Incredible! I must read a dozen books about anxiety, spirituality, meditation Etc. I've never had somebody piece everything together so well. The uses of talking, showing props, repeating, simplifying and showing the text on the screen is the perfect formula to learn! You've already made an impact in my life and it couldn't have come at a better time. I will become a patron and look forward to watching everything you have to offer! Thank you!!
Thanks, Mark I appreciate your feedback - lots of videos in Patreon, and many more to come, they currently sit in the back of my brain, but I will pull them all out and into more videos., it's my mission :-) John
I had PTSD, I could clearly observe my body responding to heightened alert and cortisol. I could also observe my thinking mind trying to control danger by ruminating and trying to understand. I like how you recapped at the end and art homework. I am going to try and help your channel grow by liking and commenting and hope others do too.
Can't show appreciation to your channel enough! Please keep up what you are doing, it helps a lot of people like me for sure and save many potential good lives
I have been dealing with OCD, ASD and anxiety basically my whole life. I am 22 now and struggle with OCD related anxiety, and this video sir is the best explanation I have ever heard on what is going on. I will be sure to join your patreon, and I look forward to watching the full series of videos, as I think it will help me grately. Thank you🙏
Congrats! Very good video, cut and clean explanation of our brain structures are functioning, in a language that can be easily understood by anyone who is not a specialist. So important that we understand how our brain and body work to be able to understand and help ourselves.
Thank you, I think you'll like video 3 too :-) - then there are the rest of them (up to video 4 to video 19) here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist if you are interested? Best wishes John
The enlightening of others about these subjects is really keeping some people from going crazy and it’s such a blessing Awareness and knowledge. That’s what the world needs.
Amazing. I can only say a very big thank you for your videos John. I was at the end of the road and exhausted but you have given me hope and direction.
While listening to this, even if I wasn't sad I was crying because of how true this is. The reason I stopped the video in the middle is because as smart as am, my brain won't pay attention and starts to have all these obsessive thoughts. A year ago someone told me that they overcame their depression by talking to themselves, but because at that time I didn't know what type of anxiety I had, talking to myself had made my OCD what it is now. I can't stop thinking. Even when I'm tired, my brain is going at the same pace it did months ago, never slowing down. And because I have no one to talk to, I talk to anime characters in my head. They reassure me. I listen to your videos beca use, it's just so true. One of my thoughts were you were my therapist and you were talking to me about my OCD. I don't have a therapist, I call the anime characters in my head "my inner therapist". As weird as the thought seemed, for some reason it all makes sense. I feel like while listening to you, I'm crying and laughing at the same time. I don't feel like I can trust anyone, especially myself. I don't know what's wrong with me. I'm an 11 year old girl. Why can't I be normal? Another thought I usually get 24/7 is that it's all my fault. I just found out that my brain isn't really me (if that makes sense), but I still blame everything in myself. Then I get this thought to kill myself. I don't have depresion. Still, for some apparent reason I get these thoughts. I feel like I deserve this. It's my body, my brain. It's my fault made myself like this! I deserve all this pain! Wait now I'm - wh at was I wanting to say? Huh, whatever. Anyways, thank you for these videos! It really helps me because even though- nvm. Ima explain it. Even though I know you can't think yourself out of a situation, I made this problem, I gotta solve it. Even though I know I'm wrong, I deserve this. I started this, an going to end this. On. My. Own. No therapist. Even though my mom makes enough money, I don't want her to waste it on me. If I'm such a smart child I might as well solve this. Somebody shouldn't go out of their way to help me. But in the end I realize this is one of the thoughts I get, I just am writing it down. Am I actually going to go this way? I really don't know. I still need to think. I always thought it's normal to think this much. At school, ALMOST EVERYWHERE, I'm known as a loud, outgoing child. But for some reason, I'm just hiding everything. From my mom. Sister. Grandma. Friends. For some reason I really wish they can know the truth. But I hide it. I always tell myself, "this is the day you tell them", but once I walk in the door I forget everything and go on faking. No, correction. I don't forget everything. Instead I over-thought everything and decided not to tell them. Anyone. In the end is my fault. But at the same time I want everyone to know all this mental pain in going through! But at the same time I know they wouldn't understand me. It's really hard. I even get these thoughts IF I was actually talking to a therapist, I would tell them nothing. At the same time, I'm telling them everything. Oh well, who ever got this far, sorry for making you read all of this. I'll stop now.
It sounds like you have just got yourself into a psychological muddle and need to press a reset button. People tend to think too much! Keep coming back to the videos 1, 2 and 3 and watch them in little chunks, slowly your mind will see things differently. I have 14 videos here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist and I add a new video each month. This program teaches how to manage your thoughts and feelings and how to build self-esteem and self-love. Hang in there, perhaps even watch these recordings with your mum? Best wishes John
This is exactly what I've been going through lately. For years I suffer from anxiety and compulsive behaviors. When I practice yin yoga before bedtime, my emotion calms down naturally the next day. I never quite understand why. Recently, whenever the intrusive thoughts are playing in the back of my mind, I consciously redirect my focus to my body: I'm here, breathing, washing vegetables, touching my thighs, etc. My anxiety level and compulsive behaviors drop by a large margin. I never know that the body speaks a different language. I was too mesmerized by analyzing and reasoning. Your video has removed my long-standing confusion. The way you deliver it is so succinct and to the point. I love it!
Thank you so very much for your detailed yet easy to understand explanations...I developed OCD once I became a pastry chef in a large hotel...the counting and recounting of items to always make sure you had enough..then it moved on to "did I take all the plastic wrap off the cream cheese"..I have often felt that I work a double shift...one in the kitchen..and the other shift in my brain..I also teach baking a pastry and know I have students who suffer as well..I will be sharing these video's with them. Thank you for your kindness in educating people such as myself!
Hi John i watched video earlier this video and it was my mid terms i think this video helped me during this process .I am grateful for these i hope you can upload videos about # Ocd and Family Relationship ,Social, Work life
It’s funny I actually made up a term called the Lighthouse Effect, for the unconscious mind trying to get the conscious’ attention. I knew it had to already be out there and here it is. Love your videos man, I’ve seen this one like 4 times. Thanks so much
I have been struggling with anxiety and depression for a while now and I have recently "discovered" the OCD. I've been having uncontrollable thoughts and I cannot shut them up. I've tried to ignore them by putting loud music or so and nothing works. It is exhausting trying to explain this to my husband who I know wants to help me so much but probably doesn't understand how... heh, I don't know how to help myself at this point. I think I want to give this a try. I love how you explain everything and your voice is very calming. I can see that you understand what you're saying and not just saying it to get done with it. Thank you so much now and in advance as I really hope this helps me and all of us that are dealing with such "problems" because it is EXHAUSTING. Again, thank you.
Thank you. Click on the coloured head logo, in the bottom left corner of the video. Pick video, then watch the first three free videos in my youtube channel. If you like what I am teaching, join my patreon community, where I make videos that teach you how to unravel yourself. John
Hi no one in my relationships Habe understood but if you think we can't explain it ourselves I know exactly what your going though I found at 13 I had OCD I'm 37 now and its starting to take its toll on me .. I'm hoping these help us he talks sense and gets you thinking in a way we're you begin to understand what's wrong
It’s going to be ok I have the same problem I struggle with thinking way to much and I stress out about it I can’t stop playing the same thoughts over and over again I feel like I’m going to drive myself Insane but don’t feel alone don’t stop fighting I’m fighting with you
Thank u for this message I think we all in some sort of way have this .but realize one day life is not perfect so I gave up in some sort of way to enjoy life cause others things that we worry about don't really matter is our happiness. Thank u again 😍
It is an amazing video, it gives real insight about the inter-relation between conscious and unconscious part of our mind. Here is a list of important points i found in this video: 1.Even though our body is agitated with unreasonable emotions, our mind can still be kept at peace. 2. We can retrain our unconscious mind by repetition, knowing this is useful not only for people with ocd but for everyone. As we go through life our unconscious learns different things, and it very likely to learn few things which are unreasonable, when these learnt things starts to interfere with our life in a negative way, giving us unnecessary fear, doubts and worries we call it ocd. Knowing that we can retrain our mind to unlearn these things or rather learn new things is a big deal. 3. Just knowing that we can retrain our unconscious wouldn't be of any use if we don't know how to do it. This video gives us a real insight that our unconscious doesn't understand language, logic and reason. It doesn't even understand if the situations are real or unreal, the only thing it understands is our reaction to the situation. It gets trained by repetition, if we keep reacting in a wrong way to certain situation, it adds that to its memory and when we face that situation again, it gives us different emotions which urges us to react in the same way we have been reacting to it all this while. People with ocd have reacted to situations in a wrong way, so whenever that situation occurs, they are overwhelmed with emotions and feel compulsion to react in the same way, if they react the same way it further enforces the association of those situations with the actions, they feel even more anxiety, this way the cycle goes on and on. But if we start reacting to these situations differently, firstly we will get overwhelmed with emotions because our unconscious wants to save us and it knows that we can be saved only if we react in a specific way, but if we stick it and repeatedly react differently, slowly and steadily the anxiety subsides and our unconscious learns that there is a different way of reacting to these situations.
Thank you!!! They told me, OCD has no cure.. but i dont believe that, watching you, i got some hope.. i really believe i can get a quiet mind, understanding how it works..
I'm a well-educated individual, and have done a tremendous amount of research on these topics. You my friend, have taken all of the things that I've known to be true, but like the words or thoughts describe them properly, and you have actually described them properly. Moreover, you've presented me with a practical solution. You have helped more people in your lifetime and dozens maybe even hundreds of normal people help in their entire lifetimes. I cannot overstate my gratitude for you in making this course. Thank you.
You are very welcome. My whole course is here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist where I currently have 16 videos and add a new one each month for just $3 John
Hi John, love your video! Are you well versed in limbic system impairment and how it can be a factor in OCD? And how some neural brain retraining can help some people?
Hi John. You said in this video that anxiety makes you distrust your emotions, and for quite some time, I have wondered whether intuition is simply a part of our 'feeling' brain that has unconsciously been fed ideas on what is good and bad, right and wrong, as taught to us by others. Do anxiety and obsessive thoughts 'stain' your intuition, so to speak, and is there a way to refine this part of you so that it relays good information and doesn't just reflect your value system and/or your fears?
Well spotted - anxiety uncalibrates our useful gut feelings and contaminated our intuitive thoughts. I teach how to reprogram ourselves in the course. John
I ve had extreme ideative OCD for years... Fell on the wrong psychiatrists. One insisted on doing a psychoanalysis that made me wallow in self- pity instead of helping. I never got good professional help, although i did seek it. I finally googled self - help books. I was desperate. Freedom from Obsessive Compulsive Disorder by Grayson helped me bigtime, although it was hard. I never took medication because the exposure prevention therapy works perfectly for me. But it s very difficult to do it on your own and OCD, especially the ideative type, is so sneaky..... My OCD is back with a vengeance, probably triggered by recent events... I hope your videos help me. I m NOT in a good place right now. My OCD is mostly thoughts of harming myself and others especially those i love
Well, just learned how to escape my own OCD by learning about the brain-and the body link! - Lot's more videos here matey www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist have a wonderful new year - John
This was a great video!!! Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge. I do have one question. You said the subconscious brain doesn’t understand language, so how is it that hypnosis tapes work? Like the ones ppl listen to while sleeping when they want to stop a bad habit like smoking. The tape is speaking in words, so if the subconscious doesn’t understand language how does that work? I really hope you answer, I am very intrigued by this. Thank you in advance.
It seems to understand words with the logic of an eight year old. Also, there is a "bit in the middle" which we might call the psyche or ego, this is very suggestible. My course goes deeply into this. www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist John
Great video. He underestimates cats and dogs though. Its not just a case of a cat or dogs brain unconsciously making decisions for them. My cat stratagizes, generates quite creative solutions consciously. Dogs most definitly do. Many still insist on underestimating animals.
I think going deep - but explaining it simply - is how to recover from anxiety. Videos 1 to 6 are free in this youtube channel - then the remaining videos are here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist if you like my work. Thank you.
I feel like our bodies make up feelings that we don’t even need to worry about 🤔 if that makes sense. Scents really throw me into over drive they bring up so many memories good and bad! Thank you so much for this information ℹ️!
Our bodies just respond to all our thoughts as if they are true and how it was "conditioned" to respond by life, parents etc. It is reprogrammable! It's not easy but it is possible.
i have been dealing with sexual ocd for five years and its making my life i hell i have tried all things and cbt its only getting worst so i have made a promise to myself that i well do all that can to overcome my ocd
Good for you, it is possible to learn to not respond to the thoughts and compulsions. But don't try to get rid of them though! That is an OCD trap. Watch video 3 and if you like my work there are more videos on my Patreon page. John
Thank God I'm not the only one! Even though my OCD isn't sexual OCD, for some reason I get sexual thoughts whenever talking to someone, or just maybe watching a tv show. I'm not even a dirty person!
Hi John, I wanted to ask a question about something I've been experiencing, I will make this as short, precise, and thorough as possible. A most recent example would be this, I visited a website months ago that helped me build views for youtube channel. Anyway, for some reason i did not click on the accept/decline box for cookies, and proceeded to do whatever i needed to do. I noticed when i closed the window, my OCD kicked in and started bothering me, saying "why didnt you make a decision and either accept or decline the cookies? "Was it because you had an intrusive image, were you afraid?" blah blah blah etc you get the point. Anyway, i noticed it went away after awhile, but then randomly remembered about it months later. So my mind creates these scenarios, where i feel like i need to go on that specific computer, to that specific site, and either accept the cookies or block them, just to "undo" what had possibly happened. I notice this happens and my ocd tries to threaten me with intrusive images, implying that if i do not do it IMMEDIATELY, or URGENTLY, then i will be bothered by the images or anxiety.Of course I want to simply be at peace and let it go, and not care, I notice I am having more glimpses of not caring and not obsessing, and not worrying, but what else can I do to really change and overhaul my subconscious, it always seems like its one thing or the other trying to bother me, Any advice for this?
Hi. I appreciate your channel, will follow and might patron. I have two questions if you would be generous with your time and information, since it is the first time I encounter an “anxiety Specialist”: 1- have you treated severe cases of debilitating anxiety where people felt as though they were “rotting away” 2- I had a severely traumatic and confusing childhood. I now have major blockages in my life and feel as though I am a total failure and worthless just like my parents. Is it possible to undo the blockages and anxiety without going in depth and working on the faulty childhood programming that is in the unconscious? I believe your answers will help everyone who deals with anxiety. Sorry for being long and good luck!
Hi - thank you for your feedback. To answer your questions (1) yes all of the time. (2) Yes it is. As my course unfolds (it will be very long) all these things will be covered. You can read some of my client testimonials here www.johnglanvill.com/therapy-testimonials-client-success-stories/ You have nothing to lose by becoming a Patreon supporter it is only $2 per video and you can already see my knowledge is worth way more than that!!! :-) John
I am making these videos for those who can’t afford therapy - they are $3 per month - For those who want to work directly with me I do online therapy at normal therapy prices. I am trying to cater for both ends of the spectrum, but I can’t work in the middle, I am sure you understand? John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Hey john, i have made an incredible recovery thanks to you, I would say most days, i really feel out of the ocd, and can see how it becomes a trap, I noticed that only one particular type of obsession/compulsion that tries to bother me throughout the day, and that is with words. My mind tends to quickly say, if you said xyz because this or that reason, then you have to say the opposite, to "undo" or "clean" the action. Now usually i am able to easily ignore it, but sometimes i get caught up in the arguments, and at times i feel compelled or addicted to having to go back like a mental rewind and try to remember why i said what, and it is incredibly exhausting, any quick tips to stay out of this?
I hear you, this is very common and 'to a certain point' quite natural. The brain tends to pattern match and look for words, sounds, action, situations etc., that are similar, so it can group them together as either good or bad, for quick response to future events. But some people get addicted to watching the workings of the mind (which really) are not there to be consciously observed because they just run unconsciously in the background. Let me try to explain... If you could see what your computer was thinking/doing you might say "that is silly why is it thinking about that problem?" But in reality, it was running a subroutine, to check one piece of code against every other piece of code to see it it has ever been used. To the computer (your unconscious mind) this is a sensible thing to do, because it can. But, to your conscious mind, you are asking "why is it thinking about that?" But it is out of context, it was just checking it against everything. So, you have a conscious addiction to understanding why / looking for answers / running patterns on things that are just the "workings in the margin" of your unconscious mind computer. Of course, once you consciously engage, the body thinks whose thoughts are real and reacts to them, you get anxious and look for other thinking ways to calm down, which just further exhausts you. Therefore, as ever, the secret is to consciously stop worrying about what the unconscious mind does - and get out of its way! My tips would be to realise that - you don't need to think as much as you think, try going into situations and conversations without thinking you need to know what to say or prepare in anyway, and just see what happens. When in conversations, really listen to the other person 9not what you are going to say next) and see that words just come out of your mouth as needed - it is fascinating! Then (like in video 16) explore which characters are your thoughts coming from, and which ones are trying to answer those thoughts. Consider, that animals (who don't talk) won't have this problem and they survive just fine and unstressed - so can we. Finally, don't see your mind 'as you' see it like a computer in your head, with some old out of date software running, ignore it or reprogram it (video 18). Cheers John
@@TheChroniclesOfCommonSense also I just started trusting my body and subconscious more, although some days I feel more of a pull trying to sabotage me with obsessive and endless thinking, only to feel more exhausted an ultimately not getting anywhere, sometimes my mind can go wild like a Sherlock Holmes trying to put together a puzzle! But ultimately I know my subconscious can handle it, and I seem to feel more proud and definitely more at ease knowing it can handle anything without my constance interference or reassurance!
It's just a suggestion, you can add topic's names for each video, so later it can be easily to refer or go back to a certain video, thanks for all the effort.
Hey John. I love your videos! A quick question. Just because the subconscious and conscious are 2 separate systems, that doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re not related. Maybe since the conscious mind advanced evolutionarily afterwards, it has the power to dictate the subconscious mind? Just a thought. Let me know. Thank you for your amazing videos! Judah
Of course they are completely related and semi-integrated. They just have differing roles and we (if we want calmness) need to understand and influence them both differently as we are the sum of the parts. www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
@@TheChroniclesOfCommonSense I understand what you’re saying, but most of the time, the problem with logic when it comes to OCD is that people’s compulsions prevent them from having logical thinking patterns and thus prevents rationale decision making. But most of the time - if not always - logic, especially when it comes from an unbiased, clear mind, can interact with the emotions in a way that can help ppl out.
I did it in 10 months but I dedicated my life to it and I changed myself completely. Did you see my video about pure O? czcams.com/video/XlVXzaf46jg/video.html
Hello Sir.I suffer from sensorimotor OCD since last 3 years .My thoughts are stuck at my blinking and breathing .When one goes away other comes into play .I find it diffucult to go through the day and experience headaches a lot almost throughout the day as i try to control my breath How I can help myself .There are no proper treatment available and some even didnt identify it as OCD. I will be highy oblidged if you will reply to my comment .
My other comment I wrote to you deleted (I by mistakenly clicked something) but what I mainly wrote to you was how I can agree with you. It's like I bet if I was prone to fainting I would be passing out 24/7. People don't believe the mental pain I go through just because I'm 11. I feel like us people with OCD though can realate. Yes, whenever one thought goes away, another takes its place. I can't stand this. Sometimes I just want to give up. It's been 9 months since you posted that comment, so if you are seeing this please tell me your progress. This is my second year with OCD, 4th year with anxiety overall. I hope you're doing better!
Hello, I have a problem that I have OCD, PTSD, depression and anxiety and am an overthinker. With this pandemic going on I’ve deteriorated somewhat and also feel like I’m going through depersonalization and it makes me fear that I will die from it as if like it tries to shut down itself. I am being medicated but therapists I’ve been seeing don’t seem to understand the whole issue at hand, tried explaining it to them but don’t seem to have luck with them. What should I do?
I have written this Ocd recovery program to answer those very questions - if videos 1, 2 and 3 are making sense - sign up here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist and you can access all my other videos for only $3 per month, much cheaper than the therapists who don't understand you! John
Can a mental compulsion for ocd that keeps me stuck be “I will recover in a few months I just got to keep disregarding thoughts” so basically reassuring that I will be okay. If it is a mental compulsion what can I substitute the thought with
I think this is basically denial of how debilitating OCD is and avoiding getting professional help. You don't have to substitute the thought, just realise that unconscious thoughts have no meaning (except the conscious meaning you give them). It is best to become the observer of THE MINDS thoughts and not be addicted to stopping them, answering them or asking why they are happening. John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Anyone here pregnant or a parent who is experiencing OCD and Anxiety? I’d like to hear how you’re coping with this experience and what you’re doing or taking to keeping yourself grounded and participating. Thank you
For some, the six months pre and post birth can cause existing levels of anxiety or OCD to rise, this is due to many things including - fear of the event, life changes, responsibility growing etc. However, I think the two biggest factors are worry and exhaustion. John czcams.com/video/L1hctPt4Q8g/video.html
Hi John, when you say the subconscious reacts to all thoughts as if they are real. How does the subconscious understand our thoughts if this part of the brain has no logic or reason? Hope that makes sense. Thanks Jonny
Yes, when I made this video, that was a slight error. What I meant was the reptilian brain does not understand words - the unconscious reacts to words like an 8 year old. Well spotted, John. czcams.com/video/L1hctPt4Q8g/video.html
So if I've reacted to something bad in the past I will more than likely react the same way in the future. That's good to know we are reprogramable haha. Thanks
Its been 17 years , and i didn't even know what i am dealing with , till today i discovered its OCD ( can you believe .. from 17 year's its made me believe ..i am mad or i have low iq ...or i am different than others ect.. ) help me... this thing made great damage to my life ...still damaging from me inside... Cant work ...cant sleep ... Dont have calmness for a second .... Please suggest me something ... Sorry for bad English
Perhaps join my OCD recovery course where I teach you what is happening, how to stop it and how to become a new person where it can't come back? www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist Best wishes John
In my experience this is the wrong question to ask. A better one is how can I better access the serotonin in my body? If you are constantly flooding your body with stress chemicals from adrenalin and cortisol through anxiety and worry - your cells will (overtime) become conditioned to have more receptors for them and less for your serotonin. So, this needs to be reversed so you have less receptors for anxiety chemicals and more for happy chemicals. This is done by tricking your own mind and body repeatedly for a few months. I cover this in video 7 of my course. John
Sir great video but i have a confusion as you said our subconscious don't understand words or what we are saying then how repeating each video or repetition will reprogram it??
@@TheChroniclesOfCommonSense sir i am from india so please bring back membership plan in your channel so i can join and access remaining videos, it's a request sir
@@shivanggupta8612 I won't put them in CZcams as CZcams hardly serve my content therefore I don't want them to benefit from my meagre revenues! I know it is difficult (but not impossible) to sign up to Patreon from India. Patreon tell me it is due to the Indian side of banking not theirs. support.patreon.com/hc/en-us/articles/4412670870925-Patron-payments-in-India Other things to consider if you can't sign up are clearing your cache or trying a fresh up to date new browser. Sorry for you inconvenience .
Thoughtful, useful series! Kudos to you John! However, when you took out the brain, the talk went awry! 30K years ago, there were still homo sapiens in addition to other hominids. 100k years ago, there were earlier forms of hominids, so they were mammals with a cerebral cortex. The limbic system coevolved with the cortex as with the cerebellum. When you are talking about the hind brain, you are actually holding the cerebellum, which was a support to the cortex to improve signal timing (usually more routinely described in association with motor activity, but involved in all cortical activity! Anyway, I'm not sure why you took out a human brain, but evolutionary psychology is certainly valuable in your discussion of psychiatric phenomenology. I would not say "turns off" the upper areas of the brain, however it certainly bypasses the upper brain in terms of triggering the initially response to a threatening, urgent stimulus.
You are right. I am trying to keep it simple and use metaphor rather than deep scientific justification as often people don't have time to research everything - or the anxiety shortens their attention span. Cheers John.
@@TheChroniclesOfCommonSense Your responses to my expressed concern have been interesting. Psychiatry is a very challenging field and it is not always easy to express declaratively what one may know intuitively. But when one does understand things in on a declarative basis, they can be more consistent in their performance because it becomes consciously monitored. The test for whether one knows something declaratively is that they can state it clearly and directly. My concern is that you were not passing this second test. We don't need to banter this about. This is my perspective of how things work which you can either accept or reject. I hope you continue to grow as I hope we all continue to grow as it benefits ourselves and our patients. Best, Ken
I am loving our little chats. I used to be exactly as you are with precision and accuracy. But in the last five years I have changed completely - I am more interested in being happy, rather than being "right." My old need to be right used to exhaust me and piss people off :-) This has led me to start looking at the world completely differently. I am not a psychologist, or a Doctor, I am an engineer trying to use logic and reason (and metaphor) to explain things that even science doesn't truly understand - like the brain / thought / emotions / love / care etc. These are non-linear emotions and can't even be scientifically proved - you could say understanding love is a pseudoscience and can only ever be so? It is unprovable! Just take this whole Covid thing most of the medical world work from the basis of germ theory where bacteria and viruses cause most illness - yet, this has NEVER been proven. Which is why you can't test for the Covid 19 virus, only the trail it leaves, if it even does leave a trail or it is the bodies own exosomes that are being measured. Who is right and who is wrong? It doesn't really matter, if you have a healthy immune system it is not really a problem. But nobody is talking about the effect of fear on our immune systems..... Most doctors and scientists can't explain OCD and rarely treat it well without medication, yet I have incredible results, helping people to become a different person. So I lie to myself everyday (which is what optimists do) - I rarely complain about things, I don't follow rules, I could go on all day about things I do to try and be happy in the now. John
@@TheChroniclesOfCommonSense John, While I appreciate what you are saying, you are making the same concessions that Pascal made when confronting the 3 body problem or Shannon made when devising communication theory (which has the more, yet inaccurate title of information theory despite ignoring meaning and only focusing on transmission accuracy). These are concessions made to the limits of logic due to chaos/complexity. If you need to infer that you are so passed that in order to avoid becoming overly anxious, I can understand that. But that is also why we have a fundamentalist movement. You're position says I wish to be practical and not stress the details. Well there is a cost to that, which is to ignore the reality that there are problems that are difficult, yet critical to address if we are to progress. And not to progress becomes increasingly costly because existence for an organism as "successful" as human beings is that they cannot take for granted endless clean water, clean air, and must contend with an overheated world, more globalized economies, pandemics... The answer is not to ignore these things. They are complex, but solvable problems. Bayes theorem and neural network approaches take a beginning and an ending to create increasingly approximate models. Your talk when you took out the brain model was not consistent with what we know now. When you held the cerebellum, you were referring to the hind brain incorrectly. If you don't want to sweat the details, perhaps that serves your needs, but it does not make you as effective as if you knew the facts. This is why something is missing in your solution to OCD. Not worrying about it is not necessarily the solution. The whole thing is about accepting yourself as valued despite your imperfection, yet not simply giving up on precision. I can work on precision and accept that it is for the joy of learning and not a "compulsion" to justify my existence and my value as a human being. The love of learning.... You lack of making this explicit is the concern. Non-linearity does not mean one cannot approximate sufficiently to approach an adequate solution. Our intuitive brain is non-linear. Our declarative brain is linear. But even spear throwers learn to hit a fleeing wildebeest despite that being a non-linear problem. You're missing the point (pun).
They may help to calm you down or quieten your mind but that is not addressing the issue. Your anxiety and OCD are the symptom, not the problem, the drugs will try to fix your symptoms but they will not fix the problem. The problem is that you are worrying too much about everything, feeling responsible for everything and stressing out your own inner chemistry. When you learn to see life differently, let go of control and live in the now, rather than the past or the future, your mind will calm down, then your body will calm down, then your anxiety (which is a symptom) will go away! Don't try to get rid of anxiety - become the person where anxiety cannot thrive. Embrace vulnerability, let go of your stories and be creative.
sweety devotional songs rose I get nervous with the medications they have these days... I feel like they are a cover up of what’s going on... like Mr John said we have to understand how to live life differently that should calm the mind once you have a piece of mind it hopefully will help us!
There is a place for medication to suppress anxiety and (maybe) temporarily lift depression. However, the real problem is with how you think, behave, worry and live your life. Unless you change these you won't be able to get yourself free and meds won't change those aspects of your self. The only real caveat is perhaps a "normal" person who is experiencing depression after trauma in their life and they just need something to get them through a temporary trauma. Some antipsychotic drugs do calm a person down, but they also zombify them - so it is quite a balancing act. I don't have a problem with meds as long as you are working on yourself and your life at the same time.
Anxiety & OCD Discernment can you please tell me . I been struggling with anxiety for a while and it grew in to violent OCD and depression. I constantly feel bad ahs have horrible thoughts and feelings , I feel like I am going insane . Is that possible?? Sometimes I feel like I am not my self and so on . How to I get over it . I took meds for a while bit as soon as get off them o have everything comes back . So I don’t want to be on meds. How do I get rid of these horrible feelings and Thoughts of me going in sane. Pleas help
Is it common that i have disgust thoughts about people going to toilet and such things that it causes drop of my motivation to meet women cause i imagine them having to use toilet and such things? In that case how to overcome that and get motivation? (maybe im depleted by addictions to have less motivation in first place) Science now knows that disgust can be almost as big as anxiety in ocd.
Disgust is a real thing - but it is also a programmed thing. The first day a person works at the sewage works it is disgusting, two years later they find it normal. So we mustn't use disgust as an excuse - it is a conditioning of the mind. Don't wait for motivation, action towards your goals is the best form of motivation, not waiting for a good feeling or a happy story in your mind. My course teaches you how to change - www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist Best wishes John
Well, to me, the DSM is just a way to group symptoms into a label that can be called a diagnosis - but that has nothing to do with overcoming the underlying causes of those symptoms in the first place. I am interested in what the person can do to manage, reverse or reframe that condition so a calmer and happier life is possible.
Do you mean fear of falling a sleep or insomnia? Either way they are the symptom and the answer is to learn to not worry. My course reaches how to do that! John
@@TheChroniclesOfCommonSense I feel anxious every night while sleeping and end up staying awake all night, also I miss my sleep prior to attending any interview.
You need to learn how to stop worrying - the first three videos from my anxiety course will show you the basics. Video 1 czcams.com/video/nXk75ezkRK4/video.html Video 2czcams.com/video/yHejSfrg_iE/video.html Video 3 czcams.com/video/zf1J4Vwjg9Y/video.html
If you look closely the "observer" is just another feeling or thought.You can't have the "observer" and a thought/feeling/emotion in the exact same instance.Its one thought/feeling/emotion at a time/in the same instance.That doesn't mean I'm denying the capability of self awareness in us of course not.But "observing your own thoughts" is more of a practical concept formulated by mystics/spiritualists/contemplatives etc., you will see that doesn't literally happen when you investigate your mind properly.
You are going down the wrong rabbit hole my friend - stop trying to use logic against ocd, because ocd only has the intellect of an 8 year old - when you can see this is true... surprising things happen. Watch the third video and get back to me :-)
@@TheChroniclesOfCommonSense I did watch the video and I do admit that the idea of observing your own thoughts serves a practical purpose and is helpful. I was just simply stating that that's not what really happens. That fact has nothing to do with the self management of OCD.Of course if logic could treat OCD we wouldn't have a problem in the first place.
Well, that's what you think and I respect that. Interestingly, the point you are making was the same argument I used 25 years ago, whilst I was trapped in my own OCD nightmare. However, I did the research, I tried everything, I worked for 13 years as an OCD therapist, I reprogrammed my unconscious mind and I escaped! have been totally calm for 20 years. Potentially, one of us is right and one of us is wrong....... Keep an open mind, my friend. Here, I will share one of my other videos from the OCD Recovery Course with you for free czcams.com/video/ltPKjp3095c/video.html John
@@TheChroniclesOfCommonSense I'm confused about something. You said the content of thoughts don't matter to the subconscious. But why does excitement due to a good news feel positive and panic feel negative, even though at a physiological level both result in palpitations. The story in your head does matter right?
If you stand in front of a dog and make happy sounds, the dog wags its tail. If you make anxious scared noises, the dog becomes anxious. Your unconscious mind is doing the same, your brain which sits in darkness is scanning your "noises" (thoughts and body reactions) to guess what is happening you on the outside. Excitement and fear are pretty much the same things - except one has a good story and one a bad story in your mind. My video 3 should make this easier to understand. John
This is video 2 - keep watching the free videos up to number 6 and you will see that - Your OCD is religious but it could be anything. The OCD is the symptom not the problem. If it wasn't religious it would be something else, video 5 will explain that. When you finish video 6 - you will know whether it is worth your while joining my OCD course here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist Best wishes John
I am sure many vitamins are good for the body and brain, but they won't stop your OCD type thinking, your controlling behaviour and the resulting anxiety in your body. These are changed by learning how thoughts work, retraining the brains amygdala and learning to see life differently - you could call this group of behaviours exposure therapy? Which I truly believe to be the best form of recovery. John Http://www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
I doubt it will stop OCD, like I said in my first reply. Try it and see, then you will know. If it did work I guess Doctors would prescribing it! If you take it and it does work, please let me know :-) John.
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I watched the video and he is not fixed from his OCD problems! I don't know about any of these herbs or supplements and I think they are trying to offer an "external' solution - rather than following an "internal' path to changing yourself, the way you think internally and your behaviours. Because if you change how you think and behave, you will change your life's outcomes and your internal chemistry - and this is how I believe you can eliminate anxiety and depression. John
:-) we both have free speech. My youtube channel, is aimed at people with mental health issues and I respect the courage it takes for them to post here - so I will never criticise or judge them - however, I will defend them, if another person does, even if that person doesn’t see it as criticism or being judgemental.
Hi can you please help me! You see, nvm. I overthought if I should write this comment. Nah, don't waste your time on me. It's just another thought I had that I'm going to forget in a couple of minutes. Anyways, thanks for the videos!!!
I was following okay until the evolution thing. Again I realise he said here is a scientific perspective to look at to understand and you can do your own research if you like. I appreciate that he mentioned this. Not everybody confidently believes in evolution. I am definitely not sold on evolutional theory. Although I believe in adaptation and the fact that they are multiple species we haven't even heard of, Evolution (no matter how much it's explained to me) does not add up. It is a theory based on some very logical thoughts in doctrine however their gaps in it that I cannot use to excuse my behaviour. Science does not have an answer for everything but it looks for answers. The point where science is not able to give an answer is the point where choice or belief comes into play. This is why I can't allow myself to use evolution as an excuse to believe I have no control over my thoughts, behaviour or my feelings. I would definitely say I have little control: however, our individual desires are just as real as the ground we walk on. If it were all chalked up to our animal subconscious instinct we would all act the same in the same situations or in the same environments. No one person lives the same life and it affects the outcome of their behavioral response. I just cannot see how there is a 1 way fits all because of animalistic evolutional instincts. Science comes credibly close to explaining a lot of the unexplainable; however, theory is not fact. There is factual science I completely agree with but I can't give the same credit to theoretical science. Evolutional theory is still arguable. Regardless, I can validate at least half of what hes saying as sound knowledge rather than belief. I do have to say I appreciate the approach. He made it very easy to want to understand and listen to. I still look forward to what he has to say continuing on.
Thank you for your feedback. I hear what you are saying. I try to sit in the middle, in my course, I often say the following "What I am saying here is not necessarily the truth, but it is a model you can use to quieten your mind and find calmness in your body." It is like having a soul, I can't prove if I do and I can't prove if I don't have a soul - however, I like the 'model' of living my life as if I do have one - as this allows me to not fear death. I will never know 'scientifically' until I do die. There is so much we can't prove, yet it is true to us, like love and intimacy etc. Best wishes John czcams.com/video/L1hctPt4Q8g/video.html
yes, I care too much about my logic, how smart or successful the person is, I didn't recognize they are BULLSHIT ans evils, but my subconscious kept telling me
I heard that the unconscious mind is a million times faster and a million times more powerful than the conscious mind! Yet we spend so much of our time conscious thinking - I am fascinated how we can release the potential of of unconscious mind? John czcams.com/video/L1hctPt4Q8g/video.html
Incredible! I must read a dozen books about anxiety, spirituality, meditation Etc. I've never had somebody piece everything together so well.
The uses of talking, showing props, repeating, simplifying and showing the text on the screen is the perfect formula to learn!
You've already made an impact in my life and it couldn't have come at a better time. I will become a patron and look forward to watching everything you have to offer!
Thank you!!
Thanks, Mark I appreciate your feedback - lots of videos in Patreon, and many more to come, they currently sit in the back of my brain, but I will pull them all out and into more videos., it's my mission :-) John
This Pandemic certainly isn't helping my OCD. I'm so exhausted by the world in a multitude of ways...
You can't control the world, but you work on your attitude to it. John
I had PTSD, I could clearly observe my body responding to heightened alert and cortisol. I could also observe my thinking mind trying to control danger by ruminating and trying to understand. I like how you recapped at the end and art homework. I am going to try and help your channel grow by liking and commenting and hope others do too.
Thanks for this, I am making more videos, if you would care to join me here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
From the bottom of my heart thank you 🙏🏽 for making these videos.
Hey, you are really welcome!
A great video that provides real insight that others might have missed. Keep up the good work.
Thank you, I appreciate your feedback! I will be making many more.
Can't show appreciation to your channel enough! Please keep up what you are doing, it helps a lot of people like me for sure and save many potential good lives
Thank you - I have 17 further videos in my Patreon site too that might interest you? John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Thank you John, I have only just started your course and already it is helping.
Good for you!
I have been dealing with OCD, ASD and anxiety basically my whole life. I am 22 now and struggle with OCD related anxiety, and this video sir is the best explanation I have ever heard on what is going on. I will be sure to join your patreon, and I look forward to watching the full series of videos, as I think it will help me grately. Thank you🙏
Glad you are liking it - I try to break everything down into understandable stories and new perspectives. John
PS I think you are going to love video 3!
I just became a patron! Change is coming.. Thanks John!
Good for you!
Tysm for numbering the videos! 👍🏻👍🏻
Glad it helps :-)
Thank you Jhon you are doing great job ! keep up
I appreciate that Hamza, thank you
Congrats! Very good video, cut and clean explanation of our brain structures are functioning, in a language that can be easily understood by anyone who is not a specialist. So important that we understand how our brain and body work to be able to understand and help ourselves.
Thank you, I think you'll like video 3 too :-) - then there are the rest of them (up to video 4 to video 19) here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist if you are interested? Best wishes John
The enlightening of others about these subjects is really keeping some people from going crazy and it’s such a blessing
Awareness and knowledge. That’s what the world needs.
It sure is!
Amazing. I can only say a very big thank you for your videos John. I was at the end of the road and exhausted but you have given me hope and direction.
Glad it is helping - videos1 to 6 are free in my CZcams channel and 7 to 21 are here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist Best wishes John
@@TheChroniclesOfCommonSense thanks, I will definitely go through the entire set.
This is amazing!! thank you soo much :)
You are very welcome - make sure you find video 3 and the others on my Patreon website - enjoy!
Thumbs up 👍 to your life saving works John. Thank you.
Thank you so much. John
Thankyou. Plz carry on making
I'm going to tell my mom about your website. Because of quarantine we gotta do things online, and I really think I can relate to you! Thank you!!! :D
You won't regret that! www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist John
While listening to this, even if I wasn't sad I was crying because of how true this is. The reason I stopped the video in the middle is because as smart as am, my brain won't pay attention and starts to have all these obsessive thoughts. A year ago someone told me that they overcame their depression by talking to themselves, but because at that time I didn't know what type of anxiety I had, talking to myself had made my OCD what it is now. I can't stop thinking. Even when I'm tired, my brain is going at the same pace it did months ago, never slowing down. And because I have no one to talk to, I talk to anime characters in my head. They reassure me. I listen to your videos beca use, it's just so true. One of my thoughts were you were my therapist and you were talking to me about my OCD. I don't have a therapist, I call the anime characters in my head "my inner therapist". As weird as the thought seemed, for some reason it all makes sense. I feel like while listening to you, I'm crying and laughing at the same time. I don't feel like I can trust anyone, especially myself. I don't know what's wrong with me. I'm an 11 year old girl. Why can't I be normal? Another thought I usually get 24/7 is that it's all my fault. I just found out that my brain isn't really me (if that makes sense), but I still blame everything in myself. Then I get this thought to kill myself. I don't have depresion. Still, for some apparent reason I get these thoughts. I feel like I deserve this. It's my body, my brain. It's my fault made myself like this! I deserve all this pain! Wait now I'm - wh at was I wanting to say? Huh, whatever. Anyways, thank you for these videos! It really helps me because even though- nvm. Ima explain it. Even though I know you can't think yourself out of a situation, I made this problem, I gotta solve it. Even though I know I'm wrong, I deserve this. I started this, an going to end this. On. My. Own. No therapist. Even though my mom makes enough money, I don't want her to waste it on me. If I'm such a smart child I might as well solve this. Somebody shouldn't go out of their way to help me. But in the end I realize this is one of the thoughts I get, I just am writing it down. Am I actually going to go this way? I really don't know. I still need to think. I always thought it's normal to think this much. At school, ALMOST EVERYWHERE, I'm known as a loud, outgoing child. But for some reason, I'm just hiding everything. From my mom. Sister. Grandma. Friends. For some reason I really wish they can know the truth. But I hide it. I always tell myself, "this is the day you tell them", but once I walk in the door I forget everything and go on faking. No, correction. I don't forget everything. Instead I over-thought everything and decided not to tell them. Anyone. In the end is my fault. But at the same time I want everyone to know all this mental pain in going through! But at the same time I know they wouldn't understand me. It's really hard. I even get these thoughts IF I was actually talking to a therapist, I would tell them nothing. At the same time, I'm telling them everything. Oh well, who ever got this far, sorry for making you read all of this. I'll stop now.
It sounds like you have just got yourself into a psychological muddle and need to press a reset button. People tend to think too much! Keep coming back to the videos 1, 2 and 3 and watch them in little chunks, slowly your mind will see things differently. I have 14 videos here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist and I add a new video each month. This program teaches how to manage your thoughts and feelings and how to build self-esteem and self-love. Hang in there, perhaps even watch these recordings with your mum? Best wishes John
Sir i am proud of you you are so great you show the way to such people who are really suffering from the trauma.
Thank you for your kind words - www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
This is exactly what I've been going through lately. For years I suffer from anxiety and compulsive behaviors. When I practice yin yoga before bedtime, my emotion calms down naturally the next day. I never quite understand why. Recently, whenever the intrusive thoughts are playing in the back of my mind, I consciously redirect my focus to my body: I'm here, breathing, washing vegetables, touching my thighs, etc. My anxiety level and compulsive behaviors drop by a large margin. I never know that the body speaks a different language. I was too mesmerized by analyzing and reasoning. Your video has removed my long-standing confusion. The way you deliver it is so succinct and to the point. I love it!
Glad it made sense! I have loads more videos here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist John
I like this video. Very calming.
Cheers mate
You Sir, used your OCD to analyze the OCD. salute
Cheers!
waki he’s a very intelligent man
Brilliant! Thank you so much!
Thank you - I have lots more videos too. John
Thank you so very much for your detailed yet easy to understand explanations...I developed OCD once I became a pastry chef in a large hotel...the counting and recounting of items to always make sure you had enough..then it moved on to "did I take all the plastic wrap off the cream cheese"..I have often felt that I work a double shift...one in the kitchen..and the other shift in my brain..I also teach baking a pastry and know I have students who suffer as well..I will be sharing these video's with them. Thank you for your kindness in educating people such as myself!
It's exhausting, I like your analogy of a double shift! Thank you - John
I am just not normal. I want to live normal like how other live, like how other be happy in small think and always be happy
Have you joined my anxiety & depression recovery course yet? You can't change without learning what to do! www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist John
I thought that when I was younger too. I hope you are doing ok now
Brilliant!!!!!
💪❤
Thank you Nick
Hi John i watched video earlier this video and it was my mid terms i think this video helped me during this process .I am grateful for these i hope you can upload videos about
# Ocd and Family Relationship ,Social, Work life
yes, I will be doing this on my Patreon channel.
John
Love this mans philosophy
Thank you. I release one new video each month on my Patreon website. John
It’s funny I actually made up a term called the Lighthouse Effect, for the unconscious mind trying to get the conscious’ attention. I knew it had to already be out there and here it is. Love your videos man, I’ve seen this one like 4 times. Thanks so much
Thank you - I have nearly 60 videos now (5 years of work!)
Wow, I love learning about the brain
It's fascinating and so surprising how much it can be retrained!
I have been struggling with anxiety and depression for a while now and I have recently "discovered" the OCD. I've been having uncontrollable thoughts and I cannot shut them up. I've tried to ignore them by putting loud music or so and nothing works. It is exhausting trying to explain this to my husband who I know wants to help me so much but probably doesn't understand how... heh, I don't know how to help myself at this point. I think I want to give this a try. I love how you explain everything and your voice is very calming. I can see that you understand what you're saying and not just saying it to get done with it. Thank you so much now and in advance as I really hope this helps me and all of us that are dealing with such "problems" because it is EXHAUSTING. Again, thank you.
Thank you. Click on the coloured head logo, in the bottom left corner of the video. Pick video, then watch the first three free videos in my youtube channel. If you like what I am teaching, join my patreon community, where I make videos that teach you how to unravel yourself. John
Hi no one in my relationships Habe understood but if you think we can't explain it ourselves I know exactly what your going though I found at 13 I had OCD I'm 37 now and its starting to take its toll on me .. I'm hoping these help us he talks sense and gets you thinking in a way we're you begin to understand what's wrong
It’s going to be ok I have the same problem I struggle with thinking way to much and I stress out about it I can’t stop playing the same thoughts over and over again I feel like I’m going to drive myself Insane but don’t feel alone don’t stop fighting I’m fighting with you
Hope your feeling better
It’s really hard to find someone who can understand you ...
Amazing content 👏👏👏
Thank you for your feedback - I have a whole series in my Patreon website. John
Amazing this guy must be as famous as icons.Thank you so much.
Thank you for your feedback! I have many more of these videos in my Patreon website
I am NOT MY THOUGHT S
What a concept!i am not my thots
Keep calm !emotional creatures
I would like to know what new meds help w ocd..?i have taken setraline (zoloft) my ocd is off the charts!please help w this
Just joined. Excellent videos, hoping this is going to be a good way through the labyrinth that is OCD.
Many thanks. John
How are you now? Is there any progress?
another helpful video!
Thanks - 21 videos in my course and a new one gets added each month - John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Thank u for this message I think we all in some sort of way have this .but realize one day life is not perfect so I gave up in some sort of way to enjoy life cause others things that we worry about don't really matter is our happiness. Thank u again 😍
No, we don't all have this - only those who worry and try to control life have this..... Happiness is an attitude, not an event!
A lot of what he is talking about I first learned and became aware of when I read "The Power of Now".
Yes, that is a very good book indeed. John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
It is an amazing video, it gives real insight about the inter-relation between conscious and unconscious part of our mind.
Here is a list of important points i found in this video:
1.Even though our body is agitated with unreasonable emotions, our mind can still be kept at peace.
2. We can retrain our unconscious mind by repetition, knowing this is useful not only for people with ocd but for everyone. As we go through life our unconscious learns different things, and it very likely to learn few things which are unreasonable, when these learnt things starts to interfere with our life in a negative way, giving us unnecessary fear, doubts and worries we call it ocd. Knowing that we can retrain our mind to unlearn these things or rather learn new things is a big deal.
3. Just knowing that we can retrain our unconscious wouldn't be of any use if we don't know how to do it. This video gives us a real insight that our unconscious doesn't understand language, logic and reason. It doesn't even understand if the situations are real or unreal, the only thing it understands is our reaction to the situation. It gets trained by repetition, if we keep reacting in a wrong way to certain situation, it adds that to its memory and when we face that situation again, it gives us different emotions which urges us to react in the same way we have been reacting to it all this while. People with ocd have reacted to situations in a wrong way, so whenever that situation occurs, they are overwhelmed with emotions and feel compulsion to react in the same way, if they react the same way it further enforces the association of those situations with the actions, they feel even more anxiety, this way the cycle goes on and on. But if we start reacting to these situations differently, firstly we will get overwhelmed with emotions because our unconscious wants to save us and it knows that we can be saved only if we react in a specific way, but if we stick it and repeatedly react differently, slowly and steadily the anxiety subsides and our unconscious learns that there is a different way of reacting to these situations.
Glad the video is making sense! John - Introduction to anxiety czcams.com/video/c14qasoOj3s/video.html
Great! our body responds to our thoughts if as they were real
Yes, it really does, so careful what you consciously think of. John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Thank you
You are very welcome
John www.johnglanvill.com
Thank you!!! They told me, OCD has no cure.. but i dont believe that, watching you, i got some hope.. i really believe i can get a quiet mind, understanding how it works..
I know it can be turned right down until it is not a problem. My course teaches how to do this, John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Thank you 😊
You are very welcome
I'm a well-educated individual, and have done a tremendous amount of research on these topics.
You my friend, have taken all of the things that I've known to be true, but like the words or thoughts describe them properly, and you have actually described them properly.
Moreover, you've presented me with a practical solution. You have helped more people in your lifetime and dozens maybe even hundreds of normal people help in their entire lifetimes.
I cannot overstate my gratitude for you in making this course. Thank you.
You are very welcome. My whole course is here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist where I currently have 16 videos and add a new one each month for just $3 John
Great. Thanks a lot
You are very welcome!
thank you!!
You are very welcome, hope my videos help a little? John
@@TheChroniclesOfCommonSense it really helped me relieve my ocd behaviour, thankss so much!
Hi John, love your video! Are you well versed in limbic system impairment and how it can be a factor in OCD? And how some neural brain retraining can help some people?
Yes, I am. But I wouldn’t say impairment, I’d say, recalibration.
Hi John. You said in this video that anxiety makes you distrust your emotions, and for quite some time, I have wondered whether intuition is simply a part of our 'feeling' brain that has unconsciously been fed ideas on what is good and bad, right and wrong, as taught to us by others. Do anxiety and obsessive thoughts 'stain' your intuition, so to speak, and is there a way to refine this part of you so that it relays good information and doesn't just reflect your value system and/or your fears?
Well spotted - anxiety uncalibrates our useful gut feelings and contaminated our intuitive thoughts. I teach how to reprogram ourselves in the course. John
many thanks
You are welcome. John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
This guy changed everything for me.........😢
Thank you 🙂
I ve had extreme ideative OCD for years... Fell on the wrong psychiatrists. One insisted on doing a psychoanalysis that made me wallow in self- pity instead of helping. I never got good professional help, although i did seek it. I finally googled self - help books. I was desperate. Freedom from Obsessive Compulsive Disorder by Grayson helped me bigtime, although it was hard. I never took medication because the exposure prevention therapy works perfectly for me. But it s very difficult to do it on your own and OCD, especially the ideative type, is so sneaky..... My OCD is back with a vengeance, probably triggered by recent events... I hope your videos help me. I m NOT in a good place right now. My OCD is mostly thoughts of harming myself and others especially those i love
I would suggest you read the book "The Voice of Knowledge" by Don Miguel Ruiz 9 (and watch my videos) it will give you new perspectives. John
Thanks a lot
You are welcome, lots more videos in my channel. John czcams.com/video/L1hctPt4Q8g/video.html
you are a genius!!!!
Well, just learned how to escape my own OCD by learning about the brain-and the body link! - Lot's more videos here matey www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist have a wonderful new year - John
Watching it late night 2:17am
That's ok you can watch it any time you like :-) John (But sleep is better for you!) www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
@@TheChroniclesOfCommonSense haha thanks for concern I am well now
This was a great video!!! Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge. I do have one question. You said the subconscious brain doesn’t understand language, so how is it that hypnosis tapes work? Like the ones ppl listen to while sleeping when they want to stop a bad habit like smoking. The tape is speaking in words, so if the subconscious doesn’t understand language how does that work? I really hope you answer, I am very intrigued by this. Thank you in advance.
It seems to understand words with the logic of an eight year old. Also, there is a "bit in the middle" which we might call the psyche or ego, this is very suggestible. My course goes deeply into this. www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist John
Thanks
Thank you so much it really helps :-)
Great video. He underestimates cats and dogs though. Its not just a case of a cat or dogs brain unconsciously making decisions for them.
My cat stratagizes, generates quite creative solutions consciously.
Dogs most definitly do.
Many still insist on underestimating animals.
I agree with you - I am just trying to use metaphors to guide people to see things in new ways.
🙏🙏🙏 so deep...
I think going deep - but explaining it simply - is how to recover from anxiety. Videos 1 to 6 are free in this youtube channel - then the remaining videos are here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist if you like my work. Thank you.
I feel like our bodies make up feelings that we don’t even need to worry about 🤔 if that makes sense.
Scents really throw me into over drive they bring up so many memories good and bad!
Thank you so much for this information ℹ️!
Our bodies just respond to all our thoughts as if they are true and how it was "conditioned" to respond by life, parents etc. It is reprogrammable! It's not easy but it is possible.
i have been dealing with sexual ocd for five years and its making my life i hell i have tried all things and cbt its only getting worst so i have made a promise to myself that i well do all that can to overcome my ocd
Good for you, it is possible to learn to not respond to the thoughts and compulsions. But don't try to get rid of them though! That is an OCD trap. Watch video 3 and if you like my work there are more videos on my Patreon page. John
Thank God I'm not the only one! Even though my OCD isn't sexual OCD, for some reason I get sexual thoughts whenever talking to someone, or just maybe watching a tv show. I'm not even a dirty person!
Thank you very much. Do you have or give a class in person please
I do private sessions www.johnglanvill.com and I have a course too www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Hi John, I wanted to ask a question about something I've been experiencing, I will make this as short, precise, and thorough as possible. A most recent example would be this, I visited a website months ago that helped me build views for youtube channel. Anyway, for some reason i did not click on the accept/decline box for cookies, and proceeded to do whatever i needed to do. I noticed when i closed the window, my OCD kicked in and started bothering me, saying "why didnt you make a decision and either accept or decline the cookies? "Was it because you had an intrusive image, were you afraid?" blah blah blah etc you get the point. Anyway, i noticed it went away after awhile, but then randomly remembered about it months later. So my mind creates these scenarios, where i feel like i need to go on that specific computer, to that specific site, and either accept the cookies or block them, just to "undo" what had possibly happened. I notice this happens and my ocd tries to threaten me with intrusive images, implying that if i do not do it IMMEDIATELY, or URGENTLY, then i will be bothered by the images or anxiety.Of course I want to simply be at peace and let it go, and not care, I notice I am having more glimpses of not caring and not obsessing, and not worrying, but what else can I do to really change and overhaul my subconscious, it always seems like its one thing or the other trying to bother me, Any advice for this?
Videos 13, 15 and 16 go into a lot of detail about this. John
Hi John thx for yours videos could u please send the link for access all videos and programm thx
Http://www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Hi. I appreciate your channel, will follow and might patron.
I have two questions if you would be generous with your time and information, since it is the first time I encounter an “anxiety Specialist”:
1- have you treated severe cases of debilitating anxiety where people felt as though they were “rotting away”
2- I had a severely traumatic and confusing childhood. I now have major blockages in my life and feel as though I am a total failure and worthless just like my parents.
Is it possible to undo the blockages and anxiety without going in depth and working on the faulty childhood programming that is in the unconscious?
I believe your answers will help everyone who deals with anxiety. Sorry for being long and good luck!
Hi - thank you for your feedback.
To answer your questions (1) yes all of the time. (2) Yes it is.
As my course unfolds (it will be very long) all these things will be covered.
You can read some of my client testimonials here www.johnglanvill.com/therapy-testimonials-client-success-stories/
You have nothing to lose by becoming a Patreon supporter it is only $2 per video and you can already see my knowledge is worth way more than that!!! :-)
John
Your not worthless mate
Would like to know how you doing now?
Can you give solutions to my problems if i ask you.. Your videos are really convincing.
I am making these videos for those who can’t afford therapy - they are $3 per month - For those who want to work directly with me I do online therapy at normal therapy prices. I am trying to cater for both ends of the spectrum, but I can’t work in the middle, I am sure you understand? John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Hey john, i have made an incredible recovery thanks to you, I would say most days, i really feel out of the ocd, and can see how it becomes a trap, I noticed that only one particular type of obsession/compulsion that tries to bother me throughout the day, and that is with words. My mind tends to quickly say, if you said xyz because this or that reason, then you have to say the opposite, to "undo" or "clean" the action. Now usually i am able to easily ignore it, but sometimes i get caught up in the arguments, and at times i feel compelled or addicted to having to go back like a mental rewind and try to remember why i said what, and it is incredibly exhausting, any quick tips to stay out of this?
I hear you, this is very common and 'to a certain point' quite natural.
The brain tends to pattern match and look for words, sounds, action, situations etc., that are similar, so it can group them together as either good or bad, for quick response to future events.
But some people get addicted to watching the workings of the mind (which really) are not there to be consciously observed because they just run unconsciously in the background.
Let me try to explain... If you could see what your computer was thinking/doing you might say "that is silly why is it thinking about that problem?" But in reality, it was running a subroutine, to check one piece of code against every other piece of code to see it it has ever been used. To the computer (your unconscious mind) this is a sensible thing to do, because it can.
But, to your conscious mind, you are asking "why is it thinking about that?" But it is out of context, it was just checking it against everything.
So, you have a conscious addiction to understanding why / looking for answers / running patterns on things that are just the "workings in the margin" of your unconscious mind computer.
Of course, once you consciously engage, the body thinks whose thoughts are real and reacts to them, you get anxious and look for other thinking ways to calm down, which just further exhausts you.
Therefore, as ever, the secret is to consciously stop worrying about what the unconscious mind does - and get out of its way!
My tips would be to realise that - you don't need to think as much as you think, try going into situations and conversations without thinking you need to know what to say or prepare in anyway, and just see what happens.
When in conversations, really listen to the other person 9not what you are going to say next) and see that words just come out of your mouth as needed - it is fascinating!
Then (like in video 16) explore which characters are your thoughts coming from, and which ones are trying to answer those thoughts.
Consider, that animals (who don't talk) won't have this problem and they survive just fine and unstressed - so can we.
Finally, don't see your mind 'as you' see it like a computer in your head, with some old out of date software running, ignore it or reprogram it (video 18).
Cheers John
@@TheChroniclesOfCommonSense Wonderfully said, I will exercise these practices religiously!
@@TheChroniclesOfCommonSense also I just started trusting my body and subconscious more, although some days I feel more of a pull trying to sabotage me with obsessive and endless thinking, only to feel more exhausted an ultimately not getting anywhere, sometimes my mind can go wild like a Sherlock Holmes trying to put together a puzzle! But ultimately I know my subconscious can handle it, and I seem to feel more proud and definitely more at ease knowing it can handle anything without my constance interference or reassurance!
@@retrox64games The truth is - there is no puzzle to solve if you don't listen to/believe your unconscious thoughts! Well done!
I have much experience fighting ocd and negative toughs ...
Care to share? John
It's just a suggestion, you can add topic's names for each video, so later it can be easily to refer or go back to a certain video, thanks for all the effort.
Thanks for your feedback.
John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
@@TheChroniclesOfCommonSense Your welcome, i'm already one of the patrons & i'm looking forward to see your upcoming videos.
Thank you for your support, lots more videos to come, hope it is making sense?
Hey John. I love your videos! A quick question. Just because the subconscious and conscious are 2 separate systems, that doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re not related. Maybe since the conscious mind advanced evolutionarily afterwards, it has the power to dictate the subconscious mind? Just a thought. Let me know. Thank you for your amazing videos!
Judah
Of course they are completely related and semi-integrated. They just have differing roles and we (if we want calmness) need to understand and influence them both differently as we are the sum of the parts. www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
@@TheChroniclesOfCommonSense I understand what you’re saying, but most of the time, the problem with logic when it comes to OCD is that people’s compulsions prevent them from having logical thinking patterns and thus prevents rationale decision making. But most of the time - if not always - logic, especially when it comes from an unbiased, clear mind, can interact with the emotions in a way that can help ppl out.
My videos 8 to 22 teach how this works :-)
In your honest opinion how long do you think it takes to completely heal from pure ocd?
I did it in 10 months but I dedicated my life to it and I changed myself completely. Did you see my video about pure O? czcams.com/video/XlVXzaf46jg/video.html
Hello Sir.I suffer from sensorimotor OCD since last 3 years .My thoughts are stuck at my blinking and breathing .When one goes away other comes into play .I find it diffucult to go through the day and experience headaches a lot almost throughout the day as i try to control my breath How I can help myself .There are no proper treatment available and some even didnt identify it as OCD. I will be highy oblidged if you will reply to my comment .
My other comment I wrote to you deleted (I by mistakenly clicked something) but what I mainly wrote to you was how I can agree with you. It's like I bet if I was prone to fainting I would be passing out 24/7. People don't believe the mental pain I go through just because I'm 11. I feel like us people with OCD though can realate. Yes, whenever one thought goes away, another takes its place. I can't stand this. Sometimes I just want to give up. It's been 9 months since you posted that comment, so if you are seeing this please tell me your progress. This is my second year with OCD, 4th year with anxiety overall. I hope you're doing better!
Hello,
I have a problem that I have OCD, PTSD, depression and anxiety and am an overthinker. With this pandemic going on I’ve deteriorated somewhat and also feel like I’m going through depersonalization and it makes me fear that I will die from it as if like it tries to shut down itself. I am being medicated but therapists I’ve been seeing don’t seem to understand the whole issue at hand, tried explaining it to them but don’t seem to have luck with them. What should I do?
I have written this Ocd recovery program to answer those very questions - if videos 1, 2 and 3 are making sense - sign up here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist and you can access all my other videos for only $3 per month, much cheaper than the therapists who don't understand you! John
Can a mental compulsion for ocd that keeps me stuck be
“I will recover in a few months I just got to keep disregarding thoughts” so basically reassuring that I will be okay. If it is a mental compulsion what can I substitute the thought with
I think this is basically denial of how debilitating OCD is and avoiding getting professional help. You don't have to substitute the thought, just realise that unconscious thoughts have no meaning (except the conscious meaning you give them). It is best to become the observer of THE MINDS thoughts and not be addicted to stopping them, answering them or asking why they are happening. John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Anyone here pregnant or a parent who is experiencing OCD and Anxiety? I’d like to hear how you’re coping with this experience and what you’re doing or taking to keeping yourself grounded and participating. Thank you
For some, the six months pre and post birth can cause existing levels of anxiety or OCD to rise, this is due to many things including - fear of the event, life changes, responsibility growing etc. However, I think the two biggest factors are worry and exhaustion. John czcams.com/video/L1hctPt4Q8g/video.html
@@TheChroniclesOfCommonSense thank you, that makes sense =)
Hi John, when you say the subconscious reacts to all thoughts as if they are real. How does the subconscious understand our thoughts if this part of the brain has no logic or reason? Hope that makes sense. Thanks Jonny
Yes, when I made this video, that was a slight error. What I meant was the reptilian brain does not understand words - the unconscious reacts to words like an 8 year old. Well spotted, John. czcams.com/video/L1hctPt4Q8g/video.html
That's not really what I was asking. Basically how does our unconcious know that something is good or bad
By how it was programmed during childhood, parent, school etc
So if I've reacted to something bad in the past I will more than likely react the same way in the future. That's good to know we are reprogramable haha. Thanks
Its been 17 years , and i didn't even know what i am dealing with , till today i discovered its OCD ( can you believe .. from 17 year's its made me believe ..i am mad or i have low iq ...or i am different than others ect.. ) help me... this thing made great damage to my life ...still damaging from me inside... Cant work ...cant sleep ... Dont have calmness for a second .... Please suggest me something ... Sorry for bad English
Perhaps join my OCD recovery course where I teach you what is happening, how to stop it and how to become a new person where it can't come back? www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist Best wishes John
Namaste sir what is role of serotonin chemical for ocd
In my experience this is the wrong question to ask. A better one is how can I better access the serotonin in my body? If you are constantly flooding your body with stress chemicals from adrenalin and cortisol through anxiety and worry - your cells will (overtime) become conditioned to have more receptors for them and less for your serotonin. So, this needs to be reversed so you have less receptors for anxiety chemicals and more for happy chemicals. This is done by tricking your own mind and body repeatedly for a few months. I cover this in video 7 of my course. John
Sir great video but i have a confusion as you said our subconscious don't understand words or what we are saying then how repeating each video or repetition will reprogram it??
Our subconscious is only as clever as an 8 year old (so it can be tricked).
@@TheChroniclesOfCommonSense sir where are all the videos i can only find few videos from 1 to 38
@@TheChroniclesOfCommonSense sir i am from india so please bring back membership plan in your channel so i can join and access remaining videos, it's a request sir
@@shivanggupta8612 The videos are here htpp://www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
@@shivanggupta8612 I won't put them in CZcams as CZcams hardly serve my content therefore I don't want them to benefit from my meagre revenues! I know it is difficult (but not impossible) to sign up to Patreon from India. Patreon tell me it is due to the Indian side of banking not theirs. support.patreon.com/hc/en-us/articles/4412670870925-Patron-payments-in-India
Other things to consider if you can't sign up are clearing your cache or trying a fresh up to date new browser. Sorry for you inconvenience .
Is this also the reason that my ocd is worse when Im tired. Because my uncounsious is then even more exhausted
yes indeed.
I resist unwanted thoughts ...
Next step is to just let them pass through you.
Thoughtful, useful series! Kudos to you John! However, when you took out the brain, the talk went awry! 30K years ago, there were still homo sapiens in addition to other hominids. 100k years ago, there were earlier forms of hominids, so they were mammals with a cerebral cortex. The limbic system coevolved with the cortex as with the cerebellum. When you are talking about the hind brain, you are actually holding the cerebellum, which was a support to the cortex to improve signal timing (usually more routinely described in association with motor activity, but involved in all cortical activity! Anyway, I'm not sure why you took out a human brain, but evolutionary psychology is certainly valuable in your discussion of psychiatric phenomenology. I would not say "turns off" the upper areas of the brain, however it certainly bypasses the upper brain in terms of triggering the initially response to a threatening, urgent stimulus.
You are right.
I am trying to keep it simple and use metaphor rather than deep scientific justification as often people don't have time to research everything - or the anxiety shortens their attention span.
Cheers John.
@@TheChroniclesOfCommonSense Your responses to my expressed concern have been interesting. Psychiatry is a very challenging field and it is not always easy to express declaratively what one may know intuitively. But when one does understand things in on a declarative basis, they can be more consistent in their performance because it becomes consciously monitored. The test for whether one knows something declaratively is that they can state it clearly and directly. My concern is that you were not passing this second test. We don't need to banter this about. This is my perspective of how things work which you can either accept or reject. I hope you continue to grow as I hope we all continue to grow as it benefits ourselves and our patients. Best, Ken
I am loving our little chats. I used to be exactly as you are with precision and accuracy. But in the last five years I have changed completely - I am more interested in being happy, rather than being "right." My old need to be right used to exhaust me and piss people off :-)
This has led me to start looking at the world completely differently.
I am not a psychologist, or a Doctor, I am an engineer trying to use logic and reason (and metaphor) to explain things that even science doesn't truly understand - like the brain / thought / emotions / love / care etc. These are non-linear emotions and can't even be scientifically proved - you could say understanding love is a pseudoscience and can only ever be so? It is unprovable!
Just take this whole Covid thing most of the medical world work from the basis of germ theory where bacteria and viruses cause most illness - yet, this has NEVER been proven. Which is why you can't test for the Covid 19 virus, only the trail it leaves, if it even does leave a trail or it is the bodies own exosomes that are being measured. Who is right and who is wrong? It doesn't really matter, if you have a healthy immune system it is not really a problem. But nobody is talking about the effect of fear on our immune systems.....
Most doctors and scientists can't explain OCD and rarely treat it well without medication, yet I have incredible results, helping people to become a different person.
So I lie to myself everyday (which is what optimists do) - I rarely complain about things, I don't follow rules, I could go on all day about things I do to try and be happy in the now.
John
@@TheChroniclesOfCommonSense John, While I appreciate what you are saying, you are making the same concessions that Pascal made when confronting the 3 body problem or Shannon made when devising communication theory (which has the more, yet inaccurate title of information theory despite ignoring meaning and only focusing on transmission accuracy). These are concessions made to the limits of logic due to chaos/complexity. If you need to infer that you are so passed that in order to avoid becoming overly anxious, I can understand that. But that is also why we have a fundamentalist movement. You're position says I wish to be practical and not stress the details. Well there is a cost to that, which is to ignore the reality that there are problems that are difficult, yet critical to address if we are to progress. And not to progress becomes increasingly costly because existence for an organism as "successful" as human beings is that they cannot take for granted endless clean water, clean air, and must contend with an overheated world, more globalized economies, pandemics... The answer is not to ignore these things. They are complex, but solvable problems. Bayes theorem and neural network approaches take a beginning and an ending to create increasingly approximate models.
Your talk when you took out the brain model was not consistent with what we know now. When you held the cerebellum, you were referring to the hind brain incorrectly. If you don't want to sweat the details, perhaps that serves your needs, but it does not make you as effective as if you knew the facts. This is why something is missing in your solution to OCD. Not worrying about it is not necessarily the solution. The whole thing is about accepting yourself as valued despite your imperfection, yet not simply giving up on precision. I can work on precision and accept that it is for the joy of learning and not a "compulsion" to justify my existence and my value as a human being. The love of learning.... You lack of making this explicit is the concern. Non-linearity does not mean one cannot approximate sufficiently to approach an adequate solution. Our intuitive brain is non-linear. Our declarative brain is linear. But even spear throwers learn to hit a fleeing wildebeest despite that being a non-linear problem. You're missing the point (pun).
OMG - I have so much to learn!!! :-)
hello sir,does medications is a solution for anxiety & ocd ? and do they really help ?
They may help to calm you down or quieten your mind but that is not addressing the issue. Your anxiety and OCD are the symptom, not the problem, the drugs will try to fix your symptoms but they will not fix the problem.
The problem is that you are worrying too much about everything, feeling responsible for everything and stressing out your own inner chemistry. When you learn to see life differently, let go of control and live in the now, rather than the past or the future, your mind will calm down, then your body will calm down, then your anxiety (which is a symptom) will go away!
Don't try to get rid of anxiety - become the person where anxiety cannot thrive.
Embrace vulnerability, let go of your stories and be creative.
thank you sir....it was very useful
sweety devotional songs rose I get nervous with the medications they have these days... I feel like they are a cover up of what’s going on... like Mr John said we have to understand how to live life differently that should calm the mind once you have a piece of mind it hopefully will help us!
There is a place for medication to suppress anxiety and (maybe) temporarily lift depression. However, the real problem is with how you think, behave, worry and live your life. Unless you change these you won't be able to get yourself free and meds won't change those aspects of your self. The only real caveat is perhaps a "normal" person who is experiencing depression after trauma in their life and they just need something to get them through a temporary trauma.
Some antipsychotic drugs do calm a person down, but they also zombify them - so it is quite a balancing act.
I don't have a problem with meds as long as you are working on yourself and your life at the same time.
Anxiety & OCD Discernment can you please tell me . I been struggling with anxiety for a while and it grew in to violent OCD and depression. I constantly feel bad ahs have horrible thoughts and feelings , I feel like I am going insane . Is that possible?? Sometimes I feel like I am not my self and so on . How to I get over it . I took meds for a while bit as soon as get off them o have everything comes back . So I don’t want to be on meds. How do I get rid of these horrible feelings and Thoughts of me going in sane. Pleas help
Is it common that i have disgust thoughts about people going to toilet and such things that it causes drop of my motivation to meet women cause i imagine them having to use toilet and such things? In that case how to overcome that and get motivation? (maybe im depleted by addictions to have less motivation in first place) Science now knows that disgust can be almost as big as anxiety in ocd.
Disgust is a real thing - but it is also a programmed thing. The first day a person works at the sewage works it is disgusting, two years later they find it normal. So we mustn't use disgust as an excuse - it is a conditioning of the mind. Don't wait for motivation, action towards your goals is the best form of motivation, not waiting for a good feeling or a happy story in your mind. My course teaches you how to change - www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist Best wishes John
God bless you sir......your good karma will pay off
Thank you!
OCD is no longer categorized as an anxiety disorder in the DSM.
Well, to me, the DSM is just a way to group symptoms into a label that can be called a diagnosis - but that has nothing to do with overcoming the underlying causes of those symptoms in the first place. I am interested in what the person can do to manage, reverse or reframe that condition so a calmer and happier life is possible.
I'm fighting unwanted thoughts and I kick them ...
Perfect!
Sir can you please tell me how to deal with sleep anxiety😰
Do you mean fear of falling a sleep or insomnia? Either way they are the symptom and the answer is to learn to not worry. My course reaches how to do that! John
@@TheChroniclesOfCommonSense I feel anxious every night while sleeping and end up staying awake all night, also I miss my sleep prior to attending any interview.
You need to learn how to stop worrying - the first three videos from my anxiety course will show you the basics.
Video 1 czcams.com/video/nXk75ezkRK4/video.html
Video 2czcams.com/video/yHejSfrg_iE/video.html
Video 3 czcams.com/video/zf1J4Vwjg9Y/video.html
OCD can be controlled by Buspirone ❤❤❤
And it can be overcome using my course, accessed via Patreon :-)
If ocd impacts your life more than another person with ocd, does that mean your nots are tighter
Yes, that's why we must learn how to untangle them!
If you look closely the "observer" is just another feeling or thought.You can't have the "observer" and a thought/feeling/emotion in the exact same instance.Its one thought/feeling/emotion at a time/in the same instance.That doesn't mean I'm denying the capability of self awareness in us of course not.But "observing your own thoughts" is more of a practical concept formulated by mystics/spiritualists/contemplatives etc., you will see that doesn't literally happen when you investigate your mind properly.
You are going down the wrong rabbit hole my friend - stop trying to use logic against ocd, because ocd only has the intellect of an 8 year old - when you can see this is true... surprising things happen. Watch the third video and get back to me :-)
@@TheChroniclesOfCommonSense I did watch the video and I do admit that the idea of observing your own thoughts serves a practical purpose and is helpful. I was just simply stating that that's not what really happens. That fact has nothing to do with the self management of OCD.Of course if logic could treat OCD we wouldn't have a problem in the first place.
Well, that's what you think and I respect that. Interestingly, the point you are making was the same argument I used 25 years ago, whilst I was trapped in my own OCD nightmare. However, I did the research, I tried everything, I worked for 13 years as an OCD therapist, I reprogrammed my unconscious mind and I escaped! have been totally calm for 20 years. Potentially, one of us is right and one of us is wrong....... Keep an open mind, my friend. Here, I will share one of my other videos from the OCD Recovery Course with you for free czcams.com/video/ltPKjp3095c/video.html John
@@TheChroniclesOfCommonSense I'm confused about something. You said the content of thoughts don't matter to the subconscious. But why does excitement due to a good news feel positive and panic feel negative, even though at a physiological level both result in palpitations. The story in your head does matter right?
If you stand in front of a dog and make happy sounds, the dog wags its tail. If you make anxious scared noises, the dog becomes anxious. Your unconscious mind is doing the same, your brain which sits in darkness is scanning your "noises" (thoughts and body reactions) to guess what is happening you on the outside. Excitement and fear are pretty much the same things - except one has a good story and one a bad story in your mind. My video 3 should make this easier to understand. John
I don't focus on unwanted thoughts ...
Good, thats the right strategy!
They say that we have control over our thoughts and emotions which is confusing to me.
Who is they - because I don't, do you? Perhaps a monk or a saint may be able to control their thoughts and feelings!
@@TheChroniclesOfCommonSense No I can't. That's what I'm seeking help.
I need help I am into religious ocd
This is video 2 - keep watching the free videos up to number 6 and you will see that - Your OCD is religious but it could be anything. The OCD is the symptom not the problem. If it wasn't religious it would be something else, video 5 will explain that. When you finish video 6 - you will know whether it is worth your while joining my OCD course here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Best wishes John
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Is inositol is good fOr ocd
I am sure many vitamins are good for the body and brain, but they won't stop your OCD type thinking, your controlling behaviour and the resulting anxiety in your body. These are changed by learning how thoughts work, retraining the brains amygdala and learning to see life differently - you could call this group of behaviours exposure therapy? Which I truly believe to be the best form of recovery. John Http://www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
@@TheChroniclesOfCommonSense I have read about inositol and read many of people good review on inositol therefore I want to ask u will it works ....?
I doubt it will stop OCD, like I said in my first reply. Try it and see, then you will know. If it did work I guess Doctors would prescribing it! If you take it and it does work, please let me know :-) John.
@@TheChroniclesOfCommonSense .And what is your opinion about ashwgandha...?
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I watched the video and he is not fixed from his OCD problems! I don't know about any of these herbs or supplements and I think they are trying to offer an "external' solution - rather than following an "internal' path to changing yourself, the way you think internally and your behaviours. Because if you change how you think and behave, you will change your life's outcomes and your internal chemistry - and this is how I believe you can eliminate anxiety and depression. John
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Hey, so many people who come here have English as their second language, please respect that! I wish I had a second language. John
Respectful manners seems to be.
:-) we both have free speech.
My youtube channel, is aimed at people with mental health issues and I respect the courage it takes for them to post here - so I will never criticise or judge them - however, I will defend them, if another person does, even if that person doesn’t see it as criticism or being judgemental.
Hi can you please help me! You see, nvm. I overthought if I should write this comment. Nah, don't waste your time on me. It's just another thought I had that I'm going to forget in a couple of minutes. Anyways, thanks for the videos!!!
Wow, strange outlook man!
I was following okay until the evolution thing. Again I realise he said here is a scientific perspective to look at to understand and you can do your own research if you like. I appreciate that he mentioned this.
Not everybody confidently believes in evolution. I am definitely not sold on evolutional theory. Although I believe in adaptation and the fact that they are multiple species we haven't even heard of, Evolution (no matter how much it's explained to me) does not add up. It is a theory based on some very logical thoughts in doctrine however their gaps in it that I cannot use to excuse my behaviour. Science does not have an answer for everything but it looks for answers. The point where science is not able to give an answer is the point where choice or belief comes into play. This is why I can't allow myself to use evolution as an excuse to believe I have no control over my thoughts, behaviour or my feelings. I would definitely say I have little control: however, our individual desires are just as real as the ground we walk on. If it were all chalked up to our animal subconscious instinct we would all act the same in the same situations or in the same environments. No one person lives the same life and it affects the outcome of their behavioral response. I just cannot see how there is a 1 way fits all because of animalistic evolutional instincts.
Science comes credibly close to explaining a lot of the unexplainable; however, theory is not fact. There is factual science I completely agree with but I can't give the same credit to theoretical science. Evolutional theory is still arguable. Regardless, I can validate at least half of what hes saying as sound knowledge rather than belief. I do have to say I appreciate the approach. He made it very easy to want to understand and listen to. I still look forward to what he has to say continuing on.
Thank you for your feedback. I hear what you are saying. I try to sit in the middle, in my course, I often say the following "What I am saying here is not necessarily the truth, but it is a model you can use to quieten your mind and find calmness in your body." It is like having a soul, I can't prove if I do and I can't prove if I don't have a soul - however, I like the 'model' of living my life as if I do have one - as this allows me to not fear death. I will never know 'scientifically' until I do die. There is so much we can't prove, yet it is true to us, like love and intimacy etc. Best wishes John czcams.com/video/L1hctPt4Q8g/video.html
yes, I care too much about my logic, how smart or successful the person is, I didn't recognize they are BULLSHIT ans evils, but my subconscious kept telling me
I heard that the unconscious mind is a million times faster and a million times more powerful than the conscious mind! Yet we spend so much of our time conscious thinking - I am fascinated how we can release the potential of of unconscious mind? John czcams.com/video/L1hctPt4Q8g/video.html