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Sasha Ayad
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I am a Licensed Professional Counselor who works with adolescent-onset gender dysphoric teens and young people.
I also offer support and coaching for parents of dysphoric youth. Parents, learn to navigate your child's identity exploration with discernment, wisdom, and compassion: www.subscribestar.com/sashalpc
I'm the co-host of Gender: A Wider Lens Podcast, which you can listen to here: czcams.com/channels/P62aWWtlZV1oVnbMhTRBcg.html
** The channel is for informational purposes only. Nothing on this channel is intended to substitute for the treatment provided by a mental health professional.
I also offer support and coaching for parents of dysphoric youth. Parents, learn to navigate your child's identity exploration with discernment, wisdom, and compassion: www.subscribestar.com/sashalpc
I'm the co-host of Gender: A Wider Lens Podcast, which you can listen to here: czcams.com/channels/P62aWWtlZV1oVnbMhTRBcg.html
** The channel is for informational purposes only. Nothing on this channel is intended to substitute for the treatment provided by a mental health professional.
Beware of Echo Chambers for Yourself and Your Gender-Questioning Kid, What's On My Mind, Sept 2024
For many of us, our social media accounts are full of followers (and people we follow) not because we have any real-life relationships with them, but because we have shared interests, or worse, similar opinions. And, as we know, the most extreme accounts amass huge followings and have the power to shape the views and beliefs of their followers. And frankly, I have no idea how algorithms really work, but a lot of smart people seem to think they are pulling us further and further into echo chambers.
In this month's What's On My Mind, I talk about how these echo chambers might be fueling the disconnect between you and your gender-questioning child.
To read the rest of this month's newsletter, go to sashaayad.substack.com
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Also, please check out a new study being conducted by Drs Littman, Zucker, and Baily called The Adolescent and Young Adult Gender Dysphoria Outcomes Study (AYAGDOS). You can find information on what it is and how to participate, along with a downloadable flyer-all in my newsletter this month.
In this month's What's On My Mind, I talk about how these echo chambers might be fueling the disconnect between you and your gender-questioning child.
To read the rest of this month's newsletter, go to sashaayad.substack.com
If you appreciate this content, be sure to sign up. It's free!
Also, please check out a new study being conducted by Drs Littman, Zucker, and Baily called The Adolescent and Young Adult Gender Dysphoria Outcomes Study (AYAGDOS). You can find information on what it is and how to participate, along with a downloadable flyer-all in my newsletter this month.
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Reset the Broken Relationship With Your Adult Child: A Conversation With Joshua Coleman
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Dr. Joshua Coleman, parental estrangement expert, joined me for an in-depth conversation for my parent membership group on SubscribeStar last month. We talked at length about the books he's written, his shifting views on gender affirmation, and his template for the “amends letter." I also asked Josh to react to what I call the “reset conversation,” which allows parents to acknowledge their curr...
Get Me Off of This Thing! -- What's On My Mind, August 2024
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“Falling down a rabbit-hole.” I’ve said this phrase countless times to describe what it feels like to get pulled into the world of gender. Other expressions like “falling down the well” and “being sucked into a vortex” also feel apt. They all conjure a feeling of being in a dark, distant place from which it becomes ever harder to escape, or come up for air. The belief systems of gender identity...
Will Your Child be Indoctrinated by Gender Ideology in College?
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If you have a teen in high school or secondary education and you’re trying to figure out their plans for life after high school, I’ll be going through many considerations in this video. I’ll discuss things like: • The Myth of Fittedness and how it can cause parents to send their kids off to college before he or she is ready • What college might represent to your child • How you might tell if yo...
Olivia and the Broken Promise of a Non-binary Identity
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Recently, I spoke with a young woman, who previously identified as trans, for my Parent Membership Group on SubscribeStar. In this clip from our conversation, Olivia shares how she came to develop a trans/non-binary identity, and how once she adopted that identity she spiraled into a more and more distressed way of being. To hear my full conversation with Olivia, join my Parent Membership Group...
When it Comes to Gender Dysphoria in Males, We Have to Talk About Autogynephilia
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There’s a raging debate far down the gender rabbit hole about what’s going on with the boys. Some of the most invested and knowledgeable people in the gender world, despite agreeing that pediatric gender medicine is dangerous, vehemently disagree about how to understand boys who question their gender identity. Some say there’s an entirely new category of ROGD boys whose motivations for transiti...
Don’t Let Your Your Gender-questioning Child Slip Away
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Parenting is complicated business these days. You can find literally thousands of books, experts, and professionals telling parents how to do their job. Each one offers some technique or tool that promises to unlock the secret to the perfect parenting strategy. And yet, we have higher rates of teen anxiety and depression than ever before. How do we account for this paradox? How is it that paren...
Is Trans a Religious Conversion Experience? - What's On My Mind, June 2024
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I’ve heard it argued, by people I greatly admire, that gender-questioning youth need to be given all the information about where their distress may be coming from and what options they have to treat it. I’ve probably even said that, in one way or another, myself. And that approach sounds great, theoretically. However, it's often not very effective. Detransitioners, rightly, come to wish that so...
Help: My Child is a Screen Addict! - What's On My Mind, May 2024
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What is it about an online life that attracts and locks certain people into a screen-based existence? We know that tech companies work to deliberately steal our attention and seek to capture more and more of it each day. But I suspect the vulnerabilities we have depend on our personalities, interests, and the medium vying for our attention. But what about the antidote to this? If I, or you, or ...
How to Make Your Teen Strong and Resilient -- Whats On My Mind March 2024
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This is clip from one of my monthly topic videos that I create for my Parent Membership Group on SubscribeStar. Each topic video runs between 30 and 60 minutes and I cover a broad range of subjects, from "Responding to Your Child’s Trans Announcement" to "Critical Thinking for Gender-Questioning Teens Young Adults." To see the full video, and many more like it, please join my Parent Membership ...
The Importance of Friction in Childhood - What's on My Mind, April 2024
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This is a new segment for my monthly newsletter. To read the other sections of the newsletter, please visit my Substack at SashaAyad.Substack.com. Each month I share my reflections on the current gender landscape and tell you about what’s been going on in my world as a therapist specializing in gender dysphoria. You can check it out and subscribe here: sashaayad.substack.com/
A Continued Look at the Parallels Between ROGD and "Repressed Memories"
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In January, I binged an amazing podcast called The Memory Hole Podcast, produced by Jena Martin. It's about the recovered memory epidemic of the 1980s and 1990s. As I listened, I couldn't help but find many parallels between what Jena was describing and the current scandal happening around gender medicine. So I decided to create a couple of videos for my Parent Membership Group outlining these ...
You Can't Understand ROGD Without Understanding "Repressed Memories"
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In January, I binged an amazing podcast called The Memory Hole Podcast, produced by Jena Martin. It's about the recovered memory epidemic of the 1980s and 1990s. As I listened, I couldn't help but find many parallels between what Jena was describing and the current scandal happening around gender medicine. So I decided to create a couple of videos for my Parent Membership Group outlining these ...
Peek Inside the Book, "When Kids Say They're Trans"
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In this short video, you'll hear from me, Stella O'Malley, and Lisa Marchiano about why we came together to write the book, "When Kids Say They're Trans." You'll learn a little more about what's in the book and who we wrote it for. To learn more about the book and find out where you can buy your own copy, please visit: whenkidssaytheyretrans.com/ Also, you can check out this episode of Gender: ...
What is "gender identity"? It depends on who you ask.
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Anyone who has tried to understand the shifting gender landscape in our culture and society today, has come up against this term "gender identity." Everything "trans" seems to rest on an understanding of gender identity. Some say we all have one. Some say it's more important than one's biological sex. But what exactly do people mean when they use this term? Well, it depends on who you ask. In t...
Top Principles for Parents of Gender Non-conforming Young Children
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Top Principles for Parents of Gender Non-conforming Young Children
Top Principles for Parents of Trans-Identified Teens with Sasha Ayad
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Top Principles for Parents of Trans-Identified Teens with Sasha Ayad
Dear Sasha- I'm Stuck and Paralyzed! Gender is the "Elephant in the Room"
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Dear Sasha- I'm Stuck and Paralyzed! Gender is the "Elephant in the Room"
How Sibling Jealousy Can Impact a Trans-Identification
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How Sibling Jealousy Can Impact a Trans-Identification
Dear Sasha-Will My Desisted Child "Relapse" into Gender Dysphoria Again?
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Dear Sasha-Will My Desisted Child "Relapse" into Gender Dysphoria Again?
Dear Sasha-My Daughter Says, "I Was Born in the Wrong Body." How Should I Respond?
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Dear Sasha-My Daughter Says, "I Was Born in the Wrong Body." How Should I Respond?
Ways To Acknowledge the Utility of a Trans Identity, Sasha Reads from "When Kids Say They're Trans"
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Ways To Acknowledge the Utility of a Trans Identity, Sasha Reads from "When Kids Say They're Trans"
Six Principles for Parents of Trans-Identified Young Adults
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Six Principles for Parents of Trans-Identified Young Adults
Dear Sasha-Help me with "Gender Affirming" Therapists, Psychiatrists and Hospitals!
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Dear Sasha-Help me with "Gender Affirming" Therapists, Psychiatrists and Hospitals!
Sasha Reads an Excerpt from "When Kids Say They're Trans" - How to Row Back
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Sasha Reads an Excerpt from "When Kids Say They're Trans" - How to Row Back
Dear Sasha- Is it Dangerous to be Forceful with my Daughter's School on Gender?
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Dear Sasha- Is it Dangerous to be Forceful with my Daughter's School on Gender?
Dear Sasha-What Do We Say to Our Adult Gender-Questioning Daughter?
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Dear Sasha-What Do We Say to Our Adult Gender-Questioning Daughter?
Communicating With Your Trans-Identified Child About their Shifting Identity
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Communicating With Your Trans-Identified Child About their Shifting Identity
The Passage of Time + Living in Reality with a Trans Identification
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The Passage of Time Living in Reality with a Trans Identification
I think we've talked about AGP quite enough already. It has already been debunked and disproven to the ground multiple times already. It really doesn’t need to be resuscitated again. Just let it rest
You do so much damage to your credibility when you refer to women as “he” and men as “she.” Not to mention that your willingness to confuse people who are new to this topic with doublespeak is extremely concerning & problematic. It’s crazy that you want families to put their trust in you & rely on your honesty when you’re so willing to throw truth out the window in support of some crazy agenda you seem to be pursuing rather than just being clear & honest. IDK how anyone trusts their children to you after watching this. I find all this deceptive language and blythely confusing back-and-forth obfuscation of who is female and who is male completely appalling. And the question is ultimately, who does it serve? Not families.
Your first day thinking about gender as a concept...welcome to the party.
Great video. You are spot on.
Ask yourself what feelings are socially acceptable for a man to express. Neutral and anger. Its an incomplete human experience. The sex gratification is part of it no doubt but its alot more than that, its the seeking of a full emotional range and feminine socialization and not being stigmatized for it Thats why it all endures after hormones when sex drive has been reduced. The weight of be a man, is lifted.
this doesnt work at all. We need to stop genrealising and narrativising genders and gender norms.
Thank you for talking about a topic which so many try so hard to deny is a thing.
thanks awfully from Goldap for keeping bursting my bubble
I started eating a carnivore diet in January this year and, wow, it's changed so much about how I view all these addictions we have. I now easily limit my screen time and I'm able to focus again. For years I couldn't even read a book because I couldn't focus long enough to absorb so much as a few sentences. Now I've taken up new hobbies, I spend way more time outdoors and being active at things I neglected for years and I feel really really good. I can't say it will do this for everyone but it's made a huge difference for me.
The power went off here a while back. It was only off for a few hours but of course I didn't know that was to be the case. Instead the length of time it would be off was unknown. So I was forced to spend time without my computer being on. It surprised me to find I felt happy to be free of it! Thank you for not loading up your video with whatever the video equivalent is of clip art.
why is the modern culture so insistent in its need for attention? i'm old now; never made money, never fit in. i don't think i ever grew up. still, every aspect of technology seems desperate for my attention. i've got this laptop, no phone at all. had to let go of my facebook account because i can't do 'double authentication' without the phone. i put a few apple trees in the place i stay. blueberries are a bit more productive. grapes coming in. no more sailboat. no more motorcycle. it's okay. it's not just you letting go. it's letting go of you, too. enjoy that sun, those walks, the rain. the ridiculous tech shit. nothing wrong with you.
I'm a HSTS and AGPs is 100% a thing. ❤❤❤❤ Calling agp an orientation is offensive. The orientation is straight. Everything around it is just a fetish
You lost me at calling Lawrence a "she" 🤦🏻♀️. Typical transmaid
So... I have a simple question that isn't addressed in this video... Why does this only apply to Male to Female trans people? Is there any comparable diagnosis for the Female to Male group, and if not, why?
Because its nonsense parading as science.
I think Jenner falls into this category.
Where can I read any research on hsts internalized homophobia? That makes a lot of sense to me because I grew up very religious but never made that connection till you said that! Love your channel!
There isn't any. Blanchard interviewed male patients between the age of 18 and 27. They reported they had seen themselves as part of the female group since they could remember. ( early onset ) . They were general avoident of any partner seeing, or touching their genitals, Avoident They did not hate their genitals. They were totally passive sexualy. Blanchard refered to them being sissy boys as children. Feminine. They did not hate being attracted to men. As in internalised homophobia. As mentally seeing themselves as part of the other group. They were attracted to the same qualities in a partner as the group they identified with. Generally small and physically less masculine than most males. Engaging in womans conversations etc, and accepted as such. Blanchard is quite clear that the same sex attraction came after the dyphoria about group identity. Homosexual in relation to birth sex. Dr Bailey has described this type in behaviour as " basicaly girls ", in relation to behaviours. Blanchard also noted that, if they engaged in a relationship, if they perceived the partner as homosexual. They were undesirable. Ie type of person one finds attractive, and who that person finds someone attractive. This can be equated to a masculine Feminine dynamic. In short to conclude. They have no problem with being erotically and romantically being attracted to a member of the same biological sex. As gender dysphoric seeing themselves diferent to someone with a gay identity. They use their sexuality, I.e the espession of their sexual oriention. In a similar way as if the opposite sex. With a partner that is attracted to them, and those qualities. There are numerous accounts of even being shunned in gay venues ( Caroline Cossey) for one. Apart from their tastes, they take a gay man's tastes into consideration as well. Blanchard has said that in regular homosexuals any girlish behaviour burns itself out. In hsts evidence is it does not. A hsts can not behave in a masculine way to attract a male partner. The adopted peer relationship with woman is also very important. Which forms part of, the even childhood dysphoria. Homosexuals do on occasion have difficulty accepting being gay, I.e attracted to men than is typical for men. How people will see them, how parents will see them, and how the other males, who they still see as their peers will treat them if, they come out as gay. That is internalised homophobia. HSTS are better described as of having a cognitive disodence between who they see themselves as, how society expects them to be and, not having a gay identity, and their sex. That is better described as resulting in a mental disirder.
@@honberg193 Thank you so much for your clarification!
@@cristinabella5989 The thing is there is liitle further studies done since Blanchard coined the term 40 odd years ago. Historicaly once they undergo reasigment, they simply vanish. Mingling on with the general population. They're indivuals and others that call themselves HSTS by virtue of being homosexual. These include gynandomorphs. Who don't have any surgery. A lesser form of GD, who can't be ordinary gay men, as no one is interested in them. They live and function within a subculture of the trans community. Appealing to men with an atypical orientation. Neither gay, or straight. These are called gynandromorphofiles, ( gamp, chasers ). Gynadromorphs, or the colqualism, shemales. Looking like a woman, but functiona male genitalia. Wanting a more masculine man. This type are far more common than HSTS, as defined by Blanchard, and Bailey. There are a very small amount of what Blanchard termed pseudo bisexual I.e autosexual (AGP ), who's need to be seen as female, may lead them to apear to need some attention by men. It is not same sex attraction, but purely a need to satisfy and confirm mentaly that they are the opposite sex. They have no external attraction to the male body or genitalia. Some of these beleive they are homosexual in orientation, or infact now straight women. These are rare for one, as they are not naturaly feminine, need surgery to look feminie. They may seek gamp men for an occasional " affirmation ". The observational difference between these three groups are very distinguishable. If you want to see a typical HSTS who transitioned many, many decades ago, who tells her story. Look up CZcams for Diana Salamah. She's really nice, and down to earth. Like many HSTS, it can be co morbid with some forms of DSD.
Is an AGP that has fought this shiz since a child and dont watch porn or fantasise about it, it still gets to me mentally and i do hate being a man. I have alot of emotional distress daily and struggle with my mood, and dont like socialising with men, im soft natured and would love to socialise with women more, and for the record im not attracted to either sex, dont get aroused at all. Kinda lonely existence. Ive tried intimacy with both men and women and just dont get sex. I just want a bit of love and compassion. A hug will do. Btw im on the autism spectrum which probably explains alot.
I am wondering how this works with kids with BPD. All I hear are demands for apologies "for what you did" and affirmation. Anything that doesn't unequivocally state complete responsibility for wrongs is deemed gaslighting.
I tend to think kids with such traits are really testing their parents' love: will you love me if I treat you terribly? Will you love me if I'm unrecognizable to you? Depending on the age of your child, it might help to take a less rigid approach. Without knowing more it's really hard to say, but I do think they genuinely feel betrayed and rejected.
Thank you for doing this conversation. It is so needed for us parents of older kids.
I have watched many of your videos, and I remain on the fence as to whether you are attempting to support transgender folk or kick them to the curb. I honestly believe you think you are helping, but you need to review the way you approach topics.
I want to watch the full video. Which Tier do I need to subscribe to in order to access it, Tier 1 or Tier 2? Thank you.
Tier 1
@@SashaLPC Thank you so much!
This was so timely I can’t believe it . Today is 4 months that our adult son came out to us . He is likely given all signs , going to cut us off. We do not affirm his decision or use his name and pronoun. Estrangement is a real problem in this community and is encouraged ! Thank you for discussing this painful issue.
Hi Christina. I hope you and your son can find a way to stay connected, I know this can be so difficult!
Have you tried not being transphobic?
I have self identified as having AGP. I am respectful of women’s spaces. I have never been turned on by porn. The rest of the description is pretty accurate in my case.
Secondary sex characteristics do not match primary
Did you say “kind of Aspie”? I hope you didn’t. 1. Asperger’s is no longer a term. Those people are now seen as being on the autism spectrum. 2. You can’t be kind of autistic. You either are autistic, or your aren’t.
Phil illy has written a new book on AGP and AAP called "AutoHeteroSexual". --- www.youtube.com/@phililly He has done many interviews about this subject on CZcams in the past year (2023-2024) Might be good to bring him on your channel for an interview.
He's a self centred narcissist and a creep. F Phil illy
I see a lot of transgender, transexual and cross dressers who look like a stone cold 'fox.' ... there are some 'tens' out there with XY chromosomes.
Thank you, this is a much-needed content. As someone struggling with AGP, I would like to leave a comment. Why do AGPs transition in middle age? It is simply because if AGP is not tamed, properly managed and kept in check, it can spiral out of control. Add to that midlife crisis and years of cross-dressing or fantasising, which fueled your addiction and hijacked your dopamine system leading often to some delusions. If you treat this condition as a paraphilia or very bizarre sexuality and manage it, it won't hijack you. It takes a lot of work, if you don't indulge, you will weaken those neuropathways. The worst thing a man can do is to transition. It will ruin your life. Most AGPs know that they are not a woman, especially when post-nut clarity kicks in. AGPs are straight and most of them have normal heterosexual desires directed outwards. If we focus on that and cut the addiction, we will heal. AGP tendencies will probably stay lifelong, but you can manage it.
I don't indulge or engage but the delusion has been present since pre puberty, can't shake that.
So much is spent on agp and hsts clusters that it forgets about us trassexuals who actually have a brain developement anomaly. My transition to live as a woman is not based on sex or sexuality. When a hormone does not coordinate correctly in your brain medical intervention is needed. One has to be aware of their own sex/gender before transitioning. Women are Women. Transsexual women are transsexual women. This whole agp situation is very creepy. Women are sex objects for male fantasies again. A Woman (l refuse to use cis) is between her ears, not her legs. LGBT is so rediculous. LGB is credible. Give the T back to us real T's. No, l am not attracted to men. This is a hard road to take in a world full of Women. As with most things in this world, momentum increases with the use of technology. Puberty for me was going to doctor to find the reason for growing breasts at 14 while the boys were talking about sexuality. It was a different puberty for me.🦄
Transgender should be homosexual, so jealous 😢
As a 30 year old AGP who decided not to transition, I can say you are right on track. Its a torturous existence always second guessing yourself. A very lonely path and always feeling like you are wearing a mask but dont know what is the mask and what isnt. Those who transition are cosplaying as women and some are dangerous with erotic fantasy intention... yes they quite literally get off to the idea of being in womens spaces. It feels like something overtakes you and the more you compromise and allow it to, the more fantasies it wants to act out. The best comparison I can give is a straight heterosexual man driven by lust and saying that its only fair they are allowed to exercise their sexual fantasies in public at all times and society has to accept it. I do not think we are born with it but something in early childhood imprinted itself into our mind and we've never been the same since. Imagine seeing yourself as a man in every way, but then something (sexually driven) telling you that you are a women and wanting to see it manifest into reality. I apologize to any woman that this may seem to objectify, its quite literally out of my control. There seems to be no real cure and it is never not on my mind. I feel for the teenagers that this is affecting now, it can be a dark reality. :(
I also want to say, I dont mean this to be hateful to anyone in anyway. It is a VERY difficult reality and either choice you make when it comes to transitioning I completely understand in order to alleviate the gender dysphoria, its just the push for being treated as women and sharing womens spaces is WRONG, because for those heterosexual agps, this is all intertwined with sexual deviance to a degree. Lets advocate for Transgender spaces or refrain from female spaces in public out of respect for them.
I am Andrew, 24 years old guy from Greece🇬🇷. The last few years i dont know why but i have started these feelings of want to dress like woman. I have somehow sweet facial characteristics and i can for sure become travesti. But i love to be boy just many times in sex with my gf i have the sexual desire to become and dress like woman in sex. I dont like men at all. I like only women and transwomen. But i am into monogamy and i love my gf. So when i told her about me she got little shocked in start but now we are fine. In society and my outdoor life with my familliar people i have my natural male appearence ( i like it i am not forced in that) and in sex many times my gf she dresses me like woman with her clothes and wig and she does me make up too. I dont like to become woman permanent but many times during sex only. We are both very happy cause nowdays we bought a strapon and she pegs me too 😁i love it cause is a way of expression of me to feel like woman amd express my feminine energy and being submissive to my love while she is dom and tops me.
As much as medical gatekeeping has primarily been motivated by hatred and disgust, I have some degree of sympathy for doctors who'd base whether or not they'd provide treatment based on a patient's ability to pass effectively. The sad fact is that for a lot of trans people the process of transitioning will only worsen their quality of life because not only will they never be able to look enough like the gender they want to alleviate their own dysphoria, they'll be seen as uncanny mockeries by everyone around them.
Shut up what are you saying is a bunch of bull crap and BS. You obviously don’t know what you’re talking about you saying a bunch of BS and garbage. Be quiet in my
Genuine question: why are you referring to AGP as a sexual orientation and not a fetish? To me it seems like a sexual orientation is innate while a fetish is learned, and I find it extremely hard to believe that AGP is innate
based on my clinical experience, I do not think it is always learned.
@@SashaLPCI’m sorry but why? How could it possibly not be learned? Why would there be an evolved tendency for some men to be attracted to the idea of themselves as women? What evolutionary purpose could that possibly serve? (I’m thinking about how it’s been theorized that homosexuality may have developed because of the need to raise children among groups of adults, to share the burdens of child rearing, so having some childless adults is helpful to the community as a whole. Also, homosexual behavior is seen in other animals. The only time we see male animals mimicking female animals is a mating strategy.) More than enough AGP’s have openly admitted to becoming trans because of p…0rn, that tbh it seems to me that any man who says it is innate is likely lying, to you and himself
@@SashaLPCso even if it’s not always learned, it is sometimes learned. Which would mean it is not an orientation. Just gonna leave it there bc either you or CZcams deleted my last comment where I asked why you think what you do and went into the reasons why I don’t think it makes any sense to call it an orientation.
@@SashaLPCeven Ray Blanchard, who coined the term AGP through his work with t-identified men, refers to them as a type of heterosexual men with a propensity to be turned on by the idea of themselves as women, and as a sxl target misfiring. And he sympathizes with t widows. I appreciate that you and Stella want to empathize with these men, but it’s also important to be honest about their motivations if you’re going to understand the behavior. These are straight men with a f…3ti$h. And that impacts the way they behave, especially towards women and children.
Few actually indiscriminately pursue random stimulation, because real randomness is not interesting. Of course there are limitations to our mental capacity, but the key to information processing is organization and quality, not unqualified limitations on quantity. Our ability to limit our intake to those sorts of information sources which are actually useful to us is being dramatically enhanced. It is for us as individuals to wisely manage those sources, as it is with all resources at our disposal. Low quality information is not forced on us by technology, it is our task to manage technology in our lives responsibly. When we drive our car into a tree, it is not the fault of the car.
We go to church every week. For the hour and a half, I focus on that. Then we have lunch together. We then sing in the choir for the next hour. We don't have cellphone attachment issues because of that. Which enabled me to perform on full cylinders at work... 🎉
Ah, you nailed it beautifully. I too have been aware of mood changes in myself, because of too much coming at me, trying to take it in. Enough. I have chosen to spend much of that time in my veggie garden (on a the steep slope of a learning curve). I also am blessed to have a spot where I love to beachcomb and watch the variety of sea birds. Before all this, starting my day in The Word and prayer sets the tone of my day. I am intentional about what I read and listen to and am now sensitive to when it's getting to be too much. There are so many issues one can be concerned about. Having lost my job as a guidance counsellor for expressing concerns about teaching gender theory to elementary kids and refusing to do so, this is my main concern I focus on. Your podcasts with Stella are my go to as I trust your good sense, experience, and wisdom. Thank you so much for this Sasha! 😊💕
Once again, I went to bed last night, promising myself that I would NOT look at the internet when I got up, but here I am.. I have a life-long history of distracting behaviour, but it used to be books, magazines, newspapers, television.. At one point, I used to institute what I called a periodic "word fast" - where I stopped reading, except for work. Stopped watching tv. And only listened to instrumental music. For a week or two. The internet has me in its grasp to such a degree that I can't imagine doing that now.. But I think I'd better figure out a way to do it somehow. Sometimes, substitution works. So - I may start by substituting reading (instead of listening) to a book, instead of going online. And classic rock radio might just be better than podcasts, etc.. - And then, instrumental music... etc... Anyhow, thank you for bringing this up at a time when I really need to tackle this problem!
Agreeing with you as I'm watching you on CZcams is creating cognitive dissonance.
With knowledge and understanding of Wilhelm Reichs work, this transgender issue could be more clearly understood. Perhaps that is why the communists orchestrated the campaign against him that got him locked up jail, where he died, and had his books banned and burned in the USA in th 1950s. They already had the madness planned? In any case, from a Reichian viewpoint auto gyno philia can be understood as a "secundary perverse drive" arising when the "primordial love impulse" is denied its natural outlet, and neurosis forms. The most vicious aspects of this Reich called "the emotional plague of mankind", sexual neurosis in its most malignant form, ultimately as the hatred of life and everything natural, by those denied normal outlet of their sexuality. To understand what is going on I think one must have an idea of what I call "the original situation". What humanity was like before "the fall". Luckily there are a few examples of societies that seemed to have retained a lot of the qualities of this original situation surviving in isolated pockets almost up to our time, such as the Trobriand people. There, the children were breastfed for three years by the mother, they got to play freely all the natural exploratory games of children without the intervention of adult perverts sexualising the innocent games of children either by shaming and punishing them and threathening them with hell, or by perversly joining them and abusing them in that manner. They could do this freely and safely since there were no adult perverts, since all the adults had had the same natural childhood and hence become sane adults. When the Trobriand reached adolescence they moved to seperate huts and enjoyed their adolescense there, also in playful innocense. There were no incels there. Some homosexual activity could occur in this phase, just as some masturbation could occur, but everyone knew that that was inferior to the love between boy and girl, which all wanted and all got to share. They did not do ugly, dirty, pornographic stuff, which all comes from "secundary perverse drives", but only the natural, innocent and beautiful. Hence some homosexual play is not unnatural at that early stage, probably a remnant from our Bonobo like ancestors, where the boys learned to love and tolerate eachother like brothers, and not be so deadly jealous, but rather empatize with eachother, and share the girls without so much jealousy , like among the Vikings that an arab explorer encountered. Then that homosexual or bisexual phase would pass, and natural relation with women became the more exclusive interest. Homosexual mutual masturbation does not compare to "the loving embrace between man and woman", the true sexual union, so noone would remain stuck in that phase except through traumatization and being deprived. Offcourse in our society noone has a childhood and adolecense like this, hence all the mental illness and perversion . Auto gyno philia is then easily understood. Men long terribly for the love of women, but if they cannot develop a full natural relationship to them in real life, they must fantasize, in desperation, to try and fill the need for the complimentary feminine they don't have fulfilling access to in real life. Even if a man gets in the position to "mechanically fuck" a woman, this is not a full satisfactory love contact. As Reich discovered "mechanical fucking" only makes the man ejaculate prematurely, whereas the loving embrace leads to a full whole body extacy for both the man and the woman, a trancendent experience (probably involving endogenous DMT production). But as Reich discovered, neurotically armoured individuals are incapable of this full expression of love, due to the permanent neurotic muscle tensions in their bodies, which renders them emotionally crippled and insensitive, and unable to feel their own life energy. Being cut off from this union of love is what is driving people crazy, and the more broken their upbringing has been the more crazyness they are prone to. The most horrible thing is to not have a loving mother the first years, and/or to experience abuse or bullying. But even with a reasonably sane childhood, being denied a sane natural adolecense can be totally destructive in itself, so it's no wonder there are a lot of mentally ill people around with sexual abberations. No bonobo can live without love. Pretty much everyone, especially every boy/ man cut off from love will be driven in some direction of madness, suicide, perversion, hatred and evil. Since all societies in recorded history, save anomalies such as the Trobriand people, have been "broken" in comparison to the original situation, all that has been known has been perverted hateful situations, filled with repression, and sex maniacs. Especially since the dawning of manhood tests in order to become a warrior, where those who failed were considered women or children, and denied the possibility of marriage, and hence being cut of from women, leaving the option of homosexuality, fucking animals, or young boys. This is probably the root of adult passive homosexuality. Generally it affected the weaklings. Among the Spartans however it affected the "alpha males" too, as they had to deny themselves contact with women until they were over 30 and could marry. Before that they had to stay away from women, in order to avoid becoming soft, and hence ended up in the situation normally suffered by the weakling loosers. So they became homosexuals, and even pederasts. Most greek tribes developed this custom. It is important to realize that from a Reichian perspective mechanical fucking is antisocial sexual behavior. It is the sexuality of the neurotically armoured individual, and is driven from fantasies in the brain, developed during years of unhappy neurotic masturbation in the form of "jerking off"( in our days with ideas implanted from porn), not from a natural love impulse from the heart in the moment. It usually involves either the man dominating the woman using her like a fuckdoll, or the woman using the man as a dildo, both of which are ugly and inferior . In the loving embrace man and woman both humbly yields to, and is overtaken by, the energies of love, and there is no vulgar and brutal domination. Fucking is pseudoextatic trancendence downwards, the loving embrace is true trancendence upwards. Fucking is also something one more brutally competes for, with winners and loosers. It breaks the love in the people. (There is probably also a connection between fucking and warrape, and raping slaves.) According to Evola virgin originally meant a young woman who had not given birth. Why did it change meaning? I believe with the spread of fucking, which again spread due to armouring due to the traumatization from war, but also from traumatization of being denied a natural life in an increasingly "unnatural" society, a compounding effect of several factors creating a situation further and further away from the original one. Especially in multicultural areas, where jealousy would increase exponentially, as men would have to watch women of their own people fuck men of other peoples, creating enourmous amounts of hatred, even if several peoples cohabited in relative peace, such as in urban centers. A woman can share love and retain her innocence, but she cannot be fucked and retain her innocense. (Neither can a man fuck and retain his innocense.) It was probably this that lead to compulsary sexual morality being instated, it was an attempt to curtail the antisocial multicultural fucking. But then, as Tolstoy pointed out, the man would have to remain innocent until marriage also, not just the woman. But then they both should marry young, in their teens, since going without for too long would foster malice and perversion, and the man would be driven to prostitutes and "fallen" women. Initially there was perhaps true sacred prostitution, but the institution would have been increasingly abused, and eventually desacralized, to an unfortunate and disgusting industry where women would have offered their bodies to be fucked. When the prophets railed against unnatural lust, it seems reasonable to assume it was fucking they meant, not the loving embrace. The loving embrace on the other hand is driven by the primordial love impulse from the heart, and fosters love, it is a continuation of the "love indoctrination" by the mother, and upholds the love in the people. The original tribes of humans lived in "Eden "perhaps. But eventually as they differentiated what I call "the curse of multiculturalism", which eventually lead to "the situation of the middle east", manifested, due to internal societal changes and the traumatization from external war with other peoples. Then the love between man and woman in the people was broken, and primordial Matriarchy gradually degenerated, until finally patriarchy took over in a revolution of the warriors, perhaps originally as a response to female tyranny arising with degenerating matriarchy. (Patriarchy started as a mens right group perhaps, to restore gender equality.) In this situation, hell is other peoples. Other peoples are lethal threats. But with the mixing of people things get even worse, a total dissolution of society will occur. The final stage of the curse of multiculturalism. The emotional plague will become rampant. With knowledge and proper understanding perhaps things could be rectified. The knowledge of functional orgonomy. Perhaps once more we could become loving human bonobos, and not mechanically fucking demon chimpanzees."
Offcourse, with knowledge and understanding of Wilhelm Reichs work, all this nonsense could be clearly understood. Perhaps that is why the communists orchestrated the campaign against him that got him locked up jail, where he died, and had his books banned and burned in the USA in th 1950s. They already had the madness planned? In any case, all of this can easily be understood as "secundary perverse drives" arising when the "primordial love impulse" is denied its natural outlet. The most vicious aspects of this are expressions of" the emotional plague of mankind", sexual neurosis in its most malignant form, ultimately as the hayred of life and everything natural, by those denied normal outlet of their sexuality. To understand one must understand what I call "the original situation", what humanity was like before "the fall". Luckily there are a few examples of societies that were pretty close to this, such as the Trobriand people. There, children were breastfed for three years by the mother, they got to play freely all the natural exploratory games of children without the intervention of adult perverts sexualising the innocent games of children either by shaming and punishing them and threathening them with hell, or by perversely joining them and abusing them. They could do this freely and safely since there were no adult perverts, since all the adults had had the same natural childhood and hence become sane adults. When the Trobriand reached adolescence they moved to seperate huts and enjoyed their adolescense, also in innocense. There were no incels there. Some homosexual activity could occur in this phase, just as some masturbation could occur, but everyone knew that that was inferior to the love between boy and girl, which all most wanted and all got to share. They did not do ugly, dirty, pornographic stuff, which all comes from "secundary perverse drives", but only the natural, innocent and beautiful. Hence some homosexual play is not unnatural at that early stage, probably a remnant from our Bonobo like ancestors, where the boys learned to love eachother like brothers, and not be so deadly jealous, but rather empatize with eachother, and share the girls without jealousy , as the Vikings the arab explorer encountered. Then that homosexual or bisexual phase would pass, and natural relation with women became the more exclusive interest. Homosexual mutual masturbation does not compare to "the loving embrace between man and woman", the true sexual union, so noone would remain stuck in that phase except through traumatization and being deprived. Offcourse in our society noone has a childhood and adolecense like this, hence all the perversion. Auto gyno philia is then easily understood. Men long terribly for the love of women, but if they cannot develop a full natural relationship to them in real life, they must fantasize, in desperation, to try and fill the need for the complimentary feminine they dont have true access to. Even if you get in the position to "mechanically fuck" a woman, this is not a full satisfactory love contact. Fucking only makes the man ejaculate prematurely, the loving embrace leads to a full whole body extacy for both the man and the woman, a trancendent experience, probably involving endogenous DMT. But as Reich discovered, neurotically armoured individuals are uncapable of this full expression of love, due to the permanent neurotic muscle tensions in their bodies, which renders them emotionally crippled and unsensitive, and unable to feel their own life energy. Being cut off from this union of love is what is driving people crazy, and the more broken their upbringing has been the more crazyness one is prone to. The most horrible thing is to not have a loving mother the first years, and/or to experience abuse. But even with a reasonably sane childhood, being denied a sane natural adolecense can be totally destructive in itself, so its no wonder there are a lot of mentally ill people around with sexual abberations. No bonobo can live without love. Everyone, especially every boy/ man cut off from love will be driven in some direction of madness, suicide, perversion, hayred and evil. Since all societies in recorded history, save anomalies such as the Trobriand people, have been "broken" in comparison to the original situation, all that has been known has been perverted hateful situations, filled with reoression, and sex maniacs. The original tribes humans lived in "Eden "perhaps. But eventually as they differentiated what I call "the curse of multiculturalism" which leads to "the situation of the middle east" manifested, due to internal societal changes and external war with other peoples, where the love between man and woman in the people is broken, and primordial Matriarchy gradually degenerated, until finally patriarchy took over, perhaps originally as a response to female tyranny. (Patriarchy started as a mens right group perhaps, to restore gender equality.) In this situation, hell is other peoples, one could say. Other peoples are lethal threats With knowledge and proper understanding perhaps things could be rectified. The knowledge of functional orgonomy. Perhaps once more we could become loving human bonobos, and not mechanically fucking demon chimpanzees.
It is important to realize that fucking is antisocial sexual behavior, it is driven from fantazies in the brain, it is something one competes for, with winner and loosers. It breaks the love in the people. (There is probably a connection with warrape, and raping slaves. According to Evola virgin originally meant a young woman who had not given birth. Why did it change? I believe with the spread of fucking. A woman can share love in innocence, but she cannot be fucked and retain her innocense. (Neither can a man fuck and retain his innocense.) It was probably this that lead to compulsary sexual morality, it was an attempt to curtail the antisocial fucking. But then as Tolstoy pointed out, the man would have to remain innocent until marriage also, not just the woman. Bet then they both should marry young, in their teens, since going without for too long would foster malice and perversion. When the prophets railed against unnatural lust, it was fucking they meant, not the loving embrace.) The loving embrace on the other hand is driven by the primordial love impulse from the heart, and fosters love, it is a continuation of the "love indoctrination" by the mother, and upholds the love in the people.
Thank you so much for this information.
Thank you for discussing topics that I believe need to be addressed. Scientifically, we need to be objective on this topic, and many ideas are shunned. I believe I have AGP, many of these feelings mentioned resonate with me.
Thanks for your comment, Zoey
I'm actually genuinely curious how a 15 year old girl internalized the murder of George Floyd to somehow be all about her? You don't even ask her how she drew such lines, whether through her own flawed thinking, her mental illness or something that is actually happening in society that isn't her own delusion. This has been brought up in many of your interviews and you nod along like a lemming, offering no pushback or further clarification. I get that you're working in the "these kids are trans because of white guilt" angle, but who's ACTUALLY pushing that? Are adult black people telling white children they are responsible for racist cops? OR are immature teenage blacks telling their immature teenage white classmates in a fit of anger that they are connected to racism? You could help your guest to gain some clarity by dissecting this or clearing up any flawed thinking or misconceptions, but you don't, because you don't want your audience thinking too critically about these things. You are actually old enough to have witnessed (first-hand just like I did) the social contagion of the 1990's for white girls, cutting and anorexia were the popular ones, come and go, and this was decades before any "wokeness" or talks about internalized racism, and are a FAR better explanation than, "I thought I was trans because 2 of my classmates tried to make me feel bad about George Floyd". But let me guess, all the white girls starving themselves and cutting themselves was somehow black people's fault 30 years ago, too, right? Because diversity. or the LA riots. or proximity to melanin. or Whitney Houston on the radio. Or Naomi Campbell walking the runways of Paris.....or..... You do a disservice to this topic and your guest by not having any critical thinking behind any of this. You de-legitimize what is actually a necessary counter-conversation to the current dominant narrative about the origin of this new social contagion and how it manifested.
Typical biased argument focusing one a very specific condition. Sexuality, physical sex and gender identity are an infinite spectrum.
The point of exposing children to sexual content and sexual orientations is to traumatize and confuse them. Couple this with the child being told by a trusted mentor that thier parents will not accept them, alienating them. This leads the child into the arms of those who wish to use this malleable state. The state uses pdf.files in the school systems to enact the trauma. The castration, both surgicsl and medical, ushered on by instructors and doctors is nothing short of pure evil. Children cannot consent to gender treatments. The fact that the critical theories were being instructed in k-12 was hidden from parents until online schooling during covid. These people are sterilizing and traumatizing children. At alarming rates. This is evil. Pure and simple.
Do you support gender non conformity in males? Eg more fem presenting males of any orientation, being free to wear more "feminine" styles, but having it instilled that does NOT change their sex, worth, or orientation? Or are you more about maintaining sex based dress and grooming codes, or gender rules limits and stereotypes?
She has stated before that males and females are free to wear what they like.
@@Gingerblaze No, she has stated what Gender Critical people have said...and yet those same people were saying Phil Illy and men in general should be restricted in their clothing choices. *Cough* Posie Parker *Cough*. I would like for this woman, to clearly state sex based limits on clothing and style would be best to be abolished.
Its a great question and my signal is in my stomach. Its strange because I am fine with Harry Styles but feel like throwing up when I see Sam Smith. Not sure what it means. I find some are very performative (Billy Porter) and these are celebrities desperate for attention and they try to be provocative, sort of a Madonna influence. All these people are synthetic. For everyday life the fem-male and masc-girl are part of what makes us an individual. It is part of our personality.. Let people be people. If you think you need surgery to fix health body parts - you have a problem.
@@markrussell3428 Sam smith is not feminine. Sam Smith is....something else.
@@pythosdegothos6181 😆 🤣 actually you have a point. Maybe that's why it turns my stomach
Kids likely desist due to bullying, which is REALLY over looked.
That would support the transgender side of things and certain folks aren't about encouraging gender transition at any age.
@@DorianPaige00 How would that support the trans gender side of things? Just stop stigmatizing gender non conformity.
In Sweden, where trans identifying people have been well accepted, the use of mental and physical health services continues to be elevated compared to those who do not transition or desist.
@@Gingerblaze Sweden is a very conservative place, and trans people have minimal levels of acceptance across their healthcare systems. Mental health services are part of trans healthcare, and should be part of most young peoples lives considering the mental health issues of our times. This is a good thing when they are available, and people seeking therapy is a good thing. In fact for trans people it's mandated as part of care plans for transitions, meaning it's just required.
@@Gingerblaze Considering that one is mandated and required to transition with any healthcare and for those that don't transition it isn't literally required obviously it's going to be higher. But mental health outcomes show time and time again higher rates of positive outcomes for those who do transition. In fact it has some of the best outcomes across any healthcare period. 98%. That's better than hip replacements, spinal corrections, and kidney stones combined. Making it one of the most successful treatment paths. Trans people shouldn't be demonized for seeking healthcare.
Here's an idea. Stop stigmatizing gender non conformity period. Stop shaming boys wanting to be "feminine" or girls wanting to be....oh wait, girls are encouraged to be more "masculine" to an extent. My parents' aversion to my gender non conformity might have pushed me more toward the trans path, and very likely if I grew up today, would have been far more pressured to transition.
@@pythosdegothos6181 Yes and stop shaming trans people along with gender non conforming people. There's nothing wrong with trans people, or being trans, or transitioning.
I present as male yet have happily been castrated and take 2 mg estrogen. I did it to stay a twink and not look like a man.
@@gabrielwong9063 Adult trans people should not be shamed or limited from those procedures they deem necessary to be happy. But I am not in favor of shoving boys and girls into gendered boxes of any kind. I am not in favor of parents of GNC kids suggesting or insisting they are not a boy or girl but in fact born in the wrong body. I am not in favor of telling an "effeminate" boy, he might be a girl.
@@pythosdegothos6181 same herw
@@gabrielwong9063 there are extreme health complications which result from hormonal and surgical transition procedures.
I think you are completely on the right track. I'm 58 and have only in the last year become familiar with the term AGP. I live as a male but have always seen myself as wanting to be a girl. Yes, in my mind to be seen as and become female. I have fantasized endlessly what it would be like to transform into a woman. I do become excited when dressed and am turned on by my image in the mirror and in photos. so, self-love as a woman is the best way to describe it. I am not attracted to men but do like the aition gained by being seen as a woman. being told I look good. Or that they would want to date me. That part fulfills the idea I have of being female. Once I transform from male to female it does feel very powerful. the adrenalin rush is so strong and I feel very content in that moment. Thank you for what you are doing to help people understand another part of this puzzle!!!!! there is no straight line for point A to B. and it is very hard to live this life when it feels like no one understands!!! Thank you very much.. Jennifer
thanks for your comment, Jennifer
Speaking from personal experience, I would 100% recommend parents steer their children away from the University of Oregon, even more so than the Ivies. The degree to which that university is on board with the worst aspects of the trans stuff is shocking. Pronoun sharing is mandatory in every possible social setting. Being trans is social capital in the campus culture. Dorm rooms, as you said, are mixed-sex. I shared a 142 square foot dorm room with a male who "identified" as female, who sexually harassed and intimidated me for months. Upon trying to speak up about this, I was bullied to the point of having to leave campus permanently. I even got kicked out of a sorority for my troubles. The quality of education at that school has also plummeted in recent years, unsurprisingly. I moved to the UK to change universities and, while still very captured over here, there is opposition. It's not terribly loud or strong on campuses, but it is present in a way it simply is not in the States. Any American parent who can afford to, whose kid has taken AP exams, I would recommend looking into UK universities. They're cheaper than out-of-state tuition in the US, and the degree is worth more. Please don't send your kids to these insane institutions.
So if you have a trans kid, god forbid they go to a safe environment? Would you prefer to parade them in the Middle East? Trans people exist, and are here to stay.
Do they permit gender non conformity in kids, and or adults though? Or are strict gender norms enforced?
@@pythosdegothos6181 That's the next thing. Those who are gender non-conformers will be seen as transgender by the public. Neither should bring out the negative but sometimes it does. That's the definition of marginalization.
@@DorianPaige00 " That's the next thing. Those who are gender non-conformers will be seen as transgender by the public. " The next thing? It is already a thing to call gender non conforming males "trans" or "eggs" or "trans in denial", or on the "cis" side of the debate "Pervert" " sicko", "mental case". BOTH sides of the issue support strict gender norms, and my 51 year old androgynous fem presenting Goth/Punk self is SICK OF IT.
@@pythosdegothos6181 I shaved my head while there and was subsequently aggressively they/them'd for the rest of the year. People who had known me for months would excitedly ask "ooh, what are your pronouns?" when they saw me for the first time after. When I would say "I'm still a woman, I just shaved my head", they would give me this look like they just knew I was going to come out as trans soon. Strict gender norms are enforced, but your sex is irrelevant, if that makes sense. It was the only time in my life that I felt the need to wear makeup regularly.
@10:20 We used to call this teenage angst.