The Harsh Reality Behind Being A Highly Functional Alcoholic

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  • čas přidán 21. 07. 2024
  • This is your wake-up call. If you or someone you love believes in the good side of high-functioning alcoholism, this is your sign to end the delusional optimism. Join us today here on Put The Shovel Down as we dissect the ugly truth behind the concept of "high-functioning" and learn more about why any form of addiction threatens your quality of life.
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Komentáře • 36

  • @Mach11976
    @Mach11976 Před 3 měsíci +6

    My Dad was a functional alcoholic, ran a successful boat business in Illinois for 36 years. Then after retirement at age 63 died of esophageal cancer from drinking. Through it all he was a good man and a good father. In 2017 I myself got clean and now have 6 years and 6 months. Thanks

  • @dove-qs5or
    @dove-qs5or Před 4 měsíci +15

    🌞 1 year without Alcohol Today, I stopped digg'n; Thank you. I will continue watching and learning so I can help someone else🎉

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  Před 3 měsíci +1

      🤩🤩🤩🤩💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻

    • @dove-qs5or
      @dove-qs5or Před 3 měsíci

      Thanks for your honesty and the information that provided me with the tools. I am a retired RN and now I want to help others.
      Brand new at 64 🐣

  • @BengyM
    @BengyM Před 3 dny

    You have just opened my eyes. I’m committing to changing. Before I watched your video I said to myself, I need to take a different route home from work to avoid the “store”. Then you said the same thing! I appreciate people like you. I’m gonna beat this.

  • @barbaradelamor4192
    @barbaradelamor4192 Před 4 měsíci +5

    Hello, could you talk about alcoholism in older people who do not admit their illness, do not tell doctors and it is seriously affecting their health? People who have been drinking all their lives have been able to sustain it because they did not have children, they had money, but at the end of their lives their health is terribly damaged and, as they hide it from their doctors, they continue to get worse. What can be done?

    • @robinb7067
      @robinb7067 Před 4 měsíci

      Unless the person is you, there is nothing you can do. I understand it probably feels like there has to be some combination of words or words and actions you can say to an alcoholic that will get them to SEE and really understand what they're doing to themselves and their loved ones, and get help. The sad truth is there isn't. People with severe Alcohol Use Disorder get sober if and when they're ready. It's simply a situation over which you have no control. You didn't cause it, you can't control it and you can't cure it.

  • @marjorieanderson8626
    @marjorieanderson8626 Před 4 měsíci +7

    Amber is the best resource I've ever found for accurate information regarding addiction and alcoholism. There isn't even a close second. Bravo!!

  • @Skoopyghost
    @Skoopyghost Před 4 měsíci +5

    I was a functional junkie for over 15 years. It's poorly paid work.

  • @user-vt6cq8go3q
    @user-vt6cq8go3q Před měsícem

    My love been sober for 44 years and still sober no such term more excuses you are a Alcoholic or your not are you pregnant or are you not be honest with your self and be Honest with other people get REAL love sober alcoholic Rock and Roll Stan try getting sober you might like yourself Stan did 44years and liked my true self love Stanley

  • @bubbles6142
    @bubbles6142 Před 3 měsíci +1

    I just sent these two you mentioned to my son. He was open to watching. I hope it causes him to watch you more

  • @drialobosco6108
    @drialobosco6108 Před 4 měsíci +2

    Lived with one for 10 years with devastating results

  • @edwardandsand
    @edwardandsand Před 4 měsíci +11

    My husband left me last year after I called out his excessive drinking. Said I caused his drinking, stress and depression (I don’t drink). He refused to quit even after it gave him high blood pressure. Poor guy is hitting rock bottom now…

    • @chloemae4869
      @chloemae4869 Před 4 měsíci +2

      I can empathize with this experience. How are you doing? What are you doing to heal and process any grief you might be feeling? Have you backed off and just let him go or are you trying to use any of the invisible intervention techniques to maintain some kind of connection?

    • @jasonbachelor604
      @jasonbachelor604 Před 4 měsíci

      DO NOT LISTEN TO THIS CHARLATAN

  • @nicolegriffin2879
    @nicolegriffin2879 Před 4 měsíci

    Awesome explanation. Thank you, Amber!

  • @Sunshine77746
    @Sunshine77746 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Great explanation!

  • @emmalea1371
    @emmalea1371 Před 4 měsíci

    I am in a situation where i am the "real alcoholic" and hes a "functional" lol. Its toxic and hearing these breakdowns has helped me be self aware and do my best to focus on me. I come from addicts and you are a breath of fresh air in my drowning.

  • @vanessawaddle1963
    @vanessawaddle1963 Před 4 měsíci

    Thank you Amber

  • @ShanMarie1974
    @ShanMarie1974 Před 3 měsíci +1

    My bf of 4 years has used alcohol for over 30 years. He was also a drug addict, off & on, but kicked that almost 4 years ago. He's almost always managed to keep a job and has been at his current job for 11 years. He's what I would call the epitome of a functioning alcoholic... He buys beer on the way home from work and drinks as soon as he wakes up on the weekends. He doesn't stop until the box of beer is gone or he's passing out, whichever comes 1st. We have no real life together. I feel like every other s/o... like im not important enough for him to quit & I've made it clear that I won't be around if things don't change very soon. We all know that doesn't work lol. I NEED HELP because he needs help. He can't do this on his own. He knows it's a problem & has some health problems that are exacerbated by it as well. I have to learn the Keaft method so our relationship can have a fighting chance. Thanks for making this channel. ❤

  • @candicecfcl2971
    @candicecfcl2971 Před 4 měsíci

    Thank you 🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @Goolia123
    @Goolia123 Před 4 měsíci +1

    I have always thought of my mom as a functional alcoholic. Her brother, my uncle, is as well. They are both in their 80’s now, and are somehow still both relatively physically healthy. Still not sure how that is possible, since my uncle is a type 1 diabetic and my mom a type 2. But the main thing is my mom has lived a very narrow, stunted life. Very emotionally immature. Again, she has never suffered any serious physical or life-ruining consequences. But she has suffered in her relationships with others, greatly (including me). That kind of quiet, slow destruction is very bad and sad too.

  • @itsalladream22
    @itsalladream22 Před 2 měsíci

    Ive told my husband I can't stand him when he is drunk. It happens every week. Our 16 year old says hey mom he is wobble man tonight it absolutely breaks my heart she sees him like that. His whole family are alcoholics but no one wnts to call out the elephant in the living room shitting all over it. But its me im the problem. it's me.

  • @melissad.6722
    @melissad.6722 Před 4 měsíci +4

    I cant stand how it feels to see my loved one in altered states, like they're being replaced by someone i don't know or like, and im being robbed of them.
    Myself and my grown kids can no longer handle being around addicted loved one. Their personality changes, we see the person we know slip away and be replaced by someone who speaks nonsense, repeats themselves, steps on peoples feelings, gets disrespectful, obnoxious then morose and even angry . Its unbareable but whenever ive broched it before theu go on attack and drag up ling lists of their greivances with us and push painful buttons of guilt and shame in me. Any help?

  • @ravet3254
    @ravet3254 Před 3 měsíci

    Last night , the wife was drinking and as usual she was right about everything. Our dog was really sick and died in the night. Now it’s my fault. She would rather drink than save the dog she really loved.

  • @sub-zero7008
    @sub-zero7008 Před 3 měsíci

    I’m an absolute functioning alcoholic. I work 51 hours a week, 6 nights a week and I can go 2 weeks straight on the drink every day and still go to work each night but I do take time off binges. It’s absolute torture burning the candle at both ends.

  • @MrDucksBill
    @MrDucksBill Před měsícem

    I was a functional alchoholic. No i live in a homeless shelter and am 1 month sober.

  • @Trenttrumps
    @Trenttrumps Před 4 měsíci

    A poison?!?
    THANK YOU, AMBER!!!

  • @michelleradford5956
    @michelleradford5956 Před 4 měsíci +1

    😮😮😮

  • @timminsmark
    @timminsmark Před měsícem

    I’ve been an alcoholic since my early twenties I’m now 64,I’ve never been nasty to anyone ever,I work and never miss a day my children love me for I have always been kind and generous to them,I don’t think I’ll change at this late stage