I’m stuck here bc I’m 35. I’ve been in 2 relationships. I’ve only been sexual with those 2 men. The first relationship we were engaged and I got pregnant. We had the baby. He became abusive. We tried to work it out. He was an alcoholic. It did not work out and I found myself leaving to protect my life. I was single for 2.5 yrs after and so was then 26. I met a guy and we got married. We had 2 children together. He was cheating on me the entire time and left us homeless for his affair partner. He ended up wiping out our bank account and stealing our belongings. We were supposed to be moving since our home was being sold. He disappeared with this woman for over a year. That happened In 2021. I’m 35 now. I have 3 kids with 2 different men. Not all of us are promiscuous.
Didn't even read this because I guarantee its a woman saying she's the exception. Don't datewomen with kids it's that simple. They had their chance they decided to play
Didn’t read this comment since I’m pretty sure it’s a man telling a woman she should have chose better and something about how woman take no accountability for their actions 🤷♀️
I come from a culture that created the term baby mother, baby father in its popular music known worldwide. As a child, I always knew this wasn't normal. Child-free people run away from these people quickly, they don't know how to family plan and I suspect narcissism is the root of this behaviour.
I always knew it wasn’t a still fuqq’d up!!! Idc if ppl run from me it is what it is… I don’t even date childless ppl… but I wish I had all this floating around when I was still child free. I definitely wouldn’t have dealt with a man with children. But tbh it wasn’t very many child free men around.
I think its a huge red flag 1 baby momma/daddy is ok in my book im a 32 year old divorced man and i myself have 1 baby momma and 1 child, it happens but damn multiple different children from different partners is f****** crazy and on top of that as a man the woman is gonna want me to have responsibility for those kids that arent mine with no authority
I agree with the sista in the green dress 100%. I almost commented that til I heard her say that. Because that's the issue with females these days...they move too fast and are a poor judge of character. If they slow down and get to know a guy first and not ignore the obvious red flags, instead of thinking "Oh, I can change him!!!" then they wouldn't be on their 4th, 5th, and 6th child with each kid having a different father and more than likely all of the fathers are absent. Most of these dusties have similar traits...use your previous as an example of what not to go for next time around. It's different if you were married to a man for like 5+ years and y'all had a kid or two and years later down the line divorced and you later got remarried and gave your 2nd husband a child or two after being married 5+ years. But come on, let's be real...females praise this baby mama culture too hard and don't value marriage anymore. They're settling for being baby mama's and baby mama's only...and to a man that has 3 kids with 3 baby mama's already SMDH. I'm not coming from a place of judgment at all...I just want to see my people do better and actually want better for themselves. I made sure to take my time and choose wisely before I had children...I waited until I found someone I felt was marriage material and that we were on the same page as far as wanting a family...we are 8 years strong now and have 3 beautiful kids together. His children with me are the only children he has. I just feel it truly pays to slow down and actually learn someone first.
It’s a new world order baby and it’s been a new world order for the last past seven years. The world has changed to immediate gratification we have a high high demand of immediate gratification and we deserve more everybody. And so with that being said who is committing to anything I’m not committing to nothing why and I can have more and go farther in life..
Man loves talking about the women having kids when are y’all going to talk about me and impregnating women knowing that they don’t wanna be with them or men picking bad mothers for their kids or men dating a woman with two kids just to give her her third and leaving all of u are messed up in the situation not just the woman
1) If a woman doesn’t want to be with a man, she shouldn’t be spreading her legs for him 2) Men picking bad mothers for their kids? In that case the man would have custody of the kids, assuming the mother is psycho and the father is somewhat sane. 3) No one would go out of their way to impregnate a woman with already 2 children (from a different man) just to make it 3? Wtf kind of argument is that? I think these whores/sluts that give up their cooter so easily to anyone that shows them the slightest bit of attention, are the problem.
Yea unfortunately I’m currently in the last situation… I’ll honestly blame the first 2 on myself… i was young didn’t really give it a chance with the first… 5 years later 2nd bad pick… 6 years later 3rd in my 30’s we were solid had these discussions everything good until the positive… it’s crazy… is what it is… he’s wishy washy so I have no hope for it… buuuuut I’m definitely getting sterilized and nobody gotta worry about my 🚩 because I’m done!!! Clearly it’s not meant for me!!
It’s a red flag, if nothing else it points to a lack of judgment and self control. For every woman or man that has a child with multiple partners there are single men and women who’ve managed to have multiple partners without producing children.
Having “multiple guys” and “multiple serious relationships” is *NOT* the same thing as having *multiple children* by all or some of them. Parenting . . . relationships . . . there’s a *whole lot* of dichotomy between the two. I have to raise, nurture, and support those children. For life. Relationships and sex partners come and go. He needs to know the difference.
No not really… most ppl are parents by a certain age MOST… stop acting like it’s so outrageous that ppl in their 30’s have actually lived… these ppl look far removed from their 20’s.
@@jessicab331: You completely missed my point. 🙄 Ol’ boy in the white sweatsuit said that multiple baby daddies is an indicator of multiple past serious relationships and/or a woman having slept or “been with” multiple men. But a woman could have NO children and been with twice as many men as a woman with six kids and four baby daddies. Not having children is also not an indicator that a woman has been careful or protected herself. It could be they know her by name at the abortion clinic. This guy would pass on a lady with kids in favor of a lady with no kids and a body count in the hundreds simply based on his own prejudices and assumptions.
Whoever says no is a red flag.
I’m stuck here bc I’m 35. I’ve been in 2 relationships. I’ve only been sexual with those 2 men. The first relationship we were engaged and I got pregnant. We had the baby. He became abusive. We tried to work it out. He was an alcoholic. It did not work out and I found myself leaving to protect my life. I was single for 2.5 yrs after and so was then 26. I met a guy and we got married. We had 2 children together. He was cheating on me the entire time and left us homeless for his affair partner. He ended up wiping out our bank account and stealing our belongings. We were supposed to be moving since our home was being sold. He disappeared with this woman for over a year. That happened In 2021. I’m 35 now. I have 3 kids with 2 different men. Not all of us are promiscuous.
Didn't even read this because I guarantee its a woman saying she's the exception. Don't datewomen with kids it's that simple. They had their chance they decided to play
Didn’t read this comment since I’m pretty sure it’s a man telling a woman she should have chose better and something about how woman take no accountability for their actions 🤷♀️
There talking about extreme situations. Yours seems pretty average
@@azucenabustos1078 You’re right about that.
@@urbanobstacles trying to make someone feel bad about themselves only shows how you feel about yourself
I'm sorry, multiple baby mamas and baby daddies are a red flag. Hell, more than 1 is giving yellow. More than two is red.
These are too short though, don't tease us like that, love it 👌🏽
I come from a culture that created the term baby mother, baby father in its popular music known worldwide. As a child, I always knew this wasn't normal. Child-free people run away from these people quickly, they don't know how to family plan and I suspect narcissism is the root of this behaviour.
I always knew it wasn’t a still fuqq’d up!!! Idc if ppl run from me it is what it is… I don’t even date childless ppl… but I wish I had all this floating around when I was still child free. I definitely wouldn’t have dealt with a man with children. But tbh it wasn’t very many child free men around.
I think its a huge red flag 1 baby momma/daddy is ok in my book im a 32 year old divorced man and i myself have 1 baby momma and 1 child, it happens but damn multiple different children from different partners is f****** crazy and on top of that as a man the woman is gonna want me to have responsibility for those kids that arent mine with no authority
It’s not a red flag, more like a SCARLET flag
I agree with the sista in the green dress 100%. I almost commented that til I heard her say that. Because that's the issue with females these days...they move too fast and are a poor judge of character. If they slow down and get to know a guy first and not ignore the obvious red flags, instead of thinking "Oh, I can change him!!!" then they wouldn't be on their 4th, 5th, and 6th child with each kid having a different father and more than likely all of the fathers are absent. Most of these dusties have similar traits...use your previous as an example of what not to go for next time around. It's different if you were married to a man for like 5+ years and y'all had a kid or two and years later down the line divorced and you later got remarried and gave your 2nd husband a child or two after being married 5+ years. But come on, let's be real...females praise this baby mama culture too hard and don't value marriage anymore. They're settling for being baby mama's and baby mama's only...and to a man that has 3 kids with 3 baby mama's already SMDH. I'm not coming from a place of judgment at all...I just want to see my people do better and actually want better for themselves. I made sure to take my time and choose wisely before I had children...I waited until I found someone I felt was marriage material and that we were on the same page as far as wanting a family...we are 8 years strong now and have 3 beautiful kids together. His children with me are the only children he has. I just feel it truly pays to slow down and actually learn someone first.
facts
It’s a new world order baby and it’s been a new world order for the last past seven years. The world has changed to immediate gratification we have a high high demand of immediate gratification and we deserve more everybody. And so with that being said who is committing to anything I’m not committing to nothing why and I can have more and go farther in life..
Men as well yet y'all want to act as if your not 😂
@@downbad2874 Oh most definitely, men aren't excluded from this topic cause they definitely be out here on the same thing.
I know more men with multiple BM than I do women with multiple baby daddies. We can’t act like this is a woman thing. It’s a people thing.
That 8 bds was a bad example…
Shit two from two different partners is gross unless they were born YEARS apart lmfaoo 1:19
8? 😂😂 2 would be a red flag
Of course! _RED FLAG!_
More than two? Yes.
It's a gigantic red flag for both genders. Wrf ?
Helll yes multiple baby daddies are a big red flag for me!!!!!! 🤮🤮🤮 hell even one baby daddy is a HELL NO TO ME AND I HAVE NOOOOOO KIDS
I don’t blame you. It’s too much baggage.
Man loves talking about the women having kids when are y’all going to talk about me and impregnating women knowing that they don’t wanna be with them or men picking bad mothers for their kids or men dating a woman with two kids just to give her her third and leaving all of u are messed up in the situation not just the woman
1) If a woman doesn’t want to be with a man, she shouldn’t be spreading her legs for him
2) Men picking bad mothers for their kids? In that case the man would have custody of the kids, assuming the mother is psycho and the father is somewhat sane.
3) No one would go out of their way to impregnate a woman with already 2 children (from a different man) just to make it 3? Wtf kind of argument is that?
I think these whores/sluts that give up their cooter so easily to anyone that shows them the slightest bit of attention, are the problem.
Yea unfortunately I’m currently in the last situation… I’ll honestly blame the first 2 on myself… i was young didn’t really give it a chance with the first… 5 years later 2nd bad pick… 6 years later 3rd in my 30’s we were solid had these discussions everything good until the positive… it’s crazy… is what it is… he’s wishy washy so I have no hope for it… buuuuut I’m definitely getting sterilized and nobody gotta worry about my 🚩 because I’m done!!! Clearly it’s not meant for me!!
It’s a red flag, if nothing else it points to a lack of judgment and self control. For every woman or man that has a child with multiple partners there are single men and women who’ve managed to have multiple partners without producing children.
Having “multiple guys” and “multiple serious relationships” is *NOT* the same thing as having *multiple children* by all or some of them. Parenting . . . relationships . . . there’s a *whole lot* of dichotomy between the two. I have to raise, nurture, and support those children. For life. Relationships and sex partners come and go. He needs to know the difference.
No not really… most ppl are parents by a certain age MOST… stop acting like it’s so outrageous that ppl in their 30’s have actually lived… these ppl look far removed from their 20’s.
@@jessicab331: You completely missed my point. 🙄
Ol’ boy in the white sweatsuit said that multiple baby daddies is an indicator of multiple past serious relationships and/or a woman having slept or “been with” multiple men.
But a woman could have NO children and been with twice as many men as a woman with six kids and four baby daddies.
Not having children is also not an indicator that a woman has been careful or protected herself. It could be they know her by name at the abortion clinic.
This guy would pass on a lady with kids in favor of a lady with no kids and a body count in the hundreds simply based on his own prejudices and assumptions.
I have 2 bd. My children are 15 years apart. Nothing crazy just finding love after all that time.
It all depends on how children were raised & thought & experiences they had.growing up with their parents.
8 bd’s dat pwussy GREAT 👍😬
I CAN'T STOP LAUGHING!
Her toxic level gone be a mil
Ran through
The answer is yes.
What she said >>>> what he said
Nahhh I’m good with my husband and my little girl
Yes
1 before the age of 30 is a red flag
Only in 2024 because y’all think 30 is the new 20… grow up!😭
No. The more the merrier!
No😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
8 lol
Yes