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60 day challenge aftermath
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After 60~ days of making videos everyday. I needed a break. Life is coming fast and this challenge was to see what sticks, and what doesn't. I hope you enjoyed. Comment your favorite video on the 60 days. Connect with me: IG : @rubenponders Twitter/X : @rubenponders Tik Tok : @rubenponders
I'm 34 ; Here's what I've learned about life
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Back from the hiatus. I'm 34 now and here are the lessons I've learned through those many years in life. Let me know your thoughts. Connect with me: Substack: rubenrezz.substack.com/ IG: @rubenponders Tik Tok: @rubenponders Twitter/X: @rubenponders #masculinity #manosphere #lessonslearned #lessons
The End of The Year Review (SIMPLE)
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This is the way. Join me on my 60 day CZcams video challenge!! I'll be creating a video/short daily around lifestyle, health, mindset, and pop culture. Follow the journey by subscribing and hitting that little bell icon! Connect with me: Substack: rubenrezz.substack.com/ IG: @rubenponders Tik Tok: @rubenponders Twitter/X: @rubenponders
Holistic vs Toxic
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Holistic vs Toxic
The Number ONE Secret To Leading a Life of Happiness
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I re-learned this in 2023. What a difference it has made. Join me on my 60 day CZcams video challenge!! I'll be creating a video/short daily around lifestyle, health, mindset, and pop culture. Follow the journey by subscribing and hitting that little bell icon! Connect with me: Substack: rubenrezz.substack.com/ IG: @rubenponders Tik Tok: @rubenponders Twitter/X: @rubenponders
34 ; A Year of Faith
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I'm 34 today. 33 was the hardest year of my life. Here's what I learned from that year and how I'm looking forward. Join me on my 60 day CZcams video challenge!! I'll be creating a video/short daily around lifestyle, health, mindset, and pop culture. Follow the journey by subscribing and hitting that little bell icon! Connect with me: Substack: rubenrezz.substack.com/ IG: @rubenponders Tik Tok:...
How much is too Much? (Goal Setting & Accountability)
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Still watching? Here's a way to get to 0 watching habits. Join me on my 60 day CZcams video challenge!! I'll be creating a video/short daily around lifestyle, health, mindset, and pop culture. Follow the journey by subscribing and hitting that little bell icon! Connect with me: Substack: rubenrezz.substack.com/ IG: @rubenponders Tik Tok: @rubenponders Twitter/X: @rubenponders #cornhub #masculin...
Navigating Loneliness in a Connected World
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Loneliness continues to rise. It's becoming every more difficult. Some of us guys have a hard time making friends, well, here's how to navigate that. Get after it. Comment your experience. Join me on my 60 day CZcams video challenge!! I'll be creating a video/short daily around lifestyle, health, mindset, and pop culture. Follow the journey by subscribing and hitting that little bell icon! Conn...
How to Handle Your Emotions
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The most important holistic skill you will ever learn for your life. Join me on my 60 day CZcams video challenge!! I'll be creating a video/short daily around lifestyle, health, mindset, and pop culture. Follow the journey by subscribing and hitting that little bell icon! Connect with me: Substack: rubenrezz.substack.com/ IG: @rubenponders Tik Tok: @rubenponders Twitter/X: @rubenponders
9 Books All Men Need to Read
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Top books for men, do you agree with the list? Join me on my 60 day CZcams video challenge!! I'll be creating a video/short daily around lifestyle, health, mindset, and pop culture. Follow the journey by subscribing and hitting that little bell icon! Connect with me: Substack: rubenrezz.substack.com/ IG: @rubenponders Tik Tok: @rubenponders Twitter/X: @rubenponders
Checking in - Holiday's suck
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Problems with this time a year. Looking at the last year and seeing how F ed up it might've been. What do you think? Join me on my 60 day CZcams video challenge!! I'll be creating a video/short daily around lifestyle, health, mindset, and pop culture. Follow the journey by subscribing and hitting that little bell icon! Connect with me: Substack: rubenrezz.substack.com/ IG: @rubenponders Tik Tok...
I'm an Emotional Wreck
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We're animals. It's a fact. Why do we ignore it? Studies and personal experiences have shown how much of the animals we are. What happens when we ignore this fact and try to be too logical? Join me in the discussion in the comments below. Join me on my 60 day CZcams video challenge!! I'll be creating a video/short daily around lifestyle, health, mindset, and pop culture. Follow the journey by s...
For those Struggling with Anxiety and How to Cope
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Anxiety has plagued us, as a westernized society in a long time. It's affecting everyone but Men even more so, we just don't share it often. I hope this video helps you and brings out your own truth. Support a brother. Join me on my 60 day CZcams video challenge!! I'll be creating a video/short daily around lifestyle, health, mindset, and pop culture. Follow the journey by subscribing and hitti...
Is Monk Mode worth it?
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I dabbled in the Monk Mode lifestyle and have watched several videos on the subject. Is it worth it? Depends on who you ask. Join me on my 60 day CZcams video challenge!! I'll be creating a video/short daily around lifestyle, health, mindset, and pop culture. Follow the journey by subscribing and hitting that little bell icon! Connect with me: Substack: rubenrezz.substack.com/ IG: @rubenponders...
A way to Be in This World
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A way to Be in This World
She GHOSTED you? Now what?
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She GHOSTED you? Now what?
Why do we Still Do This?
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Why do we Still Do This?
Always Do Your Best ; But... Keep This Idea in Mind
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Always Do Your Best ; But... Keep This Idea in Mind
I Cancelled All my Subscriptions for 30 Days
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I Cancelled All my Subscriptions for 30 Days
What Mode of Life are You Playing?
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What Mode of Life are You Playing?
Men - YOU must Leave the Womb
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Men - YOU must Leave the Womb
Brother - Are You Okay?
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Brother - Are You Okay?
A Lesson from A Little Known Game For Us All
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A Lesson from A Little Known Game For Us All
This LAW Messed up my LIFE
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This LAW Messed up my LIFE
This ONE Habit Changed my Life
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This ONE Habit Changed my Life
The Cycles in Your Life ; A Quick Story on Death & Rebirth
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The Cycles in Your Life ; A Quick Story on Death & Rebirth
Big Family Issues? Here's what to do
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Big Family Issues? Here's what to do
Heal Your Relationship With The Father
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Heal Your Relationship With The Father
Checking In, Brother - How are you?
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Checking In, Brother - How are you?

Komentáře

  • @leathelion3155
    @leathelion3155 Před 2 dny

    I think I saw you at church today

  • @darlenemcgriff3085
    @darlenemcgriff3085 Před 12 dny

    Hi, I just want to say hold on🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️❤️❤️It will work it self out. Yes!! Indeed it gets hard, but! Keep going it will get better. I’m praying for you. 🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼

  • @NancyVS32024
    @NancyVS32024 Před 16 dny

    I live in SF and paying $3400 for an apt in Oakland is laughable these landlords are so greedy, not even cause Oakland is always like Gotham city with multiple killings a week, people getting robbed in broad daylight and the mayor just got arrested last week. these landlords charge crazy rent! I was raised in a pretty gritty neighborhood in SF & not scared to go out to any of the unpredictable streets of SF but Oakland f no I will not go. I have seen multiple shootings on the freeway, elderly people getting mugged for their money & jewelry,there’s like no line where these people won’t cross. It’s disgusting and the landlords turn a blind eye charging $2800 for a 1 bedroom, why because they themselves would never live in Oakland. It’s outrageous! not worth risking your life for a place you can’t even feel safe to walk outside

  • @conniel816
    @conniel816 Před 26 dny

    Yes; get out of Oakland

  • @carmelsweetz3547
    @carmelsweetz3547 Před 28 dny

    It looked like you were down town near tribune tower.

  • @morrning_group
    @morrning_group Před měsícem

    What strategies or techniques have helped you navigate through challenging times and find clarity in your decision-making process? How do you stay motivated and focused on your passions despite the obstacles you face? 🤔

  • @Yoli-uw7xn
    @Yoli-uw7xn Před měsícem

    Born and raised in Oakland I left to because of crime, I wanted something better and I have it now my husband, I own a 3 bedroom house, 2 cars 1 truck and great neighbors.

  • @jeremywilliams7384
    @jeremywilliams7384 Před měsícem

    I have only slept with with one woman for 25 years the only strange I've had is my left hand lots of. Beautiful girls out there I love my wife!!!!

  • @i.am.navkaur
    @i.am.navkaur Před měsícem

    I live in Piedmont Ave area. It’s more peaceful and green over there, yet easy access to DT. The best of all worlds, IMO.

  • @valeriecoleman3588
    @valeriecoleman3588 Před měsícem

    No judgement, to you… there’s no perfect place, but you gotta feel good wherever you land…best of luck. Be safe🙏🏾

  • @daendiznigh
    @daendiznigh Před měsícem

    Life has its ups and downs , right now your in the downs , soon….you’ll be back up again. You live and you learn. Patience in a virtue. You’ll definitely learn something/ gain something from these days and look back at them and smile. Jobs , women , good times and bad times they come and go until you land where god wants you to be. Also don’t take anything personal with jobs right now. We are in a recession/ almost Great Depression for some. It’s nasty out there right now man so hang on and hang on tight. God will send you a life boat but in the mean time keep paddling my friend

  • @daendiznigh
    @daendiznigh Před měsícem

    Yup , you’ll land on your feet . I’m 45. I was you 10 years ago . I stumbled across your “leaving Oakland “ video and stumbled on this one . Glad you know God and are Christian. If God is for you then who can be against you! Your blessings are coming . Stay positive and patient like you’ve been . You will always end up on top of you do everything in life with Gods blessing. Your business dealings , personal economic status , and love interests and friends will always thrive if you are praying on everything and asking for signs , asking for doors to open and close on you according to Gods will. You’ll lever lose again. Your losses had to go so you can revive what he is about to give you . Peace out homie

  • @mustbeheard9834
    @mustbeheard9834 Před měsícem

    You need to focus on what you want then pray for it! You also must be careful what you ask for! Just ask God to only give it to you if it's beneficial to you with no adverse effects. Seems to me after listening to you, you might just need peace! You might be someone who might sell everything they own. Quit their job and run off to another country for a year or two where you stay in hostels and climb mountains, swim, and surf at your leisure. Then sit on the beach drink a cold Heineken while digging your toes in the sand. You could move to Mexico and do this very cheaply in places like Meridia. I think you've been working so much for years that you're now burnt out! It happens! You might need a little time to kick back, rest, and regroup!! Only you can make it happen! Hope this helps. JMO

  • @Thiago_TT_MIA
    @Thiago_TT_MIA Před 2 měsíci

    I left California 10 years ago. I enjoy keeping more of my money

  • @nikkoalpha2
    @nikkoalpha2 Před 3 měsíci

    Thank the Democrats who control Oakland and California. Smart decision to leave. It most likely will worsen.

  • @tyrone42ful
    @tyrone42ful Před 4 měsíci

    Boughie people

  • @tyrone42ful
    @tyrone42ful Před 4 měsíci

    Dont you know when you make reiews like this you kill cities you kill tge countrychild please oakland isnt bear that dirty .

  • @bestintheworld5968
    @bestintheworld5968 Před 4 měsíci

    Hey bro I'm not all too sure with what's going on but please stay strong God will bless you someway somehow PLEASE DONT DO ANYTHING WE LOVE YOU🙏🏿

    • @rubenponders
      @rubenponders Před 4 měsíci

      Thanks brotha. Luckily I’m not to that point. More like that running away to the mountains and becoming a mountain man 🤣

  • @justinakili7880
    @justinakili7880 Před 4 měsíci

    Stay strong bro ❤❤❤

  • @muirick9924
    @muirick9924 Před 4 měsíci

    *LEARN CHRIST* Christ is the only way to know life & your Life purpose. *Without the Bible, God Ahayah & Christ Yashaya, your just a pagun aka 4 ppl who dont know a Satanist unknowingly & unwillingly, ignorantly its a sad reality but its true. Satan fell to earth in the beginning & angels are still falling to Earth now aka asteroids & comets. Wake up to Reality bro society is a lie. Society was literally made by satanist, new masons to be pagun & normalize sin. Its modern day Babylonia in america. Aka daughter of Babylon which is in the Bible. ( fallen angels are Satanic demonic beings. They control these Nephilim & all governments & all religions) Nephilim are fallen angels children aka giants. They mostly died in the noah flood bc The most high God Ahayah flooded the earth to get rid of them. Because Nephilim was basically destroying all life including themselves as well. Without the Most high Humans would've went extinct in those days. ●Basically your depression & all this stuff because of evil spirits aka Nephilim spirits bc human go to await judgement they DO NOT SAY ON EARTH. Aka demons ppl call them as well. ●evil spirits get in you bc of sin & put all these thoughts of depression & etc... in your mind. Thoughts of suicide & all. R@pe, murder. Sin. ●& ppl ignorantly think its their mind. & doctors lie to u. And say your skitafranic & etc.... and they give you medication to help. But in reality its a drugs. That opens you up for more spirits. Look at the label and whats in your medication or prescriptions. Look at the ads/ commercials on tv. U get 1 relief with a million symptoms. & these symptoms/ side effects are like (thoughts of suicide?????)🤔 ummm... its a evil spirit aka Nephilim spirit no ghost. Giving you those thoughts. We gotta wake up to Reality ppl. The facts are there. If u choose to ignore them thats on u. [Just because u don't believe in it, dosent mean its not affecting you or it dosent exist] ●top 1% of the world who own everything are illuminati Satanist new masons. ●proof: Bible. Christ Yashaya was fasting 40 days & 40 nights and satan appeared to him and offered him ALL NATIONS. ■ yes satan controls all the Governments bruh. Bruh stop denying truth u know this. ●look at the $1 dollar bill as 1 example for Many. ●it has a Egyptian pyramid on it. Which is satanic bc Egyptians worships demonic fallen angels its literally written on their walls sacrificing their kids to demons bruh. ●the illuminati all seeing eye logo. The eye. Is satans eye ●the eagle represents rome. Esau . zues aka jesus. Btw look up Cesare Borgia On Google images or on CZcams . Thats jesus a gay roman a murderer. All religions & holidays are pagun & satanic. December 25th is nimrod birthday a Nephilim. ●the bible describes of Christ really looks like. Bronze colored skin & white hair like wool. Its a black man ppl in modern society say. ●dark skinned ppl are Hebrew Israelites. 12 tribes of Isreal jocabs 12 sons. Gods literally chsoen people. Btw. Roman catholics ✡️ (this star is the star of molock btw demonic ritual symbol for sacrificing) who made Christianity are the same ppl who killed christ, they actually hate christ jews ✡️ in Europe are romans not jews. Real jobs got ran out of their home lands into slavery. Deuteronomy 20-70 chapters gives proof black ppl are the Israelites God Ahayah chosen ppl. God & Christ are 2 seperate beings. God is Ahayah Asher Ahayah( I AM that I Am) he said to Moses. Christ is Yashaya means Savior in the original language of the world Ancient Hebrew. Language of the Heavens . No space above is Firmament waters between the firmament then HEAVEN. Obviously same for hell below. ● no aliens its fallen angels or Nephilim that can shape shift. Ufos 🛸 is angel technology. In bible their called chariots. The most high has his and satan/ lucifer the serpent 🐍 the dragon 🐉 mimics God. Satan has his own chariots too aka ufos. Government ufos. Satan uses the government to make these. Btw anything with a dragon or serpent means satan btw. Any logos & etc... ●alien false doctrine is a thing bc if u believe in space & aliens that means u believe in the big bang theory, evolution, also probably that aliens created us. Its a demonic Satanist lies. God made Adam & Eve. And the Earth. ●theres a action & a reaction. Someone made the bang happen. ●can a computer build itself?? No. ●also alien invasion doctrine is satanic. They get ppl scared of aliens invasion because when christ Yashaya returns he will have his ufos aka chariots and come from the sky. ●and btw the government will fake a alien invasion 1st so when ppl see ufos come out the sky the 2nd time aka Christ's Yashaya's return ppl will fight Christ. Ppl would be programmed to be scared of it. Just like Babylonia ppl will think in thier minds to fight God. Tower of Babyl. Babylonia was 1 mind, 1 language, 1 world religion satanic place that had all the people mk uktra mid controlled or / programmed or u can say sheep. Also things like a micro chip in u. That can control u with frequencies. And vibrations. All religions today stem from Babylonia. Babylonia was separated by the flood. So they separated in different locations & changed/ made their own languages and changed their names. Its all the same religion worshipping the same gods aka satan and his fallen angels & Nephilim. All religions & holidays today are the same. Its funny how no religion & holiday we celebrate in society now. NONE OF THEM ARE IN THE BIBLE.. ●metal illness = is demon possessionm. Unsobor minded. Aka drunk, high or whatever = the same. ●dont eat pork or shell fish its unclean food from the bible. God Ahayah said not to eat. ♡i wonder who read all this?☠️ hopefully u do you'll learn at lot. Its all facts man.

  • @brytneybrewer1707
    @brytneybrewer1707 Před 4 měsíci

    I think it’s just the condition of the world right now. I think everyone is raising to a higher consciousness. Becoming more self-aware. Looking at the thing is they’re putting energy and time into and having enough! My boyfriend has this dilemma as well. He brings in just enough money for us to be comfortable. Nothing too crazy. We recently just had a baby for downsizing because we realize that our house now it’s not worth paying this much for if we can’t even enjoy ourselves in it. Nevertheless, he’s perplexed with the same reality as well. He wrote a book a year ago and wants to revise it put out a hard copy, and he is writing a second book. He’s into poetry, and all types of extracurricular things, but he doesn’t have the time to do them because life does not afford a stat. A lot of the times he tries to find time to be creative but he’s exhausted from his job. It’s really insanity !

    • @rubenponders
      @rubenponders Před 4 měsíci

      Seriously, the job market doesn’t pay enough and still wants us to do countless hours and drain us of our vital force. This gives little time for our creative endeavors. I’m surprised I still have the energy to workout and keep my nutrition game strong. Tell him to hang in there. The world shifts and moves, we just have to survive long enough to see it through.

  • @georgeturner8455
    @georgeturner8455 Před 5 měsíci

    Hey bro "get out" now. I grew up in Oaktown in 50s 60s very little crime. It was much nicer. I left in 79 never looked back Here in Fla have a house on half acre plenty of peace for 500.00 a month You r in danger in Oaktown. Get out if you can't fix the problems

  • @NegrvNasty
    @NegrvNasty Před 6 měsíci

    Happy birthday again. You've came a LONG way & it hasn't gone unnoticed. Keep Illuminating, you're the moon that lights the path. I love you & as i always say, i'm honored to be your sister ♥

  • @jawwad1189
    @jawwad1189 Před 6 měsíci

    Thanks for the book recommendations

  • @Dre0233
    @Dre0233 Před 6 měsíci

    Still mentally in a dark place, carrying dark energy every day, trying to get closer to god, and trying to stay disciplined without a lot of distractions.

    • @rubenponders
      @rubenponders Před 6 měsíci

      That’s the way to go bro. We just have to continue taking the step forward. Eventually the weight will fall

  • @Dre0233
    @Dre0233 Před 6 měsíci

    Glad I watched this video man, end of the year reflection always puts me down in December, in may of this year I had over 1000 dollars worth of car problems, no means to pay it because I was jobless, had bills coming up, ended a relationship the month before, and now I’m employed, have savings and all my car problems are fixed, met plenty of friends as well as women. In a down place right now but when I look back I’ve came such a long way from spring of this year which was a time of uncertainty, now I’m almost done with school and have a better direction of what I want out of life

    • @rubenponders
      @rubenponders Před 6 měsíci

      That’s right. Cycles man 🙏🏼.

  • @rijd2304
    @rijd2304 Před 6 měsíci

    Insightful. I was in a similar situation. Our parents pass their anxiety onto us, but it's not even their fault as they don't know they're often doing it. It just gets passed down. The programming of worry. It takes a while, a long time, to train the brain and body and realize there isn't an immediate threat to safety and security, and to realize that even if there is a threat, most things are out of our control regardless. Mindfulness helped me a lot. Books like 30 Days to Reduce Anxiety by Harper Daniels I liked, as well as the Tao Te Ching and learning to set boundaries.

  • @burgundybutterflies4910
    @burgundybutterflies4910 Před 7 měsíci

    I left as well. I'm renting an entire 3 bedroom house in a quiet city near Oakland. I pay 2895

  • @annacolon7723
    @annacolon7723 Před 7 měsíci

    Love u ❤

  • @MsKb123
    @MsKb123 Před 7 měsíci

    Wild idea… what if we all got on a zoom call to talk & listen to each other? Would anyone be up for that? @rubenponders @adn64 @moonbasemonkmode441

  • @Strengtharchive80
    @Strengtharchive80 Před 7 měsíci

    Appreciate the video Subscribed from 🇬🇧🙏🏻

  • @kingwizard2417
    @kingwizard2417 Před 7 měsíci

    Clicked on the video bc he has the same name as me. Worth the watch

  • @MsKb123
    @MsKb123 Před 7 měsíci

    I definitely agree that we need to look for the ROOT of what is causing people to do harmful or dangerous things.

  • @ADN64
    @ADN64 Před 7 měsíci

    I absolutely agree with you here, I think men are looked at as these unwavering characters like in movies instead of what we are which is HUMAN with feelings and emotions who are mortal. No man is Superman or the hulk. And women seem to not understand that just like their desires and problems are complicated for them ours are aswell. Keep speaking your message ❤

  • @noobclips1570
    @noobclips1570 Před 7 měsíci

    I got to learn how to fight

    • @kajwaverider9353
      @kajwaverider9353 Před 7 měsíci

      Watch beginner boxing drills and do them at home to start. Continue from there. Also practice sprints. That will help you generate your explosiveness. Other than that just lift or do bodyweight exercise.

  • @MsKb123
    @MsKb123 Před 7 měsíci

    I’m sorry Ruben, but this actually kept me up last night. I am concerned about your point of view and perhaps there are some misunderstandings we can clarify. It is not Women’s job to make sure that Men are not ‘dangerous.’ Also, in my opinion this thinking in itself is dangerous. Get creative. Get resourceful. If a man leaves his ‘dangerous side’ up to his one female partner to be responsible for, that sounds like a dangerous man for her/anyone to partner with. Be accountable. Not having sex with, and not having a long term female partner is absolutely no reason to do things like what you mentioned can happen; like “people going into a school and doing bad things.” There is ABSOLUTELY ZERO reason that it is EVER OK to harm, violate, or do things to someone that they do not consent to [except perhaps in instances of self defence]. Let me know if you want to talk about this further.

    • @ADN64
      @ADN64 Před 7 měsíci

      He is right tho, sexual frustration is a very serious problem nobody looks at, I think you are looking at what was said one dimensionally but you have to look at this from all view points, Men and Women are different and need different things to stabilize our lives. A woman can completely make or break a man and alot of people aren’t creative and don’t have will power. The world isn’t black and white

    • @MsKb123
      @MsKb123 Před 7 měsíci

      I think this is an incredibly important conversation - for our society- not just here at the video… and how can it all possibly be said via messages? I don’t deny that sexual frustration is a thing. I am curious of what makes it so hard to work with/through. I wonder if people who are experiencing something relatable to this video can take on lot of insecurity; feeing like they need to meet a certain societal standard, and when they feel they don’t, they might tend to want you to express that, and don’t have the tools to do it safely so they do it aggressively… could this be? I am also curious if we all - but Men specifically in this instance - can take back our power, and not make it our partner’s responsibility to keep us accountable? Why does not seem possible for you? I acknowledge there is a challenge for men - within themselves and within society, around their sexuality, and their desire to feel ‘wanted, purposeful & successful’ (is this part of the motive? I’m only presuming). I also want to acknowledge your desire to feel and express your full range of human emotions, including vulnerability. I am curious if women often really do want you to be the ‘hulk-like guy’ you described, or if you are expecting that of yourself? I am also curious if you guys have considered this point of view - that “men should not be single [because they could be dangerous]” - from the women’s perspective? Does it mean that you are ‘centring’ yourselves to get your needs/wants/need-to-be-accountable met by someone else because it’s too hard or you don’t know how to do it for yourselves yet? So, does that mean it’s ok to make that someone else’s responsibility? Why is that ok?

    • @moonbasemonkmode441
      @moonbasemonkmode441 Před 7 měsíci

      It’s not a woman’s job, it’s society and the culture’s job to make sure everyone is safe and no one is dangerous. A man doesn’t have to be dangerous either. The opposite of love isn’t hate, it’s apathy. That’s men opting out of dating, avoiding women at work, refusing to help women even when a real dangerous man is harming them. So even if they don’t harm you, they won’t protect you when someone else is. More men aren’t going to colleges, or joining the workforce. And of the ones that do, many are saving their funds and leaving the country for other cultures. Why? Because they don’t have a RELATIONSHIP or FAMILY tying them down to this one. So are individuals flawed for wanting relationships (normal and healthy, and prior generations never had to cope by “volunteering” or something to fill the void lol) or is our culture flawed for not facilitating them?

    • @MsKb123
      @MsKb123 Před 7 měsíci

      @@moonbasemonkmode441 Yes, I agree our society/culture would benefit from evolving how it supports people & relationships. It is not possible to make a sweeping generalization about any of this. I think our culture has actually made people think that a relationship is one of the only ways to find meaning in this life, which is sad, and makes people who are single feel crappy. I think in this 'era' where hyper-individualization has made the desire or need for a partner feel more important since it is less and less common to have a community of people to help you out. One thing that I don't think is a great solution is for people to rush into relationships, or to force relationships to work that don't work well for both parties in order to have someone that keeps them from feeling lonely, or to help pay the bills. Obviously, there is so much more to this and so many different scenarios. To answer your question... No, I definitely don't think individuals are flawed for wanting to be in a relationship. Realistically / statistically, not everyone will find an amazing fit of a partner immediately in life. (and yes, volunteering might seem like a silly example... but it was a 'generic' enough example to try and get my point across... I guess what I was getting at was something like finding ways to act in service to our community - one or many people - perhaps a platonic version of showing love & care - my guess is that would build relationships, community & a sense of purpose while one is not partnered... I'm totally open to other suggestions; I think Ruben making these videos is an example (although being with other humans in person is another medicine). It's not common that one can immediately solve the challenge of finding a partner, so there will be periods of time being single).

    • @MsKb123
      @MsKb123 Před 7 měsíci

      ...and/but... I do think there have always been people who were single who wanted to be partnered...and they did indeed have to find ways to cope - 'successfully' or 'unsuccessfully.' Perhaps we could look into what has worked in the past.

  • @MsKb123
    @MsKb123 Před 7 měsíci

    Has our society been conditioned to be in codependent relationships though? Are we conditioned to (falsely) think we are less worthy when we are single, or if we aren’t in a long term relationship, or if we aren’t monogamous? …And can we find ways to be/feel purposeful other than just with one partner? For example, volunteering for a cause that is important to us.

    • @ADN64
      @ADN64 Před 7 měsíci

      The example you listed is a great pull to expunge the symptoms, but things like that aren’t the cure to the disease

    • @MsKb123
      @MsKb123 Před 7 měsíci

      I don’t understand what you mean. Can you be more specific?

    • @MsKb123
      @MsKb123 Před 7 měsíci

      @@ADN64 I think one 'cure to the disease' is to accept and love oneself no matter one's 'relationship status.' I am curious if people get upset that they are single because they think they are somehow 'owed' or 'entitled to' a partner. If they do happen to think that way, I think considering it from another perspective could help. Perhaps there are also stages of grief to acknowledge and go through; grief of not having the partnership one would like to have. Grief of losing a past partnership. Acceptance of where one is at in the present moment.

    • @ADN64
      @ADN64 Před 7 měsíci

      @@MsKb123 I can say personally for me I get upset for being single because so many people around me are in relationships, and some people even parade it in front of your face knowing your single. That’s probably a lot more prevalent than being entitled. Some people are just surrounded by people who are in relationships or are able to easily hook up with people and it causes a insecurity and a feeling of inability of getting a relationship

  • @mathiascorriveau
    @mathiascorriveau Před 7 měsíci

    this video is much better in many ways !

  • @mathiascorriveau
    @mathiascorriveau Před 7 měsíci

    bro you absolutely need to buy a new and better mic so that your audio quality is better, then try to be more interesting: funnier, more enthusiastic, whatever I don't know... I have never seen a CZcams channel with such numbers...1 view after 12hours... my channel just hit 500subs today, one video changed everything, I went from 150 subs to 500subs, did 5k views... I only made 10 videos... there's smth that you're doing that ain't right...

  • @GertuCapur
    @GertuCapur Před 7 měsíci

    Great words of wisdom brother. I think I found your video because I’ve been binge watching Connor Beaton’s content for past couple of weeks. And I’m glad I watched your video. Good luck in your CZcams journey. I’m subscribing.

  • @Aboutlifting
    @Aboutlifting Před 7 měsíci

    salute bro

  • @mathiascorriveau
    @mathiascorriveau Před 7 měsíci

    bro if I were you, before uploading this video, I would've edited it to synchronize your lips and your voice, it's off, plus shoot with a nicer cam and some lighting Idk...

  • @Daniel-qp6td
    @Daniel-qp6td Před 7 měsíci

    🌺 "Promosm"

  • @jayisprime
    @jayisprime Před 7 měsíci

    Great video. Keep pushing man. Stay consistent you’re gonna be big, I know it. Just subbed

  • @shaunvanhuyssteen7966
    @shaunvanhuyssteen7966 Před 7 měsíci

    Thanks for raising awareness on this, man. I agree this is an incredibly important issue that almost no one is focusing on

    • @rubenponders
      @rubenponders Před 7 měsíci

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts! I hope that more creators and people out there start to realize how much damage this is for humans. I think more people are waking up to this reality

  • @runninawayinajeep
    @runninawayinajeep Před 8 měsíci

    I'm glad u told the truth.. Oakland is so gone. I hope you guys find peace and happiness

  • @HG-eo6ut
    @HG-eo6ut Před 8 měsíci

    Amen

  • @RB-gt8bf
    @RB-gt8bf Před 9 měsíci

    Great content and very insightful.

  • @_pemex
    @_pemex Před 9 měsíci

    Communication is Hella key