The man from Anchorage found his father and mother. The mother told him never to contact her again but the Father was a Marine Veteran with 2 Marine sons and welcomed him in with all his love.
@PHOENIX RISING No, she is not worth the time and effort. The silver lining is that the decision she made yrs ago it wasn't in the best interest of the baby, but it turned out to be a blessing for the baby and his parents. Being kept and raised by the scumbag the baby may not have survived.
Never wait to tell kids they’re adopted. I’ve known since before I could talk. My parents never made it a secret and it never should become a bombshell.
It was the same for me! My parents were always honest with me about my adoption and it’s truly been a blessing to have always known that I was adopted than to have it hidden from me. My parents have even helped me to stay in touch with my older siblings who I was separated from while in foster care. I consider myself very fortunate to have parents that were honest with me from the beginning and to have them be so involved in helping me reconnect with my siblings.
Agree 100%. I had a cousin who was adopted and the same age as me since the adopted a baby kinda looked like them no one questioned it only her siblings including my mom and dad knew about and my mom’s sister begged her not to tell even though she knew it didn’t feel right. And when I found out when I was 10 my mother also told me not to say a word when I found out and it made me feel horrible. When I was around 13 and her features started to change she was so much small compared to her parents as well. Her eye were grey with tanned skin and my aunt and uncle were both brown and she always found that a little weird that she was the only one on my mom side to have grey eyes. She wouldn’t question my father who is Jewish fair skin and blue eyes. But my mom is Dominican man have dark skin tones including my aunt. So I remember we were in science class together and the teacher was explaining who it was almost impossible for to dark brown eye parents to have a blue, green or grey eye child. I remember her looking at me and i didn’t know what to say to her. At the time I said maybe it’s from a past generation sometimes it skips but she started to feel that something was wrong. And all the time I really just wanted to tell her it just didn’t feel right. I remember I told my mom that night I just don’t want to lie to her about this. She pleaded with me again and that just to hold on they were going to have a family intervention to confront my aunt about this urging her to tell her daughter because she knows something isn’t right. So she finally told her and of course as i predicted sh*t hit the fan. We did meet up and she was so devastated and confused and I told her the truth that I knew since ten but my aunt did tell me if I told I wasn’t allowed to see her again (which did piss off my parents) and she was my best friend at the time. She did yell at me about and I didn’t blame her all I could do was apologize and to please to let this put you in a Downward spiral.that I would never keep anything from her again. But she had to be a alone for a while to deal with it. After few years when we were 18, we slowly started talking again she told me she understood my predicament and isn’t mad at me at all but she decided to leave her adoptive parents. She just felt there was such a lack of trust and that it wasn’t just about discovering she was adopted. That her parents were also very overly strict even my mom thought her sis went over board with it. So we do talk and now she has kids of her own. Since then her adoptive dad did pass away and her adoptive mom just became so bitter and she always has this victim mentality. I kind a don’t blame her my aunt is toxic. My mom and the rest of her siblings can only stand small doses of my aunt. Overall I am glad we are still friends and of course my aunt kept her attitude up and many people couldn’t stand being around her. I do want to adopt and I’m absolutely telling them the truth as soon as possible. I just don’t get why people would kept it a secret.
My cousin was born in Vietnam 🇻🇳 and abandoned just 10 minuets after she was born. She was later adopted by my aunt and uncle and even though she doesn’t look like us we love her.
There are no reasons on earth that will justify their cruelty by either abandon their children or even giving them for adoption. I would love to live in starvation with my parents than in a gelded castle with someone else. It’s a crime
@Kathleen Henson really? so i can go kill someone without consequences? of course not. the law should absolutely prevent harming an innocent person. Esp. a baby for goodness sake.
My grandfather was left on the steps on the salvation army with a note pinned to him that said "baby swanson"... A woman who worked there ... heard him crying in the basket he was left in. She ended up adopting him and so he took her name. I remember when I was in school I had to do a family tree project in the 3rd grade and I got in trouble with my teacher because I only filled out 3/4 of the tree. I explained why I couldnt fill out that part on my family tree but she didnt believe me and made my parents come to a conference. She later apologized to me after she found out I was telling the truth.
I don't understand all the people say not to find birth parents. It's about more than finding your parents, it's about closure, understanding what was happening at that time, sometimes it's about saying thank you or medical records... I feel like if you want to look go for it but also be prepared to not get the answers you need, because it could go either way
Crystal Rogers so I am adopted, i was also abandoned, in a slightly different way than these people. I’m 22 years old. I’ve had lots of people in my life who’ve known my birth parents and probably have had more than one opportunity in my life to meet them. There’s really great ways, much better than knowing your families records, to determine what diseases you personally may be susceptible to. I do understand searching for closure, however I personally think it may be a very very selfish thing to do. Because I don’t know what kind of life my birth parents are living now, are they married and does their partner know about me? do they have kids and do they know about me? It’s very unlikely that these people would’ve contacted their birth parents before meeting them. And I’ve personally felt that although I’m curious I was given up for a reason, and I’m sure for any woman, that that choice was the most difficult thing she’s had to go through. Where I live we have laws about protecting the privacy and information (for both parties) because while it may be an easy choice for one, it could be the complete opposite for the other person involved
@Margaret Gust I understand that is one of the reasons for adoption, i just also know there are lots of other reasons. I'm not saying every birth child should be able o meet their birth patents, but a lot if times it does help rather than hurt. It's really a person by person decision, I just feel like knowing the reason you weren't wanted or couldn't be kept goes a long way towards healing a person's soul... speaking from experience.
After being disowned by my mom, I’ve decided to look for my bio father. Honestly if he doesn’t want meet me that’s fine. Maybe his family (aunts, grandparents, etc ) might want to meet me. But I’d be happy with just a picture of him.
Crystal Rogers People who say those things don't understand what it's like, not having your parent(s). I didn't know my biological father when I was growing up. I was angry, confused, & lonely. It took decades to get to know him, then he died. My daughter is afopted. We made sure her birth mother had access to her & our daughter was able to contact her at any time. My girl knows where she came from! We told her when she was very young. We never kept secrets. She was a happy, precious girl! Now, she's a mom, & she's happy!
There is a lot of babies born within families that are not wanted, so it isn't anything that unusual. They are raised and taken care of like other children. However, a 15 year old girl who gets pregnant isn't likely to be excited about being pregnant especially not decades ago. You don't know the circumstances of your conception. The feelings are so different for the mother and the child. I think many adoptees fantasized about what it would be like and often fantasy and reality are two very different things. Some biological mothers welcome reunions and others do not. It is sad for all.
Women who give up or abandon their children fail to understand that most people want to know their biological family, they want to know who they are (in that respect), there is a history and other family they want to know about. Those women made a choice and for some it's selfish to be so careless about their child. Even if the mother doesn't want to know other family member might including their farher. It's not just the mother who is a bio parent. But either way it's the abandoned child's desire to know and everyone should have the right to know who their parents or family are.
' Everyone deserves the right to know about their heritage and biology, but you can't expect a relinquishing parent to always want to have anything to do with an adult child. Some women were raped either by strangers or a family member. They did not choose to be pregnant , it was forced upon them. I know of someone who this happened to in the 1950's and they do not want anything to do with the adult child. In fact she was pushed into having the baby when she would of rather terminated, which in the 50's was something very difficult to do. It is not selfish to place your baby for adoption if you either have no means of support from family or financially. The best interest of the baby should come first. Not all grandparents want to take care of babies. I know I wouldn't. Today domestic adoptions are almost only open adoptions so the child does know his/her biological parents. The biological parents choose the adoptive parents from their bios with adoption agencies. In most cases this works out great for everyone concerned, but for some families it can be quite intrusive if the biological mother just pops over every 5 minutes, then they only feel like babysitters. The key is don't get pregnant. Nobody in my family has ever had a baby by chance, only by choice. Teens will have sex and you need to teach them about birth control. However back then lack of sex education, prevention and guidance often led to "mistakes". In an ideal world every child born would be raised by their biological parents in a loving, nurturing home with great family support, but for many children in this world that is only a dream. There are many wonderful stores about reunions and then again many that are not, and the adoptee is grateful they were not raised by their biological family. Regardless, things are just not fair in this world. i
@@Cynnas Nowadays everyone has right to know and to have and to be everything! People can't take NO as an answer, everything should be served to them on a plate. Why do adopted kids "have right" to know about anything that involves their birthparents that didn't even want them??? How about" you are adopted,sorry,there is no information about your birthparents"!!! But I want to know!!! I demand to know!!!! You know,if there are sicknesses that runs in your family; you'll know about them when you get them. Go for regular checkups so you'll be one step before the sickness. If the birthparents gave you away,they might not have told anyone about you,why should you go and bring up things that are not your business?? You are alive,you were given a new family,don't bother your birthfamily,be happy and thankful that they didn't abort you!!! I would,I would never ever give my unwanted child up for adoption as they tend to come back and spoil my life. I would absolutely abort any unwanted baby,so my secret would not be revealed by the child later on because he/she wants to know what sicknesses runs in the family😂
I was abandoned by my dad. He left with his children, my half-sibs. At over 40 yrs old, I met my sibs. I never ever thought it would have the impact it did. It was like someone picked me up and threw me against a wall. Not just regarding my sibs. The pain and damage my absent father caused me began to envelope me. Before, I never thought he had any impact on me. There's been positive and negative aspects from meeting them. It's a very heavy thing to go through. There are no words to describe it. It's a unique experience that only people who've been through it can understand
My biological father abandoned me when I was 7, I saw him once, I've seen that side of the family once also when I was in college. I'm now old and no one has ever come looking for me. Why would I want to ever see that side ever again?
I will never comprehend how a mother can abandon a baby, unless she is protecting it from an abusive situation. At least baby-girl Beach was left in a hospital. The boy was not so lucky, thank GOD the teenage boys found him so quickly. Both were fortunate to have had loving adoptive parents.
I had a friend in high school who was adopted and couldn't wait to turn 18 and seek out her birth family and find out why etc. etc. She ended up discovering that her birth mother was very very young when she had her and that not only was she a product of rape, but it was an incestuous rape. It messed her up and she was never the same again. Sometimes it's better to not know, the knowing may be worse than any need for "closure" one may feel they have.
Decades ago when I was in college one of my friends found out who his bio mother was. She still lived in the town where he grew up. He went home for a weekend and made the mistake of appearing on her doorstep and identifying himself. She slammed the door in his face after screaming at him that she never wanted to ever see him again. He asked about his father as the door closed and she screamed through the door that she'd been raped and had no idea who his father was. He came back to school, but was totally crushed. The last time I saw him he was at a campus bar sobbing into his beer. Sometimes not knowing is better all around.
That's horrible but it's not the babies fault, family is family no matter what. Lots of couples have a baby and end up almost hating each other anyways so people need to put that into perspective. That child isn't the parent they are an innocent individual that didn't ask to be born.
Step sister (not related to me) was adopted...wont say how she found them but they turned out to be total trash losers and were aholes to her. She was crushed. Some people shouldnt have or even adopt kids if you cant commit to treating them well. Its for life not 18 yrs and kick em to the curb No idea about my own roots impossible to find.
If you feel the need go for it .... but be prepared for and ending you may not be expecting. My birth mother walked away when I was two years old, it was only recently, when I had a breakdown, I realised the impact this had had on my whole life so I decided to look for her hoping closure would help me get my life back. When I did find her I was rejected all over again, when she left me she moved away ‘rewrote’ her past found a man with money married & had a new family, she didn’t want me doing anything to upset her world and she certainly didn’t want to have to explain where I came from. Not what I was expecting but I did get closure, for me now there is no more wondering I know she is a very selfish unpleasant woman who as far as I’m concerned passed away a long time ago.
@@ripabigfatoneforme well so,for anyone who is about to give your baby away for adoption; make a list of sicknesses that runs in your family and put the list in the baby's cloathes and then your secret will be safe! Noone will try to trace you as the sicknesses are there on the list!
But some things can be preventable. I know my family has strokes so now I definitely know what the signs and symptoms are so I can get help quickly. Plus going to doctors they ask for family history so they can help you be healthier and try to prevent things.
My Nana was forced to adopt my Aunt out at 15. Extremely traumatic experience for her. Unfortunately I think the experience has left her broken and she hasn't dealt with jt well. Sadly that has not left her in a good place to reunite with my Aunt (who myself and my Mum, her sister, have met and have a relationship with), possibly ever. It's not always healing. My suggestion for anyone who does reunite, is to do it with professional help ❤️
I know children who have been adopted have questions and I can’t imagine, but I also believe most parents who do leave their babies have a reason why. The ones who love you and raise you are your parents biological or not.
It's interesting that most here are talking about the mother (poor thing, she abandoned the baby for a reason) but what about the father? Chances are he doesn't even know he's a dad. Maybe he or his family would want to know.
maybe the father raped the mother and the child was a product of that!!! Sometimes its better not to digg too much into cases we know nothing about. What if the father was a horrible abuser and the mother escaped and knew she cant let him know he has a baby? what right does anyone have to seek him up and tell on the mom who might have struggled all her life to keep it a secret.
run down Andrea finds out she has a full sister, and 2 brothers and finds out her mother died. turns out her father didn’t know that his wife was pregnant with Andrea or her sister and then it’s discovered that there was another sister and another brother who yet again the father never knew about. the reason the mom died was due to childbirth related complications from ANOTHER hidden pregnancy. apparently her mother (actual name Deirdre but went by Cindy) had a condition that made her not show during pregnancy. Total they had 7 children. the father only ever knew about the 2 they kept. She suffered from pregnancy denial. Benjamin: found his birth father who accepted him with open arms. Found someone who might’ve been his mother and spoke on the phone with her only for her to get hostile and tell him to never contact her again. the birth father had a one night stand with the mother and never knew that Benjamin existed
Not only that but she had 6 kids total, all with the same man. They raised 2 sons and she abandoned 3 girls. He had no idea that she was pregnant with any of them.
@@isabellabaragana4636 that was not the right link!! Sorry! www.google.com/amp/s/abcnews.go.com/amp/US/woman-abandoned-birth-discovers-multiple-siblings-deserted-mother/story%3fid=56393771
One thing people should understand is that many women experience post-partum depression and will do weird things like abandoning or ignoring their babies.
For those saying children might want to find parents for medical reasons, I find that a plausible argument- but still infringes on whether the parent wants to be found or not. The system could create a way to give you the medical history without giving you the names of your parents. I’m only saying this because it’s 50/50 on whether you’ll be wanted by the parent who gave you up or not. Giving up a child is undeniably difficult and we can only assume it was done with the child’s best interest at heart. If the parent wanted to find you, you’d be found. However the heartbreaking part is those who set themselves up for a fairytale or miracle and find out they’re still unwanted or unwelcome. Keep in mind those who give up children go on to live their lives, and sometimes they want the past to remain the past- and the past coming to the present may jeopardize their current situation.
This is immature. Having a child is a life long commitment. Whatever issues a child’s arrival may trigger is up to the adult parent to deal with. I mean grow the flip up!
I am adopted and when you have your own children it fills that void of being different or the black sheep of the family so to speak. You see similarities for the first time in people genetically related to you. I will say that only a tiny amount of people find happiness tracking down family. It is often a pretty terrible background they are from. Being adopted at 3 literally saved my life. It is a miracle I survived that time really. Think twice before you make contact.
C.C. Moore. . God Bless you over and over again for the good work you do! i am all choked up over how you bring joy and justice into this world. What is your story and where are you?
So annoying, where's the full video? Everyone saying they wouldn't give a fk wouldn't know because they're not them! If that were me I eoupd still want to know. Find out the story behind it. Bad or good I would have lost nothing
I wasn't a foundling, yet I still have basically no knowledge about my biological family. I have tried to find my birth mother on social media, but her name is Lindsey Smith (most common name ever). My birth father is unknown. All I know about him was that when my birth mother told him she was pregnant with me, he told her to, "get rid of it". My older half brother is Benjamin Smith (again, most common name ever) He is about 1 year older than me. I don't know my younger half brother's name. I just know that he was also adopted out, and that he is about 2 years younger than me. I also tried to go through an agency to find my birth family, but they told me that I had to pay $10,000. I don't have that kind of money (most people don't nowadays). My adoptive parents have both died.
Hey this video just popped up again and I watched it a long time ago. Did you ever find your birth mother? Because I know a search Angel who helped me find my brother-in-law who was adopted and we found him about a year before my ex mother-in-law passed away. And one thing that she told me was that the adopted birth certificate and the original birth certificate have the same serial numbers on them so also do your DNA on 23andMe and ancestry
I'm so glad ABC said they were abandoned by their respective mothers. It's important to clear stuff like that up. Here we were all assuming that Andrea was abandoned by Ben's mother and Ben was abandoned by Andrea's mother. What would be do without the media?
They we’re lucky to be adopted after abandonment. There’s nothing worse than the mistreatment of babies and animals because of their pure innocence. Had these babies not been abandoned they likely would have had difficult or horrendous lives growing up with those people who are capable of abandoning a baby. Assuming they were adopted by good people that is.
I don't understand people's attachment to blood family when they have good adoptive parents at all. I had horrible blood family and I wish more than anything I had been abandoned or given up for adoption, maybe I could have had a chance to not be permanently f'ed up.
IGoPlaces I don’t think they want to get back with their blood family, they just want to know because horrible to not know a big part of your life. Even people with happy biological family would be curious about their ancestors.
It’s easier for you to say this when you haven’t experienced it. To not know anything about yourself or know that a part of your past is unknown is difficult to stomach, no matter how wonderful your adoptive family is.
Why do these reporters always ask the dumb question- “ Why is it important to find your birth parents when you were happy with your adopted parents?” Seems so obvious as the answer is always the same.
I hurt for the adoptive parents. They chose to take that child. They chose to adopt that child and raise it as their own and now are basically shit for it. I think many are just selfish and unsatisfied with themselves and hope to find some miraculous answer that they will never find.
I can understand this. Plus, its good to know where you came from and your family's history. My dad was adopted and we connected with his birth mother, but refuses to tell us the father even though I have genetic issues that we need that medical information for. It's also closure as to why they were left, whether its for better or for worse, some people just need to know for their peace of mind.
Same boat. Asked my adopted Dad 10 yrs ago as I desperately needed medical history Denied...too worried about his image, like I would say anything .Now living with terminal conditions too late for me. Really believe I shoulda been aborted some are just better off.
I think if you actually got adopted and was raised by a loving family there’s no need to look for you birth parents. It doesn’t just affect you. It affects the family that raised you too.
Being abandoned at birth is actually a good thing. Because if they think they can't take care of you, you know it in the first place. No harm done. Life goes on. Someone else takes their place.
I’m 71 , when I was 8 years old I found adoption papers on me! I was so scared who was I ? At 12, my Dad said he was not my father? That I needed to ask my mom what happed to me? I went back home and tried to kill myself. It didn’t work . I told Bill my “dad” I tried to kill myself . He came to see me bought me a new dress and took me out to dinner . He said do I feel better? I figured out he was just trying to buy me off. When I was 15 I got drunk and I wrote my mom a note that I was leaving to find my dad she found me passed out and confronted me saying he was my dad and I told her no he said he wasn’t my mom. Said she was rapped and I was the result of that ? . My mom never told me who my dad was for years I would look at men wondering are you my dad? It drove me to drink . I was 33 joined AA, I realized God is my Father and he loved me . I found peace knowing this. The lies almost killed me. I would have accepted the truth what ever it was . But to live with the lies put so much shame on me . As you can see, even after all these years . It was just like yesterday when I found those adoption papers.
20 years ago NO ONE could imagine there was going to be such a thing like genetic genealogy... People just left the kids somewhere and pretended they wouldn’t hear about them again... oops.
I can’t understand how a mother can leave there baby just like that i could never I never loved anyone like I love my baby to imagine leaving him somewhere and leave and never look back brakes my heart:( I know some people live under real hard circumstances but still just leaving the bay after it just born :( when they need us the most 😢
my friend from india was abandoned at 2 years (adopted )and she s still wants to be reunited with her biological parents . its 😦😢heartbreaking because she s so depressed .
Two 8 year old boys take responsibility for a stranger's newborn yet grown men walk out on their own prodginy left and right. Why do we treat kids like they know less than adults??
11 is way too young to tell the child they're adopted. 16 was better. 11, you're still a little kid. Such formative years. I say it's highly damaging to tell a child they're adopted at that age. The dad should have waited at least 5 more years to tell him.
Not all children who were given up by loving birth parents are abandoned. Sometimes circumstances make it impossible for the birth parent to raise them and it's out of love that they give them up for adoption. Your use of the word abandoned is cruel.
Of course not all adopted children were abandoned, but these people were. So, their use of the word is appropriate. If leaving your newborn infant outside, in a cardboard box isn't abandonment, I don't know what is.
First, it is 1000 percent accurate in these stories. Second, prior to the 1970s a large number of women had their babies taken away from them by religious or state ran organizations without their consent. Third, even if a child is given up out of " love " ( which is a bullshit , you don't give away what you love ) the odds are far greater the adoptive family will treat that child in a abusive manor then giving them a loving home. This is especially true prior to the 1990s but still holds true today in far too many cases. Do some women have dang good reasons for making that choice, of course they do. But, I can not speak for any of them and neither can you. We can only speak for our own life choices, and your comment makes it pretty clear you probably did exactly that are confused about what love really is vs what necessity forced upon you.
@@loganskiwyse7823 you are so full of piss and vinegar and have no clue what you are talking about. My mother and her 3 siblings were adopted. My father was adopted and my paternal Great-great-Grandmother was adopted. ALL of them had loving, stable homes who were thankful to have these children and loved them no differently than any child raised by biological parents. all of them were born BEFORE 1960! The rate of adopted children being mistreated is a fraction of the number of children who are abused, harmed and neglected by biological parents. Get your facts straight or STFU!
To know and understand your history, to understand why things happened the way they did, to know yourself, it's better if you know your roots. It isn't as simple as wanting to find biological parents (And it isn't always as easy as 'they didn't want you' either, by the way...). Life is more complicated than that. You can probably tell us stories from your parents, their health history that might effect you, their upbringings, mental issues that might be in your future thanks to your biological family, things you inhereted from them, both good and bad, and maybe even where your ancestors generally came from. These people deserve to know these same things.
Not knowing your roots, where do you come from, who you are is devastating.... I can feel for these people cause I feel I have siblings from my father but I don't have a clue about them nor a way to find them....
A friend of mine went from Ohio to a place with nuns in Sheboygan Illinois to finish her pregnancy, deliver, and give her baby up for adoption. She never shared much about it or anything else. One of those people. - I never could believe, as we’ve gotten old , that she didn’t wonder who that baby became, or want to know her own child. She went on to mother two children in her marriage. But she was a closed book. I also wonder if this child ever wanted to know who it’s real mother was. My friend was at her first year of college when she accidentally became pregnant. I think she did the right thing. As I don’t believe in abortion. I hope the child knows on some level that it’s mother was a wonderful human being. This was in 1974, or at the very latest early 1975.
if i was adopted i would want to find my birth mother and father but if i was a foundling i feel like i would never want to find my mother. i would feel so hurt that they just abandoned me
I love that they were adopted and that they found loving families, don’t get me wrong, but why would you wait until they’re 11 and 16 to tell them? I can’t imagine what I would do or say if I found out so late in my life. I would tell my children much earlier that they were adopted, that’s just my opinion.
If you ever do another segment I would loooove to find my mom and dad in Colombia. I filed the paperwork but they can not locate my file years later I have her CC# (like a social security #) so we just need a private investigator but I feel like time is ticking she’s 65 I’d love the chance to meet her
I was adopted also and needed to find my birth family which I did but with sad news that my mom committed sucide when she knew I was looking for her. So sad. Both of my kids are adopted and have found their families. Finding is not always a happy occassion. they at least still know where they started out at. Make sure you are ready for some rejection from a family you call birth family. They are not always happy about you finding them.
This is the result of mother's being allowed to abandon babies with no questions asked. It sucks that you have questions, but the alternative could have been worse.
Wrong, this is the result of women NOT being given options or being forced to have babies because they could not get access to or afford a abortion. Not having access to services that could have helped them. And not having understanding families or support at home. Not having the money to care for a child. Stop blaming the women, you should bloody well know better. I AM one of these children, and the result was far worse then you could possibly imagine.
@Piatequila Maybe start with both education and medical access for everyone including birth control. And stop blaming women for a problem that has been around since the beginning of the species and exposed as a virtue by religions that really ant to keep them pregnant and popping out even more kids we don't need around. Abortion is as old as sex by the way. As far back as we have records there have been ways to abort a unwanted pregnancy. An embryo isn't a child or baby to start with. That's more backwater religious garbage.
Once, my mom gave birth to my little brother, Justin. The doctor said he had a syndrome AND IF my mom did abandon him... It could’ve gone ALL wrong! My mom’s decided to keep Justin anyways. A week later at our house the doctor called and told us that Justin did not have syndrome, it was a mistake. So if my mom abandoned Justin... I wouldn’t have a loving, silly, and smart little brother. My brother had just became a teen, which means he would probably not talk a lot, hide himself, which basically what happened. So I am so lucky that my mom decided NOT to abandon my little brother. I was lonely when my parents went to work and I am at home, lonely. I soon will babysit him when he comes home from school, I am looking forward to it!
My husbands mom was adopted as a baby, all we know is that her birth mother was 15 and gave her up because she was ashamed and couldn't finish high school if she decided to keep her and the birth mom chose to keep the adoption closed meaning not have any contact with my husbands mom, which is a shame.
I was also abandoned just after birth, I don't have any idea what happened either, I would give the information, but you don't know the crazies out there that might use this information. How would i contact this person Andrea?
run down Andrea finds out she has a full sister, and 2 brothers and finds out her mother died. turns out her father didn’t know that his wife was pregnant with Andrea or her sister and then it’s discovered that there was another sister and another brother who yet again the father never knew about. the reason the mom died was due to childbirth related complications from ANOTHER hidden pregnancy. apparently her mother (actual name Deirdre but went by Cindy) had a condition that made her not show during pregnancy. Total they had 7 children. the father only ever knew about the 2 they kept. She suffered from pregnancy denial. Benjamin: found his birth father who accepted him with open arms. Found someone who might’ve been his mother and spoke on the phone with her only for her to get hostile and tell him to never contact her again. the birth father had a one night stand with the mother and never knew that Benjamin existed
This might sound horrible but this is the only reason I don’t want to adopt. I completely understand how these kids want to find there blood relatives and I would 100% support them and help look. But I would be heart broken feeling like I wasn’t enough for them. And can never truly be their parent.
Good luck on your journey! I do think getting DNA from the ancestry sites might help in your journey as well. It might not, but it can't hurt to try. At the very least you'll have an idea of your general ancestry/where your biological ancestors hailed from on the map.
If I abandoned my child I wouldn’t want to be found. I think these people need to get the therapy they need so they can move on with their lives without their biological parents.
Interesting how people can just walk into a hospital and stay there for hours and no one checks thier identity. I went to the ER at the beginning of the year they had to check the hell out of my identity (ID card, insurance etc) before I was let out of the lobby and allowed to see a doctor. And then a 3000$+ bill. And I am/was not pregnant. That woman could just walk out unidentified after 12 hours without her baby?? Sounds fishy to me that they claim that they never checked her ID card, or SS# or whatever. They would do that with a car crash victim for gods sake, out of state visitor or not.
I am flabbergasted every time I hear someone ask the question why they were abandoned at birth or given up for adoption. Why? Is it not obvious that your birth mother or father or both do not have the ability to take care of you? Even if the answer is your birth mother or father or both didn't want you, you should be satisfied with the fact that a big effort was made to give you to a family who wants you and will take care of you. That's the only fact that matters. You're an adult now and feeling sorry for yourself even if you were raised well by your adoptive family is on you. Millions of aborted babies don't get to be born. For them I feel sad. I empathize with you but not when you take this chance to whine about your life which you are responsible for as an adult, adopted, abandoned or NOT.
Every one should have the right to know who their parents are. If they don't want to meet their child at least the child could reach out to other family members.
Please stop leaving innocent babies to die where nobody could find them. Please please drop them off or even leave them where they could be found/rescued. ❤️ love to all
The man from Anchorage found his father and mother. The mother told him never to contact her again but the Father was a Marine Veteran with 2 Marine sons and welcomed him in with all his love.
I was welcomed at first and then abandoned again. Not fun.
@@elisabethsoquet3245 That's definitely a fear of mine, it's not something my twin would handle well at all.
@PHOENIX RISING No, she is not worth the time and effort. The silver lining is that the decision she made yrs ago it wasn't in the best interest of the baby, but it turned out to be a blessing for the baby and his parents. Being kept and raised by the scumbag the baby may not have survived.
Never wait to tell kids they’re adopted. I’ve known since before I could talk. My parents never made it a secret and it never should become a bombshell.
You are so right, Annie. I have an adopted son, and I told him the truth from the beginning. Lies and secrets have a nasty way of causing havoc.
It was the same for me! My parents were always honest with me about my adoption and it’s truly been a blessing to have always known that I was adopted than to have it hidden from me.
My parents have even helped me to stay in touch with my older siblings who I was separated from while in foster care.
I consider myself very fortunate to have parents that were honest with me from the beginning and to have them be so involved in helping me reconnect with my siblings.
Agree 100%. I had a cousin who was adopted and the same age as me since the adopted a baby kinda looked like them no one questioned it only her siblings including my mom and dad knew about and my mom’s sister begged her not to tell even though she knew it didn’t feel right. And when I found out when I was 10 my mother also told me not to say a word when I found out and it made me feel horrible. When I was around 13 and her features started to change she was so much small compared to her parents as well. Her eye were grey with tanned skin and my aunt and uncle were both brown and she always found that a little weird that she was the only one on my mom side to have grey eyes. She wouldn’t question my father who is Jewish fair skin and blue eyes. But my mom is Dominican man have dark skin tones including my aunt. So I remember we were in science class together and the teacher was explaining who it was almost impossible for to dark brown eye parents to have a blue, green or grey eye child. I remember her looking at me and i didn’t know what to say to her. At the time I said maybe it’s from a past generation sometimes it skips but she started to feel that something was wrong. And all the time I really just wanted to tell her it just didn’t feel right. I remember I told my mom that night I just don’t want to lie to her about this. She pleaded with me again and that just to hold on they were going to have a family intervention to confront my aunt about this urging her to tell her daughter because she knows something isn’t right.
So she finally told her and of course as i predicted sh*t hit the fan. We did meet up and she was so devastated and confused and I told her the truth that I knew since ten but my aunt did tell me if I told I wasn’t allowed to see her again (which did piss off my parents) and she was my best friend at the time. She did yell at me about and I didn’t blame her all I could do was apologize and to please to let this put you in a Downward spiral.that I would never keep anything from her again. But she had to be a alone for a while to deal with it.
After few years when we were 18, we slowly started talking again she told me she understood my predicament and isn’t mad at me at all but she decided to leave her adoptive parents. She just felt there was such a lack of trust and that it wasn’t just about discovering she was adopted. That her parents were also very overly strict even my mom thought her sis went over board with it.
So we do talk and now she has kids of her own. Since then her adoptive dad did pass away and her adoptive mom just became so bitter and she always has this victim mentality. I kind a don’t blame her my aunt is toxic. My mom and the rest of her siblings can only stand small doses of my aunt. Overall I am glad we are still friends and of course my aunt kept her attitude up and many people couldn’t stand being around her.
I do want to adopt and I’m absolutely telling them the truth as soon as possible. I just don’t get why people would kept it a secret.
My cousin was born in Vietnam 🇻🇳 and abandoned just 10 minuets after she was born. She was later adopted by my aunt and uncle and even though she doesn’t look like us we love her.
Emmaline Beatty my family is from Vietnam
Communism has made so many people impoverished that's sadly some Vietnamese had to abandon their babies.
Bless you and bless your family
Awesome Sauce I hope she is ok.
Bless you guys and her❤️❤️❤️
People have their reasons, better than someone keeping a baby and abusing it or even killing it.
There are no reasons on earth that will justify their cruelty by either abandon their children or even giving them for adoption. I would love to live in starvation with my parents than in a gelded castle with someone else. It’s a crime
There is adoption. Or condoms too
Just wish they didn’t leave em out in alley ways maybe leave them
At a fire station where it’s safe
@Kathleen Henson really? so i can go kill someone without consequences? of course not. the law should absolutely prevent harming an innocent person. Esp. a baby for goodness sake.
Ali Al Hilali sometimes they give up babies for adoption because they can’t afford to look after that happened to my friend
My grandfather was left on the steps on the salvation army with a note pinned to him that said "baby swanson"... A woman who worked there ... heard him crying in the basket he was left in. She ended up adopting him and so he took her name. I remember when I was in school I had to do a family tree project in the 3rd grade and I got in trouble with my teacher because I only filled out 3/4 of the tree. I explained why I couldnt fill out that part on my family tree but she didnt believe me and made my parents come to a conference. She later apologized to me after she found out I was telling the truth.
I don't understand all the people say not to find birth parents. It's about more than finding your parents, it's about closure, understanding what was happening at that time, sometimes it's about saying thank you or medical records... I feel like if you want to look go for it but also be prepared to not get the answers you need, because it could go either way
Crystal Rogers so I am adopted, i was also abandoned, in a slightly different way than these people. I’m 22 years old. I’ve had lots of people in my life who’ve known my birth parents and probably have had more than one opportunity in my life to meet them. There’s really great ways, much better than knowing your families records, to determine what diseases you personally may be susceptible to. I do understand searching for closure, however I personally think it may be a very very selfish thing to do. Because I don’t know what kind of life my birth parents are living now, are they married and does their partner know about me? do they have kids and do they know about me? It’s very unlikely that these people would’ve contacted their birth parents before meeting them. And I’ve personally felt that although I’m curious I was given up for a reason, and I’m sure for any woman, that that choice was the most difficult thing she’s had to go through. Where I live we have laws about protecting the privacy and information (for both parties) because while it may be an easy choice for one, it could be the complete opposite for the other person involved
Crystal Rogers that’s what my friend tells me why do you whant to know she doesn’t get it and yes maybe I will never know
@Margaret Gust I understand that is one of the reasons for adoption, i just also know there are lots of other reasons. I'm not saying every birth child should be able o meet their birth patents, but a lot if times it does help rather than hurt. It's really a person by person decision, I just feel like knowing the reason you weren't wanted or couldn't be kept goes a long way towards healing a person's soul... speaking from experience.
After being disowned by my mom, I’ve decided to look for my bio father. Honestly if he doesn’t want meet me that’s fine. Maybe his family (aunts, grandparents, etc ) might want to meet me. But I’d be happy with just a picture of him.
Crystal Rogers People who say those things don't understand what it's like, not having your parent(s). I didn't know my biological father when I was growing up. I was angry, confused, & lonely. It took decades to get to know him, then he died. My daughter is afopted. We made sure her birth mother had access to her & our daughter was able to contact her at any time. My girl knows where she came from! We told her when she was very young. We never kept secrets. She was a happy, precious girl! Now, she's a mom, & she's happy!
There is a lot of babies born within families that are not wanted, so it isn't anything that unusual. They are raised and taken care of like other children. However, a 15 year old girl who gets pregnant isn't likely to be excited about being pregnant especially not decades ago. You don't know the circumstances of your conception. The feelings are so different for the mother and the child. I think many adoptees fantasized about what it would be like and often fantasy and reality are two very different things. Some biological mothers welcome reunions and others do not. It is sad for all.
Women who give up or abandon their children fail to understand that most people want to know their biological family, they want to know who they are (in that respect), there is a history and other family they want to know about. Those women made a choice and for some it's selfish to be so careless about their child. Even if the mother doesn't want to know other family member might including their farher. It's not just the mother who is a bio parent. But either way it's the abandoned child's desire to know and everyone should have the right to know who their parents or family are.
' Everyone deserves the right to know about their heritage and biology, but you can't expect a relinquishing parent to always want to have anything to do with an adult child. Some women were raped either by strangers or a family member. They did not choose to be pregnant , it was forced upon them. I know of someone who this happened to in the 1950's and they do not want anything to do with the adult child. In fact she was pushed into having the baby when she would of rather terminated, which in the 50's was something very difficult to do. It is not selfish to place your baby for adoption if you either have no means of support from family or financially. The best interest of the baby should come first. Not all grandparents want to take care of babies. I know I wouldn't. Today domestic adoptions are almost only open adoptions so the child does know his/her biological parents. The biological parents choose the adoptive parents from their bios with adoption agencies. In most cases this works out great for everyone concerned, but for some families it can be quite intrusive if the biological mother just pops over every 5 minutes, then they only feel like babysitters. The key is don't get pregnant. Nobody in my family has ever had a baby by chance, only by choice. Teens will have sex and you need to teach them about birth control. However back then lack of sex education, prevention and guidance often led to "mistakes". In an ideal world every child born would be raised by their biological parents in a loving, nurturing home with great family support, but for many children in this world that is only a dream. There are many wonderful stores about reunions and then again many that are not, and the adoptee is grateful they were not raised by their biological family. Regardless, things are just not fair in this world.
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51Saffron it’s one thing to give up your child for adoption and another thing to abandon it where it could come to harm like so much garbage!
@@Cynnas Nowadays everyone has right to know and to have and to be everything! People can't take NO as an answer, everything should be served to them on a plate. Why do adopted kids "have right" to know about anything that involves their birthparents that didn't even want them??? How about" you are adopted,sorry,there is no information about your birthparents"!!! But I want to know!!! I demand to know!!!! You know,if there are sicknesses that runs in your family; you'll know about them when you get them. Go for regular checkups so you'll be one step before the sickness. If the birthparents gave you away,they might not have told anyone about you,why should you go and bring up things that are not your business?? You are alive,you were given a new family,don't bother your birthfamily,be happy and thankful that they didn't abort you!!! I would,I would never ever give my unwanted child up for adoption as they tend to come back and spoil my life. I would absolutely abort any unwanted baby,so my secret would not be revealed by the child later on because he/she wants to know what sicknesses runs in the family😂
I was abandoned by my dad. He left with his children, my half-sibs. At over 40 yrs old, I met my sibs. I never ever thought it would have the impact it did. It was like someone picked me up and threw me against a wall. Not just regarding my sibs. The pain and damage my absent father caused me began to envelope me. Before, I never thought he had any impact on me. There's been positive and negative aspects from meeting them. It's a very heavy thing to go through. There are no words to describe it. It's a unique experience that only people who've been through it can understand
My biological father abandoned me when I was 7, I saw him once, I've seen that side of the family once also when I was in college. I'm now old and no one has ever come looking for me. Why would I want to ever see that side ever again?
I will never comprehend how a mother can abandon a baby, unless she is protecting it from an abusive situation. At least baby-girl Beach was left in a hospital. The boy was not so lucky, thank GOD the teenage boys found him so quickly. Both were fortunate to have had loving adoptive parents.
I cried watching this.... I could never imagine leaving behind my babies 😢💔
I had a friend in high school who was adopted and couldn't wait to turn 18 and seek out her birth family and find out why etc. etc.
She ended up discovering that her birth mother was very very young when she had her and that not only was she a product of rape, but it was an incestuous rape. It messed her up and she was never the same again. Sometimes it's better to not know, the knowing may be worse than any need for "closure" one may feel they have.
Omg that’s so sad. 😢😞
Decades ago when I was in college one of my friends found out who his bio mother was. She still lived in the town where he grew up. He went home for a weekend and made the mistake of appearing on her doorstep and identifying himself. She slammed the door in his face after screaming at him that she never wanted to ever see him again. He asked about his father as the door closed and she screamed through the door that she'd been raped and had no idea who his father was. He came back to school, but was totally crushed. The last time I saw him he was at a campus bar sobbing into his beer. Sometimes not knowing is better all around.
That's horrible but it's not the babies fault, family is family no matter what. Lots of couples have a baby and end up almost hating each other anyways so people need to put that into perspective. That child isn't the parent they are an innocent individual that didn't ask to be born.
Step sister (not related to me) was adopted...wont say how she found them but they turned out to be total trash losers and were aholes to her. She was crushed.
Some people shouldnt have or even adopt kids if you cant commit to treating them well. Its for life not 18 yrs and kick em to the curb
No idea about my own roots impossible to find.
"Saaaanta bawt dis for me." Adorable baby that grew into a lovely woman.
This may cause more heartache
Just think of all the baby’s that haven’t been found 😭 breaks my heart
Tears my heart to shreds.
If you feel the need go for it .... but be prepared for and ending you may not be expecting. My birth mother walked away when I was two years old, it was only recently, when I had a breakdown, I realised the impact this had had on my whole life so I decided to look for her hoping closure would help me get my life back. When I did find her I was rejected all over again, when she left me she moved away ‘rewrote’ her past found a man with money married & had a new family, she didn’t want me doing anything to upset her world and she certainly didn’t want to have to explain where I came from. Not what I was expecting but I did get closure, for me now there is no more wondering I know she is a very selfish unpleasant woman who as far as I’m concerned passed away a long time ago.
My mom is adopted, her birth mom was fifteen and thats all we know. Im only concerned about finding her for medical reasons.
what medical reasons?? if you find out there is Alzheimer and cancer and MS and whatever; does it make you happier???
Cam Mac its good to know....you know, common sense?
@@ripabigfatoneforme well so,for anyone who is about to give your baby away for adoption; make a list of sicknesses that runs in your family and put the list in the baby's cloathes and then your secret will be safe! Noone will try to trace you as the sicknesses are there on the list!
But some things can be preventable. I know my family has strokes so now I definitely know what the signs and symptoms are so I can get help quickly. Plus going to doctors they ask for family history so they can help you be healthier and try to prevent things.
My Nana was forced to adopt my Aunt out at 15. Extremely traumatic experience for her. Unfortunately I think the experience has left her broken and she hasn't dealt with jt well. Sadly that has not left her in a good place to reunite with my Aunt (who myself and my Mum, her sister, have met and have a relationship with), possibly ever. It's not always healing. My suggestion for anyone who does reunite, is to do it with professional help ❤️
I know children who have been adopted have questions and I can’t imagine, but I also believe most parents who do leave their babies have a reason why. The ones who love you and raise you are your parents biological or not.
I was abandoned with my twin in Bolivia. I really feel for these two adults, I know how it is. I hope they get the answers they're looking for.
In Bolivia the gobern in native comjnity obligate to dar a twins if no eating food
It's interesting that most here are talking about the mother (poor thing, she abandoned the baby for a reason) but what about the father? Chances are he doesn't even know he's a dad. Maybe he or his family would want to know.
Speaking Truth unless the father was a horrible person he has every right to know
maybe the father raped the mother and the child was a product of that!!! Sometimes its better not to digg too much into cases we know nothing about. What if the father was a horrible abuser and the mother escaped and knew she cant let him know he has a baby? what right does anyone have to seek him up and tell on the mom who might have struggled all her life to keep it a secret.
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Andrea finds out she has a full sister, and 2 brothers and finds out her mother died. turns out her father didn’t know that his wife was pregnant with Andrea or her sister and then it’s discovered that there was another sister and another brother who yet again the father never knew about. the reason the mom died was due to childbirth related complications from ANOTHER hidden pregnancy. apparently her mother (actual name Deirdre but went by Cindy) had a condition that made her not show during pregnancy. Total they had 7 children. the father only ever knew about the 2 they kept. She suffered from pregnancy denial.
Benjamin: found his birth father who accepted him with open arms. Found someone who might’ve been his mother and spoke on the phone with her only for her to get hostile and tell him to never contact her again. the birth father had a one night stand with the mother and never knew that Benjamin existed
Where's the rest of the damn story?? Damn clickbait.
In part 2.
John Carter Andrea biological mother past away while giving birth to a baby boy 2 years after Andrea was born. Both the boy and mom passed.
Not only that but she had 6 kids total, all with the same man. They raised 2 sons and she abandoned 3 girls. He had no idea that she was pregnant with any of them.
@@briggyb where can i find the rest of the story
@@isabellabaragana4636 that was not the right link!! Sorry!
www.google.com/amp/s/abcnews.go.com/amp/US/woman-abandoned-birth-discovers-multiple-siblings-deserted-mother/story%3fid=56393771
One thing people should understand is that many women experience post-partum depression and will do weird things like abandoning or ignoring their babies.
Pray all these people find closure.
She's so beautiful.
For those saying children might want to find parents for medical reasons, I find that a plausible argument- but still infringes on whether the parent wants to be found or not. The system could create a way to give you the medical history without giving you the names of your parents. I’m only saying this because it’s 50/50 on whether you’ll be wanted by the parent who gave you up or not. Giving up a child is undeniably difficult and we can only assume it was done with the child’s best interest at heart. If the parent wanted to find you, you’d be found. However the heartbreaking part is those who set themselves up for a fairytale or miracle and find out they’re still unwanted or unwelcome. Keep in mind those who give up children go on to live their lives, and sometimes they want the past to remain the past- and the past coming to the present may jeopardize their current situation.
Sarah Ricci I was responding to those who say Children have the right to for “medical reasons”. I agree with all you’ve said.
yes I agree finding parent for medical reason is not enough. it is difficult to decide if you want find them or not. the outcome can be good or bad
This is immature. Having a child is a life long commitment. Whatever issues a child’s arrival may trigger is up to the adult parent to deal with. I mean grow the flip up!
Adults shouldn't go around discarding children as if they are trash. Adults who do not want children should use birth control.
I'd at least like a family medical history even if there is no emotional connection
I think it would be cool if Ben found those boys that found him in the first place.
I am adopted and when you have your own children it fills that void of being different or the black sheep of the family so to speak. You see similarities for the first time in people genetically related to you. I will say that only a tiny amount of people find happiness tracking down family. It is often a pretty terrible background they are from. Being adopted at 3 literally saved my life. It is a miracle I survived that time really. Think twice before you make contact.
Those teen boys who found the baby by the thrift bin are awesome. Made me tear up
I wonder how the adoptive parents feels about this..
C.C. Moore. . God Bless you over and over again for the good work you do! i am all choked up over how you bring joy and justice into this world. What is your story and where are you?
So annoying, where's the full video? Everyone saying they wouldn't give a fk wouldn't know because they're not them! If that were me I eoupd still want to know. Find out the story behind it. Bad or good I would have lost nothing
Real Deal I feel the same way
abc.go.com/shows/2020/episode-guide/2018-07/13-071318-buried-secrets
Vale V thank you!
Damn, the link doesn't work for those of us who don't live in America.
Beautiful story. It would be nice if one could quickly and easily find all parts to this episode.
I was born in April, 1987 too. Damn she’s gorgeous. Sheesh.
I wasn't a foundling, yet I still have basically no knowledge about my biological family. I have tried to find my birth mother on social media, but her name is Lindsey Smith (most common name ever). My birth father is unknown. All I know about him was that when my birth mother told him she was pregnant with me, he told her to, "get rid of it". My older half brother is Benjamin Smith (again, most common name ever) He is about 1 year older than me. I don't know my younger half brother's name. I just know that he was also adopted out, and that he is about 2 years younger than me. I also tried to go through an agency to find my birth family, but they told me that I had to pay $10,000. I don't have that kind of money (most people don't nowadays). My adoptive parents have both died.
Hey this video just popped up again and I watched it a long time ago. Did you ever find your birth mother? Because I know a search Angel who helped me find my brother-in-law who was adopted and we found him about a year before my ex mother-in-law passed away. And one thing that she told me was that the adopted birth certificate and the original birth certificate have the same serial numbers on them so also do your DNA on 23andMe and ancestry
She's an angel. That super smart lady . God bless her heart 💐
I'm so glad ABC said they were abandoned by their respective mothers. It's important to clear stuff like that up. Here we were all assuming that Andrea was abandoned by Ben's mother and Ben was abandoned by Andrea's mother. What would be do without the media?
They we’re lucky to be adopted after abandonment. There’s nothing worse than the mistreatment of babies and animals because of their pure innocence. Had these babies not been abandoned they likely would have had difficult or horrendous lives growing up with those people who are capable of abandoning a baby. Assuming they were adopted by good people that is.
I don't understand people's attachment to blood family when they have good adoptive parents at all. I had horrible blood family and I wish more than anything I had been abandoned or given up for adoption, maybe I could have had a chance to not be permanently f'ed up.
IGoPlaces I don’t think they want to get back with their blood family, they just want to know because horrible to not know a big part of your life. Even people with happy biological family would be curious about their ancestors.
Well maybe it’s not for you to understand since you haven’t been through it. It’s their choice and it’s what their heart is telling them to do.
It’s easier for you to say this when you haven’t experienced it. To not know anything about yourself or know that a part of your past is unknown is difficult to stomach, no matter how wonderful your adoptive family is.
I mean she explained it in the first three minutes but go off
So you can understand wanting what you don't have 😔
Why do these reporters always ask the dumb question- “ Why is it important to find your birth parents when you were happy with your adopted parents?” Seems so obvious as the answer is always the same.
My father was adopted. Born March 7 1947 Chicago. I want to find my family out there.My dad dont.
I hurt for the adoptive parents. They chose to take that child. They chose to adopt that child and raise it as their own and now are basically shit for it. I think many are just selfish and unsatisfied with themselves and hope to find some miraculous answer that they will never find.
I can understand this. Plus, its good to know where you came from and your family's history. My dad was adopted and we connected with his birth mother, but refuses to tell us the father even though I have genetic issues that we need that medical information for. It's also closure as to why they were left, whether its for better or for worse, some people just need to know for their peace of mind.
Same boat. Asked my adopted Dad 10 yrs ago as I desperately needed medical history
Denied...too worried about his image, like I would say anything .Now living with terminal conditions too late for me. Really believe I shoulda been aborted some are just better off.
I think if you actually got adopted and was raised by a loving family there’s no need to look for you birth parents. It doesn’t just affect you. It affects the family that raised you too.
False. You need to know where you come from, at the very least for medical
Being abandoned at birth is actually a good thing. Because if they think they can't take care of you, you know it in the first place. No harm done. Life goes on. Someone else takes their place.
My brother found us that way. Glad he did! Our Dad is dead. Different moms. He was very loved. So glad.
*Where's the link to the rest of the story* ?
I’m 71 , when I was 8 years old I found adoption papers on me! I was so scared who was I ? At 12, my Dad said he was not my father? That I needed to ask my mom what happed to me? I went back home and tried to kill myself. It didn’t work . I told Bill my “dad” I tried to kill myself . He came to see me bought me a new dress and took me out to dinner . He said do I feel better? I figured out he was just trying to buy me off.
When I was 15 I got drunk and I wrote my mom a note that I was leaving to find my dad she found me passed out and confronted me saying he was my dad and I told her no he said he wasn’t my mom. Said she was rapped and I was the result of that ? . My mom never told me who my dad was for years I would look at men wondering are you my dad? It drove me to drink . I was 33 joined AA, I realized God is my Father and he loved me . I found peace knowing this.
The lies almost killed me. I would have accepted the truth what ever it was . But to live with the lies put so much shame on me . As you can see, even after all these years . It was just like yesterday when I found those adoption papers.
There's never been a better time in the world to go looking and find them.
This is so heartbreaking....
They said her mom was attractive but uptight well her daughter is attractive and awesome! Very glad that she turned out so good.
That sketch of the lady who left their child by a donation thing is creepy
4:12 WTF I LIVE THERE. MY PPL BE DOING THIS? ACTUAL FCK
20 years ago NO ONE could imagine there was going to be such a thing like genetic genealogy... People just left the kids somewhere and pretended they wouldn’t hear about them again... oops.
I can’t understand how a mother can leave there baby just like that i could never I never loved anyone like I love my baby to imagine leaving him somewhere and leave and never look back brakes my heart:( I know some people live under real hard circumstances but still just leaving the bay after it just born :( when they need us the most 😢
Those teenage boys saved that boys life.
I’m from Coeur d Alene!! ❤️ I love it!
Who tells a kid they're adopted on their kid they are adopted on their birthday? What a jerk move.
Man to tell that 11 year old boy he was adopted and on his birthday is a bit harsh! Maybe wait until he is older and not tell him ON his birthday! 😔
11 is too young.
I hear it’s better for the kid growing up knowing that they are adopted.
The first one is my home town the second one I lived 3 hrs away from for 10 years
my friend from india was abandoned at 2 years (adopted )and she s still wants to be reunited with her biological parents . its 😦😢heartbreaking because she s so depressed .
Two 8 year old boys take responsibility for a stranger's newborn yet grown men walk out on their own prodginy left and right. Why do we treat kids like they know less than adults??
11 is way too young to tell the child they're adopted. 16 was better. 11, you're still a little kid. Such formative years. I say it's highly damaging to tell a child they're adopted at that age. The dad should have waited at least 5 more years to tell him.
Not all children who were given up by loving birth parents are abandoned. Sometimes circumstances make it impossible for the birth parent to raise them and it's out of love that they give them up for adoption. Your use of the word abandoned is cruel.
Of course not all adopted children were abandoned, but these people were. So, their use of the word is appropriate. If leaving your newborn infant outside, in a cardboard box isn't abandonment, I don't know what is.
First, it is 1000 percent accurate in these stories. Second, prior to the 1970s a large number of women had their babies taken away from them by religious or state ran organizations without their consent. Third, even if a child is given up out of " love " ( which is a bullshit , you don't give away what you love ) the odds are far greater the adoptive family will treat that child in a abusive manor then giving them a loving home. This is especially true prior to the 1990s but still holds true today in far too many cases.
Do some women have dang good reasons for making that choice, of course they do. But, I can not speak for any of them and neither can you. We can only speak for our own life choices, and your comment makes it pretty clear you probably did exactly that are confused about what love really is vs what necessity forced upon you.
@@loganskiwyse7823 you are so full of piss and vinegar and have no clue what you are talking about. My mother and her 3 siblings were adopted. My father was adopted and my paternal Great-great-Grandmother was adopted. ALL of them had loving, stable homes who were thankful to have these children and loved them no differently than any child raised by biological parents. all of them were born BEFORE 1960! The rate of adopted children being mistreated is a fraction of the number of children who are abused, harmed and neglected by biological parents. Get your facts straight or STFU!
Why would you? You were clearly unwanted ! Sounds cruel but the truth often is.
To know and understand your history, to understand why things happened the way they did, to know yourself, it's better if you know your roots. It isn't as simple as wanting to find biological parents (And it isn't always as easy as 'they didn't want you' either, by the way...). Life is more complicated than that. You can probably tell us stories from your parents, their health history that might effect you, their upbringings, mental issues that might be in your future thanks to your biological family, things you inhereted from them, both good and bad, and maybe even where your ancestors generally came from. These people deserve to know these same things.
Not knowing your roots, where do you come from, who you are is devastating....
I can feel for these people cause I feel I have siblings from my father but I don't have a clue about them nor a way to find them....
I just can't imagine how they felt at that moment when your entire world comes to a halt...wondering "who am I".
A friend of mine went from Ohio to a place with nuns in Sheboygan Illinois to finish her pregnancy, deliver, and give her baby up for adoption. She never shared much about it or anything else. One of those people. - I never could believe, as we’ve gotten old , that she didn’t wonder who that baby became, or want to know her own child. She went on to mother two children in her marriage. But she was a closed book. I also wonder if this child ever wanted to know who it’s real mother was. My friend was at her first year of college when she accidentally became pregnant. I think she did the right thing. As I don’t believe in abortion. I hope the child knows on some level that it’s mother was a wonderful human being. This was in 1974, or at the very latest early 1975.
if i was adopted i would want to find my birth mother and father but if i was a foundling i feel like i would never want to find my mother. i would feel so hurt that they just abandoned me
Ben sounded like he watched Joe Dirt. “I would look at the stars at night and wonder if they were looking at the same stars”
I love that they were adopted and that they found loving families, don’t get me wrong, but why would you wait until they’re 11 and 16 to tell them? I can’t imagine what I would do or say if I found out so late in my life. I would tell my children much earlier that they were adopted, that’s just my opinion.
If you ever do another segment I would loooove to find my mom and dad in Colombia. I filed the paperwork but they can not locate my file years later I have her CC# (like a social security #) so we just need a private investigator but I feel like time is ticking she’s 65 I’d love the chance to meet her
I was adopted also and needed to find my birth family which I did but with sad news that my mom committed sucide when she knew I was looking for her. So sad. Both of my kids are adopted and have found their families. Finding is not always a happy occassion. they at least still know where they started out at. Make sure you are ready for some rejection from a family you call birth family. They are not always happy about you finding them.
This is the result of mother's being allowed to abandon babies with no questions asked. It sucks that you have questions, but the alternative could have been worse.
Abortion
Wrong, this is the result of women NOT being given options or being forced to have babies because they could not get access to or afford a abortion. Not having access to services that could have helped them. And not having understanding families or support at home. Not having the money to care for a child. Stop blaming the women, you should bloody well know better.
I AM one of these children, and the result was far worse then you could possibly imagine.
@Piatequila Maybe start with both education and medical access for everyone including birth control.
And stop blaming women for a problem that has been around since the beginning of the species and exposed as a virtue by religions that really ant to keep them pregnant and popping out even more kids we don't need around.
Abortion is as old as sex by the way. As far back as we have records there have been ways to abort a unwanted pregnancy. An embryo isn't a child or baby to start with. That's more backwater religious garbage.
They abandoned some beautiful babies
Does anyone know if Andrea found her mom? I can’t find part 3 of her story.
Once, my mom gave birth to my little brother, Justin. The doctor said he had a syndrome AND IF my mom did abandon him... It could’ve gone ALL wrong! My mom’s decided to keep Justin anyways. A week later at our house the doctor called and told us that Justin did not have syndrome, it was a mistake. So if my mom abandoned Justin... I wouldn’t have a loving, silly, and smart little brother. My brother had just became a teen, which means he would probably not talk a lot, hide himself, which basically what happened. So I am so lucky that my mom decided NOT to abandon my little brother. I was lonely when my parents went to work and I am at home, lonely. I soon will babysit him when he comes home from school, I am looking forward to it!
My husbands mom was adopted as a baby, all we know is that her birth mother was 15 and gave her up because she was ashamed and couldn't finish high school if she decided to keep her and the birth mom chose to keep the adoption closed meaning not have any contact with my husbands mom, which is a shame.
Where's the rest of this video?
Cranjis McBasketball abc.go.com/shows/2020/episode-guide/2018-07/13-071318-buried-secrets
My personal opinion is never to tell the kid that he or she is adopted. I wouldn’t want to k ow that someone abandon me. Better not to know
She is a good person
WAIT UNTIL YOU SEE THIS ONE! THERE WASN'T A REAL REASON TO LEAVE HER CHILD LIKE THAT!
I wonder where part 2 is...I want to see if they found them.
Her curls are gorgeous.
Ben looks like Tom Hanks
I was also abandoned just after birth, I don't have any idea what happened either, I would give the information, but you don't know the crazies out there that might use this information. How would i contact this person Andrea?
My story is the same !!!!!! Omg
run down
Andrea finds out she has a full sister, and 2 brothers and finds out her mother died. turns out her father didn’t know that his wife was pregnant with Andrea or her sister and then it’s discovered that there was another sister and another brother who yet again the father never knew about. the reason the mom died was due to childbirth related complications from ANOTHER hidden pregnancy. apparently her mother (actual name Deirdre but went by Cindy) had a condition that made her not show during pregnancy. Total they had 7 children. the father only ever knew about the 2 they kept. She suffered from pregnancy denial.
Benjamin: found his birth father who accepted him with open arms. Found someone who might’ve been his mother and spoke on the phone with her only for her to get hostile and tell him to never contact her again. the birth father had a one night stand with the mother and never knew that Benjamin existed
This might sound horrible but this is the only reason I don’t want to adopt. I completely understand how these kids want to find there blood relatives and I would 100% support them and help look. But I would be heart broken feeling like I wasn’t enough for them. And can never truly be their parent.
I’m a foundling so I like watching this so I can find my family one day
Good luck on your journey! I do think getting DNA from the ancestry sites might help in your journey as well. It might not, but it can't hurt to try. At the very least you'll have an idea of your general ancestry/where your biological ancestors hailed from on the map.
If I abandoned my child I wouldn’t want to be found. I think these people need to get the therapy they need so they can move on with their lives without their biological parents.
Father and mother abandoned them.
Interesting how people can just walk into a hospital and stay there for hours and no one checks thier identity. I went to the ER at the beginning of the year they had to check the hell out of my identity (ID card, insurance etc) before I was let out of the lobby and allowed to see a doctor. And then a 3000$+ bill. And I am/was not pregnant. That woman could just walk out unidentified after 12 hours without her baby?? Sounds fishy to me that they claim that they never checked her ID card, or SS# or whatever. They would do that with a car crash victim for gods sake, out of state visitor or not.
for the second story, he found is dad (and still talk to him)......for is mom (she told him to never called back)
I have a friend who was abandoned as a baby..
Where is part two
I am flabbergasted every time I hear someone ask the question why they were abandoned at birth or given up for adoption. Why? Is it not obvious that your birth mother or father or both do not have the ability to take care of you? Even if the answer is your birth mother or father or both didn't want you, you should be satisfied with the fact that a big effort was made to give you to a family who wants you and will take care of you. That's the only fact that matters. You're an adult now and feeling sorry for yourself even if you were raised well by your adoptive family is on you. Millions of aborted babies don't get to be born. For them I feel sad. I empathize with you but not when you take this chance to whine about your life which you are responsible for as an adult, adopted, abandoned or NOT.
I am not big on searching for parents.
It can be a coin toss. Some reunions can turn out good and some not.
You never know the circumstances...
Every one should have the right to know who their parents are. If they don't want to meet their child at least the child could reach out to other family members.
Ik that void-it makes ur heart sit in ur throat to the point where swallowing feels foreign..
Please stop leaving innocent babies to die where nobody could find them. Please please drop them off or even leave them where they could be found/rescued. ❤️ love to all