What is the Biggest Lesson You Learned? (Part 1)
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- čas přidán 23. 07. 2024
- It's our one year anniversary today, and we decided to do some reflections in the form of the Q&A video that we shot on our wedding day. Have a great Friday, everyone!
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Halo semua! Nama gua Zhafira, seorang mahasiswa tingkat 4 di Osaka University, Jepang. Saat ini gua sedang berkutat belajar membalance mengerjakan skripsi, magang, aktif organisasi, dan menjadi istri at the same time. Minta doanya agar gua tetep semangat yaa!
00:00 Introduction
01:21 What is the one thing that made you surprised about me?
03:16 What is the biggest lesson you have learned so far?
08:02 If I'm stranded in a remote island what are the three things I would bring?
12:19 Did marriage life turn out like how you expected it to be?
#ArrangedMarriage
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1:21 What is the one thing that made you surprised about me?
3:16 What is the biggest lesson you have learned so far?
8:02 If I'm stranded in a remote island what are the three things I would bring?
12:19 Did marriage life turn out like how you expected it to be?
Semangat yah Zhaf , jaga kesehatan jg ❤
czcams.com/video/yfEdhlBuxCU/video.html kak di caption-in kak supaya mudah diklik. Maaf tdk bermaksud sok, ya kakak.
@@keluargapakmemed8113 Terima kasih!
@@Zhafiraiha syg kaka Lillahi
Saling melengkapi..... kak Zhafi untuk kak Syafiq, dan sebaliknya kak Syafiq untuk kak Zhafi.......
Entah kenapa aku suka bgt liat mereka:") sama2 pinter, saling support, produktif bareng, agamanya jg baik❤🥺 kaya saling ngaca🥺❤🥲masyaa Allah Semoga yg belum menikah mendapatkanpasangan yg shalih dan shalihah
Aamiin
Aamiin
Aamiin
Aminnn
Aamiin
Pembicaraan yg di inginkan pasangan sebenarnya kek gini , nyaman bgt mengutarakan sesuatu , memahami yg di butuhkan satu sama lain , menjadi pendengar yang baik :"
Betul sihhhh ini
iya bener..
♥️
Yapp
dan ....aku ingin kamu selalu di dekatku
I just can't stop smiling for the whole video, wish I can find someone right for me one day, sharing and loving each other like you guys do ❤
yeah me too
Aamiin
Me too inshAllah
The way kak Syafiq look at kak Zha speaking throughout the video shows how grateful he is to have kak Zha. I wish i have another ka Syafiq for me in the future.
This is the most realistic marriage couple conversations i ever watched and learned. Thank you
You guys are really young so please don’t compare yourself to other couples. The first year of marriage will always be the hardest year for couples who go through arranged marriage. However with time you’ll find that it gets better as you discover more things to love about each other. Most of my family went through arranged marriages and this has been the case for the majority of them
Gatau lagi bingung nyusun kata kata nya dahal di otak numpuk bgt. Pokonya salut bgt si, atas keterbukaan mereka satu sama lain dg cara yang lain dari yang lain. I think it's unix. And i love it
My hope : One day we will meet, zhaf. Lagi kerja keras banget nih biar bisa sampai di posisi yg ku 'impikan'. Selalu jaga kesehatan ya ♥
masyaaAllah, aamiin
Aaamiin kak, pengen ketemu kak zhaf juga do titik terbaik
Terima kasih ka zhafira sudah membuktikan jangan pernah meminta pasangan yang baik tapi kita juga harus memperbaiki diri😊
"The reason why we make a plan is so that you always know where to go back to in case things go wrong somewhere in the middle."
Take care kak 🤍🤍🤍 happy anniversary !!!! Doakan yang baik baik buat kalian 🤲🏻
We need a 2 year anniversary version! You two are the cutest couple MashaAllah 🌸
This is really another level. Out of my league. Your way of thinking alwaays blow my mind. God bless you two and your marriage :)
The algorithm of CZcams brought me to see this video, and despite of this video that showed up first, but I end up sightseeing your other videos as well that somehow make me feel something is motivated me more now. I really sightseeing like more than two hours already. Fortunately, your content the one that I absolutely will subscribe, something in line that, 'I never knew before that I need this content until I find it'. Thank you Zhafi!
This video made me realise that you really cant compare yourself to others. I see kak zhaf life as "the grass is always greener on the other side" kinda thing but she does struggles a lot and finally got time to chill after what has she went through!! Propss to u kaaakkk
Zhafi dan syafik kayanya Kalian terlalu serius banget, rileks dikit jangan terlalu serius😁. Romantis2 dengan becandain satu sama lain itu perlu loh biar lebih cair... Kalian itu goals couple dengan penuh ambisi dan semangat belajar, kalo kita yang terlalu santai kali ya 😀😀😀. Mudah2n langgeng hingga jannahNya Aamiiin
True, Terlalu serius
Nggak kok. Ada becandanya. Justru aku malah suka kayak kak syafik dan kak zha. Dr pada terlalu banyak haha hihi gk jelas. Mending kayak kak zha dan kak syafiq, pas, ada becandanya ada seriusnya.
Trueeeee
mungkin mereka dibelakang layar jga bercandaan kok tp emg gamau aja dimasukin ke kamera karna juga “buat apa?”
@@minarti4880 sama bgt, serius-bercandanya kadarnya segini sih aku malah suka. Kebanyakan nyocol malah berasa ga jelas wkkww. Ya gitu, selera humor org beda2 👍
I'm happy seeing you two! Sering2 kak bikin konten berdua sosweet nyengir2 aku nya hopefully langgeng sampe kakek nenek
Already a year? Wow. Time flies really fast 😳
Looking forward to watching it kak zhaf ! ✨
Mengutarakan sesuatu yang kurang dari pasangan pake bahasa enggres kayak lebih sopan gitu ya, coba kalo bahasa indo. Kek gmn gitu hihihi. Next aku sama pasangan pake Bahasa Arab.. aamiin
Iyaa bener jg yaa mbah hihi, masyaaAllah pake bhs arab
Aaa barakallah Kak Zhaf and Kak Syafiq!! I think "romantic" is relative, everyone has a different pov about this. And for me, u2 guys are the sweetest couple in my taste xD May good things always be with you all
MasyaAllah, Tabarakallah.... Seneng bgtt liat kak zhaf sm kak syafiq bikin gini
Smga bahagia terus kak❤
SaMaWa, Langgeng Dunia akhirat 🌼
Masya Allah couple goals banget sih ini mah
I am glad I came across your channel and this video as well, this is really an eye-opening video. I would love to grow to be someone like you and have these amazing personalities. You have so much positivity in you, thoughtful mind, and that makes you an inspiration for me. I don't have great example of a marriage as my parents are quite toxic, so this is video really taught me that honest conversation between couple is important and it's possible to do it without hurting your partner.
Romansa dengan pasangan sangat2 penting dalam perkawinan..sekedar pelukan hangat dipagi hari,saying i love you sebelum tidur dan hal2 kecil manis lainnya akan jadi penguat sekaligus penyejuk hati sebelum dan setelah kita menghadapi kerasnya dunia kerja atau sibuknya kegiatan mengurus buah hati kita kelak...romansa dengan suami/istri jg ibadah dalam perkawinan karena membuat pasangan kita bahagia,kehidupan perkawinan jadi menyenangkan dan jg tidak terasa "kering" ..
Salam sayang buat kalian..😚
(13 tahun menikah dan punya 4 anak )
Komen ini mengandung banyak pelajaran
(8 tahun menikah. Dikaruniai 2 putri)
sudah setahun aja padahal kayak baru kemaren senyum2 sendiri liat qna kalian yang waktu hari-h nikah.. langgeng terus ya
Come across to your channel and I want to say how positive and mature you are. I love how you think and positive. Stay strong to the both of you! Have a happy marriage 💗
I always feel positive vibes from you guys.
Happy Anniversary, Guys.
May Allah bless your marriage
Guys u re amazing ! It's the first time i come across of your videos , I wish if u make more english videos ! It is genuis to discuss such topics ,keeeeep going and i am big faaan
MasyaAllah happy anniv kak zha dan kak syafiq!! selalu seneng bgt liat kalian berdua sama-sama pinter dan bisa dukung satu sama lain 🥺❤️
zhaf maaf kalo salah fokus tpi kerudung yg ini cantikk, cocok di kamuu
i am so excited wacth this however very late i watch but i hope i can be person like kak Zhaf and kak Syafiq. You are the best public speaker dan kalian selalu mengedepankan Allah dari sesuatu yang lain MasyaaAllah..
Zha you're really amazing you do all the things at the same time. so inspiring us
Zha kalian keren .... its a good start ... its good to talk apa yg kurang dlm pernikahan (romantic side). Kamu hebat .... semoga kalian berdua bisa menemukan saat2 itu... masih malu2 kayaknya siy ..... but its okay .. you can tell pasanganmu " what do u want" " how you exactly want it " .... semangatt!!!
Masyaa Allah, kak.. Aku suka banget sama kalian berdua *love love*
Semoga selalu dilimpahkan rahmat dan keberkahan oleh Allah
Kog gemeeess bangeet yaa liat kalian berdua ngobrol 😍😍😍, jd kepo pengen liat vids aslinya sblm dipotong2 for the sake of public consumption wkwkwk 😅😅
I can listen to her for 1 hour ..
she talks so nicely .. a writer , a poet so cute
hihi gemes bgt wkwwk, gasanggup nonton sampai habiss 😂😂
Ka terimakasih, sungguh akun ini sangat meng-inspirasi. Sehat2 ka.
happy anniversarry to this cute cute couple! stay happy and healthy you both!! ^_^
thank you zha, kak syafiq. this video answered the heavy load in my chest.
Then I also realise what expectation is.. It takes time to grow~ 🙂🌱 exactly~
Cant waiittt.... Pasti jawaban jawabannya bisaa jadi pertimbangan sebelum menikah wkwk
senang banget deh liatnya,pasangan yang sangat dewasa dan menginspirasi
can't wait for part two ka zhaa ^^
Baraka Allah lakoma
I wish you a happy life ,beautiful couple. 🥰🥰
I can't wait for part 2
Kak zhaf Kak Shafiq Happy anniversary🤩 Barakallahufikum. But why every your word are touchy🥺😅 thank you for made this video
Kak Zafira Ccocok banget sama Kak Syafiq ... Sehat dan bahagia terus ya kak
Masyaallah, sukak banget liatnya😍
I love your fashion style..It so nice and modest.😁
Sehat selalu kak Zhafira dan kak Syafiq😁
Wuaaaa ga sabaarrrrrr 😍😍
Arghhh seneng bgt liat konten nya ka Zhaf
I love her English accent so muchhhh 😍
Baarakallahu fiikum, semoga Allah selalu melimpahkan rahmat dan keberkahan untuk keluarga ini. Semoga Allah juga memberikan suasana sakinah mawaddah wa rahmah buat keluarga kakak ✨, aamiin.
Aamiin ya Rabb
Is it just me or your faces look really similar 😁😁 can't wait for the premier🔥🔥
Waw ga kerasa udh satu tahun, padahal berasa kemaren aku ngikutin nikahan kak zhaf kemaren
tbh, the way she speak is so nice 😍
Part two, please :)
Hello neighbors!...mabuhay! you guys are cute😍...at your young age you look mature. Communication is really essential in a marriage life. Cheers🥂 & god bless you both.
Kalo nonton beginian sok hayang kabita jadina teh:')
Smoga soon bisa meet jodoh abi dimana Ya Allah
he is so respectful to her,u can tellfrom his eyes....
Nonton kakak sekaligus belajar bahasa Inggris juga, hehe.
Ga pernah bosen liat video kak zhaf 🤍
HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!
I love the way you wear your hijab, it suits you so well!!!
Selesai nontn yt pasti liatin likes dan dislikesnya baru kali inii habis nonton liat video yg 0 dislike. Btw time flies ka zha, semogaa bahagia selalu ka!
Hi!
I watched your chit chat ep 4 and watched this video. I hope you gonna read this, aamiin.
First, i do appreciate your decision for having an arranged marriage. I could say, you did ta'aruf in your arranged marriage which is in true path of god. I can't agree anymore!
Second, i am interested to your last point about romantic thing in this video and about love in your chat chat ep 4 video. But i have a question for that, Have you ever done "sunnah" in your marriage?
Sunnah dalam pernikahan ada banyak seperti memanggil dengan sebutan yang menyenangkan, it isn't like "kak syafiq" or "zhafira". It should be like, sayang or any other. Maybe it could help since aku liatnya bbrp kali lebih manggil kak/nama daripada panggilan sayang. Mungkin ini sekedar "panggilan" yaa tapi when it sunnah, i am pretty sure it helps you to feel love more and be more romantic.
The second thing, gombalan itu perlu HAHAHAHA. It might sound cringe but it needs. That's why there is a kajian bahwa being a romantic husband isn't optional but it is something that should be done.
Third, love is something that comes from heart not head. You know what? Even a candle light dinner may leave nothing to our heart if we value it with our head. "Oh dia nyiapin ini. Bagus ya" sekedar bagus di mulut, respect all the effort, tapi gak berbekas di hati. Hiks hiks hiks.
Keempat, coba baca buku "5 language of love" alias 5 bahasa kasih. Disitu bisa saling menemukan 2 potential bahasa kasih masing masing supaya bisa saling memahami satu sama lain. Jangan jangan selama ini sudah saling romantis tapi karena berbeda bahasa kasih jadi gak nyambung. Misal kak syafiq bahasa kasihnya dominan pelayanan dan physical touch trus zhafira bahasa kasihnya dominan kata cinta dan quality time, gak ketemu kalo gak saling ngerti. Kenapa? Bagi kak syafiq, bantu pekerjaan rumah itu bentuk cintanya ke kak zhafira ... Bagi kak syafiq, physical touch after marriage itu bentuk cinta yg diberikan ke kak zhafira ... Tapi kak zhafira ngerada biasa aja akan semua itu karena kak zhafira baru merasa dicintai kalo kak syafiq spending quality time bersama~ kak syafiq ngeluarin kata kata affirmation ke zhafira ... Kenapa? Apa zhafira yang salah? Enggak, karena memang love languagenya zhafira itu quality time dan words of affirmation ... Makanya perlu saling mengerti love language pasangan supaya tahu dan bisa saling memahami ... Begitupun sebaliknya, bisa jadi worda of affirmation dan quality time yg diberikan zhafira bisa jadi gak ketangkep jelas sinyalnya ke kak syafiq karena bahasa kasihnya kak syafiq bukan itu...
Intinya mah, there are a lot of "sunnah" yang bisa bikin makin cinta, merasa dicintai dan lebih melekat lagi. There is one thing that you should know zhafira dan kak syafiq: pilihan kalian untuk menikah karena ibadah dan hanya mengobrol hal hal penting saat taaruf bahkan menjelang menikah adalah hal yang bikin Allah seneng dan berada di jalannya Allah. Setelahnya, Allah pasti bantu kalian saling mencintai as a gift and i am pretty sure about that. Why? Allah yang pegang hati kalian berdua. Allah could make both of you fall in love in a second but sometimes you need an effort to reach it.
May Allah gives both you samawa's life ... Aamiin
(Btw, ini komen panjang karena pengen aja. Kalo ada salah salahnya mohon maaf karena saya hanya manusia biasa hehehe. I just want to chit chat aja hehehe)
Suka banget bacanya🌻
I appreciate the long message!! Thank you so much untuk semua masukannya, I assure you we were a lot more cringe in this video (which I cut out as they are private and not for public consumption) 😉
I screenshot this comments 🙃 idk.. but yeaaa i did it.. thankyou Shofi :') may u have a good day and good life
Really enjoy this conversation Zhaf. Got so many insight. Thank you. This is so out of context but I like the pronounciation when both of you speak english 🤣
Ciieeee… ciieee anniv pertamaa 😉😉
suka banget liatnya!
Ya Allah Anak2nya pasti jenius... amin... keren loh mereka inih 🤩🤩
Gambar Pak Habibie dan Bu ainun jika beliau muda dizaman sekarang, semoga saya bisa bertemu Ainun saya secepatnya
Aamiin
❤️❤️ Love you both...
Kak Zhaf kapan bikin video kek gini lg ?
Di tunggu part 2 nya kaa
😍😍😍
I hope that one day I'll have a life partner that can be my husband also my friend to live this life together, talking each other and understand each other's need. Maybe, like you two did. Aamiin ✨🤲
Smrg, Oct 25, 2021
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MasyaAllah definisi mirip itu emng ada dan bener sih
Menyejukkan hati ♡
Zhafiiiiii I adore you a lot 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
Masya Allah suka bgt liat pasangan ini 😭
Happy to see you guyss❤️🤍!! May Jesus bless you!
please keep your videos in english ( much love from Morocco)
Zhafira is my therapist fr
Kak zhafi house tour kak, kepo gw 😁 moga d baca Aamiin..
Hihiw sebenernya kaya begini aja udah romantic siii
Bener. Malahan kalau aniv nya diisi deep talk kayak gini jadi lebih berkesan 😊
Pengen ketemu Zhafi pas ke malang suatu saat yaa
I love couple content like this kak. Am i wrong(?) BarakAllah kak zhaf dan bang syafiq.
Really like the conversation 🤗 thanks for sharing ❤️
Adem ya liatnya😊😊
i think that its because you both comfortable with each other thats why the romantic stuff is not as in your face explosive. you guys vibe like you being married for 10 years already
Love you love you🥰🥰🤗🤗from Bangladesh 🇧🇩🇧🇩
tapi hal romantis yg dilihat penonton adalah ketika suami mendengarkan ketika dirimu bicara dan selalu melihat mu tanpa menoleh itu sangat romantis dibandingkan membawa oleh2 bunga
cutest!
love it
Hello, I'm amazed at how much you achieved in your life and one of them is your marriage. Because you get married during a young age so I would like to learn from you on what you prepare for yourself before that (ex. Finance/emotional intelligence/ islamic knowledge/ faith etc). Thank youu.
They look alike ❤