THE 5 WEIRDEST HABITS OF INFJs (that we usually keep secret)
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- In this video I give my take on the INFJ personality types 5 Weirdest Habits. Of all the MBTI types, the INFJ is (in my opinion) by far the most unique.
The truth is us INFJs are deep, caring, and capable of doing so much - but we can also have some habits that other types might find, well, kinda weird!
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I don't know if this is an INFJ thing but complete strangers will tell me their life story and kids and animals are never afraid of me
Thanks Jay! I saw this quote today: "Give yourself 8-12 hours alone time in the morning, to get ready for the day." Works great!
LOL hilarious and TRUE 😂
AMEN LOL
😂😂😂😂
Does anyone else feel like it's their lot in life to be either...
1. Narc magnet
2. Devastatingly misunderstood
3.Alone in life (in every aspect romantic and platonic)
4. A punching bag for malcontented persons
5. An absolute failure by the measures of the world
Lately, I've just vacillated between active and passive suicidal idealation
I can relate to those bullet points. Please take the time to talk to a mental health professional or trusted person in your life. It makes me sad that you are struggling. Keep going!
I can relate to most of this. If I hadn't let Jesus into my life when I was 17, I don't think I would have lived past 20. I had a boyfriend who was a toxic controller, a serious narcissist, when I was 17, got married to a man who was not as bad as the boyfriend, but turned out to be an alcoholic and adulterer. He left me when I told him to go to AA. I was devastated, had a nervous breakdown and wanted to die, but Jesus got me through that. I grew a lot from the experience and it released creativity. I started to write poetry when I went through that and have written some real epics since then.
I have been single for the last 38 years, no boyfriends at all, and life has been much more peaceful because of it. Could not have done it without Jesus, though. Because of Him, I am not lonely because I am never alone.
For years, I craved for be understood, but eventually gave up and accepted that I am too complex for my friends and family to understand. Jesus understands me thoroughly.
Most of my family doesn't talk to me, and life is more peaceful because of it. I have a couple of people I consider close friends, but I wonder for how long. If they dump me, Jesus will catch me.
My mother measures things by status and property, so by her standards, I am a failure. I don't use her criteria for measuring success, though. Success to me is how obedient I am to what Jesus tells me to do, regardless of whether it is appreciated or not. He appreciates my obedience.
I am a writer, but I earn no money from it, and it doesn't matter to me. I was born to write, among other things.
My daughter had three children out of wedlock and I helped a lot with the two oldest, free babysitting, buying them things, took to them to fun and educational places, lots of restaurants trying out ethnic foods, gave them many happy childhood memories. The grandsons stay in contact with me. The older ones says he feels like I am the only family he has. The younger one has thanked me for always having his back. Helping them in their younger years is something I am proud of.
It doesn't matter what the world thinks. It's screwed up. Don't ever give up on life. It is a precious gift. You were born because you have something important to do to make the world a better place. Find out what it is.
Pull yourself together as far as being an INFJ is concerned, because that's all normal enough. I concur about calling someone for mental health help. It is so worth seeing how you are definitely not alone. Depression AND abuse want to isolate you. But it always turns out, you are NOT the only one. ❤️
Being an infj I have sudden urge to help u or make u happy . I wish we could be friends 🥺 . I pray things turn out good for u in future
Hi there, I feel this and I'm sorry for your hurt.
I'm not an expert in anything to do with mental health, aside from experiencing a lot of the stuff you are talking about. Please put your wellbeing first and only take on board things that feel right to you; ignore the rest.
I too am a 'failure' in the conventional sense, and am working part-time in a role well below my skill level, because that is all I can manage for the time being, after severe workplace bullying and financial almost-ruin. It took me nearly 20 years in corporate to realize that there are many people who thrive on bullying others (or worse) and being manipulative to an extreme degree.
It's really, really, really not about you, and it's not your fault. I promise. They may blame things on you and gaslight you (especially the narcs who, you are right, seem to be attracted to us or make up part of our family), but if YOU know your intentions, and you're doing your best to be a semi-decent human being who isn't intentionally nasty or manipulative (even if you get things wrong sometimes), then it's not your fault and they aren't worth listening to. (Have you ever noticed that people like that are happy to give 'feedback' about everything we do wrong, even if you never criticize them? They just like to pick at others for no reason). I am aware that saying 'just ignore them' isn't necessarily good, practical advice as things are often not that clear-cut.
Warped and power-hungry people go after people who are different to them in whatever way. If you research workplace bullying, I think in the UK, it was discovered that targets of bullies are often the most decent and hardworking people. That can be enough to set them off and target you.
Even close friends can be fickle and ghost us, through no fault of our own. Their lives get full and it is somewhat normal for people to drop out of our lives. As an INFJ this can still hurt a lot though, and we may not ever get an explanation. Even with our closest friends. Sometimes we do get taken for granted.
If it helps -
What helped me:
Doing the Autism Quotient test (and testing for ADHD) - I think some free tests can be found at embrace-autism.com/. This may not apply to you, but it truly shocked me and explained an awful lot (including the being misunderstood part). I suspect INFJs share a lot of similarities with neurodiverse folks, where others can sense a difference and target us.
Reading Dr Gary Namie's works on workplace bullying.
Working (mostly!) remotely, if you are able to work (not being able to doesn't make you 'less than', despite what society says). If you can get out of toxic workplaces and minimize contact, it's a lot harder for bullies to focus on you. I can't speak for it for myself, but a good resource for becoming remote could be developerpro.io, which teaches you how to be a fully-remote software engineer. (I'm not an affiliate in any way; it's just something I'm considering in future).
Not putting in any effort anymore for one-sided friendships (where you do all the work - if people don't put in any effort at all, and never have a good reason, they aren't really interested and may be using you in case they need help one day, but without putting in any effort). Just speaking for myself, I don't have friendships anymore (just kind acquaintances), due to the constant disappointment, and because realistically my health doesn't allow for it, unfortunately).
Embracing the things I enjoy doing (that others may say are weird). I live a very 'nana-like', quiet life and forget about wasting my energy anymore going to after-works drinks etc.
Understanding 'spoon theory' - managing energy as an introvert/potential neurodivergent person. That just means not wasting on energy on things that drain us (or managing as best we can, the things that we have to do - like online grocery shopping. I try and limit myself to going to three places at most if I have errands to run, to avoid over-stimulation, as much as possible).
Having pets or volunteering at a shelter. Animals love us unconditionally and love to be loved in turn (especially senior animals)! So many are in need (some are rejected by their mothers and aren't able to look after themselves). Pets appreciate us even if no one else seems to, and have enormous emotional intelligence.
You DO have value and worth, even if the whole world disagrees with you and tells you that you're wrong. Even if your family and friends and partners have disappeared (or you've had to cut them off due to abuse), you DO still have value!
Some people can be nasty or just shallow and thoughtless. Or just dealing with their own stuff. It may not always be intentional. Even good people can hurt us and let us down, or misunderstand us.
Please live for YOU. Take what enjoyment you can out of life and maybe just say 'eff them' in your mind to those who have wilfully (or accidentally) hurt, abused or neglected you, or taken you for granted. Do your best to protect your time, energy, peace, mind and heart.
Truly wishing you all the best.
I cannot be brainwashed. I think too much . But i dont think i am weird . I think i am unique .
I can agree with that!
Me too!
Thanks every one.
Yes we are unique. I am the only one in the family who could not be brain washed. It is a lonely hard road.
Once I realize someone is trying to lead/push me into a belief/POV I take a moment to consider the why and what. Why are they doing it? What is the goal? If the goal is ultimately good, I'll ostensibly agree. The why was nearly always political or face-saving, meaning, who cares?! But that was when I worked in a bureaucratic setting. Now that I'm free of that I don't have to appear to be led into a different opinion/POV. That said, if someone makes valid points, they can totally change my mind.
We won't mistreat others however, I've been awful about mistreating myself. You are spot on with INFJ and all the quirks. When I was younger I would WAY overanalyze conversations and was always concerned that I said too much, or sounded stupid. I've since gotten over that but, it still creeps in at 50. I love being an INFJ but there is some self love you have to give yourself.
Yes. I'm thinking most other people aren't reacting nearly as negatively as we think, if they are normal that is, rather than toxic. But then, their reaction is their responsibility, not ours.
Im still wayyy over analyzing conversations it’s a downright nuisance at moments
Hi! Can u give advice, as a teen INFJ who doesn't know which career to pursue yet and who thinks on how I'll be in the future pleasee. :)
Any type can mistreat ppl
This hits deep. Relate 💯. Awareness and action towards progress is therapeutic.
To this INFJ, small talk is as painful as a trip to the dentist.
Agee!
I agree as well. It's like having to act as someone else. I feel it's fake and I can't be myself because I prefer deeper subjects.
Dunno if this counts as a quirk or not, but I’ve noticed that if everyone else likes something really popular, I immediately hate on it. However, if something is underrated or others hate it, I start to like it and find the good in it 😆
Same
Same. I’m not infj tho
This was me with Attack on Titan when it first aired. I started seeing all the Anime Club students (In college, by the way) with the freaking Scout Corp cloak. And what made me hate it is that I never watched the show or read the manga, but I KNEW the Scout Corp was the most likely to die.
And it made me question everyone who wore that.
Oh my goodness. I have taken the "test" three times over a 35 year period. Who WANTS to be an INFJ? We are definitely a bit "different". At 60 plus years old, I not only accept who I am, but I like who I am as well. Hope everyone has a happy day. Take care.
I know a person who is so different from me but claims to be INFJ like me. I think they say it because how rare INFJ is, so they want to be “special”. I’m pretty sure they are narcissistic.
I am really annoyed of my habit of over obsessing everything . It's like we are stuck in loop and we keep on repeating same conversation or issue over and over . I wish we had a stop button for our mind
I collect few things, but certainly lean to over processing. I think I feel too much and the world is a painful place.
That's the empath in us, and people without the ability to feel what others are feeling do not get it at all. 😢
It is. The happy little detoxifying bubble is a beautiful thing. Lol
"sometimes become fixated". 😂 Sometimes?
😂
All the time for me!! 😂
All the damn time! 😂
I have a dress from when I was 5 Yrs old… ( doesn’t fit anymore, but it was my favorite.) 😂😂😂
I also keep them... I am an INFJ
This is so true. I call myself a "memory hoarder". I don't display them for the world to see. But I value memories like other people value money. I can remember just about anything if I find significance in it. I make particular space for people's voices, scents, cadence, or anything that makes them unique or valuable in my mind. Something as simple as a candle holder might represent a lost loved one's favourite topic. Otherwise, I don't collect pointless trinkets. Everything in my life has a place and reason for it. Especially when it comes to the collection I keep in my head.
Number 3 got me. I collect family heirlooms. My house is full of furniture, photographs, artwork, books, even plants from family. None of it with any monetary value, but I can tell you who owned each piece and why it’s special to me. I also collect rocks and old glass bottles. And no one here will think that’s weird! How refreshing.
Me too! and yes it is a relief.
Me too 😂
Yep to it all. 😆
You are not alone
I know who gave me what in my home too
Yeah, it sucks when you are an intensely creative person..
Boring people hate us..
( because they can’t do what we do.) 😱
Who wants to be boring ?
99% of the people I know are boring and they DO hate super creatives like us. I don't understand THEM.
I have a bad habit of predicting people’s regrets and telling them.
Actually, I have a habit of predicting bad things. I knew COVID was coming months before it hit. I could feel it in the air. An eerie feeling of everyone suddenly gone ….but still there. A stillness.
OMGGG I am an ENFP and i felt that something very weard was coming . I had that feeling in 2019
Me too. I was a month ahead of everyone. Bought hundreds of dollars of N95s before it happened and when covid came month later I gave them to nurses to save them. I didnt go to ER because the company was hoarding them. I went to nurses homes and gave them to them. I researched herbal remedies for covid by translating other languages about what I was working. I then bought the stuff and put them into kits right at beginning. I saved family and co-workers by giving them kits. I was in overdrive for months researching and researching on internet. Only sleeping a few hours a night until I had it figured out as best as I could. I didnt tell anyone what I was doing because they would think I was crazy. Intuition and logic going a hundred miles an hour to save as many people as I could. Im still tired. Not sure it was worth it but I felt driven.
"Am I really n infj? Better take that test again." Haha nailed it.
The biggest challenge for me as an INFJ is that most people seem not to understand and appreciate how my intuition works and how correct it will be, especially in workplace. There are things that seem super simple to me, and they have a hard time comprehending them. They love to tell me to base my thoughts on "facts", but ironically their decisions based on "facts" often work less well than my intuition.
Hehe, I know this one... Sometimes I even "know" (let's say I'm really sure) that something will happen in the future, nobody believes me. I try to explain them why, all the reasons I see, they still don't believe me. Couple of months later: "See, I told you" - "Oh, you were just guessing..." - "So? How many times did I guess wrong?"
I’m an attorney. I feel this comment deeply. Everyday. There is no room for intuition in the law.
Theft of ideas 8:57 I'm amazed at how many things in our lives are directly connected to our type
This has been the bane of my existence (theft of ideas).
I haven’t had any idea theft, they’ve had permission to use my ideas for inspiration, and it was more of a tribute than anything. So I got lucky.
@@DoofenSpyroDragon16 Well not everyone is as lucky as you, some of us have it BAD!
My house was flooded with 2 feet of water during Hurricane Ian. I didn't care at all about losing the furniture, but the fact that all of my childhood memorabilia is gone is still painful. Lesson learned: never store anything important in a box under the bed or at the bottom of the closet.
As an INFJ, I am pretty sure that I will never become too obsessive about any one thing. I constantly re-evaluate everything- whatever I'm doing- to keep balance. Food, work, activities, watever! My inner voice keeps in checking in just to adjust any under or over committment 😊
Ive been on an academic pursuit and got secluded in home , slowly faded from social media interaction to the point now many doesn't know i exist now.. the worst part is i don't even feel the energy to do so , even with the good friends i have who are still with me even though i suck as a friend, I don't feel like talking to them too ..
😊 additionally Jay, (no infj comment is ever short or finite), the infj can be creative via social justice and are formidable as soon as they stop feeling the need to be a "nice guy", INFJs don't have to be nice to care. It is possible to care on a large scale via challenging injustice in not nice ways.... second thoughts... It is through sentimental objects, historical objects, and little rituals that infj cope with remembering EVERTHING from when we were little, the constant future orientation necessarily means "anxiety" as intangibles are identified in future analysis and these rituals/objects are tangibles/grounding. It is my experience that I remember objects/houses/experiences and not FACES! I seriously didn't recognize a photo of my son as a baby! But I recognize his baby clothes! Worse, they changed his clothes at day care and I struggled to locate him in the room momentarily 😂😂 objects/rituals are memories.... ❤❤👍👍
"whats up with me and latin?" ... the root and original meaning of words in a whole bunch of modern languages, a deeper level of learning which most people just don't think about as its a "dead" language with no point.... nope, can't see why either... ...
INFJ here - I work as an Interpreter: English & American Sign Language. And I do a lot of medical interpreting.
I love researching the etymology of the two languages I use. Often, I find that Latin makes things so clear as it is descriptive.
🫶🫶🫶 weird ritual is I cant have tea or coffee while studying it is like I need to finish my cup of coffee completely 😂 before starting the work
That's not weird at all. The coffee and tea must be fully enjoyed and appreciated before the efforts and irritations of study! :) Me, the opposite. I had to have Study Treats. Basically, coffee and chocolate.
@@nancycronin551 thanks for reassuring the weirdness 😆 🤸♂️🤸digestive biscuits and ☕️are also good 👌
My ritual is to walk with my dog every single day and later go to the park by myself....
OMG me too
Abuse from others is the more reason to be kinder and more compassionate as a human being, for we learn (the hard way) how bad it feels to be abused and so we strive to not let anyone else feel the same way as we did.
The way I feel now, I don't know that I'll ever be able to 'go back out there.' This may sound silly but I'm waiting for a sign and a divine finger pointing in some direction. Covid was the last straw, I was teetering on the edge of CPTSD and I've done a lot of work spiritually in the last two years and I feel better now. But if I got back out there and had to deal with anymore abuse? Well, I just can't give up the gains I've made for the sake of some a-hole who needs someone to dump on. The INFJ has a cosmic 'kick me sign' on their backs, and I can't take it anymore.
You got that right!
Honestly I feel exactly the same way.
Me too Cynthia, I wish I didnt have to go back out there but I have to earn a little money. I didnt realise it is ptsd till yesterday. A couple of days ago I got verbally abused and gaslighted because I refused to drive a minibus to pick up children because there was smoke pouring out the engine, truly unbelievable.
I wish you well, lets both take it day by day and minute by minute if we have too, we got this! xx
@@SoupDragon63 I think one of the huge betrayals of covid that lead to my near CPTSD is that the people who pushed the vax on everyone didn't even believe in it themselves. Cause if they did they would have calmed the eff down, and as we saw as the vax numbers rose, and the virus weakened, people became MORE hysterical not less. Personally I got the shots so I could go back to work at my beloved summer camp which required it. And they were awful - restrictions up the ying yang and not the least bit grateful or appreciative of the risk and sacrifice that people made in getting the jab. That was so profoundly crushing. I knew the shot wasn't gonna do anything to stop the spread, the press release that came out at the time of the roll out never claimed that it would. I thought it was just a cheap, saline solution money grab, assuming they would never be dumb enough/horrible enough to harm people with the entire world watching. Especially after they gave up on the sub-zero storage requirement, I thought they don't need to do that for simple saline. As an INFJ I wasn't anticipating evil, and I don't apologize for putting my love of the camp first and not expecting the horribleness that came down. When it comes to INFJ intuition, my gut feeling was that the shot wasn't going to seriously harm me. Not that it wouldn't cause harm, but that I would be okay. I never advised anyone to take the shot, nor would I presume to make medical decisions for others. The only advice I gave, besides recommending vitamin D from the beginning, was to a woman at camp who was wondering if she should get her young daughter (age 13) vaxxed. I advised no, since she didn't need it. This was summer 2021, before all the horror stories came out. Anyway, covid damaged my faith in just about everyone - especially the management of the summer camp, whom I thought were decent, kind, intelligent, responsible people who cared about the welfare of others. Sorry to say I was wrong. I don't anticipate ignorance and evil, but once it has been revealed and revealed on such scale, I can't unsee it. P.S. My camp was in Vermont, and I had no idea how much Vermont is run by the political establishment in NY, that was another big disillusionment.
@@cynthiajohnson9412 Yes, the biggest shock was peoples reactions, the ones that got the J to be protected were angry at the ones that didnt in case they infected them, like huh? if you got the J and are protected why are you angry at me?, common sense went out of the window.
@@SoupDragon63 There were sooooo much that didn't make sense. I was just thinking today how for years I listened to drug ads that listed as a side effect immune system compromise - multiple times, daily. And yet when the C hit no one asked, gee are you taking a med that might have reduced your immune function? I mention that because I've never heard anyone say anything about that. Or here's another one - if you die or become very sick with an illness that 99.99% of people recover from just fine, wouldn't that indicate you have a problem, diagnosed or diagnosed, with your immune system? Or in other words truly healthy people don't die from something that most people recover from. Why would that be considered unacceptable or mean to point out?
Sudden hibernation is exactly what happened to me just a few days ago. I guess none of my acquaintances can understand what happened to me, for I've just disappeared without a trace, no answer to any message. It is just that good feeling of encapsulating oneself into a cocoon and start ruminating about things done so far and how to go forward, without any interference or distracting interaction with anyone.
Happened to me. I recently "hibernated" from contacting family and close friends...well, everybody was apologetic thinking they said something hurtful to me....
It was like dominoes chain reaction....
Afterwards I had to explain to "them" that I just needed time to recalibrate...
Exhausting explanation...
You are so right. I have known about my INFJness since the 90's, but I've learned so much more from people like Jay. (Jay, you are the best.) Besides, I have fun inside my head. It's like we live higher definition lives. For a time, I was amazed when other people seened so flat. Now I know.
That's it exactly. "I have fun inside my head" too. That's why I don't need to stare at a phone all the time.
@@nanetten6238 I don't have a cell phone for that reason. Good for you for giving yourself head time instead of staring at the idiot square.
So thats why I get so attached to objects, they all have a memory and meaning to me and I have become an accidental hoarder. You have also explained why I have OCD. I have needed to know this for 61 years.
Also I just hit pause to write this and I am 11:11 into the vid, this time yesterday I was reading all about why I keep seeing these numbers.
I used to collect things until I realised those things were used against me as weapons (of abuse).
I thank you for the explanation. I told my mother when I was 6 years old that people who were mentally ill were that way because they think too much. I have fought my whole life to stop overthinking-what I should have said, what I should have done, what I should have replied, what I should have accepted or refused, etc. Now I know how to stop it as I am now a coach expert on Habits and Motivation and Behavior Change
Love it, why don't we have a discord server or something so that we can connect and talk to each other easily?
Some kind of infj group would be so lovely!!
I’ve never met people so similar to my weird self. That’s because we only make up 2% of the population. Thank you for your insight!
Since childhood I used to feel and look drained at parties... Now That I know I'm an INFJ I can see why
I have never understood how being mistreated makes people mistreat others.
Life is my art
Just to feel understood and not so alone in this abusive world. Thank you so much for this.
INFJ here. I relive memories and emotions. I’ve gone through many transitions in my life, I got tired of carrying mementos around with each move. I do collect art made by people I know….paintings, drawings, photography. I LOVE art. Mostly visual arts and music.
I like to be organized……but am not totally organized. But my purse…that is organized. I travel to different sites in my work, I must have my purse organized. It’s my mobile office….kind of. But no Himalayan Salt Lamp in there…LOL. Missed you while you were moving, Jay. Welcome back.
Hi Jay! I hope your moving went well. Keep on going with this amazing project of yours. As an INFJ, I can say that every single second of your contents is worth it, and helped me to understand myself better, and to learn how to move in this society that doesn't get our way of living most of the time.
Being ourselves and living our lives the way we want is not wrong. Walking on other people's footprints, that is beyond wrong.
Thank you, and lots of luck.
On social media: everyone is an infj. I wonder if, because it’s rare, actually companies skew results to get more shares.
My mother and I are both INFJs. It’s so nice to have someone who gets me.
I’ve missed your videos Jay! I’m so glad you’re back and hope your move went well. One of my weird obsessive compulsive patterns is that If I’m eating something that comes in bite size pieces like cold cereal or candy pieces , I always eat two pieces at a time very conscientiously. And if they’re colorful, I always eat two of the same color together or red with orange because that’s the order they are found in a rainbow, etc. It’s so weird but I can’t break the habit of doing it. And I can’t remember why I started doing it in the first place. 😂
We don't share because others don't respawned well. So true.
Thank you for your useful videos. As an infj, I am so grateful to you for forming this circle and helping people feel better.
Understanding the World through patterns is an Emotion.
2:15 - doubt Oh My Stars ✨ - so true Wonderful video and so spot on
I have just been thinking about these things for the last 6 hours..! especially the pattern recognition. Spooky.
Thank you for reminding me that this kinda stuff is normal for us guys.
Jay! Great to see another INFJ Video. What you're stating is indeed true... Thank you, Jay!
Peace man!
- Trey B.
We see it all and feel it all.
Thank you
:)
Jay, you are my hero for sharing our INFJ quirky but awesome traits. For the longest time I thought I was a complete weirdo for having these traits! I Went through school being an outsider and I really believed something was wrong with me until I took a deep dive into my personality traits and what drives me, only to discover that my weird INFJ quirks are like super human powers ( I believe everyone is beautifully unique and powerful in their own way ). Again, thank you for paving the way for us and shedding light on a sensitive topic. ❤
Bro!! You just explained something to me. Every morning when I was forced to go to first grade I was literally crying and vomiting from stress beforehand, pleading not to be sent - because the "teacher" was so horribly and continually vicious. Her favorite activity was cruelty, humiliating students continually and publicly. An INFJ forced to sit in the classroom hour after hour surrounded by terror, humiliation, shame, cruelty, and evil laughter (from the teacher) was like being sent to a demon's cage every day. I don't know why it never occurred to my family that there might be something bad happening at school. All I heard was, "Stop being so sensitive!" and "Get in the car!!"
thank you Jay 🌹 spot on you are with all points .
aren't we just a beautiful tribe of souls ❣️
hey from rural northern Maine 🌲🐺
I appreciate this video, Jay. Especially lately, as I've been forced in spotlights and on stages, I've felt overwhelmed and am now desperately recharging my social batteries. When I recently spoke a land acknowledgement at a big concert in front of thousands of people, I held a wampum strand in my right hand in hopes of it giving me the strength to remain balanced.
While being in the spotlight is not our natural place, we can become very good at it when it’s needed. So just know that about yourself. You have the ability!
@@INFJcircle Your words are so valid and accurate, Jay. While I shy away from the spotlight, when I'm in it, I somehow do well. I appreciate you and the effort you put into making your videos, which always assure me that I'm never alone in thought.
1. Yup
2. Yup
3. Yup, at some point I also want to have tattoos and i keep certain things as 'charms', I also did a drawing in my wall which acts as a 'map'
4. Yup, intense sadness makes me think on creating poetry (and very dark verses)
5. I'm not so sure about that one, I do have a 'thing': at certain moments during my day I check my right hand, like if i'm holding my inner world in my hand, helps me out calming me.
I’ve never felt so seen in my entire life.
I straighten my bed sheets with no wrinkles and also especially my bed pillow. I give it a fast tug, and it's "flat".
Here is the weird reason why... So if something serious happens to me while away that day at my job, people would be less saddened if they don't see my impression on the bed....
Weird huh?
Love it, classic thought process.
That honestly made me sad! A little bittersweet, not gonna lie.
I have this "thing" about spiral notebooks, pens and pencils. I have them everywhere. They are filled with thoughts and stories.
Oooh, everything, from the first to the last word, is *so true*! So many little routines (and if anyone notices them, it's so embarrassing! I used to do the shoe-thing in the exact same way... now I have other rituals, though...)... Obsessions, sweet-d@mned obsessions! And objects... they can also represent a shield 🛡️. Like my human-sized red spoon leaning against the wall - this great design product keeps smiling at me, lifting my spirit, up... "What will you do with an enormous plastic spoon?!" Oh, nothing - yet everything❣️ I can feel like Alice in Wonderland or the Cheshire Cat or The Mad Hatter, or all of them at once! Or I just rest my eyes and get lost in all that red... I can feel grateful, because I have had the chance to work with breathingly beautiful, stunning objects and materials (a much needed Se-shower, from time time), creating installations (that, of course, not necessarily many understand - story of my / of our life...)... And I could go on and on and on... but I won't. A remarkably brilliant video, very well done, thank you so much 💞.
Funny you mention the shoe thing! Mine need to be aligned, and together. So thankful for your channel! I have so many little quirks like this, it’s not even funny. Just took the test today, and I already feel so much better knowing that it’s not just me.
Thousands of tests with the same answer.. still doubting 😂... This entire talk truly resonated.. thank you.
I also love Latin. 😊
Yay! So glad you're back! Hope your move went well! Another great video 😊
3:40 - I’m NOTORIOUS at Irish goodbyes. I’ve been working on getting better at this but sometimes it’s so much easier to just leave without saying anything so I don’t have to explain how quickly drained I am. It’s not anyone’s fault but my own.
Goddamn it. Yup.
I took the Meyers-Brigg MBTI Test 3 times. The 3rd time was because my CZcams home page was starting to get flooded with "Fake INFJ" video suggestions, and I began to think, "Am I an imposter?"
And I collect keys. I find random missing keys and I keep all the ones I find in a pouch. And I think I do this cuz as a kid, and into adulthood, I never had a key to my own house until I had my own apartment.
And my ritual is I have an Orb I ponder. It's just a Magic-8 Ball that I call "The Universe". And I will often ask it yes or no questions. Things like "Is this Job opportunity bullshit??"
*It's decidedly so*
Thank you Jay-welcome back. Missed you!!
Does anyone else feel like you are mentally superior to others? Like you know and understand things that people will never understand?
Things seem so obvious to me like it’s common sense except it’s not.
I dissect conversations to know where the other person is coming from. I have been misunderstood most of my life. I don't misunderstand the other person.
As always, completely spot-on Jay. Thanks so much for your insight and for helping us all feel so seen and heard.
Tiny trinkets....Ive left behinds lifetimes of 'stuff' without a second thought. But the tiny sentimental things Ive been able to carry with me are now like talismans of harnessed power.
I love routines.
The other day I contacted an old friend that I hadn't spoken to in years, a lot of years. I really wanted to talk to this person because I was so concerned that another friend was believing some propaganda. The first thing I said to this old friend was, "You know I want to discuss something important... I don't just chat." I have learned that about myself in my old age. 😂
And my first sentence has nothing to do with the rest of my comment.
Damn, you get to some real issues we have to deal with. You are so down to earth. Sometimes I don't know if I love you or hate you. But I still watch your videos.
Good Afternoon Jay… Boston says hi … You are “WICKED AWESOME in my book.. You know me so well. 😘 I hope to do a podcast with you soon.. First I have to rock the work by imploding the very big trial down the street in Dedham.. You are hilarious! 😂 Love watching you!! 💜💜💜
This is amazing. I feel like you looked directly into my life!
The only ocd habit I really have left is lining up the pen cap clip with the label writing on the pen itself. Gotta do it. 😂
Haha! Do it!
No i love that and its so true. O have very specific meaningful collections all linked to my inner world. The most notable is the wolf. Anything wolf. That was love since childhood, the hated misunderstood wolf. And after learning my type, i found as if by design, Infj spirit animal is the wolf.
Legit. I can feel those times when the war zone gives me something close ptsd. Even a dear friend of mine called it that, as i described. 💯 'most ppl get abused and move to abuse another.' its inherently counter-persona to infj.
As much as overthinking can be well, unprogressive/detrimental, so many people *underthink to the point of irreparable consequences.
Thank you, True 'dat' : )
Hope your move went grand.
Went great and I’m settled in now. Thanks.
Nailed it!!
As an INFJ living in a developing third world country, I feel an intense hatred for the society, customs, and traditions in which I live. I hate my harsh Bedouin society, yet I feel a desire to help them. I wish the best for the community in which I live, and I want to provide them with what benefits them. I feel conflicted between hatred for my community and desire to help. I feel that I do not integrate into society and that I am just a foreign tourist with no sense of belonging or patriotism to the society in which I live.
Happy you are back. I missed your video contents!
Thank you! Happy to be back :)
Hey man thanks for making these videos. I hope you’re doing well outside of the videos! It’s tough out there for us but keep being you! You got a whole bunch of people watching your videos supporting you!
I’m dong well my friend, thanks for the support :)
We've missed you Jay!! Thanks for another spot on video! Everything you said i resonate with. Appreciate u man 💜
Thanks so much!
Thanks, Jay! This is helping me so much.
You are so welcome!
Congrats on the big move Jay lovin the new setting 🎉Jay ur our fav infjaaay😎
Thank you!
Every thing in this video rings true. Thank you for sharing your insights from inside the INFJ world. It can be lonely in here! 😊
You are welcome!
I have a huge 4 leaf clover 🍀 collection. Thank you for another video that is so spot on! Also, the news letters are so helpful and has helped me make changes I never thought I would be able to. Especially at work. Much appreciated! 😄🌟
You are welcome!
What an awesome video! So amazingly accurate. Me to a T.
Welcome back
This is quite accurate. Pattern recognition 💯 I also tend to joke that my brain has an internal antenna that constantly receives external signals.I try to stay away from groupthink and I don't follow the crowds. Once in a while, when I am under stress, I can ruminate about something. Collecting things has been my thing since I was a child: I was collecting stamps, postcards, coins. I do find meaning in some of the things that I have around me. I also value originality and innovation. ❤ And I appreciate good sense of humor. My rituals are my habits. And the list goes on. I used to think that I was the only person that has all the issues that INFJ have. Evidently, there are a few of us. Thank you so much for this video. 😊
I love your work Jay, keep it going please. BTW, great arms fella ...
Hey, thanks! haha
I have a latin license plate amor fati and as a young child i always had to carry a lucky rabbits foot. I have a lot of meaningful tattoos and so i do collect those as well. All of these traits resonated with me. Ive also doubted being an infj and have taken the test multiple times. Have experienced trauma many times with the external world. Great content 👌 thank you
I always analyze myself to check if I said the right thing or how I affected a person .. I also can’t stand drama from people who keep talking negatively .. I can read a room as soon as I enter .. I will walk away if there is anyone who is toxic .. I am really good at providing compassionate advice .. so some people tell me their problems .. I definitely find that I seek comfort for myself and avoid too much negative stimuli … thanks for sharing this info
I look forward to your video about the Ni-Ti loop - just because there have been a few times in my life where i've gotten myself "stuck" in not wanting to socialize with others (ie. friends, family) and just keeping to myself and my hobbies and i'm wondering what is happening when i feel the need to really hide away like this
Damn Brah! Look at those biceps. We need your workout rutine.
Mmmmhmmmm
cosmic infj I always don't believe what those around me say completely and I remain skeptical, but I take some talk into consideration if it is useful and ignore the rest, and I am always attracted to people's minds and features to know what they are in The important thing is are you, like me, not much interested, and all that matters is enjoyment and procrastination is something I do not regret, and I don't know why I like to live in moderation without many preoccupations, and also are you like me good at mathematics And an average in chemistry that I don't like in my style is that I can give advice effectively and accurately, and I can help, but I can't understand myself. It's really a problem.
All true, all true!
“What’s up with me and Latin?”
I love Latin as well. I think it’s because it is supposed to be a dead language but it’s in almost every aspect of the human language. It’s alive and kicking but people don’t see it.
I've taken the test 4 times over the years. I'm still an INFJ. I may need to check one more time🤔
Yesterday I didn’t set an alarm and wake up to my Spyro music. Then I went to my job and didn’t know why I felt so bummed (even lashed out by complaining about it lol) then today I set my alarm and followed a similar routine to what I had when I was going to school. I felt so much better. Who knew? 😆
(Also I collect clocks. I’ve been fascinated by em ever since I was little. My Seiko clocks hold a special meaning to me because my Mimi had a similar one that played music and I loved it to death.) 😁
Rituals? ....I've got a million of 'em! haha Love your videos.
I can relate to everything said in the video, though I did not think the rituals applied to me. But I do have a ritual. I like to check my facebook accounts every day and I do them in a certain order, and check out the timelines of specific people whom I find interesting. I guess my record keeping of expenditures (categories, not each item) and bank balance is also a ritual. I feel restless after I go shopping until I update my spreadsheets. I hate not knowing what I've been spending money on or getting overdrawn at the bank. I was haphazard about finances in my younger years and it was chaos. My spreadsheet pages are lovely, tidy, colourful and coordinated, with beautiful backgrounds. It gives me pleasure to look at them after everything has been updated correctly. I save the old workbooks and change the colour schemes and backgrounds every year. This is part of my ritual.