This is What A Targeted Parent of a Sociopath Looks Like
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- In today's video Jill speaks about her personal struggles with being a Targeted Parent of a Sociopath Ex and Grandparent. If you are a targeted parent or living through the nightmare of parental alienation, you likely will be able to relate to this video
Jill Wise, otherwise known as The Enlightened Target, is a life long survivor of narcissistic abuse. She was raised by a malignant narcissist and married to a malignant narcissist, she has endured years of parental alienation, has repeatedly been targeted by narcissists throughout her life. She has an intimate understanding of all aspects of narcissistic abuse and Cptsd. She uses her experience and what she has learned to help educate others and bring awareness to narcissistic abuse. She is also a Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach and works with clients all over the world heal from the trauma of narcissistic abuse, parental alienation and Complex Ptsd.
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Hi I just watched this. I am a psychotherapist, of 40 yrs experience in my field. I concur with your truth. I my self is the product of alienation, I am the targeted parent. I am also an empath . I found the video, extremely emotional and at the same time hopeful. My prayers go out to your friend, and your son. The strength and courage it took to make this video, is empowering. I do not usually comment on you tube!!!
Thank you for sharing it. I am a targeted mother. The worst thing is being called “crazy” or “you need therapy bc you can’t control your emotions” by ignorant PCDMs!
Having been a child in a comparable situation (my mother was the alienator, my father was the target), The courts handed me to my abuser, too. Escaping the false reality maintained by the family nexus was not easy - especially when so much of it seems to be reinforced, culturally. Some people never manage to escape. I cannot even begin to describe how destructive it was.
Today, I have no family contact whatsoever. It only stopped when both parents were dead and I cut off all contact with those who scapegoated me. I had to move to a different city to avoid their gaslighting, infantilization, manipulations, sabotage, and reputation demolition! Learning about the cluster B disorders has enabled me to spot when people lack conscience, as well as to understand my wounds. If only I had learned about them from a caring adult when I was little, my life would have gone very differently - which is why I am grateful that your videos are freely available!
I have gotten a tremendous amount of healing and self-knowledge from watching your videos. They contain genuine value and I have even watched several of them more than once, in fact! To learn that you have been ensnared in a family nexus similar to mine gives your work more credibility in my eyes. So thank you. Despite your situation, you are making a positive difference in the world.
And that matters. A lot. There are thousands like us.
Gosh 🙏
Beautifully said! Blessings 💛
Silent violence...... huge gaps in law systems
Not thousands. Millions. ✊
"Reputation demolition" I feel you there! All very well said.
Yes they are sick beyond belief. You just perfectly described my life. What astounds me is that everyone can see how unrecognizable the targeted parent has become yet doesn't care one bit
Not only do they not care they enable the abuse
Gosh, it’s like you have already been through what my fiancé and I are going through with her sons dad. The narc would rather win, and destroy their child in the process, rather than admit they are in the wrong.
You nailed it. Thats exactly how my parent was. And its taken many many years for me to discover it was narcissism. Now parent hates me because I give no space for nonsense to be brought into my life, and I'm good without any contact. You are awesome dealing with these families. Keep up the good work. God Bless.
You look so very sad, Jill. I'm so sorry.💔 You are helping that mother by being a good friend. Praying for comfort 🙏
I’m so sorry. You are a beautiful sweetheart who comforts and helps 1000’s of empathic people every day! People who have been targeted by these fiends. You validate us, you educate us, and you help us to escape and stay away! You stand up to the BULLY’S!! We feel your pain! Let us carry some of that for you by letting you know that we love you and so appreciate your contribution to society!! You can’t take away that Moms pain, but your friendship means everything! Please know that anyone with a heart and the truth would be honored to have a friend like you! God Bless you! I pray your son returns to you 🙏
Ty amen
I feel your pain. My 41 year old son is still struggling from splitting. And I’m still dealing with the consequences of my former husband’s abuse. Sometimes this only has healing after we pass through the veil and Our Savior makes all things right. I admire you for doing all you can at this time. It’s the most painful situation to live through.
I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this. I’m an empath myself and have been victim to narcissists myself over the years. It’s so frustrating that people don’t realise the damage or the truth of your situation but I believe this will be more recognised as our society becomes more awakened. I pray for you and your situation, please take care sending much love from Scotland xx
All my life I refuse to let them dictate my life
Rarely comment, but always listening. Praying for your friend, all those in the family, and for you and yours. Thank you for your openness. You are a survivor, and you are building a survivor's army here. Praying that all of these individuals will be exposed for who and what they truly are. I identify with your history, though thankfully I did not marry or have kids with my abuser. The generational aspect of this is truly horrifying.
I'm so sorry. I feel your heart and the pain of helplessness is so overwhelming.
I pray in Jesua Name and lift your friend, her family, you and your family up in prayer.
I hope you are washed over with peace xx 💞
I'm sorry for your pain. I'm living this situation now. My 16 year old son has been almost completely turned against me by my narc husband and his family. The narc hasn't been able to turn my 13 year old son against me. We are still married and all living in the same home. I can't bring myself to leave because then I would have no chance to change this. My husband has all the resources. I've been a stay at home mom since my son was born. My husband (and his family) have threatened to take my sons away from me. Every day is hell. Every single one. No one deserves this, especially a child. Children are innocent. Narcissists and their ilk are bottom feeding, soulless predators.
I am trying to escape. I'm going to school to be a paralegal. I still have 9 classes to go. I've managed to keep a 4.0 GPA even though my husband does everything possible to make it hard to study or write papers. That's my road to freedom. It's the only thing that keeps me from ending my own life. I think that's been the narcissist's (and his family's) goal all along. I think they're trying to drive me to suicide, but they don't have a clue how much of a fighter I am. To see my son's smile again and the twinkle in his eyes when he laughs, that's my goal. I want him to know I never gave up on him.
My God woman. Place a solid "STONEWALL" between you and your son's father. Get an order of protection. From the courts your woman they'll give it if you say a single word. Get it protective son keep him away from the man.
Hope you are healing now ❤️.. stay strong
@@dr.jackdempsey8712 They won't. You can get an order of protection for yourself but even if you have full custody they won't put that court order towards the child. It's messed up.
God bless you, Jill. I’m so very sorry for the pain you’re feeling. So heartbreaking.
My condolences to the loss of your loved one who helped you. My story is horrific as well. It's beyond all comprehension..
Sending you blessings 🙏
It’s too late for me to contact my father....he died believing we all hated him😢....And my mom kept up with her crazy making.. she absolutely believes the lies she’s created. 🤦♀️
I knew a Naomi Becker in HS and Lincoln Becker. I am sorry for you dad passing. Maybe he was more awake about it than you believe.
@@michaelbarber5651 Thank you I think you’re right… my father did say some things that I couldn’t quite understand at the time, but now it makes sense.. by the way in high school.. I went by a different name.
Wow!
IMPASSIONED woman!!! - you are, Jill!
I love how you addressed the abusers, the abused, the alienated parents, and the mothers who loved and supported your son.
Your tears need no apologies. They’re your honest expression of pain. BLESS you for your openness and your vulnerability!
You touched my heart. I hope others took in your message FULLY.
Thank you for your frank video.
❤️
I am just heartbroken for your pain as a mother and your beautiful son. I just left court with the narcissit ex. My children have been nearly DESTROYED by their own father. Just so very wrong. I'm so so sorry. So very sorry.
We understand your grief as we were allienated too. We felt that pain from the other side, being the abused kids.
We are sending you our compassionate prayers and bunches of hugs.
You are crying our tears and suffering our pain.
We love you dearly, truly a lot.
Jill, I love you and thank you for everything. ♥️♥️♥️
Your courage is an inspiration. I went through a nearly identical situation to yours and your videos comfort me though my children are now in their 40s and are both going through a time when we are not close. God bless you and keep you and your beautiful friends as you experience this terrible loss.
My ex wife is a malignant narcissist and the Golden Child. I know your pain.
From the bottom of my heart. That was the most eloquently beautiful Observation assessment and emotional qualification I have ever witnessed on any CZcams video concerning what sociopaths do.
I married a covert malignant narcissistic sociopath with histrionic disorder and a pension for homicide.
I escaped with my life but my children’s lives were like watching somebody murder a human while it’s alive.Completely destroying three beautiful innocent lives into horrible criminal children under the age of teenagers committing felonies for a mother saying they had to help their mother that’s why I said those things about you. Then crying I’m sorry I have to help mommy hurt you I need to help mommy hurt you.
Gosh 🙏
An honor,
To be acknowledged by the author. Thank you.
Praises to your courage, intellectual prowess, consistent thought building to an indisputable conclusion.
A conclusion, that resolves with the identification of, if I may, The national need for a full discovery, identification, labeling, and cloistering -under locked institutions these abhorrent aberrations of the human condition.
Being a more developed society since the mid-20th-century, mass extermination is not a feasible option. But I strongly and deeply believe that this critical disorder is the genesis of religion in that evil spirits and devils and goals all came to be in existence from the aberrant behavior of these seemingly ordinary people that when left alone and out of sight of others inflict inhumane horrifying damage to their victims they prayed upon.
For instance just one of these covert malignant sociopaths with histrionic disorders and homicidal tendencies. Can cause damage of maybe two dozen peoples entire lives. That’s enough to qualify for prison or sequestration form society for the rest of their natural lives. In an undisclosed maximum security lock down unit.
Institutionalizing them in the middle of a desert with limited contact to Ordinary humans. Only sociopaths or psychopathy. Complete and total removal of any trace of their existence. Curious to see how long will it take until they started eating each other. They are so far away from being humans. Having 17 years experience helping people schizophrenics. They have taught me to love the human race even more than I do now as a healer. As opposed to.
The most punitive measures that can be instilled upon a human being while still being alive is what belongs to the Socio path.
If I may your resolution for the identification of this Understudied human deformity praying on our humanity. Resulting in the destruction of our Immediate society and community.
I am sorry they were born with this affliction, but there is no place for them in our world, none, none at all anywhere. They manipulate police coworkers judges family members children neighbors society Joseph Stalin killed 100 million people of his own country was then labeled a sociopath. There needs to be a national awareness of this illness. Just think of it they are humans that prey on humans because they don’t feel emotion so they inflict severe damage to other living creatures it doesn’t have to be humans either animals too. Sociopaths created the term of demons in the human race over the millennia. They pray is other human. That’s why they’re classified as predators.
We must come to a national and global understanding of this antihuman human disorder in our society for the this affliction is far to labeled on a Human Abnormality Identified in the DSM-5 as merely in the the cluster B personality disorder Spectrum. ( i’m gonna look up homicidal pathological murderer and see what cluster it falls under.)
Concerning your burden, as it would appear as in mine. The predators we were deceived to procreate with clearly fall under the extreme end of the spectrum.
Causing extreme suffering and loss throughout your and all your children’s lives. And I pray for you. And deeply pray for your neighbors loss in the love they showed you so beautifully. Please post continuously even if you just have anything to say at all. Just know when you have another person has gone through bars of the horrors of this disorder gives hope to others. You can see by all the return text.
It’s your genuine all the tea your genuineness the innocence and beauty of your raw discussing
I am in awe, as you keep your composure, so perfectly, while you have to describe the abhorrent unnatural inhuman torturous acts inflicted upon your life and your dearest friends life loss.
Your tears carried my heart back to life. So deeply so;
As compared to a love letter. And Reminding me that God still loves us. The way you didn’t know discretion that would bring upon such torture to our children. I disregard myself. It’s the pain of my children that causes suffering in my person.
An outstanding Display of human emotion while keeping your composure truly I am humbled by your description. (your tears what is the most beautiful heartfelt expression of life)
Extending all of my heartfelt thanks to you.
Truly you are a person of great measure percentage.
Thank you for your post.
Any group you may form I will gladly join. And participate whatever I can. This disorder must be made public. In a truthful,defined, manner. Educating the public because they don’t even know they’ve been deeply hurt by covert narcissism. Their collateral damage. In this abnormality of the human condition needs to be contained at all cost. The removal of their civil liberties as citizens. Is the kindest Actually I can possibly think of. I won’t go where I really would with this abhorrent sickness that continuously goes completely on identified in humanity and western society.
Telephone (212) 535-2164.
I will walk through the valley of the shadow of death For I fear no evil. I will have a hand out for a victim and his staff for a perpetrator. He’s got allows and within the limits of the law. This I swear before God.
Sincerely,
Dr. John Dempsey PT.
Can onot say thank you. can only say suffering, true suffering.
That message starting at 17 mins. Thank you so much for that. My parents deserve that message so bad. And hearing it here is so empowering. My parents didn't get divorced because this was a power dynamic they both wanted. Instead they just had private conversations with me at least weekly trying to villainize the other and share fights and injustices. Of course this fueled both of their martyrdoms. I never felt safe. Especially not in my room or alone.
My heart and soul is with you my dear friend. I am so truly sorry you have been forced to endure this. I am in the middle of the exact thing right now. Court on Friday. It's YOU and your words that have inspired and encouraged me to continue. What YOU are doing for others like myself will have me saying thank you for the eternities.
I feel your pain. I’ve been to court 26 times in 3 years, after the divorce was finalized, 10 times in the last year. They are Demons and cowards.
You give me strength Jill.
Cadence Baldwin ... This is happening to you. My hope is that you hear this. Jill..Im sorry for you pain. I am much like you with almost the same story of life. Help me ! It's been 4 yrs since I've spoken to her. I'm a wreck ! Please and God bless you ! Thank you for being so brave and sharing your experiences and knowledge. Don't ever give up, your much needed !
I’m so sorry this happened to you and your son. After hearing your story I realized that my son had probably been subjected to the same thing. It helps me understand him better. Thank you.🌸
Grief is hell and I don't understand why bad things happen to good people. I wish I could give you a hug. I know that words can't wash away the grief it's just something you feel wave after wave. God bless you Jill.
I cried for the family of the boy that passed. I cried for you too. I'm so sorry all of that happened ❤
And as an empath myself I completely feel and understand everything you're saying and agree, and I just want to add to what you were talking about at the end of your podcast I personally feel these sick individuals that don't run into their karma in life will their karma in life definitely will and death for eternity.
No I thought extremely deeply about that subject. These people with this disorder psychopathy. They live in till they’re old age and they usually die of dementia I looked it up.
Matthew 16 through 18 “I will give unto the the keys of the kingdom of heaven end of hell“
The sentence for their crimes is purgatory. For eternity. Neither burning in hell nor ever having the ecstasy of meeting the eyes of Jesus and heaven. They will languish for eternity in the Netherlands of our world.
You see sociopaths need constant stimulation. Because they can’t stand being alone with their own thoughts they need constant stimulus and attention in purgatory they will have nothing they will suffer worse than hell could ever give them all that stimulus and not seeing Jesus‘s eyes is more painful than any torture test done to our children or us. By the sociopath Accidentally chained to our lives.
Never ever blame yourself. These are not humans they are chameleons mirroring human emotions they don’t have in their physical brains the ability to make emotional connections with other humans so they can deceive at the highest of levels. So if you were married to one or had one forced in your life it’s not your fault. Take heed that you need to protect yourself and stay away from them stonewall them.
Praying for you. JD
@@dr.jackdempsey8712 Purgatory is not scriptural. They will burn in hell for all eternity. "Where their worm dieth not and the fire is not quenched." Mark 9:44
They get away with their evil in this life in exchange for their souls in the next. We who belong to God suffer in this life just as Christ suffered while here and we will be rewarded in the next with eternal joy and peace.
"But the cowardly, unbelieving, abominable, murderers, sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars shall have their part in the lake which burns with fire and brimstone, which is the second death.” Revelation 21:8
"Let God be true and every man a liar." Romans 3:4
@@reesedaniel5835 i’ve been told. That there’s a box that resides underneath hell for the most evil of all people. May we show strength and scurry them towards their path in hell.
I'm sorry for what you are going through. I have dealt with a sociopath father my entire life and seeing the truth about who he is and not accepting his lies has cost me a lot-relationship with all of my family and almost losing my life. These people are dangerous. They harbor revenge and spite. They don't want anything good for you and don't believe you have a right to have a good life. I would like to sign the petition to get these people in jail as soon as possible.
I've been suffering the same torment for the last ten years.
The way you described the abusers is exactly how I feel about my ex and her family.
They are sick to their core.
The family courts in England are no better. I lost my case for parental responsibility on the basis of probability. In other words, if they throw enough mud, some of it will stick.
It's about time the courts, social services and all the other so-called experts had a complete overhaul.
When I mentioned "Narcissism'
I was met with blank faces.
These are supposed to be educated people, but to them it's just another day at the office.
I don't know how they sleep at night.
17 years already swimming against current trying to fix problems I haven’t created with my kids, I finally gave up and banned them from my life. 2 strokes with only 18% effraction left, I felt that this will kill me if I don’t cut off. Your video has opened up the wound and given me a thirst for justice IV never had before. Realizing that I’m broken beyond repair at this point I don’t even think I can save my soul…
So sorry for your situation. I can identify with all of your emotions having come from a Narcissistic family. I was the family scapegoat of 6 siblings big time until my 50’s & I finally timed my escape to go no contact with them after my N mother died & my Golden child sibling took over the abuse my mother normally dished out. Some months later my husband also passed away from 5 years of terminal cancer & she played the hero in front of others-while being covertly abusive when no one was around. My stress level & cognitive dissonance was off the charts!. I sold my home, moved & never spoke to most of them ever again. My own adult daughter is suffering from their abuse greatly also & has become very abusive toward me as well. It seems almost unfixable she’s been so brainwashed by them like your son. It’s just an awful situation & wish I got out sooner.
I’m keeping you in my thoughts & prayers for a normal & peaceful reconciliation with your son.
Blessings to you Jill, and your precious son 🙏
Please don't you ever apologize for your pure heart and vulnerability! You're not an empath anymore, dearest Jill! You used to be before building your strong healthy boundaries and becoming the enchanting mixture of gentlessness, kindness, empathy, courage, wisdom, and the list goes on! You're simply an empathetic warrior, and nothing in the world is more beautiful! 💙 I want you to know my heart goes to you and your cherished friend... I'm sending to both of you tons of love and bear hugs...🥺🥺🥺 You overwhelmed me and moved me to my core today... many blessings, dear Jill 💎
Thank you for your videos I really like listening to your channel a lot thank you and God bless I can only imagine the pain you went through not being able to be with your kid
My heart is completely broken for you right now, I'm in tears. Thank you Jill for having the strength and courage to tell your story-you have no idea how many people you are helping with this knowledge, but I'm sure it's tremendous. My narcissistic mother put me against my father who was the targeted parent at that time. I had to sit up at the front of the court while my mother and her lawyer bullied me to tell my story against my father and then had to go live with my mother. My father has been dead 10 years and listening to you Jill-that he probably loved me, gives me some closure. I still have my 77 year old mother but keep a far distance from her and use "grey rock" whenever possible. Thank you Jill for this video. Prayers sent your way.❤🙏
This Hurts my Heart so much! The Reactive Abuse and Trauma...his Sabotage and Gaslighting...it feels beyond Repair now. He Alienated me First for Sure...now lve Alienated myself lm so full of Anger!
And l do feel like a Hero. Victim and Martyr...and l am and have been!
Your video was so moving I felt the emotion deep in my heart. I too am an allienated mother of two daughters. My sister told them that I abandoned them after my divorce. I wanted them to live with me but as they were young adults they decided to move in with other family. I fell t so abandoned myself. My sister is a culprit as years later she told me that she and her husband felt like my daughters were their daughters. My daughters never lived with them. That really hurt me. She is a narc and says things to destroy my relationship with my daughters. Their father is another narcissist as he tries to play the victim to my sister. It’s a mess. My daughters don’t speak to me anymore. It’s truly heartbreaking 😢
I almost started crying because I could hear your sadness in your voice when you spoke on witnessing your child in pain and going through this. I know what you have been through
OMG exactly it's so awful that no one believes it you were blessed to have such a judge.
I am so sorry. I am sorry your friend is going through this.
I'm in this exact situation as of right now. A 14 year old daughter and 9 year old son that have been basically forced to hate me. Breaks my heart to the core.
My deepest condolences for your loss. Thank you for your transparency and sharing your story with us. So much can be learned from your experience and wisdom and I'm very grateful. Blessings to you and your son 💛
You never need to apologize for tears, Jill. The bravest warrior fights so that other good people don't have to. Would you rather see someone you love have a broken leg, or a broken heart? I know your feeling like you can't help your friend right now, and as it is so personal, it is very ' local.' I hope you can take solace in realizing that your teachings are having a powerful and meaningful impact on a ' global ' scale. Hugs, love, and bless your heart Jill.
You are such a beautiful soul. I feel your anguish. Thank GOD for us empaths, even when it is so very hard. My daughter who is very much like my covert narc mother has been trying to alienate me from my granddaughter. I was her full time nanny and my daughters assistant yet scapegoat for five years until I stopped enabling both my mother and daughter and the smear campaign has really opened my eyes to so much. Please stay strong and please don’t stop sharing, you and your videos help me to understand all this ugliness...🙏🏼❤️💪🏼
Every word that u said for the alienator, I felt came out of me. My horrible ex has been able to take my innocent children away from me and completely brainwashed them to an extent that they blocked me from their life in every which way....phone and social media, and have only made me look like a villain and a horrible mother, and it’s been 13 plus months since I’ve been able to reach out to them. I’ve died at least a thousand deaths in these few months. The burden to bear the loss is unimaginable. I always hear about the karma command hitting back....I don’t know where that god is for now.
Sister, in arms, harms, and heart, thank you. I needed and appreciated your every word
So sorry for your friend's loss and your horrific struggle! I will keep you all in my prayers! Thank you for helping so many of us! God bless you.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that. You are clearly so kind and caring, especially considering what you do for us all on CZcams. Take care and many blessings sent your way. Thank you for helping me.
My ex was doing the alienating, I found out he was and also taking the children near his new gf, who happened to be married with kids amd also on herion, the children told me about her a year later, and i confronted him, he called them all liars right ti their face, they knew then they had to make a decision, they are 8, 10 and 12. Our life is much smoother now he is not doing the insane abusive things to us all anymore. What you said about your ex being dangerous dont spend time alone with him is exactly right, they are dangerous just to be in the company of. Many hugs and lots of love to you for your sons second familys loss, life is so precious. If you're son hasnt reached out yet, I am praying he does very soon, he deserves to be loved by you ❤
Your child doesn’t have to be young. This happened to me with my daughter up until her early 30. She went to live with him and unfortunately had to learn about his abuse first hand. Yet she still can’t let go of many lies he told her and no matter how I let her know I love her she continues to refuse a relationship with me. Still don’t know what to do!
my heart goes out to you. you are so lucky to have had this mother in your life and its such a blessing that she was there for you . I am super touched how you would be grieving her loss. you are a caring wonderful intelligent and strong mother . I think you can offer her support. she might need time to grieve but saying you cant offer her anything its just not true. your empathy and wisdom and true friendship is priceless. you are such a warrior for your child. all I have to say is that all that you are sharing and your experience being alienated and having the gal and judge go the way of the alienator and not taking the court order seriously and not allowing separation between the narcissistic family members and all of them needing to be out of the childs life . and in just a few days years of abuse can be redone . along the same exact lines of separating a narcisistic abuser and the brainwashed kids .. I recently watched ' evil lives here " trapped in hell" season 2 and it showed kids after years of brainwashing by the abusing parent the police detectives had the children believing the mother was the "good guy"( they used those words) in the matter of two hours. its something real ..that people are too blind to understand its easy to brainwash a dependent child that is afraid to go against the narc family system, or they will be hurt and attacked. its severe child abuse.( in a shocking display of a good judge and the system working.. he got life in prison for tormenting and torturing his wife and kids.. to me that judge and prosecutor are heros and we need more of enforcing strict laws on the lunatics that are destroying families. you are such a great warrior and you experience can be used for such a tool of healing and change. I pray for you and this friend of yours that you will be shown peace that surpasses understanding that God will guard your heart and mind and heal you . you are such a gift and a warrior to so many people. please dont forget that you are much needed and much appreciated.
Thank you for sharing. Jill is on the spot accurately describing the pattern. The truth. Narcissists sure seem to follow the same script. Familiar to the same scenario. In my case the narcissistic mother was the clerk of court. She wanted the kids to take the stand. Threatening the career of my attorney. Even the psychological evaluation that she had the court order to prove my insanity, backfired as she was proven a narcissist, and I proven the safe secure parent. As that was also ignored and thrown out as no best intrest to child by a chicken judge...
Thank you Jill. My kids are full grown now. Sure miss them.
My heart goes out to you and knowing your heart goes to the kids, as well as the parents who are alienated. Thank You for validation. You speak the hard truth.
Truer words were never spoken. I am living this nightmare right now. You said it all.
So sorry for the loss of your friend's son. 🙏
Sorry for your loss Jill praying for emotional healing for all involved... thanks for what you do!!
You're so strong. I'm sorry you had to deal with any of that
Second best video I've ever watched, Thankyou from the bottom of my crushed heart
I am so so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you💕
Jill, had the same humiliations in family court. Horrible, and the worst: feeling the pain of my children and being villianized
I totally understand what you're saying and am so so sorry to that other mother i lost a son and its a pain you never got over 💔 😢
Thank you! I hope your son and your friend are in a path to healing! 🙏
My sincere condolences for your very sad loss. Thankyou for opening your heart and sharing your story that must have been very difficult but much appreciated that you help so many people through the pain and trauma of abuse. Your kind words bring healing and hope to many of us. Losing a child in any circumstances is beyond tragic. I’m sure your dear friend will value the friendship, comfort & support you have. Sending you a big warm hug and blessings 🙏💖💫🧚🍀
I never said anything bad about my partner ever to their children. Even when we were arguing. They saw the way i courted around actually saying anything bad in front of their kids so they started always bringing them in for discussions to keep me shut down.
I am so sorry you have to deal with helplessness you feel trying to be there for those hat have been there for you.
Now i have no contact from my ex-partner and their children; which i loved like my own.
You are Beautiful!!!
As people in Narcissist ravage, we become so very aware of others feelings. You are not helpless. Do you realize the gift you and your friend and other mothers took in your son.... loved him as similar to you as possible. Now I see huge blessings!
I am begging you to see your light. Its been seven years since I have had contact with my son. I know your pain sister.
The HUGE BLESSINGS? This family stood fo tdd you when no one else could or would. They embraced your child like any good mother would do and they fought by your side.
Meanwhile, because of you, this most precious family has more people that they do not know praying for them and rooting for you all, that they could ever fathom from your youtube family.
Its love. You are love and authenticity. Keep sharing. Please. Maybe you can guide the light for me to find my son again.
Exact same for me. Spent life savings for nothing. ASPD. Multi generally narc family.
Wow. You're so strong. May God be with you and those who supported you and your son. 💕
Great video
No need to apologize.
Be blessed and keep helping people,
There’s a reward waiting for you, greater than you can imagine 💙
I feel your pain - my narc ex still has my child. He also alienated my adult daughter and the court was exactly the same. That mother probably is glad to have your son to mother. You both have unimaginable and cruelly caused pain.
The courts would not listen to me. He won and took all my money as well. He’s an extreme sick man and my daughter lives with him full time now. She is fully under his control. I have had to walk away from my entire family. I had been heartbreaking for way to many years with no battle ever won. I had to walk away to save myself but in the same breath lost my two girls that are my heart and soul. He erases my identity in their lives. I am nothing, never raised them I have been rendered forever just nothing in my children eyes. My youngest daughter needs help, he takes her to doctors and therapy constantly blames me sends me the Bill and demands I pay. He the one making her sick. No one would listen to me. No one. 20 years of this. It almost killed me. I am healing now, and speaking out about this. It happens all the time and the courts need to change their procedure.
Thank you for your vulnerability and sharing your pain. I will pray for you and this beautiful family.
So sorry for your loss. I can totally relate. At the moment my son has physical custody of his son that will be 16 tomorrow. While he was an hour and half away taking care of his wife and premie baby his sons mother took him and won’t return him. On top of that she filed abuse charges on his pregnant wife and her special needs daughter. These charges were dropped because she didn’t show up in court. This all was two months ago and she still hasn’t brought him home and has taken him out of state for an undetermined amount of time.
Angels come in many form to help us through the most difficult times. Thank you for your honesty and finding the words to describe what we go through, hard as it is to watch your pain. Deepest sympathy for the sad loss of the young man within such a good family unit...much love and heart felt gratitude to you for the gift of support you send out to us ❤️
You Are So Brave!! ❤
Jill, I write this with tears in my eyes as I thank for saving lives. What you are doing is so very essential to targeted parents of these demons. Thank you so very much for your amazing insight, it is very healing. Some days I don't know what I would do without your videos while coping with such disgusting alienation and the outrageous behaviors of these cowards. I will fight to put them in jail where they belong. I know how hard this is because it goes against our nature to the core, but I agree that it is necessary to save the children from the vicious cycle.
God Bless you Jill.
This is my situation. My two sons are now 19 and 21. The 21 year old as of 2 months ago experienced a psychotic break. The alienation has caused tremendous pain. Extreme alienation has now completely turned him against me.
Dang Jill. I hope you are enjoying loving relationships that help support you. This is serious, tough stuff & you’ve continued the fight. Thank you for sharing your story, this gives me strength & hope❤️❤️
This so sad. My son is 30 now. Now knows what mother has done. And now he just says no mom. hurts him . But the real hurt is still there to this day. Togeather we missed out on alot of life togeather. But he knows the truth now and we love each other very much. Never give up.
I’m so sorry. It must be so hard to feel that pain. Especially how supportive those ppl have been of u n your son. Prayers for all u
Yes! You speak real truth!!
You are not alone, I definitely understand the frustrations. 💓
Thank you for opening your heart up and allowing some of your truth to come forth! So incredibly brave. You are a wonderful person, and I do greatly appreciate your true sincerity : )
Omggggg..... I’m so sorry you had to go through that. It’s not your fault at all. It’s so incredibly painful. I see you and hear you. Thank you for being vulnerable and still sharing insights with us while you are going through such pain. Please take care of yourself and I appreciate you and your channel. ❤️
Thank You so very much for your heartfelt video. There are so many of us who relate to your pain and circumstances. There needs to be more awareness and education available to us about parental alienation. Being a targeted parent is horribly difficult and it is even more difficult to know which way to turn or what to do. If I wasn’t a Christian, I don’t know how I could live day after day without my daughter knowing how much I truly love her. Your insight and wisdom is a tremendous blessing and I pray for God to comfort you.
Saint Jill Wise. What an angel for her to share her passion to all of us truly suffering in a way that so many invalidate. She brings us who are suffering into a light. Worthy of sainthood!
Thank you for your transparency and I'm so sorry for what you've been thru. Your sharing here is helping others. Your vulnerability is helping others to have strength and courage and to feel validating. TY for this video & no need to apologize for your tears, you have every right to feel what you're feeling. Big ❤to you. You have helped me so much in my life. I have come to rely on your knowledge and expertise.
Dear Jill, I am so sorry for your loss. You're an amazing woman. And I'm sorry you had to go through all of the horror you discribed. It must have been really hard for you and I can understand this boy's death hits you very hard. Much love ❤
My heart goes out to you. Your sadness and pain is palpable.
I didn't go to court over my child. It was a church situation. The church leaders, a fundamentalist church, decided I wasn't enough of a parent because I was single. They did everything emotinally and spiritually they could to alienate my child from me.
When they took my child on a youth group trip with no female chaperones ( without telling the parents ), I took us out of the church, was publicly shunned......
I found out my own mother tried to turn my child against me as well.
I had to get therapy to understand this is a family pattern. I didn't do anything wrong to anyone. It was a control issue with all these people.
My relationship with my child, now an adult, is still rocky.
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Thank you
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👋😁. Thanks.
I'm sorry this has happened. It's hard for me to even focus on the amount of pain you are feeling. Please take care. You're appreciated by so many.
Spot on and social services have done nothing they think I'm crazy!
Love, light, and peace to you......thank you so much for your time and realness...and to your son's surrogate families? Special thank you and blessings to you all😌💝
I can relate. I was raised by an Alienating Mother and Alienating Maternal Aunt (who lived with us). My poor Father was the targeted parent.
Thank you beautiful lady xxx
MY children not only can not see the disorder but vehemently assert her protection.
💗 Your truths and knowledges have ment the world to me but im sorry for your experiences. You have set me free from alineators and i love you for that.