CAN I REALLY START OVER AT 30??? / I WASTED MY 20s...

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  • čas přidán 4. 08. 2024
  • Hello Lovelies,
    Thank you for clicking to watch this video. It's about 3 weeks to my 32nd birthday, and I have been doing a lot of retrospective thinking about my past years, my mistakes and all.
    This video is about how I wasted my 20s due to bad decisions and choices, and how I came out of the feeling of regrets and tips for getting better. If you feel like you are in the same situation as I was, please kindly watch till the end. Thank you!
    I hope this video blesses you.
    Please like, share, comment and Subscribe!
    #bitterreality #wastedyears #mistakesofayounggirl #authenticity #keepingitreal #momlife #startingfresh #subscribe #bigyoutuber
    *TimeStamps*
    00:00 - 02:39 ; Intro
    02:40 - 09:26 ; Seeking Validation + Storytime
    09:27 - 10:38 ; Anxiety/Worry about the future
    10:39 - 12:40 ; Self investment
    12:41 - 15:56 ; Choosing Passion over Money
    15:57 - 17:04 ; Putting God first
    17:05 -21:04 Tips to start over +Outro
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    email: melaniebeloh25@gmail.com

Komentáře • 98

  • @monise_makes
    @monise_makes Před 27 dny +1

    Jesus! Amen. 👏🏻 can’t do anything without His help. I can tell a difference in my life and how I feel about myself when I don’t spend as much time with Him in prayer worship and meditating on His Word. Thank you for sharing all of these great points sis! ❤️

    • @MelanieBeloh
      @MelanieBeloh  Před 27 dny

      You are welcome sis. I'm glad you enjoyed watching ❤️

  • @NotBabeOrBiba
    @NotBabeOrBiba Před 18 dny

    Like 60!!! 😊😊😊😊😊😊 0:14 , gurllll you looking sooooo fabulous!!!! 🌟🌟✨✨✨✨✨liking the setting, the lighting the hair makeup, it all is top class!!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 1:26

  • @chamtyak4859
    @chamtyak4859 Před 26 dny

    I always say low self esteem is a disease. You dissected everything here. Kudos Mel

  • @Catherineochy
    @Catherineochy Před 27 dny +2

    Seeking Validation from outside or friends is a no, I pray for grace always not to seek for validation.
    I did that entrepreneurship years ago for my mom lol, I forced her to start business just because my friends were doing same for their parents and whenever I am with them they sell everything 😂 They love it when I am with them 😄
    True Entrepreneurship is not for everyone but it's good 👍
    Like you said, do what you have passion for, if not it will be years wasted doing something you don't like.
    God makes all things beautiful and I am grateful for His Mercies and Grace upon us.
    God created us and we are all special...and unique ❤️
    Let's seek His face at all times and pray regarding everything ❤️❤️

    • @MelanieBeloh
      @MelanieBeloh  Před 27 dny

      You're so right Cathy. Thank you so much for watching ❤

  • @lekeakankanyi8250
    @lekeakankanyi8250 Před 26 dny

    Yes o.
    Mel Boo, some deep realities here. Sometimes I also think I needed a knock on my head for the lost time. But thank God for bringing me into his light. Thank you for this video. My validation is only in Christ.

    • @MelanieBeloh
      @MelanieBeloh  Před 26 dny +1

      Exactly sis. Our validation is only in HIM. Thank you so much for watching 💕

  • @user-ql8vu5xy1p
    @user-ql8vu5xy1p Před 27 dny

    Investment is the best you can offer yourself as a young person ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @NotBabeOrBiba
    @NotBabeOrBiba Před 18 dny

    9:34 I can relate about anxiety!! This is such a beautiful videos Melanie, edit is beautiful 🤩!!!!

  • @Ijeomachigozie-
    @Ijeomachigozie- Před 26 dny

    Coming here from your short, Am also coming from an average home. I stood my ground to avoid friends making me feel less of my self, that your boyfriend is something else. Thank God you move on.
    I like your faith, professing your faith anywhere and time . Keep it up Sis💕

    • @MelanieBeloh
      @MelanieBeloh  Před 24 dny

      Thank you so much sis. We thank God for growth . ❤

  • @mamashandprint62
    @mamashandprint62 Před 24 dny

    Through Christ,everything is possible!!🙏🙏❤️.Life is definitely a learning experience..❤ 21:04

  • @alegrapowellonline
    @alegrapowellonline Před 17 dny

    Thanks for the insight

  • @BibicheL
    @BibicheL Před 8 dny

    Yes I do not need friends like that in my life no and I think you can start anything from any age as long as God allows it age is just a number thank you for sharing this amazing video ❤

  • @TheFavoured1
    @TheFavoured1 Před 19 dny

    Yes I agree with you❤

  • @Zannyskies
    @Zannyskies Před 24 dny

    Enjoyed this segment ❤

  • @XOASIMONE
    @XOASIMONE Před 27 dny

    Hey Mel baby…
    This hit home for me. I think a lot of younger people should hear this vlog. Lorrd knows I wish I had a second chance to go back and change things in my past.
    I’m so glad you realized that you didn’t need to seek validation in a man or your “friends”. If they couldn’t accept you for who you were they didn’t deserve to be in your life.
    Isn’t it funny that in our big ages we start to breakdown the things our parents tried to instill in us? I too wish I listened/followed.
    Kids these days are super impressionable and we didn’t really have social media the way they have it now. So now we must try to navigate them best we can so they don’t make the same “mistakes” that we did in our younger years.
    Great vlogs darling, thank you for sharing your truth!🫶🏽🩷

    • @MelanieBeloh
      @MelanieBeloh  Před 27 dny

      Awwn thank you Simone baby. I'm glad I'm not alone in this 😅❤

  • @madonahani5069
    @madonahani5069 Před 23 dny

    Wow great I enjoyed it❤

  • @Frances-corner
    @Frances-corner Před 27 dny +1

    Love this topic, I have been in that situation too, u ve said it all, I love where u said, if u had known God better, u would have done things differently, Big fact✅

    • @MelanieBeloh
      @MelanieBeloh  Před 27 dny

      Yes sis. God makes everything better. Thank you for watching

  • @user-ql8vu5xy1p
    @user-ql8vu5xy1p Před 27 dny

    That retracing of step is another hard step to take,some persons will just continue their way,I can totally relate to this piece, thanks for sharing.

    • @MelanieBeloh
      @MelanieBeloh  Před 27 dny

      Absolutely!! Thank you sis for watching ❤️ 😍

  • @thisandthatwithdranimwaa

    Beautiful video.
    Editing on point.
    God over everything.

  • @user-ky9mo1dp7v
    @user-ky9mo1dp7v Před 25 dny

    In life,a best lessen is not to compare .mow, u have to educate your siblings, and they will not fall into temptation ❤❤😢

  • @Ndabazabantu770
    @Ndabazabantu770 Před 26 dny

    Here for all the tips ❤. Seeking validation from wrong ppl 😢Young girls can be so crazy 😂😂😂breast enhancement creams 😂At least you had parents who provided for you. God bless them. Thank you for all the pearls of wisdom. Love this hair on you 😊

    • @MelanieBeloh
      @MelanieBeloh  Před 24 dny

      Breast enhancement, my sister 😅. Indeed we are grateful for parents. Thank you so much, sis 💓

  • @mimozetteenobi1071
    @mimozetteenobi1071 Před 19 dny

    Good videos keep it up sisi ❤❤❤

  • @Royal-Priesthood35
    @Royal-Priesthood35 Před 23 dny

    Hey Sis ❤
    This segment is amazing.. So informative.
    Thanks

  • @Catherineochy
    @Catherineochy Před 27 dny

    What an interesting topic and real life experience ❤❤

  • @Baking915
    @Baking915 Před 27 dny

    I can relate to most of this . Sometimes I feel if I could turn back time I definitely would. Sometimes we should be grateful with what we have. That's why all the wrong choices I made I don't want my kids to repeat. GOD IS A TRUE FRIEND WE CAN RELY ON. I ALWAYS SAY ONLY GOD CAN GIVE ME WHAT I NEED IN LIFE. THANKS FOR THIS VIDEO .❤❤❤

    • @MelanieBeloh
      @MelanieBeloh  Před 27 dny

      You are so right mama G. It's so good to give our children what we didn't have, amd help them make better choices. God is indeed good. thank you for watching ❤

  • @NengiWillie
    @NengiWillie Před 27 dny

    Thanks so much Mel for sharing your personal story snd for these encouraging words.
    God is first!
    We can't seek validation from men.
    Doing what we truly love in regards to career is so important.
    Thank you dear Mel❤❤❤

    • @MelanieBeloh
      @MelanieBeloh  Před 27 dny

      You are so welcome sis. Thanky you too for watching

  • @Mscocomera
    @Mscocomera Před 27 dny

    I am guessing what the last point is.....I couldn't help myself commenting! What a beautifully presented video! The lighting is perfect, I can see the effort in the editing which is well done! I was never the child to experience it myself, I learn from others so if I had had access to this information in my 20s I would definitely listen! TFS! 21:00

    • @MelanieBeloh
      @MelanieBeloh  Před 27 dny

      Thank you so much, Mama. I'm trying to get better with editing, and im glad that you noticed. I'm happy you were an obedient young girl.. some of us were stubborn 😆

  • @mamashandprint62
    @mamashandprint62 Před 24 dny

    This is such an interesting and informative vlog. Many young people will definitely benefit from this.. Self-esteem can be troubling if not developed properly.. Passion can be so satisfying.. Thanks for your time! Blessings ❤❤

  • @monise_makes
    @monise_makes Před 27 dny

    Love this Mel! So much wisdom being shared ❤️

  • @thisandthatwithdranimwaa

    I am happy to see you back 🤗
    You wanted to learn from your own experiences- interesting!

  • @AINwithDrAmi
    @AINwithDrAmi Před 27 dny

    Exactly, putting God first is so important. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. 💖
    Thanks for sharing your personal experience with us. God's plan is to prosper us . 21:02

  • @sashidreamchaser8530
    @sashidreamchaser8530 Před 27 dny

    You go sis editing on point❤

    • @MelanieBeloh
      @MelanieBeloh  Před 26 dny

      Thank you sis . Your girl is trying ☺️

  • @user-ql8vu5xy1p
    @user-ql8vu5xy1p Před 27 dny

    Thank God for God,he makes everything bright in it's time

  • @Annieskitchenandlifestyle88

    Waow,this vlog is indeed different from other ones,we should try as parents to teach our kids about self esteem not letting anyone makes us feel inferior and it’s good we do what we have passion for,above all God has us covered.

    • @MelanieBeloh
      @MelanieBeloh  Před 23 dny

      Indeed sis. God is the greatest. Thank you for coming ❤

  • @LISATV196
    @LISATV196 Před 27 dny

    This topic, wow, this hit, thanks for sharing mel ❤

  • @o.s.a.s.u
    @o.s.a.s.u Před 25 dny

    Love this video! ❤ Great job with the editing.👏🏽

    • @MelanieBeloh
      @MelanieBeloh  Před 24 dny

      Awwn, thank you so much sis. This means alot to you. EYM to the world by Gods grace...😅🌎 ❤️

  • @Catherineochy
    @Catherineochy Před 27 dny

    Thank you for sharing your experience Mel ❤ Thank God for growth and His grace.

    • @MelanieBeloh
      @MelanieBeloh  Před 26 dny

      Amen Cathy 💕 . Thank you for watching too

  • @ElizabethMathekga
    @ElizabethMathekga Před 26 dny

    12:20 that’s true Sis, the times we are living in requires one to have multiple streams of income

  • @theonaghisefamily
    @theonaghisefamily Před 27 dny

    Wow wow wow much loaded information. Firstly it's a good thing that you are able to identify your weaknesses by seeking validation.
    Love your body we were all created in his image and likeness ❤
    Be Anxious for nothing but with prayer supplications and thanksgiving let your request be made known to God. Phil 4:6.
    Entrepreneurship is not Easy. More grease to those doing that passionately.
    Thanks for sharing sis❤

    • @MelanieBeloh
      @MelanieBeloh  Před 26 dny

      Yes sis. I'm happy you found this insightful . Thank you for watching ❤️

  • @sashidreamchaser8530
    @sashidreamchaser8530 Před 27 dny

    So happy you Posted this video sis, now that I'm an adult and understands life more, I've been asking myself lately why I tried to fit in, I was so uncomfortable with some of the choices I made just because I tried to fit in, if I could change one thing about my teenage years it would be trying to fit in, I was so comfortable with the nerds and the low key kids, they were my crowd but I choose popularity over what was best for me. Thanks for sharing ❤

    • @MelanieBeloh
      @MelanieBeloh  Před 26 dny

      Indeed sis. It's not worth it...trying to fit in is not necessary especially because we can't be the same as others, we are all different and beautiful in our own ways❤

  • @mbalimorake
    @mbalimorake Před 26 dny

    Here sis ❤❤

    • @MelanieBeloh
      @MelanieBeloh  Před 24 dny

      Thanks for coming sis . I appreciate 💛

  • @ElizabethMathekga
    @ElizabethMathekga Před 26 dny

    Hi Sis, am here❤

  • @ItzsimpleLindi
    @ItzsimpleLindi Před 25 dny

    Woooow tht was so informative and exciting to listen Melanie ❤❤❤❤ Broll so on the highest level my darling

  • @Dirceria
    @Dirceria Před 27 dny

    Beautiful!!!
    God is amazing!!🙏🌿🌻🌿🌻

    • @MelanieBeloh
      @MelanieBeloh  Před 26 dny

      Yes indeed . Thank you for watching ❤️

  • @TameraXone
    @TameraXone Před 27 dny

    Dearest Melanie,
    You've hit so many hard points to which many of us can relate. I too was fearful of what others would say and I believe that is something we actually grow out of. Boy, you must have really loved that dude hehehehe. They say love is blind in one eye and barely seeing out of the other! You are still in a great position to start over and do YOU! God above all else; if we seek Him first, scripture says all other things will be added unto us. Smile I agree that you must do what you love. Choose passion over money. Whomever told you that must be very smart! wink wink. I came from humble beginnings and that has impacted how I live today in a POSITIVE way! Thanks for sharing your experience. 20:56

    • @MelanieBeloh
      @MelanieBeloh  Před 26 dny

      I really loved that dude mama😂. Indeed , we are grateful for the privilege of beginning anew 😊. Thank you so much for watching ❤

  • @thisandthatwithdranimwaa

    6:42 You flee from guys like that. If he wants a girl with a specific physique, he should go for that type of girl. Well… you learn from experience. I am glad you learned and you are sharing.
    9:40 People don’t know how anxiety is dangerous and it can creep into your life subtly. And it steals your joy.

  • @NotBabeOrBiba
    @NotBabeOrBiba Před 18 dny

    16:10 yes I know how much in love you are with our Lord. 😊 17:12 don’t beat up yourself our pass makes us who we are today, all things Happen in its own time, what is yours will be yours 🌟🌟✨✨✨✨. Never regret your past, it molds you, it’s that past that have brought you to such beautiful enlightenment and strength 😊 19:00 ….. God Bless 😊 20:49

  • @FameRose77
    @FameRose77 Před 27 dny

    I can't laugh 😂 about the story,
    I love this, i wasn't worried about my background, but i gave myself more support. But not growing up with dad affected me ...
    Topic 💯

    • @MelanieBeloh
      @MelanieBeloh  Před 27 dny +1

      Awwn so sorry about your dad sis. Thank you so much ❤

    • @FameRose77
      @FameRose77 Před 27 dny

      @@MelanieBeloh 😘😘😘

  • @AINwithDrAmi
    @AINwithDrAmi Před 27 dny

    My sister is here. Hello beautiful ❤

  • @DonnaDesigns
    @DonnaDesigns Před 27 dny

    Hi, Melanie, Beauty is inner deep from your heart which you have. Validation comes from yourself & God.Its never too late to change or try something different or new. We are all always learning & growing.God gives us what we need. We all have made some wrong decisions or didn't do it how we thought we should of. This is how we learn from.our mistakes. It's all part of the journey. Always go forward & never look back.Embrace the now & Enjoy this journey your on. Yes passion is the way to go but I feel we all get caught up about the money sometimes.I have faith in you & you will continue to grow & go after what your passionate about. Your a beautiful person inside & out , a wonderful Mom & your doing Great. Appreciate your story & honesty.With your faith & positivity your going places .Just keep believing & you will shine.🌝🩷💕

    • @MelanieBeloh
      @MelanieBeloh  Před 26 dny

      Amen mama Donna. I'm grateful for your wonderful words. I appreciate you. Thank you for watching Mama ❤️

    • @DonnaDesigns
      @DonnaDesigns Před 26 dny

      @@MelanieBeloh Your Very Welcome Honey.🌝💗💕

  • @Zinnys_Diary
    @Zinnys_Diary Před 24 dny

    New subscriber 🎉 Wow, I enjoyed this discussion 😊your editing is nice 😍 please how do you get those external clips.

  • @madonahani5069
    @madonahani5069 Před 23 dny

    Like ❤

  • @sashidreamchaser8530
    @sashidreamchaser8530 Před 27 dny

    14:15 I experienced that the hard way, I loved doing hair and wanted to go to beauty school so bad I registered and everything. I never forget I went to look for my friend and her mom asked me what I'm gonna do next since I finished high school I told her hairdressing, she discouraged me saying I'm not going to make alot of money and thats a not a good choice I should do nursing, since my friends was doing the same, I said ok signed up for nursing school, hated it wasted my time since I was attending with my friends and wasted money smh, my next semester I ended getting pregnant with my son, so I stopped going to school. Not choosing my passion is the biggest mistake I ever made, lessons learnt not because somethings doesn't work out for someone doesn't mean it won't for you and not all advice is good advice, my friend mom was a hairdresser herself and it was not working out for her

    • @sashidreamchaser8530
      @sashidreamchaser8530 Před 27 dny

      Hence why she gave me that advice😮

    • @MelanieBeloh
      @MelanieBeloh  Před 26 dny

      Oh no! I'm so sorry to hear about this sis. Your friend's Mama gave you an advice based on her experience, forgetting we all are not the same. The good thing is we had AJ out of all those years in nursing school, so it was a blessing in disguise. I'll encourage you to start making baby steps towards reaching your goal of becoming a hairdresser and make your friends mum proud by becoming a great and passionate one . Wishing you all the best Sashi sis❤

  • @xonesworld
    @xonesworld Před 27 dny

    I’m listening to

  • @AINwithDrAmi
    @AINwithDrAmi Před 27 dny

    You are so so beautiful. God bless you daddy and mom. Oh mine, insecurities. In secondary school a friend lied about her real parents and even where she lived. We found out and trolled her. She became uncomfortable in school. Imagine.
    Oh mine 7:17
    Mama are you listening 7:46. Hmmmm. A cream 😮. OMG
    Daddy where are you ?
    Some mistakes you look back and say what was wrong with me? Come see us now. God is faithful
    Be anxious about nothing for God got us. God holds our future.
    Investing is something we need to learn very early. Our parents were doing very well with multiple income streams.
    I agree sis 12:24
    The editing is improved a lot. Keep it up, sis

    • @MelanieBeloh
      @MelanieBeloh  Před 26 dny

      Hahaha thank you so much mama Larry. We thank God for growth and improvement. We are really grateful for mummy and daddy .
      You guys trolled your friend? You all were not nice😅. I hope my friends didn't troll me too.
      I appreciate you for watching ❤️ 👀

  • @xonebell3340
    @xonebell3340 Před 27 dny

    I will nor seek validation from people.

    • @MelanieBeloh
      @MelanieBeloh  Před 26 dny

      Yes baby. Our validation should come only from Our father God. Thank you for watching ❤

  • @user-ql8vu5xy1p
    @user-ql8vu5xy1p Před 27 dny

    This is sommies corner in another house

  • @xonesworld
    @xonesworld Před 27 dny

    😂😂😂😂hooray to no curfew 1:03

  • @BkrBdn
    @BkrBdn Před 5 dny

    Karibu.. Oli otya?

  • @FatemeLife
    @FatemeLife Před 24 dny

    Hey there Mel☺
    I love your new vlog🦋
    Your videos are getting better each time and I enjoy watching them till the end. 🌷🌷🌷
    Happy new week, and Thank you🌷🌷
    Fateme Life ૮꒰ྀི⸝⸝•⁠ᴗ⁠•⸝⸝꒱ྀིა

  • @chamtyak4859
    @chamtyak4859 Před 26 dny

    I always say low self esteem is a disease. You dissected everything here. Kudos Mel

    • @MelanieBeloh
      @MelanieBeloh  Před 24 dny

      Thank you so much Chamty . I appreciate 🙏