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Hi, Milena. My mom has dressed modest since I could remember and I am now 28 years old. She wears shorter shorts around the house. Because of the modesty within her heart, I’ve never looked at her and thought, “you’re fake for wearing short shorts at home but not in public”. As Joanna said, I knew that my mom was being comfortable in her home and most importantly she wore modesty in her heart. So, I would say to be sensitive to continue being sensitive to the Holy Spirit when he says to change the length and fit of your home. ❤

The “modesty” that Pentecostals refer to are unfortunately pinned as a certain specific thing ie: no pants. It stems from their interpretation of women not dressing in men’s clothing. And really has nothing to do with modesty. I fear that talking about modesty without confronting this misuse of scripture is hard to listen to. There is freedom in Christ and the religiosity of legalism where this stems from and I’ve seen the new wave of this legalism rewrapped as “doing it for Jesus”. Context in scripture is important. And I hope that everyone remembers that the Spirit convicts us from sin and coming from Pentecostal background, the dressing modestly outlook emphasizes more on our “bodies” than our eyes on Christ. I encourage you to have a Pastor to speak on this with scripture. Cultish has a few episodes on it too and talks about it also.

As a traditional Catholic, this episode is amazing, thank you both!!! I used to wear skimpy bikinis, super short shorts, crop tops, etc. But when I started to take my faith more seriously, I had to get rid of 80% of my wardrobe. Having my husband there to tell me what he thought was acceptable or not was a huge help

My boyfriend sent me a video of Joana about a year ago and I wasn’t offended at all I was like thank you because I knew I was still attached to my old style a little bit and I didn’t know how to let it go or feel beautiful so covered up dad to say! But you have helped both of you honestly so much with my confidence as a woman and being more feminine I’m so thankful !

I absolutely think dressing provicatively around teen boys is a problem. Unfortunately, I've read reddit and quora conversations saying as much. There's a reason MILF is a thing. There should be no double standard of sultry at home and modest outside unless the children are not present. A friend let her teen daughter hang up her thong underwear in full view in the laundry. She wore PINK short shorts. This is around her Dad. Her Dad is in the awkward position that if he says anything he looks like a perv. Teen girls imo should not be prowling around the house looking like a hotty in front of their Dads or brothers. Dad most likely isn't a perv but he is a man. It's unwise.

25:00 Once my boys were acting curious like "accidentally " walking in after a shower, i just continually wear a bra with pj's. I wore soft, cozy ones under pj's. Wear sweats or a robe over skimpy pj's. Contrary to naked household opinions, children will get turned on by you inappropriately exposing your body. Especially jr high to teen boys. Don't let your relationship get weird. And it's 100% certain that unless you're a pedo, your son won't tell that you're stumbling him.

Love the bit on swearing, how God put that on your heart That was a big part of my faith journey too. And controlling my tongue still is a challenge . Trying not to gossip now and talk about people behind their back. Trying not to complain, criticise, compare

So great to hear testimony of her wanting an relationship with God and hearing his voice and acting on it and being faithful! Love it

I want milenas daughters & sons to be modest too Alethea where butt tight leggings on Instagram shocks me evertime.. why not leggings under her pants!!?

Theres nothing righteous about your butt showing from wearing pants, idk why women try not to offend other women for “not feeling convicted to stop dressing sexy” the fact of the matter is that you can have a filthy heart and still dress Holy AND But you cannottttttttt have a pure heart if you dress pants that show the full shape of your butt! Ive met such lovely sisters in Christ but they WILL NOT GIVE UP their lustful clothing even if they’re married, its a spiritual stronghold & its is disobedience to God!! They will find out on judgement day.

I’m Christian Apostolic ❤ and I have small children I wear normal pjs at home but when I step out only dresses and skirts nothing tight ( for me )

Being modest goes way beyond just the clothes you wear. Are we being modest in the way we talk about people, prioritize our time, our language day to day? You only really talk about modesty in clothing but I don't really think that's as big of a deal as the other things that truly matter.

What is biblical is that God talks about a kind heart, the fruits of the holy soirit etc. .. not about pants. Moreover, I looked at her Instagram and I found it interesting that in MY modesty journey, I deleted many of my pictures that look like hers (faces she makes and angles of some pictures) because I had a wrong feeling that it wasn’t modest in the ATTITUDE/message/image it gave… (there is a picture where she makes a serious face with the tip of her tongue like we see everywhere on Instagram and another where her breast is all we see in the picture even if the orange dress is modest) so I was a Little bit surprised to look at these pictures on her Instagram! I don’t judge, I just think it can become quickly very religious to focus on the dress thing. Let me give you an example - I went to a private school where we had to wear uniforms. The goal was for students to focus on other things than on what they wear etc. Let me tell you, the focus was still on the looks and we knew very quickly who was physically cool and who was not just by the way the uniform was wore and by all the rest (hair, makeup etc and the general attitude). The girl in the video has a STYLE and it’s a beautiful thing - but if the point is to stop focusing on your clothes, I find it a Little bit confusing that in her Instagram description she mentions « fashion » etc. If I look at her Instagram and I want to follow this « path of modesty » and that I was focusing on fashion and what I looked like, I will transfer my focus on this modest fashion style and look at her thinking « oh I want this style! and it’s okay for me to WANT to follow her and look at her pictures and to focus on dresses because these are modest dresses » so at the end, i’m still not focusing on what really matter. Do you understand what I mean ? It’s so easy to believe we are okay with Jesus by focusing on something superficial like wearing only dresses but for me, this is the définition of religion. This being said, I don’t believe it’s a sin to love modest fashion and to like colorful and beautiful modest dresses - it’s just that it is not at all the focus I see in the Bible and to adress the subject of dresses as something that delivered you from the bondage of clothes makes me wonder why the focus is still on needing dresses in my wardrobe... I don’t judge her, I just believe that to wear only dresses has nothing to do with a biblical point of view, it is a personal choice she made and it became her style. I am not saying that she wasn’t convicted by the holy Spirit to wear only dresses in that season of her Life but for many reasons, I would be very careful to promote this as something more feminine and more appropriate than pants etc. to other christian women… especially when you take so many pictures of yourself in dresses to show other women your modest fashion and how they can be « cute » in modest dresses (like Milena said…)

This is something that I struggle with. I am starting to dress more modestly in the weekends when I'm out and about. However my day job is in a nursery with babies. My dresses aren't practically in the setting. I wear leggings and long baggy shirts. It's something that I think about a lot and I'm not sure what else I would wear.

Omg what a treat! Joana is such a light

Milena has help me in my modesty journey. It all goes into domino effect.

THANK YOU! I’m 61 & the two of you facilitated new connections within me today! I’m understanding modesty now in a whole new way…. the way that matters! ✨Grateful! ❤️🙏🏽

MY FAVVVV DUOOOO!!! Joana the growth I’ve seen in you for so many years is amazing!! So Godly proud of you & Milena what CZcams and instagram has witnessed is sooo beautiful! God is SOO good

AHHH love love love this!

There will be no such thing as the rapture, Jesus himself suffered we are called to be a Christ on this earth. Jesus himself said, he was hated first so don’t be surprised to be hated for following him. Additionally, as humans imperfect beings, life ain’t a walk in the park it has trials and suffering. Our destination is to be decided by our Lord himself he is the perfect judge we are called to follow his commandments, for those who love him do his will.

if you can show shoulders or upper chest, i really like those dresses that wrap around the chest, then immediately flow off so you cant see the body shape. its a small elastic band on top, then pretty much a flowy sheet. that with a light cardigan is what i do for heat. i think leaving the arm pits open with a cover on really helps. plus bring a victorian fan! talk about sexy, those things are iconic

I love that she’s your Emily and you’ve been mine lol. I very much appreciate all of the modesty content. It’s become a conviction for me this year for sure

I have been changing to become more modest. It's not a set of clothing rules- it's a heart posture. Where are you attempting to stand out or be Sexy? Do you want to seem better or make people be jealous? For me, my conviction was around being flashy and fashionable. I enjoyed being the best dressed in any space. I owned nearly 100 pairs of heels. I was also trying to showcase my athletic physique, which I did by highlighting my waist. So i felt convicted to stop wearing skin tight clothes, even if they covered me, and I dress in a more classic and plain way. I don't feel convicted about my Leggings because it's purely a comfort thing and I'm not wearing them for attention. I do feel convicted about showing any hint of cleavage because OTHER people seem to pay attention to it. You have to search your heart and pray about this.

So crazy I just followed Joana today on ig & now I see this video so cool! Milena was deff a huge inspiration for me in my modesty journey. Im still learning and changing things but truly agree that the closer you get to God he truly transforms you! ✨

The collab I needed 😍😍

How do you deal with dressing modestly while being in an environment where other women are not. I too used to dress immodest before I was saved for attention and now that Im more covered I find it difficult at times when Im with my husband and other women are dressed with very little clothing seeking that same attention. (Male gaze) For example, at the beach you will easily see several women in thong bikinis. Or at the gym youll see the tightest sports bras and booty shorts. I havent really heard anyone speak to this.

Your question about what to wear around your kids in the evening... I would throw a robe or a long sweatshirt dress over so that the kids don't see whats underneath but when they aren't up or around it's easy to take off for your alone time with hubby.

When God asked me to dress modest her account was the first one that I found on Instagram, and I'm so glad I did. Now I'm go to her Bible study. It's super cool to see how she shows her personality and modesty, and she looks beautiful doing it. To God be the glory!

Love her insta!! Such cute style

Joaannnaaaaaa!!! My two favs…together! 🥰 So happy to see her on she’s definitely my go-to for modest fashion not to mention her HAIR! The most beautiful hair I’ve ever seen. And Milena, you are giving 1950s supermodel. ❤ This makes me happy! 😊😊😊

Favorite episode thus far 🩷🩷 Absolutely warmed my heart. I am Pentecostal/apostolic and only wear skirts/dresses. I have a swim skirt from Amazon, I work out in skirts, and I love it!! My 2 year old has a swim skirt. This side of Christianity is not discussed enough. Modesty is more than a “rule” or a “standard” it’s literally about obedience and commitment to our God!! There is so much blessing in modesty. I feel as a new mom with lots of body changes and now thinking about what my 2 daughters are seeing me do, I am more modest than ever and constantly making sure clothes fit correctly and that my intentions are right when I am dressing. My pastors wife one said something that pierced my heart and still sticks with me, “you have to choose between feeling sexy or being godly”. This was a fantastic episode!! Thank you for sharing this with the world!!

great episode i’m still on my modesty journey inside and out it definitely isn’t an overnight thing for me

great episode i’m still on my modesty journey inside and out it definitely isn’t an overnight thing

Funny. I’ve been on a clothing modesty journey, thanks to Milena speaking boldly. And lately my conviction has been my language… so it matches my modest appearance. Thank you for saying that part ❤ confirmation 🙏🏻

Wait… I want to be her friend!!! 🩷

I am not religious at all but I am really curious, why are pants not modest? i feel like pants can be really baggy for example and dresses and skirts can be really body hugging. Can someone explain pls?

Omggggg love Joana💕

Just for reference, i know several girls who started their period at 8-10. If you're suggesting that it's okay for girls with periods to have babies, that's wrong. Your body isnt ready, despite the ability to get pregnant

The episode I needed to see! Modesty has been on my mind for the past few months. Thank you for sharing 😊

Wow this was the colab I loved to see!!! I am apostolic and having people like her helps me so much! Specially since I was raised catholic to becoming apostolic and changing so much of myself and learning true modesty.

Love this

I’ve been dressing modest for years now. my kids were 4 years old when I started. I wore jeans or whatever in my house, but then God convicted me, that if I am doing this for others to see me then it wasn’t for him. If modesty is how God ask me to dress then I wanted it to be in my home as well and didn’t like feeling like a hypocrite in teaching my kids, which should be our most important people we minister to. So from that day on I woke up and dressed modest. Saved shorts or short gowns for my bedroom only. For hubby to see. And now my girls are young adults still in our home and dress modest. PTL 🙌🏻

I really have to sit and contemplate my modest journey because it was really influenced by those around me. I was in nondenominational Christian circles and they didn't dress too different from the world except not wearing stuff that showed obvious booty or boobs. The fashion was more androgynous athletic or frumy grunge. I never felt too bad about what I wore. I've always dressed feminine, but I've had a desire to be even more feminine, and it's watching this channel and others, I've been inspired to wear mostly more dresses and skirts in my daily wardrobe. Interesting to see the other comments about growing up in strict modesty. That was not my cas. My mom put me and my sisters in booty shorts and tube tops as little girls. There was rarely any modesty except for at church when we went a few times a year. My fashion only slightly changed when I got saved. My sister converted to Islam and her fashiom flipped 180, she dresses similar to the Amish now. What I've noticed is those who grew up immodest and become "religious" can take in the conviction of being modest and voluntarily submit to God's desire for a covered woman because we know what the other side yields in our life and we knew the sin motivation we had in our hearts prior.

I did the same when I got saved at 19 yrs old

I love this!! ❤

So relatable. I wore skinny jeans for attention seeking. I only wore dress for church or events. But after pregnancy my views with dresses changed and after pregnancy I had a sense that I don't want to dress provocative and slothy anymore. I felt the clothing I had no longer served me. I'm slowly upgrading and loving dresses and occasional longer shorts for warmer weather. Just following the convictions of the Holy Spirit.

It’s so great to listen to you guys! As someone who was raised in a very strict and religious church, where I was forced to wear ONLY skirts and always had to braid my hair and was never properly explained why, it’s a very sensitive topic to me. I never thought that there are women who come from a very different background and go this modest way voluntarily not because they have to 🤗 I love to see that you dress modest because you love Jesus! When I got saved I prayed that the lord would show and convicted me of the things that are not his heart. And I learned to live in the freedom of Christ, not to follow man made rules. He has convicted me of some things, that I don’t wear, as short skirts and shorts, but I enjoy the feeling to wear pants and jeans and not feel sinful because people around me believe that. Thank you for talking about this very interesting and controversial topic! God bless you!💕

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This was a beautiful episode and a message any Christian should hear about the heart posture of modesty. I grew up within the Mennonite/amish culture and the religion and conformity that is required felt restrictive even amid correct biblical teaching, comparison and judgment between Christians was very real. After I stopped covering my head and started modestly wearing pants etc I felt so much freedom in my walk with Christ because I knew he didn’t judge me because my heart was still in the right place. That was a revelation for me. Maybe he will change me again someday but for now I see the benefits of not being forced to wear only skirts.