“I Don’t Think I Can Truly Be Happy Until I Retire” | DeMar & JJ On The Side Of Sports We Don't See

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  • čas přidán 27. 09. 2022
  • Our guest this week is none other than the remarkable, DeMar ReRozan (The Chicago Bulls). This is his second appearance and as great as the first one was... this might be even better. In this clip, JJ and DeMar have an extremely open and vulnerable conversation around mental health and pro sports. The full episode drops tomorrow.
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Komentáře • 208

  • @JJRedick
    @JJRedick  Před rokem +372

    This is why we do the pod. Trust me there are a couple other moments in the ep that'll surely go viral but we decided to lead off with this because it's such an important conversation to be had. Shoutout DeMar for being so open and vulnerable. The full ep goes up tomorrow morning so subscribe if you haven't already.

    • @nocapkobster4394
      @nocapkobster4394 Před rokem +10

      This is what makes this pod powerful, this kind of convo can only come from two players who respect each other being open. Much thanks for putting out great content!

    • @handfullofsean
      @handfullofsean Před rokem +5

      happiness is not a straight line. Beautiful

    • @zachtuesday
      @zachtuesday Před rokem +1

      LOVE YEW JJ

    • @Joshuaeway03
      @Joshuaeway03 Před rokem +1

      Galatians 1:10 God Bless yal

    • @raytrevino3184
      @raytrevino3184 Před rokem

      He really thought he could be kawhi and win a chip for Toronto. Needs to check in to a mental ward asap

  • @sheasmith9902
    @sheasmith9902 Před rokem +564

    As someone that’s dealt with anxiety/depression and suicidal thoughts, I love athletes like DeMar and K. Love. Love this pod for showing that NBA players aren’t just a commodity, and that they’re human beings too. Love you DeMar!! You got this man, we got this!!

  • @Spider-ManHQ
    @Spider-ManHQ Před rokem +200

    Shout out to DeRozan…dude is real

    • @JJRedick
      @JJRedick  Před rokem +63

      He's such a great guy.

    • @Spider-ManHQ
      @Spider-ManHQ Před rokem +35

      @@JJRedick I’m so glad you’ve chosen this route for yourself, post career. It’s so awesome hearing these conversations and how people in your past profession operate on a daily basis. Great stuff and insight.

    • @chrisisslick
      @chrisisslick Před rokem +1

      Went INNN last season too!

    • @andrewabraham5109
      @andrewabraham5109 Před rokem

      @@JJRedick jj, you should have julius randle sometime during the season or even rj barrett or jalen brunson.

  • @jeffmcdonald75
    @jeffmcdonald75 Před rokem +252

    IMO it’s easy for people to see pro athletes as “more than human” which it not fair. That’s why channels like this are so important. Keep it coming.

    • @jamesgj5939
      @jamesgj5939 Před rokem +8

      A lot of people see pro athletes as less than human, just products--that's why so many people are happy to constantly bash players

    • @AyoDosTres
      @AyoDosTres Před rokem +12

      And they always justify it by saying they're making millions of dollars... yea true but that doesn't mean they don't have their own problems and battles

    • @ubereats3047
      @ubereats3047 Před rokem +10

      @@AyoDosTres I’d rather be depressed and rich than depressed and poor

    • @HoodieOuttaTokyo
      @HoodieOuttaTokyo Před rokem

      @@ubereats3047 man shut the hell up, please do

    • @jeffhardy6333
      @jeffhardy6333 Před rokem +3

      @@AyoDosTres I’d LOVE to have battles with millions in the bank

  • @hyj4ck
    @hyj4ck Před rokem +148

    As a Canadian, I miss this guy in Toronto. Became a Raptors fan because of him. Such a good player and a genuine person.

    • @The_Shah_Show
      @The_Shah_Show Před rokem +4

      Same here miss him a ton. I remember the days before his rise but DeMar was such a great change of pace for the franchise, definitely the pioneer of our current culture and still my all time favorite player

    • @kanantony4423
      @kanantony4423 Před rokem +3

      Would love for him to retire as a Raptor

    • @greenmatrix151023387
      @greenmatrix151023387 Před rokem +2

      1 of the best raptors ever. He brought the raptors the best season.

  • @JoeTheBlacksmith13
    @JoeTheBlacksmith13 Před rokem +71

    This is so much deeper than sports. This is the kind of stuff that creates cultural shifts. Being real, honest, vulnerable, etc… and much needed healing.

  • @martyc1960
    @martyc1960 Před rokem +86

    "The toughest thing about being a success is that you've got to keep on being a success." -Irving Berlin. Great Podcast.

  • @ptyten9718
    @ptyten9718 Před rokem +29

    This is what it means to be a man. A few men have become famous off this rhetoric that being a man is about being dominant, ignoring your feelings and having a bunch of women but being a man is to be brave enough to admit you can't be strong all the time, seeking therapy and being vulnerable without thinking it's a "feminine" trait. These are the type of dudes we should be looking up to.

  • @fireshadowblade9
    @fireshadowblade9 Před rokem +111

    This reminds me of the part in The Last Dance where they talked about what a typical day for Jordan was like: being surrounded by press, fans, and paparazzi all day, constant interviews and filming commercials, work out deals, then go and drop 40 in a game and maybe take the game winning shot before finally coming back to his hotel room for quiet the first time, then do it all again the next day. How most people couldn't take the pressure of "Being Like Mike"

    • @ninjedi6710
      @ninjedi6710 Před rokem +5

      I'd happily trade him for my life as an employee in a third world country.

    • @randomdudez00
      @randomdudez00 Před rokem +6

      Hit me hard when he said "A lot of people say they’d like to be Michael Jordan for a day or for a week, but let them try to be Michael Jordan for a year and see if they like it.” Really makes you realize that it's not as easy as it is.

    • @randomdudez00
      @randomdudez00 Před rokem +5

      @@ninjedi6710 Yeah I still think most people would but the point was it's not as fun or easy as people think

    • @godnotavailable2094
      @godnotavailable2094 Před rokem +5

      Being famous sounds awful. Of course being a god-level athlete on a basketball court full of other god-level athletes sounds fun as hell for a game or two, but everything that goes on behind that would just ruin it for me.

    • @joseibarra7735
      @joseibarra7735 Před rokem +2

      Scary thing is that media has grown since then so the average player experiences so much more external pressure than players of the past. Then imagine how much worse it is now for superstars like lebron who grew his fame alongside modern media to how it is. If Jordan admitted it was hard than when he didn’t have deal with Twitter/Insta slander than it’s def hard for players of today too.

  • @jasongallagher41
    @jasongallagher41 Před rokem +15

    Top to bottom this is one of the best clips I can remember editing. Shoutout JJ and DeMar for going there.

    • @BhoopeshBhola01
      @BhoopeshBhola01 Před rokem

      You are the editor.
      Kudos mannnnnnnnn
      Really valuable video.

  • @rahsupremetv9358
    @rahsupremetv9358 Před rokem +11

    Thank you for this sit down as someone who deals with depression and anxiety always good to see it being discussed.

    • @sciurbs5787
      @sciurbs5787 Před rokem +1

      Hope you keep taking it step by step and continue getting better everyday in fighting it, and staying afloat. God bless man

  • @DavidBagga
    @DavidBagga Před rokem +22

    Every episode of the old man and the three pod gets better. Great to see the players open up and be vulnerable about important issues too. Keep up the great work JJ and Tommy! 👌🏽🏀

  • @christianmedrano307
    @christianmedrano307 Před rokem +3

    Just had a conversation with my mom about putting too much pressure on myself. Be happy where you are so far and enjoy the journey because everyday is a blessing. Respect to you guys! Love the pod🤙

  • @sethfaulkner7158
    @sethfaulkner7158 Před rokem +1

    So much respect for demar. An absolute prime example of a leader and winner. Leaving a positive impact everywhere he’s been. We miss you in Canada

  • @YvngGoat_
    @YvngGoat_ Před rokem +18

    I know this has nothing to do with him, but I credit guys like LeBron who are able to be so mentally strong when people are hating, and scrutinizing him every second of the day for him since he was in high school, to still be able to compete at a high level year after year but also not always give in to what the critics have to say is astonishing.

    • @kobe4576
      @kobe4576 Před rokem +1

      Literally. Great comment

    • @nitoshadow
      @nitoshadow Před rokem +1

      He been loved and having ppl d ride him for the longest he get more love than hate imo

    • @joseibarra7735
      @joseibarra7735 Před rokem +3

      @@nitoshadow I agree but you definitely can’t ignore how loud the lebron haters are, no matter how small a population they are.

  • @DoJoStan
    @DoJoStan Před rokem +10

    We miss you in Toronto, Demar! Still one of my favorite players in the league!

  • @DukesVerrill
    @DukesVerrill Před rokem +1

    It's nice to see players have a "safe place" being on this pod. There's no clickbait, tryhard narratives/titles. It's a genuine conversation about various topics w/ athletes.

  • @Paperbagman555
    @Paperbagman555 Před rokem +2

    DeMar is a superb interview, just all class. seems like a very warm, down to earth, open and introspective person. Loved the one he did with Shannon sharpe as well. He seems more willing to go a bit deeper than other stars

  • @norestwicked6125
    @norestwicked6125 Před rokem +2

    I just loved hearing this kind of psychosocial talk from genuine dudes.
    Great stuff man

  • @denigster
    @denigster Před rokem

    wishing demar only the best - he feels like an honest real nice person to everyone

  • @xo999.
    @xo999. Před rokem +8

    Most humble man in the NBA #RAPTORS4L

  • @elhadjndiaye8031
    @elhadjndiaye8031 Před rokem +1

    looking forward to the full ep, DeMar you're my guy, no BS. Your game is so pretty my guy and JJ keep the hustle going. one Love..

  • @EphremSalvation
    @EphremSalvation Před rokem +2

    This is gonna be such a good episode

  • @Jalynn00
    @Jalynn00 Před 10 měsíci +1

    I always comeback to this when I’m feeling down about myself

  • @TheJerry93
    @TheJerry93 Před rokem +3

    Basketball season is around the corner and these podcasts are back. 👌

  • @linkdan9
    @linkdan9 Před rokem +1

    Demar is such a smart guy, likeable and also a bucket! He a real one

  • @roxy_hernandez
    @roxy_hernandez Před rokem +3

    This one hurt, these are HUGE life changes. You’ve got to be there mentally. Mentality plays a big role in your decisions and your future. Don’t give up!!! #motivation

  • @onlythestrong04
    @onlythestrong04 Před rokem +9

    Even after retirement men we are always going to have that burden of still wanting to be great and push the boundaries and to earn our place in society.

  • @lucafigueiredo6005
    @lucafigueiredo6005 Před rokem +1

    Debo is a great player and great human. He's the reason I became a raptors and basketball fan.

  • @CheffinStefen
    @CheffinStefen Před rokem +1

    Yup. This idea that because you fell in love with a sport and are good enough to make a lot of money doing it at the highest level, “you signed up for it.” The “it” being the mental pressure, the negativity, rudeness from the fans, the expectation of perfection. Mental health days are real, even at my 9-5. Imagine how real they are for guys with the lights constantly shining on them. It’s just… an interesting world we live in to say the least

  • @Valnak
    @Valnak Před rokem

    Can’t wait for the whole episode. Thank you all

  • @Logan-Speaking-Facts-Again

    Poor demar. You deserve to be happy whether you are playing on not brother. I respect you bro.

  • @patrickneal1061
    @patrickneal1061 Před rokem

    The part that was mentioned about not being hard on yourself is something I struggle with daily. Part of the problem was how I grew up but the other part is that often times the feeling of showing flaws or exposing myself has often led to criticism of being sensitive and having toughen up all the while struggling on the inside. What has helped me has been my faith in God and having a prayer time but I feel what would also help is being able to share my weaknesses with others and having genuine care rather than be told or feel like you gotta get over it.

  • @shadareesh1301
    @shadareesh1301 Před rokem +1

    Love the honesty of Demar ❤️

  • @EmilioLeall
    @EmilioLeall Před rokem

    Love This so much JJ , love hearing you guys talk and open about personal struggles it

  • @ksheavyhitter25
    @ksheavyhitter25 Před rokem

    Always great conversations with DeMar.

  • @willieneal6312
    @willieneal6312 Před rokem

    As someone who struggled with a lot, trust and believe a lot of people who have been faced with the same circumstances it’s about how you perceive yourself

  • @sloanNYC
    @sloanNYC Před rokem

    Being in the public eye and PERFORMING on a huge stage, that kind of pressure on top of just being human is intense.

  • @JohnMFlores
    @JohnMFlores Před rokem

    Thank you, Demar.

  • @himlaac6334
    @himlaac6334 Před rokem +1

    Toronto loves you Deebo please drop 50 pts on our heads this season 🙏

  • @mhelmanalo6345
    @mhelmanalo6345 Před rokem

    nice stuff, learned a lot, and much respect to DeMar and JJ

  • @Augrills
    @Augrills Před rokem

    Love DeMar. He’s an artist out there.

  • @DNGR369
    @DNGR369 Před rokem

    Working extremely hard is extremely hard.. I hope the emotional side for Demar is lessened knowing he's achieving amazing things personally, and giving hope to alot of people.

  • @L_Renegadez
    @L_Renegadez Před rokem +4

    Damn this video hits 🔥🔥

  • @shellymoore4874
    @shellymoore4874 Před rokem

    Staying focused, eyes ahead. The light is there! I've been on this journey for almost two years. I refuse to go back. I suffered. I cried. I hurt. My body hurt. But i was pulled up from what could have destroyed me. My focus is on our Youth. So they can stay of their innocence. I will fight for them till GOD calls me Home🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💕💕💕💕💕💕

  • @MotorsportCres
    @MotorsportCres Před rokem

    We're all human brother. thank you for being yourself.

  • @KobaniacMinded
    @KobaniacMinded Před rokem +2

    I'm glad they both shared some real emotions and money can only mask the problems people face if you were unhappy with a dollar 30 mill ontop of that same dollar you'll still be unhappy. Athletes work they whole life for that 30 plus million but we've seen billionaires jump from buildings because they are unhappy. Check on loved ones and stay focused people

  • @paragongorilla5361
    @paragongorilla5361 Před rokem

    I can understand it man. Pro athletes have that drive that some of us can only dream of.

  • @probablypondering1657
    @probablypondering1657 Před rokem +11

    Man it’s crazy how our brains adjust to what we have. 14 year old Demar would be so stoked at all times living the life he is now but we get so used to what we have we always create things to bring us down.

  • @dante9526
    @dante9526 Před rokem +5

    This platform humanizes these one out of a million world class athletes like no other media platform. And I think that’s so essential and imperative for the casual sport fans to understand. We tend to not treat and look at these athletes as what they are… H U M A N S

  • @James-vw7sv
    @James-vw7sv Před rokem

    man this makes me like him even more!!!!

  • @doodoopoop435
    @doodoopoop435 Před rokem +7

    “I can’t be happy until......” is a trap. Don’t fall for that Demar.

  • @TOShorts
    @TOShorts Před rokem +3

    Anytime someone says “I Don’t Think I Can Truly Be Happy Until...." is a red flag to me.

  • @jastrology4192
    @jastrology4192 Před rokem +1

    DeMar steps up though. He’s figured out a system that seems to be working for him. Awesome player to watch.

  • @nicholasgomez8450
    @nicholasgomez8450 Před rokem

    So proud we get him to ball in a Bulls uniform

  • @craigferguson3433
    @craigferguson3433 Před rokem

    love this

  • @harunskywalker4942
    @harunskywalker4942 Před rokem +2

    True freedom/happiness comes from worshipping God as opposed to our desires, from fulfilling one’s purpose. The human consists of a body and a soul. Each has its sustenance. If you adequately feed both your body and soul, in a balanced way, you will be happy. The sustenance of the body is worldly things (food, drink, nice things etc) and the sustenance of the soul is otherworldly things (sincerity towards God, acts of worship etc).
    You get this and you don’t need anything else

  • @frostythesnowman4484
    @frostythesnowman4484 Před rokem +3

    Do more bulls players interviews, get my boy Ayo in here.. I'm also a Duke fan from Chicago lmao ! #SeeRed #Devils 😈

  • @ravinwong4726
    @ravinwong4726 Před rokem +1

    Looooooove this!’

  • @rizzothetruth609
    @rizzothetruth609 Před rokem

    Humble!!!!

  • @Airotnas
    @Airotnas Před rokem

    spelled DeMar's last name wrong in the description, but I can't wait for the full pod

  • @youtubecontent6394
    @youtubecontent6394 Před rokem

    Wow, JJ, I feel so bad for you. Infinite wealth, how dare I!

  • @KingKobra49
    @KingKobra49 Před rokem +6

    Anybody reading this,it’s a daily reminder that GOOD things take time. You got this, keep working and everything is going to be just fine I promise 🤞🏽🫶🏼

  • @Peekul1
    @Peekul1 Před rokem

    That's why I am glad to be off FB.

  • @Nerdificationing
    @Nerdificationing Před rokem

    Demar is a great role model. This drive to want to work hard and be better is what separates people like Demar from Ben Simmons.

  • @MILK69996
    @MILK69996 Před rokem

    I can so relate 🙂

  • @Ryancelot
    @Ryancelot Před rokem

    Goes to show how crazy Kobe Bryant is. Demar got burnt out from grinding to get better everyday, which is normal, and we all do, but damn my boi Kobe on a different plane. If you rank the hardest workers in the nba on a pedestal, Kobe would be on the top working out on said pedestal. His mental strength did not waiver and he always put it the work.

  • @keenh1075
    @keenh1075 Před rokem

    The realest in the league

  • @AxelFoley-sb5re
    @AxelFoley-sb5re Před rokem

    It always looks like he has a mouthpiece in lol. Good guy.

  • @AntonChigurh989
    @AntonChigurh989 Před rokem

    True

  • @billhillgoat1968
    @billhillgoat1968 Před rokem

    That’s why I have no social media man. In the 2000s social media was about enjoying each other company. Now it’s literally nothing but everybody in completion with everybody. I use to hate on people cause I was like damn “I ain’t doing nothing with my life!” But then once I got off social media I was like , bruh they millionaires. I’m 29 making $400 a week. I shouldn’t be depressed about millionaires lol i should just live my life and do the best I can with what I got.

  • @James-vw7sv
    @James-vw7sv Před rokem +1

    this just goes to show that money isnt everything

  • @cameronpalmer401
    @cameronpalmer401 Před rokem +2

    Imagine if 10 trips to therapy could fix you, I wish. Therapy has had me reveal a lot about myself. Im a work in progress lol, I'm trying though.

  • @malcolmpollock4641
    @malcolmpollock4641 Před rokem +1

    He’s literally posting Kevin Gates lyrics word for word… - “Grandmother Grave”

  • @Andreonsixers
    @Andreonsixers Před rokem

    Winning cures all of that

    • @sciurbs5787
      @sciurbs5787 Před rokem

      the reason he feels down i doubt is because hes not won a chip, not how it works

    • @Andreonsixers
      @Andreonsixers Před rokem

      @@sciurbs5787 then he should retire to find happiness. Why do something in which u don’t find happiness in

    • @sciurbs5787
      @sciurbs5787 Před rokem +1

      @@Andreonsixers when he retires itll probably be the same thing he wont fully be happy. so 🤷‍♂️

  • @tinobrown1780
    @tinobrown1780 Před rokem +2

    You don’t have to be done JJ. You can join the Big 3 😁

  • @SwitchB
    @SwitchB Před rokem

    Took a shot everytime he said " you know " off to the hospital now. Wish me luck.

  • @sherwoodmarksman2379
    @sherwoodmarksman2379 Před rokem

    This has to be his MvP Season he had one last year

  • @adamsaleh11
    @adamsaleh11 Před rokem

    Raptors miss you bro

  • @KrisGarland
    @KrisGarland Před rokem

    Miss being happy

    • @Ez3s
      @Ez3s Před rokem +1

      Happiness is a choice, but it’s entirely up to you. Hope you establish your peace soon.

    • @KrisGarland
      @KrisGarland Před rokem

      @@Ez3s I wish I was happy why wouldn’t i? But things always go wrong or get in the way when hopes get too high. Thanks tho

    • @supwititproductionz3738
      @supwititproductionz3738 Před rokem

      @@Ez3s You have a very poor understanding of mental health issues, lol

  • @LosHavin
    @LosHavin Před rokem +1

    real talk :40-:59 fashoo

  • @stonediggy6385
    @stonediggy6385 Před rokem

    jj that guy

  • @user-lq1zz4zf2v
    @user-lq1zz4zf2v Před rokem

    Love DeMar but it’s sad that people wasn’t giving Ben Simmons this much love when he addressed his mental health issues. It’s obviously not a competition but all should be respected

  • @samnangchea5025
    @samnangchea5025 Před rokem

    As a Canadian, hope he retires in Toronto!

  • @CP4Z167
    @CP4Z167 Před rokem

    Love Lowry but Demar my favorite Raptor of all time

  • @vagitarian68419
    @vagitarian68419 Před rokem

    Thanks reminding us that professional sports are played by people not nba2k robots

  • @Firefoxav26
    @Firefoxav26 Před rokem

    JJ was really crying about that new out of pocket max lol

  • @breezy4169
    @breezy4169 Před rokem +1

    Can you interview Tyrese maxey his mindset to workout is crazy can't wait to see him play this season

  • @jeffhardy6333
    @jeffhardy6333 Před rokem +3

    Millionaires that play a sport for a living complaining about their problems is something. Y’all are complaining about missing shots in a shoot around when there’s people out there who are homeless and starving? Whatever man😂

  • @colbydoee
    @colbydoee Před rokem

    NBA players are depressed too im fucked 😔

  • @ALLCAPVIDEOS
    @ALLCAPVIDEOS Před rokem

    Bro pops shouldn’t have took that sea moss

  • @menace2you995
    @menace2you995 Před rokem

    Mite retire without winning a ring; that hurts

  • @chrisneely3069
    @chrisneely3069 Před rokem +1

    Wish you was a Laker, Demar 😢

  • @lushi6150
    @lushi6150 Před rokem

    Demar is awesome. I wish if lakers took him instead off Russ

  • @Peter-hz3vs
    @Peter-hz3vs Před rokem +1

    I think it's better for Demar to figure it out before he retires. It is because according to research, the positive effect to happiness coming from life event would only last for 6 months. It is unlikely that Demar's mental problem would just go away when he retires especially retirement does come with financial and motivational pressure for top pro players. Hope he can keep working on his mental health. He really deserves to be happy comparing many athletes. No matter how depressed he maybe, he stays as professional as he can.

  • @ericwillyums6464
    @ericwillyums6464 Před rokem +1

    W

  • @ThaARossBoss
    @ThaARossBoss Před rokem +1

    Hey man, I’ve been there. Just want you to know God loves you. Jesus saves.

  • @debo6012
    @debo6012 Před rokem

    He gotta get stronger mentally

  • @Jets1
    @Jets1 Před rokem

    As a depressed and suicidal person I thought this would help me a little atleast but it actually doesn’t do anything.
    I don’t know why I shared this but just thought I would

  • @hisrealnameisjoesph
    @hisrealnameisjoesph Před rokem

    Jeff Nadu