Why this Indian-American marriage lasted 44+ years
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While interfaith marriages are gaining prominence now, Mr. and Mrs. Nanda had an intercultural and interfaith marriage in the 70s when it was practically unheard of.
They also cover how they raised kids with two different faiths and what really made it work despite so many differences.
Tune in to watch their journey of 44 years to a beautiful, fulfilling marriage.
00:00 - 00:27 Precap
00:28 - 00:58 - Introduction
00:59 - 02:15 - First meet
02:16 - 3:23 - Date on the beach
3:24 - 4:06 - Long-distance romance
04:07 - 06:10 - First impressions
06:11 - 09:09 - Evaluating compatibility
09:10 - 12:03 - Difference cultures
12:04 - 13:37 - Meeting the parents
13:38 - 16:37 - Shared values
16:38 - 19:41 - Keeping the spark alive
19:42 - 20:58 - Relationship rituals
20:59 - 22:53 - Favorite memory
22:54 - 25:14 - Most cherished quality
25:15 - 26:55 - Advice for daughters
26:56 - 28:05 - Regrets?
28:06 - 28:57 - Having an ambitious partner
28:58 - 33:10 - Rapid fire
33:11 - 34:28 - Outro
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Tolerance of both religions is such a beautiful thing that keep you together.
Absolutely!
I hate the word tolerance in such cases; here it must be mutual love and mutual respect. You "tolerate" nuisance and bad habits..Well, since nobody is perfect, i guess, maybe, a dash of "tolerance" too her and there, now and then, wld be.. required too..
Indian religion and traditions are extremely difficult. So are Arab traditions.
So women who can kerp up with those are very strong
@@piapp9503 lmao nothing as such..stop misinforming people
Tolerance is negative word. Acceptance of each other way of life is right thing
I met Nirmala in graduate school in 1973. We married in 1976. I'm a Catholic from the US, and she is an upper-caste Hindu from southern India. I've never tried to make her do anything that she hasn't wanted to do, and I've tried to be supportive in all of her endeavors. We're looking forward to our 50th anniversary and beyond.
No need to mention caste. Caste should have nothing to do with your harmony.
Are your children Catholic or Hindu?
What a wonderful story, congratulations to you both
You mean you are white upper casta Catholic from the US
Caste😂😂😂
I’m Indian married to a maxican woman for 45 years- Kapil came to my wedding in 1979 - Kapil and Margaret have been our long time friends and are very nice couples- Rajesh and Lisa
My late wife Barbara and I met at the company where we both worked. She was an American and I an Indian from the south. We were married for 25 years. She passed away due to complications of pneumonia. She was the best thing that happened to me. Religion didn’t matter to us. Her parents welcomed me with open arms. I miss Barbara very much.
Your story is beautiful. Thank you for sharing this with us!
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Hi am a born Jamaican Indian lady. Yes we have Indians in Jamaica. We and black grow as one. My husband is a black Jamaican man. We are married over 46 yrs. Yes sometimes not all perfect. Which marriage don’t. People look at us and can’t believe and how good we look. Blessing to all. 🙏🙏🥹🥹
My husband an I are married for 54yrs I am a trinidadian Indian an he is black mixed negro an Spanish we have seven children 10 grand an 2 great grand an all our children are highly educated with good jobs which we were not but we made sacrifices to make sure they had good education children had d best education
LIVING BEING IS OUR RACE,MANKIND IS OUR RELIGION HINDU,MUSLIM,SIKH,CRISTAIN,THERE IS NO SEPARATE RELIGION
ALMIGHTY GOD KABIR is the father of all souls that JESUS, MOHAMMAD, GURU NANAK, VEDH was telling in BIBLE, QURAN, GURU GRANTHA SAHEB
KAAVEER in HINDU VEDA
Mantra Sankhya 1400 Samveda Utarchik Adhyay no.12 Khand no. 3 Shloka no. 5 says that the Supreme God Kabir manifests on Earth to spread awareness about the correct spiritual knowledge by means of His Shabdavali:
“Bhadra vastra samanya3vasaano mahaan kavirnivachnani shansan ||
Aa vachyasv chamvoH pooymaano vichakshano jaagrvirdevveetau|| 5||
Bhadra - vastra - samanya - vasaanH - mahaan - Kavir - nivachnani - shansan - aavachyasv - chamvoH - pooymaanH - vichakshanH - jagrviH - Dev - veetau||
Translation: (VichakshanH) Clever people (aavachyasv) through their speeches, instead of telling the true path of the way of worship of Purna Brahm, by directing towards the worship of others, in place of nectar, (pooymaanH) pus from a boil in the form of the worship of others [like, ghost-worship, Pitra-worship, worship of the three gunas {Rajgun-Brahma, Satgun-Vishnu, Tamgun-Shankar} and worship of Brahm-Kaal] (chamvoH) are respectfully making sip the wrong knowledge (bhadra) the supremehappiness-giving (mahaan Kavir ) Supreme God Kabir (vastra) in a body in an ordinary attire i.e. {the meaning of 'vastra' is 'attire' - in saint language, it is also called 'chola'. Chola means body. Like, if a saint leaves his body, then it is said that Mahatma has left his chola}, (samanya) acquiring another body made up of mass of lights [tejpunj] similar to that of Satyalok (vasaanH) by spending life like a common man and living in the world for a few days (nivachnani) by means of his Shabdavali1 , the true knowledge (shansan ) by explaining (Dev) of the Supreme God (veetau) hidden Sargun-Nirgun knowledge (jagrviH) awakens/brings awareness about.❤
Who is complete God according to ORTHODOX JEWISH BIBLE?
Iyov 36:5 - Orthodox Jewish Bible (OJB)
See, El is Kabir, and despiseth, not any; He is Kabir in ko’ach lev (strength of understanding).
Translation: Supreme God is Kabir, but despises no one. He is Kabir, and firm in his purpose.
In all Bible translations, the word Kabir has been translated as "Mighty" or "Great" whereas Kabir is the original name of Supreme God.
Conclusion: This verse of the Bible proves that Kabir is Complete God. The one who worships God Kabir by taking initiation from the complete saint sent by him gets complete salvation. After attaining salvation that souls rest in peace in the eternal abode Satlok forever. The throne of God is in Satlok( ETERNAL PLACE) 😊😊
God Kabir met Jesus and took his soul to Satlok. On their way, God Kabir made him see his ancestors David, Moses, Abraham, etc. in the Pitra Lokas. Then God took him to Satlok❤
PRESENT MESSENGER of ALMIGHTY GOD KABIR is SAINT RAMPALJI MAHARAJ 🙏🙏
@@jeanhighly325most Caribbean Hindus were “SC” people brought in as crop workers. Sorry but that’s not gonna cut it in modern day India especially with the ultra right wing politics there.
Thank you for sharing this with us!
Prakash is from Hyderabad, I’m from Ohio.
We were married in 1976.
A lot of ups and downs for us, but in the end we are now together until the bitter end. Lol.
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Glad so see these two weathered the storm.😅
How old u guys are now?
Thank you for sharing this with us!
1976 marriage means 44yrs relationship.Let us suppose , they might have got married below 30 age. So the guys would be around 74yrs @@loma7652
1976 🤯🤯🤯 Wow! Congo... Congrats in advance... U both will be hitting a half century soon in 2024 🙏🏼😁
In Hinduism there is no word exist such as Talak or divorce
I am in the same situation with 2 kids and happily married to a Polish woman who I met in the USA.Being a Hindu and she being a Catholic is not a problem for us.Our kids are 33 and 28 are also well settled,professionals.She is 67 and I am 63 now
What a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing this with us.
Lol, your name🤣🤣
I want to know where you live. Not in Poland for sure, right?
God bless you both n ur family. Be happy forever more.. ❤️❤️❤️
Deepak.Nope I am in The USA,but visit Poland very often due to financial interests.@@mercedesbenz3751
Very inspiring!
Very nice. I too married someone from another country but he died after 52 years and so seeing their happiness makes me feel my loneliness more
A long, happy, successful marriage in the best institution developed by mankind for both spouses. The only drawback is that one spouse must predecease the other. May God bless you and give you strength in your loss.
Hey I’m sorry to hear about your partner of 52 years - that’s a very long time, natural to miss but remember what you had was precious and more than so many others ever have. Not that it makes your pain any less but I’m sending you courage in the face of your loss. I’ve heard that when we lose a loved one they are not here in the physical sense but our relationship continues on a different
Plane - still revolving but differently - does that make sense to you? Or am I spouting platitudes? Lmk X
You completed a golden jubilee...thats a lot of happy memories made
Where ever there is an Indian in relationship it’s meant for life!!! Indians respect relationships!!! They don’t fall In blind love that’s why their relationships are for life!!
Only when Indian is male
Facts💯
That's usually the case. But there are exceptions. My Indian uncle is twice divorced and now married for the 3rd time. All of his wives were Americans.
@@mooo6747 unkil ko indian nahi mili? Gori chamdi hi chahye?
@@mooo6747 you know then who wanted divorce because indians mostly never go for divorce.Now a times it is culture in US to marry and divorce for alimony.
Dear Mr and Mrs - Margaret and Kapil Nanda- What a lovely story. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. Wishing you both good health and continued happiness!
Never heard of it ? Not necessarily. There are many such ideal marriages in the States. Tolerance and respect for other cultures and religions are the key things for a lasting relationship.
Best wishes to this couple.
Glad you enjoyed the video!
@@1mikonwhat a strange, unnecessary comment and reply. did i say anything about nit hearing of it?? also i was addressing the couple, not anyone else
@@nahlanat.kreshnan3131hey u indian women??
A catholic n a Hindu could blend so beautifully..... appreciate you both❤❤
Both religions believe in love and nonviolence
Ever heard of Kalergi Plan? Be a Racist protect your bloodline..
Thank you for your kind words.
*FAMILY IS EVERYTHING FOR US INDIAN MEN*
For men basically it's their family. The woman has to leave her parents to care of his family.
@@ananyanegi9423 no both of them take care of 4 of them
@@ananyanegi9423 ghanta.
Leaving parents n coming to husbands home n be their servant dat is wot happens
@@gheegheeable someone is jealous
This reminds me of my Grandfather and Grandmother and my entire family.
My grandparents were married with children in India during the 1940s. Our family resided in tea plantations.
Our life was idyllic and special. Our whole family is mixed and celebrates both Hindu and Christian festivals.
Respectful and observant of both worlds.
Still is.
❤ This is a beautiful story and so is my family's life story. ❤
How lovely to hear this charming couple talk about their life together. I myself Danish married to a South American sence some qualities and values are the most important to have good life together. Wish you the best of luck.
In the 1930s ICS Annada Shankar Ray married Lila Ray and theirs was a truly supportive relationship. She learnt Bengali and became a translator and writer and he became a well known intellectual.
All said and done, such matches are made in heaven. It's the blessings of several lifetimes. 🙏
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Wish you can also do an interview with their siblings and bring their perspective on getting raised by such a wonderful parents and in a multi cultural family.
I think you meant an interview with their "children"
You must add lots of nostalgic pictures to make the video more interesting.
I was thinking the same thing!
*INDIAN MEN- NOTHING IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN FAMILY* ✌😎🇮🇳😂
I married to South African white Dutch for 29 y, now a widowed. My heart got lost in India.
Sokhom Prins, author, researcher, world activist, historian, influencer, chef.
My memoir Love of Life - A Miraculous Story! is coming soon.
All the best wishes for your upcoming book 👍🏻.
❤ from India.
Have known many interracial couples who have been married longer My brother ( a Tamil Brahmin) has been married to an American Christian for 47 years. Still going strong
My sister a moroccan Jew is married to a Chinese muslim
Love transcends all boundaries!
@@verona-club i wanted to marry an american women how can it possible ?
It doesn't work out most of the time. And stop using words like brahmin.
God bless them and continue to keep them together for many more years to come❤❤❤
What a lovely couple. My son has just married inter racially and I want to be a mother in law who is remembered for my acceptance and love. Fortunately her parents are also very supportive too.
Such a lovely, genuine couple. Wishing them continued happiness.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Some marriages are made in heaven . This one takes the cake
Since the man is genuine obviously the culture counts.
Pieces like this is not what we oftentimes see like we used to. Couples from different backgrounds sharing their story of their years of marriage. Should be awarded.
Enduring alot and still close and sincerely recalling the years. Such blessings....something to recall in average marriages.
A very loving and open hearted couple, who have shared a lovely life.
So thankful to them for sharing their story with us!
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Very nice interview....charming couple with great values. Very good conversation between the host and the guests, the explanation by Margaret on the topic of PDA is excellent and appropriate. Wish them many more years of happiness.
Greetings to you from Guyana. It's amazing to see this successful couple from diverse backgrounds lead such a blessed life of togetherness for over four decades. This is exceptional when compared in this modern age we're living in. I would think it has had to do with the upbringing of them both in their formative years. So it was that synergy of unconditionality that had made them compatible for each other. As a person of Indian origin certain values were instilled in me too. I wish them both longer life of health, happiness and just plain great time of being each other company. Thanks too to you Verona for creating these videos.
Wish you well too bro. 🙏🏻
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This is called true love. Loved their story and dedication towards one another. Wish everyone is like them around the world
great interview. would have loved to have seen a photo of the couple from 40-50 years ago
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Educated people tend to stay together. They share same core values and very respectful to one another and also both supportive in-laws makes the union harmonious as well. Unfortunately for myself didn’t work out for me twice! I chose poorly. I hope to meet someone someday who values me and have some of these traits.
Dr, Elizabeth don't be sad, you will meet your right better half soon. My best wishes for your successful future.
🤍 Sunny. 🙏🏻
It's not actually that Indian men have that capacity to be with their wives on his last breath it's not about education they follow their indian parents patterns
Understand is most important thing in life 💕 I hope you get soon a better partner
Thank you for sharing.
This is a lovely couple. Thank you for interviewing them.
Truly blessed couple. In India we cherish the institution of marriage and make all the sacrifices needed to have a happy family.
I AM MARRIED FOR 23 YEARS... AND I AM THANKFUL FOR MY WIFE FOR THE UNDERSTANDING AND JUST BEING THERE WHEN THINGS ARE DOWN... AND ALSO ME BEING THERE FOR HER WHEN THINGS ARE DOWN FOR HER...
We have been happily married since 1980. I am from South East Asia and he is white. We met in South Carolina.
Enjoyed this story, as an Indian Guyanese.
For the last 20 years I have been married to my wonderful wife Thaiduong.
I was born in Chicago in1977 to immigrant parents from India. I was raised Hindu Tamil Brahmin Iyer... except that I was raised in the USA, and I view myself as American. I have never held a passport from India...only the USA.
In 2004, I married Thaiduong in Vietnam. At that time, she was my girlfriend of nearly 4 years. We are still married today, and resident in Arizona.
Thaiduong was raised Roman Catholic, and as a person in Ho Chi Minh City of South Vietnamese Mekong Delta background. She immigrated to USA and became a USA citizen.
We still love each other very deeply, and want to continue to be together. She is still Catholic and Vietnamese. I am still officially Hindu, but have adopted Buddhism, and of Indian background, but am American.
So you can make it work. Just gotta be ready to learn. BTW, my in-laws in Vietnam love me, and have only good things to say about me.
What a beautiful story! Thank you for sharing this with us :)
Hindu - got it, that's your religious affiliation
Tamil - got it, that's the mother tongue of your parents/you
Brahmin Iyer - ok this is the caste. You know the meaning of caste. unlike religion and language, this one is so tricky. Why do you need to mention your caste?
Do you have kids with your Vietnamese wife? Are they also Brahmin Iyer or Brahmin Iyernamese?
No matter how many decades pass, how many countries we indians migrate to, this caste identity thing is not going away.
I can confirm that you are an artificial Hindu.
@@electrologywhy are you rattled. When christians mention Catholic, Protestant, pentecostal, thats fine. Muslims mention Shia, Sunni, Barelvi, Deobandi etc
@@electrology who are you to curtail his thoughts? You are the one with the problem, not him. You could have easily chosen to ignore it and moved on, but no, you had to make it a point to comment and thrust your opinion here. You're being extremely disrespectful if you didn't realize.
Tamil Brahmins are ETHNICALLY DIFFERENT to the rest of Tamilians, their culture and community is completely different, their rituals are different. The only thing they have in common with other Tamilians is the language Tamil and even that is so different that Brahmin Tamil could be called its own language. With such a DISTINCT ethnic background, why should he efface his identity so your snowflake heart wouldn't be offended somehow?
I love the way these put each other and family first, and they want to remain geographically close to their daughters. That is a rare and beautiful thing and major blessing to the grandkids.
Enjoyed the video very much.Their values n how they lived n brought their kids up is so great .A very well balanced couple.
As they say older wine gets better and better! Nice to hear some pearls of wisdom earned through experience!!
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Beautiful ❤❤..
I am super happy for both of them..
Lovely story. God bless How honest they are. Love from India🇮🇳
Thank you for watching!
It’s always so heartwarming to hear stories of strong, long lasting marriages. It cuts out all the negativity that we are surrounded by, and lets you see the glimmer of light in the darkness. I always feel a rush of joy when I see or hear of happy marriages and families.
God bless! Hope you enjoy many, many more years of happy and supportive togetherness.
Lovely couple they compliment each other and it is clear they worked it out.
Nice interview🎉
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Great!❤
Love and respect for each other's feelings /self-identity ❤❤❤, and they're just lucky having each other, sincerely...
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Wonderful couple genuine. Respect for both families and each other.Intelligent and sensible blessed with lovely daughters/sons and grandkids too❤
Hearty congratulations to you couple establishing an ideal relationship for all. God bless you for your commitment and conviction.
Great vlog 😍
This guy is sooo cool. Experience has taught him to know how to be in a successful marriage. Does not like stress😂😂
Very interesting!
Glad you think so!
Good to see foreign lady maintaining Indian tradition..and enjoying even in last stage ..
Kapil and Margrate. Both are beautiful folks . I loved the discussion..❤❤
I LOVE THIS COOL INTERVIEW HONESTY, VALUES From each other's cultures.
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Great ❤
This was so cute!
Both of them were straight forward.
We love them for being so candid and real!
Lovely story ❤️
Brilliant advice
Glad you enjoyed it!
There is a lot of love, respect,acceptance,understanding,space n the desire to find solutions for problems amicably in this relationship.
Would have loved to see a picture of this couple when they were young together. All good anyway..
Nice couple. Good work🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
In indian culture ,we consider a marriage as scared union n try to retain the marriage at any cost n even though marriages become montonous ,but for the sake of children n their well being remain together n ultimately ,the couple in their ripe age become like sibling n can't survive without each other. But sadly its changing gradually.
Wow I love Jane Austin movies and British detective series! Great to hear that!
Lovely couple. May God bless them. Good and formative interview.
Thanks for watching
I would love to see indian inter racial marriage divorce rates . It is probably the lowest out of any inter racial marraige types. Both indian women and men probably are less likely to ask for a divorce in these inter racial marraiges
That's true
Actually Indians try to hold their marriage with their only wife till the last phase until and unless relationships turn extremely sour and unbearable 😇
May my kids too live such a beautiful happy and long life as this couple, having had inter racial inter religious marriage.
Your both life will be an inspiration to us all. 🙏
I have an uncle-aunt in the exact same situation, except they married in 1969 - so about 55 years now, and going strong.
Wonderful ❤ … I liked Mr Kapil’s response on regrets around 26th min …. although all of it was good
Such intellegent thoughts
Lovely, true companions .bless u ❤
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What a lovely and well-mannered couple, congratulations to both of you 🙏🏾 For the producer please add some photos to the edit, I would have loved to have seen pictures of them when they first met,over the years, of their parents and perhaps their children and grandchildren if they were comfortable with it. Also, the music was odd. If music was necessary, why not music of the year they first met in, to music of the sangeet and so on.
Glad you enjoyed the video. Thank you for the feedback!
Wow! What amazing, inspirational "individuals / couple "
We agree!
Nice one, Kapil to summarise the solution to marriage longevity is diamonds, just kidding. Bless you both👏👏👏
Everytime he said: now you can tell what happened. We already knows why their relationship succeeded.
Mr and Mrs Nanda. Awesome story 👏. God Bless you 🙏 Jai Sita Ram 🙏
That sneaky thumbs up works pretty well 😁😁😁!!!
I love the way this couple accommodated eachothers religion. I guess being in California helped. Americans have experience getting along with people of different faiths and backgrounds. That's truly what makes America great. These guys were also patient and of similar minds and hearts ❤❤. Of course, employment and education help any relationship. Patience is a virtue too.
Not all. Some of them are extremely conservative about their religion.
Lovely story 🕯️🌷🙏🙇♀️🥰
It's in Indian jenes wherever they live. Marriage means sacred ritual. Whatever may be the misunderstanding between husband and wife they live together till their last breath 😮
It's genes
Thanks for correction 😊
I would love to see some photograps of mr mrs nanda when they were young and on their wedding day 😊😊...
Beautiful ! ❤❤❤🥰🥰👍🏼🙏
Thank you 🤗
Congratulations to you both.A well arranged and settled life.
Congrats and best wishes.
Tolerance on catholic and hindu is possible but hindu and muslim rarely happens. I would like to ask this couple 1. if they are having any trouble getting their daughters marrier because of the interculture marriage. 2. In the beginning of your dating, Were you ever so concerned that the other person's family might never accept you. Is it such an important factor? Were either of you ever worried on not being accepted into the other person's family?
Why can’t their daughters find their own husbands? Why would they have any problem getting their daughters married?
My parents were Hindu and Muslim. Married for 46 years when my Dad passed. There's was a very compatible marriage with a foundation of deep love that United them (they met each other in the 1950s and married in 1960). Both their kids went on to marry Hindus❤
Amazing to hear Margaret speak so highly about her in-laws
Still waters run deep - exactly right. You almost want to tell those people who are desperately trying to prove to others with those public displays of affection to go, get a room.
I like how each other respects their religion.❤❤
Congratulations both of you 🎉🎉🎉...God bless you more years...of blissful happy married life...😍
😢gracefull 34:29 couple. Wish them many years of togetherness and happiness.
Wonderful couple ❤❤
Vasudhaiva Kutumbakam ❤
World is One Family 🌍
How beautiful!
Happy to see a comment in my language.. kannada.. ❤
@@UshaRani-xz5vs Actually we all Indian feel proud when any of our language is mentioned anywhere because we are big family
The couple is cute. I love hearing how couples meet.
PS- Why does the host not smile ? Lol Maybe nervousness.
I would have liked to see their “ young” pictures
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Sweet ♥️
Glad you enjoyed it!
What a beautiful couple, but I have to say this woman is a gem, she checks all the Indian values❤
The words she said about her mother in law was tearful 😢❤❤
Wish you many more good years sir madam