Things I Hate About Adoption

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  • čas přidán 30. 07. 2024
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    Maybe Days: A Book for Children in Foster Care
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Komentáře • 22

  • @Flylittlebirds
    @Flylittlebirds Před 3 lety +6

    I so agree with you. There’s ALWAYs trauma..but people just don’t understand x

    • @katrinaa7581
      @katrinaa7581 Před 3 lety

      I’m in a situation where the adoptive mother doesn’t understand trauma and she has decided to erase me.
      It’s heartbreaking but I’m strong and don’t let her ignorance get to me.

    • @winterhendrickson2242
      @winterhendrickson2242  Před 3 lety

      It’s true! It’s so hard to understand!

  • @katrinaa7581
    @katrinaa7581 Před 3 lety +3

    My number one reason why I hate adoption:
    I’m a birth mother who was promised an opened adoption. The adoptive parents told me everything I wanted to hear before I signed the papers however, the adoptive parents and I had some issues, I suggested going to an adoption specialist but they did not want to work anything out, so they decided to block me.
    The trauma my son has experienced has been largely ignored, I have been educated on the trauma. The adoptive parents have decided they are better than me and I should be erased.
    Recently, I reached out and my son blocked me. As heartbreaking as it is, I’ve grown stronger and learned to love and appreciate myself.

    • @brisingarinstaridavis7084
      @brisingarinstaridavis7084 Před 3 lety

      I hate my birth mother
      I feel she abandoned me
      She has 6 kids
      3 girls & 3 boys
      I'm the 1st Daughter & I'm the 2nd child to my birthmum

    • @brisingarinstaridavis7084
      @brisingarinstaridavis7084 Před 3 lety

      I feel she is selfish & Cruel
      SHE STOLE MY IDENITY
      SHE STOLE MY SIBLINGS
      SHE RUINED MY LIFE
      SHE MADE ME CRY FOR 25YRS FOR NOT BEING IN MY LIFE
      PART OF ME WANTS A RELATIONSHIP WITH HER
      BUT I HATE HER & DONT WANT TO FORGIVE HER
      I WANT HER TO SUFFER MY PAIN, I WANT HER TO CRY LIKE I CRIED, I WANT HER TO APOLOGIZE FOR THROWING ME AWAY
      SHE SAYS SOCIAL SERVICES TOOK ME AWAY BUT I DONT BELIEVE HER
      I LOVE HER BUT I WANT HER TO FEEL HOW I FELT ALL THOSE YEARS WHAT DO I DO???
      PLEASE HELP

  • @shainaandresen5681
    @shainaandresen5681 Před 3 lety +3

    Such good info! Thank you for sharing :)

  • @janvan4424
    @janvan4424 Před 3 lety +2

    Thanks for sharing. God bless you and your sweet family 💕

  • @winterhendrickson2242
    @winterhendrickson2242  Před 3 lety +4

    I would love to hear your stories! What frustrates you about adoption?

  • @whelanmmw
    @whelanmmw Před 2 lety

    Great info.

  • @joannjohnson2780
    @joannjohnson2780 Před 3 lety +3

    Hi Winter! Hope you and your family are having a wonderful Christmas. Just had a quick question about adoption/foster care. In the state of SD how many kids are allowed in a room? What's the rule of a little boy and girl sharing a room? When adopting two separate kids can they share a room or can only biological siblings share a room?
    Thank you so much for sharing!

    • @winterhendrickson2242
      @winterhendrickson2242  Před 3 lety +1

      Great question! Off the top of my head these are the rules:
      No kids can sleep in foster parents bed.
      Boys and girls must have separate rooms after they are 5 years old. (Biological relationship doesn’t matter)
      Every child needs their own bed and no one is allowed on that bed. Not even the foster parents.
      For respite you can offer a couch or cot.
      Pack and plays are okay for toddlers.
      I hope that helps!

  • @undercatcards3080
    @undercatcards3080 Před 3 lety +1

    Hello-anybody have any advice on creating an autobiography for becoming a foster parent?

  • @mahabodhi_temple
    @mahabodhi_temple Před 3 lety +2

    ❤️ New subscriber..🙏
    Cute video my friends 🤠 and have a great weekend to you all
    See you again . Thanks dear 🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️

  • @onlylove-fn3zg
    @onlylove-fn3zg Před 2 lety

    just cant take it anymore . always being neglected for being myself .with adopted family that only see their perspective and doctrine .i must adopt their surname language and even fuckd up relegion that contradict it self .ill never be them i will never ever change myself to fit into their norms even if i don't know my own damn self. i don't expect you to answer my comment , im just telling you how fuckd it truely is for some of us.

    • @winterhendrickson2242
      @winterhendrickson2242  Před 2 lety

      I know it’s so hard. There’s definitely is definitely a dark side to adoption. Thanks for sharing your heart about it.

  • @JasonLE89
    @JasonLE89 Před 3 lety

    How much did you pay per kid? #adoptionsucks

    • @winterhendrickson2242
      @winterhendrickson2242  Před 3 lety +1

      I made a video about how much foster parents get ‘paid’ if you want to check it out! Normally you get $500 a month reimbursement from the state while the kids are in care. All the financial responsibilities go to the foster parent except for the medical insurance. I hope that answers your question.

  • @onlylove-fn3zg
    @onlylove-fn3zg Před 2 lety

    i fucking hate it. its the worse fucking feeling. wish my biological mother never ope.....