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What if they dont work he has all the money and pays all the bills you have to young boys to think about

We shouldnt have hide are bodys

We shouldnt have hide are bodys

He touble please beware

Yep

It happens to a lot of young woman

Thats not enough woman shelters

Good program

I no how she feels

Those a lot of mentality ill man out their

It’s clear that CZcams is suppressing the “like” counter.

Thank you. I read this book years ago, it continues to empower and improve me, and makes me aware of situations affecting others too. Recently abroad I observed a woman who couldn’t say no, being persistently charmed by two strange men. My knowledge gave me the courage to stop, watch, assess and intervene. “They are not charming, they are trying to charm you. Why? Be smart, don’t stay to find out “

Women need to carry.

I just started reading The Gift of Fear last night when I went to bed and couldn't put it down. I read almost half of the book before I made myself stop and go to sleep. Wow. This is a must read, especially for women of *all* ages, but I think men would benefit as well, if only to understand the feelings and real life threats that their mother, sister, daughter, wife, girlfriend face almost daily. I'd say it's also a great 'reminder' for seniors also, as some of the tactics and deceptions described certainly apply to that vulnerable group. Thank you Gavin.

The woman that was murdered💔 the husband must’ve found out she was gonna go and got upset

An unpleasant guy in an unhappy marriage whispered in my ear at a low key party. Can I give you a Christmas kiss? I didn't even see him come to me. I was startled and said no, no, no. It was my 1st gathering after being widowed. He left the room then, returned to speak to a lady next to me. When I noticed him, he jumped back and said, oops, I'm scaring B. (He's not that powerful.) A year later, in another group setting, he waited next to the hostess. Blocking my exit and said, can I give you a hug. I repled: no and walked between them. NO IS A POWERFUL WORD. BEST REPEATED IF NEEDED. Better still: no, never. 😂

This entire series is fantastic! I am currently calling all the high schools in my city asking them to introduce this in schools! I hope they make one featuring stalking as well.

Vote Bear 2024

I need to make music based from this book

Every lady needs to take 30 minutes and watch this video!

These women are so brave and strong for speaking about their experiences 🫶💗

THIS IS WHEN SILENCE IS GOLDEN FOR THE MAN

This saved my life at a season when I needed it the most a few years ago and using your MOSAIC online.

I baffles me how we are teaching kids utterly useless stuff like logarithm or matrix operations (smth I've NEVER used in my life) and not stuff like this. 😡🤯

Gavin is amazing. I would love to shake his hand and give him a hug. I appreciate his vulnerability in sharing his own experiences with violence. That's what sets him apart from all other male 'experts' on violence against women. I've read thousands of nonfiction books. GOF is one of very few I would recommend to everyone I know and anyone who might be receptive to the hard truths he presents about how our culture silences women.

I'm watching this series for the third time because I just read about P. Diddy's brutal assault of Cassy Ventura caught on security camera. This is the beginning of my comments on articles about the story: "THIS BOOK SAVES LIVES: Gavin deBecker’s The Gift of Fear And Other Survival Signals That Protect Us From Violence (1999). I agree with Oprah's review: 'Every woman in America needs to read this book.' I would take it further...every teenager and adult...everywhere. It helped me process my childhood abuse and find my voice as a woman in a culture that constantly tells women to be quiet."

Thank you for sharing

Research has shown if a person is cruel to animals the next step is a human. Police start get twitchy when there is a spate of cat killings in an area because they know there will soon be have a murder.

I love Gavin, but I’m not sure I agree that dogs don’t sense a bad person.

I have been raped, attacked by a gang, attacked by the police, had ohysical fights w/ an ex oartner and put myself in front of a woman with two knives about to kill her boyfriend to stop her. But I dont remember feeling fear in those situations. However when I was 21 working as a stripper at a club, a client insisted on talking to me. I accepted (they have to drink & invite u which means more money). He called me by my real name. I looked at him closely, had never met this person in my life. I kept my job a secret, obly a few friends knew i was a stripoer and no one knew where. But he knew everything about me. He told me where i went to school, who my friends & teachers were and kept kn recitikn my biography.... i knew i was safe (i only have to scream and the bouncers kick hin oit in less than a second. But i was paralyzed. I djdnt know what to do or say... i didbt know what he wanted apart from scaring me. After 2 drinks he left. I went to the bathroom and broke down. This memory still makes my heart beat fast...who is thia guy? What does he want? What if he wants to hurt me? Im sure he knows where i live and with who and everything... but i dont have any obvious stalkers on my socials... maybe he juat wanted to see me scared and have that power trip & thats it.

Politically correct is not statistically correct 👏

My brother’s best friend, who was three years older than me(I was 13), offered to walk me home after a party he had invited me to. Just going over there to play video games, and he asked if I wanted some juice and I said yes. I remember thinking at the juice tasted somewhat fermented, but drank it anyway. I have been playing baseball all day. These were back in the days when parents didn’t keep tabs on their kids all the time. Within 20 minutes I started to feel very lightheaded and not so good so I said “I’m gonna go home. I don’t feel so good” my brothers friend, offered to walk me home, since my house was close, but it was a wooded area between the houses. As soon as we got into the woods, he forcefully kissed me and started tearing at my clothes. Sadly, this was my first kiss. I screamed and yelled and kicked and fart and he must’ve been scared that somebody would hear me because he took off and ran away. My brother was away at a camp, so when he was not at a party. Not that he would’ve protected me because my brother was not very nice. Anyway I get back to my house and it’s about 9:30 PM. At this point, I figured out that obviously he had put a large amount of alcohol in my drink, and I was feeling sick and could hardly walk. But I was terrified to tell my parents. I knew that they would accuse me of being stupid for walking alone with a boy and going to a party. Because a lot of people do that. They blame the girl and her choices. I was a child. I was wearing my baseball uniform. Not that it should matter. Yes, girls need to be taught self awareness, but I am so sick of people telling girls that it’s the way they dressed or the things they did because back in the Victorian days when women were covered from neck to toe women still got raped at the same rate it’s not about the clothes

For people who don’t like fighting or who know they don’t have the instinct to fight, yell loudly with an assertive tone. They fear exposure. Noise is your friend; make noise.

TIP: If I am in a group or alone with a stranger taking an elevator to an apartment, I push the wrong floor, so no one knows which floor I live on. After I get off the correct floor (alone), I push a bunch of random floors, so no one who is watching knows which one I got off on. Although, nowadays, your FOB will only let you go to your floor and you then, you might have a tailgater. If that is the case, be last to get into the elevator, (perpetrators will be gentlemanly and hold out their hand as you are the woman) “No, thanks - waiting on my husband to catch up” - return to your car and watch until it’s safe, if they follow then look for an exit towards high public areas. Just train yourself on what to say and tactics, so when/if it does happen your reaction will be natural.😊

Thank you Mr Debecker.Please do this again without women who waste your time venting their stories. They're too similar to what we hear even from our neighbors, coworkers,etc.Speak more about recognizing the risks,the reality of cognitive dissonance, etc.Your book saved my son from getting kidnapped and me from murder.God bless you 😊

A new coworker kept being nice to me. We’re truck drivers and he was opening my door for me and try to buy me food. 3 days in he offered me to sleep at his house because it was close to the job. I declined of course. I decided to keep my distance. One time I was sitting in my car and he just started cleaning my windows. I got out and ask him to stop I didn’t need him to do that. He told me to let him be a gentleman and continued wiping my windows. I stood there irritated. He reached out and put his arm around me while asking , do I need a hug. I was so shook I just got in my car. Later that day he asked me out🤯. I told him no, he coldly said , “I was just trying to be nice”. Next day he brought me a valentine card and food. I’m angrily rejected it and told him I do t want nothing from him and to leave me alone. He said come on don’t be like that. I reported him. It was his last day working with me

Watching this made me realize I could have been harmed at work the other day. Thankfully the security guard sensed something wasn't right and literally came and stood by me when there was another man standing by my desk asking for help and making me uncomfortable. The security guard stayed a little longer after I said i was fine and after he eventually left, the guy that needed help went back to his computer and sat down and i thought that was weird but now I'm extremely grateful for that security guard protecting me from what could have been a dangerous situation.

Years ago I had watched Mr. Debecker on the Oprah show talk about his new book , " The gift of fear". Right away I asked my father for the book for my birthday. He purchased it, started reading it , and almost missed giving it to me for my Birthday!!! I absolutely love this book. And will reference it forever.

I would like to know Gavin's advice to black women who are victimized by black men for ignoring their advances and being assertive about being left alone. This is a different type of predator, i think and i really want this knowledge under my belt.

Kelly's story has stuck with me the most out of them all. I'm not sure where she is now, but I think about her often.

Fight or flight saves animals....fear of being eaten Saves many ✌🏿✌🏿while intuition is quiet.....ego is accompanied W mind chattet.....I often do intuition exercises 👁🕉💫💭💭

I feel that Gavin is very sympathetic to abusers in this video. He needs to talk to Lundy Bancroft who studies abusive men. An abusive man is not a good match for ANYONE

I used to think it was ridiculous how people could care so much about neglect or cruelty towards animals, when there are so many people suffering. But it really hit me one day that animals are vulnerable, just as vulnerable as children and completely defenseless. So it does take a special kind of sick person to harm the defenseless.

This story was insane!! My god.

Gavin said he never heard of a case where there wasn’t a warning before marrying- something like that. My X beat the crap out of me after we came home from our honeymoon, as soon as we walked in the door. It escalated-

Because most people sleepwalk thru life

Looked up this book again today after reading it many times. I must see if I can get involved in some way, courses or something. I’ve been looking for self defence courses in my country and it’s unbelievable that almost none exist! You’d think there would be one in every town and village!

Thank you so much, Gavin. You are an Earth Angel among us. 💙😇💙

I grew up being severely abused by my adoptive mother. I left home at 17 to get away. I vowed that I would never be abused again. I've been good at recognizing attempts at trying to control me, dominate me (what I experienced with my mother). I have never been hit by a man, but have had a man put his fist to my face. I let him know if he hit me, I would kill him. He dropped his fist and walked away. I think my anger toward my childhood abuse is just below the surface. I once asked a therapist "I've never been hit by a man, I have friends who have, but not me. Why is that?" He responded "No one would dare." So, there must be something about me, my attitude, my toughness that is not attractive to abusers. Abusers pick their prey, they're very good at that.

I love how he desperately tries to force the girl in blue to being a victim despite her saying she instigated the fight. The gaslighting is real and it’s ironic actually 😂