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Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for watching.

Thanks for watching and commenting. Yes, lots of differences in our relarionships. It’s definitely possible to have a long lasting lesbian relationship.

Hi, I don't know who originally coined these concepts. It's talked about a lot in sexual health.

Again, this isn’t a divorce rate. And no, the divorce rates are very different around the world, even for heterosexual couples. India’s divorce rate is 1% for heterosexual couples.

To know what a divorce rate is, you’d have to know how many marriages there are and this ONS report doesn’t tell us this. There is not a 72% lesbian divorce rate. Anywhere

@@pridetherapy India have a 1% divorce because they have arrange marriages. For western society however The rules of marriages are different. Whether it’s UK or US, western culture is relatively the same. There’s “no fault” divorce that exist in western culture that doesn’t exist in other cultures. You need to account for that

@@pridetherapy UK has already reported on gay couples and lesbians divorce way often then male/male couples. It’s already reported. There’s no coincidence That lesbians have a 72% divorce rate and straight women divorce their husbands 70% of the time lol

@@benjaminreyes3624 I’m aware of Indian culture and how marriage is different among various cultures. How much do you know about LGBT culture other than following the divorce rates? Also, my point of the video is that there is not a 72% lesbian divorce rate in the UK or anywhere else. And if you look up how many lesbian marriages there were in the UK, there were 600-1000 more lesbian marriages each year than gay marriages. So, of course there will be more divorces by lesbians. This stat was taken out of context and greatly misconstrued.

You obviously didn’t watch the video. There’s not a 72% lesbian divorce rate. I looked at the report where they got these number and someone misinterpreted the data.

My guess is that he is a high profile person who has a lot of power and hard to bring down.

@@pridetherapy Yes I have seen that happen when police and Crown Counsel (prosecution) are leary about charging someone with a lot of power. The Darian character portrays someone so dangerous.

@@christinecamley a few people have commented they think it was Kevin Spacey because he was in London as the artistic director at the Old Vic until 2015. This is just hearsay as I have no direct evidence, but I think it’s someone like him with a lot of power and money. Others have mentioned Gary Reich. I think if it was Kevin Spacey, the internet trolls would have connected them by now.

@@pridetherapy I agree. I think terrific sleuths on the internet would have figured it out if the predator was Spacey, although I can see why people might think it's him. I just think whoever it is gets outed and confirmed eventually and perhaps police would take an interest. Different countries have very different laws and statute of limitations on being able to charge an individual. In Canada, where I am, the rapist could still be charged. Whoever it is acted like a monster. What a sadistic monster. Love your channel! Thanks so much! 🙂

Yes, that’s exactly what it says. That doesn’t mean there is a 72% divorce rate among lesbians. To know a divorce rate, we’d have to know how many lesbian marriages there are compared to divorces. This is just stating what percentages of divorces among same sex couples were by lesbians that year. I also explain the difference in the video.

From 2014-2019, in the UK, each year lesbians made up 600-1000 more marriages than gay men. So there will inevitably be more divorces.

Katherine it depends on the person who is being abused.I just saw a video where this woman was in a physically abusive marriage for 45 years.I myself have been abused and I have seen abuse in my own family.Not sure if I agree with the 7 attempts.

@@user-gl2pr4bf7e sure. It depends on the situation. Researcher around domestic violence shows that it takes, on average, around 7 attempts for someone to permanently leave an abuser. The point is that we need to be patient with people because the emotional manipulation can be extreme.

@@pridetherapy Katherine with all due respect as a African American/Hispanic woman I see it differently,because African/Hispanic American women when it comes to society we are treated totally different when it comes to domestic violence.Where as white women are treated better. What I mean by that is when 911 dispatch is called and we deal with police,ambulance,and then the doctors and nurses in the hospitals we are treated very poorly, especially when we are raped after being or while being physically abused.And when you mentioned the 7 attempts white women are in the category of the 7 attempts but not black and hispanic women.See the problem is when research is done many times it isn't broken down it is all put together under one umbrella.And since I have experienced domestic violence and I have seen it in my family and friends I can speak on that first hand.Moral of the story minority women aren't in the category of average when you mention domestic violence.Our percentages are way above average when it comes to domestic violence.Nine chances when research is done,and statistics are presented it hasn't been broken down.And it should be broken down all the time to better educate the world.

@@user-gl2pr4bf7e thanks for this comment about the disparities between how white women and black women are treated differently by these systems. It’s very true. Systemic racism and a huge problem. When they do this research, it would be great if they could break it down by race. I think I was very bothered when I kept seeing comments by people saying that Cassie should have left sooner if it was a “real” issue. People, in general, don’t understand how difficult it is to leave an abusive relationship. Especially for black and brown women who aren’t believed and don’t have the support of law enforcement or doctors.

@@pridetherapy Yes I agree and Katherine I personally think that it is rude, inconsiderate, insensitive,and disrespectful when a person says "why didn't they leave" or "if that were me I would have left".Every woman is different and many women are quick to judge another woman until it happens to them.Katherine I remember years ago my cousin Jackie use to work at a place called Genesis House here in Dallas.It is a shelter for battered women who have children.And one day the supervisor was speaking to a sibling of a woman who was battered.And the supervisor told her to be respectful and be mindful to her relatives abuse because not only can it hurt her even more mentally and emotionally and spiritually it can also cause her to have suicidal thoughts.There is a old saying that goes "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me".Well words do hurt.Words can cut like a knife.Katherine that supervisor said "if you really are serious and you want to be of service to her then help her and pray that she gets the help that she needs".She said "you never know when it can and will be your last time that you hear from her or see her".Katherine I never even knew that actress Meredith Baxter Birney was a victim of domestic violence and that her first husband beat her for years.Katherine I was listening to actress Robin Givens and she said that "her mother revealed to her that their father beat her when she and her sister were away at college."She said to her mother"but when we came home for the holiday break we never saw and bruises".Her mother said "that is because by the time you and your sister came home the bruises had healed".Katherine she and her sister never ever knew".Katherine their mother basically suffered in silence.She held that in for years Robin Givens said.She said that "her mother told her after Robin Givens revealed that she was being beaten by Mike Tyson".

The grooming behavior is no different with female versus male predators. These are just current cases that have been recently exposed in the entertainment industry with numerous victims. Also, it’s very rare to hear from male victims when the predator is male because there is extreme shame involved. It’s important to expose any high profile person engaged in this behavior. I haven’t heard of any high profile cases of females groomers in the entertainment industry who are abusing other actors. I’m sure they are out there, but haven’t been exposed yet. There’s Ghislaine Maxwell, but that’s about it. What happened to Macron at age 15 was not okay. Very bizarre and predatory. Definitely not okay.

That’s really kind of you to say these things. Thanks for being supportive.

Prove me wrong. Can you prove there is a 72% lesbian divorce rate? There isn’t. It doesn’t take a math genius to figure this out.

Fair enough.

It's possible. I'm trying to write a script or outline to do a review of Donny. He's got a lot of issues that came up in this series.

Yes that’s very true.

Can you imagine learning what Nia learned and trying to overcome that much betrayal? I felt so bad for her. But it’s been 9 years now and I guess she’s in a good spot.

@@pridetherapy Yeah, I would feel that my entire relationship with that person was a lie. It basically was imo

Hi, What I said is that there is not a 72% divorce rate among lesbians. I'm also not sure in the ONS report if they take into account that lesbians had 600-1000 more marriages than gay men each each from 2014-2109, so of course lesbians will have more divorces. Here are the number of marriages each year for lesbians versus gay men in the UK and Wales: F= lesbian marriages M= gay marriages 2014 - (F) 2721 (M) 2129 2015- (F) 3633 (M) 2860 2016- 3910 3109 2017 - 3884 3048 2018 - 3959 2966 2019 - 3861 2867 Lesbians and gay men make up LESS THAN 1% of all marriages in the US. What you are telling me is that you want to extrapolate what happens with less than 1% of US marriages (which is a minority group) and make a conclusion about what that means about ALL women in heterosexual relationships? That's a big stretch. For the men that keep coming to this video and leaving message like this, can you tell me exactly what your point is? I actually made this video for the lesbian community so lesbians wouldn't be discouraged when they see this misstated statistic about lesbian divorce. If you stay in one little corner of the internet for too long, you'll think that all women hate men or that all men hate women. Or, that everyone is miserable in their marriage - hetero or gay. But honestly, a lot of people are happy in their marriages and I choose to stay in the optimistic corners of the internet where people are looking for solutions and helping each other heal and grow. I'm not really into the gender wars on CZcams. I made this video to prove there is not a 72% divorce rate. My favorite couples therapists are men on CZcams, Like Adam Lane Smith and John Gottman. Check them out if you have time. They have all been happily married for a very long time.

@@pridetherapy My point was that you didn’t give us the divorce rate (unless I missed it. I don’t have time to watch this again). You just said the 72% figure was not a rate, which I agree with. But until you give us the divorce rates for gay men and lesbians, we can’t really make a conclusion as to whether women are more likely to be dissatisfied with marriages than men. I disagree with your statement that we can’t extrapolate from the rates. Simply stating we can’t because they’re a minority group is not a sufficient rationale. There are other things to consider that neither you nor anyone else has considered. But overall you haven’t disproven what others are saying about this. You only pointed out the error in their interpretation of the data. But you did start making excuses for lesbians divorcing and it was based on a victim argument. That’s the point others were trying to make - that women have a victim mindset and don’t take responsibility for their part in a breakup. That’s all. I understand your concern was that lesbians might be discouraged by the misuse of the data. But if there is a higher divorce rate in lesbians than any other type of couple, then I don’t think you’re going to solve the problem if it’s due to reasons other than those you present here, which are basically assumed to be the fault of other people. So first, determine if the rate is higher for lesbians, then determine why, then find solutions. Those causes and solutions could apply to hetero marriages too. It could be caused by female nature or the cultural impact on female or male psyche or combination.

@@danbenz6362 I am a couples therapist with a Masters degree in counseling and have been studying the topic of marriage for over 20 years. I find it incredibly fascinating that so many men have popped up with CZcams channels in the past few years to "prove" that women are incapable of healthy relationships and being adamant that women are responsible for the increase in the divorce rate. It's fascinating to me because, in the therapy world, all of this has already been studied - by men - men who are amazing therapists. John and Julie Gottman have 40 years of research dedicated to what makes marriage work. They have over 200 published academic articles. If any person is interested in making marriage work and learning how to have a healthy marriage, it's actually not that hard to find solution-focused materials that is proven to work. We already have the Answers! Many men refuse to seek professional help from therapists who actually know what works for marriages. Have you heard of Adam Lane Smith? He wrote a book called "Exhausted Wives, Bewildered Husbands". It's very good. He's a couples therapist who's worked in the field for decades. He has a great CZcams channel. So, I don't have to go digging around trying to figure out why heterosexual marriages fail and how to help fix them. I'm trained in the Gottman method and use it with all of my couples, hetero and gay/lesbian. What I see on CZcams and in the manosphere is men blaming women for divorce and refusing to look into the professionals who've already figured it out. We can't get a "lesbian divorce rate" in the USA because most states don't keep track of which ones are same sex divorces. If anyone tries to tell you they know it, it's not true. When I tried to do my own calculations from the ONS reports from 2014-2019, I came up with 6%. Gay marriage has only been legal in the US for about 10 years, so it will be a while before there is any solid data, if they can even gather such info. And with gay/lesbian marriages making up less than 1% of all marriages, it's probably not a priority. To deny that lesbians face minority stress and to say that it's "blaming others" is just ignoring the obstacles that minorities face. Black people also have more divorces than Caucasian people in the US. But does that mean black people are incapable of having healthy relationships? Of course not. We know that black people face more of the common stressors in marriage which cause divorce. When I hear that men in our country are facing loneliness and "suffering in silence", I don't see that as them acting like "victims". These are real issues that men are facing. It's not all in their heads. Men struggle and women struggle. It's not a competition to see who can struggle the most. If I wanted to, I could say that divorced men are acting like "victims" by blaming women for their divorces when their wives, more than likely, hinted there was a problem for many years and they didn't listen or change anything. But instead, I try to listen to everyone's stories and believe them. If anyone stays in one little corner of CZcams for too long, they won't get the full picture. We all struggle with confirmation bias and mainly pay attention to information that already proves what we want to believe, while ignoring anything else. Thanks for listening.

I think it's the other way around.

@@pridetherapy I'll give you that. I might be wrong and honestly I hope I am. History will tell.

I’m glad it worked for you.! Thanks for commenting.

They definitely tend to be in positions of power because they have a lot of motivation to be admired.

Wow! That’s called “jumping to conclusions”. I drive a Toyota Prius that I plan on driving until it can’t drive anymore. It has 140k miles. My lesbian couples tend to do really well, for the most part.

@@pridetherapy You just proved my point. "Your" lesbian couples are essential for your business. I have nothing at all against gay marriages. Homosexuality is completely normal in nature and we are just animals. What I don't like is you downplaying the significant facts that lesbian marriages have the highest divorce rate and the highest physical abuse rate. Those are FACTS. Instead of protecting an ideology, your job is to help lesbian couples understand why this phenomena is happening and work to resolve it. Gaslighting them doesn't help society. As a cis male in a marriage to a woman, I also find it interesting that male gay marriages have the lowest divorce rate. What does that say about females in our society?

@@mprice6683 lesbian marriages don’t have the highest divorce rate. There is no evidence of that and it’s just simply not true. And also, show me some evidence of the DV rate for lesbians. Everybody says that, but can never show any studies to prove it. Usually the study they are using is the 2015 CDC study, which actually shows abuse “over their lifetime”, not in their current lesbian relationships. it’s another study that people misread. You know how many lesbian couples I’m seeing right now? 3. I mostly see individuals.

@@mprice6683 if those are “facts”, then prove it. Please show me the “facts”. Just because someone on the internet said it, doesn’t mean it’s a “fact”. How many lesbians have you seen on the news lately for killing their wives? Stop trying to deflect from the real problems in society where 1 in 4 women and also 1 in 10 men experience sexual violence from a partner in their lifetime. These results are from a 2015 study from the NISVS 2015. You can look it up. Real facts.

@@pridetherapy Your entire knowledge base is from biased sources. At least you believe these falsehoods and aren't just pushing a narrative to make money off of people. I don't know if that is worse, though. Strange how you accused others of misinterpreting data, when you are blatantly doing so. Did I say that the female abuse rate is 72%? No, I didn't. It is still the highest. I also didn't say anything about the terrible abuse against transgender people, but we both would agree on that. If I post links, it will get deleted, so look up the titles. "Violent Victimization by Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity, 2017-2020", "Domestic Violence and the LGBTQ Community". It clearly states 43.8% of lesbian women experience sexual violence while 35% of heterosexual women experience sexual violence. Study after study proves this. That 1 in 4 number is for physical violence. You are misrepresenting it as sexual violence. You also lied about the violence against men. It is 1 in 7, and that is highly underreported. The reason why is because when a man is assaulted, society still blames him. If he calls the police on his wife/girlfriend assaulting him, he is likely to be blamed. You should be ashamed of refusing to research the REAL numbers just so you can make money.

Thanks for taking the time to comment. My first video in this series is called Trauma Bonding and it explains more about how someone gets caught up in these abusive relationships. It might be helpful for you. Yes, this episode broke me too. I heard that he had to have a therapist on set because it was him reliving his trauma and he needed support. He also had to loose a lot of weight for this series, as he previous played roles where he was bulkier and a warrior of some sort. Many survivors have said this emotional turmoil they went through is incredibly true to life, so we get to see the full human experience and it is deeply touching. Thanks again for your comment.

Where do you live? In my opinion, both parties lose financially in divorce. Like I said, 50% of 100% is less for both parties. Having to split material items is hard for both parties. Usually Nobody wins financially in a divorce.

In the USA, there is hardly ever alimony given. Only about 10% of divorcees get alimony. And it can be the woman giving the man alimony. There is no financial gain for most women who get divorced, unless she never had access to any of the money at all, And that’s a problem in itself. How is only getting half of the whole beneficial for anyone? It’s not. Also, child support in the US isn’t much at all and it’s based on the income of both people. In the US, custody is always 50/50 unless one parent decides they don’t actually want 50/50. I have a client who is divorcing her husband and she makes significantly more money than him. And she is basically giving him well over half of everything because material things don’t matter much to her. She just wants out because he treats her so poorly. She begged him for 10 years to go to therapy to help the marriage and he wouldn’t go. Is it her fault or should he have been more willing to work on the marriage?

@@pridetherapy It's beneficial for the party that puts less. Your own formula forces the men in a 50/50 custody to pay money to the woman for no reason. Also, there is the property, you work 20 years to pay for a home, maybe more, and suddenly you are homeless searching for a place to stay, maybe your parent's.

@@jaimeduncan6167 Also keep in mind that it can be the woman leaving the house as well. And it can be the woman who pays child support to the husband. It depends on who makes more money. But it has to be significantly more money than the other in order to pay child support in 50/50 custody. I'm not sure what your point is, really. Divorce is very very difficult on both parties. It should be avoided at all costs, and usually is. Most people don't end a marriage without years of enduring hardship and asking for changes to be made. Most women aren't benefitting financially from divorce (at least in the US) because they are also losing half of everything. The property would be split 50/50 and one party has to buy the other out. If the woman wants to stay in the house, she would have to give her ex husband half of the equity they put into the home.

Show me your sources for this? I can’t find any real data as proof.

There is a worksheet within the ONS report - its worksheet 4b. It shows that the divorce rate for just women is .2% . I would add a link to the worksheet if I could. It’s so low because there aren’t even 1000 divorces. It’s .09 divided by .02. There is a guy named Expatriarch on TikTok who gives a good explanation of this and uses the same worksheet.

I’ll be watching to see what news comes out.

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I’m a mental health channel focusing on mental health issues and how people end up with certain behaviors. I’m also working on a video on how to get out of abusive relationships.

@@pridetherapy Thank you for your service....I have children with mental health issues..I know women who have been abuse.... it's Wrong to hurt other people insane and sane the Law doesn't care .my daughter broke a nurse shoulder bone while she was in the mental hospital....she got charged with Assault

@@StevenJackson-ss6qw You're totally right. It's wrong to hurt other people and I definitely hope Diddy has severe consequences for his behaviors. I didn't mean to insinuate that I think there should be any mercy on him. Sometimes, we wonder how/why people end up with certain traits, and what types of people we need to stay away from. Sometimes the people with the best looking lives and the people who look the most successful are really the most dangerous. I hope your daughter has been able to get some help. It's really tough to see our own kids struggling with mental health issues. Best wishes to you and your family.

Very much so. It’s always a struggle.

Thanks for commenting. A lot of people disagree with the Bipolar part, but it’s okay. It’s just a speculation. There’s so much we don’t know about her character. The first 3 years of my career, I worked in a residential facility for people struggling with SMI. She reminds me a lot of them.

Very concerning. I do feel bad for his kids. They deserve better.

I think a judge and jury are going to be able to plan a not-so-fun honeymoon for him.

I’m wondering how they were found to be “malicious exaggerations”? Says who? Kevin Spacey? Kevin even said himself that he recalls acting in certain ways on his sets that he would no longer find acceptable. How would you feel if someone who was supposed to be a lead actor on your set pulled you aside and grabbed your crotch? Do you sincerely believe that this many men with the same type of story are lying? If it was just one or two people coming forward, it might be a false allegation. But there is too much evidence now. Maybe it’s not illegal, but it’s definitely disgusting and out of line. I don’t have any evidence that he is the same groomer that’s in the Netflix series. I’m drawing a parallel between how their grooming tactics are the same. And also, whoever the groomer is in Baby Reindeer is well known in the acting community as a groomer.

@@pridetherapy With "malicious" I mean, that a totally annoying, but non-criminal act is later used with the intention to ruin another persons life or at least drain a significant amout of money. All trials ended because the "victims" left out contradicting details or added some dramatic stuff. I did not see the series. I read only the synopsys after seeing your clip. My point was, that this is not a documentation but more likely reflects the narrative of one of the allegations, which also had turned out to be a half truth.

Thank you so much for this compliment. I really appreciate it a lot. I’m a kid of the 90s. I grew up loving all types of music, including HipHop. My own teenagers school me on pop culture now. I enjoy learning about all types of people and cultures. I love Queen Latifah and Missy Elliot. Trying to decide if I’m too old to buy concert tickets for Missy.

Thanks for saying that. I really appreciate it

Fictitious friendemy!! I like that one!