Omg, memories of early in relationship with my beloved of twenty years! Nearly every time I made 'a bid' to connect he would literally turn his back or even walk silently out of the room. Ouch, endlessly. I stayed and worked through my stuff. Today our mutual responsiveness is fantastic! immediate, connecting, loving, funny and fun - plus championing one another in life. Thank you Mr Gottman for your offerings and for reminding me of untold healing when, for once, I stayed.
Thanks for sharing the red flags. -The partner that dismisses your attempts to communicate -The neglectful partner who does not want to hear any of your problems just happy and smily days.
I came here for Gottman. But this one of the best podcast performances I’ve ever heard. Incredible preparation and detailed questions by the host. Really inspiring. A masterclass in how to make your guest shine
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This is excellent. I love this point!!.. 7:01 "it is totally wrong to lower your expectations, ...Research has proven them wrong. If you have low expectations that is what you will get!" LOVE
I thoroughly enjoyed this wonderful discussion!! Dr. Gottman explains things well and I am applying his advice in my relationship with great results, namely: better understanding, not taking every little thing so seriously, being more humorous, kind and loving with each other. That makes Love grow ❤️
Very helpful and positive energy input with words of hope in healing / repairing from bad history and difficult situations, where those couple who are feeling so unhappy, damaged, suffocating, stuck, suffering from a vicious circle reaction. And both still believe the love they have for each other. These frustrations and hurts are killing. It’s so sad indeed. Thank you .
This has been very helpful, i needed this words of guidance! Thank you for the referencing websites, books, etc that can further help us. I will be listening to Neil Sattin and John Gottman (and reading too) over and over again to learn and train myself how to do better so I can get better. Happiness may be possible after all! Thank you!!
Excellent excellent excellent ... I have learnt so much and my main question was answered at the end ( those with different conflict styles). Thank you so much :))
Hi @nancyhynes8775 - at the moment I'm having some technical issues on my website that are preventing the guide from being sent out. If you drop me a line through the contact form on neilsattin.com that you're looking for the gottman guide, I can get you a link to it once everything is fixed. Thanks!
My husband gets mad I cry. I cried because he doesnt even remember when we met anymore.I statred ctying he yelled oh my god I fint know why I bother voming jone! Didnt comgort or talk to me as usual stormed up yo jis room. He foesnt want to sleep in the same bed.Insensitive. i reach out please talk to me.Crying because of a shady phone call he goes oh my hod I came down for a drink of water and now Ive got to deal w this! Stop tgtosing up! I have to fokd my clotges now What the hell!Not true my husband said no all the time like a chick even when dating. I was deprived of sex for 35 yrs only when he decided.Not all woman are so not fun to awsys say no.
What about commitment and marriage VOWS.You kerp your bows and vommittments should be tge attitude. Im in this for life we will do whatever we have to do to fix this.
Omg, memories of early in relationship with my beloved of twenty years! Nearly every time I made 'a bid' to connect he would literally turn his back or even walk silently out of the room. Ouch, endlessly. I stayed and worked through my stuff. Today our mutual responsiveness is fantastic! immediate, connecting, loving, funny and fun - plus championing one another in life. Thank you Mr Gottman for your offerings and for reminding me of untold healing when, for once, I stayed.
Thanks for sharing the red flags.
-The partner that dismisses your attempts to communicate
-The neglectful partner who does not want to hear any of your problems just happy and smily days.
I came here for Gottman. But this one of the best podcast performances I’ve ever heard. Incredible preparation and detailed questions by the host. Really inspiring. A masterclass in how to make your guest shine
thanks @drainodrew!
It's nice to hear an interviewer that butts out and lets the expert talk. Decent questions.
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@@MrJonduz completely agree
This is excellent. I love this point!!.. 7:01 "it is totally wrong to lower your expectations, ...Research has proven them wrong. If you have low expectations that is what you will get!" LOVE
Thanks, kterbo!
I thoroughly enjoyed this wonderful discussion!!
Dr. Gottman explains things well and I am applying his advice in my relationship with great results, namely: better understanding, not taking every little thing so seriously, being more humorous, kind and loving with each other.
That makes Love grow ❤️
Very helpful and positive energy input with words of hope in healing / repairing from bad history and difficult situations, where those couple who are feeling so unhappy, damaged, suffocating, stuck, suffering from a vicious circle reaction. And both still believe the love they have for each other. These frustrations and hurts are killing. It’s so sad indeed. Thank you .
Wow Bob Levenson was my clinical psychology professor Spring 2016 ! Thank you for the upload
This has been very helpful, i needed this words of guidance! Thank you for the referencing websites, books, etc that can further help us. I will be listening to Neil Sattin and John Gottman (and reading too) over and over again to learn and train myself how to do better so I can get better. Happiness may be possible after all! Thank you!!
I just love this episode. I listen to it again and again. Thank you!
I love this "we need Responsibility as a speaker."
Excellent excellent excellent ... I have learnt so much and my main question was answered at the end ( those with different conflict styles). Thank you so much :))
I find this interview very eye opening and engaging
Amazing!!! Really opened my eyes!
I LOVE your channel, thank you very much for your great questions.. I’ll watch all the episodes ♥️♥️
Thank you. This is fascinating work. The part on bids to connect is so powerful.
35:22 Best relationship advice ever!
Thx Dr am following your theories
I'm going to end my relationship right now. Thanks!
John is good. Wish I heard about his work before.
9:24 good advice
Where is the Gottman guide?
Hi @nancyhynes8775 - at the moment I'm having some technical issues on my website that are preventing the guide from being sent out. If you drop me a line through the contact form on neilsattin.com that you're looking for the gottman guide, I can get you a link to it once everything is fixed. Thanks!
Did you get permission from the Railsplitters to use their music?
My husband gets mad I cry. I cried because he doesnt even remember when we met anymore.I statred ctying he yelled oh my god I fint know why I bother voming jone! Didnt comgort or talk to me as usual stormed up yo jis room. He foesnt want to sleep in the same bed.Insensitive. i reach out please talk to me.Crying because of a shady phone call he goes oh my hod I came down for a drink of water and now Ive got to deal w this! Stop tgtosing up! I have to fokd my clotges now What the hell!Not true my husband said no all the time like a chick even when dating. I was deprived of sex for 35 yrs only when he decided.Not all woman are so not fun to awsys say no.
What about commitment and marriage VOWS.You kerp your bows and vommittments should be tge attitude. Im in this for life we will do whatever we have to do to fix this.