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Thank you so much for this video. Someone recently went somewhere without me, and I got physically ill for 2 days. Mentally I was ignoring my feelings that I had been hurt, but the nerves in my body told the truth. HSPs have more active nerves. Scientists have found neurons in the heart. They're also in the gut & of course - the brain.

I see comment after comment about abusive MEN. Women can be verbally abusive as well, I know first hand.

What about if you’re repulsed? Sometimes you know in the first minute…

My ex did this and I left. Now, bf of 2 yrs is doing this and POSSIBLY watching porn. So done with men!!!

The reality is that words cannot describe how ugly obesity makes women. Living in America where the vast majority of American women are ugly because they choose obesity over basic common sense. Healthy sized single men deserve healthy size women but all we have is the fattest most disgusting looking women in human history. American women are a collective disgrace.

What do you say about marriages in which the couple live thousands of miles apart geographically and have almost no communication?

It's hard when lack of sex is the issue, because it hurts them and then they see it as you being upset because they brougt it up. It's so hard to feel sexy aftwerwards, he feels the soloution is intimacy.

To rdffm8853Isn't this what women have had to put up wit& tolerate for melinia at the merciless brutal hands of male domination with no way out except suicide,murder(him on her/her on him) or sent back to a father&family who were just ITCHIN'to ditch her?How does it feel for the shoe to finally be on the other foot?????No sympathy here male.Besides,why,today would any levelheaded man WANT the burden of having to take care of a GROWN woman as if she were a child?This is the model of a father/child relationship this is founded on.Not therelationship of mature grown adults.

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Nowadays, there's so much tips techniques and tricks that it's sometimes hard to know where to start. But it's not rocket science to get your man shivering with ecstasy just by changing the way you talk. As simple as this sounds, maybe try escalating it a step at a time, go’ogle something like Words od Desire by Celestine Dessike to sneakily crawl into his mind and let it build on from that.

Hey, great job this sounds like it’s all based on Celestine Dessike's Words of Desire. And yes, that’s the material you need to have him resonating with erotic electricity at your will. Sounds like too much IK, but just for the basics it's worth go'ogling her ;)

What if your partner isn’t raging at you, no name calling etc, but he just gives you the cold shoulder when you do something “stupid” “lazy” etc. he won’t ever say those words though. I just know he feels that way. What is that?

A guy here dying to figure out how to give her support. I'm always here for her, always ready to listen. But she doesn't want to talk about what's bothering her, so i can't support her by listening. She will say she's upset and want me to take over from there, actively giving her comfort and support. I'm desperate to help her feel safe but i wind up freezing because I have no idea what she needs in that moment. What does active comfort and support sound like (long distance so usually on the phone)? After a couple seconds of my silence she determines that i can't help her so she walls up and we then don't talk for hours to days. It's killing me.

I left my husband of 17yrs because of verbal abuse

I’m in great pain

When men say they prefer bad sex they mean a girl who is not skilled sexually but who loves them VS a very skilled women who doesn't.

Some guys are quasi-decent as friends but when it comes to romantic relationships, make a bad boyfriend.

He's has beat me down so much and saying I will be alone and I will a die a lonely old lady and I don't care about that I just want to be free and heal

You are everything.

I humbly ask this question, Dr Wise wrote 30 books on marriage, and why couldn't he salvage his own marriage? I cannot imagine that Lisa was that terrible that he couldn't cross the bridge and come to her island and win her heart ❤️. It takes sincere humility , I know.. Just saying !

Sorry to say this, but I had to quit listening to great advice from Ken, just because of your grating voice... Could you soften a bit, please? 😊

It makes me sad because it’s clear he hates me but he won’t leave me. He doesn’t want me to move on with my life, but hes clearly not even happy with me either. I just want to be free of feeling like I’m a burden. I will never be good enough for him

This conversation is missing a big part of the puzzle. Let’s stop putting blame on the Mum and let’s talk about the steps both Mums and daughters can take to understand one another better. Just saying to have empathy for Mum is important but it’s just the start, we need more please.

I left my spouse 25 yrs ago after 9 yrs together, 2 of those married. I wanted love, desire, and connection and he was totally unwilling to connect physically or emotionally and would not talk about it. But I'VE then been an intimacy anorexic ever since. I just have not gotten past the fear of rejection, not wanting to ever feel as alone as I did in my marriage. I've gotten and stayed fat, I think to keep men at a distance. I lose weight, I get male attention, and I immediately start eating again. It is sad I've continued to starve myself from intimacy. I've kept myself in that painful place in order to feel safe.

My Boyfriend don't understand how i feel right now. I was abused has a Child from my mom & my brother. And in 3 foster home. He never give me hug and say i love you. I been yell at most 20 years. With him. I have depression, anxiety attack because Of Child Abuse. I Have Been Scarred for life. I have learning disability disorder.

My daughter went through this, and is now going through a divorce. The atmosphere changes as soon as he’s gone, children are happier without him.

I agree 100%. I just completed a realistic romance novel and it is now being published. The romance novels I read are: Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austin The Diary of a Working Girl by Daniella Brodsky Alaska Nights: An Anthology (Midnight Sons) by Debbie Macomber Alaska Home: A Romance Novel (Midnight Sons Book 3) by Debbie Macomber The Playboy and the Widow by Debbie Macomber Changing Habits by Debbie Macomber Alaskan Holiday by Debbie Macomber Merry and Bright by Debbie Macomber The Rosie Project by Graeme Simsion There should be more men reading romance novels.

Just an excuse for a lazy, misandrist, woman to get away with doing nothing.

You dont have to say anything for these abusers to attack you.

My boyfriend only wants sex

And that’s it

He fucking sucks

Thank you for this, it lets me know its ok that the chaos is ok... My world view is shattered, but hopefully i can get past this

So what is the shield???

This is just one long add

I wish this wasn't so biased, Men are the only once that are abusers. Open it up to not be so sexual biased by studying this person or your spouse not just he.

It would be nice if this was not just directed to women... some of us (men) deal with a lot of the things you talked about but have no support system. We're told to suck it up and don't be such a bitch... sometimes it's not so easy

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He accuses me of using him for selfish motives? 🤷🙏

I share how he makes me feel. Give him examples of ways he can respond to mitigate arguments. Instead he tells me to “STFU” and that’s I’m crazy and need to leave him alone. I’m like…I just want us to talk like normal human beings. Not his anger and screaming. So he decides to get loud. Throws things. He deflects everything back at me and says, “yeah but what about you??” What about me? Tell me. I’d like to know. He won’t ever tell me. He gets in my face screaming and spitting on me. Till I snap and yell at him to back off. Me reacting AT ALL = me being a crazy bitch. When I don’t react it drives him insane. He starts destroying things trying to get my reaction. Been with him 7 years and I’m at the point where…. My coworker asked me the other day, “You’re deeply in love! He’s handsome!” I looked at her like…if only you knew….and that’s when I realized I don’t love him anymore. I loved the idea of him. The HOPE that he could become a good man if he loved me enough… Maybe if he loved me enough he wouldn’t hurt me.

6:30 I just cold and quiet, not kind like in this scenario. In fact, I only interact with him at dinner. But in fights, I get just as nasty as him and I'm ashamed to admit that I hit him a few times because he pushed me to that point of wanting to kick his ass. Remember I'm reacting to him being an asshole, especially when he insists on blabbing to his flying monkey buddy about personal family business that is not his business. 🙄

u can stay in denial all u want but its still happening in real time.

Yes

Ok sounds good 👍

Hi true love p

Mine did this after two years of dating!

He projected so early in the relationship I had no idea what was happening, I was a mess! Five years into it, I see now all those sleepless nights were futile, it was HIM who was everything he screamed at me. I have separated our finances and am saving to leave. He was good, I'll give him that, but the gig is up with me. He's a master manipulator, really plays up the "single dad" persona. Bait and switch. And yes, I did for so long try to defend myself, but now I turn the mirror back to him and sleep like a baby. He even admits he thinks he is always right, and likes to punish people who think different than he. He is the worst person with finances than I have ever seen in my life! He fooled me in the very beginning but it unraveled over the years. Credit card after credit card, borrowing against his home... And this is a man that makes over 80,000 a year! Can't tell him anything he doesn't want my advise and the whole family struggles. I have a 401k, I'm making investments, I'm saving and planning for MY future. Ladies, pay close attention early on. If someone Mae's you feel uncomfortable, if you are always confused or feeling low and that "I just need to show him how good I am" RUN!

I try to get some evidence that for once I am more important than my husbands career or volunteer efforts or walking buddies. He WILL NOT give this to me. We are in our 60s now and this has been going on forever. Everyone we know thinks he is the perfect super husband and the women are often jealous and bitter towards me. I am so confused because it doesn’t feel like that to me and I think I must be crazy. Lately I get enraged and shout etc which only makes me look bad. He wants sex but he doesn’t want to plan for it or do anything remotely that might lead to it. I feel guilty because our sex life is sparse and I am the one who initiates because I feel I should. But there is never any romantic prelude. I have always felt that I am the problem and so does my husband. This has destroyed my confidence and self esteem and now I’m too old to do anything about it. I think he is dismissive avoidant and all I can say is that if you feel like this with someone RUN because they don’t want to change. I even feel jealous of couples who obviously have little in jokes with each other. We have never had this and it had always made me feel less than. This type of relationship truly sucks so get the hell out while you can. I suspect all men might be like this especially type A driven ones. They really don’t like women that much. If I ever got free I would stick to my pets. They are way nicer!

Going through this now, kicked me in my rear end and I snapped but should’ve left. Told me he needed to keep his foot up my ass. He’s toxic and mean and I know I deserve better

I just want to see her once.........