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ADHD For Life
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ADHD can affect our lives... in ways we don't often recognize. Compulsive shopping. Missing deadlines. Leaving the Christmas ornaments up until February. Hurt feelings in relationships. If you feel like you're too much, but not enough at the same time, we get you!
Our Goal For You... is to live better with ADHD.
Now, see the stories behind the people and experts who have refused to let ADHD slow them down. From expert advice to a community of like-minded adults, we show the very real challenges from attention deficit disorder (ADD or ADHD) and related mental health conditions. We're also going to have some fun along the way.
We encourage discussion and learning from each other done in a respectful way.
This channel was created by a PhD psychologist, Dr. Claire Sira, and serial entrepreneur, Tom Hudock, who both specialize in ADHD.
Our Goal For You... is to live better with ADHD.
Now, see the stories behind the people and experts who have refused to let ADHD slow them down. From expert advice to a community of like-minded adults, we show the very real challenges from attention deficit disorder (ADD or ADHD) and related mental health conditions. We're also going to have some fun along the way.
We encourage discussion and learning from each other done in a respectful way.
This channel was created by a PhD psychologist, Dr. Claire Sira, and serial entrepreneur, Tom Hudock, who both specialize in ADHD.
Plan Your Year with ADHD (#4)
4th video in this series. See the CZcams playlist for the full series.
You can dive deeper into maximizing the UForward Planner for your work and home life, watch this free video series (starring Dr. Claire and Tom) about how they used the psychology of the brain and executive function research to feel on top of things, feel more accomplished, and procrastinate less.
🎥 Get the paper UForward Planner here: adhdforlife.com/uforward-planner
There's additional explainer videos and an entire 'Getting It Done' video course too.
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Our ADHD stuff:
🕮 Getting It Done with ADHD (book): amzn.to/3b9U45F
🕒 Getting It Done coaching (time mgmt): adhdforlife.com/getting-it-done-with-adhd
❤️ Showing Up Together coaching (emotion regulation): adhdforlife.com/showing-up-together-with-adhd
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Dr. Claire and Tom are the co-founders of ADHD For Life. Over the past 10 years, Dr. Claire (registered psychologist) and Tom have coached individuals and groups for ADHD, authored books, and created software called HyperFocus that helps doctors effectively assess ADHD. We equip adults with the skills and awareness for taking on ADHD challenges.
You can dive deeper into maximizing the UForward Planner for your work and home life, watch this free video series (starring Dr. Claire and Tom) about how they used the psychology of the brain and executive function research to feel on top of things, feel more accomplished, and procrastinate less.
🎥 Get the paper UForward Planner here: adhdforlife.com/uforward-planner
There's additional explainer videos and an entire 'Getting It Done' video course too.
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Our ADHD stuff:
🕮 Getting It Done with ADHD (book): amzn.to/3b9U45F
🕒 Getting It Done coaching (time mgmt): adhdforlife.com/getting-it-done-with-adhd
❤️ Showing Up Together coaching (emotion regulation): adhdforlife.com/showing-up-together-with-adhd
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Dr. Claire and Tom are the co-founders of ADHD For Life. Over the past 10 years, Dr. Claire (registered psychologist) and Tom have coached individuals and groups for ADHD, authored books, and created software called HyperFocus that helps doctors effectively assess ADHD. We equip adults with the skills and awareness for taking on ADHD challenges.
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ADHD Needs To Anchor Your Time (#5)
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5th video in this series. See the CZcams playlist for the full series. You can dive deeper into maximizing the UForward Planner for your work and home life, watch this free video series (starring Dr. Claire and Tom) about how they used the psychology of the brain and executive function research to feel on top of things, feel more accomplished, and procrastinate less. 🎥 Get the paper UForward Pl...
No More Multiple ADHD Lists (#3)
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3rd video in this series. See the CZcams playlist for the full series. You can dive deeper into maximizing the UForward Planner for your work and home life, watch this free video series (starring Dr. Claire and Tom) about how they used the psychology of the brain and executive function research to feel on top of things, feel more accomplished, and procrastinate less. 🎥 Get the paper UForward Pl...
Plan Your Weeks with ADHD Video Series (#1)
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1st video in this series. See the CZcams playlist for the full series. You can dive deeper into maximizing the UForward Planner for your work and home life, watch this free video series (starring Dr. Claire and Tom) about how they used the psychology of the brain and executive function research to feel on top of things, feel more accomplished, and procrastinate less. 🎥 Get the paper UForward Pl...
ADHD Life - Declare Your Vision (#2)
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2nd video in this series. See the CZcams playlist for the full series. You can dive deeper into maximizing the UForward Planner for your work and home life, watch this free video series (starring Dr. Claire and Tom) about how they used the psychology of the brain and executive function research to feel on top of things, feel more accomplished, and procrastinate less. 🎥 Get the paper UForward Pl...
ADHD and Relationships - Is There Hope?
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Are you struggling with ADHD and feeling the strain it's putting on your relationships? If so, you're not alone! Claire and Tom, experts in ADHD, discuss the challenges that ADHD can bring into relationships. They covered topics such as unfinished projects, impulsivity, emotional dysregulation, and how differently ADHD can affect men and women in relationships. They even talked about how to kno...
ADHD Partnered Sex Webinar | ADHD For Life
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ADHD Partnered Sex Webinar | ADHD For Life
ADHD Brains vs Typical Ones | by Dr. Claire Neuropsychologist
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ADHD Brains vs Typical Ones | by Dr. Claire Neuropsychologist
5 real reasons others procrastinate with ADHD diagnosed or not.
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5 real reasons others procrastinate with ADHD diagnosed or not.
6 Ways to Decode Your Procrastination with ADHD
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6 Ways to Decode Your Procrastination with ADHD
Why There's So Much Criticism in ADHD Relationships
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Why There's So Much Criticism in ADHD Relationships
Is ADHD a Superpower? Why do some say superpower but my friends don't believe me.
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Is ADHD a Superpower? Why do some say superpower but my friends don't believe me.
ADHD Barriers to Transitions Like Going From Work to Home and Exciting to Calm
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ADHD Barriers to Transitions Like Going From Work to Home and Exciting to Calm
Squirrel Brain with ADHD Means Being Distracted Easily and Not Finishing Tasks
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Squirrel Brain with ADHD Means Being Distracted Easily and Not Finishing Tasks
3 Ways ADHD Causes Procrastination and How To Finish What You Start
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3 Ways ADHD Causes Procrastination and How To Finish What You Start
3 Ways ADHD Interferes with Decision Making (at Work and at Home)
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3 Ways ADHD Interferes with Decision Making (at Work and at Home)
3 Problems Facing Adults with ADHD Including Overwhelm, Distraction, and Procrastination
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3 Problems Facing Adults with ADHD Including Overwhelm, Distraction, and Procrastination
Aren’t all brains different?
People with ADHD do not hurt other people; however people with Narcissism do.
Again, how could methamphetamines affect this? Disclaimer, I'm not a methamphetamines advocate. I'm just curious for experimental reasons.
Got one for you. How would smoking methamphetamines affect those areas of the brain with someone who had adhd vs. someone who doesn't?
Adulting.
@Sarcasmarkus I often wonder if the word "adulting" sounds a bit shaming for ADHD folks. It sounds like it's supposed to be something that everyone does. But with ADHD, it's not that easy.
@@adhd-for-life for me, I sarcastically use the term "adulting" for all the stuff I don't want to do but have to do. Cleaning and fatigue are the biggest pains for my adhd, i can push to keep on top of all my work stuff and bills but how much energy i have left for life waxes and wanes, cleaning is the bottom of the priority list. I don't like adulting anymore.
Luckily, the drivers on my bus route start blaring their horns a few feet before they stop for me when they see I’m not looking in their direction.
@jochildress5003 how kind and thoughtful of them to do that for you!
SQUIRREL
haha yes totally @leftfield27
Lies!
Thank you. I am weary of burning food because I forget I am cooking. Ugh.
@Desertphile this is a real worry! We use the stove timer for baking or stove top cooking. The stove timer are generally annoying and loud, which is perfect for this. :)
I wonder if you could tell me if there are any medications for me (age 72) Ive had to drop coffee after noon because it now seems to take my system 12 hours to process the caffeine out of my body so I can sleep. Yikes! Or maybe a double-blind research study on my age group with ADHD. ?
@lindadavis8534 for questions on medication, we would suggest contacting a psychiatrist. It sounds like you were using caffeine as a stimulant. There are various natural stimulants available with different affects, depending on your body. Sorry we don't know any research off the top of our heads on elderly or geriatric ADHD. I would suggest adult ADHD research. Menopause does affect ADHD. Here are a few women/ADHD videos from us: 1) czcams.com/users/shortsiquYTKe0_QI 2) czcams.com/video/C6T0P0TeP9Q/video.html 3) czcams.com/users/shortsT7USCVXgBOk
Chicks picked a lot of brains.....
What’s on your shirt
In any case whether ADHD or neurotypical, going solo without timely input from others (teachers, parents, friends, spouses etc) is the issue. No one has all the answers and a mixed pool of neuros goes a long way in life (learning, strategic defence, health and staying connected). Going solo is beneficial at first for a period of healing and grounding; going too long alone can be "damaging" for lack of input and connections. What's not highlighted is the ADHD may be the perfect aunt or uncle agony in an extended family or an informal consultant dispensing insights in a hobby or work group. That's what groups are for however imperfect.
Claire you are stunningly beautiful 😊
I had to rewatch this 4 times because I kept getting distracted. 😂😅
@RavenMistwolf it's all good. :) It happens.
Is a difficult birth going to raise your chance of being ADD?
@TomCrockett-bl1gp this depends on the difficulties during child birth. They may cause all sorts of problems. We do know that if the mother smokes during pregnancy that increases the chances of ADHD.
Really was asking about right at birth. My son and wife were extremely stressed the night before and morning of.
I’m sorry, I got distracted 😂
@yesmaybe630 it happens ;)
I’ll say it, she’s absolutely gorgeous.
Better
I’ve also heard the default mode network called the “demon” (DeMoN).
@gypsypath1 haven't heard that one until now.
No D.........except different....society's issue not ours.
Interesting about the default mode network. I have a son with diagnosed ADHD, and I suspect I may have it too. I have many other psychological issues and diagnoses. I am also a heavy user of Psilocybin and N, N-DMT, both of which suppress the default mode network and allow for more neuroplasticity. I've been having problems with attentiveness for decades now. Those drugs really help my depression and moods in between experiences, but I'm curious as to what else they are doing, good or bad.
The doctor's desciption of her mattress buying event (a challenging for anybody, but much more so for distractables) was so familiar I laughed out loud. Thank god there are no helpful sales people around when I try to decide between Rye or Whole Wheat. Pro tip: always use the bathroom before going shopping, lol.
@pancakeface5717 Another pro tip: don't shop for food when you're hungry. lol. I find I come up with 13 different meals and missing 2 or 3 ingredients from each one so I can't even make one meal!
@@adhd-for-life Oh can I relate.
The things described in this video as things a person using a hypo-active ventral system, would fail to notice, are precisely the things that I DO notice, because they sufficiently stimulate my survival alert system to grab my attention. What I fail to notice are the repetitive, background things that I NEED to notice but which are just not novel or scary or interesting enough to stand out for me. My gas gauge, for example. Or the chart next to the punch clock at work, that tells me when I’ll be taking my breaks that day. A date on the large calendar in front of me at my breakfast table, with my next oil change appointment, or PT appointment. A notification on my phone that an important call has come in and been sent to voicemail. Anything that is able to become background noise due to its constancy and repetitiveness. A child crossing the road is a thing I would notice before the child got anywhere near the road, even though the child’s house, which I have driven past a thousand times, is invisible to me and I couldn’t tell you what it looks like. I was diagnosed with ADD at a center that specializes in diagnosing, treating, and studying people with this disorder. I was deep into my 40s when I learned what ADD is, and got a diagnosis. The medical treatments have not worked for me, although they did briefly. I’ve learned more and more to understand how ADD operates for me, and some ways to manage and workaround it. The brief spell where the meds were helping, was amazing. I remember looking around as I drove somewhere one day soon after starting meds, and thinking, “Oh, wow! This is how other people feel and epwerince the world?? No wonder they can do what they do!” I also started thinking of all the things I could now do; go to college, have a career, use my creative abilities in more focused, goal-oriented ways,…etc. But, unfortunately, within a month or two, the effects of the meds diminished and I wasn’t feeling that amazing clarity and awareness any more. Fatigue makes ADD worse, I’ve found. Even more than that, stress makes it worse. If life is feeling out of control in some way, even if I think I’m managing that stress pretty well, it will hit me in the ADD with a vengeance, nonetheless. Especially if I’m suppressing feelings in order to function. Ironically, I’ll have some real lapses that can make life even more uncomfortable and out of control, because of the effort (I surmise) I’m putting into “holding it all together”, which just intensifies the ADD. I wonder if anyone else can relate to this?
@erstwhile3793 I'm sure people are going to relate to what you're saying. We speak to many people who are "late in life diagnosed" now. The effectiveness of stimulants wearing off after a short while is a thing. Plus meds don't fix, solve, cure ADD so we have to set up our own strategies and scaffolding to cope better. When you talk about stress and fatigue negatively affecting your ADD traits, that is also a thing. We only have so many decisions to make in the day and stress lowers it. Thanks for sharing these stories. ❤
100%. I’m still trying to figure out how to function well enough when life gets overwhelming.
Meds are like in this movie, Awakenings.
About the Energy it takes to Keep it all together: 7 years past diagnosis I was just starting to wonder if I should try less & be more accepting, Not trying to manage everything.
I relate deeply with what you said and nearly cried when you stated about being on the medicine and thinking, “oh, this is how other people feel and experience the world?! No wonder they can do what they can do!” --I’ve thought this before. Makes me sad. It’s like people who are visually impaired or hearing impaired experiencing visual clarity or hearing clarity.
ADHD kicked in and I didn’t finish this lol sooo serious!
@4XPS have you tried the thing where you watch the video at 1.25 times speed? That might help keep the dopamine up. 😄
I had a friend who was AdHD. Complete asshole. Narcissistic. Impatient. Property damaging. Complete a-hole.
I enjoy being interrupted by ADHD people
criticism? in a fb group about ADHD, i felt like i am among reckless copycats and no doubt propaganda ... of foreign ego, especially medicaments, repeated like a poem, no matter it is a suspicious foreign ego against them ... maybe they knew it, if it was good, they would keep it to themselves? they seemed to me like they never have problem with anything ... maybe the more they have problems, because people take them as "no problem, so i can push all my problems to them without fearing they would mind it" ... and maybe they do it to themselves "in order to look perfect in front of people", too ... maybe they copy people's reckless statements or rather "hints" (unexpressed, emotional - "invisible, not sueable" ... they claim about their own crimes, wtf ?!) which are bad like everything someone pushes to someone ... they actually say "be perfect = dont be (yourself), it will be easier/better "for everyone" (means: for me on costs of other people, reality)" ... i think it is hard to be "good-sh*tting-proof" ... because people are utilitarian jellys (especially when they seem vice versa, as a solid god you can rely on ... when they want you to carry them, their BPD BS) = they emotionally support (at others) what is good for them (they want to put on other people what they dont want/no one wants) = bad for other people (or they just like, enjoy to push their BS to someone else? they can seem better then without doing anything (good)?) and push bad emotions to you when you are happy (recklessly, on their costs) or do what is good for you ...
vs.? Dr. = Mengele?
Always making connections.
I hear smell and feel everything all the time.
@jenniferhizzy6591 that might feel overwhelming at times.
You are all just worshipping the cortices and they don't matter Everything is in the feminine lower brain that this lady has no clue about , other than guessing badly just look at her diagram, its cortices worshipping
Hiya from 🇬🇧have just jouned you channel ,i have adhd ..i was diagnosed at age 41on the nhs here in england. i am 47 now,after i was assesses i met the specialist doctor and within about 3 sentences of me speeking..he diagnosed me 😅..jokes aside i am still non medicated through choice and i find ways of copeing everyday!..my first recomendation is to put the radio on when completeing household jobs..music is a great for that..also talking aloud to remind yourself what your doing ,i talk a lot and struggle to rememberr what im saying..but i still manage at work,i am a carer,have been a mum sice age 18 and just about managed to run my house ..single handed!..have a nice day!❤
welcome @philippamcqueen5430 ! Music can be helpful for the household jobs. And there's nothing wrong with talking to yourself either! :) Congrats on being a mum and managing your household through all these years. Keep the sense of humour and the coping strategies. It's working for ya!
@@adhd-for-life ahh bless your heart ,thank-you x
I believe as adhd woman I shouldn't have family and I have no future
@user-bh4mk9tx5x it sounds like you might feel overwhelmed with the thought of kids. Well I wouldn't recommend it on your own. :) It's not really a solo activity. Having kids means having partner support and support from some friends and family too. If you're not planning on having a child within the next couple of years, then you probably don't need to think about it yet.
Great video illustrating whats happening in our brains. I finally got 'diagnosed' at age 39. I have it in quotations because I didn't get the absolute full diagnoses illustrating exactly what type of adhd I have. But at age 39 a conversation with some sort of health care professional (psychiatric nurse in my case) was enough to determine what I had a hunch about all my life was true. Inattentive seems to line up with me now a days where as a child it was more so hyperactive. I hate that I've have had this my whole entire life. Its great to finally know what it is now as it explains quite a bit about my past. The thought of what if I didn't have this and how different my life could've been is a question I ask myself a lot.
@DejaVu0 I'm glad you took the step to meet with a professional. Most of the folks in our programs were midlife diagnosed. It sounds like you're having a difficult time, now that you know. There's usually a little grieving that goes on about what could've been. It's only the start of your journey though. There's good that can come from this. 🙂
#2! YES!
@alittlepieceofearth good to know that #2 hit the mark for you. 🤔
Nailed it😅
thx :)
i missed u
@@AnnWilson-pi6te we're here 😊
Ok, you had me from "We might recognize patterns more easily" 😅
@@chrisslate1506😊 it's true. Difficulty to focus on one thing, when you're being alerted of everything around you
@@adhd-for-life I was just journaling about how crazy and amazing it is at just how many details and thoughts consciously flow through my mind in real-time as I'm having a conversation with someone in person or on the phone. I describe it kind of like the thoughts in my head are like sitting in front of the television every woken moment of the day and constantly flipping through thirty different channels. And someone else has the remote.
@@chrisslate1506 lol "someone else has the remote"... Good one.
@@chrisslate1506 oh thats a good way to put it as well. one way i describe it is, imagine one of those times you are having a conversation with yourself in your head... but that conversation literally never stops and the topics are endless.
Busy busy thoughts
I'm 51, and been on Adderall for over 20 years. It helps alot with my fatigue, and accomplishing major tasks, but I still feel like I have overall issues accomplishing things. Thanks to videos on CZcams, I'm learning more than ever before, which has been extremely helpful, yet so many videos talk about inattentive adhd, which is what i thought I had, but my issues aren't that I am inattentive, but the contrary. I'm literally aware of everything going on around me, to a point of being hyper-focused, all the time. Unfortunately I can't direct my focus to the immediate task at hand, and it's exhausting. I'm starting to wonder if I have less adhd, and more OCD. Sometimes I find it difficult to separate them.
I have ADHD but a very close friend has autism and ADHD, and they find the sensory processing issues from their autism is what causes a similar thing for them. Regardless of if it is OCD or autism or ADHD or something else, the good thing is you were able to recognize it in yourself. For me at least, that introspection and realizing not everyone is like that and giving myself grace is the most difficult part of being neurodivergent
@sarahmanzo4761 it sounds like you may be overly alert of your surroundings. It's the feeling of being on guard, nervous, or worried about a situation or event or the environment you're in. If this is always "on" for you, then this continuous stress would be exhausting for one's body and mind. Our fast-paced society and social media don't help either.
@@adhd-for-life yes, chronic fatigue and I'll heath. I isolate myself and try to avoid any stimulation whatsoever, which is lonely.
@@sarahmanzo4761 over-stimulation just throws the body off. It's important to continue a friendship though. Maybe there's a way for you to find a low stimulation activity, eg. walk in the woods, that you can do with a friend?
One of the far more scientifically explained ADHD video on youtube.
@@ahthyagaraj nice, thank you very much.
Thank you for your videos ❤
@@Get__StuffDone you're welcome. Thanks for hanging out here.
Oh look..more stupid shit excuses..
ADHD DOESNT EXIST... hard truth for a liberal to wrap their head around... you are all on pills now and your doctor owns you. fact.
Show up
@@stevebrairton3157 showing up is worth it. 🙌
People with ADHD are genius with immeasurable IQs and see third level first But unfortunately, mental health professionals invented the word neurodivergent, which is a cultural Marxist term used to divide and denigrate people. It makes it sound good. Neurodivergent is the worst self talk and it gives people a week to people with ADHD mentally ill which is our biggest stigma
@richardleetbluesharmonicac7192 the term "neurodivergent" was coined by autistic sociologist Judy Singer as an alternative to words, such as “disorder". It's a non-medical term though. If using these terms feels shaming to you or you feel it reinforces the stigma, then find other ways to accept yourself and see your strengths. That word doesn't have to be used. :)
Procrastinating is my m.o. for sure. Unfortunately, I'm getting to the point where the fear or embarrassment of missing a deadline no longer provides the motivation I seem to need to accomplish most anything. The shame from constantly missing deadlines is seriously impacting my mental health. I honestly hate knowing this bc I don't want to feel terrible about myself, but it seems as if I can't stop procrastinating regardless of what I want.
@Jmkoch1 it sounds like you're trying to use willpower to overcome the procrastination. This can be exhausting. Instead of using the fear of a negative outcome to drive you, try rewarding yourself for doing an unattractive task. Create small rewards, like a fun activity or social time, as the outcome for meeting a deadline.
Number 1 then number two. The last not because I prefer to be by my self fore the most time. i have ADD
@@EwonneStrand yeah I hear ya. Sometimes it's easier to spend some time on our own and doing activities and hobbies that we like.
Transitions!
Yess ⚠️
Very well summarized. Intuitively, I always used to say "People who don't bother to ask a question BEFORE forming an opinion may as well push their opinions into their darkest place." 😅
@Waldemar_la_Tendresse that's a good quote and relevant with today's highly opinionated, dug into the trenches arguments on social media.
i dont see you asking questions anywhere, so maybe i should ignore you ...