Here Is How A Narcissist Is Trauma Bonded With You

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  • čas přidán 23. 09. 2022

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  • @desertangelfish140
    @desertangelfish140 Před rokem +54

    What I'm noticing in meeting these narcissistic and toxic types. Is that you just met them and within hours or days they're already telling you about their horrible childhoods and dark pasts. The normal people are just talking about current things and what's happening at that moment. You don't know anything about their childhoods or their past until further down the road in the relationship if even then! This is my new red flag to look out for and steer clear of.

    • @robbiemerriweather7093
      @robbiemerriweather7093 Před rokem +2

      Omg, you are right. They actually need a therapist other than that you are on point, they just start telling you their life book.

    • @melijellybelly
      @melijellybelly Před rokem +10

      Just a small little thing to share
      Some people have trouble with over sharing
      Over sharing isn’t always an indicator of a narcissist
      I would be heartbroken if in one of my impulsive over sharing moments someone wrote me off as a narcissist
      But at the same time I know that’s something I need to work on and I’m not saying you should put up with people that make you uncomfortable

    • @israelrocha1831
      @israelrocha1831 Před rokem +5

      @@melijellybelly And sometimes people just want to tell someone because of complicated circumstances.
      Unconfortable? Yes, it is but it's understandable. However intention is key to tell apart ill intent, it usually feels like confusion and a sense of danger.

    • @melijellybelly
      @melijellybelly Před rokem +1

      @@israelrocha1831 100% specially when people have been isolated and finally get out sometimes it’s just word vomit

    • @leojablonski2309
      @leojablonski2309 Před rokem +1

      I am still quiet, 65 years later. Too humilitating

  • @ruthh.9069
    @ruthh.9069 Před rokem +34

    Wow, thank you for clarifying this, I've always wondered why they chase people that they don't like.

  • @leahforrest9155
    @leahforrest9155 Před rokem +9

    My ex told me I was disgusting for watching the bachelor...I took it serious and told myself he was right..if my kids shouldn't be watching it...I probably shouldn't either. A week later I found out he had been watching porn and his disgust for himself was why he attacked me. We are no longer together.

  • @Acceptancetoday
    @Acceptancetoday Před rokem +17

    The narcissist had expectations for me to provide money to him, the cycle of discard then he would overspend then love bomb, want to come back and then in weeks the rages and cursing would start as if my very existence was blocking him from access to my money as if it was truely his…..it was very apparent the hate he felt toward me.

  • @ronieGirl327
    @ronieGirl327 Před rokem +5

    I could see the hatred in his eyes at times. I'd ask him if it was hard for him to have to pretend to care for me.

  • @dddeepasmr2701
    @dddeepasmr2701 Před rokem +3

    It's a terrible -2 experience no-one should experience and Idk how to get out of it. 😢😔

  • @kingskings2026
    @kingskings2026 Před rokem +11

    Sir, u should make an hour or two hours lecture on NARCS, u make it easier for people to understand these soulless creatures running arround. Thanks for ur good Work.

  • @patriciatoomingtheplantpar2558

    Yes mine has leashes on several different "Pets" when he's done with them he just drops the leash, and drives away.
    With me I have a heavy chain with a lock

  • @mara1275
    @mara1275 Před rokem +5

    Wow THANK You so much

  • @rhondamier6037
    @rhondamier6037 Před rokem +1

    Your way of communicating this information is so easy to understand and put into perspective what we've been through. Thank you for your approach to educating and enlightening.

  • @Maya-hq6iy
    @Maya-hq6iy Před rokem +10

    True ..they need a fan club because they have low self esteem
    Talking about marriage hundreds of ads on Craigslist including Men
    Dodged that bullet

    • @dorothy9898
      @dorothy9898 Před rokem +1

      They have a fan club... my sister called him biker trash. They adore each other. Treat their women like shit. Makes them feel "manly". Actually after 38 years of hell I saw the light and started to educate myself. I realized my own mother was exactly the same way. My own mother. Coming from a large family I was the black sheep and abused by my brothers. No wonder I chose him. But I am FREE. 70 years old and happy again. Took some soul searching but if I can make it out of there anybody here on this forum can. Hold onto your dreams. Peace ✌️

  • @leticiamilo4387
    @leticiamilo4387 Před rokem +1

    Thanks Danish!❤⚘
    True!
    Spot on !

  • @melissasowell2413
    @melissasowell2413 Před rokem +2

    That explains why my ex husband can't let me go three years after I left. He has no friends or job and still wants to take me to court and ruin me. He has no one but me and our child for his supply.

  • @one1lux
    @one1lux Před rokem +2

    Truth

  • @truthtarot7074
    @truthtarot7074 Před rokem +2

    Correct 💯

  • @redafro7699
    @redafro7699 Před rokem +1

    Oohh... It makes sense when you say it that way.

  • @luciajager5766
    @luciajager5766 Před rokem +2

    Because they need something after they let you down again no matter what you're doing for them.They will do it again and again

  • @gotcha9983
    @gotcha9983 Před rokem +1

    Thank God I'm not the best supply ❤️🙏 I'm nothing special and I'm Free

  • @jacquelinefroehle5868
    @jacquelinefroehle5868 Před rokem +2

    Seems like if they used you in the past, then they know they can use you in the future....and they always pretend that what they did in the past to harm and use you, never happened. They start fresh with throwing crumbs to be fake nice and then bam....used and abused y ou again.

  • @therover9514
    @therover9514 Před rokem +1

    Perfectly Explained🔥

  • @Lucida1818
    @Lucida1818 Před rokem +1

    Yessssssss I know
    I have had many narcissists in my family and I know their weaknesses
    I am highly emotionally independent that’s why they wanted closeness with me. Needy in fact
    I don’t like this in people no matter who they are

  • @jennifermcelrea8317
    @jennifermcelrea8317 Před rokem +1

    I have this going on at work. And the rest of the stuff hasn't managed to bring and have the narcissist band. As much .

  • @angelaaldas5591
    @angelaaldas5591 Před rokem +1

    Oh that good, they have other supplies.

  • @deborahrootshort9182
    @deborahrootshort9182 Před rokem

    Wow! This is a very understandable way in making sense of an non sensible relationship bond. I am at odds with someone I've been a flying monkey for over 40 years and am finally seeing it for what it is this past year. My life has been a roller coster ride since I was 9 and started working for this person, a step family member . I think I need guidance on this. Do uou recommend anyone?

  • @sofp
    @sofp Před rokem +1

    And the more supply they have the more they are trauma bonded : it’s really a living hell

    • @traceybiles2061
      @traceybiles2061 Před rokem +1

      Yep. ...you are not only one the are hoovering..they don't miss you they miss theor fix or high they get from abusing you..sex..upsetting you..money etc.

    • @sofp
      @sofp Před rokem

      @@traceybiles2061 💯 agree. Their unhealthy behaviors is abuses to our lives

  • @philporter3045
    @philporter3045 Před rokem +1

    I caused a huge narc injury so now I do not exist they do not talk to me even when they are in thr same social setting as me

  • @czar21
    @czar21 Před rokem +1

    And he knows exactly what he did to me on purpose! Corey drain karma is a bitc%

  • @aahmonddelite690
    @aahmonddelite690 Před rokem +2

    Damn...😂

  • @bangtonbozz9934
    @bangtonbozz9934 Před rokem

    the narcissist only except things from me ,only blame me i'm not gud in relation. if he wants onething he fought me hilariously......atlast only sorry from him.wherei'm brorken and i'm confused who done a wrong things

  • @keeponkeepinon4891
    @keeponkeepinon4891 Před rokem +1

    If he needs the supply so much, what does the narcissist get out of doing mean things, being hateful and brutally cruel? He knows my vulnerable point (I become unglued by rejection) and has perfected wielding rejection in multitudinous destructive ways.
    I think I've lost my way in trying to understand the devastation by the narcissistic relationship. Ugh

    • @MiteshDamania
      @MiteshDamania Před rokem +1

      No contact ever again

    • @angelofthemosthigh7292
      @angelofthemosthigh7292 Před rokem +1

      No contact and start healing, learning how they think is a start.

    • @keeponkeepinon4891
      @keeponkeepinon4891 Před rokem +1

      @@MiteshDamania still no contact. I changed my driving route so I would not be even driving past his shop. This kinda felt like a weakness but I needed to do it.

    • @keeponkeepinon4891
      @keeponkeepinon4891 Před rokem

      @@angelofthemosthigh7292 oh, Angel, finally beginning to realize how they think nearly sent me crazy. Yes, but I do realize that what you say makes beautiful sense. For some of us, there can be no healing without understanding. Thank you for being...

    • @MiteshDamania
      @MiteshDamania Před rokem

      @@keeponkeepinon4891 it's strength to avoid gim

  • @jalinacurandera4543
    @jalinacurandera4543 Před rokem +3

    I see a scratching pole in the back.
    Totally off-topic, but could we see your cat(s) one time? 😬☺

  • @leojablonski2309
    @leojablonski2309 Před rokem +1

    Is this compartimalization by the narc.??? Outta sight, outta mind

  • @kelseybailey3844
    @kelseybailey3844 Před 9 měsíci

    Okay how do I get out? I want to I hate his guts but I feel stuck

  • @ayansinha1690
    @ayansinha1690 Před rokem

    Sir, as per your definition and explanation on narcissist, there is no value of emotion...in a closed relationship there is some value of emotion of each other...showing emotion cannot be said to be narcissism..

  • @Oneilblueraystarseedgnosis8389

    ☝🏾☯️

  • @andrewcombe8907
    @andrewcombe8907 Před rokem +4

    Why is social media being bombarded with videos about narcissism? Plus the videos are usually by amateurs.

    • @mylegacytransformed
      @mylegacytransformed Před rokem

      Yep…surely can’t follow everyone & most especially the amateurs…luckily there are bonafide professionals…
      …also there has been an unfortunate surge in the number of narcs
      …it’s almost like the covid-era has made people face their inward selves & they’ve been throwing tantrums ever since

    • @vickyb6588
      @vickyb6588 Před rokem +6

      The great awakening is here 🙏

    • @MiteshDamania
      @MiteshDamania Před rokem +4

      Because there is interest?

    • @angelofthemosthigh7292
      @angelofthemosthigh7292 Před rokem +7

      Ppl tired of those empty souls out to destroy others..

    • @tinkerbell9282
      @tinkerbell9282 Před rokem +2

      It's better than being bombarded by videos of Andrew tate

  • @empress.l.e.tra5904
    @empress.l.e.tra5904 Před rokem

    I know this is sad

  • @kobradking1669
    @kobradking1669 Před rokem

    Trusyme l don't care