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Bolden Matrimony
Registrace 4. 04. 2023
We're Kori and Robert, two love birds from Detroit who love Jesus and aim to live a life that reflects God's Word. Join us as we share our journey with following Christ while preparing for marriage!
Top Qualities to Look for in a Spouse
Before Rob and Kori started dating, their idea of what to look for in a partner was a little on the shallow side. But eventually, they learned the value of looking for more substantial characteristics.
In this episode of #BoldenMatrimony, we discuss the top qualities to look for in a spouse. What are yours?
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Contact us: boldenmatrimony2023@gmail.com
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In this episode of #BoldenMatrimony, we discuss the top qualities to look for in a spouse. What are yours?
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Follow our podcast: www.buzzsprout.com/2366299
Contact us: boldenmatrimony2023@gmail.com
Follow our IG page: @boldenmatrimony
For biblical financial planning: boldenwealthmanagement.com
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Why it took us 5 years to get married, how Rob almost ruined our relationship, and more!
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We dated for 4 1/2 years before we got engaged, and we got married a whole 'nother year after that. So, what took us so long?? In this episode of #BoldenMatrimony, Rob and Kori share why it took them over 5 years to finally meet at the altar and the many lessons they learned about God, themselves, and one another along the way. James 1:4 - "But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be...
What is the true purpose of marriage? (Hint: It's NOT living happily ever after 🙃)
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Deepening Intimacy in Your Relationships
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Should Christians Live Together Before Marriage? 🧐
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Growing with Your Spouse: Overcoming Fears & Immature Mindsets
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Managing Money in Marriage: The Biblical Approach
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Trusting God's Timing: Our Story on How We Met
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Does the Bible Require Wives to Change Their Last Names? 🤔
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How Abstaining from Sex Has Affected Our Marriage
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What They Didn't Tell Us About Married Life 👀
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Lessons We Learned from Wedding Planning (Hint: It’s Deeper Than the Wedding)
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Adjusting to Married Life: Moving in Together, Embracing the New, and What's Next!
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Trouble in Paradise? The Real on How Our Honeymoon Went Down 👀
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Wedding Recap: Why We Made Our Wedding About JESUS and Not Us
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How We Argue: Managing Conflict in Relationships
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Reflecting on Our Singleness: Who Were We Before We Met?
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Choosing to Commit: Our Engagement Story
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thank u guys, this was good!!
🙏🏾🙏🏾 appreciate the feedback. Thank YOU!
Great video and you got to remember and know it’s a process through it all and even before you recognize there’s a problem! Mighty God ✨‼️📝 It is truly the power of the Holy Ghost, and committing to what God has shown you in wisdom and knowledge to not do a thing again and trusting that what He says is true and good; we don’t have to bounce back or nibble in old stuff, even though the flesh wants too; and also having a heart for God and learn to know whom God truly is and being honest with God with strengths and weaknesses; and changing your perspective and attitude and mindset! Changing the focus and posture to honoring God with my body: it’s not just waiting until marriage to have sex but it’s I love God so I honor God with all of me even once married, as I’ve heard Ezekiel Azonwu say too. Also sis in Christ in love, this is a year ago and maybe you’re doing better at it but let your husband speak, I noticed you interrupt him mid-sentence though he listens to you as you speak; I’m working on my listening skills in general also, which is why I’ve chosen to point that out. Let him speak so that we all can hear what he has to say too. We want to hear you both.
We watched that episode on his channel as well 🔥🔥 And thanks for the feedback, too! We both have gotten better and much more comfortable in front of the camera sense then 💪🏾
@@BoldenMatrimonyawesome, it was so good! On another note, I’m very glad to hear that: we’re all progressing some way so thanks for taking my feedback with a grain of salt and in love. I look forward to watching y’all journey more as you guys share. 🫶🏾
Thank you for sharing this message. May God continue to use you to share his word. Keep going and congratulations! 🙏🏽.
Blessings! Appreciate you for tapping in
CONFUSED: What does “idolizing marriage” look like? How does it work? 🤷🏾♂️🤷🏾♂️🤷🏾♂️
When you worship the idea of marriage and the status rather than being humble and focusing on the family, no ego or selfishness.
“Idolizing” simply means putting a created thing, before the creator of the thing (Romans 1:25) So practically it means people who would seek marriage itself in isolation rather than seeking the creator OF marriage - God, for instruction. We give a lot more context in the video if you haven’t checked it out!
@@BoldenMatrimony Oh OK. Thanks for the response.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
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I enjoyed listening to this conversation. Thank you both for your insight on marriage. Kori, thank you for sharing how you once idolized marriage and saw it as a fantasy. I think that may be the phase I'm in 🫣 lol. I know you talked about repenting and submitting yourself to God for you to come out of that phase. What other steps did you take to not idolize marriage? And how did you know that it was no longer a fantasy/idol for you?
Hey, Blair! My sincere apologies for the delayed response. Great question and thanks for tuning in! The other steps I took came as a result of me surrendering my idea/idolization of marriage to God. What this looked like practically for me was reading/studying God's Word as well as biblically sound books/teachings (i.e., Understanding the Purpose and Power of the Woman by Dr. Myles Munroe) to get a clear understanding of God's purpose for marriage. With this came an increased understanding of what it truly means to be a wife from a biblical standpoint. It's not the fairytale, "happily ever after" fantasy that I picked up from many movies and romance novels. It was about learning to submit to and serve God in my singleness. Honoring my commitment to God became the primary focus -- not finding a husband. That's how I knew marriage was no longer a fantasy/idol for me. I hope this is helpful!
@@BoldenMatrimony no worries. Thanks for this response. It makes sense ❤️
This was good! Kori, I love your takeaway at the end. I struggle with the same feeling of being easily offended.Thanks for sharing your solution on how you're dealing with that. That's something I plan to put into practice
Hey, Blair! Thanks so much for watching and sharing your thoughts. It's for sure a challenge and an area I'm continuously seeking God for strength in. Praying for and with you!! (James 1:19; Proverbs 19:11; Proverbs 12:16)
I think this question is good because it allows open dialogue among christians and let's ppl express how they feel. I'm older and it wasn't discussed. Ppl just moved with emotion after being together for awhile and not necessarily using the biblical knowledge (scripture of the first ceremony) as reference to make their decisions.
Yes! We agree. Definitely not something that was taught well in the home and church. Biggest prayer is that more people would search the scriptures for decisions like this - big and small
He "knew" his wife...he "fudged" his wife
We all have our own way of saying things lol
Needed to hear this!
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“Should Christians live together before marriage” A can of stupidity just opened!
Not only did you open the “stupidity”- but you spent time to willingly engage it ☹️ Secretly, you liked it lol
Would yall agree there's a difference between a covenant made under God and the legal action of getting married? If so, I'm trying to answer the question if the covenant has been made but the ceremonial wedding is for example next month, wouldn't God consider that couple married already and therefore they could do married couple things in an encouraged fashion?
That’s a great question! I would reference Genesis 2:21-24 and take note of Adam’s response to his wife, Eve. Notice his first response to his wife isn’t physical. He first makes a public declaration (vows) of his love and affection for the woman that is brought to him. This is a ceremonial marriage happening right here! If you look up the Genesis text on “blue letter Bible” (to get the Hebrew meanings of word) - “îš” (man) means husband and iššâ (woman) means wife. We’re not told that they have sex until the beginning of Chapter 4. So I do believe it’s a difference - both a spiritual act of binding 2 to 1. And a physical act of publicly declaring your intention to honor your covenant before the Lord and loved ones(and sex). There is a specific order that we should be cautious to follow outlined in the text.
@@BoldenMatrimony Appreciate you sharing your perspective, thank you!
I enjoyed listening to this episode on contentment and how you guys reminded us that contentment is ultimately found in Christ. Contentment is something I’m in a season of being more intentional about.
🎯that’s a great focus to have. Praying you find all that you need in HIM
Bro like I found my wife. 😂
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Beautiful love story…. Good teaching 🔥
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Fbi❤ yes. I had a friend date a guy for months. She said he didn't have social media. But she would still search. I was like I'll find him. All I needed was hos name. She told be he was a cyclist too. I found him with in 10 minutes on Instagram. Was on his mom's page with in 15❤😂
Love the honesty and perspective you guys shared. After giving my life to Christ again, I for sure will not be cohabiting with anyone he places in my life!
Appreciate you tapping in 🙏🏾. God honors those type decisions and that will remain true for you!
I forgot to say until married lol but yes! Love y’all’s content! Can’t wait to see more from you guys
@18.18 minutes in you earned a new subscriber with love from Australia 🇦🇺.
Welcome! 🙏🏾
Agree.....I've seen many times where couples cohabitate for yrs & prolong marriage or take marriage off the table altogether.
Happens all too often, unfortunately
10:22 Men are mentally stronger than women? 🤔 I agree with waiting until marriage, but there’s a way to make that argument without undermining women’s intelligence. I suggest you read evangelical scholar Philip Payne’s book, Man and Woman: One in Christ.
I knew there’d be someone that pointed that out eventually lol I knew as soon as it came out. I agree it could have been said better but the heart behind it certainly isn’t to dismiss/undermine women if that’s what you thought I was getting at. The goal was to highlight our unique distinct differences and how that typically plays out in relationships.
This video encouraged me to commit to going to Toast Masters
Thats a great takeaway. Hope to somehow hear about your journey in it in the future 🙏🏾
Very helpful
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My little brother did the same to me but on a Jet ski . I understand 🥲🫠
This was insightful… one of your videos popped up on my feed and I tapped in! The name change has a very biblical component to it as well… we (the church) take on the name of Jesus (bridegroom) as His bride through baptism and with marriage being a physical example of Christ, we take on the name of our husband in marriage…. which then gets passed down to the children, etc. I’ve thoroughly enjoyed the marriage topic videos! Thank you for sharing & congratulations!
Appreciate you tapping in and that’s really a great example. Thanks for mentioning that! Shocked we didn’t reference that in this video. We quoted from Ephesians 5 in our vowels!
You can tell they’re still in love it’s so refreshing to see
We pray our “honeymoon” period lasts a lifetime!
Thank you for your transparency 💚💚
Indeed! Thank you for tapping in 🙏🏾
How come it took y'all 5 years to get married though?
That a great question - we might just do a video on this lol The short answer is that it’s because we needed every ounce of that time to be emotionally and spiritually mature enough for it to be sustainable. We both were very immature in our thoughts and selfish. Bad recipe for marriage!
Thank you for sharing this love you both
Of course! We love you too ❤️🙏🏾
I'm so glad I found you all here!! I love your testimony and spiritual growth journey. Be encouraged to keep living for God!! ❤️❤️
Amen! Appreciate your kind words
22:24 OMG! Before God brought Eve to Adam she already had a relationship with her creator.This is my take away.
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Thank you so much! This is great
Our pleasure - Glad that you enjoyed 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Beautiful show i do like how calming vibe. Peaceful but one thing i would like to say is that you two are alike. Let me explain yes yall two are different you two seem like yall do not like problems, quite and nerds lol not qnbad thing i admire a person mind. I think these things after your religion is what is working
Alike in a lot of ways, but distinctly different lol
🤣🤣🤣🤣 Funny but y'all are so right.
This was extremely helpful on shifting my mindset and putting my full trust and obedience in God. Thank you!!
Praise God. Glad you found it helpful. Thank you for tapping in!
New subscriber, liked…. But my bill notifications won’t turn on🤷🏽♀️..
The fact that your here is all that matters. Appreciate you 🙏🏾
I genuinely enjoyed this video. The way you both interact with each other is honestly so beautiful. Considering this is the first video I’ve watched from you both, it definitely was enough to convince me to subscribe. May God continue to bless you/your union.
Aw Glad that you enjoyed it! Welcome to the family 🙏🏾
Through your pursuit for God was mere obedience. Which led you to what was meant for you ⭐️
Obedience is better than sacrifice! 🙏🏾
Please pray for me Katarina .. thanks, God bless you ...
Got you. Anything we can pray, specifically?
Please pray for me Katarina good healing and good financial blessing, and for right person for me Katarina ...Thanks, God bless you ...💗💋♥️
I love your testimony. And you are so right!! I love how you explained that just because you DM him first doesn’t mean that is a sign of pursuit. You were being friendly and saying hi. That’s just making your presence known. I love it!
Thank you! 🙏🏾 And yes - definitely have to be willing to put yourself out there 💪🏾
I have been abstinent for 6 years. I'm finally to the revelation that I want my future marriage to be Jesus centered and not sex centered. I want to follow God's plan and vision through my husband's vision so that i can fulfill my vision at the same time. Sex is only meant for marriage and producing!
Amen to that revelation and we agree! Praying with/for you on the journey. He’s faithful ❤️
Thank you for sharing! How old were you guys when you got married?
Of course! Kori was 33 and I was 31.
I’d sayyy…Y’all are both in ur early 30’s is my guess. Me & (most of) my immediate family, due to our spiritual knowing, don’t celebrate birthdays. Me & my nephews have genuinely forgotten our ages on occasion🙃lol. I know that most of us have been here (on earth) plenty of times, so sometimes when ppl ask my age I’ll say “in this life I’m 32” or “this time around I’m ___ age”. Folks get a kick out of that lol. The framework of our holy community is to spend this life in preparation for the next one, a deep dive on “being in the world, not of it”. So w/ that mindset comes sacrifice. Not a blood ritual chile, but sacrificing certain ways & customs that’ve been deemed normal to society, ie I loooove my locs & they represent so much for me but I wear a turban & diadem like The Most Highs commanded Moses. I don’t wear my hair out in public (no I’m not muslim lol). But That’s me sacrificing /giving up using my hair as an object of desire or as an instrument to draw attention…I regard my hair now as it was originally & intentionally designed to be, ets my treasure, my antennas etc. But with the faithful mind frame of being in the world not of it…it’s like where does age come in? ( for me). Wat true value/meaning does et serve? Now, we’re not extremist in this stance either, I REBUKE pedophilia in the name of The Most High, mmkay. If I gotta fill out documents & they need my age sure, I write it. But for me, Ion do shit for my birthday lol & havnt for almost 10 years. Ion let coworkers decorate my desk, none of that, but if they insist in some small way, I’m not bothered, I smile, say thank you, & enjoy my gifts lol. Last lil “fun” fact…is in the church of satan, per my research, birthdays are the BIGGEST holiday, that’s there “Christmas”, if you will…which is “the ways of the heathen” according to the book of Jeremiah I believe ( I vaguely rahmember Kori doing an IG story on this few years ago I think) but yea….ok I’m done🤍 lol.
Thanks for opening up and sharing your thoughts with us. Maybe in/on another setting we will have the opportunity to dig into some of the other things you mentioned - but for now I’ll respond about the ages (which you’re spot on) Rob 32 and Kori 34 😁
Random - but I was reading my Bible this morning and this comment came to mind. I felt led to ask you two questions: 1. Why do you believe in reincarnation and 2. Where is this idea taught, biblically?
New here🙋♀️ thanks for sharing!
Welcome! Of course, our pleasure ❤️
Rob is turning 31
Close! 32 😁
New subbie... i already love this poscast!
Awww, welcome! We appreciate you tapping in 🙏🏾
Thank you for sharing this when it's still so fresh.
Of course!
I wonder what the implications are for friend zoning, chasing after the "bad boy", and the expectation that women are to be pursued. The first few Bible figures that come to mind are Boaz, Solomon, and King David
Amen
You guys are amazing
We wouldn't be amazing without our AMAZING videographer and friend! We appreciate you, Terry!
Good topic! Appreciate yall sharing your approach. I agree with things being 100-100. I believe a man is responsible for overseeing and ensuring provision but to me that doesn’t have to look like his income covering all the bills all the time. We both bring what we have and arrange it in the way that works best for us! I am going to law schools so if I have access to higher earnings in some seasons maybe my income will cover more but he will surely be providing in various ways as well. And I trust he will be making sure that we are set for me to take off work to have children. Teamwork makes the dream work! Also yalls energy seemed fine to me! Wasn’t painful to watch or listen to, so I guess it’s in the eye/ear of the beholder/listener. Keep up the great work!