Thank you for watching. Appreciate everyone’s thoughts. Keep in mind these friends reciprocate and host all the time. As someone wrote below, it’s a cultural thing. Not every Italian is like this but many in Mediterranean (and Asian and Middle Eastern) cultures are. My Greek grandmother would often say a good Greek should always have something homemade ready to offer, even if guests show up completely unannounced. But I understand your comments come out of concern for my health. I’m fine, don’t worry. 😘😘😘
I'm sorry but this is not a cultural thing, some people are just ill-mannered and those friends are and example of this kind of people, that's it. Nobody in Italy would consider normal and polite to self-invite 10 people for lunch with 2 hours notice!!! It would never happen to me, but maybe that's because I don't live in a huge house in the Tuscan countryside with a swimming pool (during a heat wave)!
Thank you for adding your perspective. I was reading the comments and had not even considered judging the fact that you received a call and friends telling you they are coming. I just watched your whole video and all I saw was a glowing Kylie, that handled the situation just fine!!! And you already gave so much clarification and colour and texture around this lunch... I never thought the comment section would create a story of 'you being a victim of rude friends'. I only saw a victorious exciting runthrough of a wonderfull day. For a while I have been living in Greece as a European from the North... and it completely changed my perspective on hospitality. I do think now it is truely an honor if people want to come to you. Imagine a world where nobody would ever consider visiting you out of the blue. How boringly dreadful that would be.
With the greatest respect Kylie, you seemed anxious in recalling what you had needed to do in 2 hours and I would say that for me, this would be a sign of a need to reconsider a choice in the future. For example, you could set a boundary to host in a 2-hour time period, but you could propose to host in a 4-hour time period (Then you could serve tea or coffee), if not a different day (Then you could still serve lunch). It would be reasonable to say that you're tired or you planned to spend the day with your family. Whoever doesn't understand may not be a true friend. ❤
so ppl choose to go the extra mile, sure she could have thrown in some quick and easy pizzas together in the oven. But she chose to go the extra mile. Italian culture revolves around food like many of the other collective societies and for such cultures ,if it means going the extra mile and cooking for an hour to get food on the table, ppl are willing and choose to do it. They don’t see it as an imposition rather a welcome change from their everyday life. So she had to cook under stress for an hour, which she clearly chose to do, what we aren’t seeing here is the wonderful afternoon they all spent together. Enjoying that food and the company, she and her guests probably had an extended lunch and coffee al fresco, shared a few laughs and really enjoyed each others company. So if u look at the big picture, you know the wonderful day they had, an hour of cooking is such a small price to pay for it. Also, if she wasn’t up to it, she wouldn’t do it. Life cannot always be planned to the t, sure it would be great to have a planned lunch with enough prep time and everything, but sometimes it’s the spontaneous unplanned things that make life wonderful.
Boundaries are important. Especially since you had just been sick and are 4 months pregnant with a toddler! If I were your friend, I wouldn't dream of doing that to you. I would show up with a basket of goodies for you and leave the kids at home. I know how a pool in hot weather can be a magnet for drop in friends. Boundaries my dear are a healthy part of self-care. Hugs.
My biggest pet peeve is when guests with kids don't supervise them and allow them to rampage through your home. It feels like an invasion of your personal space unless they stay in designated play area/hangout spot.
I started getting a panic attack watching your preparations for your visitors, that was way way too much stress for you, just getting over an illness and being pregnant not to mention you also have Gianfranco to take care of. At one time in my life I did entertain like this putting so much stress on myself to serve the perfect meal, in my perfect house looking perfect but not anymore!!! Take care of yourself, Kylie, you are important too!!!
Kylie, I am Italian and I live in Italy and I can tell you that none of my friends would do something like this! Preparing lunch for TEN (10!!!) additional people with two hours notice??? Hell, no! Those friends acted really rude in my opinion
@@MK10022 I really can't believe what horrible, unjust, hating things people like you are writing here in the comments. Please restrain yourself, it is said to read it.
Ha, they invited themselves to your house for lunch with two hours' notice. You are a good woman, Kylie. I would have been asking what they were bringing for lunch.
There is no way people where Im from in the US would expect so much when visiting for lunch. People know to contribute and they usually mind their kids as well. Its kind of common sense and polite.
this video feels designed to highlight not so much the italian way of casual imposition, but rather some of the understandable frustrations you felt toward your husband in this situation. you have a beautiful life and your work ethic is staggering. i hope you're having the conversations you need to have not so much with your friends, but with guido. you can say no and there are a couple moments in this where i wish you would've. communication is so important and sometimes, you just need to draw the line. you might need to be really overt about your boundaries if you are ever in a situation like this again. it sounded like the hinting was falling on deaf ears in this case. wish you and your family well always.
I live in the U.S. and I would never call someone up and invite myself and family over for lunch or dinner with a two hour window. I would never invite myself over to someone else's house for any meal. I would invite "them" over to my house and wait to be invited to theirs. But I know cultures are different in every country. You handled this with grace and patience. I have no idea how you did everything you did in two hours!! You're so kind and truly generous. :)
But it's sad in certains ways. We have lost our young spontaneous spirit about sharing a dinner with friends in our homes. Everything is beautiful, the decor, the gardens, etc. but we are too formal with dinners. Even the most prepared dinner with perfect dishes, plates, etc, can be not unpleasant, boring, too complicated, etc. Some people will not receive visitors because "my house is not perfect today...", etc. When we go to someone house its ti see him/her, not their dishes.... So be spontaneous! I am French and I love dinners who are surprise! fun, less formal and usually they are the most funny meals. 🎉
@@clairetremblay3023 I totally agree with you. This video hit a nerve and a deep contrast in cultures. I support your perspective and hope Kylie will break a bone for this perspective. Hospitality is a lost art... in Greece it is an HONOR to provide a guest with regards. That is exactly what Kylie did. She has been true to her ancestry and that is Humongous in these superficial times.
I think it is wonderful that they are coming over since they host so much. ❤ I love your cooking videos and I write down the recipes. With your inspiration I am going to have my house ready for a company for whenever and hope they’ll come. 🎉
I was kind of shocked too. Sometimes people stop by to say hello at the last minute, but to invite themselves for lunch, that’s the first i have ever heard of that.
Way too much work for a pregnant lady with a toddler. I used to be like you when I was younger. Wanting to be the perfect host and please my husband, but now that I am older I've realized, the more I do or am capable of, the more everyone expects. No one gave me an award for doing sooooo much and I was definitely taken advantage of and made my husband look good. Now, I don't do anything. I spend my time on myself rather than pleasing others. Kylie wake up - doing all of this does not define you or give you value. You are more than this !
I agree 100%. It is almost as though they conjured being rude and putting Kylie to the test. The solution: thanks for calling but we are not accepting guests at this time, again!
i used to be just like you Kylie, always thinking how can i offer the most delightful experience to others, accepting people at dinner on a very short notice, welcoming their kids even when destroying things around house, cooking the best meals even when i was tired, trying to please my husband when he freaked out on dinners and how much food we serve or not, etc. This was until 10 years ago when my body started to crash, entering burnout, not once, but three times, and then an autoimmune disease. Giving so much to others and being such a kind loving soul can deeply exhaust a woman's body. Through the recovery process (which is still going on despite my lifestyle changes) i learned that self care, very strong boundaries, pleasing myself first and doing only what my body can really handle without being in a rush and depleted, is a must. I hope from the bottom of my heart that you will take much better care of yourself Kylie, you deserve it so much. Let things just be, let others pressure go, let them deal with their own worries, dont take their burdens on your shoulders, you are already doing so much. Its time for you to receive more and replenish. If i were to receive people now on a short notice, i would ponder twice on saying yes. Am i rested enough? Do i have some food that is easy to put on table, like a cheese platter, fruits and wine? Are their kids behaving? if not, i would kindly ask people to not bring their kids or kindly refuse welcoming them because my sanity is worth it. Would i be in a rush? if yes, the answer would be NO. In the end, people who would be offended by m healthy boundaries would not really be my friends. Take care Kylie.
Yes i agree! You have to protect your mental and physical health nobody walks in your shoes. Also your little toddler needs you most, i never trusted anyone with my babies unless i cant take them with me to an appointment or event in which case only a close family would babysit. You dont have to impress anyone who annonces coming over short notice at mealtime. Just have hubby put whatever is easy on the table like salad and fruit. Your husband will understand that you are not up to it. Wish you health and joy always!!
I agree. I'm Italian, and I've hosted for years; friends loved my dinners. I too have an autoimmune disease and, one time when I was admitted to hospital no one visited me. I learnt that when there is laughter, food and wine flowing then the house is always full, but when in need, everyone seems to disappear. I still host for few, very good friends now, who are never more than 6 people at the table.
I have an Italian husband too - who loves people over for meals. Just tell him No…not ALSO making pasta/gazpacho . Love the way he couldn’t finish his zucchini on grill so expects you to bake it! Kylie, you are pregnant too - and during a heat wave. You gotta create some boundaries/rules. Really, when you give in and accommodate, there is no real appreciation…it’s just them seeing their version of guilt tripping and mildly bullying the wife as their right.
And then he asks you to bake the zucchini? Nope he should not have asked then you wouldn’t have to disappoint him with saying, no I can’t tend baking zucchini’s when doing all the other dishes!!
Incredibly impressed by your hosting skills under the circumstances! Next week surprise your guests with 1 hour notice for lunch and see how they feel! ;)
I would give your reply 100 thumbs up if I could!! I can’t imagine inviting myself over at all, but if I did, I wouldn’t do so without telling them not to cook because I’m bringing all the food!!!! And there is NO way I’d let my kids run around all over someone’s home!!!
OMG,love Guido but he was being annoying to keep asking u to change the menu and add additional dishes!!! You were SUPER PATIENT😃.This is wayyyyy too much work for a last minute lunch even though u already had the delicious ingredients!!So colorful.
Very demanding care about food but not the friends Italian or not .. hot wind from Africa … geoengineering the weather same in holland 🇳🇱legs up against the wall Guido can cook!
Your husband is very spoiled. He needs to help more. Who the heck just decides to visit in this timeframe. Just say NO. The kids are brats. Where were the parents?????
Hi Kyile, I'm Italian and it's not the Italian culture to invite themselves fir lunch (13 people 🤯) 2 hours before lunch. In our culture we call them "Sfacciati o Faccia tosta" It's in the culture to be less planners and invite ourselves for a visit but normally for a coffee or a drink in the late afternoon. We would have said "I'm sorry my dear but it's too short notice for a lunch, what about a late afternoon coffe or drink, we can arrange lunch for another day!!" I think they took advantage of you, knowing your extreme kindness and generosity, probably they didn't want to cook. You need to learn to know better the people surrounding you. 2nd point. Italy gets very hot in the summer, a typical hot summer lunch is not cooking much but preparing cold dishes like: Cold pasta (you cook only the pasta and mix with pomodorini, mozzarelline, pesto etc etc) there are several recipes,. Cold starters like prosciutto e malone, o caprese, or a big mix salad (you are a queen of mix salads? You did far too much Hope you read this. And Guido need to learn also. Next time be more Italian and set boundaries, just say 2 hours is too short notice, but you're welcome to a late afternoon coffee or drinks. Much love Kylie xx❤
Great advice. I thought they were being selfish, taking advantage and showing no consideration or acknowledgement of Kylie's recent illness and pregnancy. You created an amazing meal but you both must have been exhausted. As for parents letting their children roam around someone's home and break things beggars belief, I would avoid inviting them and meet them elsewhere. I have had a couple of experiences of children doing that and I told them off in front of their parents explaining that throwing cushions off my sofas and jumping on them was not acceptable and disrespectful. I am still friends with these people so no harm done, i am pretty relaxed but my home, my rules.❤
I'm Italian and I agree with you on this... it was too much, max the guests could offer to buy pizzas and bring them with them, if they really wanted to visit.
Now I didn't grow up in Italy, but as a Italian American, I must say that the bare minimum for guest inviting themselves over and wanting you to cook a full lunch. . .8 hours! (Usually they have the decency to offer to bring something)! They needed to call much sooner, especially since they also have kids & you are pregnant. And lunch doesn't have to be as complicated as dinner. You could've put Italian Meats & Cheeses with an assortment of variety of foods on a board and made a simple salad or still make the potato salad and that still would have been plenty of food....or breakdown and order pizza!
Hi Kylie! Italian here, living in Germany with lots of Italian friends. It’s not a common thing here to invite yourself over a friend’s place pretending lunch or dinner. Friends usually call and ask if you want to hang out at their place or at ours and if so what everyone of us will prepare. So that all of us contribute to a nice meal. Regarding the kid’s behavior there’s a huuuuuge difference in parenting. There are the ones you mentioned where the kids stray around the house with no boundaries at all and there are the ones that are well behaved and educated. It’s difficult to manage that situation especially since I don’t allow my girls to act and behave that way. I really must admit that in that case we really limit the times we’re together with these people, making sure to meet them outside. Not even restaurants because even there I feel sorry for the people around us and the working staff. May sound a little harsh but that’s just how I feel. Anyways I love the way you move in your kitchen and get everything ready. I really hope your husband appreciates all your precious work. Love from Germany!
I can accept that inviting yourself to someone's home at the last minute is acceptable in the Italian culture. Where I draw the line is looking after everyone else's kids. Expecting lunch is one thing...expecting built-in babysitting services is quite different. I would politely let all of the parents know where the kids are allowed to play (e.g. around the pool and open yard) and that they are responsible for ensuring they keep to those areas. I don't think that is too much to expect. One can be too accommodating. Loved the video...that gazpacho looked amazing!
As an American who lived in Italy for almost two years, I can tell you that most people would not invite themselves to anyone's house for dinner without an invitation. But since these are good friends who invite you frequently and you felt an obligation, I can understand why you agreed to the dinner. But again, you are expecting a baby and I think your friends were a bit inconsiderate to ask this of you. I will also say that Italians are polite and gracious and want to always display "bella figura" so I get it. And from my own experience, I think once you reach a certain age, those 3 course meals will get tiring to prepare and your desire to cook will lesson - especially if, as a mother and wife, you have been the cook for 25 to 30 years. So, yes, enjoy those dinners as long as you can in the company of great friends. Things change as we age. You are a wonderful and energetic woman Kylie, but even I who always entertained this way would say, it was a bit too much. You pushed yourself too hard. Take care! We all love your videos❤
You are a gem Kylie. Cannot believe how you kept your cool when your lovely husband kept making suggestions to you on what else you can make. You are not only the sweetest person you are very patient and kind. You make everything you do with love and perfection. Take care of yourself and the new baby.❤
I live in L.A.and most people I know would go out and meet people at a restaurant rather than at homes (and sit outside if warm).Exceptions would be drinks and appetizers at home, outdoors for casual family/ friends BBQ's,beach picnics, holiday dinners.I would say 1 week out for notice at a minimum to plan menu and get necessary ingredients.
You are a better woman than me lol. I would have told them you will prepare the one dish and they can bring whatever they want to eat. Too short of notice for all of those people when you’re pregnant, just getting over being sick and have a toddler.
Kylie you are just amazing and so kind! You have a heart of gold! The only problem is that people in today’s generation ( I’m also a teacher) parents don’t raise their kids the way they used to. Respect, sadly seems to be an outdated concept. Keep raising GF to be a wholesome person with respect in all areas. You are a wonderful woman and so admirable!❤
My mothers life was constant unexpected guests. Of course they expected to have a meal or two. My dad not helping at all. I honestly have PTSD growing up like that. I get so nervous having guests. My mother was amazing ❤ as are you.
I started to feel extremely grateful for my husband while watching this video 🙈 he is so helpful and whenever we have guests over he always tells me to do something easy and to not stress or if it's a lot of people he will ask me to make one thing I enjoy and will go buy the rest. That being said been a viewer for years and we all love Guido, and know how hard he works! No one is perfect and it is actually refreshing to see the realistic view of being a couple on SM instead of a perfectly crafted reality that other creators portray. Thanks for another lovely video, make sure to rest Kylie 💗
Hi Kylie, I live in Mallorca Spain but I am from Canada and I totally understand both cultures. Here in the Mediterranean we seem to be so much more laidback, putting importance much more on the time spend together rather than the actual hosting. So this happens from time to time. You did an amazing job and everything looked amazing. So envious of your gazpacho. I am going to make one myself. You are an amazing mom, wife , cook , host, gardener, and women. As we say in Canada . You are a four wheeler and work awesome in all terrains. Bravo my dear 😊
I had anxiety watching this episode… I thought steak chutney potato salad was quite adequate for a summer lunch. Then Guido asks for pasta and a side salad - then you made pasta for the kids?!?😵💫🥹🤔 and what was Guido doing???🤣 Also the amount of commercial interruptions is ridiculous lately!!! I feel so much empathy for you especially in this episode. Pregnancy heat wave wow!!! Brava 🥇🌸
I love your hair style, you look radiant and beautiful and as far as serving that many people in two hours, a huge "no". Everyone bring something and if not, go out for dinner. That is a huge load on the hostess, that deserves at least a two day advanced notice. Stressing out that much, does not make for a leisurely, fun experience - agita for dinner anyone? Gave me agita just watching it, I would not make it in Italy and I'm 80% Italian heritage. Hope your husband knows you are a special gift from God to him.
I'm exhausted! That's a lot to expect of you with just two hour notice. But! You pulled it off in spades. I think it's a tribute to you and your expertise.
I just love always seeing Gianfranco so willing to want to learn and help you in the garden and kitchen. He will always love doing this when he is a grown adult man. You are teaching him a great value in his life, beautiful Kylie!
I am sure you don't need reminding that the calmer you can be for the next 5 months will result in a content calm baby. You owe it to yourself and your baby.
I am Portuguese, we are of Europeans of Latin origin as well (as Celt) so we are easy here, but my God, if 10 people invited themselves to my house and my lunch in 2 hours, I would freak out... sorry, but there is a difference between easy going and imposing. I find such an attitude totally callous, friends or not. Kylie, you are incredibly understanding and a real trooper, so kudos to you! Much health and ❤ FM sunny Portugal.
Omg how stressful for you , I think it’s a little disrespectful of the guests to just invite themselves around , you definitely have a lot more patience than me you are a saint !
I was raised in USA but my family was Italian, from Italy. People would never call ahead, but just show up and we would do the same. But, (we would never expect a meal) always bring something. Like a beverage, ice cream , a cake etc. But it was part of the culture that you would always have something you could pull out and within 15 minutes there would be a spread on the table. We loved it when people would just show up! Instant party!! There is always pasta, homemade bread, a salad, some cheese… simple and wonderful and happy. My family would talk how rude Americans were for expecting you to call first before showing up, or “can you believe it, all they did was offer us a cup of coffee” 😂. So all (extended family) rarely associated outside the familia. My family was from Calabria. Hospitality was everything.
Love this video. I am a New Yorker, married an Italian and living in Italy. It drives me crazy with last minute get togethers but that’s the Italian way. U r incredible. U handled it w grace and patience. I learned some great last minute ideas from u today. Many Thanks….
Wow if I invited myself for lunch I’d say don’t worry I’ll bring the food and I’d keep my kids under control in someone else’s home. Don’t think I’d like your friends expecting so much from a pregnant woman who’s been recently unwell.. you’re way calmer than I’d ever be
I am glad you enjoyed your guests because that was a stressful preparation. Such short notice is a real burden, but you handled it beautifully. Take care of yourself!
I’m italian living in Italy and this situation is very uncommon! Kylie ci fai fare la figura dei cafoni 😅. Il tuo radioso sorriso è il miglior benvenuto per un ospite. Non affannarti più così tanto per favore. Take care of you and your family. Stay focused on priority.
I would consider it extremely rude to invite myself and that many people on a moments notice especially if you were expected to supply the meal. I would not consider these people friends. This behavior runs counter to every manner I’ve ever been taught. Not to mention it’s just basic common sense.
I would not consider these people friends either. None of my friends would act this way, and I wouldn’t dare inviting myself for lunch at somebody’s place, except a member of my close family. Also when talking about some children’ s behavior in the house, how come some parents let their children do whatever they want in somebody else’s place? Sorry Kylie, you’re such a smart person but it seems you don’t have the right friends.
I changed my mind about this! I am from the Netherlands and everything here goes by the planner. But having lived in Greece for a while I now know how absolutely wonderful it is that people simply come and visit you. I am glad there are still people who feel free and loved enough to invite themselves. Let's turn this around. The northern-western culture is not used to being loved so much that they can feel free to visit someone else. The warmth is lacking and it is covered with conventions (manner). Lonelyness is rampant in these regions and that is caused by ourselves... I just love the Southern temperament. I regard it as real friendship when someone invites themselves over... They actually want to see YOU... Let that sink in.
I experience the same thing with adults bringing children to my house. It's as if they expect you to wait on them and babysit and cook while they enjoy themselves. At the end of the visit, I'm worn out and feel sad that I couldn't just sit and enjoy their visit. Once they leave, it takes over an hour to clean up.
OMG us mothers put a lot of pressure on ourselves don’t we & other people’s expectations as well. As I’ve gotten older I’ve learned to say no sometimes, it’s hard but you have to look after your well-being as well. I would have said to Guido ‘you want the extra course you make it’ lol 😂. You did an amazing job.
Ciao Kylie. We also live in Italy and have learnt to Just Say No! It's unfair for people to impose themselves on you particularly when you are 4 months pregnant and have not been well. OMG kids running amuck around your lovely home and destroying your things. It sounds horrendous.. Guido,..... my mother who had a house full of kids and worked full time would tell my father if you want something do it yourself.. including a tomato salad! One of life's lessons....Maria.. PS. Good on you for expressing yourself so honestly I hope your 'friends' watch this vlog and learn something.
Dear Kylie, This is the first time I was really shocked (and a little angry) by the demanding demands from you... You are so kind and gentle but please learn to say no!! You can cook for your friends, but you definitely need to know it in advance (at least a day or two to shop and prepare), limits!! Sorry, I'm worried about you, even though we never met. Please take care.
Wow, spontaneous meals for visitors would mean you'd have to always have a fully stocked pantry and "be ready to go" at a moments notice, that's a lot alright. You're at such an advantage with your property and gardens full of produce though. Here in NZ I usually organise visitor meals a week or even more in advance, unless of course someone appears from out of town etc and then it's all hands to the pump! You're such an inspiration Kylie.
Kylie. Your wisdom makes life so much easier. Lots of people whine, scream, pout, etc., but you manage to prioritize, reassess and make the best of a situation. How blessed you are and so are Gianfranco and Guido for having you.
Please do a cookbook. I love your recipes! (PS agree with the critique of this very disrespectful bordering on abusive dynamic in your life presently. We all wake up to it eventually - here’s hoping it happens before you’re broke down and fed-up. Your children are watching and learning. ❤). Looking forward to your next video - 🎉
Just had to mention that I made the potato salad and it’s fabulous!!! The recipe is one I will repeat again and again. Thank you for sharing your twist on this dish Kylie!
As soon as you spoke about the peppers, the mixed colors, picking directly from the earth and appreciating what you picked stopped me and made me want to respond. That is a true gardener, and that is why you are so talented.... Truly, it comes from appreciating what we can grow. Farm to table. Love all of your videos, you are so very talented. From Hands to Earth Homestead in Pa. Much love to you and your family 🍅🌻🌞
Always a fine line between kind hospitality and setting boundaries. If they are genuine friends they should respect your boundaries and recognise that a respectful time frame e.g a couple of days isn’t unreasonable. It’s not just their needs that matter it’s everyone’s . Remember it’s ok to politely say no, and if they can’t accept that then the friendship isn’t worth your energy. ❤️
So, here's an idea. Buy 3 frozen pizza from local super mart and one gallon of vanilla ice cream and consider yourself ready for anyone who drops by (uninvited) for dinner.
I need a week to plan, buy and cook some dishes ahead. I guess I could make tuna or egg salad in a couple of hours and send my husband to get a dessert. I’m in total awe of your creativity in the kitchen.
In the Netherlands it can be months in advance! Especially on a weekend haha - like get out the calendar...my mother in law asks about Christmas a full year ahead
Ok...not to be mean, unkind or critical but, PLEASE! Guido was so off base! What on earth was wrong with him to keep demanding more and more dishes? Just such a lack of consideration and thoughtfulness!😠
Love guido! He is really super. It did seem like he forgot himself there for a bit. Hope Kylie and baby are safe after all the sickness and stress. Kylie, say no to things sometimes..your body is not a machine
I'm so glad you mentioned how stressful it is having to watch and police kids when you're entertaining. I have the same issue and wondered how people handle entertaining with kids and maybe we are odd. Things get broken and dirty and my daughter ends of upset because she is so organized and takes care of her toys. I guess we just keep policing. I will try doing most of the cooking ahead of time as you mentioned. I loved this episode.❤
One idea is to move your children’s real special toys, out of the way, not just upstairs but in your wardrobes again if you have a special lamp or vase I wouldn’t have those out at all. Sorry but if the children are so disobedience I wouldn’t be having them in my home it’s not fair to you or your children, bye for now from mean Lynda, I have lived a long time. I’m nearly 70 and I have been through all these ridiculous situations. Bye for now good luck.
I suspect people might invite themselves over to your place because you have a great home, grow so much fruit and veg, are fun company AND you are a great cook!! Not customary here in the UK (praise the Lord 🙏❤️). You should be nominated for a Sainthood ❤️
I love how Guido insisted Kylie sit while he “prepared” yogurt & nuts for her snack & then thought there weren’t enough courses and wanted a pasta course?!? Then he had no time to put zucchini on the same grill as the sausages! OMG. Yes, he had things he was doing but come on Guido…the extreme heat and your pregnant wife preparing this LAST MINUTE meal for “friends” with THREE children. Didn’t something similar happen last year when she was pregnant & had to prepare for company Guido invited? He is something else.
10 people would require at least a weeks notice for me! I know cultures are so different, but I am afraid I would be a pariah in Italy. I know me, and I would have been melting down like an old fish wife (no idea what they are like, but sounds good), slamming pots and pans around, hurling a few swear words, (out of earshot of toddler, of course) and probably cut myself, ALL with the worst attitude. I’m awful! LOL. You, on the other hand, are a saint, sweetie! Nary a cross word passed your lips. Your wee boy is such a darling, helping you❤ I honestly don’t know how you do it all, Kylie. Lastly, I wouldn’t THINK of letting my children run roughshod in someone’s house. Nope! Nope! Nope!
In the US, inviting yourself over in such a short notice AND expecting lunch is considered, to put it lightly, not ideal. Usually because not everyone stocks enough food for a big gathering. For short notice visits like this, we would suggest meeting up at a restaurant or coffee shop first. If the homeowner offers their home to catch up, then that door is open.
You are lovely Kylie and I’ve read what you just recently wrote in reply but I haven’t forgotten the apalling way you were treated in hospital nor did he friends who you invited , you made a beautiful cake and they didn’t turn up. Also it was as you who scrubbed and oiled ALL the floor tiles-
You are so beautiful and glowing Kylie. I won’t pile on to the other comments about taking care of yourself, except to say it’s worth listening to some of us former overachievers as we can sometimes give too much of ourselves. I spend half of the year in Italy, and I have been suffering with long Covid since May 2023. I am thrilled to see any information you care to share about healthy eating and healthy living, especially in Bella Italia. You really have a gift and thank you for sharing this with us. Quick PS - I was quite ill when we arrived at our home in Tuscany early this spring, but I kept saying Italy will heal me. Sure enough, by the time we arrived back in June I felt like myself again. Well, three months later and after incredible amount of stress my health has now declined markedly. Stress is incredibly impactful on your health. Bless you and your beautiful family Kylie.
I know exactly what you mean when cooking with fresh vegetables from your garden! The colors are amazing and bring such joy, so happy you feel the same! Your potato salad looked amazing, I am definitely going to have to make that! Thank you for sharing your recipes!
I got some good advice years ago. What if you were unavailable for whatever reason? They would find someone else to impose on. You don't need to always say yes. Set boundaries.
If Kylie thinks it’s okay, then that’s all that matters. What the rest of us think is secondary. I really love and appreciate her videos and the inspiration she provides.
The power of saying No, and putting yourself and your own health and happiness first. If they are good, considerate people, then they would understand. Or just do cheese 🧀 and biscuits! 😃 and a glass of wine 🍷 Kylie, you are too good, and you do not put yourself first often enough.x 🌸🦋
What? Your company comes last minute for dinner, expects you to cook for them last minute while they are letting their children run around your home unchaperoned trashing your things??? I had someone do that to me once. I never let them visit again. Rude and insane! What will those children grow up to be? You are pregnant, have a toddler, and Guido keeps showing up demanding you add yet another dish. What kind of craziness is this? You can't say enough is enough, because you are in Italy?
Kylie, it's a very good thing to keep private certains parts of your private life. I think people expose too much themselves (even their body) or their family in social media. It's not good, secure and safe specially for children. Some weird person's can use these images, etc. All of us must be careful. Wish you the best! Have a good and beautiful summer. From Canada.
Sorry Kylie, but I must object to your comment about Italians just dropping in with practically no notice and expecting a meal. As an American who has been living in Italy since the 1970s I can absolutely say that this behaviour is NOT normal. In my experience, Italians are usually very aware of social norms and proper etichette, worried about being considered “maleducati” (coarse mannered or vulgar). Unthinkable for a 40 yr old to say “Hey, can we come over for a dip in your pool and stay for lunch? And by the way, there are 10 of us!” In addition, being Italians, “lunch” (pranzo) is the main meal and they certainly do not expect a miserly burger and a beer, like a normal Anglosaxon picnic. Unthinkable the short notice and lack of consideration for the cook. All of this makes it hard to believe. The only scenario I can possibly imagine like this is if teenagers were calling other teenagers, in which case, they would probably be perfectly happy with a plate of pasta and a salad!
I feel you- I’ve been there so many times with last minute guests. I almost died when Guido said will there be enough food? I can’t tell you how many times my husband has said the same thing. Sometimes I think we put so many different things on the table that guests are a bit overwhelmed. So less is okay too. Were there leftovers?
@@KylieFlavell Does this mean that Guido has unrealistic expectations of how much a group can eat? He put a lot of pressure on you to create many dishes in this video, and given how many leftovers there were, that pressure seems wholly unnecessary.
I have the same personality as you & its hard to learn how to say no & put limits, especially when you want to make everyone happy etc. And if you've done last minute events in the past, everyones like, Kylies fine she can do it. In my experience, waiting for people that love you to "do the right thing" never happens. I had to be bold & tell them & it turned around. I agree with Dr Phil, "you teach people how to treat you". I was over 45yrs before I could do it. The sooner the better :)
This is exactly how I prepare and cook meals. I wish that we could be in the kitchen together, laughing, preparing meals, spending time with our toddlers, and enjoying all of the beautiful smells and sounds from the magical experience. Thank you for sharing ❤
God bless you Kylie, I would never be able to pull that off! All the dishes looked amazing, the potato salad and the salsa is one that I will make in the future. I love entertaining but I expect my guests to supervisor their own children for their own safety and not to destroy your things. That is totally not acceptable.Enjoy the rest of the summer and try to rest whenever you can especially in the hot weather. :)
I get so stressed with unplanned visits . I’m trying to be more flexible and spontaneous. I can totally relate to friends or family coming with their children and not watching them. Sort of descending on your home like a tornado of energetic pandemonium . Letting them run around getting into things and making a mess. Standing on furniture with shoes, eating while playing and getting everything sticky. I think parents need to teach their children how to be good guest. I love children, especially when they are well behaved. It’s the parent’s responsibility not you as host. However, sometimes you have to set boundaries in a nice way. Looks like you prepared a lovely summer lunch. I was impressed with how quickly you managed it all.
When you have short notice that guests are coming it’s best to prepare meals that require less prep time. There are many dishes that are quick, easy and delicious to make. You might want to consider a food chopper to speed things along next time. Your meals always look amazing
Dear Kylie please take time to rest during this pregnancy and reduce the amount of all your cooking in a moderate way so you are not exhausting yourself. I felt like you were pushing yourself too far and while Guido was helping, he put more stress on you by requesting more food. I’m glad you enjoyed your friends and did relax later. For me, I personally would have advised my friends that the time was not enough and in your case, more time to recover from your illness. It did seem an imposition by your friends and you being such a gracious hostess did provide a beautiful meal. You’re too kind and can easily be taken advantage of so please watch you do not get exhausted. You have a long time to deliver your baby. Sending you hugs and love. 💕 😚😘
One of the things I like about your channel is that you can put together a great video and still respect the privacy of others. I have family that are very private and it is important to respect their wishes. You describing the meal was perfect. Thank you for sharing.
IMHO, for last minute guests, the menu, while nice, was unnecessarily complicated. Italians appreciate a simple but hearty meal. A quick spaghetti with fresh pomodorini and basil, followed by a potato, green bean, onion and tomato salad with an olive oil/wine vinegar dressing, some grilled meat and the zucchini, and off you go. You always give 100% but perhaps spare yourself the trouble, especially on limited time, and keep it simple. It's understandable why Guido had concerns, but he was also helping and was concerned about Kylie. That said, surely everything was a hit.
I don’t even allow my grandchildren to wonder through my house into every room! They have their stuff and places in my house which is plenty. When they walk-in the door you explain the “kid” parts of the house…as far as breaking toys? Not sure about that. Next time they come you tell them there was a broken toy so the playhouse is off limits. Kids need boundaries…people have gotten so soft about raising kids…We are the adults and we need to set boundaries with children!!
Guido asking you what you needed was very sweet! I have Italian friends who are much more relaxed and just go with the flow no pressure and my husband's friend's in Greece are the same way. If we invite them last minute they also bring food which is great! As they say in South africa bring and braai!
I can tell you make food with love all the time, from the bottom of your heart, you love, entertaining, and love, nourishing others with the wonderful food that you make. It’s a pleasure to watch you make all this wonderful food!! I love your little boy always helping you and the garden and cooking so wonderful scene! God bless you and your family and staying in good health!!
I do not care what culture you are from but parents should be 100% responsible for their children's behavior at all times especially when being guests in someone else's home. From a Canadian.
Amazing effort, to prepare such a meal in 2 hours! Sounds like you had a great time with your friends, don’t do too much in the heat, look after yourself and your baby. Friends should have offered to bring food to share or cleaned up for you??? You are a beautiful hostess. Thank you ❤
Beautiful meal! I use to feel like I had to prepare every single dish from start to finish when I was younger too. As I have aged and my body just cannot do it all I have asked my guest to bring a dish or dessert that would compliment the meal. It blesses me and it makes them feel happy to contribute!
Kylie, given your ease in the kitchen, you make it look so seamless and you were gracious while doing so. I appreciate the teamwork between you and your husband. I was recently in Italy for several months and was surprised how lenient parents have become whether dining out formally or casually with their children - allowing them to climb on the tables and shout over the adults. I observed this more than once, it seems a rather new development and it surprised me.
Oh please…it happens in America all the time. We no longer seem to be teaching children how to sit at a table for even 15 minutes and practice eating and conversing together! Such a shame.
Parents that allow their children to run around in anyplace but their own home are doing their children no favors… most children are lovely…. However, some are not… for whatever reason….I like to remind people “Where do they think a**h*le adults come from ……from a**h*le kids” And so it is… You need to have a conversation with those “relaxed parents” and remind them that they are guests in your home and everyone follows the house rules.
I learned a painful lesson early in my married life when a visiting child entered an off-limit room in my house and unwrapped all of the Christmas presents that I had stored there. I vowed my children would always be respectful and supervised in other people’s homes.
@@deniseconnors8124 omg, this is crazy! I grew up in a culture where kids go around as they please - this gave me so much icky feeling since young adulthood, I simply stopped liking people in my house and all I want is peace. Kylie is a saint.
Good grief saint kylie……I felt the stress and your desire to be a most excellent hostess and not disappoint anyone. Personally I can’t cope with badly behaved children so can understand your anxiety and as ever what a beautiful film .
Guido… Sit down let me fix you something to eat. 10 minutes later… Where is the pasta dish? I adore Guido but maybe he needs to learn how to do a little bit of cooking himself boiling pasta isn’t beyond his ability for sure! Just saying. 🤷♀️❤️
Kylie did mentioned at the end that he was doing a lot...getting the pool ready, grilling the meat. So I'll give him the benefit of the doubt, as none of this was filmed. Also, Kylie is an adult, so she can so no and set expectations. I try to stay away from commenting on relationship dynamics; esp. when we are only getting one person's perspective. Having said that, I do understand how you would come to that conclusion based on what we saw and heard in the video.
@@jenng.7939yeah, but you could clearly hear the fatigue in her tone every time he started directing the menu, adding more dishes…this is HER wheelhouse (menu and cooking) and he just kept pinging in. Bbq’ing meat in the background hardly makes him a helping hero…just saying.
So glad you are feeling better. When I was pregnant with my second; I showed so much sooner than with our first 😊. I love company and every now and again someone(s) just stop by; but normally we don’t have the same situation as you. We always try to have something in the house if someone stops by; some of our best memories are when we have had no notice and thing just happen organically. Anyone showing up without much notice couldn’t possibly expect anything extravagant 🙂. Love the channel!
Thank you for watching. Appreciate everyone’s thoughts. Keep in mind these friends reciprocate and host all the time. As someone wrote below, it’s a cultural thing. Not every Italian is like this but many in Mediterranean (and Asian and Middle Eastern) cultures are. My Greek grandmother would often say a good Greek should always have something homemade ready to offer, even if guests show up completely unannounced. But I understand your comments come out of concern for my health. I’m fine, don’t worry. 😘😘😘
I'm sorry but this is not a cultural thing, some people are just ill-mannered and those friends are and example of this kind of people, that's it.
Nobody in Italy would consider normal and polite to self-invite 10 people for lunch with 2 hours notice!!! It would never happen to me, but maybe that's because I don't live in a huge house in the Tuscan countryside with a swimming pool (during a heat wave)!
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Thank you for adding your perspective. I was reading the comments and had not even considered judging the fact that you received a call and friends telling you they are coming.
I just watched your whole video and all I saw was a glowing Kylie, that handled the situation just fine!!! And you already gave so much clarification and colour and texture around this lunch... I never thought the comment section would create a story of 'you being a victim of rude friends'. I only saw a victorious exciting runthrough of a wonderfull day.
For a while I have been living in Greece as a European from the North... and it completely changed my perspective on hospitality. I do think now it is truely an honor if people want to come to you. Imagine a world where nobody would ever consider visiting you out of the blue. How boringly dreadful that would be.
With the greatest respect Kylie, you seemed anxious in recalling what you had needed to do in 2 hours and I would say that for me, this would be a sign of a need to reconsider a choice in the future.
For example, you could set a boundary to host in a 2-hour time period, but you could propose to host in a 4-hour time period (Then you could serve tea or coffee), if not a different day (Then you could still serve lunch).
It would be reasonable to say that you're tired or you planned to spend the day with your family. Whoever doesn't understand may not be a true friend. ❤
so ppl choose to go the extra mile, sure she could have thrown in some quick and easy pizzas together in the oven. But she chose to go the extra mile. Italian culture revolves around food like many of the other collective societies and for such cultures ,if it means going the extra mile and cooking for an hour to get food on the table, ppl are willing and choose to do it. They don’t see it as an imposition rather a welcome change from their everyday life. So she had to cook under stress for an hour, which she clearly chose to do, what we aren’t seeing here is the wonderful afternoon they all spent together. Enjoying that food and the company, she and her guests probably had an extended lunch and coffee al fresco, shared a few laughs and really enjoyed each others company. So if u look at the big picture, you know the wonderful day they had, an hour of cooking is such a small price to pay for it. Also, if she wasn’t up to it, she wouldn’t do it. Life cannot always be planned to the t, sure it would be great to have a planned lunch with enough prep time and everything, but sometimes it’s the spontaneous unplanned things that make life wonderful.
Boundaries are important. Especially since you had just been sick and are 4 months pregnant with a toddler! If I were your friend, I wouldn't dream of doing that to you. I would show up with a basket of goodies for you and leave the kids at home. I know how a pool in hot weather can be a magnet for drop in friends. Boundaries my dear are a healthy part of self-care. Hugs.
@@beckyford6639 I love the way you put that.
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Amen!
There are other ways to look at it. This is a deeply ingrained cultural difference.
@@Pilot333 I’m sure that has something to do with it, doesn’t make it ok though. Some consideration is needed from friends and husband.
My biggest pet peeve is when guests with kids don't supervise them and allow them to rampage through your home. It feels like an invasion of your personal space unless they stay in designated play area/hangout spot.
@@mu_sff it is passive- aggressive behavior on the part of the parents!
Oh no, those children need to know when in YOUR home what the rules are! Its sad to have to reprimand them but its necessary for your peace of mind!!
I started getting a panic attack watching your preparations for your visitors, that was way way too much stress for you, just getting over an illness and being pregnant not to mention you also have Gianfranco to take care of. At one time in my life I did entertain like this putting so much stress on myself to serve the perfect meal, in my perfect house looking perfect but not anymore!!! Take care of yourself, Kylie, you are important too!!!
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Exactly, and what a relief when you finally decide that no one is more important than you and your health.
I agree and Guido’s contribution of suggestions even MORE side dishes was grinding my gears! Sta zitto Guidi lol per favore!
Kylie, I am Italian and I live in Italy and I can tell you that none of my friends would do something like this!
Preparing lunch for TEN (10!!!) additional people with two hours notice??? Hell, no!
Those friends acted really rude in my opinion
And your husband wasn't really helpful either
I don't believe that this story really took place like she is telling it😢
She is dramatizing the situation. Her husband is ALWAYS breathing down her neck. What an UNHEALTHY marriage.
@@MK10022 I really can't believe what horrible, unjust, hating things people like you are writing here in the comments. Please restrain yourself, it is said to read it.
Ha, they invited themselves to your house for lunch with two hours' notice. You are a good woman, Kylie. I would have been asking what they were bringing for lunch.
Me too! They should arrive with a lot more than just gelato...
Hahaha absolutely !!
Yes, they should have brought the entire lunch with them!!!
No I disagree I’m sure they didn’t expect such a meal. They probably just thought a snack with dessert
There is no way people where Im from in the US would expect so much when visiting for lunch. People know to contribute and they usually mind their kids as well. Its kind of common sense and polite.
this video feels designed to highlight not so much the italian way of casual imposition, but rather some of the understandable frustrations you felt toward your husband in this situation. you have a beautiful life and your work ethic is staggering. i hope you're having the conversations you need to have not so much with your friends, but with guido. you can say no and there are a couple moments in this where i wish you would've. communication is so important and sometimes, you just need to draw the line. you might need to be really overt about your boundaries if you are ever in a situation like this again. it sounded like the hinting was falling on deaf ears in this case. wish you and your family well always.
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I live in the U.S. and I would never call someone up and invite myself and family over for lunch or dinner with a two hour window. I would never invite myself over to someone else's house for any meal. I would invite "them" over to my house and wait to be invited to theirs. But I know cultures are different in every country. You handled this with grace and patience. I have no idea how you did everything you did in two hours!! You're so kind and truly generous. :)
But it's sad in certains ways. We have lost our young spontaneous spirit about sharing a dinner with friends in our homes. Everything is beautiful, the decor, the gardens, etc. but we are too formal with dinners. Even the most prepared dinner with perfect dishes, plates, etc, can be not unpleasant, boring, too complicated, etc. Some people will not receive visitors because "my house is not perfect today...", etc. When we go to someone house its ti see him/her, not their dishes.... So be spontaneous! I am French and I love dinners who are surprise! fun, less formal and usually they are the most funny meals. 🎉
@@clairetremblay3023 I totally agree with you. This video hit a nerve and a deep contrast in cultures. I support your perspective and hope Kylie will break a bone for this perspective. Hospitality is a lost art... in Greece it is an HONOR to provide a guest with regards. That is exactly what Kylie did. She has been true to her ancestry and that is Humongous in these superficial times.
I kinda like it when people invite themselves over because I speed clean. Otherwise I am not motivated. 😂
I think it is wonderful that they are coming over since they host so much. ❤ I love your cooking videos and I write down the recipes. With your inspiration I am going to have my house ready for a company for whenever and hope they’ll come. 🎉
I was kind of shocked too. Sometimes people stop by to say hello at the last minute, but to invite themselves for lunch, that’s the first i have ever heard of that.
Way too much work for a pregnant lady with a toddler. I used to be like you when I was younger. Wanting to be the perfect host and please my husband, but now that I am older I've realized, the more I do or am capable of, the more everyone expects. No one gave me an award for doing sooooo much and I was definitely taken advantage of and made my husband look good. Now, I don't do anything. I spend my time on myself rather than pleasing others. Kylie wake up - doing all of this does not define you or give you value. You are more than this !
I agree 100%. It is almost as though they conjured being rude and putting Kylie to the test. The solution: thanks for calling but we are not accepting guests at this time, again!
I'm in the US and for that many people at least 2 days notice unless they like peanut butter.
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I love peanut butter.
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I love this! ;)
i used to be just like you Kylie, always thinking how can i offer the most delightful experience to others, accepting people at dinner on a very short notice, welcoming their kids even when destroying things around house, cooking the best meals even when i was tired, trying to please my husband when he freaked out on dinners and how much food we serve or not, etc. This was until 10 years ago when my body started to crash, entering burnout, not once, but three times, and then an autoimmune disease. Giving so much to others and being such a kind loving soul can deeply exhaust a woman's body. Through the recovery process (which is still going on despite my lifestyle changes) i learned that self care, very strong boundaries, pleasing myself first and doing only what my body can really handle without being in a rush and depleted, is a must. I hope from the bottom of my heart that you will take much better care of yourself Kylie, you deserve it so much. Let things just be, let others pressure go, let them deal with their own worries, dont take their burdens on your shoulders, you are already doing so much. Its time for you to receive more and replenish. If i were to receive people now on a short notice, i would ponder twice on saying yes. Am i rested enough? Do i have some food that is easy to put on table, like a cheese platter, fruits and wine? Are their kids behaving? if not, i would kindly ask people to not bring their kids or kindly refuse welcoming them because my sanity is worth it. Would i be in a rush? if yes, the answer would be NO. In the end, people who would be offended by m healthy boundaries would not really be my friends. Take care Kylie.
Spot on. Absolutely agree 100%. I too regret being a people pleaser. Burn out is just around the corner.
Amen to that!!! I was there to!!! No more!!!!
Agree with every word!! It's good to learn from other's experience and to avoid the pain..
Yes i agree! You have to protect your mental and physical health nobody walks in your shoes. Also your little toddler needs you most, i never trusted anyone with my babies unless i cant take them with me to an appointment or event in which case only a close family would babysit.
You dont have to impress anyone who annonces coming over short notice at mealtime.
Just have hubby put whatever is easy on the table like salad and fruit. Your husband will understand that you are not up to it. Wish you health and joy always!!
I agree. I'm Italian, and I've hosted for years; friends loved my dinners.
I too have an autoimmune disease and, one time when I was admitted to hospital no one visited me. I learnt that when there is laughter, food and wine flowing then the house is always full, but when in need, everyone seems to disappear.
I still host for few, very good friends now, who are never more than 6 people at the table.
I have an Italian husband too - who loves people over for meals. Just tell him No…not ALSO making pasta/gazpacho . Love the way he couldn’t finish his zucchini on grill so expects you to bake it! Kylie, you are pregnant too - and during a heat wave. You gotta create some boundaries/rules. Really, when you give in and accommodate, there is no real appreciation…it’s just them seeing their version of guilt tripping and mildly bullying the wife as their right.
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So true again from me and well said , bullying to a tee
And then he asks you to bake the zucchini? Nope he should not have asked then you wouldn’t have to disappoint him with saying, no I can’t tend baking zucchini’s when doing all the other dishes!!
Incredibly impressed by your hosting skills under the circumstances! Next week surprise your guests with 1 hour notice for lunch and see how they feel! ;)
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I would give your reply 100 thumbs up if I could!! I can’t imagine inviting myself over at all, but if I did, I wouldn’t do so without telling them not to cook because I’m bringing all the food!!!! And there is NO way I’d let my kids run around all over someone’s home!!!
OMG,love Guido but he was being annoying to keep asking u to change the menu and add additional dishes!!! You were SUPER PATIENT😃.This is wayyyyy too much work for a last minute lunch even though u already had the delicious ingredients!!So colorful.
I’m glad you said it. Guido needed to be happy with potato salad, sausage and pepper chutney. That was more than anyone could expect.
Very demanding care about food but not the friends Italian or not .. hot wind from Africa … geoengineering the weather same in holland 🇳🇱legs up against the wall Guido can cook!
@@marionharding6015 it’s too bad that most people in the world don’t know that the weather is being Geo engineered
Yeah somewhat unbelievable given the circumstances.
Your husband is very spoiled. He needs to help more. Who the heck just decides to visit in this timeframe. Just say NO.
The kids are brats. Where were the parents?????
Hi Kyile, I'm Italian and it's not the Italian culture to invite themselves fir lunch (13 people 🤯) 2 hours before lunch. In our culture we call them "Sfacciati o Faccia tosta"
It's in the culture to be less planners and invite ourselves for a visit but normally for a coffee or a drink in the late afternoon.
We would have said "I'm sorry my dear but it's too short notice for a lunch, what about a late afternoon coffe or drink, we can arrange lunch for another day!!"
I think they took advantage of you, knowing your extreme kindness and generosity, probably they didn't want to cook.
You need to learn to know better the people surrounding you.
2nd point. Italy gets very hot in the summer, a typical hot summer lunch is not cooking much but preparing cold dishes like:
Cold pasta (you cook only the pasta and mix with pomodorini, mozzarelline, pesto etc etc) there are several recipes,.
Cold starters like prosciutto e malone, o caprese, or a big mix salad (you are a queen of mix salads?
You did far too much
Hope you read this. And Guido need to learn also.
Next time be more Italian and set boundaries, just say 2 hours is too short notice, but you're welcome to a late afternoon coffee or drinks.
Much love Kylie xx❤
Great advice. I thought they were being selfish, taking advantage and showing no consideration or acknowledgement of Kylie's recent illness and pregnancy. You created an amazing meal but you both must have been exhausted. As for parents letting their children roam around someone's home and break things beggars belief, I would avoid inviting them and meet them elsewhere. I have had a couple of experiences of children doing that and I told them off in front of their parents explaining that throwing cushions off my sofas and jumping on them was not acceptable and disrespectful. I am still friends with these people so no harm done, i am pretty relaxed but my home, my rules.❤
I'm Italian and I agree with you on this... it was too much, max the guests could offer to buy pizzas and bring them with them, if they really wanted to visit.
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Now I didn't grow up in Italy, but as a Italian American, I must say that the bare minimum for guest inviting themselves over and wanting you to cook a full lunch. . .8 hours! (Usually they have the decency to offer to bring something)!
They needed to call much sooner, especially since they also have kids & you are pregnant. And lunch doesn't have to be as complicated as dinner. You could've put Italian Meats & Cheeses with an assortment of variety of foods on a board and made a simple salad or still make the potato salad and that still would have been plenty of food....or breakdown and order pizza!
@@cleverchaleigh agreed, its hot in italy at lunchtime youshould not be bbq and making hot dishes. Take out or pizza is easier🙂
Hi Kylie! Italian here, living in Germany with lots of Italian friends. It’s not a common thing here to invite yourself over a friend’s place pretending lunch or dinner. Friends usually call and ask if you want to hang out at their place or at ours and if so what everyone of us will prepare. So that all of us contribute to a nice meal. Regarding the kid’s behavior there’s a huuuuuge difference in parenting. There are the ones you mentioned where the kids stray around the house with no boundaries at all and there are the ones that are well behaved and educated. It’s difficult to manage that situation especially since I don’t allow my girls to act and behave that way. I really must admit that in that case we really limit the times we’re together with these people, making sure to meet them outside. Not even restaurants because even there I feel sorry for the people around us and the working staff. May sound a little harsh but that’s just how I feel. Anyways I love the way you move in your kitchen and get everything ready. I really hope your husband appreciates all your precious work. Love from Germany!
I just wanted to take a minute and say many many blessings for a safe pregnancy and congratulations on a new life to spoil!!! Your a wonderful mommy.
Thank you so much!! You’re so sweet.
Yes, she's an angel
I can accept that inviting yourself to someone's home at the last minute is acceptable in the Italian culture. Where I draw the line is looking after everyone else's kids. Expecting lunch is one thing...expecting built-in babysitting services is quite different. I would politely let all of the parents know where the kids are allowed to play (e.g. around the pool and open yard) and that they are responsible for ensuring they keep to those areas. I don't think that is too much to expect. One can be too accommodating. Loved the video...that gazpacho looked amazing!
As an American who lived in Italy for almost two years, I can tell you that most people would not invite themselves to anyone's house for dinner without an invitation. But since these are good friends who invite you frequently and you felt an obligation, I can understand why you agreed to the dinner. But again, you are expecting a baby and I think your friends were a bit inconsiderate to ask this of you. I will also say that Italians are polite and gracious and want to always display "bella figura" so I get it. And from my own experience, I think once you reach a certain age, those 3 course meals will get tiring to prepare and your desire to cook will lesson - especially if, as a mother and wife, you have been the cook for 25 to 30 years. So, yes, enjoy those dinners as long as you can in the company of great friends. Things change as we age. You are a wonderful and energetic woman Kylie, but even I who always entertained this way would say, it was a bit too much. You pushed yourself too hard. Take care! We all love your videos❤
You are a gem Kylie. Cannot believe how you kept your cool when your lovely husband kept making suggestions to you on what else you can make. You are not only the sweetest person you are very patient and kind. You make everything you do with love and perfection. Take care of yourself and the new baby.❤
it's just a very patriarchal society still.. :(
I live in L.A.and most people I know would go out and meet people at a restaurant rather than at homes (and sit outside if warm).Exceptions would be drinks and appetizers at home, outdoors for casual family/ friends BBQ's,beach picnics, holiday dinners.I would say 1 week out for notice at a minimum to plan menu and get necessary ingredients.
I would have made sandwiches! 😅
You are a better woman than me lol. I would have told them you will prepare the one dish and they can bring whatever they want to eat. Too short of notice for all of those people when you’re pregnant, just getting over being sick and have a toddler.
Exactly!!
Kylie you are just amazing and so kind! You have a heart of gold! The only problem is that people in today’s generation ( I’m also a teacher) parents don’t raise their kids the way they used to. Respect, sadly seems to be an outdated concept.
Keep raising GF to be a wholesome person with respect in all areas. You are a wonderful woman and so admirable!❤
My mothers life was constant unexpected guests. Of course they expected to have a meal or two. My dad not helping at all. I honestly have PTSD growing up like that. I get so nervous having guests. My mother was amazing ❤ as are you.
I started to feel extremely grateful for my husband while watching this video 🙈 he is so helpful and whenever we have guests over he always tells me to do something easy and to not stress or if it's a lot of people he will ask me to make one thing I enjoy and will go buy the rest. That being said been a viewer for years and we all love Guido, and know how hard he works! No one is perfect and it is actually refreshing to see the realistic view of being a couple on SM instead of a perfectly crafted reality that other creators portray. Thanks for another lovely video, make sure to rest Kylie 💗
Hi Kylie, I live in Mallorca Spain but I am from Canada and I totally understand both cultures. Here in the Mediterranean we seem to be so much more laidback, putting importance much more on the time spend together rather than the actual hosting. So this happens from time to time. You did an amazing job and everything looked amazing. So envious of your gazpacho. I am going to make one myself. You are an amazing mom, wife , cook , host, gardener, and women. As we say in Canada . You are a four wheeler and work awesome in all terrains. Bravo my dear 😊
I had anxiety watching this episode… I thought steak chutney potato salad was quite adequate for a summer lunch. Then Guido asks for pasta and a side salad - then you made pasta for the kids?!?😵💫🥹🤔 and what was Guido doing???🤣
Also the amount of commercial interruptions is ridiculous lately!!!
I feel so much empathy for you especially in this episode. Pregnancy heat wave wow!!! Brava 🥇🌸
The commercials generate income so that she can continue to bring us wonderful content. Just hit the skip button or be patient for the minute or two.
I love your hair style, you look radiant and beautiful and as far as serving that many people in two hours, a huge "no". Everyone bring something and if not, go out for dinner. That is a huge load on the hostess, that deserves at least a two day advanced notice. Stressing out that much, does not make for a leisurely, fun experience - agita for dinner anyone? Gave me agita just watching it, I would not make it in Italy and I'm 80% Italian heritage. Hope your husband knows you are a special gift from God to him.
I'm exhausted! That's a lot to expect of you with just two hour notice. But! You pulled it off in spades. I think it's a tribute to you and your expertise.
I just love always seeing Gianfranco so willing to want to learn and help you in the garden and kitchen. He will always love doing this when he is a grown adult man. You are teaching him a great value in his life, beautiful Kylie!
I am sure you don't need reminding that the calmer you can be for the next 5 months will result in a content calm baby. You owe it to yourself and your baby.
I am Portuguese, we are of Europeans of Latin origin as well (as Celt) so we are easy here, but my God, if 10 people invited themselves to my house and my lunch in 2 hours, I would freak out... sorry, but there is a difference between easy going and imposing. I find such an attitude totally callous, friends or not. Kylie, you are incredibly understanding and a real trooper, so kudos to you!
Much health and ❤ FM sunny Portugal.
Omg how stressful for you , I think it’s a little disrespectful of the guests to just invite themselves around , you definitely have a lot more patience than me you are a saint !
I was raised in USA but my family was Italian, from Italy. People would never call ahead, but just show up and we would do the same. But, (we would never expect a meal) always bring something. Like a beverage, ice cream , a cake etc. But it was part of the culture that you would always have something you could pull out and within 15 minutes there would be a spread on the table. We loved it when people would just show up! Instant party!! There is always pasta, homemade bread, a salad, some cheese… simple and wonderful and happy. My family would talk how rude Americans were for expecting you to call first before showing up, or “can you believe it, all they did was offer us a cup of coffee” 😂. So all (extended family) rarely associated outside the familia. My family was from Calabria. Hospitality was everything.
Love this video. I am a New Yorker, married an Italian and living in Italy. It drives me crazy with last minute get togethers but that’s the Italian way. U r incredible. U handled it w grace and patience. I learned some great last minute ideas from u today. Many Thanks….
Wow if I invited myself for lunch I’d say don’t worry I’ll bring the food and I’d keep my kids under control in someone else’s home. Don’t think I’d like your friends expecting so much from a pregnant woman who’s been recently unwell.. you’re way calmer than I’d ever be
I am glad you enjoyed your guests because that was a stressful preparation. Such short notice is a real burden, but you handled it beautifully. Take care of yourself!
I’m italian living in Italy and this situation is very uncommon! Kylie ci fai fare la figura dei cafoni 😅. Il tuo radioso sorriso è il miglior benvenuto per un ospite. Non affannarti più così tanto per favore. Take care of you and your family. Stay focused on priority.
Sono assolutamente d'accordo, non mi è mai successo una cosa simile con degli amici.
I would consider it extremely rude to invite myself and that many people on a moments notice especially if you were expected to supply the meal. I would not consider these people friends. This behavior runs counter to every manner I’ve ever been taught. Not to mention it’s just basic common sense.
I agree with this comment 100% and I come from Italian people and we never would do that and we always brought food with us when we did visit.
I would not consider these people friends either. None of my friends would act this way, and I wouldn’t dare inviting myself for lunch at somebody’s place, except a member of my close family. Also when talking about some children’ s behavior in the house, how come some parents let their children do whatever they want in somebody else’s place? Sorry Kylie, you’re such a smart person but it seems you don’t have the right friends.
I changed my mind about this! I am from the Netherlands and everything here goes by the planner. But having lived in Greece for a while I now know how absolutely wonderful it is that people simply come and visit you. I am glad there are still people who feel free and loved enough to invite themselves.
Let's turn this around. The northern-western culture is not used to being loved so much that they can feel free to visit someone else. The warmth is lacking and it is covered with conventions (manner). Lonelyness is rampant in these regions and that is caused by ourselves... I just love the Southern temperament. I regard it as real friendship when someone invites themselves over... They actually want to see YOU... Let that sink in.
@@anouchkah.4734 All well and good, but they should be well mannered enough to offer to bring something with them. That’s just plain rude!
I experience the same thing with adults bringing children to my house. It's as if they expect you to wait on them and babysit and cook while they enjoy themselves. At the end of the visit, I'm worn out and feel sad that I couldn't just sit and enjoy their visit. Once they leave, it takes over an hour to clean up.
OMG us mothers put a lot of pressure on ourselves don’t we & other people’s expectations as well. As I’ve gotten older I’ve learned to say no sometimes, it’s hard but you have to look after your well-being as well. I would have said to Guido ‘you want the extra course you make it’ lol 😂. You did an amazing job.
Ciao Kylie. We also live in Italy and have learnt to Just Say No! It's unfair for people to impose themselves on you particularly when you are 4 months pregnant and have not been well. OMG kids running amuck around your lovely home and destroying your things. It sounds horrendous.. Guido,..... my mother who had a house full of kids and worked full time would tell my father if you want something do it yourself.. including a tomato salad! One of life's lessons....Maria.. PS. Good on you for expressing yourself so honestly I hope your 'friends' watch this vlog and learn something.
Maybe that was why she made this video. Didn't feel she could say it , especially to Guido.She needs to learn how to protect herself and say enough!
Dear Kylie, This is the first time I was really shocked (and a little angry) by the demanding demands from you... You are so kind and gentle but please learn to say no!! You can cook for your friends, but you definitely need to know it in advance (at least a day or two to shop and prepare), limits!! Sorry, I'm worried about you, even though we never met. Please take care.
It's Italy.
Wow, spontaneous meals for visitors would mean you'd have to always have a fully stocked pantry and "be ready to go" at a moments notice, that's a lot alright. You're at such an advantage with your property and gardens full of produce though. Here in NZ I usually organise visitor meals a week or even more in advance, unless of course someone appears from out of town etc and then it's all hands to the pump! You're such an inspiration Kylie.
Kylie. Your wisdom makes life so much easier. Lots of people whine, scream, pout, etc., but you manage to prioritize, reassess and make the best of a situation. How blessed you are and so are Gianfranco and Guido for having you.
Sorry to hear that you were so sick. That's never fun. Happy to see you back on❤
Please do a cookbook. I love your recipes! (PS agree with the critique of this very disrespectful bordering on abusive dynamic in your life presently. We all wake up to it eventually - here’s hoping it happens before you’re broke down and fed-up. Your children are watching and learning. ❤). Looking forward to your next video - 🎉
Just had to mention that I made the potato salad and it’s fabulous!!! The recipe is one I will repeat again and again. Thank you for sharing your twist on this dish Kylie!
We never drop in at a short notice but do Sunday visits and bring something to go with coffee.
As soon as you spoke about the peppers, the mixed colors, picking directly from the earth and appreciating what you picked stopped me and made me want to respond. That is a true gardener, and that is why you are so talented.... Truly, it comes from appreciating what we can grow. Farm to table. Love all of your videos, you are so very talented. From Hands to Earth Homestead in Pa. Much love to you and your family 🍅🌻🌞
Heatwave, swimming pool and your food😅 I understand the allure 😊❤
Hope they get an invite back!
Always a fine line between kind hospitality and setting boundaries. If they are genuine friends they should respect your boundaries and recognise that a respectful time frame e.g a couple of days isn’t unreasonable. It’s not just their needs that matter it’s everyone’s . Remember it’s ok to politely say no, and if they can’t accept that then the friendship isn’t worth your energy. ❤️
So, here's an idea. Buy 3 frozen pizza from local super mart and one gallon of vanilla ice cream and consider yourself ready for anyone who drops by (uninvited) for dinner.
I need a week to plan, buy and cook some dishes ahead. I guess I could make tuna or egg salad in a couple of hours and send my husband to get a dessert. I’m in total awe of your creativity in the kitchen.
In the Netherlands it can be months in advance! Especially on a weekend haha - like get out the calendar...my mother in law asks about Christmas a full year ahead
Same in Germany 😂
Ok...not to be mean, unkind or critical but, PLEASE! Guido was so off base! What on earth was wrong with him to keep demanding more and more dishes? Just such a lack of consideration and thoughtfulness!😠
Exactly!
Love guido! He is really super. It did seem like he forgot himself there for a bit. Hope Kylie and baby are safe after all the sickness and stress. Kylie, say no to things sometimes..your body is not a machine
Typical Italian male
Wake up Kylie!
I agree!!
I'm so glad you mentioned how stressful it is having to watch and police kids when you're entertaining. I have the same issue and wondered how people handle entertaining with kids and maybe we are odd. Things get broken and dirty and my daughter ends of upset because she is so organized and takes care of her toys. I guess we just keep policing. I will try doing most of the cooking ahead of time as you mentioned. I loved this episode.❤
One idea is to move your children’s real special toys, out of the way, not just upstairs but in your wardrobes again if you have a special lamp or vase I wouldn’t have those out at all. Sorry but if the children are so disobedience I wouldn’t be having them in my home it’s not fair to you or your children, bye for now from mean Lynda, I have lived a long time. I’m nearly 70 and I have been through all these ridiculous situations. Bye for now good luck.
I suspect people might invite themselves over to your place because you have a great home, grow so much fruit and veg, are fun company AND you are a great cook!! Not customary here in the UK (praise the Lord 🙏❤️). You should be nominated for a Sainthood ❤️
You have the patience of a saint.
I love how Guido insisted Kylie sit while he “prepared” yogurt & nuts for her snack & then thought there weren’t enough courses and wanted a pasta course?!? Then he had no time to put zucchini on the same grill as the sausages! OMG. Yes, he had things he was doing but come on Guido…the extreme heat and your pregnant wife preparing this LAST MINUTE meal for “friends” with THREE children. Didn’t something similar happen last year when she was pregnant & had to prepare for company Guido invited? He is something else.
10 people would require at least a weeks notice for me! I know cultures are so different, but I am afraid I would be a pariah in Italy. I know me, and I would have been melting down like an old fish wife (no idea what they are like, but sounds good), slamming pots and pans around, hurling a few swear words, (out of earshot of toddler, of course) and probably cut myself, ALL with the worst attitude. I’m awful! LOL. You, on the other hand, are a saint, sweetie! Nary a cross word passed your lips. Your wee boy is such a darling, helping you❤ I honestly don’t know how you do it all, Kylie. Lastly, I wouldn’t THINK of letting my children run roughshod in someone’s house. Nope! Nope! Nope!
In the US, inviting yourself over in such a short notice AND expecting lunch is considered, to put it lightly, not ideal. Usually because not everyone stocks enough food for a big gathering.
For short notice visits like this, we would suggest meeting up at a restaurant or coffee shop first. If the homeowner offers their home to catch up, then that door is open.
You are lovely Kylie and I’ve read what you just recently wrote in reply but I haven’t forgotten the apalling way you were treated in hospital nor did he friends who you invited , you made a beautiful cake and they didn’t turn up. Also it was as you who scrubbed and oiled ALL the floor tiles-
You are so beautiful and glowing Kylie. I won’t pile on to the other comments about taking care of yourself, except to say it’s worth listening to some of us former overachievers as we can sometimes give too much of ourselves.
I spend half of the year in Italy, and I have been suffering with long Covid since May 2023. I am thrilled to see any information you care to share about healthy eating and healthy living, especially in Bella Italia. You really have a gift and thank you for sharing this with us.
Quick PS - I was quite ill when we arrived at our home in Tuscany early this spring, but I kept saying Italy will heal me. Sure enough, by the time we arrived back in June I felt like myself again. Well, three months later and after incredible amount of stress my health has now declined markedly. Stress is incredibly impactful on your health. Bless you and your beautiful family Kylie.
I know exactly what you mean when cooking with fresh vegetables from your garden! The colors are amazing and bring such joy, so happy you feel the same! Your potato salad looked amazing, I am definitely going to have to make that! Thank you for sharing your recipes!
Those are beautiful dishes.
You have the patience of a saint.
Never invited myself anywhere. I do want to mention you look lovely in yellow!
I got some good advice years ago. What if you were unavailable for whatever reason? They would find someone else to impose on. You don't need to always say yes. Set boundaries.
If Kylie thinks it’s okay, then that’s all that matters. What the rest of us think is secondary. I really love and appreciate her videos and the inspiration she provides.
The power of saying No, and putting yourself and your own health and happiness first. If they are good, considerate people, then they would understand. Or just do cheese 🧀 and biscuits! 😃 and a glass of wine 🍷 Kylie, you are too good, and you do not put yourself first often enough.x 🌸🦋
this young woman is amazing! Her husband is very blessed. Good luck with your pregnancy!
What? Your company comes last minute for dinner, expects you to cook for them last minute while they are letting their children run around your home unchaperoned trashing your things??? I had someone do that to me once. I never let them visit again. Rude and insane! What will those children grow up to be?
You are pregnant, have a toddler, and Guido keeps showing up demanding you add yet another dish. What kind of craziness is this? You can't say enough is enough, because you are in Italy?
Kylie, it's a very good thing to keep private certains parts of your private life. I think people expose too much themselves (even their body) or their family in social media. It's not good, secure and safe specially for children. Some weird person's can use these images, etc. All of us must be careful. Wish you the best! Have a good and beautiful summer. From Canada.
Thank you Kylie for sharing with us your recipes it's so sweet to watch Jahn Fanco helping you in the garden. I'm glad you are feeling better. ❤❤
Sorry Kylie, but I must object to your comment about Italians just dropping in with practically no notice and expecting a meal. As an American who has been living in Italy since the 1970s I can absolutely say that this behaviour is NOT normal. In my experience, Italians are usually very aware of social norms and proper etichette, worried about being considered “maleducati” (coarse mannered or vulgar). Unthinkable for a 40 yr old to say “Hey, can we come over for a dip in your pool and stay for lunch? And by the way, there are 10 of us!” In addition, being Italians, “lunch” (pranzo) is the main meal and they certainly do not expect a miserly burger and a beer, like a normal Anglosaxon picnic. Unthinkable the short notice and lack of consideration for the cook. All of this makes it hard to believe. The only scenario I can possibly imagine like this is if teenagers were calling other teenagers, in which case, they would probably be perfectly happy with a plate of pasta and a salad!
I feel you- I’ve been there so many times with last minute guests. I almost died when Guido said will there be enough food? I can’t tell you how many times my husband has said the same thing. Sometimes I think we put so many different things on the table that guests are a bit overwhelmed. So less is okay too.
Were there leftovers?
So many leftovers and everyone was full after the gazpacho. 😂
@@KylieFlavell Does this mean that Guido has unrealistic expectations of how much a group can eat? He put a lot of pressure on you to create many dishes in this video, and given how many leftovers there were, that pressure seems wholly unnecessary.
I have the same personality as you & its hard to learn how to say no & put limits, especially when you want to make everyone happy etc. And if you've done last minute events in the past, everyones like, Kylies fine she can do it. In my experience, waiting for people that love you to "do the right thing" never happens. I had to be bold & tell them & it turned around. I agree with Dr Phil, "you teach people how to treat you". I was over 45yrs before I could do it. The sooner the better :)
Guido should only recommend dishes HE WILL MAKE HIMSELF AND NOT ASK YOU TO MAKE IMMEDIATELY. So annoyed by that kind of men. Love you Kylie 💕
This is exactly how I prepare and cook meals. I wish that we could be in the kitchen together, laughing, preparing meals, spending time with our toddlers, and enjoying all of the beautiful smells and sounds from the magical experience. Thank you for sharing ❤
God bless you Kylie, I would never be able to pull that off! All the dishes looked amazing, the potato salad and the salsa is one that I will make in the future. I love entertaining but I expect my guests to supervisor their own children for their own safety and not to destroy your things. That is totally not acceptable.Enjoy the rest of the summer and try to rest whenever you can especially in the hot weather. :)
I get so stressed with unplanned visits . I’m trying to be more flexible and spontaneous. I can totally relate to friends or family coming with their children and not watching them. Sort of descending on your home like a tornado of energetic pandemonium . Letting them run around getting into things and making a mess. Standing on furniture with shoes, eating while playing and getting everything sticky. I think parents need to teach their children how to be good guest. I love children, especially when they are well behaved. It’s the parent’s responsibility not you as host. However, sometimes you have to set boundaries in a nice way. Looks like you prepared a lovely summer lunch. I was impressed with how quickly you managed it all.
When you have short notice that guests are coming it’s best to prepare meals that require less prep time. There are many dishes that are quick, easy and delicious to make. You might want to consider a food chopper to speed things along next time. Your meals always look amazing
Dear Kylie please take time to rest during this pregnancy and reduce the amount of all your cooking in a moderate way so you are not exhausting yourself.
I felt like you were pushing yourself too far and while Guido was helping, he put more stress on you by requesting more food.
I’m glad you enjoyed your friends and did relax later. For me, I personally would have advised my friends that the time was not enough and in your case, more time to recover from your illness.
It did seem an imposition by your friends and you being such a gracious hostess did provide a beautiful meal. You’re too kind and can easily be taken advantage of so please watch you do not get exhausted. You have a long time to deliver your baby. Sending you hugs and love.
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You're GLOWING! Yes to you documenting your clean healthy lifestyle!
Shocking to invite yourselves over. Why isn’t Guido protecting you more???
One of the things I like about your channel is that you can put together a great video and still respect the privacy of others. I have family that are very private and it is important to respect their wishes. You describing the meal was perfect. Thank you for sharing.
IMHO, for last minute guests, the menu, while nice, was unnecessarily complicated. Italians appreciate a simple but hearty meal. A quick spaghetti with fresh pomodorini and basil, followed by a potato, green bean, onion and tomato salad with an olive oil/wine vinegar dressing, some grilled meat and the zucchini, and off you go. You always give 100% but perhaps spare yourself the trouble, especially on limited time, and keep it simple. It's understandable why Guido had concerns, but he was also helping and was concerned about Kylie. That said, surely everything was a hit.
I don’t even allow my grandchildren to wonder through my house into every room! They have their stuff and places in my house which is plenty. When they walk-in the door you explain the “kid” parts of the house…as far as breaking toys? Not sure about that. Next time they come you tell them there was a broken toy so the playhouse is off limits. Kids need boundaries…people have gotten so soft about raising kids…We are the adults and we need to set boundaries with children!!
Guido asking you what you needed was very sweet! I have Italian friends who are much more relaxed and just go with the flow no pressure and my husband's friend's in Greece are the same way. If we invite them last minute they also bring food which is great! As they say in South africa bring and braai!
I can tell you make food with love all the time, from the bottom of your heart, you love, entertaining, and love, nourishing others with the wonderful food that you make. It’s a pleasure to watch you make all this wonderful food!! I love your little boy always helping you and the garden and cooking so wonderful scene! God bless you and your family and staying in good health!!
I do not care what culture you are from but parents should be 100% responsible for their children's behavior at all times especially when being guests in someone else's home. From a Canadian.
Amazing effort, to prepare such a meal in 2 hours! Sounds like you had a great time with your friends, don’t do too much in the heat, look after yourself and your baby. Friends should have offered to bring food to share or cleaned up for you??? You are a beautiful hostess. Thank you ❤
Beautiful meal! I use to feel like I had to prepare every single dish from start to finish when I was younger too. As I have aged and my body just cannot do it all I have asked my guest to bring a dish or dessert that would compliment the meal. It blesses me and it makes them feel happy to contribute!
Kylie, given your ease in the kitchen, you make it look so seamless and you were gracious while doing so. I appreciate the teamwork between you and your husband. I was recently in Italy for several months and was surprised how lenient parents have become whether dining out formally or casually with their children - allowing them to climb on the tables and shout over the adults. I observed this more than once, it seems a rather new development and it surprised me.
Yes times have changed!
Oh please…it happens in America all the time. We no longer seem to be teaching children how to sit at a table for even 15 minutes and practice eating and conversing together! Such a shame.
Kylie I’ve missed you as well. You’re a breath of fresh air.
God bless you and family❤
Parents that allow their children to run around in anyplace but their own home are doing their children no favors… most children are lovely….
However, some are not… for whatever reason….I like to remind people “Where do they think a**h*le adults come from ……from a**h*le kids”
And so it is…
You need to have a conversation with those “relaxed parents” and remind them that they are guests in your home and everyone follows the house rules.
I learned a painful lesson early in my married life when a visiting child entered an off-limit room in my house and unwrapped all of the Christmas presents that I had stored there. I vowed my children would always be respectful and supervised in other people’s homes.
@@deniseconnors8124 omg, this is crazy! I grew up in a culture where kids go around as they please - this gave me so much icky feeling since young adulthood, I simply stopped liking people in my house and all I want is peace. Kylie is a saint.
@@SH-km5mq she sure is! And I feel as you do- I do not have the personality to enjoy having lots of people in my home!
Good grief saint kylie……I felt the stress and your desire to be a most excellent hostess and not disappoint anyone. Personally I can’t cope with badly behaved children so can understand your anxiety and as ever what a beautiful film .
Guido we love you! Thank you for making Kylie sit down and eat. ❤. We know she gets busy and forgets but she is carrying a baby now. 🎉🎉🎉
Sounds like your husband (who I'm sure is a very nice person) has a lot of demands and gives a lot of orders but you do all the work!
Yeah, maybe he should make another salad. 😂👍
Agree. She prepared a gourmet meal and from the video it did not seem he was helping out much.
Guido… Sit down let me fix you something to eat. 10 minutes later… Where is the pasta dish? I adore Guido but maybe he needs to learn how to do a little bit of cooking himself boiling pasta isn’t beyond his ability for sure! Just saying. 🤷♀️❤️
Kylie did mentioned at the end that he was doing a lot...getting the pool ready, grilling the meat. So I'll give him the benefit of the doubt, as none of this was filmed. Also, Kylie is an adult, so she can so no and set expectations. I try to stay away from commenting on relationship dynamics; esp. when we are only getting one person's perspective. Having said that, I do understand how you would come to that conclusion based on what we saw and heard in the video.
@@jenng.7939yeah, but you could clearly hear the fatigue in her tone every time he started directing the menu, adding more dishes…this is HER wheelhouse (menu and cooking) and he just kept pinging in. Bbq’ing meat in the background hardly makes him a helping hero…just saying.
So glad you are feeling better. When I was pregnant with my second; I showed so much sooner than with our first 😊. I love company and every now and again someone(s) just stop by; but normally we don’t have the same situation as you. We always try to have something in the house if someone stops by; some of our best memories are when we have had no notice and thing just happen organically. Anyone showing up without much notice couldn’t possibly expect anything extravagant 🙂. Love the channel!
Wonderful to see you working, making magic in the kitchen in two hours! Brava! 👋🥰🎶