Barry Pearman
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I Simply Want the Pain to Stop
We all have pain and we want the pain to stop, but the pain is telling us something. What if we could identify the pain and stop the suicide slide?
It’s pain and we want it to stop.
It could be physical pain from body ailments, but it could also be pain coming from traumas past and present. Grief, loss, anger, loneliness, the daily stress load of life that causes us to slump. It’s pain.
Recently I learned something about pain.
For the past year, I’ve had a sore back. I would take panadol at night to help me sleep. I also went to a physiotherapist and did exercises. All of which helped a little, but not completely.
Read more here turningthepage.co.nz/i-simply-want-the-pain-to-stop/
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The Five Best Practices to Restore the Soul
zhlédnutí 34Před 19 hodinami
The practices of your week and day may drain your life, but what practices restore your soul? ‘Oh, that’s so good for the soul’ Sometimes I hear people say that. Sometimes I say it myself. It’s that moment when you feel a restoring of something drained out of you. You feel like your energy tank has been topped up. Often, this comes as a result of a practice or an activity that you do. Practice ...
A Place to Restore your Mental Health
zhlédnutí 32Před 14 dny
Life and activity can drain our mental health, but there are places to restore. Take notice and soak in them. There is a place I want to go to. The gardens are beautiful. Full of colour all year round. Fruit trees are full of ripe fruit ready to be eaten. There are beaches sparkling with shells and sand. Fish swim in the sea and there are waves perfect for surfing. The sunrises and sunsets are ...
Six Qualities of People that Restore the Soul
zhlédnutí 34Před 21 dnem
Some people can help you restore. Some you need to put out of the room. What are six qualities of people that restore the soul? Life can give you a battering at times, but there are some people that seem to be able to come alongside and help you restore. I didn’t need advice or problem solving. I didn’t want someone to tell me ‘It will be alright.’ I simply needed someone to be there. To be a s...
What Restores the Soul: The Three ‘P’s’
zhlédnutí 34Před 28 dny
The soul can get completely drained, but what restores the soul? What can bring it back to life? People, places, and practices. Life can be draining. Too much going or too much has gone on. Now it feels like the energy tank is on ‘E’. Empty, Exhausted and not Enough. You have nothing in reserve and you know that tomorrow will probably be the same. This has become a pattern. You give and give. Y...
Are You Scared to Receive
zhlédnutí 43Před měsícem
Are you scared to receive? To receive might just undo a carefully constructed sense of being in control, but little drops of love open the rustiest of doors. I know someone who is very generous to me. In fact, this website and my ability to get content out is only possible due to their technical wisdom and support. He has a very generous lifestyle. But what is it like to receive when you know y...
I’ve Had More than Enough of Being Held in Contempt
zhlédnutí 13Před měsícem
Ive had more than enough of being held in contempt, but when I know divine approval, I can rise again. It was like they were at the bottom of the pecking order and being held there. People had contempt for them. The word ‘contempt’ is one we don’t often use. To be ‘held in contempt’, in a general sense, simply means that a person is despised or strongly disapproved of. I was recently sent this ...
Five Reasons Why They Will Never Change
zhlédnutí 66Před měsícem
’ve often heard the words ‘They will never change’, but what if God’s Spirit grabbed them? What if resurrection light was invited to glow? There’s always have a chink in my spirit when I hear the words ‘They will never change.’ Alongside those words may come phrases such as ‘A leopard can’t change its spots’ and ‘You can’t teach an old dog new tricks.’ turningthepage.co.nz/five-reasons-why-they...
When the stress gets too much
zhlédnutí 8Před měsícem
Many years ago I was taught a model called the Stress-Vulnerability model developed by Dr. Ian Falloon. The little video below goes through the basic principles of it, but one of the key teachings I took from it was that if you put the body under too much stress, then the body will express signs of unwellness. It could be high blood pressure, stomach ulcers, migraines, etc but for us, with an i...
There is No Rejection in God
zhlédnutí 13Před 2 měsíci
The cold wind of rejection can bite deep, but we are not alone. God knows rejection and can give us perspective and a new home of acceptance. I don’t think there is such a cold wind as the wind of rejection. I don’t want you in my life. You’re not welcome here. Go away. I’ve seen someone, who I thought was a friend, turn their whole body to look another way to avoid any form of connection. Reje...
PLEASE. No more Unlived Truth. Lived truth
zhlédnutí 16Před 2 měsíci
I want lived truth. Truth that will help me in my everyday life, but so much of what I receive is unlived truth. Please stop trafficking unlived truth. I’m trying to limit my contact with a lot of unlived truth. Open up social media and most of its fluff and nonsense. Designed to grab your attention and hold it while some faraway giant computer takes note that ‘This is really what they want mor...
Two Writing Structures That Help us Connect
zhlédnutí 18Před 2 měsíci
Writing structures help us to formulate the big idea that we might have into easily connectable words. A.B.T. Writing that connects Signup to the newsletter. turningthepage.co.nz/signup-to-newsletter/
Do you have Doubts about your Writing and Creativity?
zhlédnutí 14Před 2 měsíci
Doubts? We all have them about our writing and creativity, but there are some simple things you can do to. Negative self talk can crush your creativity and feed the doubts. Comparisionitis kills the creative. Habits of writing A scheduled time A place to write 60 Days to form new habits. barry@turningthepage.co.nz Subscribe to my newsletter turningthepage.co.nz/signup-to-newsletter/
Does a Tramua Hinder Your Writing and Creativity?
zhlédnutí 46Před 2 měsíci
A trauma can hinder your writing and creativity, but with encouragements the writing can begin to flow When the leather strap came down it threw my writing heart into panic. Is there something in your past that is hindering your ability to write and create. I share about an event in my life and what has helped me to be creative in so many areas of my life. WARNING: This video contains referance...
Are you Weak Enough to Recieve
zhlédnutí 26Před 3 měsíci
Are you Weak Enough to Recieve
I Don’t Need This In My Life Anymore
zhlédnutí 26Před 3 měsíci
I Don’t Need This In My Life Anymore
There’s Something about Audio
zhlédnutí 14Před 3 měsíci
There’s Something about Audio
Having an Open Hand
zhlédnutí 10Před 3 měsíci
Having an Open Hand
That’s Normal and You’re Going to be Ok
zhlédnutí 33Před 3 měsíci
That’s Normal and You’re Going to be Ok
Am I on the Right Path?
zhlédnutí 11Před 4 měsíci
Am I on the Right Path?
It’s not ‘Two steps forward and Three steps back’
zhlédnutí 18Před 7 měsíci
It’s not ‘Two steps forward and Three steps back’
A Christmas Rejection - No Place For You
zhlédnutí 24Před 8 měsíci
A Christmas Rejection - No Place For You
What’s in Your Mental Health Grab Bag
zhlédnutí 31Před 8 měsíci
What’s in Your Mental Health Grab Bag
They make me feel
zhlédnutí 15Před 8 měsíci
They make me feel
It’s Hard to Put into Words
zhlédnutí 475Před 8 měsíci
It’s Hard to Put into Words
Finding that Still Small Voice
zhlédnutí 19Před 8 měsíci
Finding that Still Small Voice
Good Conversations don’t leave you Feeling Judged
zhlédnutí 20Před 8 měsíci
Good Conversations don’t leave you Feeling Judged
Risking a Sacred Conversation
zhlédnutí 20Před 8 měsíci
Risking a Sacred Conversation
Opened Too Early
zhlédnutí 25Před 8 měsíci
Opened Too Early
Sitting with Shame
zhlédnutí 24Před 8 měsíci
Sitting with Shame

Komentáře

  • @cowanjoyce
    @cowanjoyce Před 16 dny

    Beautiful Barry!

  • @bluewindharp
    @bluewindharp Před 22 dny

    It’s true, the people described in the Bible, and their story of trials and hardship, have parallel experiences as we do today. Jesus meets them where they are. Jesus Christ is hope and new life for me. I hope I can be a blessing to others as He has been for me. Wonderful story.

    • @BarryPearman
      @BarryPearman Před 22 dny

      Thanks. Yes, its so encouraging to know others have 'been there, done that, got the T-shirt' of experiences we are having in the now. Jesus meets us where we are at. Not where we hope to be.

  • @JillLorraineTurpin
    @JillLorraineTurpin Před 23 dny

    I definitely have #4, maybe #1, but struggle with the rest. I also struggle with knowing what someone needs from me. I too often end up in long term situations where the person just seems to want to be miserable, so of course I start to FASS with serious pressure. I'm not sure if I have these people in my life, but I would love to have these qualities.

    • @BarryPearman
      @BarryPearman Před 22 dny

      Good comments here Jill. I could write a few posts out of these. I think its important to realise that their life is not your responsibility. Victims will want you to take responsibility, but you have to pushing it back to them. Their response is their responsibility. Well done

  • @JillLorraineTurpin
    @JillLorraineTurpin Před 29 dny

    Good advice as I need to make sure I take time for the practices that help me. I have also struggled so much with the people part. I keep filling my life with people who need me, so when I need restoration I have to unplug completely.

    • @BarryPearman
      @BarryPearman Před 27 dny

      Good points Jill. Yes, being intentional about self care, taking time to fill ones own cup. I think the 'people part' is the hardest area. Being open to recieve (previous video/ post) is a surrendering - vulnerable position. What would it be like to have some one come and self sacrifically give life into you? (Rhetorical question - i.e. you dont have to answer here on CZcams 😊)

  • @rowenaharding5007
    @rowenaharding5007 Před měsícem

    Hope you feel better soon Barry

  • @rowenaharding5007
    @rowenaharding5007 Před 3 měsíci

    Classic school story

    • @BarryPearman
      @BarryPearman Před 3 měsíci

      So you had a teacher like that too?

    • @rowenaharding5007
      @rowenaharding5007 Před 2 měsíci

      No one hit my desk but Mr B was distantly elderly from an 8 years old and prone to sharp anger

  • @rowenaharding5007
    @rowenaharding5007 Před 3 měsíci

    Very good Barry.

  • @antyey6437
    @antyey6437 Před 4 měsíci

    Underrated channel

  • @chaz351
    @chaz351 Před 7 měsíci

    Promo-SM 😱

  • @hirephilip
    @hirephilip Před 8 měsíci

    This is one of the very best challenges I've ever come across. I immediately saw the seriousness of having a grab bag. Thank You I'll probably have to watch this video several times in order to write down everything you've said, but that's ok. Again! Thank You. (For Caring) God Bless

    • @BarryPearman
      @BarryPearman Před 8 měsíci

      Thanks Philip, its all in the blog post. Its also a bag to use everyday as such, not just in emergencies

  • @econrith
    @econrith Před 8 měsíci

    Hypnotism might work and a more correct appraisal of whether or not they face an assault as most of us know that though the feeling is there that there could be an assault on or a covert danger coming from the person interacting with you by invite or not ! otherwise silence is a darned good defense. There is no god. If you start hearing voices please see a doctor before you start to suffer from the darker side of "the voice" Doctors are very used to this kind of distress and it doesn't mean you are a loony just that some chemicals in the brain have reacted to your basic anxiety state.

  • @rowenaharding5007
    @rowenaharding5007 Před 8 měsíci

    Thanks again Barry. The height of the rose petals impresses me almost as much as your happiness in its company

  • @shekarbabu5049
    @shekarbabu5049 Před 8 měsíci

    Hi pastor praise the lord

  • @marama5294
    @marama5294 Před 8 měsíci

    As I grapple with life and faith, I am again studying Job and I'm at the question of "what does to curse God mean?" This was very insightful and helpful, thank you!

    • @BarryPearman
      @BarryPearman Před 8 měsíci

      Thanks Marama. Ive been doing a series on Job. If you want to read more of the series then go to turningthepage.co.nz/tag/job/ Job is a fascinating study of pain, suffering and how is with us in the mystery of it all

  • @73sideswipe
    @73sideswipe Před 9 měsíci

    I am grateful for your content and your ministry. God bless you for your faithfulness and your willingness to serve and share the messages laid on your heart. 🙏

  • @Susan-zh5pg
    @Susan-zh5pg Před 11 měsíci

    Thank you for sharing Marisa.

  • @rowenaharding5007
    @rowenaharding5007 Před 11 měsíci

    ⭐️

  • @rowenaharding5007
    @rowenaharding5007 Před 11 měsíci

    I’m listening to podcasts after you thought you might stop videos. Such great encouragement thank you

  • @hollyvaine4283
    @hollyvaine4283 Před rokem

    I really enjoy your messages, and positive new perspective. I'm going to do your 60 day prayer. :)

  • @hollyvaine4283
    @hollyvaine4283 Před rokem

    Thank you for sharing, I was actually wondering how you do it! Well you do a very good job, thank you. :)

  • @hollyvaine4283
    @hollyvaine4283 Před rokem

    I'm so glad you decided to do more on youtube, i pray it's more positive for you. You seem so kind:)

  • @jonnyw82
    @jonnyw82 Před rokem

    Job is actually very straight forward. We suffer bc God is letting Satan torment us to test our loyalty to Him. Also, we are mere humans so we have no right to ask why we suffer.

  • @joanne3049
    @joanne3049 Před rokem

    Your speech here on CZcams can only be described as patronizing at best. Like seeing a drowning man in the water and waving to him from a distance as you pass by on your luxury liner shouting "God loves you, friend."

  • @faithnightingale1019

    Hello Barry.Nice to hear from you.Hope family is fine.Yes will agree when I look up at the stars I dn t feel a comfort? Because the stars are (balls of Gas made up of helium Nitrogen etc.I have been doing a deep research in the Stars this past month.(what is interesting though ab the stars is the same elements that are in the human body.So I find that interesting.I am not convinced though that is humans when they die.I am doing more research on this subject.yes when I look up at the stars (I feel there must be a higher power than humans when we study the Universe.+I think most of us have some form of mental breakdown times in our life (if not treated can lead to schitzphrenia and other mental disorders.(They must be treated I feel by (Councillors Therapy groups and so on.if they are not they lead to dispair suicide.i find if a person has no resources to therapy Sitting with a friend? Could even be off the internet? (Though caution to who we speak to on the internet.(Still many good people to share our thghts of feelings with still on internet.(Though caution should be exercised especially if a person has a mental illness.(Direct them to a Go? Because they have a wide range of sources to help a person battling with mental illness.(Alot of people are suffering Grief/loss and dn t realise it.Again to direct them to their GP. I suffer from Grief/loss but what helps me is Nature.And bonding with a animal .I have 2 budgies 🐦🐦 Kiwi and blui and these 2 little birds helped me alot.plus I love animals (I go and see the swans? When I look at a Swan they draw me to a higher power? Out there.Swans are beautiful created birds.Such beauty about a Swan and these make me thk there must be a higher intelligence because swans as a example like all sorts of birds animals etc are not invented??🤔 But created so I found that was very interesting.If I find out anymore ab my research into the stars will let you know.(My research shows stars and humans are made up of the same elements.And I found that very interesting to know.(so makes you wonder🤔 although not convinced yet that they are humans when they die go there in the sky (Need to do more research on this issues.(Well Barry and mother tk of yourselfs till next time.Fr Faith🙂 Kiwi and blui 🐦🐦 (my budgies) Happy New Year 🙂🐦🐦

  • @williamsdaf
    @williamsdaf Před rokem

    Appreciated this message Barry! Important words spoken to our hearts. Thank you.

  • @joanne3049
    @joanne3049 Před rokem

    When you've lost everything in life you suddenly discover that there's nothing left to fear, because it's all happened.

    • @BarryPearman
      @BarryPearman Před rokem

      So true. What have you got to lose if you've lost everything?

  • @faithnightingale1019

    Interesting.Thats the way I feel about prayers and being answered.Yes that is what I have BN bright up to believe.Go in your bedroom shut the door and pray (and I have done this) too.Maybe God has answered and we dn t realise it.Not so sure yet need more time when praying in secret to a heavenly father.Only time will tell.🐦🐦🐦

  • @faithnightingale1019

    Hi it's nice to see you in person.hope your family is well.We are all human made up of the same flesh and blood.So I feel all are valued.However I have always BN bright up to believe the bible us God's Word.But my faith is in jeopardy because I did a study on William Tynedale.Who was the first person to translate the bible into English called as known today as the Christian Bible.And was burnt at the stake by the Catholic church for heresies.before the bible was translated into English (the language at that time was thk Latin and anyone caught reading the bible was also burnt it hung.So the Question is this who is right with God.Because the Catholic church's were here first.The bible being translated into English has only been around a few hundreds years.(they call the Christian Bible (King James version? And now many other translation being printed over the years.My question is this.(If Jesus walked the earth 2.000 yes ago.Why has the bible BN only around for a few hundred years and only since William Ty edale.(It would be good to hear your thghts on this subject.(Regarding William Tyndale.what has rocked my faith is I was shocked to find the Christian Bible was translated into English just a few hundred year ago.So there seems to be a big gap.From a period of Jesus walking the earth 2.000 years ago to just a few years ago of the Bible only being translated in to English.Hope I am making sense bec I am very concerned about this.(Maybe you can do a CZcams video on this subject in the future.Sametime wishing you Barry and family a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year 2023.🙂🐦🐦🐦 (My 3 budgies Kiwi blui Snowy) bye for now Barry tk be safe.

  • @stephenlawson9593
    @stephenlawson9593 Před rokem

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  • @faithnightingale1019

    Hello Barry (your a man of Wisdom and spirituality) Thk the illustration about the CUP was very good (Symbolic language) very beneficial to members of your channel.Keep up the good ministry.God bless you and your family.Well done 🏆

    • @BarryPearman
      @BarryPearman Před rokem

      Thanks Faith. I'm going to be doing more of these short videos. Good idea?

  • @faithnightingale1019

    Great to see you in person Barry.You look great enjoying your vidios.I will follow your footages.Keep faith Barry.Fr Faith Nightingale Kiwi and Blui (my 2 budgies 🐦🐦

  • @ellenlucks2957
    @ellenlucks2957 Před rokem

    I grew up with there always being a barometer in my father's house as well...good metaphor to ponder these days. I wish it was only the weather affecting us. I could deal with that, but it is the political & cultural 'atmospheric pressure' that just keeps dropping... extremely stormy. "Show me the way wherein I should walk, for to You I lift up my soul." Psalm 143:8b

  • @kurtglenie8915
    @kurtglenie8915 Před 2 lety

    Spaffords one and only son died in 1880, not 1870/71. There is no evidence that the Spaffords were going to england to help with D. L. Moodys campains. Rather as the name of the Ship "Ville du Havre" suggests they were going to France (the ville dilu Havre serviced the NY, brest Havre root) then continental europe generaly as a second Honeymoon. Spafford himself or more likely P. P. Bliss the composer, made the change from Know to say. My personal theory is, because it beguin as a poem, something to be read on a page, the change reflects that it was to be sang or Spoken as a hymm, hence "Say". In anycase I would be carefull before accusing P. P. Bliss of encouraging Stoicisim.

  • @Greatfly
    @Greatfly Před 2 lety

    I'm so glad that I stumbled upon this channel, you truly deserve more views and recognition! Those videos really are a gem.

  • @debbieklahn1263
    @debbieklahn1263 Před 2 lety

    Love the illustration about the hard clay. Having worked with clay and a potter's wheel in college, I know that hard clay is resolved by adding more water, pounding, slicing and lot's of rolling to make it pliable. Maybe God uses a similar method(through hardships) to soften our hearts making us useful for His plans! Years of loneliness has certainly caused me to grow more in love with God as He told me that He was sufficient. Something that I did not comprehend in my 20's and 30's.

    • @BarryPearman
      @BarryPearman Před 2 lety

      Thanks Debbie. Yes, and God never abandons his handiwork

  • @TheEzrafeau
    @TheEzrafeau Před 2 lety

    Merry Christmas Barry

    • @BarryPearman
      @BarryPearman Před 2 lety

      Thanks Debbie, hope you had a nice one

  • @vandread
    @vandread Před 2 lety

    Oh, you have picked up on the curve too! I don't think you need to strive to break out of it though. That's egodeath, which is just a death that you can break out of. I think the curve is to be delved into, you will come out the other side anyways. If you go into the curve, instead of fighting it, then you can forget yourself so completely that you achieve the same goal. Go with the flow, so to say. I have no idea if anything I just said is coherent to anyone but myself, alas.

  • @ellenlucks2957
    @ellenlucks2957 Před 2 lety

    Fascinating! I've always been intimidated by roses...I understand the joy of your victory but just through other plants. Thank you for knowing what to do to bring it to its full, glorious beauty and for encouraging me to trust Elohim with the pruning & wire brushing (ouch!) necessary for His glory. I

  • @williamsdaf
    @williamsdaf Před 2 lety

    Life is short and people matter more than things. 🙏🏼

  • @CarolynMatyjanka
    @CarolynMatyjanka Před 2 lety

    Listened on Podbean but had to come here to like it for you, Barry, for me, for algorithms!!! Thanking God for the gift of YOU, encouraging and building up my aching brokenness!!

  • @lovewavesdriftingforever

    Hey buddy hope you’re doing ok brother.. I just subbbbeddd ya 😂💓💕💕💕💕🌏🧞‍♂️💭💭💭 “ Only Life Knows Itself “

  • @davidwells7244
    @davidwells7244 Před 4 lety

    Hey Barry, I follow you elsewhere. I found this by searching for info on Larry Crabb's book "Real Church." I attended his School of Spiritual Direction at Glen Eyrie in April 2006 and it has impacted my spiritual growth and counseling practice. WellsCounseling.com

    • @BarryPearman
      @BarryPearman Před 4 lety

      Hi David, great to hear from you. Good to hear my podcast was picked up in this way via your search. I went to SSD back in the early 2000's at Glen Eyrie also. It was a wonderful experience. Grace and Peace

  • @suzannerose2130
    @suzannerose2130 Před 5 lety

    Thanks! I like your style. You have a great approach. I don't know how I fell into your messages, but it's appropriate. I am returning home tonight, after a comic book class, where the teacher made a derogatory slur about me, that was scathingly undermining. I don't speak her language, but I felt that I needed to inquire, and inquire, I did. Oh my, her slur was so awful, culturally revealing about her prejudices. I dealt with it, by reflecting to her, her voice, which is that she was expressing that her perception, was that i was a person to whom was not to be trusted. I allowed myself, to be with the emotional intensity, of asking for consciousness, of prejudice . Bring consciousness, to prejudice. Allow for light, allow for the prejudice, to participate in an exchange, that is not emotionally charged, but curious. I find it fascinating, how language, and words, are lies. Intent, and spirit, are what matter. Thank you

    • @BarryPearman
      @BarryPearman Před 5 lety

      Thanks Suzanne. Glad you found my content helpful. If you would like more then come over to my website turningthepage.info/

  • @suzannerose2130
    @suzannerose2130 Před 5 lety

    As you may know, there's a heroine epidemic in the United States, that is clearly being under-acknowledged. This message is so controversial that there are forces, that would impede the actual recovery of our society. It's just interesting to hear the ancient premises of what it was like, for even the building of Israel to achieve. Truth, is not always welcomed.

  • @edwardleonardocallesaavedr2143

    very good!

  • @jimmyjean3219
    @jimmyjean3219 Před 5 lety

    thank you barry for sharing your video it's certainly helped and encouraged us to work on moving forward without looking way too forward in the future and facing the reality of opposition in our lives :) blessings

    • @BarryPearman
      @BarryPearman Před 5 lety

      Thanks Jimmy, always appreciate your comments

  • @kayg5156
    @kayg5156 Před 6 lety

    Great, Barry! I never looked at it that way. Awesome and many thanks for sending this video.

  • @susannawarner8091
    @susannawarner8091 Před 7 lety

    Great to hear from you Barry, well, see you actually! I think you're right, there's a mass of people suffering with mental and emotional health issues and modern technology is the best way to connect. I for one appreciate your writings - they are practical and make a lot of sense. And it's not too much to ask people to support you and pay a little for the support you provide. After all, writing good content takes time and as the saying goes, time is money. It's time you could be out there earning an income in another way. So bless you for your generosity and I hope more people respond.