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Being a partner of someone with PMDD is a painful journey.

10:20 i wish the impact on partners is not compared to the person with pmdd in some value based way, like they have it 10x worse. it really minimises the impact on the partner, taking the focus from their suffering. also how do you know how bad it really is to each of the people in that relationship. it's truely horrible. there are plenty of videos on the PMDD sufferer and the impact on them. the rare videos on the partners need to not minimise their experience.

You get to be in the closet for six hours? Your husband helps with the kids? Must be nice. 🙄 you get to put covers over the head? What about single moms. Or the husbands who at most give you one hour of a "break" 🥱

My wife has pmdd and going through a episode right now let me tell you this man is amazing cause it like my wife is my worst enemy the way she treats me it's hard to catch it's not her it's her illness

Am going through this right now

Can we all make a whatsapp or Instagram group

I think this is ruining my life and my marriage…I’m helpless, I don’t know what to do

I’m in a relationship with a woman with this disorder. It is the worst thing I have ever dealt with and I have seen some bad stuff before. I don’t know what to do because I care about her but it’s gone from being aggressive and yelling to demanding money in an entitled way and calling me names when I don’t give it to her. I don’t know what medication she takes aside from her birth control but apparently it’s not enough. I don’t want to leave her but it’s been so difficult to put up with her constant abuse.

It can truly be debilitating. I get violent and break things when i get it. Its very scary and it really makes you feel psychotic.

My wife and I have been married 5 years. 2 kids. She has PMDD. I’m losing hope. I will never divorce her, ever. I don’t know what to do though. She sees a counselor, doesn’t like them because of what they say, then moves on without them and gets another one. Rinse and repeat. She’s a wonderful woman when she’s not in the throes of PMDD, but it’s like being married to schizophrenic narcissist when she is. Please help me. Nobody understands PMDD in my life and I need help. She needs help. We need help. How can I best love my wife out of this mess?

IAPMD - as a therapist in your community I'm begging - can you please moderate some of the comments on this thread? They are harsh and critical of a person who suffers a severe physical and mental disorder that they did not ask to have. If you are a sufferer of PMDD reading some of these comments, know that it is hard for your partner AND you also don't deserve to be seen with the contempt and disgust reflected in some of these comments. You deserve to be healthy, happy, and held by your community. There are therapists who help/support couples dealing with PMDD just like there are therapists for couples where one person has cancer. If you're a partner, your story is important, too, and you matter. You deserve support and care. Therapy can help you process what you're experiencing and a couple's therapist can help you both come up with effective strategies to create a strong and safe relationship.

I'm thankful to this man for sharing his story and sticking by his wife.

im going insane dealing

I have been dealing with my wife's PMDD for 15 years and it's not getting better as she hits mid 40's. It use to be 2 weeks a month now it is almost 3. YES, I have a wife for 1 week per month. I wish it was only depression like this speaker says, but unfortunately it's rage and violence. She refuses to seek help and I am starting to lose my patience. This disorder is no joke

Stay away from caffeine and alcohol they make symptoms worse try vitamins d3, magnesium supplements, a b complex and exercise and eating healthy. Kelp and vitex works as well.

This guy put his income and purpose aside for a mentally ill woman. Do the opposite of what he did if you're watching this. Run. Stop enabling and excusing these women.

This disease has ruined my life in so many ways..I live in fear and without hope of it ever being resolved..There is very little help or compassion..How many women die because of the lack of understanding and assistance?This is NO JOKE!

Just leave boys it's not worth dealing with the bipolar ups and downs. Abandon ship.

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i think i struggle with this every damn month, crying spells, camps, suicidal feelings. i feel nobody in my family understands it they just either tell me to buck up or "straighten up and act like a lady". it's very upsetting and frustrating i feel like no one cares this is real. sending hugs and love to every woman out there. i feel your pain. it's good to have a partner who understands and is willing to stick through it with you.

Hormonal hell! So glad to be single!

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Ultimately I think it's unfair for a man to endure such punishment for simply being there. Women need to own up to it and find solutions...if for nothing else, their own quality of life. It should not be a man's burden to bear. Maybe work together in working things through and finding solutions. Being blamed for a woman's PMDD behaviors really sucks.

So much love xxx

This is the best video I could’ve ever chosen to watch. I have been dealing with my wife with pmdd for a few years now and it is killing me inside. I often ask myself why I put myself through this, it’s not fair that I get treated so badly. The double standard in our relationship is incredible and so hard to handle sometimes. I hate that our 6 year old girl and 2 year old boy have to see and hear all that comes with this, but it’s like when she gets in one of her moods, there’s no stopping her and she will just curse me out and say the nastiest things right in front of our children, and that’s not fair for them either. I don’t want our marriage to fail, I love her with all my heart, and I don’t want our children to grow up with divorced parents either. I’m at my wits end though. Something has to give, as I have given more than my fair share towards all this. I need help!!! 😔

My partner suffers from this and every two weeks I have to go through the mental and physical abuse. She puts me down and shouts and screams at me and has physically attacked me over eight times now. She has cheated on me and tells me she doesn’t love me. I have tried to leave numerous times but then she tells me she wants me back. I love her dearly but I don’t think I can hang in much longer. I have supported her in every way I can from saying she should go to counseling, seeing a specialist, making her eat better nutrition and getting into fitness. I do everything for her, cleaning, cooking and treating her like a princess. I am at my wits end. It’s affected my mental health, my physical health, friendships and family I just don’t know what to do anymore

Get your hormones checked right before your period. Find a napro doctor. Holistic. My progesterone wss very low. Bio identical prigesterone helped me. Compounding pharmacies can help also.

Get your hormones tested right before your period. . Find a NaPro doctor. Holistic. Bio identical progesterone from a compounding pharmacy helped so much.

This is a real man. Unselfishly, he struggled, he persevered, he loved in spite of, gathered information, built a support system...and his family WON! God bless them for sharing this message of hope!

12:04 is so true unfortunately, and the problem is there is very little support for us partners, we literally have to take the punch's when and where and suck them up without an apology.

At first my husband like you couldn’t understand what I was becoming , its like an evil person entered in me....from a kind and loving person to hatred, anger and anxiety......my husband use to think I was doing things to divorce. After I started therapy, he came with me and understood what happens to me two weeks every month.

Everything he said is spot on! I have lived in his position for 9 years. The worst mental part is trying to deal with being blamed. She could became a completely unlovable person, yet all you can do is love them anyways because you know it isn't really then. But when in that place they fight so hard to be able to remain there so they can justify their treatment of you. It's so hard watching someone you love so much change so drastically and into someone who really believes they hate you. In the end nothing I did was enough, she ended up leaving me durring an apposed after I put up security cameras because It had progressed to the point i feared for mine and my familes safety.

Why do I forget I have pmdd every month 🥲 my boyfriend was having a bad day yesterday and we didn't talk on the phone long like we always do so my mind went directly to "he doesn't want me, break up with him before he hurts you first" my mom just talked me out my own head thank God then I check my period calendar and was like... ohhhhhhh 🤡

Dude.. this is the reason my GF has been physically beating me at the end of every month. WTF...

Sounds good but not easy, I don't want to be a burden on anyone. And ppl i have tried to tell don't know what to say or do

I don't get angry as much. When I was a kid if I showed anger I'd get punched. So instead I get clingy and morbid: Everything is death everything is hopeless, dying is better than living. I also don't want to do ANY of my responsibilities. My husband gets frustrated when I'm not doing anything but scrolling on my phone for 5 hours. Also the insomnia/nightmares means I don't sleep, and he can't sleep when I'm roaming around the house at 3 AM. I also get racing thoughts constantly. Everyone is a murderer in my mind. Every freckle is cancer. Every cricket in the night is a burgler. Evil is everywhere. My skin itches. My teeth taste weird. I even hear voices and they wake me up. I once forgot how to open the front door and had to be let in. I can't drive my car. It's hell. I have random crying fits, so much so we don't even bother acknowledging them anymore. He just looks at me and checks if I'm OK and I assure him I'm just having a mood swing, and he hugs me and then we go on, business as usual. must feel like I'm a complete lunatic. I suspect I just might be. When I started birth control again I noticed when I reach a certain point in my pill calendar, it starts like clockwork. And since going on the pill, the symptoms are a little more easy to anticipate. It gets in the way of vacations, hanging out with our friends, and I know it takes a toll on him that EVERYTHING fun has to stop for a week because I'm in hermit mode. I usually try and encourage him to go out with friends as much as possible during what I call "Shadow Week". I hate him seeing me like this. Crying at the sight of his hands on mine because a thought pops in my head how those laced fingers are going to be worm food in just a few decades, or maybe even sooner than we think because...you never know. I once downed half a bottle of pills and he threatened to have me 5150ed. I imagine hearing all the doom and gloom makes for very unpleasant company. Idk much rather he go out anf have fun and leave me to handle my shadows myself. It's humiliating to be around anyone in that state.

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Thank you 🙏 Dr. Eisenlohr-Moul !!!! I recently discovered your fantastic and useful and soooo needed research and I appreciate your clarity and taking time to explain things to us in such a thorough way 🎁 I have had PMDD since the age of 12 and 1/2 at onset of my menstrual cycle and I still suffer with it now at the age of 52. I am looking forward to learning more through this material 😊 Thank you !!!!!!

Having pmdd is living in hell...for me

Dealing with my spouse that has this, I understand the struggle. You're told to be "patient," "if you're a real man you'd grin and bear it," told by her family members "oh, that's just how she is." But none of that is fair to you as the partner that has to deal with this every single month for weeks on end. Walking on egg shells constantly in the hopes that you don't say or do something to rub her the wrong way. It's a mental and emotional Olympics constantly and you just hold out hope for the times that she returns to the sweet, funny, amazing person that you met before you encountered the PMDD. In the end she HAS TO GET HELP. If she doesn't or stops taking her medication because she just doesn't feel like it, you know you'll be dealing with this for the rest of your life. It's up to you to weigh whether or not it it's worth it at that point. And to all those that would parrot the aforementioned quotes of "be patient," "if you loved her..." or "that's just how she is," stop and think for a moment, have you put yourself in the partner's shoes? Have you thought about how this affects the partners life, mental and physical well-being? But most importantly, if the roles were reversed, how long would she put up with this? How long would she take the abuse? This is a hard thing to deal with and it will constantly take patience and understanding on both sides.

Thank you for this. Not enough PMDD content out there.

Do you have any experience determining if pmdd could coexist with bipolar?

Dankie

My symptoms start about 15 or 16 days before my period. Then it is just a count down to relief. I work out for 45 minutes a day 6 days a week in the morning. I find that helps. Their are days that I can't mentally or physically get it together to get up and go until mid afternoon though. I really have to push myself, but I get it done. On the really hard days, I let my husband know that I wont be talking much that day. I feel that is better than snapping at him for asking me what's wrong. Such a shit thing to go through

it’s been an absolute roller coaster of emotions, tears, fear, stress, anxiety, anger, self-discovery, compassion and love (oh yes, it’s not all bad there is plenty of love). thepmddpartner.blogspot.com/?m=1

Wow, such an encouraging story and journey-uplifted as someone who suffers from this-Thanks so much sharing, love to your family <3