Divorce and Remarriage According to Yeshua and Torah - Matthew 19:1-12
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- Does God prohibit divorce completely? Are there certain conditions or situations in which divorce is allowed? What about remarriage? Is it ever allowed? Jim examines the words of Yeshua as well as the Torah to clarify the confusion that is so common. And we see how marriage illustrates the relationship between God and His own people whom He calls His wife. What is the relationship between the wife of God and the Bride of Messiah? Presented July 12, 2014 at HalleluYah Fellowship in Jenks, Oklahoma. Website: www.hallelluyahfellowship.net.
Only death discontinues a covenant marriage. A bill of divorce protected a husband from stealing wife’s dowry after sending her away. Good teaching on Hillel & Shammi: Jesus Yashua goes back further than Moses divorce certificate allowance though. Very frustrating when this subject gets so messed up with not ALL scriptures used and FULLY compared.
It’s true that our Lord Jesus absolutely disapproved divorce and he qualifies remarriage as adultery. Also God hates divorce. However, we should bear in mind that GOD is aware that as human even as Christians we are never and will not be ever perfect in following His commands. We are not and will not be save by the works of our righteousness rather by the redeeming blood of Jesus through our faith in Christ. If we examine various Scriptures like: “Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?” Amos 3:3 NKJV will tell us that God understand that when 2 are not in agreement they can never work together and marriage requires a great effort of 2 people to make it work. And the truth and nothing but they truth, many at times 2 individuals mistakenly fall in the trap to enter into “Covenant of marriage” only to realize that both of them can not co-habit. Also Mathew 12:1-5 will teach us that God is not keen on using his law to trap our life into miserable and frustrated situation, rather that we may have any option to better welfare of our lives. In that Scripture Jesus said God is not more interested in Sacrifice but He is more interested in showing us His mercy. Jesus warned those “Holier than thou” Christians who were too rigid with the law over their fellow Christian not to condemn the innocent. This teaches me that no matter where I have fallen and the state of sin I found myself, I don’t have to give up in believing in the salvation of God, his forgiveness and mercy which he obtained for everyone on the cross the Scripture said: “If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us. My little children, these things I write to you, so that you may not sin. And if anyone sins, we have an Advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous. And He Himself is the propitiation for our sins, and not for ours only but also for the whole world.” I John 1:8-10 & 2:1-2 NKJV. In this context, if you’re a Christian who have divorced and you’re convinced that you can never be in agreement with your ex and you need to move your life on in getting married with someone else you feel you’re in agreement with and especially for the sake of companionship and avoiding sexual immorality/perverseness you go ahead with your life in getting into the new life of new marriage. But however, always recognize your state of sinfulness before God and keep asking in quietness for God’s forgiveness and mercy. You can draw your inspiration from the scripture: “Also He spoke this parable to some who trusted in themselves that they were righteous, and despised others: “Two men went up to the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. The Pharisee stood and prayed thus with himself, ‘God, I thank You that I am not like other men-extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even as this tax collector. I fast twice a week; I give tithes of all that I possess.’ And the tax collector, standing afar off, would not so much as raise his eyes to heaven, but beat his breast, saying, ‘God, be merciful to me a sinner!’ I tell you, this man went down to his house justified rather than the other; for everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.” Luke 18:9-14 NKJV
There are many so called perfect holier than thou Christian marriages where abuse of all sort is going on, hatred and malice are order of the day, no form of love going on in that marriage and every part of that marriage is absolutely miserable. Yet when they come out in public they pretend to the public they’re in perfect marriage. Some marriages their sex life is death even when both parties still burns in sexual passions; many a times their unsincereness and pretends lead them to secret marital affairs in search for sexual fulfillment outside marriage. I believe God wants us to present ourselves to Him just as we’re, no matter how weak and state of sin we found ourselves: “Come now, and let us reason together,” Says the LORD, “Though your sins are like scarlet, They shall be as white as snow; Though they are red like crimson, They shall be as wool.” Isaiah 1:18 NKJV and “Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30 NKJV. Jesus law is not intended to make life so miserable for us His disciples.
Finally as Christians we should try as much as possible not to fall victim of our Lord Jesus parable about judging others: “And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye’; and look, a plank is in your own eye? Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.” Matthew 7:3-5 NKJV. I have come to a total conviction that at least in this present generation of Christians and church leaders, you can never or at least rarely find any perfect follower of our Lord Jesus that keep His commandments of His word to the last letter. For instance how many of gospel preachers including those judging and condemning the remarried brethren here, will be bold to prove that they have kept the command of our Lord Jesus that said: “Jesus said to him, “If you want to be perfect, go, sell what you have and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow Me.” Matthew 19:21 NKJV. Also Holy Spirit commanded Christians: “Now the multitude of those who believed were of one heart and one soul; neither did anyone say that any of the things he possessed was his own, but they had all things in common. Nor was there anyone among them who lacked; for all who were possessors of lands or houses sold them, and brought the proceeds of the things that were sold, and laid them at the apostles’ feet; and they distributed to each as anyone had need.” Acts 4:32, 34-35 NKJV. Is there any Christian or bible preacher who can be so righteous to disclose how much wealth he has to his/her fellow Christian talk less to sell all his/her possessions in order to share with those that don’t have. Do you know this is a permanent state of sinfulness that has potential to attract dead? Yet mercy of God is reigning over as many as accept Jesus as their Lord and personal savior.
I will conclude this episode with this scripture: “But you, beloved, building yourselves up on your most holy faith, praying in the Holy Spirit, keep yourselves in the love of God, looking for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ unto eternal life. And on some have compassion, making a distinction; but others save with fear, pulling them out of the fire, hating even the garment defiled by the flesh. Now to Him who is able to keep you from stumbling, And to present you faultless Before the presence of His glory with exceeding joy, To God our Savior, Who alone is wise, Be glory and majesty, Dominion and power, Both now and forever. Amen.”Jude 1:20-25 NKJV. I will like to state that no one goes into marriage just for the. Sake of child’s play. Most people goes into it with genuine intention but however only to realize that their human limitations have let them down again - they realize the incompatibility of their partner too late after marital covenant. Also I will like brethren to not to forget that incompatibility in marriage have lead to many disastrous situations in relationship where the wife or husband kills their partner in a bid to be set free from that relationship. All sort of allegations went on in the relationship and so many wickedness that went on in that relationship. Many at times the only way to establish peace between 2 people is separation and divorce, we should not forget that God calls us for a life of peace. In the Jude verse above we can see and understand that as Christians it’s God that keeps us from stumbling and faultless.
Disclaimer: I do not in anyway expressly endorsed that divorce and remarriage is the best for any couple going through challenges in their relationship especially when it has to be a matter of forgiveness, God expect us to forgive one another. However, when misunderstanding between 2 peolpe in marriage becomes life threatening and the foundation of that relationship-Trust is destroyed then divorce can be a remedy for the 2. But they should bear the consequences of bearing the title adulterous if this is the case. But thanks to the blood of Jesus who saves us from all sin even from adulterous sinful state. Many at times bible preachers preach from their personal emotions not from the graceful emotions of our lord Jesus. This life can be very controversial and complicated in a dynamic and unique to individuals. God will always understand us with our unique challenges in our walk with Him. Put your absolute trust and hope on Him
God bless you all!
The wife is not propeety to be traded back and forth between two men.
Christians that divorce for "adultery" still have stony hearts. They need a heart of flesh, Jesus wants us to forgive, he commands us to forgive, so people that divorce do not have fleshly hearts toward their spouse. We are to forgive 70 times 7, all of the time and no matter what people do to us. Forgiveness comes from a grateful heart that God has mercy and forgiveness to us.
Have you considered that uncleanness is referring (he finds that she may be kin to her) Please read the bottom from a woman who did research on this, and that is why the wife could marry, and the husband was not allowed to take a kin folk back, but a one-flesh covenant can come back.
THREE TYPES OF DIVORCES FROM UNLAWFUL MARRIAGES:
There are three types of (unlawful) marriages that are forbidden by Moses. (DABAR means commandment.)
1. DABAR, Z’NUT (playing the harlot) Deut. 22:13-22 If a betrothed wife deceives her husband and is found not to be a virgin on her wedding night, she is stoned or divorced.
2. DABAR ERWAT (incest) Deut. 24:1 Torah erwat, or doubtful erwat (if the relationship is not clear, then he may divorce her) Erwat occurs 54 times of which 31 times it refers to incest.
3. DABAR (Deut./DABARIM 7:3-4) against marrying idolatrous FOREIGN wives (Deut. 7:3-4, 11, Ezra 10 - divorced).
Otherwise, if a man divorces his wife not according to these Mosaic Law, the courts would penalize him with a hefty divorce settlement to the forsaken wife.
Read the scenario put into story form of a man (fictitious name, but true to the text) who has second thoughts about the wife he married based on Deut. 24:1-4, Jewish marriage customs, and courts.
His bride, Tamar, is from a good Hebrew family, and was a virgin when Joe took her and married her. She is not that beautiful, but neither was he that handsome. She soon fell into disfavor with him and Joe decided to divorce her, but he is a young man with little money. The Court demands a costly settlement if a wife is put away for frivolous reasons and not according to the law. Joe thinks, “Which law should I use? Tamar is not a foreigner, so I can’t use that law.” He thought about bringing an evil name upon Tamar for not being a virgin, (DABAR, Z’NUT) but her parents would bring forth the token of virginity (the wedding nightgown) and he would be whipped 40 strokes save one, and fined 100 shekels of silver. This made Joe think again.
Maybe he could use the DABAR ERWAT law to divorce her. According to the Rabbis, “These are the forbidden unions that stem from ervah (incest), those from the Torah (Old Testament) and those from the rabbis. Those that are from the Torah, kiddushin (betrothal/marriage contract) does not take effect. Those that are from the rabbis, kiddushin does take effect and you must deliver a get (divorce). And likewise a betrothal with a doubtful ervah also needs a get (divorce).” He researches Tamar’s genealogy and low and behold! His grandmother married her great uncle. Tamar’s husband now goes to the court and asks for a get (a divorce), based on a doubtful erwat, that their marriage is a possible incestuous union. It is granted and Tamara is sent out of the house with a writ of divorcement.
An older man marries Tamar, now a young divorcee with no children. Perfect! Soon his heart turns away from her. She is unlucky in love. Since he is well-to-do, he can afford to pay the high divorce settlement required by the court. He pleads no law, but just pays the divorce settlement to get rid of her. Tamar’s former husband hears that she is divorced again, and in the money. He thinks, ”I need her money to start a business. I will push her buttons and win her back!” So you may ask, “What about the incest issue and their doubtful erwat?” That doesn’t stop Joe. His greed has taken over again. He determines to remarry her, regardless whether she is a close relative or a "doubtful ervah [kin].” Then he hears the bad news! Deut. 24:4! He can’t take her back! He divorced her for incest, so she is defiled to him. He is prevented from twisting the law to fulfill his greed and hypocritical scheme. He is told that it is an abomination to misuse God’s laws for personal gain or for frivolous divorce!
The bible really doesn't speak about a woman who divorces her husband he did nothing wrong but she did so for her reasons unknown to him. His able to remarry? There's scripture about the man not divorcing and or putting away his wife what about the husband that was divorced by his wife I don't see much about him remarrying.
So just curious do you worship on Saturday then and abstain from certain foods? .
Yes, Kelli, we meet on the seventh day of the week (the biblical sabbath) and we follow the dietary laws in the Torah. Those commandments are for all the people of YHWH (God) and His Word says they cannot be abolished or canceled. Most Christians misunderstand or misinterpret statements made in the NT and think they can eat anything now.
great lesson. I would like to know what happens if one is influenced or forced into a marriage ?can he/she call for a divorce ,especially when he or she finds no comfort in the marriage?
You can’t stone the woman unless she and the other man are caught together in the act of adultery. He could have found out or heard of her adultery and divorced-certificated because he couldn’t stone. And the Hebrew word “may” in Deut 24:2 is “might” to avoid her begging or having to prostitute if there’s no father’s or protector’s house to return to, it doesn’t mean “can”. Deut is Moses speaking; “sufferances” included. I feel bad for women getting tossed around like they did and some still do. Putting away is separating till you get your act together, it’s not divorce. Issues in betrothal period are different then after vows, and men and women have different rules. It’s tough stuff to hear and share.
So how do you handle a marriage to which a spouse withholds sexual intimatamacy as a tool to punish you to get what they want forcing you to live in a sexless marriage???
I believe I speak for many mainly men that are in bondage to this type of woman or, man's abuse because of the commandments.....
Does this type of torment not qualify as to putting away or, must you live like this for your remaining days?
"In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you." 1 thess 5:18. It is a hard situation to face, but there is no way around it because the man has bound his soul with a solemn vow (Numbers 30:4, Matthew 12:36-37), and God will hold him to that vow. So I would say, use the situation to seek God. Marriage is the fast road to a servants heart, and the flesh MUST die. Now death is something that hurts. Sorry, but there is not a way around it.
Jim King teaches wisdom from above!! Thank you Jim. You give the listener a lot to ponder. Do have further teaching about the condition of a Christian who divorced his/her wife without scriptural grounds and married another. Are they living in continual adultery unless they repent and divorce the new partner? Many teach the repentance from an adulterous union must including breaking up the marriage. Do you agree or disagree?
I disagree. The sin is unjustified divorce, not marriage. Two wrongs don't make a right. If someone gets an unjustified divorce but later repents and makes a commitment to never do that again, it is forgiven like any other sin. If he or she (or their former spouse) has already remarried, reconciliation with the first spouse is not possible and actually would be an abomination in God's eyes (Deuteronomy 24:1-4). To demand divorcing the second spouse is causing yet another sin in my opinion.
Philip Buckley : I do read and study my bible . This is not an easysubject to understand. Jesus acknowledged that the women at the well had five husbands. He also pointed that the man she was with was not her husband. We don't the details of all her past marriages. Did they all die? Did she commit adultry and then marry another. Did any of the former husband divorce her for any cause. Whatever her background God look at all five covenants as a marriage.
I want to believe so badly that divorce is allowed and such as you say,
But Deutoronomy 24:2 in other translations do not use "may" and the Hebrew does not say may. Help me reconcile this. This to me just simply states "if she does" not that it allows her to.
In Matthew 19:8, Messiah says Moses permitted it.
if a spouse is abusive you separate unfortunately satan is winning sending souls to Hell in this department
I think you make a very good point as the Bible does not address the issue of abuse...
The KJV has a flawed translation of Deuteronomy 24:1-4, where it looks like there is a COMMAND to give a certificate of divorce. But the KJV translation is flawed, and for these verses I have found the ESV to have a true translation. The ESV translation that lines up with Jesus words "Moses for the hardness of your hearts SUFFERED you to put away your wives" - but not COMMANDED or even PERMITTED. There is nowhere in the Bible a COMMAND to divorce or issue a divorce paper. This is one of the points where Jesus corrects the pharisees.
Think: Would a God who hates divorce, command the issue of a divorce paper? No, it can not be.
First, the Jews taught that only man can divorce his wife. The State of Israel and Orthodox Jews have been teaching this almost exclusively since the Torah. But, no one has asked why did they teach 'only man' can initiate the divorce. Then after you have answered that question the next two come into play. Does those reasons mean anything to us Believers today? And can we see it taught by Jesus speaking about the Law and Paul to believers. Yes! Mark's account was written to what Jesus said in private and this gospel was written to the Gentiles (they already had women divorces the Jews did not). Paul said in 1 Cor. 7:10-11 a woman can not remarry after she separates from her husband (as it was not lawful according to the Jews for a woman to put away her husband according to Scripture). And this is why the later part of that verse in 1 Cor. 7:11b does not say the man must "remain unmarried or be reconciled to his wife." You can read my ebook for free at www.smashwords.com/books/view/664951