Right?! I truly love Elyse so much for simply being real & not being afraid to voice what is happening in an anxiety-ridden persons mind. Also, love how she is normalizing how _totally crippling_ *anxiety* _and/or_ *panic attacks* can be for some of us during what are _supposed_ to be _regular every day situations_ that should _not_ induce a need for the damn _fight or flight response._ _Why!?_ Why is my own nervous system failing me in these common situations and reacting in such an unwarranted trepidation to trick me into believing as if I am _truly_ going to _die_ in that moment, that I _quite often_ begin overthinking and imagine I’m on the verge of a heart attack because my heart rate feels as if it is going _no less_ than 150 bpm. And, _all of this_ is happening only because I just needed to well- first, work up the courage to _leave my house_ in the first place, and then actually _go inside a public place_ so I could merely purchase _a jug of milk_ for my twins? *No thank you.* 😅🫠
I only started having anxiety after I quit smoking, so it took a month for me to recognize it. Why do I get anxiety when I talk to people for longer than 5 seconds? I do not understand.
This is simultaneously the most miserable and most relatable story I've heard in a while. A true series of unfortunate events, that could have been resolved if government agencies occasionally listened to reason rather than rules.
But what's to stop someone from claiming they accidentally clicked it when it wasn't an accident? Those rules are because people have tried to lie about it and appeal to "common sense". It's called social engineering and is the biggest problem for security in the world.
@@shadowscall7758 1. It is kind of silly to have to prove that you don't get vertigo after accidentally filling out the form saying that you do, but not to have to prove anything it if you claim that you don't get vertigo on the form. Reasonably, you should either be required to prove it in both cases or neither. 2. There's a time for rules and there is a time for common sense. I've had to fill out government forms not just expected, but required you to lie in certain fields just to have the form go through. I got in trouble for trying not to lie. Sometimes rules and systems are dumb and broken like that and when they are, "common sense" is exactly what we need. 3. Yes, only common sense can lead to bad outcomes, but no one is asking for that. Just need common sense occasionally when the rules don't make sense.
This has made me worry SO much about renewing my license in a year. I am going to be So ridiculously careful filling out that form because of this happens to me, I think I just won't drive anymore. That would be easier that reliving getting my driver's license. Also I cannot parallel park to save my life and somehow I survive, but I don't think the DMV will see it that way. Thank you.
When I passed my drivers' test, I was parallel parking and barely touched the chain that marks the back of the space. I passed with a 75 because I didn't hit the chain or the pole. But I just don't think I can ever successfully follow up a call that close with a more successful rest result.
If you can do it early, I recommend it. I needed to renew my license this year. I should have been able to renew online, but for some reason they forced me to go in person. Well, the DMV is requiring appointments ever since COVID which has made it a real cluster. All the appts in my area were not for months. I found a small office 2 hours away and drove there to get an appt the next day (well, actually my husband had to drive me, as my license was now expired). From now on, I'm doing it early.
@@nickorange4881 yeah, that's how it is here. Last time, I renewed in person, so I expected to be able to do it online, but the system said I had to come in. I think that is probably part of why appointments are so hard to get. If the system is making everyone renew in-person, there are gonna be a whole lot of people having to get an appointment.
GIRL. I can't imagine the absolute trauma this would cause me! And I dont even have two babies to worry about and a hundred other things like you do! Happy Nebraska Driver's License Day!!!
I can relate a lot to this story because I moved countries and asked for my driving license to be converted into the new country's legislation (I have to do it or it won't count as valid), and the questionnaire asked a ton of questions including "Do you have any attention deficit disorder?".... having ADHD, I didn't want to lie so I said yes. This forced me to get a written statement from a doctor that I'm not dangerous behind the wheel, I did and sent all that in and they kept me waiting for over a month while they analysed my request. Then they sent me a letter saying that they want MORE written statements from the doctor and also my medical history + what meds I take + more waiting and it's just, FML I should've just lied and replied "no" on the questionnaire, since my ADHD doesn't affect my driving ability (if anything, I compensate by hyperfocusing on driving). So here I am still in the middle of this mess and without a driving license, because they are keeping mine for the moment and they haven't created the new one either. Wonderful. I bet if I'd replied "no" I would already have the new license by now...
That had all of the suspense and terror of the few seconds at the apex of a rollcoaster. I always second guess myself when doing paperwork/forms/electronic stuff. Ugh!
I had a seizure for the first time three weeks ago and dr told me I can’t drive for 90 days and I was like, “no problem!” Turns out not being able to drive when you have three young kids in school is actually super stressful and annoying so I related to this story more than I thought I would. I’m on a medication that prevents me from having any more seizures, so I’m hoping that’ll be good enough but turns out I really can’t drive for another two and a half months and I’m just so glad this didn’t happen to me around the time I needed to renew my license 😮💨
Depends on the state, but Utah's stupid regulations make me have a doctor clear me to drive every year, even though the last confirmed seizure I had was in 1997 at 5 years old. Also, the doctor doesn't do anything other than ask me if I've had any seizures. So, I hate the DMV.
Automakers have made the US nearly 100% car centric. If you don’t have a car or can’t drive, you are automatically subhuman and don’t get to live the life everyone else does. It doesn’t have to be this way, but car makers want you to have to buy a car, so they lobby politicians to keep us trapped in a car dependent system.
Does this mean the doctor acts as an agent of the state in this circumstance? Doctors have to report your medical conditions - what about HIPAA? Or are you supposed to self-regulate? I’m genuinely curious.
Oh man…I’m a drug and alcohol counselor and I work a lot with clients mandated by the court into taking my super interesting and awesome First Offenders DUI Program so I hear literally hundreds of horror stories about people who try to get their licenses after completing their classes and whatever else they’re mandated to do. They’ll make their appointments, paperwork and proof of completion from my class in hand, only to find out they can’t get their license because 30 years ago, they had one, singular seizure caused by some random drug interaction that has no possible way of causing a risk of another seizure them now whatsoever because they haven’t taken that medication combination in 30 years since the first time it happened. Why, up until THIS point, they’d been able to renew their license without issue, I have absolutely no idea but it happens all the time to be a coincidence. It’s some kind of glitch in dmv’s system most likely. So, what I’m concerned with (for your sake) is that your doctor may have had a duty to report your seizure to the DMV. My ex-husband had epilepsy when he was MUCH younger and he lost his license because of this and the doctor was required to report it by law to the DMV. He was never able to get his license back until he went back to the doctor and got cleared, even though he hadn’t had a seizure in literal decades without even being on medication or anything. The DMV doesn’t care about whether you SAY you’re fine though; anyone can say they’re fine because they genuinely FEEL fine and think they can pull off the road in time and get behind the wheel, hop on the freeway going 75, have a seizure, and hit a minivan with a family full of kids and then there’s a tragedy that could have been avoided. I absolutely see the headache from both sides-I would be so irritated with having to get cleared every year from my doctor before being able to continue driving. We all live busy lives-especially once we get older and have to juggle a career and a household and children-adding one more “thing” to the list every year (two, if you count the day off you have to take to go to the damn dmv). I’m so grateful that I don’t have to deal with that because I probably would just stop driving all together and end up spending a small fortune on ride share. So, if I were you, I would do a bit of research about what the laws are in your state around (I’m not sure if they call it) mandated reporting of epilepsy. I believe each state is a little different in how they go about it. This way, you know what to expect and aren’t blindsided. I wish you the very best! 🩷 And, on a side note, happy Halloween 🎃 👻🌙
Well, rare case of: good that you can't drive. This can cost so many lifes. But yes!! It absolutely sucks to have no car, especially with 3 kids... Hope, you are ok and well and soon healed from whatever caused that seizure
Elyse you make me want to talk to people more. Dang i just realized how meaningful and crazy that statement is for me to say. But people dont tell stories and share experiences enough in real life - at least not in my life. I'm so lucky to work with so many awesome people.. im gonna talk to them more. I have funny stories and i bet they do too :) it helps us process our stressors and potentially negative experiences Thank you Elyse, not to be cheesy but you give us so much. Thank you for sharing yourself with the internet, i watched your Q&A , i know its not easy ❤
From now on I'm gonna be so scared to fill out a form esp on my phone...I have huge thumbs haha and barely read stuff as it is...thank you Elyse for your PSA!!! Making the world a better place one video at a time!!!!
I had so much anxiety just hearing this story. It’s one of my biggest fear’s having to take all of that 💩 again. I’m 60 and I never want to go through that again. I would have started crying uncontrollably! You Elyse handled that beautifully!
As someone who has hyperhydrosis, the sweaty fingers ruin sooooo many things!!! I’m sorry you went through this, but I’m glad you can laugh about it and tell it to us, so we can have some relatable humor in our day ☺️
❤❤❤❤i love your stories!!! 😂😂 it's so refreshing to see someone with some of the same unnecessarily ridiculous struggles that i put myself through. you are way more super cute about it than i am, though! thanks for sharing these moments!!!❣️❣️
Elyse, your stories are always riveting... you have such amazing timing, pacing, and the physical comedy you add to it, is the icing on the cake. The photos at the end always make me smile! You are a gem. 💗
That is an unbelievable yet believable story & you told it so well. As someone w/ ADHD who has lost my driver’s license back before there was an Internet option, I feel your pain. Took you 2 seconds to make a mistake & months & lots of money to finally get your license. Holy sh*t.😂🤦🏻♀️
I am sorry you had to go through this! I’m a User experience designer who often designs forms like this online. It is incredibly frustrating because generally it is considered straightforward and easy to digitize the world around us when it’s based on a processes(processes) that we have had for decades. This is the perfect example of how something was over simplified and had a serious negative impact on your life that could of easily been prevented in the software. I’m sorry you had this experience. The only legal obligation the online world has mostly to protect against poor quality digital products is the American disability act 1993. Most companies or institutions have to be sued their websites or apps and so bad. At this point it’s ridiculous we don’t have more standards for digital things just like physical objects. Quality insurance, safety, consumer protection etc.
I can relate to this so much because I also had my license cancelled for a stupid reason! Here goes my story: I worked inside an university and we were closing for the holidays. We had a plant in our office and someone said "someone should take the plant home and water it otherwise it will die!" I said "i have a car, i can take it!" I then spent the next two months taking care of that plant, which i never do for my own plants, because it was not MY plant so i took extra good care of it. When the holidays ended, I took the plant back the same day ee had a meeting. Around the university building there were only "2-hour" parking spots, but I thought "no problem, I'll just park here, take the plant upstairs and then come back down and park my car in the parking lot." I went up with the plant... got caught up in the meeting and forgot to go down. When I get to the car, of course there was a ticket waiting for me because I stayed 4 hours parked in a 2-hour spot. For some stupid reason, this is considered a BIG DEAL in the traffic law. I still had my temporary license, so I could not have any tickets otherwise it would be cancelled. My license was canceled. Because of a plant. I had to go through the whole system again (which is super expensive and time consuming in my country) to get my license again (which I lost again one month after I got it for the second time but that's a story for another moment...)
First, I'm 13 weeks pregnant, and have been washing my face with head n shoulders as per your suggestion for a week, and holy cow- magnificent results. Second, I chalk this up to the incredibly hormone saturated brain space of a woman deep into her 3rd trimester, and I laughed along the whole way, and also cried tears of frustration with you, because among the list of things I've mistakenly done whilst pregnant, locking my keys in the car (twice, two separate instances) and having to have insurance pay a guy to come get them out, locking myself out of the house, losing my phone, losing my wallet, exploding a pot of green beans on the stove, crying at a wolf documentary, crying at not being able to see my own feet, tripping constantly... There are more, but I do have a little dignity left, so... I'll just keep those ones to myself.❤
I was wondering this too after going through this experience! But then as I was telling the doctor about how all this happened, and he told me that if someone does actually experience vertigo/fainting/ any neurological problems that would affect their driving, their doctors are required to report that to the state so then it’s on their driving record and the physicians statement would be required anyways automatically! I was thinking the same thing like “this really is just on the honor system?? This makes no sense” 😂
This makes sense. But if the physician has to report it anyway, why put it on the test that the applicant has to fill out? Oh right, so Elyse can give us an emotional rollercoaster ride in a story.
@@elyse_myers Wow. I wonder in that case then would they get their license if they didn't lie but not get their license if they lied? Idk if I'd want someone who faints on the regular to be driving just cuz they were honest lol.
The shaking is so relatable! I was shaking so badly when I did my driving test😂 I passed though, Thank God, and even got 100 on my backing and parallel parking 😁 I think I would cry if I ever had to do it again though😂
And of course anyone who is actually at risk for fainting behind the wheel can simply check "no" to that question and avoid any kind of oversight whatsoever. Dumb system.
oh my actual… what in the… holy he11… i… i just… i would have just walked into the ocean never to be seen again. good for you for sticking through all of this. i’d never drive a car again. what a nightmare!!!!
You are a gem, you're dealing with stupid stuff happening in your life and, after a lot of struggling, you did it!!!. I'm so proud of you and admire you. Thank you for sharing this story
I look like a deer about to be run over when I'm anxious, but Elyse just cracks one -liners like a comedian 😂 Seriously, i bet you're super fun to hang out with.
What is your life!? 🤣😩😭 I’m so glad you never got pulled over while your license was cancelled! I drove around with revoked plates for months without knowing because my insurance (which I thought was on auto renewal) was cancelled. Car stuff is almost as bad as going to the dentist!
We only have medical for Class A drivers where I live. Also, no one at DMV knows how to do their damn job. My son's LP expired & they told him he needed to redo all his paperwork like he was never in the system. We get all the paperwork, come back, the next lady not only doesn't want or care about his paperwork, but she changes his address in the system without any documentation. That's crazy for so many reasons.
From UK 🇬🇧... your tale of woe regarding DMV had me in stitches. We pass once, i was 17. Got paper license, now they need plastic photo, but you don't resit. Congratulations 🎉😂 ... #storyteller #lol
Girl! I felt your struggle, and the struggle was fr!! I love when you share things like this with us. It makes me feel like I’m not the only one that goes through crazy things. It makes me feel better to know I’m not the only one having a personal dialogue of 🥴 while I’m going through all the stress. Thank you so much for sharing 😊
Obsessed with the way you roll your hoodie sleeves (loved that story btw! As with all of your stories, of course!) but I am ESPECIALLY loving this layered look with the sleeve roll! This story had me feeling all the feels right along with you, been in so many similarly self-inflicted ridiculous situations so this whole roller coaster was a very familiar feeling! ❤ and nothing beats the ending of your story time videos with you ducking to show the photo receipts! I legitimately end laughing out loud in a room all by myself every freaking time and I have absolutely not one ounce of shame for doing so! Thank you!
OMG you make me laugh Elyse and your stories are the best ! 😂 Much love from Melbourne Australia Ps. Love your singing too so some more of that would be awesome💜
I've been going through some life happenings and have been stir crazy with needing to connect with someone in a different type of way. I've followed you for a long time and have enjoyed your stories, but I recently, today, have been devouring your videos and it's such a breath of relief and energy that has given me a sense of calm to be able to connect through the internet without you knowing all this emotion is happening over here. Haha Thank you for your videos, vulnerability, and fun joy.
That was so hard to go through! Thank you for the warning. Don't fill out anything on the phone with sweaty thumbs!!! I will take this story to heart! I never want to go through this ever! I'm so sorry you got put through this! 😢
Just sunscribed. I've loved your content and stories for a bit now. But im still new. I saw your music today. I just thought you had stories to tell. Not that you also had another gift. The gift and incredible talent of making songs. Songs that are just as relatable as your stories. Thank you for these.
I'm AuHD. When she described the horror of realisation one after another I felt it in my soul man. The thing is usually I hold the opinion that government enterprises stick by stupid redundant rules over common sense. But damn...series of unfortunate events. Love you Elyse❤
"I don't have a college degree for a ✨ reason ✨". As a mom who is currently taking classes and spent all night last night fretting about my project I just turned in... I feel this on a deep and visceral level
Omgosh, Elyse. I had a similar situation happen to me last year. Needed to renew my license, went online to do it because that should be easier and quicker, right? Well, since I last renewed my licence I have had LASIK surgery, so I no longer wear glasses. Not thinking it would be an issue, i selected the box that says I do not need glasses to drive, but since my previous license was a different class bc of the glasses thing, it wouldn't let me go through with it online and said I had to go in person to the DMV to renew my license and prove my eyesight was good. I tried to cancel it out and do it again, but it had logged my first try and wouldn't let me redo it. So I had to hire a babysitter to watch my five kids, and take my pregnant butt into the DMV and wait approximately forever to prove to them that I can, in fact, actually see without glasses now. I guess it's good that my license is accurate, but at the time I wished so bad I could go back in time and uncheck that stupid box. You really gotta think about what boxes you check on that DMV website! 😂😭😐
Wow thank you for sharing that! I've definitely made some similar stoooopid time consuming mistakes. Can't think of any right now--probably because I've deeply suppressed them in my subconscious 😅, but I can also feel my subconscious relating to that excruciating disbelief of the very simple and costly stoopid thing that I just did. So glad to know I'm not the only who makes these kinds of mistakes! 😅❤
I've lived in multiple states. Got my driver's license in all of them. I never once failed a written driver's test, until I moved to Oregon. If the love of my life wasn't here, I'd move.
Elise you make my life better when you inform me of how complicated it could be. Either cuz Im glad this wasnt me or cuz I feel not so alone when my life gets messy ❤
I resonate with this so well!!!! Just recently I moved states. Went to get my new license and I couldn’t get one because my proof of addresses weren’t yet valid. No problem, I still have my old license. NOPE! My old license (which I thought expired on my next birthday) had expired on my last birthday. Ok, we just get a new license. Now with valid proof of address. Again, NOPE! My birth certificate of 41 years is no longer valid in the state of VA. WTH?! Went to go get a new birth certificate and they require a picture of a valid drivers license or passport. Both of which are now expired (license by 6 months and passport by 2 weeks!!!). 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ I then had to go back to my original state, use my state license and my old bank address to prove that I still lived in the state, took the written test online the week before visiting, paid for a drivers permit (after driving back to the old state) to sneak my way into a driving test that same day. I was ready to sit there all day and take any canceled appointment. They were booking out over a month in advance 📆. Luckily, I got there right as they opened up and because I had taken the written test online, had my old license which proved my SSN and BC info I was able to get my old license renewed so I am now a legal driver (at least). Now to try and get my new state license and a new BC, passport and SS card so I never have to do this again. 😂😂
🎉 Congratulations 👏 ...on getting through one of life's nightmares. These are the kind of things that happen to me! The difference is, people believe you! I have a million stories just like this. I keep promising that one day I'll write a book. You give me hope that people would actually read it. ❤
THANK YOU FOR SHARING!! Wow I felt like this was me. Stuff like this with “adult tasks” has totally happened to me before, and I can totally see myself accidentally checking something off, missing it on my “proofread” before clicking enter, so this is a SUPER great reminder to quadruple-check EVERYTHING on paperwork like this before submitting!
Omg! My husband did pretty much the exact same thing when he went to renew his license here in Australia. He fat-finger-fumbled yes to one of the eye-related questions, and had to go visit an optometrist and then take the form in person to our version of a DMV.
I love your stories btw and i also want to say thank you for the little gifs you add to your videos and i really appreciate it as a visual learner it just helps me more visualize what is going on and as a video editor myself who tries to use gifs too i know how frustrating it can be at times to work with them 😂 but again thank you 😅😊
god she’s such a good storyteller
Thank you! ❤️
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@@elyse_myers holy crap :o ❤️❤️
I love her story times
@@clarejoseph1098the best on CZcams!
The preciousness with which she whispered, “can i _talk to your manager_ “ had me! 😂❤
Thank you for normalizing how much extra work it is to go through life with anxiety. You’re a treasure, Elyse.
Right?! I truly love Elyse so much for simply being real & not being afraid to voice what is happening in an anxiety-ridden persons mind. Also, love how she is normalizing how _totally crippling_ *anxiety* _and/or_ *panic attacks* can be for some of us during what are _supposed_ to be _regular every day situations_ that should _not_ induce a need for the damn _fight or flight response._ _Why!?_ Why is my own nervous system failing me in these common situations and reacting in such an unwarranted trepidation to trick me into believing as if I am _truly_ going to _die_ in that moment, that I _quite often_ begin overthinking and imagine I’m on the verge of a heart attack because my heart rate feels as if it is going _no less_ than 150 bpm. And, _all of this_ is happening only because I just needed to well- first, work up the courage to _leave my house_ in the first place, and then actually _go inside a public place_ so I could merely purchase _a jug of milk_ for my twins? *No thank you.* 😅🫠
I only started having anxiety after I quit smoking, so it took a month for me to recognize it. Why do I get anxiety when I talk to people for longer than 5 seconds? I do not understand.
This is simultaneously the most miserable and most relatable story I've heard in a while. A true series of unfortunate events, that could have been resolved if government agencies occasionally listened to reason rather than rules.
Yes! If the government would allow their employees to use their own minds and common sense in unusual situations, things would be so much simpler.
But what's to stop someone from claiming they accidentally clicked it when it wasn't an accident?
Those rules are because people have tried to lie about it and appeal to "common sense". It's called social engineering and is the biggest problem for security in the world.
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1. It is kind of silly to have to prove that you don't get vertigo after accidentally filling out the form saying that you do, but not to have to prove anything it if you claim that you don't get vertigo on the form. Reasonably, you should either be required to prove it in both cases or neither.
2. There's a time for rules and there is a time for common sense. I've had to fill out government forms not just expected, but required you to lie in certain fields just to have the form go through. I got in trouble for trying not to lie. Sometimes rules and systems are dumb and broken like that and when they are, "common sense" is exactly what we need.
3. Yes, only common sense can lead to bad outcomes, but no one is asking for that. Just need common sense occasionally when the rules don't make sense.
This has made me worry SO much about renewing my license in a year. I am going to be So ridiculously careful filling out that form because of this happens to me, I think I just won't drive anymore. That would be easier that reliving getting my driver's license. Also I cannot parallel park to save my life and somehow I survive, but I don't think the DMV will see it that way. Thank you.
When I passed my drivers' test, I was parallel parking and barely touched the chain that marks the back of the space. I passed with a 75 because I didn't hit the chain or the pole. But I just don't think I can ever successfully follow up a call that close with a more successful rest result.
If you can do it early, I recommend it. I needed to renew my license this year. I should have been able to renew online, but for some reason they forced me to go in person. Well, the DMV is requiring appointments ever since COVID which has made it a real cluster. All the appts in my area were not for months. I found a small office 2 hours away and drove there to get an appt the next day (well, actually my husband had to drive me, as my license was now expired). From now on, I'm doing it early.
Secret hack. Move to a state like Florida. No parallel parking. Cons it's hot in Florida. 😢
@@loverlyredheadit depends on state rules. Mine I could renew online but next time I need to go in person. ;-;
@@nickorange4881 yeah, that's how it is here. Last time, I renewed in person, so I expected to be able to do it online, but the system said I had to come in. I think that is probably part of why appointments are so hard to get. If the system is making everyone renew in-person, there are gonna be a whole lot of people having to get an appointment.
GIRL. I can't imagine the absolute trauma this would cause me! And I dont even have two babies to worry about and a hundred other things like you do! Happy Nebraska Driver's License Day!!!
I can relate a lot to this story because I moved countries and asked for my driving license to be converted into the new country's legislation (I have to do it or it won't count as valid), and the questionnaire asked a ton of questions including "Do you have any attention deficit disorder?".... having ADHD, I didn't want to lie so I said yes. This forced me to get a written statement from a doctor that I'm not dangerous behind the wheel, I did and sent all that in and they kept me waiting for over a month while they analysed my request.
Then they sent me a letter saying that they want MORE written statements from the doctor and also my medical history + what meds I take + more waiting and it's just, FML I should've just lied and replied "no" on the questionnaire, since my ADHD doesn't affect my driving ability (if anything, I compensate by hyperfocusing on driving).
So here I am still in the middle of this mess and without a driving license, because they are keeping mine for the moment and they haven't created the new one either. Wonderful. I bet if I'd replied "no" I would already have the new license by now...
That had all of the suspense and terror of the few seconds at the apex of a rollcoaster. I always second guess myself when doing paperwork/forms/electronic stuff. Ugh!
I had a seizure for the first time three weeks ago and dr told me I can’t drive for 90 days and I was like, “no problem!” Turns out not being able to drive when you have three young kids in school is actually super stressful and annoying so I related to this story more than I thought I would. I’m on a medication that prevents me from having any more seizures, so I’m hoping that’ll be good enough but turns out I really can’t drive for another two and a half months and I’m just so glad this didn’t happen to me around the time I needed to renew my license 😮💨
Depends on the state, but Utah's stupid regulations make me have a doctor clear me to drive every year, even though the last confirmed seizure I had was in 1997 at 5 years old. Also, the doctor doesn't do anything other than ask me if I've had any seizures. So, I hate the DMV.
Automakers have made the US nearly 100% car centric. If you don’t have a car or can’t drive, you are automatically subhuman and don’t get to live the life everyone else does.
It doesn’t have to be this way, but car makers want you to have to buy a car, so they lobby politicians to keep us trapped in a car dependent system.
Does this mean the doctor acts as an agent of the state in this circumstance? Doctors have to report your medical conditions - what about HIPAA? Or are you supposed to self-regulate? I’m genuinely curious.
Oh man…I’m a drug and alcohol counselor and I work a lot with clients mandated by the court into taking my super interesting and awesome First Offenders DUI Program so I hear literally hundreds of horror stories about people who try to get their licenses after completing their classes and whatever else they’re mandated to do. They’ll make their appointments, paperwork and proof of completion from my class in hand, only to find out they can’t get their license because 30 years ago, they had one, singular seizure caused by some random drug interaction that has no possible way of causing a risk of another seizure them now whatsoever because they haven’t taken that medication combination in 30 years since the first time it happened. Why, up until THIS point, they’d been able to renew their license without issue, I have absolutely no idea but it happens all the time to be a coincidence. It’s some kind of glitch in dmv’s system most likely.
So, what I’m concerned with (for your sake) is that your doctor may have had a duty to report your seizure to the DMV. My ex-husband had epilepsy when he was MUCH younger and he lost his license because of this and the doctor was required to report it by law to the DMV. He was never able to get his license back until he went back to the doctor and got cleared, even though he hadn’t had a seizure in literal decades without even being on medication or anything. The DMV doesn’t care about whether you SAY you’re fine though; anyone can say they’re fine because they genuinely FEEL fine and think they can pull off the road in time and get behind the wheel, hop on the freeway going 75, have a seizure, and hit a minivan with a family full of kids and then there’s a tragedy that could have been avoided. I absolutely see the headache from both sides-I would be so irritated with having to get cleared every year from my doctor before being able to continue driving. We all live busy lives-especially once we get older and have to juggle a career and a household and children-adding one more “thing” to the list every year (two, if you count the day off you have to take to go to the damn dmv). I’m so grateful that I don’t have to deal with that because I probably would just stop driving all together and end up spending a small fortune on ride share.
So, if I were you, I would do a bit of research about what the laws are in your state around (I’m not sure if they call it) mandated reporting of epilepsy. I believe each state is a little different in how they go about it. This way, you know what to expect and aren’t blindsided.
I wish you the very best! 🩷
And, on a side note, happy Halloween 🎃 👻🌙
Well, rare case of: good that you can't drive. This can cost so many lifes. But yes!! It absolutely sucks to have no car, especially with 3 kids... Hope, you are ok and well and soon healed from whatever caused that seizure
I love how the majority of her videos she has picture proof😂 Gets me every time!
Elyse you make me want to talk to people more.
Dang i just realized how meaningful and crazy that statement is for me to say.
But people dont tell stories and share experiences enough in real life - at least not in my life. I'm so lucky to work with so many awesome people.. im gonna talk to them more. I have funny stories and i bet they do too :) it helps us process our stressors and potentially negative experiences
Thank you Elyse, not to be cheesy but you give us so much. Thank you for sharing yourself with the internet, i watched your Q&A , i know its not easy ❤
Girrrrrrl if you didn’t get your license that day I would had to visit that DMV for you! Geeze Louise I almost had an anxiety attack for you!
What an absolute nightmare. You're such a trooper, Elyse!
From now on I'm gonna be so scared to fill out a form esp on my phone...I have huge thumbs haha and barely read stuff as it is...thank you Elyse for your PSA!!! Making the world a better place one video at a time!!!!
honestly, there's a reason we use mostly computers for work. The screen is bigger and you cannot make mistakes as easily as on a touch screen.
@@liviaclaire ok!?!? Cool...
I definitely was dreading hearing that she failed the road test, and I'm so glad she passed, because nothing else went well 😭
I had so much anxiety just hearing this story. It’s one of my biggest fear’s having to take all of that 💩 again. I’m 60 and I never want to go through that again. I would have started crying uncontrollably!
You Elyse handled that beautifully!
I swear we’re living parallel lives at this point. That’s all I can say without writing paragraphs. I FEEL YOU and way to rock that test!
I second this! It’s like you are in my brain half the time!
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This is such a nightmare scenario and I just love, love that you turned it into a great story and kept your humor and manners the whole while.
Being obligated to do all of this (and much less frankly) in the postpartum period should be a crime.
Every new story from Elise is my new favorite story. Thank you for telling about everyday life in a ways no one else does. 😊❤
As someone who has hyperhydrosis, the sweaty fingers ruin sooooo many things!!! I’m sorry you went through this, but I’m glad you can laugh about it and tell it to us, so we can have some relatable humor in our day ☺️
This was a high intensity ride from start to finish😂😂 im glad you finally got it done ✅✅✅
❤❤❤❤i love your stories!!! 😂😂 it's so refreshing to see someone with some of the same unnecessarily ridiculous struggles that i put myself through. you are way more super cute about it than i am, though! thanks for sharing these moments!!!❣️❣️
Elyse, your stories are always riveting... you have such amazing timing, pacing, and the physical comedy you add to it, is the icing on the cake. The photos at the end always make me smile! You are a gem. 💗
That is an unbelievable yet believable story & you told it so well. As someone w/ ADHD who has lost my driver’s license back before there was an Internet option, I feel your pain. Took you 2 seconds to make a mistake & months & lots of money to finally get your license. Holy sh*t.😂🤦🏻♀️
I am sorry you had to go through this! I’m a User experience designer who often designs forms like this online. It is incredibly frustrating because generally it is considered straightforward and easy to digitize the world around us when it’s based on a processes(processes) that we have had for decades. This is the perfect example of how something was over simplified and had a serious negative impact on your life that could of easily been prevented in the software. I’m sorry you had this experience. The only legal obligation the online world has mostly to protect against poor quality digital products is the American disability act 1993. Most companies or institutions have to be sued their websites or apps and so bad. At this point it’s ridiculous we don’t have more standards for digital things just like physical objects. Quality insurance, safety, consumer protection etc.
I can relate to this so much because I also had my license cancelled for a stupid reason!
Here goes my story:
I worked inside an university and we were closing for the holidays. We had a plant in our office and someone said "someone should take the plant home and water it otherwise it will die!" I said "i have a car, i can take it!" I then spent the next two months taking care of that plant, which i never do for my own plants, because it was not MY plant so i took extra good care of it.
When the holidays ended, I took the plant back the same day ee had a meeting. Around the university building there were only "2-hour" parking spots, but I thought "no problem, I'll just park here, take the plant upstairs and then come back down and park my car in the parking lot."
I went up with the plant... got caught up in the meeting and forgot to go down.
When I get to the car, of course there was a ticket waiting for me because I stayed 4 hours parked in a 2-hour spot.
For some stupid reason, this is considered a BIG DEAL in the traffic law. I still had my temporary license, so I could not have any tickets otherwise it would be cancelled.
My license was canceled. Because of a plant.
I had to go through the whole system again (which is super expensive and time consuming in my country) to get my license again (which I lost again one month after I got it for the second time but that's a story for another moment...)
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ADHD taxes... I could buy a car from mine...
First, I'm 13 weeks pregnant, and have been washing my face with head n shoulders as per your suggestion for a week, and holy cow- magnificent results.
Second, I chalk this up to the incredibly hormone saturated brain space of a woman deep into her 3rd trimester, and I laughed along the whole way, and also cried tears of frustration with you, because among the list of things I've mistakenly done whilst pregnant, locking my keys in the car (twice, two separate instances) and having to have insurance pay a guy to come get them out, locking myself out of the house, losing my phone, losing my wallet, exploding a pot of green beans on the stove, crying at a wolf documentary, crying at not being able to see my own feet, tripping constantly... There are more, but I do have a little dignity left, so... I'll just keep those ones to myself.❤
Ok I need a massage, a mani/pedi and a drink after this to celebrate your victory! I just lived that viscerally!! Lol You are the best!🏆⚡️💛
I cannot fully explain how much this story and the way you told it meant to me today. Thank you.
Why would anyone ever answer this question honestly now if they are fainters. Lol
I was wondering this too after going through this experience! But then as I was telling the doctor about how all this happened, and he told me that if someone does actually experience vertigo/fainting/ any neurological problems that would affect their driving, their doctors are required to report that to the state so then it’s on their driving record and the physicians statement would be required anyways automatically! I was thinking the same thing like “this really is just on the honor system?? This makes no sense” 😂
This makes sense. But if the physician has to report it anyway, why put it on the test that the applicant has to fill out? Oh right, so Elyse can give us an emotional rollercoaster ride in a story.
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Wow. I wonder in that case then would they get their license if they didn't lie but not get their license if they lied? Idk if I'd want someone who faints on the regular to be driving just cuz they were honest lol.
The shaking is so relatable! I was shaking so badly when I did my driving test😂 I passed though, Thank God, and even got 100 on my backing and parallel parking 😁 I think I would cry if I ever had to do it again though😂
And of course anyone who is actually at risk for fainting behind the wheel can simply check "no" to that question and avoid any kind of oversight whatsoever. Dumb system.
oh my actual… what in the… holy he11… i… i just… i would have just walked into the ocean never to be seen again. good for you for sticking through all of this. i’d never drive a car again. what a nightmare!!!!
I considered it. I REALLY CONSIDERED IT.
You are a gem, you're dealing with stupid stuff happening in your life and, after a lot of struggling, you did it!!!. I'm so proud of you and admire you. Thank you for sharing this story
That was a lot and you handled it. Especially with all the newborn hormones! Props girl, time to celebrate!
I look like a deer about to be run over when I'm anxious, but Elyse just cracks one -liners like a comedian 😂 Seriously, i bet you're super fun to hang out with.
quite an interesting story, the energy of the whole thing has the right amount of chaos i aspire to have in my day-to-day so it's not too boring
I love that you make me feel like I am not alone in the shenanigans of my life. ❤
Oh girllll THAT gave me such a tsunami of anxiety. Glad that's behind you. No more slip clicks!
I love your story times! Thanks for keeping it real!
Sometimes people like to do things subconsciously just to keep their life in constant turmoil but it’s good fun for us to watch
We ALL should send Elyse money! This lady puts up with SO much! And still manages to make us laugh, think and just feel!
What is your life!? 🤣😩😭 I’m so glad you never got pulled over while your license was cancelled! I drove around with revoked plates for months without knowing because my insurance (which I thought was on auto renewal) was cancelled. Car stuff is almost as bad as going to the dentist!
We only have medical for Class A drivers where I live. Also, no one at DMV knows how to do their damn job. My son's LP expired & they told him he needed to redo all his paperwork like he was never in the system. We get all the paperwork, come back, the next lady not only doesn't want or care about his paperwork, but she changes his address in the system without any documentation. That's crazy for so many reasons.
You are a freaking gem! 💕 much love
Your stories are great! Thank you for making me smile!
you're an amazing story teller, truest gift ever ❤
You are such a good story teller. Thank you for reliving these moments with us. It makes us feel less alone.
That is insane!!! What a ride!! And you are an amazing storyteller!
Thank you for existing - you are the most relatable person. The bad luck train is one heck of a ride. Thank you for sharing
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Girl Same
Thats insane i would have cried on the spot, online things like that should ask for confirmation. Your a trooper
From UK 🇬🇧... your tale of woe regarding DMV had me in stitches. We pass once, i was 17. Got paper license, now they need plastic photo, but you don't resit. Congratulations 🎉😂 ... #storyteller
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Gosh, you always make my day better!
Girl! I felt your struggle, and the struggle was fr!! I love when you share things like this with us. It makes me feel like I’m not the only one that goes through crazy things. It makes me feel better to know I’m not the only one having a personal dialogue of 🥴 while I’m going through all the stress. Thank you so much for sharing 😊
Your story telling is always a highlight of my day!!!❤😂🎉
Keep being u, unique and beautiful in every way!
I could cry with you, I’m so glad you got everything sorted out but mannnnn! ❤
You are amazing! I feel heard and less alone!
Obsessed with the way you roll your hoodie sleeves (loved that story btw! As with all of your stories, of course!) but I am ESPECIALLY loving this layered look with the sleeve roll! This story had me feeling all the feels right along with you, been in so many similarly self-inflicted ridiculous situations so this whole roller coaster was a very familiar feeling! ❤ and nothing beats the ending of your story time videos with you ducking to show the photo receipts! I legitimately end laughing out loud in a room all by myself every freaking time and I have absolutely not one ounce of shame for doing so! Thank you!
I could listen to your stories endlessly, on repeat, forever. ❤you are awesome
Elyse, you are a saint for not [redacted] anyone during that ordeal.
OMG you make me laugh Elyse and your stories are the best ! 😂 Much love from Melbourne Australia Ps. Love your singing too so some more of that would be awesome💜
This was so insanely entertaining. I was literally just ABSORBED in the story the entire time xD
😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤ Thank you for this hilarious glimpse into your life! You rock! ❤🎉
I've been going through some life happenings and have been stir crazy with needing to connect with someone in a different type of way. I've followed you for a long time and have enjoyed your stories, but I recently, today, have been devouring your videos and it's such a breath of relief and energy that has given me a sense of calm to be able to connect through the internet without you knowing all this emotion is happening over here. Haha
Thank you for your videos, vulnerability, and fun joy.
That was so hard to go through! Thank you for the warning. Don't fill out anything on the phone with sweaty thumbs!!! I will take this story to heart! I never want to go through this ever! I'm so sorry you got put through this! 😢
I swear I just love you 😂😂😂😂 being your friend would be life goals. 😂😂😂😂😂
Just sunscribed. I've loved your content and stories for a bit now. But im still new. I saw your music today. I just thought you had stories to tell. Not that you also had another gift. The gift and incredible talent of making songs. Songs that are just as relatable as your stories. Thank you for these.
Holy cow Girl!! That was a whole lot that u had 2 go through!! I’m glad that u were finally able 2 get u’re license♥️🙏🏽♥️🙏🏽
I'm AuHD. When she described the horror of realisation one after another I felt it in my soul man. The thing is usually I hold the opinion that government enterprises stick by stupid redundant rules over common sense. But damn...series of unfortunate events. Love you Elyse❤
No joke, this was genuinely riveting 😂😂 G bless you Elyse Myers!
"I don't have a college degree for a ✨ reason ✨". As a mom who is currently taking classes and spent all night last night fretting about my project I just turned in... I feel this on a deep and visceral level
Omg. That’s awful you had to go through that Elyse. That literally would of pushed me off the ledge.
That was a masterclsss in how to ask for a manager and have the employee on your side. God made away!
Omgosh, Elyse. I had a similar situation happen to me last year. Needed to renew my license, went online to do it because that should be easier and quicker, right? Well, since I last renewed my licence I have had LASIK surgery, so I no longer wear glasses. Not thinking it would be an issue, i selected the box that says I do not need glasses to drive, but since my previous license was a different class bc of the glasses thing, it wouldn't let me go through with it online and said I had to go in person to the DMV to renew my license and prove my eyesight was good. I tried to cancel it out and do it again, but it had logged my first try and wouldn't let me redo it. So I had to hire a babysitter to watch my five kids, and take my pregnant butt into the DMV and wait approximately forever to prove to them that I can, in fact, actually see without glasses now. I guess it's good that my license is accurate, but at the time I wished so bad I could go back in time and uncheck that stupid box. You really gotta think about what boxes you check on that DMV website! 😂😭😐
Girl. That sucks. Sounds like something that would happen to me. Thanks for making another one of your viewers feel not alone. 😂❤
Wow thank you for sharing that! I've definitely made some similar stoooopid time consuming mistakes. Can't think of any right now--probably because I've deeply suppressed them in my subconscious 😅, but I can also feel my subconscious relating to that excruciating disbelief of the very simple and costly stoopid thing that I just did. So glad to know I'm not the only who makes these kinds of mistakes! 😅❤
I've lived in multiple states. Got my driver's license in all of them. I never once failed a written driver's test, until I moved to Oregon. If the love of my life wasn't here, I'd move.
Thank you for sharing with us your wonderful moments..
have a wonderful time awesome story.
This is quite possibly one of the best stories I have ever heard… 😂
Oh! The Zigs and Zags with sound!! Two Thumbs Up for me!!!😂😂😂. And congratulations!
Oh my God what a nightmare you are a champ for now throwing a hissy fit in that DMV I think I would have cried lol
Omgosh this was so intense 😬! Glad you got that sorted out.
Elise you make my life better when you inform me of how complicated it could be.
Either cuz Im glad this wasnt me or cuz I feel not so alone when my life gets messy ❤
I resonate with this so well!!!! Just recently I moved states. Went to get my new license and I couldn’t get one because my proof of addresses weren’t yet valid.
No problem, I still have my old license. NOPE! My old license (which I thought expired on my next birthday) had expired on my last birthday.
Ok, we just get a new license. Now with valid proof of address. Again, NOPE! My birth certificate of 41 years is no longer valid in the state of VA. WTH?!
Went to go get a new birth certificate and they require a picture of a valid drivers license or passport. Both of which are now expired (license by 6 months and passport by 2 weeks!!!). 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
I then had to go back to my original state, use my state license and my old bank address to prove that I still lived in the state, took the written test online the week before visiting, paid for a drivers permit (after driving back to the old state) to sneak my way into a driving test that same day. I was ready to sit there all day and take any canceled appointment. They were booking out over a month in advance 📆.
Luckily, I got there right as they opened up and because I had taken the written test online, had my old license which proved my SSN and BC info I was able to get my old license renewed so I am now a legal driver (at least).
Now to try and get my new state license and a new BC, passport and SS card so I never have to do this again. 😂😂
Holy cow man, what a ride!! I’m so glad u got it situated in the end tho 👌🏾
🎉 Congratulations 👏 ...on getting through one of life's nightmares. These are the kind of things that happen to me! The difference is, people believe you! I have a million stories just like this. I keep promising that one day I'll write a book. You give me hope that people would actually read it. ❤
THANK YOU FOR SHARING!! Wow I felt like this was me. Stuff like this with “adult tasks” has totally happened to me before, and I can totally see myself accidentally checking something off, missing it on my “proofread” before clicking enter, so this is a SUPER great reminder to quadruple-check EVERYTHING on paperwork like this before submitting!
How are you so good at story telling and also so relatable!!
You are my favorite shorts creator atm, youºre just so real, ily!
Omg! My husband did pretty much the exact same thing when he went to renew his license here in Australia. He fat-finger-fumbled yes to one of the eye-related questions, and had to go visit an optometrist and then take the form in person to our version of a DMV.
I don't ever not click on your videos in my feed. Your humour reminds me of a Marian Keyes book. Observant, deprecated and keen. ❤
This is wild and terrible and yet you still made it adorable and hilarious. Glad it had a happy ending 🎉
Oh bless! If anyone in the entirely of the universe deserves that driver’s license, my dear, it’s you. ❤😂
I love your stories btw and i also want to say thank you for the little gifs you add to your videos and i really appreciate it as a visual learner it just helps me more visualize what is going on and as a video editor myself who tries to use gifs too i know how frustrating it can be at times to work with them 😂 but again thank you 😅😊
holy mercy thats adhd tax at its finest....i feel this story so deeply....i love you sis!
Man, this is funny, but seriously, Bless your heart❤️
You're a true gem! ❤️❤️❤️🤣🤣🤣
You do so many things. Crocheting, singing, you NEED to do standup. A whole special. Please.
I will never fill out a form in my phone after hearing this. That’s nuts! The doctor’s letter should clear the whole damn thing!