I recently had my first, and he's had colic and reflux. From 1-3 months basically anytime he was awake and not feeding he would scream unless being held on my shoulder and walked around for hours, evenings were particularly brutal. He wouldn't let me sit down and snuggle him ever while awake, only if he fell asleep feeding. He's getting better now that he's 4 months but some days are still so hard I just cry. I wanted to do so much on my maternity leave and all I've managed to do is take care of him and myself and often not even keep the house clean. I ate cereal for meals more often than not for a while and now I've upgraded to sandwiches and that feels like a luxury to take the time to make a sandwich. I've been doing what you talked about where anytime he's awake not fussing I'm playing with him and entertaining him and trying to clean during naps but some days he naps so little it's a major challenge trying to do it all.
Always go with your gut feeling and do research about everything. Don’t just assume that they’ll grow out of certain things you have a gut feeling about. I knew my daughter was different from the start and at 2yo checkup she wasn’t anywhere near the words she should be saying at that age.(not the only thing going on with her) Doc told me she thought she’d be fine but i insisted to have her evaluated which resulted in a year of speech, nutritionist, and occupational therapy then a psychological evaluation which led to her diagnosis of mild autism. If i wouldn’t have gone with my gut i wouldn’t have been able to get her the help she needed. Sometimes as a parent you have to put your “pride” aside and do what’s best for the child’s future. 💕🙂
I also totalllyyy agree about doing chores during wake times for the baby and moms sake. This is a huge thing in the Montessori philosophy too, I think!
I think one thing that isn’t talked about enough is that it’s okay to mourn pre-baby life, especially in those first few months. I never ever thought I would feel that way, but I did, and I felt guilty for this. Everyone was like “oh babies are a blessing” and no one ever told me “it’s okay, you’ll get through this, and it’s just an adjustment”. Don’t get me wrong, I love my daughter more than anything, but the transition to motherhood is hard, and it’s definitely not all unicorns and rainbows 100% of the time!
I am a new mom 2 months postpartum, and this video made me cry with hope - thanks, Carly! Everything is truly a season - the bitter and the sweet, thank you for the reminder and encouragement!
It really will! It will get better. The first few months are so so hard. Your baby will grow and so will you. You are strong and you both will get through it!
Why did this make me tear up? You are a great mom Carly. Thank you for being inspiring and for sharing what a lot of people including me need to hear. I had a baby in June. I am grateful that my baby has been happy and go with the flow. We do have problems with dairy intolerance and I felt so bad switching to a hypoallergenic formula and stopping my breast-feeding journey. Looking back it was a blessing in disguise and I am so much happier now switching to formula. I feel free and like a better mom! I would tell other moms not to be so hard on themselves if the breast-feeding doesn’t work or if they just choose not to. My advice is to take your baby out every day. I had a blast all summer with her and she loved being outside and on the go. Doing fun activities and going places really helped me feel normal after birth and happy
Thanks for sharing - I’m going through the dairy free thing at the moment and this helped me feel better about my breastfeeding journey maybe being over.
Thank you for this video!!! My baby is one and I’ve had such a hard time adjusting. Love what you said. I thought the same way..I’m just going to bring this baby into my life. No clue that everything would be changing and I couldn’t do it all. Been very hard on myself. Thank you for your words!
I met your father on a plane in Texas. It was a blessing being able to speak with him and share God with him. He told me about your story and he is so proud of your perseverance. God bless you.
I relate to this so much carly! Ftm, my baby is 2 months. I had no idea all the things id be going through and did not expect. I tell myself there will be better easier days ahead thats what keeps me going.
Carly I want to point out that it is OK even if you don't have a nice pregnancy that you fancied about. I had this idea of keep working till the 8th month, instead I had a problem since the first week of my pregnancy that made me stay in bed, and then after 10 days nausea started. EXTREMELY hard nausea, so much that I couldn't even go to the toilet without throwing out. I saw all my pregnant friends still working like true heroes and me that I couldn't even do a shower because of my condition... I felt soooo miserable. If anyone had or has the same experience, I feel you!!! We are just worth like any other mum. Sara
One thing ive learn as a mom of 2 and another on the way being 30 years old is TO BE OPEN MINDED WITH EVERYTHING. Just like life, things change, everyone is different. All these are what i went through and i agree with these! Moms please take care of yourself too because you are the one caring for your child the most, but your body and mind needs to be healthy too.
Yes! Thank you for speaking your story and what you experienced. I have a 1.5 yr old and she was definitely colicky. It was soul crushing then and felt like it would never end. But it did and now we are onto better times and toddler challenges. But what you said about being in a season, it is so so true. This too shall pass!
I wish I was told how hard and time intensive breastfeeding can be even if you're not struggling with supply issues. I felt so overstimulated and touched out in the early days.
Hi Carly, I've been enjoying your content for years now (as far back as pre-kids for both of us). Your mom-life content is my absolute favorite because you've always painted such a realistic picture of this season of life and all the ups and downs. I have a 5 year old boy and I'm in my first trimester of pregnancy at this time. My son also had severe colic, and his lasted up until 2 years old! I too had a very challenging L&D experience, not exactly how I saw things going in my head. I appreciate you sharing this season of life with us, and more importantly keeping it real. The advice you share is very true (from my experience), and its relevant to new moms and seasoned moms alike. Embracing that its okay that we all have different experiences, and how we love and care for our children varies, and that's okay, there's no right or wrong way, so I appreciate that message you got out there. Thank you for taking the time to create and share on You Tube. I've found that there have been stages of life where You Tubers have become my circle of people where I gain knowledge and support during some of the most challenging of times. Please know you are one of those in my circle of mom support, and I'm so grateful
These tips are so spot on!! 👏🏻 thank you for sharing!! It’s just crazy how much your brain, body and entire world change during pregnancy and postpartum! My top advise is to give yourself grace, you’re doing so much better than you give yourself credit for!
Thank you for this! Just had to go Jean shopping and I am up a size, maybe two . I am 4 months pp and even though I know my body has changed. It felt super triggering to see the sizes! Thank you for normalizing this.
I am a sixty two year old grandmother. I have two daughters. I had nothing but problems with my first pregnancy. I had to hospitalized a few months before my daughter was born because I had preeclampsia. It was called toxemia back then. I was also induced early with her because my blood pressure was high. I had a crappy ob/gun doctor. I was so happy once she was born. But she had her Day’s and nights mixed up. I would be going to be when my husband was getting up for work. Now my second daughter came about twenty minutes after we got to the hospital. No problems whatsoever. She started sleeping through the night at six weeks. I had two kids by the time I was twenty two. I had my tubes tied, and burnt when I was twenty three. I wasn’t taking any chances of getting pregnant again. And I didn’t like taking birth control. It wasn’t easy with two small kids. So I understand what you mean. But now my oldest daughter has seven kids. She’s crazy. I was the youngest of seven. I guess she was trying to take after her grandma. I was just at her house a few days ago. It’s kind of crazy there. It makes me happy to come home to my dogs.
Colic and reflux baby over here! She is 5 months old and has only gotten better in the last month-ish. I relate so hard. I feel like the best thing a new mom can do is stay off the internet. It just absolutely destroyed me in the 4th trimester and now I’ve learned that it’s not healthy or productive.
Was there anything you wish you knew before becoming a parent? Share your advice to new parents / soon to be parents below!
I recently had my first, and he's had colic and reflux. From 1-3 months basically anytime he was awake and not feeding he would scream unless being held on my shoulder and walked around for hours, evenings were particularly brutal. He wouldn't let me sit down and snuggle him ever while awake, only if he fell asleep feeding. He's getting better now that he's 4 months but some days are still so hard I just cry. I wanted to do so much on my maternity leave and all I've managed to do is take care of him and myself and often not even keep the house clean. I ate cereal for meals more often than not for a while and now I've upgraded to sandwiches and that feels like a luxury to take the time to make a sandwich. I've been doing what you talked about where anytime he's awake not fussing I'm playing with him and entertaining him and trying to clean during naps but some days he naps so little it's a major challenge trying to do it all.
Always go with your gut feeling and do research about everything. Don’t just assume that they’ll grow out of certain things you have a gut feeling about. I knew my daughter was different from the start and at 2yo checkup she wasn’t anywhere near the words she should be saying at that age.(not the only thing going on with her) Doc told me she thought she’d be fine but i insisted to have her evaluated which resulted in a year of speech, nutritionist, and occupational therapy then a psychological evaluation which led to her diagnosis of mild autism. If i wouldn’t have gone with my gut i wouldn’t have been able to get her the help she needed. Sometimes as a parent you have to put your “pride” aside and do what’s best for the child’s future. 💕🙂
I also totalllyyy agree about doing chores during wake times for the baby and moms sake. This is a huge thing in the Montessori philosophy too, I think!
I think one thing that isn’t talked about enough is that it’s okay to mourn pre-baby life, especially in those first few months. I never ever thought I would feel that way, but I did, and I felt guilty for this. Everyone was like “oh babies are a blessing” and no one ever told me “it’s okay, you’ll get through this, and it’s just an adjustment”. Don’t get me wrong, I love my daughter more than anything, but the transition to motherhood is hard, and it’s definitely not all unicorns and rainbows 100% of the time!
I am a new mom 2 months postpartum, and this video made me cry with hope - thanks, Carly! Everything is truly a season - the bitter and the sweet, thank you for the reminder and encouragement!
It really will! It will get better. The first few months are so so hard. Your baby will grow and so will you. You are strong and you both will get through it!
not a mother, nor do I plan on having kids, but I loved hearing your perspective! In general I love these types of videos, you have such a wise mind 💛
Why did this make me tear up? You are a great mom Carly. Thank you for being inspiring and for sharing what a lot of people including me need to hear. I had a baby in June. I am grateful that my baby has been happy and go with the flow. We do have problems with dairy intolerance and I felt so bad switching to a hypoallergenic formula and stopping my breast-feeding journey. Looking back it was a blessing in disguise and I am so much happier now switching to formula. I feel free and like a better mom! I would tell other moms not to be so hard on themselves if the breast-feeding doesn’t work or if they just choose not to. My advice is to take your baby out every day. I had a blast all summer with her and she loved being outside and on the go. Doing fun activities and going places really helped me feel normal after birth and happy
Thanks for sharing - I’m going through the dairy free thing at the moment and this helped me feel better about my breastfeeding journey maybe being over.
Thank you for this video!!! My baby is one and I’ve had such a hard time adjusting. Love what you said. I thought the same way..I’m just going to bring this baby into my life. No clue that everything would be changing and I couldn’t do it all. Been very hard on myself. Thank you for your words!
You’re doing a great job!! It’s a hard adjustment- helpful to know that we’re all experiencing it too!
I met your father on a plane in Texas. It was a blessing being able to speak with him and share God with him. He told me about your story and he is so proud of your perseverance. God bless you.
I relate to this so much carly! Ftm, my baby is 2 months. I had no idea all the things id be going through and did not expect. I tell myself there will be better easier days ahead thats what keeps me going.
Carly I want to point out that it is OK even if you don't have a nice pregnancy that you fancied about. I had this idea of keep working till the 8th month, instead I had a problem since the first week of my pregnancy that made me stay in bed, and then after 10 days nausea started. EXTREMELY hard nausea, so much that I couldn't even go to the toilet without throwing out. I saw all my pregnant friends still working like true heroes and me that I couldn't even do a shower because of my condition... I felt soooo miserable.
If anyone had or has the same experience, I feel you!!! We are just worth like any other mum.
Sara
I don’t have children yet, but you’ve made great points that have helped me as a caregiver. Thank you.
One thing ive learn as a mom of 2 and another on the way being 30 years old is TO BE OPEN MINDED WITH EVERYTHING. Just like life, things change, everyone is different.
All these are what i went through and i agree with these!
Moms please take care of yourself too because you are the one caring for your child the most, but your body and mind needs to be healthy too.
Yes! Thank you for speaking your story and what you experienced. I have a 1.5 yr old and she was definitely colicky. It was soul crushing then and felt like it would never end. But it did and now we are onto better times and toddler challenges. But what you said about being in a season, it is so so true. This too shall pass!
colic is so so hard. So happy you are through it and on to better times!
I wish I was told how hard and time intensive breastfeeding can be even if you're not struggling with supply issues. I felt so overstimulated and touched out in the early days.
Hi Carly, I've been enjoying your content for years now (as far back as pre-kids for both of us). Your mom-life content is my absolute favorite because you've always painted such a realistic picture of this season of life and all the ups and downs. I have a 5 year old boy and I'm in my first trimester of pregnancy at this time. My son also had severe colic, and his lasted up until 2 years old! I too had a very challenging L&D experience, not exactly how I saw things going in my head. I appreciate you sharing this season of life with us, and more importantly keeping it real. The advice you share is very true (from my experience), and its relevant to new moms and seasoned moms alike. Embracing that its okay that we all have different experiences, and how we love and care for our children varies, and that's okay, there's no right or wrong way, so I appreciate that message you got out there. Thank you for taking the time to create and share on You Tube. I've found that there have been stages of life where You Tubers have become my circle of people where I gain knowledge and support during some of the most challenging of times. Please know you are one of those in my circle of mom support, and I'm so grateful
I’m so happy you’re still sharing your truth on your channel! You shared so many truths on this video, thank you!!
Your advice is the most genuine and REAL. Thank you!
Thank you for this! Loved this video (and all your other ones of course).
thank you for your support!
This is an incredibly helpful video, thank you for taking the time to go through it all in such a caring and nonjudgmental way!
I’m due with my first in March and needed to hear this! Thanks for sharing!
These tips are so spot on!! 👏🏻 thank you for sharing!!
It’s just crazy how much your brain, body and entire world change during pregnancy and postpartum! My top advise is to give yourself grace, you’re doing so much better than you give yourself credit for!
Thank you for this! Just had to go Jean shopping and I am up a size, maybe two . I am 4 months pp and even though I know my body has changed. It felt super triggering to see the sizes! Thank you for normalizing this.
Sorry to be so off topic, but I would love a skincare routine from you! ✨
I keep telling myself, my baby girl will sleep through the night, eventually 😅 Thank you for sharing this Carly ❤️
Thanks Carly. Where was advice like this 30+ years ago? ❤️
Yes! Love all these tips.
So spot on!
I agree with all your tips!
I am a sixty two year old grandmother. I have two daughters. I had nothing but problems with my first pregnancy. I had to hospitalized a few months before my daughter was born because I had preeclampsia. It was called toxemia back then. I was also induced early with her because my blood pressure was high. I had a crappy ob/gun doctor. I was so happy once she was born. But she had her Day’s and nights mixed up. I would be going to be when my husband was getting up for work. Now my second daughter came about twenty minutes after we got to the hospital. No problems whatsoever. She started sleeping through the night at six weeks. I had two kids by the time I was twenty two. I had my tubes tied, and burnt when I was twenty three. I wasn’t taking any chances of getting pregnant again. And I didn’t like taking birth control. It wasn’t easy with two small kids. So I understand what you mean. But now my oldest daughter has seven kids. She’s crazy. I was the youngest of seven. I guess she was trying to take after her grandma. I was just at her house a few days ago. It’s kind of crazy there. It makes me happy to come home to my dogs.
Colic and reflux baby over here! She is 5 months old and has only gotten better in the last month-ish. I relate so hard.
I feel like the best thing a new mom can do is stay off the internet. It just absolutely destroyed me in the 4th trimester and now I’ve learned that it’s not healthy or productive.
Hi! What did you do about your child’s eczema? My baby has horrible eczema too?
it's also important for kids to learn to be bored and play by themselves!
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Hi can I please ask where u got your duvet cover? Thank you!
my duvet is from boll + branch! love it
I'm literally a 16-year-old kid but I'm watching this like I'm 34 and preparing to have my 3rd child
I feel bad for moms named Karen
This whole Karen business lol I feel
So bad for anyone actually named Karen