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We have been married for 38 years. Our last 5 have been the most Covenant based marriage. He learns and hears God as he is studying and praying and I am learning and hearing as I do. We come together and share our conversations with Our Father and we work together on problems we encounter. God's will is always our prayer together. God says, "ASK, seek, knock ..." When our will is HIS WILL, we always see Him fulfilling what we ask, especially together.
Much wise Words! The last part has brought tears 😢to my heart ❤️ As my husband and I am seperating right now. I used to be the one who wanted his touch. Then it turned into he is the one who wants the touch 😢 Holding hands. Through all the hardships I got distant from him. And don’t want his touch it felt empty because he doesn’t understand how he hurt my heart ❤️ Men live in understanding way with your wife is crucial U teach that so well He does watch ur sermons but turns it into weapons towards me. ❤ I need help
I am praying this morning for redemption and changed hearts. There is no difficulty God cannot overcome through the transforming power of the Holy Spirit.
Don't give up. If he won't go to counseling, you may have to gently teach him how to listen to you and be "emotionally safe" or how to live with you in an understanding way. Men are prideful and stubborn by default. He appears to not be taking ownership for his part if he's pointing fingers at you.... which is very normal but can be very wrong. Husbands usually don't see their weaknesses and needs for self improvement very well, and pastors don't really have much time to devote to couples, so pastoral counseling is usually like the "quick clinic" where you throw some bandaids and aspirin and hope for the best. There are lots of really good resources online. I just watched the Gotmans interview by Lisa Bilyeu about the 4 horseman of the apocalypse. It's long, but if your husband watches it, the he may have some insight into the state of your relationship and then , hopefully, take some steps to improve it. It is psychology based but that doesn't mean we can't glean the observational data to use in our relationships. Yes, God says love, love, love, but there's a lot of space in between that God doesn't tell us about, so we need some help in loving like God wants us to. Hang in there.... don't give up on God. Make sure you are not doing anything to prevent God from getting his attention... yes, that can and does happen sometimes. Prayer.... talk to your pastor ... More prayer ... Listen to God's leading on what to say and how to say it.
Sum up most issues??? When we becomes I. Also, other things I’ve heard people say? Better being alone and lonely than married and lonely. Again a we that became I.
at about 2min15sec into the video, they laugh about it being weird living together w/no s*x. I didn't like that at all. I was in a situation where I had nowhere to live and we were engaged and my future husband took me in. we honored God and did not sleep together, but he saved me from having to live on the street. Situations are different, and there's no need to laugh at people who are not as privileged as you and don't have money to live alone before marriage, especially if you're a single mom who was brutally abused and has disability. I had a lot more respect for Pastor Mark before this episode. It just shows me how shallow they are, assuming people do that for fun, and not out of absolute necessity. Sad... I used to go to this church, but he's just ruined my trust in his ability for compassion. In our broken world most of us don't have perfect circumstances. And discussing it is fine, but they're literally laughing at it and making fun of people without knowing the full story.
I say this in absolute love, if you’re truly my sister in Christ our Lord & Savior, Messiah, then read to the end… I don’t say this to troll you, I’m a man & I too was the exact situation you described, I also did the very same thing you did… Hindsight truthfully as a man, I should have stayed home free because I stepped into a battle ground, I was not prepared for so not only did I sin, I influenced my girlfriend at the time to sin as well, we both know the Lord to, but Knowing Father is way different then serving Father, I’m no better than you, I’ve had a rough life also & I thank Father Lord God for every situation He brought me through, I put myself in the situation & even as a sinner & at age 40 I re-devoted, myself to Father & was baptized August 27th 2024 I’m 44 years old now, I’m also adhd so I listen on audio to the Bible as well as everything I can learn about Father who sacrificed His son for all mankind, I’ve been blessed with a heart of discernment & truth, I chase truth almost as much as I chase Father, lol even though I know He’s always their so basically I reckon I’m running in circles lol 😂 You weren’t listening to the HolySpirit, you were entertaining the Father of lies…Pray to Father for truth, insight & and clear mind to speak directly to you, then re-watch it, I guarantee you’ll have a different experience. If not your just a troll to begin with & I pray Father Lord God opens your eyes to truth & draws you near to Him & His will, for you are His beautiful master piece in progress, I love you in the name of Lord Jesus Christ I pray AAAMEN AMEN!!!
Hello, I listen to your sermons and todays message had me a little confused. You speak Bible and truth … but when talking about your devotional I heard your wife mention pricila shirer. I’m a little confused as she is a woman preacher to preaches to congregations of woman and men…. How is this biblical? It is my understanding that woman are not aloud to preach to men. Thank you.
@@aleckbayless8693 1 Timothy 2:11-12 Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness. I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet. 1 Corinthians 14:34-35 The women should keep silent in the churches. For they are not permitted to speak, but should be in submission, as the Law also says. If there is anything they desire to learn, let them ask their husbands at home. For it is shameful for a woman to speak in church.
divorce is sin and remarriage is adultery, so it is sin as well. God will forgive you, but it doesn't change the continuous state of sin you are living in. Can God bless you living as a sinner? Yes, we are all sinners who sin every day and God blesses us... maybe not as much as the blessing could be... but blessings nonetheless. There is only one sinless remarriage and that is the unbelieving spouse who leaves in 1 Cor 7. The rest are all sinful if the spouse is living. Those are the cold hard facts.
God is a redeemer. His blood sufficiently covers all our sin. Past, present and future. There is no reason to put a blended marriage on the continual willful sin and shame category especially if this new couple are walking in intimate relationship with God. Once a man has recommitted to another wife his biblical responsibility is now to commit to his new marriage fully not dwell on a failed marriage of the past and holding onto someone that left his life. Are divorced couples to live in shame and regret for the rest of their lives? I don’t think God would want that. In Christ there is freedom and God can redeem what was lost completely as long as the marriage is 1man and 1woman walking in relationship with God. I think He blesses it because it still exemplifies Christ and His bride the church . The continual adultry shame on blended families especially those in the church needs to stop. We observe the act of divorce was sinful, the act of adultry would be sinful . But after a marriage has failed and one spouse has walked away , the marriage has suffered spiritual and relational death and after that spiritual, relational death I think God releases marriage covenant. Now that release I think is largely situational dependent but God may or may not bring a divorced person another spouse. I’ve seen it happen and I’ve seen the fruit. Is it ideal? Certainly not as blended families have their share of relational struggles but I believe God allows sufficient grace to redeem and even bless such a situation as long as the couple have committed their ways to God.
@@Tyler-gb5sl I hear what you are saying as it is a difficult situation. I agree God covers our sins past, present and future. When we get to Heaven, those consequences of sin will not be realized. However, on Earth, the consequences of sin are sometimes realized for a lifetime. In Romans 7 and 1 Cor 7 (two places) the Bible says marriage is until death. No where in Scripture to we see a vow to God being released. God says instead that He will surely hold us to our vows. God is more concerned with His glory than our feelings of shame, guilt, etc... resulting from our sin. God's faithfulness to His bride is supposed to be seen in our faithfulness to our spouse. God is faithful even when we cheat and even when we leave. God remains waiting for us to return until death. Hosea is another example of remaining faithful even when the spouse cheats and leaves. The "writ of Moses" for divorce was not permission to get a divorce, but it was sin management to control the amount of sin compounded so God's wrath was not "filled up" and spilled over on the people. The Israelites were mostly hard hearted hellions who did what they wanted because they felt like it... ignoring God's instructions. Jesus pointed out that "from the beginning" and 2500 years prior to Moses, there was no God approved divorce. That's a really long time, but people cheated and committed adultery anyway. The murdered, lied, and stole... anyway. People ignore God's instructions because they feel like it. It is rebellion and hard heartedness. If I am not married and fornicate with someone and ask forgiveness... God will forgive me, but I will sin again every time I sleep with them again. God doesn't give me a sin pass because of my feelings. There are thousands of remarried christians who have families and new lives that would not have happened if they followed my advice... they would not experience the pleasures, "happy times", and memories. But, that's not a good reason to disobey and dishonor God. When we do that, we elevate our opinion above God's ... making ourselves an idol. I realize my view does not sit well with most disciples of Jesus, but neither did the teachings of Jesus on the Lord's Supper sit well with most disciples back then... as most of them left and quit following Jesus. Why? because they didn't like it... they didn't feel right about it.... they didn't have enough faith to believe and trust Jesus with their life, and so people will remarry, and pastors will remarry because they think they know they can do it and have relatively low consequences as far as they can tell. However, the Bible says this sin affects a man's bones. How? I don't know, but there appears to be consequences that we aren't even aware of. My wife left me and took my 5 children 3.5 years ago. She filed and got her divorce on unBiblical grounds (no fault). I have been estranged and don't get to see my kids, and I grieve every day. I have skin in this game. I know what the depression feels like. But, I took an oath to God and I would rather please and honor God more than myself. I've been told by many that I could play the field and take my pick as the Lord has blessed me, but again.... I would rather honor God and be an ambassador for Him... a faithful husband to an unfaithful wife. I am willing to continue unto death with the Lord as my hope and refuge. If perhaps the Lord changes me and my wife in ways to bring reconciliation, then I want to be ready to do my part to forgive, love and trust her just as God is there for us when we return from our rebellious ways.
@@lawrencecoleman3559 it is sin management for a hard heart which means sinfully rebellious. God allowed slavery as sin management and having their way with female captives as sin management with rules to To limit the compounding of sin. Jesus said from the beginning it was not so which means for 2500 years there was no divorce approved of by God because it is sin. In Matthew mark and Luke They all say remarriage is adultery . Adultery is sin. If it's OK then why is it a Sin 2 remarry? First Corinthians 7 gives the command from God not to divorce or to separate. To disobey God is to sin. People send anywand God manages the sin which is what a Writ ofDivorce is. Christians forgive and reconcile unless they are hard hearted hellions
We have been married for 38 years. Our last 5 have been the most Covenant based marriage. He learns and hears God as he is studying and praying and I am learning and hearing as I do. We come together and share our conversations with Our Father and we work together on problems we encounter. God's will is always our prayer together. God says, "ASK, seek, knock ..." When our will is HIS WILL, we always see Him fulfilling what we ask, especially together.
Much wise Words! The last part has brought tears 😢to my heart ❤️
As my husband and I am seperating right now.
I used to be the one who wanted his touch. Then it turned into he is the one who wants the touch 😢
Holding hands. Through all the hardships I got distant from him.
And don’t want his touch it felt empty because he doesn’t understand how he hurt my heart ❤️
Men live in understanding way with your wife is crucial
U teach that so well
He does watch ur sermons but turns it into weapons towards me. ❤
I need help
I am praying this morning for redemption and changed hearts. There is no difficulty God cannot overcome through the transforming power of the Holy Spirit.
Don't give up. If he won't go to counseling, you may have to gently teach him how to listen to you and be "emotionally safe" or how to live with you in an understanding way. Men are prideful and stubborn by default. He appears to not be taking ownership for his part if he's pointing fingers at you.... which is very normal but can be very wrong. Husbands usually don't see their weaknesses and needs for self improvement very well, and pastors don't really have much time to devote to couples, so pastoral counseling is usually like the "quick clinic" where you throw some bandaids and aspirin and hope for the best. There are lots of really good resources online. I just watched the Gotmans interview by Lisa Bilyeu about the 4 horseman of the apocalypse. It's long, but if your husband watches it, the he may have some insight into the state of your relationship and then , hopefully, take some steps to improve it. It is psychology based but that doesn't mean we can't glean the observational data to use in our relationships. Yes, God says love, love, love, but there's a lot of space in between that God doesn't tell us about, so we need some help in loving like God wants us to.
Hang in there.... don't give up on God. Make sure you are not doing anything to prevent God from getting his attention... yes, that can and does happen sometimes. Prayer.... talk to your pastor ... More prayer ... Listen to God's leading on what to say and how to say it.
Wow! Such a great encouragement.
I did it all wrong
Me too so I've changed thank God
So did I, but God delivered me and brought me through it, and my man. We are better than we were. Don’t give up
FYI
I TRIED TO SMASH THE THUMB 👍 UP !
LIKE I DO ON EVERY ONE OF YOUR VIDEOS!!
AND CZcams WOULDN'T LET ME !!!!
Sum up most issues??? When we becomes I. Also, other things I’ve heard people say? Better being alone and lonely than married and lonely. Again a we that became I.
Nothing, because the Bible told me it was okay to be single
at about 2min15sec into the video, they laugh about it being weird living together w/no s*x. I didn't like that at all. I was in a situation where I had nowhere to live and we were engaged and my future husband took me in. we honored God and did not sleep together, but he saved me from having to live on the street. Situations are different, and there's no need to laugh at people who are not as privileged as you and don't have money to live alone before marriage, especially if you're a single mom who was brutally abused and has disability. I had a lot more respect for Pastor Mark before this episode. It just shows me how shallow they are, assuming people do that for fun, and not out of absolute necessity. Sad... I used to go to this church, but he's just ruined my trust in his ability for compassion. In our broken world most of us don't have perfect circumstances. And discussing it is fine, but they're literally laughing at it and making fun of people without knowing the full story.
I say this in absolute love, if you’re truly my sister in Christ our Lord & Savior, Messiah, then read to the end…
I don’t say this to troll you, I’m a man & I too was the exact situation you described, I also did the very same thing you did…
Hindsight truthfully as a man, I should have stayed home free because I stepped into a battle ground, I was not prepared for so not only did I sin, I influenced my girlfriend at the time to sin as well, we both know the Lord to, but Knowing Father is way different then serving Father, I’m no better than you, I’ve had a rough life also & I thank Father Lord God for every situation He brought me through, I put myself in the situation & even as a sinner & at age 40 I re-devoted, myself to Father & was baptized August 27th 2024 I’m 44 years old now, I’m also adhd so I listen on audio to the Bible as well as everything I can learn about Father who sacrificed His son for all mankind, I’ve been blessed with a heart of discernment & truth, I chase truth almost as much as I chase Father, lol even though I know He’s always their so basically I reckon I’m running in circles lol 😂
You weren’t listening to the HolySpirit, you were entertaining the Father of lies…Pray to Father for truth, insight & and clear mind to speak directly to you, then re-watch it, I guarantee you’ll have a different experience.
If not your just a troll to begin with & I pray Father Lord God opens your eyes to truth & draws you near to Him & His will, for you are His beautiful master piece in progress, I love you in the name of Lord Jesus Christ I pray AAAMEN AMEN!!!
Hello, I listen to your sermons and todays message had me a little confused. You speak Bible and truth … but when talking about your devotional I heard your wife mention pricila shirer. I’m a little confused as she is a woman preacher to preaches to congregations of woman and men…. How is this biblical? It is my understanding that woman are not aloud to preach to men. Thank you.
Where do you see the Bible saying women can't teach the word of God? Remember God told Ruth and Deborah to lead their nation of Israel
@@aleckbayless8693
1 Timothy 2:11-12
Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness. I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet.
1 Corinthians 14:34-35
The women should keep silent in the churches. For they are not permitted to speak, but should be in submission, as the Law also says. If there is anything they desire to learn, let them ask their husbands at home. For it is shameful for a woman to speak in church.
Is this an old clip. I feel I watched this a while back
They’re so cute
Poor Detroit always picked on.
divorce is sin and remarriage is adultery, so it is sin as well. God will forgive you, but it doesn't change the continuous state of sin you are living in. Can God bless you living as a sinner? Yes, we are all sinners who sin every day and God blesses us... maybe not as much as the blessing could be... but blessings nonetheless. There is only one sinless remarriage and that is the unbelieving spouse who leaves in 1 Cor 7. The rest are all sinful if the spouse is living. Those are the cold hard facts.
God is a redeemer. His blood sufficiently covers all our sin. Past, present and future. There is no reason to put a blended marriage on the continual willful sin and shame category especially if this new couple are walking in intimate relationship with God. Once a man has recommitted to another wife his biblical responsibility is now to commit to his new marriage fully not dwell on a failed marriage of the past and holding onto someone that left his life. Are divorced couples to live in shame and regret for the rest of their lives? I don’t think God would want that. In Christ there is freedom and God can redeem what was lost completely as long as the marriage is 1man and 1woman walking in relationship with God. I think He blesses it because it still exemplifies Christ and His bride the church . The continual adultry shame on blended families especially those in the church needs to stop. We observe the act of divorce was sinful, the act of adultry would be sinful . But after a marriage has failed and one spouse has walked away , the marriage has suffered spiritual and relational death and after that spiritual, relational death I think God releases marriage covenant. Now that release I think is largely situational dependent but God may or may not bring a divorced person another spouse. I’ve seen it happen and I’ve seen the fruit. Is it ideal? Certainly not as blended families have their share of relational struggles but I believe God allows sufficient grace to redeem and even bless such a situation as long as the couple have committed their ways to God.
@@Tyler-gb5sl I hear what you are saying as it is a difficult situation. I agree God covers our sins past, present and future. When we get to Heaven, those consequences of sin will not be realized. However, on Earth, the consequences of sin are sometimes realized for a lifetime. In Romans 7 and 1 Cor 7 (two places) the Bible says marriage is until death. No where in Scripture to we see a vow to God being released. God says instead that He will surely hold us to our vows. God is more concerned with His glory than our feelings of shame, guilt, etc... resulting from our sin. God's faithfulness to His bride is supposed to be seen in our faithfulness to our spouse. God is faithful even when we cheat and even when we leave. God remains waiting for us to return until death. Hosea is another example of remaining faithful even when the spouse cheats and leaves. The "writ of Moses" for divorce was not permission to get a divorce, but it was sin management to control the amount of sin compounded so God's wrath was not "filled up" and spilled over on the people. The Israelites were mostly hard hearted hellions who did what they wanted because they felt like it... ignoring God's instructions. Jesus pointed out that "from the beginning" and 2500 years prior to Moses, there was no God approved divorce. That's a really long time, but people cheated and committed adultery anyway. The murdered, lied, and stole... anyway. People ignore God's instructions because they feel like it. It is rebellion and hard heartedness. If I am not married and fornicate with someone and ask forgiveness... God will forgive me, but I will sin again every time I sleep with them again. God doesn't give me a sin pass because of my feelings. There are thousands of remarried christians who have families and new lives that would not have happened if they followed my advice... they would not experience the pleasures, "happy times", and memories. But, that's not a good reason to disobey and dishonor God. When we do that, we elevate our opinion above God's ... making ourselves an idol. I realize my view does not sit well with most disciples of Jesus, but neither did the teachings of Jesus on the Lord's Supper sit well with most disciples back then... as most of them left and quit following Jesus. Why? because they didn't like it... they didn't feel right about it.... they didn't have enough faith to believe and trust Jesus with their life, and so people will remarry, and pastors will remarry because they think they know they can do it and have relatively low consequences as far as they can tell. However, the Bible says this sin affects a man's bones. How? I don't know, but there appears to be consequences that we aren't even aware of.
My wife left me and took my 5 children 3.5 years ago. She filed and got her divorce on unBiblical grounds (no fault). I have been estranged and don't get to see my kids, and I grieve every day. I have skin in this game. I know what the depression feels like. But, I took an oath to God and I would rather please and honor God more than myself. I've been told by many that I could play the field and take my pick as the Lord has blessed me, but again.... I would rather honor God and be an ambassador for Him... a faithful husband to an unfaithful wife. I am willing to continue unto death with the Lord as my hope and refuge. If perhaps the Lord changes me and my wife in ways to bring reconciliation, then I want to be ready to do my part to forgive, love and trust her just as God is there for us when we return from our rebellious ways.
This is incorrect my friend. Sexual immorality is a biblical grounds for divorce. Matthew 5:32, 19:9
@@lawrencecoleman3559 it is sin management for a hard heart which means sinfully rebellious. God allowed slavery as sin management and having their way with female captives as sin management with rules to To limit the compounding of sin. Jesus said from the beginning it was not so which means for 2500 years there was no divorce approved of by God because it is sin. In Matthew mark and Luke They all say remarriage is adultery . Adultery is sin. If it's OK then why is it a Sin 2 remarry?
First Corinthians 7 gives the command from God not to divorce or to separate. To disobey God is to sin. People send anywand God manages the sin which is what a Writ ofDivorce is. Christians forgive and reconcile unless they are hard hearted hellions
More appropriate question....whats wrong with you.
Thank you for acknowledging special needs kids. We have several.