that you young people need to re-evaluate marriage and family. I believe this concept is lost. To that I would ask: do you have a responsibility to your nation? In the near future we have the effects of climate change war, famine, economic and political collapse. In less than 100 years the world population will be reduced to 3 billion. I will die in less than 30 years, you will die in less than 60 years. Since you don't have a child, that will be the end. So what will come next? A new civilization created by those who survive what is coming. I hope it will be a matriarchical society. I hope men will know what circumcision is. I hope there will be no tolerance for religion, but replaced by a true understanding of GOD. The change is inevitable. I will die soon, but you can still change the conversation. Chief, US Navy, retired.

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Nothing wrong with being alone, its alot less stress.

Are you on the spectrum?

I was sent my own way

I’m incapable of dating, my personality is too avoidant. I’m not happy about it but I’ve made peace with it.

Here is a thought for you. Have you ever tried just dating. No relationships, just dating. This way you don’t have to call them up and tell them what you are doing. This way, people are not really a burden on your life. You call them up and say, “want to go out tonight”? If they are busy, oh well, just call the next one. Be like Charlie Scheen in Two And A Half Men, just without all the sex. lol. I’m not trying to tell you what to do, this is more where my head is at with dating. I do hear you about other people becoming exhausting.

I will be honest, you are smart and attractive. This could be why some men get mad at this. It is like loosing a really good athlete from your team roster. I hate that comparison but it is the best one I can think of at the moment.

The reason not dating is such a foreign concept to me is because I enjoy it. I want to start dating again badly. The reason I don’t date is due to money. That is it. Once I get my job situation in order, I can’t wait to jump back into that ring. I guess it never really dawned on me that some people just don’t like it.

Yup I stopped dating in my 30s and I’m 45 now. My life is more peaceful and problem free this way. ❤ I also don’t get lonely.

similar situation here! now at 40 and single since about 5 years. not interested into dating, not even interested in women neither lol. too much energy and time...better off when life is just simple and no hassles

Please do not argue with people - you really don't owe them that, it is non of anyones business

The longer you arre single, the better you feel, you suddently realize that you are really FREE for the first time in your life

Same girl. Been single for most of my life. It hasn't even occurred to me and always seemed like something “other people” do, and I haven't felt lonely at all. I thought I'd get interested in dating by this point, but not at all. I don't care how attractive somebody is, if they disturb my peace, or I have to compromise in a way that I didn't have to before I met them, I'm automatically not interested!

Can’t relate as a hopeless romantic 😂

I decided not to pursue relationships at 31 years old after another traumatic breakup. I'm 59 now. Worked out fine for me. I'm a quiet introvert too. I've never been lonely either. I have a good life and peace.

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It is OK not to date its a matter of choice its not compulsory leave people make their own choices they have a right to say no if they aren't interested. Screw the controversy its pointless.

I'm honestly kind of the same.. I had maybe one interest in a boy once in school but soon lost it and to this day I still have no desire to find someone I may or may not stay single.. I'm still only 24.

Congrats and good on you to be happy as a single person. 👍 I wish more people would be this outspoken about being single. I am almost 50 and have never been in a relationship with a significant other. Ik have had 'dates' in the past but it takes a lot to maintain a relationship and I am not into that. I am happy to be single and go around when I want to. I don't have to consider the feelings/doings of a partner. You can be alone even when you are in a relationship with a partner. Being alone is not about the status wether you are in a relationship or not but about feelings. I am from the Netherlands and I noticed that a lot of North Americans are obsessed to get married and marry their first love after highschool and when that relationship strands they are on the need to find someone else. I ask myself WHY. Why can't you be happy alone and do you really need someone to be happy?

Just be honest. You are desexed

i have never dated anyone ever and no one really bats an eye xD

Lol. You're not actually single if u catch my drift 💦💦💦💦💦💦💦💦

You have to consider someone else when making food? You might have had a puppy not a relationship.

Being an adult about it that is rare

Friends last longer than lovers ...

I was married once, I've had several relationships although each one was at least 5 years apart, and they didn't last forever. Basically I've been single a huge majority of my adult life. Yes I have three children who are all adults and one grandchild. My boyfriend / significant other actually lives several states away and we get along just fine. Neither one of us dates other people, we just keep each other company by phone and that's good enough for us. We're able to share our day, our adventures, all kinds of things without obligations. And we don't get upset if we don't hear from the other one for a few days.

There are certain spots in this where she starts talking so fast that I cannot understand what she's saying.

I've been single my whole life. 😂 I just turned 35. I've been on some dates, of course, but they were more traumatizing than anything. I have no desire to date, and that's okay.

My mum understands this quite well. She thinks some people aren't a fit for marriage or long term relationships and thats ok. Her reasons are grounded in religiosity, but she's actually super empathetic in this respect and I've come to appreciate it. Henry Rollins doesn't date. He's quite happy

My mom dumped a lot of responsibility on me when I was a child, at age 11 I had 2 brothers I had to “look at after”. I had to be her shoulder to lean on when she was having problems with her now ex-husband. Now, at the age of 40 I’m so happy I’m childfree, I refuse to place such burdens on a child. She called me selfish for not wanting children and the kicker is she has no grandchildren at all. My brothers don’t have kids either. The three of us saw the struggle for what it was, a struggle. Life is hard, why make it harder?

Bumped into this video, thought of staying 'till the end. The biggest bump here is the push, to date, one gets. a) To love others requires you to love yourself first. b) You will not experience 'love' towards others who you are attracted to physically exclusively. Finding yourself in someone else is so much more to be cherished and so-so much more intimate. Being single and by yourself =/= being left alone for who you are. I had to grow up, took a good 8 years or so after a quite bumpy breakup. Now, I have a job, a car, a flat - and I fare pretty good at keeping all these things together. I became lucky to know someone who has a lot in common with me, we try sacrificing our time in favor of the other one. It is hard, but also is mighty rewarding. For me, it was time to either sink or swim; see if I was worthy of companionship or not. Of course, it is daunting. It takes energy, planning, sacrifices. But nobody is really holding a gun to anyone's head. You either take on a relationship, or you do not.

I like your channel, hope to see more content from you.

You're interesting

I don't date either- over two years and I don't think I truly feel the need to, and that's okay.

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well tatoo can be removed or covered with makeup at the very least

Good that having people holding you accountable works. I tend to find that has the opposite effect but I treat being creative like a workout. I've had stories I lacked confidence in but I'd bring them to my weekly writing group anyway. Keeping the habit has served to ensure I'm making incremental steps even if it's often slower than I'd like. I once had a writing partner but we did it before we were friends, not because we brought out the best in each other and it didn't work out for those reasons

Even if you have one child, it's not enough. People will say you're selfish for focusing your efforts and resources on just one and not giving them a sibling. Doesn't matter if you had a rough pregnancy, have health problems, disabilities--people really can't keep their mouth shut about other people's reproduction or family planning. I do have a kid and it's been the best thing. I adore her more than life itself. I love teaching and watching kids grow and learn, and I think kids are hilarious and wonderful. How've, once you have a kid you can't prioritize yourself the same way-- your interests and needs and desires take a backseat to their wellbeing and opportunities. It's not fair or reasonable to expect everyone to do that. So you have your kid, sacrifice your goals and dreams to prioritize them and give them opportunities, and then when they grow up everyone demands that they do the same thing and have their own child...It seriously doesn't make sense. I love having my child and I wouldn't change my situation for the world, but I'd never encourage anyone else to do it if it isn't 100% something they know they would love and find fulfilling. Also, when it comes to the self-oriented benefits of having a kid: unconditional love, bonding and connection and the joy of caring for someone can be found with a pet too. My cats are a very fulfilling source of meaning in my life. Feeding the local flocks of birds in my backyard gives me a similar sense of joy, too.

You are too old anyway. You've lost 90% of your sexual value.

People need to give more consideration to the lifelong impacts of childhood experiences. If you f up as a parent it will affect that human for the rest of their life... Let that sink in! The decision to have children or not needs to be a conscious decision not a plan b because you had a whoops, I guess we'll find out if I'm going to be a good parent because now I'm staring down the barrel of parenthood. For or against, THINK about the human being you are going to bring into this world and the quality of life they will have because of your parenting (or lack thereof)

having children is, to me, the domain of the religious. That’s not to say non-religious can’t have kids; of course they can. I just mean it’s part of religious instruction. If you’re not religious, it follows that you would not have children, or perhaps I should paraphrase: it would make sense that religious people have more children than the non-religious. This ultimately means that our future is more conservative than it is liberal

Witnessing my parents raise my brother and I caused me to grow up thinking that I would never want to get married and have kids because it looked awful. They were constantly stressed, exhausted, overwhelmed, unhappy, angry and argued all the time. Also despite them both working 50+ hours a week, they struggled financially. I felt like a burden and believed their lives would have been so much better without my brother and I to care for. I am now in my 40's and happily child-free. Ironically, i have been with my partner for 22 years and we are happy being a DINK: Dual Income, No Kids!

I don’t have a reason to date or be a wife. I can pump my own gas buy my own jewelry provide and take care of my own

Married with kids but I think millenials are increasing building their own family support system. We have a group of families who support one another and help with child care. We go camping and have planned a big vacation. My immediate family is all overseas and I've consciously prioritized my relationship with them over certain in laws. Whilst it isn't perfect they have shown up, often when it mattered most, far more than others who expect loyalty without offering support. No thanks!