Kids who are humiliated and criticized all the time become enemies of themselves in adulthood.. And its worse than anything that could happen to anybody
Yes . And it's own relatives and school bullies who do that. These kids later become socially awkward and can't stand up for themselves. But they have been bullied and neglected.
With respect Sir, kuch parents asay bhi haen, jin ki negligence ki wajha say un kay bachoo ki zindagian barbad ho gaen .Sabass hay asay bachoo par jo phir bhi apnay parents ki is leya kidmad kratay haen qun kay ya Allah ka hukum hay.
Bus Allah say ummed lagen. Yah sab log olad hi ko bura boltay , jan joo logo nay aap par jota utta hota hay. Aap Allah kay hawalay kar daen, woh kabhi na kabhi zaroor nawazay ga. Allah Pak nay aap ko jo kuch deya hay ,us par sukar ada kraen. Jo nahi mila woh qismat may tha hi nahi ,is ley us ko sochnay ki zarort nahi hay.
@@shaistajanjua2557 mei mehsoos kr skti hn q k har roz qayamtein Tori jati hn mujh pr ACHA WAQT ayega ye sunty or kehty life nikl hi gai Aj bhi dard mei hi hon.. Bs mere liye b boht dua kre GA Wesy b ramzan agya h
علامہ اقبال نے جب شکوہ لکھا تھا تب کافی عرصہ ٹک چہ میگویاں ھو رھی تھی مگر جواب شکوہ لکھ کر مطمئن کر دیا ٹھیک اسی طرح آپ نے اولاد کو میسیج دے کر والدین کو مطمئن کیا ابوسفیان
My parents were unable to understand or may be communicate to my problems , they had an idealistic approach towards me ... And I wasn't able to communicate to them in the worst of my times ... But they are still the gem of my life , God bless them with greaterhealth and dignity. Ameen
Ya Allah , Please give my parents a longer life. I still want them to look at me in the peak of my dreams and I want to show them that their sacrifices are worth it. Ameen .
Sometimes parents they are not setting a good example for the children. Like parents constantly humiliating each other in front of their kids. It creates a mental streas for kids
@@mahamdilshad3727 Exactly, no one listens. There nothing we can do about it. I had an emotional meltdown last month and I had to see a psychiatrist. The only thing I can do is pray. And I hope that Allah will help me.
Very painful nights and days by thinking all along about the arrogance and disrespect......May Allah swt bless the offspring to follow the straight path Ameen
Professor shb ap ki sari baten kitabi hain , ye bht detailed topic hai ap apni soch se byan kr k farig ho gay hain, ap mehrbani farma k apni baten jaib main rakhen ...
Sir ..AP ki baton se itna ptaa chlaa ha.keh bchon ki koi izat ni hai..unki toheen ho to wo sbr krty rhay.self reppect ni..ek individuals k sary faisly parents ne krne hen to phr robots behtr hen insan se
U must be right dr sab, lemme share my story shortly with you. Many apny waldain say bachpan say suna hai k mery paida hony py wo khush nhi thy q k unko beta chahiay tha.. matric tak to mjy cheson ki zyda smj nhi thi, sirf itna pta tha k many kuch aisa krna hai jis say mery parents ko proud feel ho, hmesha extraordinary student rhi hun, 9th class main mery parents ny mjy bht force kia k main arts k subject rakhun, so that BA kron or usk bad wo meri shadi kr dain, many zabardasti science subjects rakhy, jb mery choty bhai matric tak pohanchy mery waldain chahty thy k wo science subjects rakhyn q k arts ka to zamana hi nhi.. zabardasti dono ko unki marzi k khilaf science rakhwai.. fsc main again mery parents mjy fa k liay force krty rhy, jb k mery bhai fa krna chahty thy dono ko zabardasti fsc k liay zor daity rhy, dono ko achy or mehengy waly college main dakhil karwaya jb k mjy kha gia, pas ka jo college hai agr to wahan say parh sakti ho theek hai wrna parhai chor do... Khair story short krti hun.. ro dho k fsc ho gai meri med main admission nhi mila meri mother working lady thin, unhon ny mera private med college main admission krwa dia.. is sary arsay main mery walid wo wahid insan thy jinhon ny mjy degrade kia or hmesha mjy let down kia.. graduation ho gai to mjy khi job nhi krny di, kisi na kisi bahany ghr hi bithay rakha.. mny socha theek hai agr mn css ki tyari krti hun, 2 saal to mny u hi ghr mn guzar diay css ki tyari ki, mera 1st attempt mn clear nhi hua.. dosri attempt mjy kbi dainy hi nhi di... Bus hmesha ghr k maslon ka hawala daity rhy k yh ho jay to phir mr laina etc etc.. ab main 26 ki hun main apni zindagi ko peechy daikhti hun to sochti hun mery hath main kia hai, apni zindagi k itny saal kia many dhoky main guzar diay.. ab wo chahty hain k main unki marzi say shadi kr lun or achi achi housewife ban k baqi ki zindagi guzar dun.. muj say meri kitabain chen li hain jo meri wahid dost thi.. Dosri side py mery bhai hain.. dono ko wo dr engineer bnana chahty thy, aik matric pas hai dosay ny ro dho k BA kia hai.. mjy mery walid khty hain tumary hath isliay kuch nhi hai q k tum walidain ki nafarman ho, yh nhi samajty k unki wja say jo itny saal many zehni azait main guzary hain or abhi b guzar rhi hun... Kal ko agr mn in say door ho jati hun ya in say in say apna relation limited kr daiti hun (jo k mn kron gi) to yh khain gy beti ko parhaya tbhi wo chor gai Sawal mera sirf yh hai hum har jga sunty hain walidain ko uff na kro unki baat say inkaar na kro, kia waldain ko pochny wala koi nhi? Kia Allah b hum bachon ko saza day ga? I hope ap mera comment parh k response zaroor dain gy
Sir ji absolutely right..... Is poori video mn , me ye samjhta rha k ap sirf aor sirf mery upper bat kr the he....... Sir ji you are great, Allah Pak AP ko salamat rkhy
This is the most difficult part but i believe as being a children we can try our best , every possible way to teach them the importance of parenting by showing love , care , huging them often . It is possible they May lack knowledge of care .
naila warraich same question I am asking. I know some parents they take revenge. And try to ruin their children life. You just save your and your kids life and run off.
communication achi bhi ho tab bhi Yehi haal hota hai....parents mai bhi "mai" hoti hai....apnay bacho ki zindagi "20 Years (Ya) is sai bhi ziyaada peechay kar detay hain sirf apni "mai" ki wajhaa sai aisay parents kai bacha phir duniya ka muqaabla hee nahi kar paata aur crush ho kar reh jaata hai "saari zindagi kai liye"...apnay haatho sai apnay bacho ko "disable" banaa daitay hain aisay so called parents...jo parents apnay bacho ki zindagi duniya mai hee jahannum banaa dai is sai acha yehi hai kai yaa tou bachay marr jaayai (ya) parents marr jaayai...dushmano mai aur aisay parents mai "koi farq nahi hota"...infact dushmano sai bhi "ziyaada khatarnaak" hotay hain aapkay parents...dushmano kaa tou aapko pata hee hota hai kai wo aapka dushman hai...lekin dost ban kar churaa khobtay hain aapkay parents.....!!!!!!
😭 Mai b bchpn se boht ziyadtiyan beja nafratein bury rawayye sehti ayi hon bimar hogai mentally physically emotionally tabah kr Dia mujhe boht zada takleefon mei hon PLEASE MERE LIYE B DUA KREN Jeeny ki koi umed nhi bchi.. Mei unko Ab b dukhi nhi krna chahti lekin insan hn KHTM hogya h Ab brdasht nhi saha jata Orr na kisi se keh skty na koi smjhta h roz marr marr k Jena TO KAHAN HN PARENTS JO YE SAB HOTA DEKH RHY HN OR HONY DE RHY HN ye hoty hn parents?? In parents Ka ye maqam btya h Allah ne
@@minasyed8199 Allah aapko in taqleefo sai nijaat dilaaye, Ameen, Summa Ameen....kuch log samajhtay hain kai bachay jhoot bol rahai hain aur wo galat hain....jabkai Allah ko pata hai kai parents ki "toxic aur ajeeb personality" ki wajha sai bachay zehni mareez ban gaye hain aur depression mai chalay gaye hain...parents kai naa-jaayaaz rawayyo ki wajha sai bohat sai bachay khudkushi kar kai Allah ko pyaaray ho gaye hain, phir bhi aisay parents poochtay hain kai humnai kiya kya hai???....jab wohi naa-jaayaaz rawayya bachay un parents kai saath karai unko apni galtiyo ka ehsaas dilaanay kai liye "phir bhi" un parents ko ehsaas nahi hota apni galtiyo ka....!!!!!
Jab waldain koi baat suna hi na chahen to communicate kia kerna ha. They think that their children are fool. Parents should understand that children also have a mind in their head and they can think. They always try to impose illogical things and don't want to listen and understand the real problems that their children are facing.
Har insan ko Allah k samne apna jawab Dena he. Ap Allah, rasool sallallahu alaihi wasallam k agla at ko seekh kar un pe chalna shru kar den or isko choren k Maan baap kya kar rhe hen. Sabr se sab kuch bardasht karen or khud ko ache se acha develop karen. Akhir ek din Allah ap pe rehem zarur farmae ge. Ameen summa ameen
بہت پیارا بیان فرمایا آپ نے ۔ اللہ پاک جزائے خیر دے بچے باپ کی بات کو اہمیت نہیں دیتے جبکہ باپ ان کے لئیے آنے والے وقت میں آسانیوں کا معاملہ چاہتا ہے اور بچے فرمانبردار اور نیک بھی ہوں۔ اس کے سلسلے میں آپ جب لاہور میں کوئی پروگرام کریں تو ہم بھی بچوں کے ساتھ شامل ہوں ۔ ایسے وقت کآ انتظار رہے گا
ڈاکٹر صاحب ۔۔ اگر بچوں کی تربیت اللہ اور رسول اللہ صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم کی ھدایت کے مطابق کی جائے تو انشاءاللہ ضرور فرمانبردار اور نیک و صالح ھوگی۔۔آپ جو باتیں بتا رھے ھیں بہت اچھی ھیں لیکن ان باتوں کا تعلق نفسیاتی مسائل سے ھے۔اگر بچوں کی تربیت دین اسلام کے اصولوں کے مطابق کی جائے یہ مسائل ھی پیدا نا ھوں۔۔شکریہ۔۔آپ کی وڈیو بہت اچھی ھے۔۔اللہ تعالی تمام بچوں کو نیک و صالح فرمائے۔۔آمین۔
آپ میری بات کو سمجھیں، مذہب اسلام ھمیں دنیا سے دور اور آخرت کے قریب کرنے کی کوشش کرتا ھے۔۔اسی لیئے جب انسان خود سے اور دنیا سے زیادہ محبت کرتا ھے وہ زیادہ نفسیاتی مسائل کا شکار ھوتا ھے۔۔جب انسان حق لینے سے زیادہ حق ادا کرنے کی کوشش کرتا ھے وہ نفسیاتی مسائل سے آزاد ھوجاتا ھے ایسا ھی شخص کا اللہ پر بھروسہ اور توکل زیادہ ھوتا ھے اور وہ دوسروں سے کوئ امید نا رکھ کر زیادہ اطمینان بخش زندگی گزارتا ھے۔۔۔👍
Maa bap ab bacho ko cash krate hain , investment bna k use krte hain onay shadiyan b nai krwate aur kete hain jitna perhain ge utne paise ghar ain ge. Is bat pr ap kia bolen ge? Jo apne mtlb k liye itna gir sakte hain to in se acha salook kese insan kr sakta hai ? In k sath rehna b bht ehsan hai in pr
Its not important k parents hmesh hi right hon. sometimes ap wo nai krskte jo parents chahte hn. Thk k sath chalna chaie. Beshak kuch b ho. Parents have to learn also
میں آج کی نسل اور انکے والدین کی بات تو نہیں کرسکتی۔ لیکن اتنا ضرور کہوں گی کہ والدین سے بات چیت کرنے کا اعتماد بھی والدین اور گھریلو ماحول دیتا ہے۔ اور میں شاید بدقسمتی سے اس زمانے کی پیداوار ہوں جب اولاد اور والدین کے بیچ دوستانہ گفتگو ہونا ناممکن تھا۔ مجھے تو یہ بھی نہیں معلوم کہ میں زمانے کو قصوروار ٹھہراؤں، معاشرے کو، اپنے خاندان کو یا اپنے ماں باپ کو۔ مجھے تو اپنی مرضی سے گھر آۓ ہوۓ رشتہ کو ناپسند کرنے کی بھی اجازت نہیں تھی۔ لیکن میرے بہن بھائی کو ہر طرح کی اجازت تھی۔ کیونکہ میں جوائنٹ فیملی میں رہتی تھی تو میں نے اپنے خاندان میں اپنے ایک ایک کزن کو اپنی مرضی سے ڈھڑلے کے ساتھ زندگی گزارتے دیکھا ہے لیکن میرے معاملے میں یہ کہہ دیا جاتا تھا کہ میں خاندان کا پہلا بچہ ہوں اور چھوٹوں کے لۓ مثال ہوں۔ لیکن افسوس، خاندان کے بچے اپنی مرضی سے بہت کچھ کر چکے جو شرعاً یا اخلاقاً جائز نہیں لیکن اسکو اسی خاندان نے جائز بنا دیا۔ کیا یہ منا فقت نہیں کہ اپنی اولاد کے عیبوں پر پردہ ڈالو اور دوسروں کو ٹوکو یا ذلیل کرو؟
Shayad mere pass ap k masle ka Hal he. Ap Allah or rasool sallallahu alaihi wasallam k ehkamat ko seekhne. Or phir un pe dil se amal karne ki poori koshish Karen. In Sha Allah Allah ap k lie khushi on k darwaze khol dega or ap ko apni pichli pareshanian yad b nahi rahen gi
Yes bikul sahi baat k bachon ko patents se kabhi koi baat nahi chupani chaye or parents ko bhi apni trbiyat pr itna yaqeen hona chaye k unka bacha kabhi ghlt kaam nahi krega baqi allah ki mdd k beghair koi kuch nahi krskta neki bhi nahi thanks apne ye vedio bnai aj kl ik trend chlgya he k parents ki trbiyat ki jae bs bacho ko madr pidr azad chor diya jae
Excellent.....Can't Understand if a community has Teachers like Dr.Javed Iqbal,Qasim Ali Shah and Mr Imran Khan then how can a nation be look down worldwide.
sir, tarbiat aur prhana likhana responsibility me ata hai parents ki hur prnts ye kertey hain aur jb aulad b parents bunti wo b krti hai iska mtlb ye nhi ke parents principally defined right according to Islam and country law ke denial me ja ker out of the way emotionaly blackmail kerke jo unhy thek lgta whi faisle krein. Ab ager kisi aur religion ko bacha adopt krna chiae beshuk wo thek ho lakin valdain ghlt to phr b waldain ghusse me ajaengy iska kya kre bnda phr apni akhrat khrab krle ??
Kya ap religion change karna chahte hen?? Maa baap ne apna jawab Dena he akhirat me or ap ne apna. Ap apne ap ko Allah, rasool k ahkamat k mutabiq dhaal len bilkul. Maa baap ka muamla Allah par chor den
Very rightly pointed out by some people that you show one side of the coin..... That was what I also noticed while watching one of your videos..... With due respect, considering you as a motivational speaker, I have following suggestions for you :- 1. Select and speak on a topic in a wholesome manner 2. Don't be afraid wrt length of your videos..... In my opinion it should be min of 15 min 3. Tons of books in English are available on topics those our respected motivational speakers are dilating upon..... But since our people either don't understand or have left reading books so all folks prefer social media to gain wisdom.... 4. What is missing in those books is relevance to our culture and social norms.... So it would be a wise thing not to communicate the English stuff in Urdu but to correlate the theory with our practical day to day examples.... 5. The above stated would only be possible if you choose to be a professional counselor as it would add on to your knowledge which is actually the "street knowledge" ....which is actually needed to be conveyed to the people to give a spark towards the right direction.... 6. Sir, I think that you have enough of spark in yourself but on screen it is not fair enough to move the youngsters .....so may be you like to get tips from a professional media producer.... 7. In the end.... I would say a job well done overall..... With Good Luck.....
Maa baap ko bachho ko samjna chahiye or bachho ko bhi maa baap ko samjna chahiye Ek hi galti hoti hai ki maa baap kuch or karne ko bolte or bachhe kuch or
Parents apko cheat KR jae to kaha jae kher ha parents hen..ghusaa kr den to kher ha..toheen kr den to kher ha .Jo parents bchon k sath skhti krty hen..wohi bchay life m peechay hote hen..low confident .munafiq.buzdil bn jatay hen.....islmi tarreekh se healer den keh parents ziadtian krty thay aur bchon m phr b aala qualities thee???
Bilkul. Ese parents ki misal ham dono husband and wife hen. Hamare parents ne hamare sath kia bura nahi Kia. Bohat lambi kahaniyan hen. Lekin ham dono mian bv ne apne parents se sabaq seekha or ham dono un k ulat hen. Ham ne chaha k jo kuch hamare parents karte rahe ham us ka ulat karen or khud ko acha insan banaen. Or Allah se nek hidayat b mangi. Na sirf hamari zindagi me Allah ne achi niyat ki wajah se barkat di balke hame waqai neki or taqwa wali zindagi Ata farmai. Alhamdulillah. Parents ne khud apni zindagi b kharab ki or akhirat b. Lekin hame Allah ne bacha lia or umeed he aage b bachae ga. Zaruri nahi he k ap sirf parents ki wajah se kuch karen Allah ne aqal di he. Use sirf Allah k hukum ko Pura karne me lagaen. Ho sakta he kabhi na kabhi zindagi achi ho Jae. Or nahi to akhirat me to ajar he hi. Agar wo achi ho gai to yehi he asal kamyabi. Result ki jaldi na karen. Pehle Allah, rasool sallallahu alaihi wasallam k hukmon ko seekhne phir un pe amal karte rahen. Ek din sab acha ho Jae ha. Qk Allah apne bande ki mehnat ko kabhi zaya nahi karta
Muje apne father se ye shikayat he unki beja sakhti ne or mere parents k apas k larae jagron ne mera confidence khtam kr dia. ye personality damage mere liye dangerous sabit hua mgr unko koi farq nae pra is se na unki life pe is se kuch masla hua. Jo nuqsan hua muje hua.
Assalam Alaikum sir..Jazak Allahu khair..once again u have guided us all .so well . May Allah keep u in his rahmat and protection. AAMEEN .U r a true mentor.
ہمارے ملک میں سب سے بڑا مسئلہ جہالت ہے جس کی وجہ سے والدین اپنے بچوں میں برابری نہیں کرتے ایک بچے کو زیادہ توجہ دیتے ہیں اور دوسرے کو نظر انداز کرتے ہیں
Mera bhai married hai...ami se kabhi seedhey mu bat nhi krta...ami parhi likhi nhi han...but ghussa ki taiz hoti then ab bhi han but ab age thori barh gai hai to mar peet nhi kr sktin...matlab jb hm chotey they to dant n maar parhti then.jo bhi hai akhir hmari maa han...but bhai un se bat nhi krta agar krta bhi hai to ghussey n nafrat se krta hai, pata nhi kiya batain us ne dil main rakhi han, ghussey ka khud bhi itna taiz hai k bachon ko marta hai shor machaney pe ya bat na manney pe..chahey us k apne bachey hun ya hmarey bachey
what if a parent never allows you to complain. still you are doing what he says but in the end he never gets happy from his child and says and ask for more and more , demands more as what as he says the next thing.. You are not supposed to make any descion on your own. but you have to do everything that he asks for and still you have to be happy with it but in real you just pretend everything is fine. What to do, if a parent makes a bridge and don't like to communicate in softer words? how much tolerance we all need in this to go on. I don't know where to go to look for my answer.
You just have to wait patiently till u get out of this situation. Till then try to learn the orders given by Allah and rasool sallallahu alaihi wasallam. And act upon them. Make yourself a very good person who only do good and don't anything against Allah's will. At some point you will see how Allah will ease your difficulties. Do u know how our prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam practiced patience and Allah gave him reward. Try to search and read about it on internet. If Allah eased his difficulties then surely Allah will also ease your difficulties
Agar ap parent hen to i can tell you k beja sakti ki wajah se tabdeelian reversible hoti hen agar jitni sakti parents ne ki he us ki adhi b narmi karlen bachon se. Bechara insan jab toote huwe dil se doosre k behavior me behtar I dekhta he to use axar muaf hi kar deta he. Or agar parents apni sakti nahi chhorte to unhe pata nahi hota k bache un k lie kese jazbaat rakhe hen. Agar unhe pata chal Jae to shayad wo dukh se Mar jaen
Kids who are humiliated and criticized all the time become enemies of themselves in adulthood.. And its worse than anything that could happen to anybody
True. True true
Balkal
Yes . And it's own relatives and school bullies who do that. These kids later become socially awkward and can't stand up for themselves. But they have been bullied and neglected.
With respect Sir, kuch parents asay bhi haen, jin ki negligence ki wajha say un kay bachoo ki zindagian barbad ho gaen .Sabass hay asay bachoo par jo phir bhi apnay parents ki is leya kidmad kratay haen qun kay ya Allah ka hukum hay.
Shaista Janjua sae kaha
Very true please pray for me mera bchpn Jawani or ZINDGI bhi barbad hogai 😭
Behan boht majboor hoon ,boht si baaten share nahi kar sakti. Magar maray dard ko mahsoos to kraen.Allah khar kray ga.
Bus Allah say ummed lagen. Yah sab log olad hi ko bura boltay , jan joo logo nay aap par jota utta hota hay. Aap Allah kay hawalay kar daen, woh kabhi na kabhi zaroor nawazay ga. Allah Pak nay aap ko jo kuch deya hay ,us par sukar ada kraen. Jo nahi mila woh qismat may tha hi nahi ,is ley us ko sochnay ki zarort nahi hay.
@@shaistajanjua2557 mei mehsoos kr skti hn q k har roz qayamtein Tori jati hn mujh pr ACHA WAQT ayega ye sunty or kehty life nikl hi gai Aj bhi dard mei hi hon.. Bs mere liye b boht dua kre GA Wesy b ramzan agya h
علامہ اقبال نے جب شکوہ لکھا تھا تب کافی عرصہ ٹک چہ میگویاں ھو رھی تھی مگر جواب شکوہ لکھ کر مطمئن کر دیا ٹھیک اسی طرح آپ نے اولاد کو میسیج دے کر والدین کو مطمئن کیا
ابوسفیان
Yes.. Aur bht si gltfehmyan bhi door gae mery.. Thanks a alot.. Now I feel relax
My parents were unable to understand or may be communicate to my problems , they had an idealistic approach towards me ... And I wasn't able to communicate to them in the worst of my times ... But they are still the gem of my life , God bless them with greaterhealth and dignity. Ameen
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Ye maa baap ki hi ghalati hoti hai k wo bachon ko communicate krna nhi sikhaty maa baap bs ignore krty hn bachon ko
Ameen
Ya Allah , Please give my parents a longer life. I still want them to look at me in the peak of my dreams and I want to show them that their sacrifices are worth it. Ameen .
اللھم آمین یارب العالمین
Ameen
Sometimes parents they are not setting a good example for the children. Like parents constantly humiliating each other in front of their kids. It creates a mental streas for kids
Exactly. I've been suffering this for years and it has affected my mental health alot
@@khaulamustafa8582 me tooo alot I even dont know how I treat it
@Fakhira Parveen Ameen JazakAllah
@@mahamdilshad3727 Exactly, no one listens. There nothing we can do about it. I had an emotional meltdown last month and I had to see a psychiatrist. The only thing I can do is pray. And I hope that Allah will help me.
@@khaulamustafa8582 same here...doctors referred me to a psychiatrist but i am very hesitant...dil nai ker raha
ڈاکٹر صاحب اللّٰہ تعالٰی آپ کو صحت والی لمبی عمر عطا فرمائے آمین یارب العالمین
Very painful nights and days by thinking all along about the arrogance and disrespect......May Allah swt bless the offspring to follow the straight path Ameen
Sir your voice is so affective and convencing my heart ... Allah bless you
Allah's Blessed
I respect you sirf that in such a good way you described the obedience for parents....hats off for you❤
Professor shb ap ki sari baten kitabi hain , ye bht detailed topic hai ap apni soch se byan kr k farig ho gay hain, ap mehrbani farma k apni baten jaib main rakhen ...
اللہ آپکو لمبی زندگی خوشیاں دیں امین
Sir ..AP ki baton se itna ptaa chlaa ha.keh bchon ki koi izat ni hai..unki toheen ho to wo sbr krty rhay.self reppect ni..ek individuals k sary faisly parents ne krne hen to phr robots behtr hen insan se
Ya Allah plz give a longer life's to my parents. Brilliant advise 👍
Ameenn Suma Ameen
بہت بہت شکریہ جناب!
ماشاءاللہ۔۔اللہ پاک عافیت اور ایمان و عمل والی زندگی نصیب فرمائے
اللھم آمین یارب العالمین
Sir u r a great man ap n bohat acha topic chose kiya ha.we want more & more videos for kids.Thanks alot
May Allah bless all the parents in the world with a happy and healthy life . Sir you explained the situation so efficiently. May Allah bless you. 😊♥️
Ameen
U must be right dr sab, lemme share my story shortly with you. Many apny waldain say bachpan say suna hai k mery paida hony py wo khush nhi thy q k unko beta chahiay tha.. matric tak to mjy cheson ki zyda smj nhi thi, sirf itna pta tha k many kuch aisa krna hai jis say mery parents ko proud feel ho, hmesha extraordinary student rhi hun, 9th class main mery parents ny mjy bht force kia k main arts k subject rakhun, so that BA kron or usk bad wo meri shadi kr dain, many zabardasti science subjects rakhy, jb mery choty bhai matric tak pohanchy mery waldain chahty thy k wo science subjects rakhyn q k arts ka to zamana hi nhi.. zabardasti dono ko unki marzi k khilaf science rakhwai.. fsc main again mery parents mjy fa k liay force krty rhy, jb k mery bhai fa krna chahty thy dono ko zabardasti fsc k liay zor daity rhy, dono ko achy or mehengy waly college main dakhil karwaya jb k mjy kha gia, pas ka jo college hai agr to wahan say parh sakti ho theek hai wrna parhai chor do... Khair story short krti hun.. ro dho k fsc ho gai meri med main admission nhi mila meri mother working lady thin, unhon ny mera private med college main admission krwa dia.. is sary arsay main mery walid wo wahid insan thy jinhon ny mjy degrade kia or hmesha mjy let down kia.. graduation ho gai to mjy khi job nhi krny di, kisi na kisi bahany ghr hi bithay rakha.. mny socha theek hai agr mn css ki tyari krti hun, 2 saal to mny u hi ghr mn guzar diay css ki tyari ki, mera 1st attempt mn clear nhi hua.. dosri attempt mjy kbi dainy hi nhi di... Bus hmesha ghr k maslon ka hawala daity rhy k yh ho jay to phir mr laina etc etc.. ab main 26 ki hun main apni zindagi ko peechy daikhti hun to sochti hun mery hath main kia hai, apni zindagi k itny saal kia many dhoky main guzar diay.. ab wo chahty hain k main unki marzi say shadi kr lun or achi achi housewife ban k baqi ki zindagi guzar dun.. muj say meri kitabain chen li hain jo meri wahid dost thi..
Dosri side py mery bhai hain.. dono ko wo dr engineer bnana chahty thy, aik matric pas hai dosay ny ro dho k BA kia hai.. mjy mery walid khty hain tumary hath isliay kuch nhi hai q k tum walidain ki nafarman ho, yh nhi samajty k unki wja say jo itny saal many zehni azait main guzary hain or abhi b guzar rhi hun... Kal ko agr mn in say door ho jati hun ya in say in say apna relation limited kr daiti hun (jo k mn kron gi) to yh khain gy beti ko parhaya tbhi wo chor gai
Sawal mera sirf yh hai hum har jga sunty hain walidain ko uff na kro unki baat say inkaar na kro, kia waldain ko pochny wala koi nhi? Kia Allah b hum bachon ko saza day ga?
I hope ap mera comment parh k response zaroor dain gy
Sir ji absolutely right..... Is poori video mn , me ye samjhta rha k ap sirf aor sirf mery upper bat kr the he....... Sir ji you are great, Allah Pak AP ko salamat rkhy
What if your parents dont want to communicate. They never do care. Even if we try to share or communicate anything.
This is the most difficult part but i believe as being a children we can try our best , every possible way to teach them the importance of parenting by showing love , care , huging them often . It is possible they May lack knowledge of care .
naila warraich same question I am asking.
I know some parents they take revenge. And try to ruin their children life.
You just save your and your kids life and run off.
True pray for me they've destroyed me
@@Fly_high138 😢 pray for me
Our parents care about others children not their own
اللہ رب العزت ہم سب کو اس راستے پے چلنے کی تو فیق دے ،جس سے ہمارے والدین راضی ہو جا ئیں اور جنت میں جا نے کے راستے آسان ہو جائے
Oooooh thank u so much sir muje ESA lagta h k aap ki sari videos mere li hi hn
اسلام علیکم
ڈاکٹر صاحب ما شاءاللہ آپ کی گفتگو بڑی موثر لگی ۔
Sir you are absolutly right.
Jazak Allahu khair verey beneficial talk
Jazakallah... Allah Aap Khush wa Khurram Rakhe...
Love from INDIA,
MASHALLAH GREAT
Kya baat hay bilkul sahi but sometimes parents can make a wrong choice for their children life partner specially their son
I think parents make more mistakes about their daughters' marriages than their sons. Daughters are more submissive than sons in this regard.
Sultan Mahmood Alvi To be honest everybody has different experiences but now a days girls don’t listen to their parents where as sons r more obedient
Mashallah
Parents ko apne bacho ko bagi ni karna chahe..agr parent bache ka dost ho to maslay kafi had tak khtm ho jaye...
Beshaq
ThnQ sir
communication achi bhi ho tab bhi Yehi haal hota hai....parents mai bhi "mai" hoti hai....apnay bacho ki zindagi "20 Years (Ya) is sai bhi ziyaada peechay kar detay hain sirf apni "mai" ki wajhaa sai aisay parents kai bacha phir duniya ka muqaabla hee nahi kar paata aur crush ho kar reh jaata hai "saari zindagi kai liye"...apnay haatho sai apnay bacho ko "disable" banaa daitay hain aisay so called parents...jo parents apnay bacho ki zindagi duniya mai hee jahannum banaa dai is sai acha yehi hai kai yaa tou bachay marr jaayai (ya) parents marr jaayai...dushmano mai aur aisay parents mai "koi farq nahi hota"...infact dushmano sai bhi "ziyaada khatarnaak" hotay hain aapkay parents...dushmano kaa tou aapko pata hee hota hai kai wo aapka dushman hai...lekin dost ban kar churaa khobtay hain aapkay parents.....!!!!!!
ایسا ھوتا ھے. کہیں بچے غلط ھوتے ھیں اور کہیں ماں باپ دشمنی کر جاتے ہیں اور پھر اپنا حق سمجھ کر کرتے ھیں
ایسی مانیں بھی خود دیکھی ھیں کہ کر لو جتنی مرضی عبادت میں تو راضی نہیں ھوں...
😭 Mai b bchpn se boht ziyadtiyan beja nafratein bury rawayye sehti ayi hon bimar hogai mentally physically emotionally tabah kr Dia mujhe boht zada takleefon mei hon PLEASE MERE LIYE B DUA KREN Jeeny ki koi umed nhi bchi.. Mei unko Ab b dukhi nhi krna chahti lekin insan hn KHTM hogya h Ab brdasht nhi saha jata Orr na kisi se keh skty na koi smjhta h roz marr marr k Jena TO KAHAN HN PARENTS JO YE SAB HOTA DEKH RHY HN OR HONY DE RHY HN ye hoty hn parents?? In parents Ka ye maqam btya h Allah ne
@@naheedhayyat773 Bilkul Bilkul
Mei boht taklef mei hn plz Dua kijye
@@minasyed8199 Allah aapko in taqleefo sai nijaat dilaaye, Ameen, Summa Ameen....kuch log samajhtay hain kai bachay jhoot bol rahai hain aur wo galat hain....jabkai Allah ko pata hai kai parents ki "toxic aur ajeeb personality" ki wajha sai bachay zehni mareez ban gaye hain aur depression mai chalay gaye hain...parents kai naa-jaayaaz rawayyo ki wajha sai bohat sai bachay khudkushi kar kai Allah ko pyaaray ho gaye hain, phir bhi aisay parents poochtay hain kai humnai kiya kya hai???....jab wohi naa-jaayaaz rawayya bachay un parents kai saath karai unko apni galtiyo ka ehsaas dilaanay kai liye "phir bhi" un parents ko ehsaas nahi hota apni galtiyo ka....!!!!!
Ma Shaa Allah very intellectual personality 👍🏻
I love you Dr sb
Great sir ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Your very good men sir .
Your conservation beautifully .
Jab waldain koi baat suna hi na chahen to communicate kia kerna ha. They think that their children are fool. Parents should understand that children also have a mind in their head and they can think. They always try to impose illogical things and don't want to listen and understand the real problems that their children are facing.
Har insan ko Allah k samne apna jawab Dena he. Ap Allah, rasool sallallahu alaihi wasallam k agla at ko seekh kar un pe chalna shru kar den or isko choren k Maan baap kya kar rhe hen. Sabr se sab kuch bardasht karen or khud ko ache se acha develop karen. Akhir ek din Allah ap pe rehem zarur farmae ge. Ameen summa ameen
بہت پیارا بیان فرمایا آپ نے ۔
اللہ پاک جزائے خیر دے
بچے باپ کی بات کو اہمیت نہیں دیتے جبکہ باپ ان کے لئیے آنے والے وقت میں آسانیوں کا معاملہ چاہتا ہے
اور بچے فرمانبردار اور نیک بھی ہوں۔
اس کے سلسلے میں آپ جب لاہور میں کوئی پروگرام کریں تو ہم بھی بچوں کے ساتھ شامل ہوں ۔
ایسے وقت کآ انتظار رہے گا
جزاکم اللہ خیر۔
آپ نے ہمارے دل کی بات کی۔
Zaberdast 👍
Bohat hi acha samjhaya bachon ko. Thank you 🙏 so much
ڈاکٹر صاحب ۔۔ اگر بچوں کی تربیت اللہ اور رسول اللہ صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم کی ھدایت کے مطابق کی جائے تو انشاءاللہ ضرور فرمانبردار اور نیک و صالح ھوگی۔۔آپ جو باتیں بتا رھے ھیں بہت اچھی ھیں لیکن ان باتوں کا تعلق نفسیاتی مسائل سے ھے۔اگر بچوں کی تربیت دین اسلام کے اصولوں کے مطابق کی جائے یہ مسائل ھی پیدا نا ھوں۔۔شکریہ۔۔آپ کی وڈیو بہت اچھی ھے۔۔اللہ تعالی تمام بچوں کو نیک و صالح فرمائے۔۔آمین۔
آپ میری بات کو سمجھیں، مذہب اسلام ھمیں دنیا سے دور اور آخرت کے قریب کرنے کی کوشش کرتا ھے۔۔اسی لیئے جب انسان خود سے اور دنیا سے زیادہ محبت کرتا ھے وہ زیادہ نفسیاتی مسائل کا شکار ھوتا ھے۔۔جب انسان حق لینے سے زیادہ حق ادا کرنے کی کوشش کرتا ھے وہ نفسیاتی مسائل سے آزاد ھوجاتا ھے ایسا ھی شخص کا اللہ پر بھروسہ اور توکل زیادہ ھوتا ھے اور وہ دوسروں سے کوئ امید نا رکھ کر زیادہ اطمینان بخش زندگی گزارتا ھے۔۔۔👍
@@syednajmulhassan2779
Byshak👍
Masha Allah ap ki guftago bukhat achi hoti hai
Maa bap ab bacho ko cash krate hain , investment bna k use krte hain onay shadiyan b nai krwate aur kete hain jitna perhain ge utne paise ghar ain ge. Is bat pr ap kia bolen ge? Jo apne mtlb k liye itna gir sakte hain to in se acha salook kese insan kr sakta hai ? In k sath rehna b bht ehsan hai in pr
horrible comments
شاید ایسا ہوتا ہو گا لیکن زیادہ والدین تو ایسے نہیں ہوتے وہ اپنے بچوں کی گروتھ چاہتے ہیں
maa baap ke liye bcche ek product hote hai, usme unhone 20 saal tk investement ki hoti hai ,apne hisaab se product ko bnana chate hai
Bilkul sahi kaha
@@muhammadmubashiriqbal9401 bewaqoofi
Bahut Bahut shukriya sir aap ne is video se meri pareshni duer ker de Allah aap ko lumbi umer de sehat ke saat ameen
Its not important k parents hmesh hi right hon. sometimes ap wo nai krskte jo parents chahte hn. Thk k sath chalna chaie. Beshak kuch b ho. Parents have to learn also
Right please pray for me 😢
Totally agreed sir ... Bilkul thikk kha Apny
MashaAllah sir Very Good guideline.
میں آج کی نسل اور انکے والدین کی بات تو نہیں کرسکتی۔ لیکن اتنا ضرور کہوں گی کہ والدین سے بات چیت کرنے کا اعتماد بھی والدین اور گھریلو ماحول دیتا ہے۔ اور میں شاید بدقسمتی سے اس زمانے کی پیداوار ہوں جب اولاد اور والدین کے بیچ دوستانہ گفتگو ہونا ناممکن تھا۔ مجھے تو یہ بھی نہیں معلوم کہ میں زمانے کو قصوروار ٹھہراؤں، معاشرے کو، اپنے خاندان کو یا اپنے ماں باپ کو۔ مجھے تو اپنی مرضی سے گھر آۓ ہوۓ رشتہ کو ناپسند کرنے کی بھی اجازت نہیں تھی۔ لیکن میرے بہن بھائی کو ہر طرح کی اجازت تھی۔ کیونکہ میں جوائنٹ فیملی میں رہتی تھی تو میں نے اپنے خاندان میں اپنے ایک ایک کزن کو اپنی مرضی سے ڈھڑلے کے ساتھ زندگی گزارتے دیکھا ہے لیکن میرے معاملے میں یہ کہہ دیا جاتا تھا کہ میں خاندان کا پہلا بچہ ہوں اور چھوٹوں کے لۓ مثال ہوں۔ لیکن افسوس، خاندان کے بچے اپنی مرضی سے بہت کچھ کر چکے جو شرعاً یا اخلاقاً جائز نہیں لیکن اسکو اسی خاندان نے جائز بنا دیا۔ کیا یہ منا فقت نہیں کہ اپنی اولاد کے عیبوں پر پردہ ڈالو اور دوسروں کو ٹوکو یا ذلیل کرو؟
کیا آپ سے بات ہو سکتی ہے؟
Shayad mere pass ap k masle ka Hal he. Ap Allah or rasool sallallahu alaihi wasallam k ehkamat ko seekhne. Or phir un pe dil se amal karne ki poori koshish Karen. In Sha Allah Allah ap k lie khushi on k darwaze khol dega or ap ko apni pichli pareshanian yad b nahi rahen gi
Great
جزاك الله خير و شكراً
Masha Allah beautiful topic Allah Pak humay hedayat de ameen 👍🌟💐
Thanks thanks thanks Allah bless you.
Kamal MA SHA ALLAH
i appreciate you sir.
Thanks sir ap k lectures sun k bhut sa masail hal ho jaty h thank u so much sir Allah pak ap sehat dy isy trha hmy guide krty rahe
Ameen
I really liked professor Dr Javed Iqbal videos...
Yes bikul sahi baat k bachon ko patents se kabhi koi baat nahi chupani chaye or parents ko bhi apni trbiyat pr itna yaqeen hona chaye k unka bacha kabhi ghlt kaam nahi krega baqi allah ki mdd k beghair koi kuch nahi krskta neki bhi nahi thanks apne ye vedio bnai aj kl ik trend chlgya he k parents ki trbiyat ki jae bs bacho ko madr pidr azad chor diya jae
You are awesome. Pakistan needs to have more people like u. May god reward you a lot
Thank you Sir to guide.
Excellent.....Can't Understand if a community has Teachers like Dr.Javed Iqbal,Qasim Ali Shah and Mr Imran Khan then how can a nation be look down worldwide.
God Bless You
Thnk u sir may ny b iss video k liya comment kiya tha ..mjhye iss vodeo ka he intzar tha.🙂
Your wish has come true Shanzay, thank your lucky stars!
Ma my bhi comment kia tha last month, I'm happy today 🙂
sir, tarbiat aur prhana likhana responsibility me ata hai parents ki hur prnts ye kertey hain aur jb aulad b parents bunti wo b krti hai iska mtlb ye nhi ke parents principally defined right according to Islam and country law ke denial me ja ker out of the way emotionaly blackmail kerke jo unhy thek lgta whi faisle krein. Ab ager kisi aur religion ko bacha adopt krna chiae beshuk wo thek ho lakin valdain ghlt to phr b waldain ghusse me ajaengy iska kya kre bnda phr apni akhrat khrab krle ??
Right 😢 pray for me
Kya ap religion change karna chahte hen?? Maa baap ne apna jawab Dena he akhirat me or ap ne apna. Ap apne ap ko Allah, rasool k ahkamat k mutabiq dhaal len bilkul. Maa baap ka muamla Allah par chor den
Sir me ne boht koch ap ke videos se seka jis k lye I m thank full Allah app ko khosh rakhe
Very rightly pointed out by some people that you show one side of the coin..... That was what I also noticed while watching one of your videos.....
With due respect, considering you as a motivational speaker, I have following suggestions for you :-
1. Select and speak on a topic in a wholesome manner
2. Don't be afraid wrt length of your videos..... In my opinion it should be min of 15 min
3. Tons of books in English are available on topics those our respected motivational speakers are dilating upon..... But since our people either don't understand or have left reading books so all folks prefer social media to gain wisdom....
4. What is missing in those books is relevance to our culture and social norms.... So it would be a wise thing not to communicate the English stuff in Urdu but to correlate the theory with our practical day to day examples....
5. The above stated would only be possible if you choose to be a professional counselor as it would add on to your knowledge which is actually the "street knowledge" ....which is actually needed to be conveyed to the people to give a spark towards the right direction....
6. Sir, I think that you have enough of spark in yourself but on screen it is not fair enough to move the youngsters .....so may be you like to get tips from a professional media producer....
7. In the end.... I would say
a job well done overall.....
With Good Luck.....
Amazing video ♥️
Maa baap ko bachho ko samjna chahiye or bachho ko bhi maa baap ko samjna chahiye
Ek hi galti hoti hai ki maa baap kuch or karne ko bolte or bachhe kuch or
zindgi ke sab sa easy kaam achi batain krna
Thanks for giving right information
Parents apko cheat KR jae to kaha jae kher ha parents hen..ghusaa kr den to kher ha..toheen kr den to kher ha .Jo parents bchon k sath skhti krty hen..wohi bchay life m peechay hote hen..low confident .munafiq.buzdil bn jatay hen.....islmi tarreekh se healer den keh parents ziadtian krty thay aur bchon m phr b aala qualities thee???
Bilkul. Ese parents ki misal ham dono husband and wife hen. Hamare parents ne hamare sath kia bura nahi Kia. Bohat lambi kahaniyan hen. Lekin ham dono mian bv ne apne parents se sabaq seekha or ham dono un k ulat hen. Ham ne chaha k jo kuch hamare parents karte rahe ham us ka ulat karen or khud ko acha insan banaen. Or Allah se nek hidayat b mangi. Na sirf hamari zindagi me Allah ne achi niyat ki wajah se barkat di balke hame waqai neki or taqwa wali zindagi Ata farmai. Alhamdulillah. Parents ne khud apni zindagi b kharab ki or akhirat b. Lekin hame Allah ne bacha lia or umeed he aage b bachae ga. Zaruri nahi he k ap sirf parents ki wajah se kuch karen Allah ne aqal di he. Use sirf Allah k hukum ko Pura karne me lagaen. Ho sakta he kabhi na kabhi zindagi achi ho Jae. Or nahi to akhirat me to ajar he hi. Agar wo achi ho gai to yehi he asal kamyabi. Result ki jaldi na karen. Pehle Allah, rasool sallallahu alaihi wasallam k hukmon ko seekhne phir un pe amal karte rahen. Ek din sab acha ho Jae ha. Qk Allah apne bande ki mehnat ko kabhi zaya nahi karta
Shukuriya sir 👍👍👍👍👍
May ALLAH swt bestow his blessings upon you.
Hum hr bt parents sy krna chahty hen mgr jb parents hmari koi bt sunna e nh chahty to kia kren bachy phir
Same
Sir y are great ..may Allah bless you more ameen ☺️
Masha Allah sir.
Very true sir you are great sir 🙏🙏🙏🌹🌹🌹
Masha Allah 👍👍
Ya Allah pak hum sab ko man bap ka ahtraam karny ki tofeeq ata farma
very good job sir
Muje apne father se ye shikayat he unki beja sakhti ne or mere parents k apas k larae jagron ne mera confidence khtam kr dia. ye personality damage mere liye dangerous sabit hua mgr unko koi farq nae pra is se na unki life pe is se kuch masla hua. Jo nuqsan hua muje hua.
Walaikum assalam
Please make a video on narcisisst parents ... especially mother/mother in law.
Jazakallah Sir
Assalam Alaikum sir..Jazak Allahu khair..once again u have guided us all .so well . May Allah keep u in his rahmat and protection. AAMEEN .U r a true mentor.
Great Motivational speaker
جب آپ اپنی سوچ تبدیل کریں گے۔ پھر آپ دیکھیں گے آپ کی پوری زندگی تبدیل ہو جائے گی۔
You are what you think!
ہمارے ملک میں سب سے بڑا مسئلہ جہالت ہے جس کی وجہ سے والدین اپنے بچوں میں برابری نہیں کرتے ایک بچے کو زیادہ توجہ دیتے ہیں اور دوسرے کو نظر انداز کرتے ہیں
Mera bhai married hai...ami se kabhi seedhey mu bat nhi krta...ami parhi likhi nhi han...but ghussa ki taiz hoti then ab bhi han but ab age thori barh gai hai to mar peet nhi kr sktin...matlab jb hm chotey they to dant n maar parhti then.jo bhi hai akhir hmari maa han...but bhai un se bat nhi krta agar krta bhi hai to ghussey n nafrat se krta hai, pata nhi kiya batain us ne dil main rakhi han, ghussey ka khud bhi itna taiz hai k bachon ko marta hai shor machaney pe ya bat na manney pe..chahey us k apne bachey hun ya hmarey bachey
Us ne ap ki ammi se yehi sab seekha he. Ap ki ami ab narmi ikhtiar karen to wo sudhar Jae ga.
Thank you so much sir ..
Thank you sir
Impressed....
Asalam Alikum uncle
Have you ever noticed that moat of the children are watching you videos than adults
what if a parent never allows you to complain. still you are doing what he says but in the end he never gets happy from his child and says and ask for more and more , demands more as what as he says the next thing.. You are not supposed to make any descion on your own. but you have to do everything that he asks for and still you have to be happy with it but in real you just pretend everything is fine. What to do, if a parent makes a bridge and don't like to communicate in softer words? how much tolerance we all need in this to go on. I don't know where to go to look for my answer.
You just have to wait patiently till u get out of this situation. Till then try to learn the orders given by Allah and rasool sallallahu alaihi wasallam. And act upon them. Make yourself a very good person who only do good and don't anything against Allah's will. At some point you will see how Allah will ease your difficulties. Do u know how our prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam practiced patience and Allah gave him reward. Try to search and read about it on internet. If Allah eased his difficulties then surely Allah will also ease your difficulties
plzzzz plzzzz talk about those who have behaved wrong or strict with their child.now how they improve thier mistakes??
Kids get hurt by strict parental behavior but if u start to behave with them politely and show love to them they will change soon
Dr.sahb...bay jaaa skhti ki wjan se jo bchon mn tbdeelian aa jati hen...wo reversible hota ha
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Agar ap parent hen to i can tell you k beja sakti ki wajah se tabdeelian reversible hoti hen agar jitni sakti parents ne ki he us ki adhi b narmi karlen bachon se. Bechara insan jab toote huwe dil se doosre k behavior me behtar I dekhta he to use axar muaf hi kar deta he. Or agar parents apni sakti nahi chhorte to unhe pata nahi hota k bache un k lie kese jazbaat rakhe hen. Agar unhe pata chal Jae to shayad wo dukh se Mar jaen
Walikumaslam
i like it sir
masha Allah