Only things that help 1) Workout everyday( it releases dopmaine, the only thing that helps) 2) Learn a new language/musical instrument/ any new skill( learning something new releases endorphins, something we need) 3) If you were always lonely like me(with no or very few friends), try solo traveling just once, it'll help you realize most people are lonely and still doing ok. 4) Read philosophy books( specially eastern one and few western ones like Stoicism, Cheerful nihilism) you'll deffo feel better. Please do this and you'll feel better within few months.
@@ankitSharma-uo6zf Bro it is meaningless that's why it is wonderful. I was going through a horrible time when I wrote this now I'm doing okay not completely good but kinda ok. I started training muay thai and I love it. Lol
If you feel depressed because of 2-3 years breakups then remember there are some people who had 20+ years of marriage before divorce and they still move on.
Sir I work with Deloitte Usi and busy for the whole day. I am 29 and working on marriage prospects( Though not successful yet). I like your mantra of detachment, and focus on my work which really helps me ignore the stuff ( Icing part). Keep making these kind of videos. We guys need it Sir
I can relate this to myself as ended up wasting 2.5 years post breakup at a very crutial age while writing CAT. Thankfully, recovered from the loss in time & did MBA from one of the top Institute in India and saved my career. So true, Sir.
@@globe_gossips hnnn to chtya ho isha kriya kro tim hai to dusri dhund lo usse pyaar mt time pass krna khelo khudo kuch intresting sikho paisa kamao bhai
Guys, what sir has said is absolutely correct. Trust me, literally, I am the guy sir is talking about in the video. It's been two years since my break up and fortunately I started doing the same thing sir said and I am far better than before. I watched this video after two years and felt proud that I did the right thing...... Change is massive psychologically and physically......just keep going.....there is light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you sir for this video......I am sure this will save a lot lives. ❤️
Been disturbed for about 1 year . called her on her birthday, wished her and she immediately cut my call . That day I realise what's mine value for her . Immediately I block her on everything , feeling good now . She teached me a good lesson. Moreover I don't have nothing bad for her in my heart. Realised that everybody has a right to choose. 😌
I can relate to this topic very well. My ex husband decided to divorce me and I wasn’t prepared for it. It came all of a sudden. It was very challenging for me and it took almost 5 years to come out of it. With time your wound heals but scar is still there. Just want to say not men but women also goes through the same way as men do during their break up or divorce.
I almost wasted 1.5 years in breakup pain. Stay happy, find new girl. Career, wealth and power is what you need to success. Not a girlfriend. You will get a good deserving one after success.
Line-" aapko lagta hai ki samne vala aapki value badha rha hai , jo ki sahi nahi hai" sir you just change my thinking ....!! From my heart❣ .. thank you soooo much Sir..!😊🤗
Well said Chetan sir! , I think it would be better if someone left you at the right time so that you can avoid wasting more time which could have been wasted. Now once if she has gone ,you can utilise that saved time to make yourself worthy 🙏🏻
@@mdakifsiddiqui4597 true but re read his comments. If suppose she is not gone till 2022 you will be still in dillusion that she is with you. And if its destined for her to leave she will leave in 2023. But imagine she left you in 2020 may be your 1yr will go waste in crying and thinking about past...but atleast 2022 will bring back your Life. This is my condition right now. And this comment made me think alot. She got married last yr and in April 1 yr got completed yet i am thinking about her but this comment really made me think alot about what i am doing emotionally to myself
This video helped me a lot. Thank you, Sir. My ex broke up with me a few months ago, and now she is getting married. It's clear that she moved on very quickly in life. I was stuck emotionally, but finally, I am learning to let go of the situation and focus on myself and my life.
@@gauravvashisth3415 Take as much time as needed. You are going to feel very bad for maybe 2-3 months, and nothing can be done about that. Try to keep yourself distracted as much as possible. You will still remember her, obviously, but that is part of the healing procedure. Don't get into another relationship right away because it may not be worth it, and if possible delete everything like pictures, videos, etc. of hers from your phone. If it is not possible, then save them somewhere you don't access regularly at least and delete them from your phone. If possible, do things that take your mind off the matter, like going to gym...or you can join a club or something, but whatever you do, surround yourself with people - who are not romancing each other. In 2-3 months, you will be in a much better place :) all the best.
Same here she got married after being in 10 yrs of relationship. Its been 1 yr for her marriage i am still into my past and memories also destroyed my career couldn't able yo focus. I know this is wrong i also know she has moved on i also know what i should do for me and my family but yet each and every passing day my emotions are not controlled and it is just destroying my career. I am 30 and still jobless giving govt exams but couldn't focus on studies. Was very close to selection in 2021 but she left and everything goy destroyed. I was working hard from 2016 for govt exams for me my family and both of us and specially for her Father so that due to caste difference he would accept me.. but she left me saying parents are everything for her 26 yrs > 10 yrs. And now i am in paind and grief i was working and wasted my 4-5 teenager time of making career for her and she got married. I also know nothing is left now. She is married. She got physical. Like nothing is left. Yet I don't have any other option now. Due to her my parents too got hurt. They consider her daughter and she committed to marry me but she ran away . My parents are worried about my career. I am 30 yrs with no skills and only option for me is working hard and focusing on my study and take that govt job but really i can't focus on my mind. That intensity is lost. No control on emotions. Uninstalling installing Instagram for lakhs of time yet controlling to not look at the chats and account. Really dont know where my life is going. 2021 was the year i was so close to crack my govt exam but everything got ruined. Yoga meditation prayam did everything... self talking everyday. Yet couldn't forget her. Also seeing couple on Insta make me feel cry. I have stopped travelling too. I live in Pune those memories flashes.. my exams are near i also gave many exams recently yet couldn't clear pre exam where there was a time i used to clear pre exams easily. This is last and final moments for me . My parents are waiting for my success. I know everything. I know being emotionally weak just not gonna work. I also know if i didn't forget the past it will just delay my success. This is my last attempt. I really want this badly. What i started i want to finish it . Not for her not for her dad who said 5 yrs he couldn't clear the exam he will bring you on road . But for me. My self respect. My parents and my future Life. I hope i live my life how i used to live. I hope i can laugh whole heartedly again. I hope i be the idol son for my parents. 14/5/2022 . 3.36PM , Pune
@@vikrant_bhise bhai sab ke saath hota hai,mai bhi abhi aisi condition me hu Bass himmat rakho aur ek baat suno bhai jaane waalo ko sirf ek glti ki talaash rehti hai ya ek bahane ki, wo aapko deserve nhi krti thi kismat aapki nhi uski kharaab hai,aap ab ache se pdho apne maa baap ke liye mehnat karo, i hope aap jaldi theek hojaayege !
सर आप सब जानते हैं मन की बात ।पता नहीं क्यू आप हर समस्या को बारिकियों के साथ सुलझाने की पूरी कोशिश करते हैं।आप ऐसे ही हमें रास्ता दिखाते रहें । बहुत सारी शुभकामनाएँ 🫂 आपके विचार इस पूँजीवादी प्यार के दौर में फ़िट बैठते हैं।
Just keep in mind that smn one better is coming for you and uss insaan ki aukaat nahi thi aapne pyaar ki It really helps and makes you strong I am a jee aspirant and going through same phase, this feeling motivates me to study more and hard
Sir this is the stuff of immature people. If someone is mature, then the person has the ability to take their life decisions. It's a blessing in disguise that an immature person shows true colors beforehand. Shaadi k baad esa insan will obviously make ur life hell, and then taking divorce is another big step. Celebrate that a loser shows true colors phle hi. Ye bhagwan jagah banate h kisi ache insan k liye 🙏
Exactly, just believe that someone worth your love is waiting for you and breakup is just a true gift given by nature so that u can meet smn that person destined by nature
Sir, Salute to your guts for being so frank and open about these things. Guts lagte hai sir, par ap to IITian ho ap to musibaton ka samna karna kaafi pehle se seekh chuke ho. Keep inspiring us till the rest of your life. I wish more people could come up and say this, "main ladka hun isliye ladko ki perspective saamne rakh raha hun" without fearing the male bashing audience all around social media.
it's 6 months she left me...was very disturbed for 3 months nd she called nd said she has overcome ... seperation hurts bt the attachment kills...I just blocked her everywhere I can nd trying to move on nd get a fresh start...keep posting such contents ❤️thank you sir ❤️
Sir, this was the explanation I needed since 2 years, I wish k ye video 2 saal pehle upload hui hoti.... Thanks a billion Sir, you saved my time and my feelings, this will definitely help me to disinvest all my feelings from that person and to focus on rest of the people and things in my life (the cake) :) May God shower lots of blessings on you and encourage you to come up with more such videos so that somone's life can be saved from getting ruined 🙏 :)
Hehe I had few months back and I thought it's the end of life but now I realised that how fool I was that I wasted the most valuable time of my life .... My dear young friends it's normal for a human being to feel such emotions but we are not tree we should try to move on , time heels everything..........by the way when I remember the past discussion between us I always laugh 🤣🤣🤣🤣
What if this happens in married life? Your partner ditches you and leave. Not only the entire life of the other half but also the lives of the kids could be at stake. Getting ditched after marriage is much more vulnerable which can lead a person to depression.
True this! We really need to accept the one person with his pros and cons and stick to the same person unconditionally this the only way to sustain family culture of India which is best system for one's moral support and overall mental health.
Sir u r really wrong this time.... I'm a girl n I wasn't able to handle breakup well. I did wasted my 2-3 years. I regret it a lot. My health n studies/ career just went down n down. I got soo stressed out that I got diagnosed with stress related diseases. I can't express that feeling of obsession. It made me exhausted mentally n physically. I was unable to focus. I used to constantly compare myself with others, forcing me to think what's wrong with me. I felt worthless. I doubted myself on everything. Confidence just went down. Wasted a lot of time on social media stalking. I agree with u when u compare death with breakup. After wasting 2-3 years, I'm now in a much better place, more stable. Only thing I'm scared of is that what if I end up wasting more time on this sadness n not letting go of that breakup. U r right. Sometimes there is no reason for a breakup. U just don't feel that way for someone but it's hard to accept that when u get dumped n r feeling horrible. Now for me time is more precious than money. I just don't want to waste my time obsessing over that person anymore n stalking that person on every social media platform available. I don't want that. I want to focus 100% on myself. I'm trying. I'm just scared what if I fall into that black hole again. But I can't be that weak. I won't allow my years of education go waste just bez of someone made my feel worthless n made me feel bad , horrible abt myself. I can't be that weak. I'll be stronger than ever especially in such challenging COVID times. It was a very long comment ;)!! Thank you. These talks helps a lot. I come from a very conservative family. Soo I can never discuss such things with my parents. I can't even imagine how they will react if ever I'll tell them such problems which I will not do obviously. This stunt can me more dangerous than Khatron ke Khiladi. Hence your videos n these heart to heart talks helps. Thanks a lot Chetan.
Distraction is key,, I am not a pro at it but when I feel this I try to distract myself in some other things, And best way to feel better is by helping others and exploring nature
@@jinfin221 because she wanted a man better than thor richer than tony stark having values like captain america cute like korean attached and simp like k drama boy. Toh uske paas option nahi h kya woh nahi janta kya koi koi kyu uske peechhe attracted hain.
I will thank god everyday for my break up(wasn't mutual breakup) because it helped me grow in life in more than one aspects you know...... You might think that there is no light at the end of the tunnel BUT THERE IS LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL my friend....
She left me 2 days before... May be it were my mistakes..and she doesn't feels love in me anymore... Now looking forward to recover from it... thankyou sir for guidance 🙌
Wow sir 🙏 hatsoff much needed video. It's been just a month since I'd my breakup been there done everything you said ruining my health MBA ka 2nd trimester personal contacts for a month. Later I realized ki wth I'm doing with my life for someone who's not here with me anymore. I packed my bag left my hostel where we both stayed together shifted to anew place far from her started a new life new friends started taking care of myself my health and studies and now I can proudly say ki Icing ati jati rehti hai bas Cake achha bake hona chahiye 🤗❤ and sir your words really helped me a lot ek clarity aa gyi ab life kuchh bhi ho jaye ek achha cake bna k hi chhodunga. Thanks a lot sir 🙏🤗❤
Whatever you said is absolutely correct. But the problem is its not easy to get out of that situation. The more we try to forget things , they came back more strongly to our brains. And the brain never stop thinking abt things that happened. Most of the time even unintentionally during break up phase we lose our concentration from our path. I believe ACCEPTANCE is better option. Accept that u r broken, accept that it will take time, accept that it may take years come out of that phase completely just remember that u dnt have to quit from doing constructive things in ur life. You might be improving very slowly bt keep improving. Oneday you will surpass this and achieve everything that u wanted to. JUST DNT QUIT.
Heath hedger said in The Dark Knight "Does it depress you? To know just how alone you really are??" .. One must learn to detach from everything whether it be money, person or anything in case if you dont have that in future you dont go into depression :)
Hi sir, I don't know if you would read my comment. But, I was cheated by my boyfriend and he even tried to sexually assault me while I was with him. Broke up just 2 weeks back and this video has given me that little strength I needed to pick my self up. Probably the best thing you have done is starting this CZcams channel. If you ever happen to stumble across my comment or happen to read it, all I want to say is Thank you!! This word is small but I am soo grateful to you I can't put it in words. I have an entrance exam during Nov end. And I need to buckle up and channelise all that energy towards clearing this exam and joining the college that I am aiming for. I know there's someone better for me out there, and that I'll have my own experience of a two states story some day :))
Time heals everything.. N you'll come up much much stronger & unshakable! With tym.. With maturity... You'll realize all you need is u.. If its out of ur hands.. it deserves to be out of the mind as well.!
Thank you for the video sir. Your breakup series have changed my way of taking things in life as I am going through the same phrase it has helped to overcome.
Sometimes i really hate you, but you are narrating the reality of today's male population especially mid-20s thats why i love you very much.. i know it's harsh but that is what reality is and this what we are running away. Kudos to you sir.♥️♥️♥️
Alfaz nahi hai bolne ke liye , kitna acche se samjhaya hai. Cake ka example is the key word for explaining such a difficult topic.. So much love to you sir ...
It's because guys invest so much in a relationship! The key is trust your gut, if it says the other person is giving red flags then just see those red flags and back off because eventually things will get worse only.
Perhaps the best video on recovering from a heartbreak on the entire internet. Thanks Sir. I have fallen in love with you now. ❤What a practical and a positive person you are!!
Sir, I think you should cover how Break Up for guys and girls is different. By none of Girl's fault and immense amount of options available to them, I feel they move on much fast
Chetan sir it was wonderful video... You explained it very well what is more important for an individual at very moment when he is suffering from such mess... I remember when I was in that situation 7 years ago I cutted off my self from people around me, took my time to realise what to do next... I didn't have any guru or any friend at that time as I said I cutted off my self from people around me ... one has to spent some time alone to reconstruct yourself... I came out of that situation on my own ... What ever things you have said it is utter truth 🙂
Perfect example of relationship with analogy of life. My example is completely opposite, I have a full cake in front of me but icing is the only thing missing. Being through many heart breaks but always stood tall and stronger then before
Thanks a lot sir for such a great video❤️🙏. Dosto aukat bnao accept kro or move on kro apni personality improve kro apna better version bno career me achha grow kro apne goal pr focus kro AUKAT BNAO jb success hogi usse better milega sb 100% sahi h ye bat jo b hua achha hua. Success bolti h dost don't be a chhuthiya majnu don't be a looser be a winner❤️best of luck dosto👍
Wonderful topic Sir. It's wonderful for me because it's very close to my situation. On third January 2022 the icing of my cake totally melt after checking fb profile of my past. I remember I didn't ate that night, I was crying. But fortunately I used to watch your videos daily to be motivated. Next day I watch your breakup series once again . Break up ke fayde, ek bus se utar kar dusri me chadha, that's what I was doing. Well right now I am focusing on three important pillars of my life that is CHR. Relationship with my family and friends. And this time I'm not in a hurry bus pe chadhne ke liye. How to deal with this situation? So I'm trying to be more busy, trying to be more focussed on my studies trying to be better in life. Jo hota hai achcha hota hai. This new year gives me a new experience how to deal with emotions. Thank you once again sir for this video and for your all videos, especially break up series. They are helpful to accept reality of life. Thanks once again sir.
Rona dhona raha alag abhi toh thak gayi wahi bad memories baar baar yaad kar k... Bas ab aur nhiii. Kuch fayda toh hua nhii so it's better to stop as you said thank you sir........ for huge support to handle strong attachment wali feeling.
If someone leaves you whatever for a reason just let them Go first and accept that person isn't made for you..say Ok then Goodbye Once a over it should be OVER!! Chetan sir making the light for us huge respect for you sir🙏
Let them Go, noone is permanent , everyone is temporary in life. The one who is yours will never leave YOU🙂
last line is bullshit
Well said.
*These lines are fascinating in Quotes only, But very hard in real life situation*
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Kahana aur bolna aasan hai ese
Only things that help
1) Workout everyday( it releases dopmaine, the only thing that helps)
2) Learn a new language/musical instrument/ any new skill( learning something new releases endorphins, something we need)
3) If you were always lonely like me(with no or very few friends), try solo traveling just once, it'll help you realize most people are lonely and still doing ok.
4) Read philosophy books( specially eastern one and few western ones like Stoicism, Cheerful nihilism) you'll deffo feel better.
Please do this and you'll feel better within few months.
Also, don't watch bollywood movies in which she always comes back in the end lol watch movies like Kabhi haan kabhi na.
Sahi hay vai
don't read pilosophical books ever 😂 everything will seem meaningless after that :(
@@ankitSharma-uo6zf Bro it is meaningless that's why it is wonderful. I was going through a horrible time when I wrote this now I'm doing okay not completely good but kinda ok. I started training muay thai and I love it. Lol
I suppose m older den u... But I wish u were my elder brother... Everything u said works ..
If you feel depressed because of 2-3 years breakups then remember there are some people who had 20+ years of marriage before divorce and they still move on.
After long time people becomes bored
Your contact number pls, brother.. 🥺
@@avigyangogoi1062yeah so same goes with short time relationships
I am single and have never been in relationship ........ don't know why I am watching😅
Suno Manohar mere paas aa jao
ek bar aakar dekh le Bhai mai us raste se ho kar aaya hoon aur char din ho gaye wapis aaye ek bar chakar laga aa yaar
Us bro us 😂😂
Sabka number ata hai 😊
Bcz u don’t have anything better to do
Not the hero we deserved , but the hero we needed
Very nice advice
S Jaishankar sir😅
Just yesterday I was wondering if Chetan sir could make such a video I wanted somebody to push me out of it. Thank you♥️ back to my track again !!
Same here
Sir I work with Deloitte Usi and busy for the whole day. I am 29 and working on marriage prospects( Though not successful yet). I like your mantra of detachment, and focus on my work which really helps me ignore the stuff ( Icing part). Keep making these kind of videos. We guys need it Sir
Push yourself
same here bro .
Chal cheete.. aage badh!! 👊🏼
I can relate this to myself as ended up wasting 2.5 years post breakup at a very crutial age while writing CAT. Thankfully, recovered from the loss in time & did MBA from one of the top Institute in India and saved my career. So true, Sir.
Good brother
Grt, I have wasted almost a year. Nd still going through it.
@@globe_gossips hnnn to chtya ho isha kriya kro tim hai to dusri dhund lo usse pyaar mt time pass krna khelo khudo kuch intresting sikho paisa kamao bhai
@@priyeshchoubey3884 Sahi h Bhai 4 line me life khatm krdi tumne to😂😂😂😂😂
salay yeh MBA walo kay sath e kyu hamesha hota hai
Chetan Bhagat सर , इसी तरह जागरूक करते रहिए हम भटके हुए युवकों को, सर आपके इस कार्य के लिए हम आपके सदा आभारी रहेंगे
2:50 - 3:50 Pain of break-up== Pain of death
Fantastically explained
Mujhe mera pain yaad aa gaya 🫡
Every new generation kid should listen to all this. This is very crutial and important
Guys, what sir has said is absolutely correct. Trust me, literally, I am the guy sir is talking about in the video. It's been two years since my break up and fortunately I started doing the same thing sir said and I am far better than before. I watched this video after two years and felt proud that I did the right thing...... Change is massive psychologically and physically......just keep going.....there is light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you sir for this video......I am sure this will save a lot lives. ❤️
Bhai aap break up me. se kaise baher aaye ho batoge
How you come out of breakup pain ?
Been disturbed for about 1 year . called her on her birthday, wished her and she immediately cut my call . That day I realise what's mine value for her . Immediately I block her on everything , feeling good now . She teached me a good lesson. Moreover I don't have nothing bad for her in my heart. Realised that everybody has a right to choose. 😌
I needed this video badly today...not only for breakup but also a big understanding of life...Thanks Chetan Bhagat Sir for this video
Chetan bhagat is gem💎. he is actually making video which younger generation is facing.
I can relate to this topic very well. My ex husband decided to divorce me and I wasn’t prepared for it. It came all of a sudden. It was very challenging for me and it took almost 5 years to come out of it. With time your wound heals but scar is still there. Just want to say not men but women also goes through the same way as men do during their break up or divorce.
Mere shaath bhi yahi huwa he bohat pain huwa he ? Abhi kya kar rahe ho
Stay strong that's the only way
Now r u married or not ??
I almost wasted 1.5 years in breakup pain. Stay happy, find new girl. Career, wealth and power is what you need to success. Not a girlfriend. You will get a good deserving one after success.
Line-" aapko lagta hai ki samne vala aapki value badha rha hai , jo ki sahi nahi hai"
sir you just change my thinking ....!! From my heart❣ .. thank you soooo much Sir..!😊🤗
Well said Chetan sir! , I think it would be better if someone left you at the right time so that you can avoid wasting more time which could have been wasted.
Now once if she has gone ,you can utilise that saved time to make yourself worthy 🙏🏻
Well said 😯😯 what an intellectual statment 🙏🏻🙏🏻
once she is gone.... u will totally fucked up for 1-2 years
@@mdakifsiddiqui4597 true but re read his comments. If suppose she is not gone till 2022 you will be still in dillusion that she is with you. And if its destined for her to leave she will leave in 2023. But imagine she left you in 2020 may be your 1yr will go waste in crying and thinking about past...but atleast 2022 will bring back your Life.
This is my condition right now. And this comment made me think alot.
She got married last yr and in April 1 yr got completed yet i am thinking about her but this comment really made me think alot about what i am doing emotionally to myself
🙂Pain is directly proportional to attachment and the Golden precious time one spends with her/him
Thanks for being the guiding light to the youth and our upcoming generation. Great content big brother and an amazing use of your fame.
Breakup is a wake up call if take it positively 🤣😅😅
Dil ko thapaad maar ke line pe le aate ho Boss !! Its great the way you give a direction.
This video helped me a lot. Thank you, Sir. My ex broke up with me a few months ago, and now she is getting married. It's clear that she moved on very quickly in life. I was stuck emotionally, but finally, I am learning to let go of the situation and focus on myself and my life.
How do you manage these things?
@@gauravvashisth3415 Take as much time as needed. You are going to feel very bad for maybe 2-3 months, and nothing can be done about that. Try to keep yourself distracted as much as possible. You will still remember her, obviously, but that is part of the healing procedure. Don't get into another relationship right away because it may not be worth it, and if possible delete everything like pictures, videos, etc. of hers from your phone. If it is not possible, then save them somewhere you don't access regularly at least and delete them from your phone. If possible, do things that take your mind off the matter, like going to gym...or you can join a club or something, but whatever you do, surround yourself with people - who are not romancing each other. In 2-3 months, you will be in a much better place :) all the best.
Same here she got married after being in 10 yrs of relationship. Its been 1 yr for her marriage i am still into my past and memories also destroyed my career couldn't able yo focus. I know this is wrong i also know she has moved on i also know what i should do for me and my family but yet each and every passing day my emotions are not controlled and it is just destroying my career. I am 30 and still jobless giving govt exams but couldn't focus on studies. Was very close to selection in 2021 but she left and everything goy destroyed. I was working hard from 2016 for govt exams for me my family and both of us and specially for her Father so that due to caste difference he would accept me.. but she left me saying parents are everything for her 26 yrs > 10 yrs. And now i am in paind and grief i was working and wasted my 4-5 teenager time of making career for her and she got married. I also know nothing is left now. She is married. She got physical. Like nothing is left. Yet I don't have any other option now. Due to her my parents too got hurt. They consider her daughter and she committed to marry me but she ran away . My parents are worried about my career. I am 30 yrs with no skills and only option for me is working hard and focusing on my study and take that govt job but really i can't focus on my mind. That intensity is lost. No control on emotions. Uninstalling installing Instagram for lakhs of time yet controlling to not look at the chats and account. Really dont know where my life is going. 2021 was the year i was so close to crack my govt exam but everything got ruined. Yoga meditation prayam did everything... self talking everyday. Yet couldn't forget her. Also seeing couple on Insta make me feel cry. I have stopped travelling too. I live in Pune those memories flashes.. my exams are near i also gave many exams recently yet couldn't clear pre exam where there was a time i used to clear pre exams easily. This is last and final moments for me . My parents are waiting for my success. I know everything. I know being emotionally weak just not gonna work. I also know if i didn't forget the past it will just delay my success. This is my last attempt. I really want this badly. What i started i want to finish it . Not for her not for her dad who said 5 yrs he couldn't clear the exam he will bring you on road . But for me. My self respect. My parents and my future Life. I hope i live my life how i used to live. I hope i can laugh whole heartedly again. I hope i be the idol son for my parents.
14/5/2022 . 3.36PM , Pune
@@vikrant_bhise bhai sab ke saath hota hai,mai bhi abhi aisi condition me hu
Bass himmat rakho aur ek baat suno bhai jaane waalo ko sirf ek glti ki talaash rehti hai ya ek bahane ki, wo aapko deserve nhi krti thi kismat aapki nhi uski kharaab hai,aap ab ache se pdho apne maa baap ke liye mehnat karo, i hope aap jaldi theek hojaayege !
@@vikrant_bhise Think about ur future and work hard forget the past it was for good
Not worth wasting ur life
Sir mene breakup se overcome k liye bhut sare videos dekhe but this video hit my mind
Thanku sir u r great sir 🎉
My pleasure!
Bhai ek baar to career bana... kafi sari acchi ladki mill jayegi... baki 1 week main sab thik ho jata hain...bass subhe thodi runing kar liya Karo
Thank you sir for making us understanding how to overcome from this painful situation !!🙏🏻
Great job done Chetan . My blessings and good wishes. I am a doctor, will be happy to contribute anything .
सर आप सब जानते हैं मन की बात ।पता नहीं क्यू आप हर समस्या को बारिकियों के साथ सुलझाने की पूरी कोशिश करते हैं।आप ऐसे ही हमें रास्ता दिखाते रहें । बहुत सारी शुभकामनाएँ 🫂 आपके विचार इस पूँजीवादी प्यार के दौर में फ़िट बैठते हैं।
Koi kisi ke liye nahi rukta, Move on because the show must go on 🙂
Just keep in mind that smn one better is coming for you and uss insaan ki aukaat nahi thi aapne pyaar ki
It really helps and makes you strong I am a jee aspirant and going through same phase, this feeling motivates me to study more and hard
Sir this is the stuff of immature people. If someone is mature, then the person has the ability to take their life decisions. It's a blessing in disguise that an immature person shows true colors beforehand. Shaadi k baad esa insan will obviously make ur life hell, and then taking divorce is another big step. Celebrate that a loser shows true colors phle hi. Ye bhagwan jagah banate h kisi ache insan k liye 🙏
Wowwh
Yours right.
Exactly, just believe that someone worth your love is waiting for you and breakup is just a true gift given by nature so that u can meet smn that person destined by nature
@@vsancheti6433 right brother
We all are together and we with chetan sir will make best out of life. 😎
Sir, Salute to your guts for being so frank and open about these things. Guts lagte hai sir, par ap to IITian ho ap to musibaton ka samna karna kaafi pehle se seekh chuke ho. Keep inspiring us till the rest of your life. I wish more people could come up and say this, "main ladka hun isliye ladko ki perspective saamne rakh raha hun" without fearing the male bashing audience all around social media.
किताब ऐसी होनी चाहिए
जिसे पढ़कर व्यक्ति की जिंदगी बदल जाएं
और महान बनाने में अहम भूमिका निभाएं... 🤔
it's 6 months she left me...was very disturbed for 3 months nd she called nd said she has overcome ... seperation hurts bt the attachment kills...I just blocked her everywhere I can nd trying to move on nd get a fresh start...keep posting such contents ❤️thank you sir ❤️
Sir, this was the explanation I needed since 2 years, I wish k ye video 2 saal pehle upload hui hoti.... Thanks a billion Sir, you saved my time and my feelings, this will definitely help me to disinvest all my feelings from that person and to focus on rest of the people and things in my life (the cake) :)
May God shower lots of blessings on you and encourage you to come up with more such videos so that somone's life can be saved from getting ruined 🙏 :)
Hehe I had few months back and I thought it's the end of life but now I realised that how fool I was that I wasted the most valuable time of my life .... My dear young friends it's normal for a human being to feel such emotions but we are not tree we should try to move on , time heels everything..........by the way when I remember the past discussion between us I always laugh 🤣🤣🤣🤣
So meaningful message to our youths who have actually wasted so much time..
You touch really most needed topics..
🔥🔥🙏
गुरुवर आपकी मधुर वाणी एवं निश्छल भाव से की गई मेहनत बहुत ही सराहनीय है ईश्वर आपको और आपके परिवार को दीर्घ आयु प्रदान ...
Right video at right time of my life 🙂
What if this happens in married life? Your partner ditches you and leave. Not only the entire life of the other half but also the lives of the kids could be at stake. Getting ditched after marriage is much more vulnerable which can lead a person to depression.
True this! We really need to accept the one person with his pros and cons and stick to the same person unconditionally this the only way to sustain family culture of India which is best system for one's moral support and overall mental health.
@@ketakizambre6613 Well said, Ketaki ji. Love should always be unconditional otherwise, it's not love it's only infatuation.
बच्चे न करना ही समझदारी है।
@@ketakizambre6613 bahot Accha. Very true.
Better not marry
Sir u r really wrong this time.... I'm a girl n I wasn't able to handle breakup well. I did wasted my 2-3 years. I regret it a lot. My health n studies/ career just went down n down. I got soo stressed out that I got diagnosed with stress related diseases. I can't express that feeling of obsession. It made me exhausted mentally n physically. I was unable to focus. I used to constantly compare myself with others, forcing me to think what's wrong with me. I felt worthless. I doubted myself on everything. Confidence just went down. Wasted a lot of time on social media stalking. I agree with u when u compare death with breakup. After wasting 2-3 years, I'm now in a much better place, more stable. Only thing I'm scared of is that what if I end up wasting more time on this sadness n not letting go of that breakup. U r right. Sometimes there is no reason for a breakup. U just don't feel that way for someone but it's hard to accept that when u get dumped n r feeling horrible. Now for me time is more precious than money. I just don't want to waste my time obsessing over that person anymore n stalking that person on every social media platform available. I don't want that. I want to focus 100% on myself. I'm trying. I'm just scared what if I fall into that black hole again. But I can't be that weak. I won't allow my years of education go waste just bez of someone made my feel worthless n made me feel bad , horrible abt myself. I can't be that weak. I'll be stronger than ever especially in such challenging COVID times. It was a very long comment ;)!! Thank you. These talks helps a lot. I come from a very conservative family. Soo I can never discuss such things with my parents. I can't even imagine how they will react if ever I'll tell them such problems which I will not do obviously. This stunt can me more dangerous than Khatron ke Khiladi. Hence your videos n these heart to heart talks helps. Thanks a lot Chetan.
Distraction is key,, I am not a pro at it but when I feel this I try to distract myself in some other things,
And best way to feel better is by helping others and exploring nature
Dear it happens ...dont loose hope ..u will shine one day
Same thing happening with me , each and every line of yours is same and it feels really bad.
Same here, like you 😔
Thanks to Chetan sir
My all time favourite ❣️❣️
with U...
Don't know about breakup my love is Still One-Sided 🙂 And it is a wonderful feeling ❤️
Why didn't he want you?
Mine too.. its actually a wonderful feelings 😘😘💖💖💖
@@jinfin221 because she wanted a man better than thor richer than tony stark having values like captain america cute like korean attached and simp like k drama boy. Toh uske paas option nahi h kya woh nahi janta kya koi koi kyu uske peechhe attracted hain.
@@justforyou667 lol
Respect sir almost it's been 1 year and i felt that is my story and i need to improve myself now
Thank you 💝
More power to you
in my case , it's been 3-4 yrs , and i am still stuck in the past , too hard to move on .
I will thank god everyday for my break up(wasn't mutual breakup) because it helped me grow in life in more than one aspects you know......
You might think that there is no light at the end of the tunnel BUT THERE IS LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL my friend....
She left me 2 days before... May be it were my mistakes..and she doesn't feels love in me anymore... Now looking forward to recover from it... thankyou sir for guidance 🙌
I was in deep depressed since last few months, I get every answer just with Cake and Icing example. Thanks
Yes I was facing . Thanks for the thoughts you have shared in the right time .
Very well said Chetan Sir! Truly Inspiring and this video worth millions of likes ! More power to you 💯
Wow sir 🙏 hatsoff much needed video. It's been just a month since I'd my breakup been there done everything you said ruining my health MBA ka 2nd trimester personal contacts for a month. Later I realized ki wth I'm doing with my life for someone who's not here with me anymore. I packed my bag left my hostel where we both stayed together shifted to anew place far from her started a new life new friends started taking care of myself my health and studies and now I can proudly say ki Icing ati jati rehti hai bas Cake achha bake hona chahiye 🤗❤ and sir your words really helped me a lot ek clarity aa gyi ab life kuchh bhi ho jaye ek achha cake bna k hi chhodunga. Thanks a lot sir 🙏🤗❤
Whatever you said is absolutely correct. But the problem is its not easy to get out of that situation. The more we try to forget things , they came back more strongly to our brains. And the brain never stop thinking abt things that happened. Most of the time even unintentionally during break up phase we lose our concentration from our path. I believe ACCEPTANCE is better option. Accept that u r broken, accept that it will take time, accept that it may take years come out of that phase completely just remember that u dnt have to quit from doing constructive things in ur life. You might be improving very slowly bt keep improving. Oneday you will surpass this and achieve everything that u wanted to. JUST DNT QUIT.
Chetan Sir gives advice so sweetly n in a right direction to us. 🤗
Mind Blowing Session !
Just another great video 💯☺️, Thank you sir❤️
What a great Man😍
Sir I have been passing my days in such stupid things as you mentioned, today I realized.
Thanks legend 😊
Perfect timing sir. Thanks for gear up.
So deeply explained, resonated to the core of my heart.
I am grateful 🙏 to have caring ❤️ people like you guiding us through our lives.
😂 1 year, 2 years
So true Sir ❤️
Thanks a lot.... Well said sir.... Plz don't leave or delete your videos
U giving me hope.. U r not like achrya prasant.. U actually a new person with new thought and hope
Thank you so much sir for better guidance🙏🙏🙏🙏
Much needed video for me at this phase of my life .I really admire you sir lots of respect to u😊
A great pathfinder & friend also..
Salute you Chetan sir..👏🏻👏🏻
Heath hedger said in The Dark Knight "Does it depress you? To know just how alone you really are??" .. One must learn to detach from everything whether it be money, person or anything in case if you dont have that in future you dont go into depression :)
You made my day sir. Thank you for this beautiful and motivational thought.
Once again Thank You Sir😊❤️
You are the best sir for discussing this!! 💘💥🎉🎉👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Now that's the thing.. Everything i thought about to move is what you're are saying.. Thank you for making this sir ❤🙌
Hi sir, I don't know if you would read my comment. But, I was cheated by my boyfriend and he even tried to sexually assault me while I was with him. Broke up just 2 weeks back and this video has given me that little strength I needed to pick my self up. Probably the best thing you have done is starting this CZcams channel. If you ever happen to stumble across my comment or happen to read it, all I want to say is Thank you!! This word is small but I am soo grateful to you I can't put it in words. I have an entrance exam during Nov end. And I need to buckle up and channelise all that energy towards clearing this exam and joining the college that I am aiming for. I know there's someone better for me out there, and that I'll have my own experience of a two states story some day :))
Time heals everything.. N you'll come up much much stronger & unshakable!
With tym.. With maturity... You'll realize all you need is u.. If its out of ur hands.. it deserves to be out of the mind as well.!
Amazing sir, the way you taught biggest thing in such a easy way...
Thank you for the video sir. Your breakup series have changed my way of taking things in life as I am going through the same phrase it has helped to overcome.
Sometimes i really hate you, but you are narrating the reality of today's male population especially mid-20s thats why i love you very much.. i know it's harsh but that is what reality is and this what we are running away.
Kudos to you sir.♥️♥️♥️
What a timming sir i really need this lect..😍😍
Mai bata nahi sakta sir ki kitna jyaada relate kiya hu aapki baaton se....
Alfaz nahi hai bolne ke liye , kitna acche se samjhaya hai.
Cake ka example is the key word for explaining such a difficult topic..
So much love to you sir ...
Always control Dopamine... Thank u sir 🙏
Thanks for being our mentor 💖
Thank you sir. This was amazing. Not something I will watch & forget over time. This was a lifetime learning. Million dollar teaching sir.
You're amazing man!🤘♥️ Aur koi ayegi better ayegi...
some guys are in imaginary relationship and still can't get over someone :) :)
I can relate 😅
Girls are mature and boys cant get over someone easily it's true.boys take more time to get over this breakups and all
It's because guys invest so much in a relationship!
The key is trust your gut, if it says the other person is giving red flags then just see those red flags and back off because eventually things will get worse only.
Perhaps the best video on recovering from a heartbreak on the entire internet. Thanks Sir. I have fallen in love with you now. ❤What a practical and a positive person you are!!
Thanks a lot!
Sir I'm glad I found your channel. Massive respect and lots of love❤
So nice of you. Thank you!
New to this channel .. I have binge watched lot of your videos. Thank you for making them . 😊
Sir, I think you have a good experience in this field.
sir aap apni breakup story batao kabhi.....
jo jo chahta h ki sir ki breakup story sab sune to like kare😍
Sir, I think you should cover how Break Up for guys and girls is different. By none of Girl's fault and immense amount of options available to them, I feel they move on much fast
@radhika ofcourse it's true.
Yes much needed topic for current relationship thanks alot sir keep it up 💪👌💯
@@yourwellwisher6844 you too take care
Don't afraid to learn continuously because Life never stops Teaching ❤️👍
Chetan sir it was wonderful video... You explained it very well what is more important for an individual at very moment when he is suffering from such mess... I remember when I was in that situation 7 years ago I cutted off my self from people around me, took my time to realise what to do next... I didn't have any guru or any friend at that time as I said I cutted off my self from people around me ... one has to spent some time alone to reconstruct yourself... I came out of that situation on my own ... What ever things you have said it is utter truth 🙂
Thanks for being a best mentor of my life Sir ...
"Bad Wala" breakup is one of new things and so hard to handle it.... ... Thanks chetan sir...
Perfect example of relationship with analogy of life. My example is completely opposite, I have a full cake in front of me but icing is the only thing missing. Being through many heart breaks but always stood tall and stronger then before
eye opener 👍😀 much needed this motivational worlds Chetan sir thankyu🙏
Really sir..... ur words is so impressive and true ....i feel in life.. Do something new.... Thanks a lot sir....
Really appreciated the efforts by Chetan sir. ...he is reading the comment and liking them
Thanks a lot sir for such a great video❤️🙏. Dosto aukat bnao accept kro or move on kro apni personality improve kro apna better version bno career me achha grow kro apne goal pr focus kro AUKAT BNAO jb success hogi usse better milega sb 100% sahi h ye bat jo b hua achha hua. Success bolti h dost don't be a chhuthiya majnu don't be a looser be a winner❤️best of luck dosto👍
Wonderful topic Sir.
It's wonderful for me because it's very close to my situation.
On third January 2022 the icing of my cake totally melt after checking fb profile of my past. I remember I didn't ate that night, I was crying.
But fortunately I used to watch your videos daily to be motivated. Next day I watch your breakup series once again . Break up ke fayde, ek bus se utar kar dusri me chadha, that's what I was doing.
Well right now I am focusing on three important pillars of my life that is CHR. Relationship with my family and friends. And this time I'm not in a hurry bus pe chadhne ke liye.
How to deal with this situation?
So I'm trying to be more busy, trying to be more focussed on my studies
trying to be better in life.
Jo hota hai achcha hota hai.
This new year gives me a new experience
how to deal with emotions.
Thank you once again sir for this video and for your all videos, especially break up series. They are helpful to accept reality of life. Thanks once again sir.
Rona dhona raha alag abhi toh thak gayi wahi bad memories baar baar yaad kar k... Bas ab aur nhiii. Kuch fayda toh hua nhii so it's better to stop as you said thank you sir........ for huge support to handle strong attachment wali feeling.
New chij try karna suru kar do akele rehna band karo ye kaam karta hai mai bhi yahi try kar raha hu..... (:
If someone leaves you whatever for a reason just let them Go first and accept that person isn't made for you..say Ok then Goodbye
Once a over it should be OVER!!
Chetan sir making the light for us huge respect for you sir🙏