My Sister Is My Bully! | KARAMO
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- čas přidán 11. 02. 2024
- Nyah says her sister Marquisa isn't just a bully but she's HER bully. Marquisa has called Nyah out her name before and made comments about her weight but is there more to their upbringing? Their mother is in the audience, can Karamo get to the bottom of this family dynamic?
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It’s clearly because she had to raise the whole family. She’s carrying the burden for everyone. Even their mother…
Exactly. How can one be a loving sibling in that manner when they was technically forced to be the parent. And just bc mom changed doesn’t mean she can just snap out those ways. She had to be a mom and never went through pregnancy.
@@ExclxsiveskyeEXACTLY!
This sounds like my sister, selfish and no matter how much i simplify it she dont get it. i don't communicate with her for that reason because my mom takes up for her. she is selfish and oblivious just like this girl is.
@@pmeranciercan i ask u something from your comments?
@@ExclxsiveskyeSame with me...
The oldest is so broken and tired, i can see it in her face. We have to break the generational curse of parents putting all the burden on the oldest child and them raising their younger siblings.
And she is still holding the fort. Their mother needs to mature
I love how caramel always clocks the real s*** that's going on and not just the words that are coming out of these people mouth because it was obvious they were all piling up on that girl after she was made to be a parent to her siblings and now everybody's blaming her for how she acts like a mother figure
It is 100 percent her responsibility to do the healing yes her mom did what she knew my sister is the same way it’s been years everyone is grown now it’s not her responsibility never was anger therapy
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Taking care of ppl doesn’t give you the right to be a bitch and insult your family. If you’re gonna help then turn around and insult, don’t help at all
The brother dead wrong! How you in that woman house saying that bs! 😂😂😂😭😭😭
Exactly I wish he’d just said something before I went on the show
@@marquisabland7163 Have you kicked him out yet?
Chile
Kick his ass out girl@@marquisabland7163
@@neisciShe obviously cares about them more,than they do about her.
So glad karamo heard her because to have to be a parent to your siblings SUCK.
It’s not easy ❤
kids shouldnt have to parent their own siblings. some parents need to do better. cause kids being parents causes them to grow up quicker and thats not right.
Yea, this kinda happened to my niece. It actually made her not want any children.
It’s so difficult my sister gets so mad at me and thinks I hate her but I’m playing two roles here
Yessssss facts!!!! I love that part!
Marshawn wouldn’t have no time to get “back on his feet” bc he’ll be out my house as soon as I get home!
OK!!!
Listen!!!
On my soul! Goofy tail knew he should’ve kept that video
I would've told Karamo that I needed a bathroom break as I stepped away to tell him that he has til I got back home to get out.
that ain't fast enough his ass would be gone soon as the video ended.
The lil sister doesn’t even realize that even she sees her as her mom. She sees her mom as her best friend. So unfair to the oldest sister to walk with that burden
Yes!
And the younger one seems selfish
Yea, im on the older sister side
That part!!!
The Mom, smh. Parents have been the root of siblings fighting for centuries.
Yes. The big sister is taking out on the daughter what should be put on the parents. Trauma response. Little sister is the scapegoat for her bitterness & hatred
@@AmbiLane998Exactly!! The older sister's pain doesn't excuse her behavior. It sucks to carry the burden and it sucks to be the scapegoat
My sister is 24 and thinks I'm jealous of her hair. I haven't seen her hair since she was about 12. Idk. She hasn't spoken to me in years,but asked my mom to ask me to help her buy a PlayStation 5. My mom laughs every time my sister does something shady towards me. I stopped reaching out to my sister and my mom plays off that and says things like,
"She just doesn't like how you talk to her mom." "She doesn't like funny people especially those who talks to her mom crazy".
Like my mom encourages this because she has this preconceived notion that her relationship with her sister is rocky. My Aunty never admitted to there being a sibling rivalry. She said, "You know how your mom can be. She just.. a little crazy. Ima say it. We love her. I love my sister but you know."
Aunty never went into much details as my mom ans whenever my mom goes into details, it's based on colorism and favoritism within our family. She said my Aunty was treated better because she's light skinned. My grandma's grandad was a white man, so those recessive genes just bounced around through us all. My sister is lighter than me.
🙄Go figure that my mom would try to separate us. All my passwords for over ten years was my sister's birthday and some other stuff. I had to go back and literally change my passwords from her birthday. 😢 I cried every time. Some passwords still have it. Now, I don't care anymore. I'm 🤏🏽this close to pretending I was adopted and my foster parents died in a fire with our family pictures. No cap.
The division hurt but moving forward and surrounding myself with people who love me is healing.
Your doing the right thing, love those who love you!👍😊
@@nicoleraheem1195I stopped watching the show to read everything you typed. I wish u healing and peace. I hope you and your sister and family can come together again someday. Maybe reach out to Karamo. Also it sounds like ur mom instigates a lot of this and that’s sad and toxic
Marquisa is angry because she always does everything for everyone, and no one does anything for her, even the most simple stuff.
It’s not even about the dog, if I tell you to look after it only 2 times and one of them you go and give it to my friend who lives 30 minutes away (without my knowledge)!
The brother complaining while he lives with her rent free😅
The little sister now trying to make herself a victim when she’s so self absorbed.
Big sister is running on empty. She is depleted. Hope she replenishes.
Wow yeah you hit it on the head, it’s sad.
Its not her job to watch the dog?
@@sharoncooper9615yall never take youngest kids seriously yall are the problem in the world
I was yelling at my tv for that mother to take some accountability. She’s sitting there pretty and stress free like all of this isn’t her fault. Smh
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Emphasis on the stress free because she pushed all of the stressful responsibilities onto her child.
I agree. Especially when she mentioned Markesha watching the kids bc she was the only one she trusted. I believe Markesha was all the mom had. That’s why she had the responsibility. It had nothing to do with trust.
@@user-vk5ql6eu7k Right! It wasn’t trust, it was ease. She was there and had no choice but to play second mom to children she didn’t make, even as adults
Thank y’all I respect everything said❤
There mom got off easy!!!! This was all her fault for the breakdown
Agreed.
Sat there like an innocent bystander. Broke my heart that she didn’t free her oldest by asserting herself as the root of the trauma!
100% agree
Yeah . But the mother was herself a child woman when she got pregnant. So a kid had a kid . And projected all her stuff on to her kid . The eldest carries the shadow of the teen mom . All the angst . And now she pist cause she wants to pass that shadow (of her mum ) on to the next torch bearer of the angst and expects that she will be compensated for the childhood abuse and possible neglect of being forced into a parental role a donkey to carry her mums burdens (who was a/teen )herself and be the protective masculine . The eldest has made all the sacrifices when it was her time to be looked after . Soh . Teen pregnancy -absent father figure boom ... ! Bullshit on a platter.
FACTS!!! I'm like if you know that your daughter is a "bully" would you have the "bully" on speaker talking about the other daughter.
The brother wouldn’t have to wait to stop a relationship with me. Go find somewhere else to stay!
THAT part!! like boy you outta my house as soon as my plane touch down. Just ungrateful and bummy!
Love them from a Distance it works for me 💯💯💯
Facts
That Part❤
@@PrettyColorsDoe THAT PART. If I had a big friend, he would be gone before I get home. All of them live with the person they don't like. They all can go.
She FINALLY felt seen and understood. There’s hurt , rage, anger , sadness, resentment and so much more. I pray for her healing
She still has to take accountability for abusing her younger siblings too, but yes, that young lady is exhausted.
The youngest IS spoiled and self centered, and that boy- he's even worse. He's staying in HER house telling HER he doesn't want to be bothered with HER...when HE'S ready to leave. The nerve.
Tbh how you talk to people even your own blood says a lot about you, it’s not right and words do hurt. There is a such thing as verbal abuse. If anything he should pay her for that favor and then he would have every right to cut it off he wanted to. But they both need to heal first then try to mend the relationship later if they decide to. There’s ppl that will help ppl but treat them and talk to them like shit nobody deserves that just as much she didn’t deserve to be forced to be a parent. Nobody supersedes the other, you can’t ignore one and acknowledge the other.
Brother is out of pocket. I would give him some skates so he can roll out my house. The audacity 😅
not the skates💀
Big sis better than me cause I would’ve said go find your daddy and let him help you
He would’ve been out as soon as I got home!
That youngest sister is resentful towards the wrong person. The mother put too much responsibility on the oldest daughter.
She’s resentful towards the person that called her fat and lazy. Sounds pretty accurate to me.
@@denib4677 , she definitely shouldn't have called her fat. From the older sister's perspective of having to do EVERYTHING, she probably does see the baby sister as lazy.
And the mother fuels it because she wants somebody to support her since the oldest one is standing on her ground now.
“Whenever I get back on my feet..” told me everything I needed to know. How dare you preemptively plan to discard your sister once you leave HER house after SHE helps YOU. This is NUTS! The family has done the older sister dirty. The youngest sister IS self-centered, lazy and selfish! Bye. And the mom? Don’t get me started. She’s despicable to sit up there calling her own daughter a bully while she’s failed to take care of her own children! Even as an adult she’s still putting the oldest daughter in a position to take care of her family. Smh.
The fact that she put everything on her daughter but her daughter had no one to support her 😢😢. This had me in tears. Mom's still doesn't get it
Exactly
The brother would be getting tf out my house right then and there
For real, the nerve of him🙄
And did 😌
@@marquisabland7163damn and you’re proud of that? Instead of listening to what he said about how YOU speak to him? Yeah you are a bully and one day you’re gonna look up and have no family. Thank God for my older sister, she would never insult me.
@@marquisabland7163haha good job he's ungrateful
@@marquisabland7163 I’m so emotional, watching the story baby girl find your tribe. Sometimes you have to leave your family behind love them from a distance you are a quality woman and you deserve the world.
She not a bully shes tough and she had to be. 🖤 Because none of you are grown.
She is a bully and she’s tough cos she felt she had to be.
Including the mom
@@thehoneyeffectYep because like OP said, NONE of them ARE GROWN! COMPREHEND!
Calling someone, especially someone you’re supposed to love, fat, is definitely being a bully
She's a bully including her mother
it must've hurt that older sister when it felt like everyone was against her until karamo acknowledged her silent battles
Yes❤
She was still abusive to her younger siblings, her anger is definitely misguided, the anger should've been directed towards the deadbeat mother.
It’s crazy how she’s taking care of everyone like she’s a parent, but they don’t respect her authority. They want her to carry the responsibilities without any expectations of them. Just in this brief clip it seems like the mom acts more like a sibling and the oldest sibling acts like a mom.
I hope the oldest sibling gets counseling. This made me cry. They were all acting like she’s the bad guy when she’s actually been the backbone of the entire family and was required to take on adults responsibilities too young.
Absolutely. The mother ain't shit. She's the original bully. All the stuff the youngest complaining about is just learned behavior. Oldest daughter us just doing to them what was done to her.
Just thank you 😔
The MOM is guiding their minds…
The Mom is jealous that her daughter is taking care of HER responsibilities! (She stood up and said: “Yes, she has a bully spirit”) 😒
The nerve of them living IN HER HOUSE complaining! If yall don’t move yall GROWN AS*ES out! TF
Yeah that got me too😔
@@marquisabland7163honey please please take back your power... I'm a firstborn too I know that guilt so freaking well... You're capable of so much and already are capable... Respectfully your bro needs to be living with your mom pls!!! Sending you so much love and light. I'd definitely love them from a distance as I'm getting my healing done. You're gorgeous and amazing and blessed!
Straight like that.
The mom should have brought balance to this situation because she created the imbalance.
That part..I see why Marquisha helped her balance her bags up out of there
Accountability...that's all we ask for. 🫴🏽
And some mediation...
I respect what y’all said ❤
The big sister doesn't know any other way to be. I feel her pain. From my own experience as the oldest sibling, mom was also a teenage parent, we're programmed to carry the weight. We protect our younger siblings from certain things they'll never understand.
Doesn't mean she gotta treat her like that😂
Exactly true❗
Thank you ❤
One day they’ll understand 🥺
The last sentence gave me chills
Gave me chills when karamo started speaking up for big sis. That's why I love you karamo thank you for that ❤
Yes me too👏❤💯
It gave me chills too ❤
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I was so happy! I was sitting here like ooh let me on there
Hurt people hurt people , the mother made her be a mother & she doesn’t know nothing else .
Yes mam you worded it very perfectly...
And that’s exactly why I said the youngest sibling doesn’t understand anything! When they speak it’s not all lovey dovey bc she’s speaking to her as a mom, she can’t just turn it off.
Thank y’all ❤
@@marquisabland7163praying for you! It’s okay to go no contact. Go to therapy. Create you a new family sis!
So, the brother is living with his big sister and has the audacity to say that he doesn’t want to talk to her once he gets on his feet? When the big sister is literally his feet? Just wow, I feel so bad for the big sister. The little sister is just spoiled! And she should help her sister out more.
As the oldest and someone who currently lives this reality, I felt for her from the time the video started. People will squeeze you dry until they can’t anymore.
Exactly. It's hurtful 💔.
As soon as you draw a boundary, then you're a b...
Mom had the oldest being mom , while she was playing the sister role .
Sister could’nt even do a favor for her sister which resulted in her dog getting sick, so I get why she didn’t wanna talk to her . But she jumps when she’s needed , even though she’s not appreciated.
They rely on her and run to her like she’s mom, but don’t respect her on that same level .
I wouldn’t blame her ONE bit, if she decides to be selfish . The burden and weight selfless people carry is crazy
Thank you❤
@@marquisabland7163you a good person don't let nobody steal your light
Karamo hit the nail on the head. I’m the eldest sister of 3, and we are parentified on another level. We are ALWAYS the one people go to. Our parents expect us to be mini parents to the younger siblings, and also free labor and chauffeur service for them. It’s exhausting.
Yessss
The younger sister switched up as soon as she realized Karamo had empathy towards the older sister. She came on the show only to gain sympathy and make her sister look bad. She thought everyone will side with her.
Big sister should move forward. They are ungrateful and pretend her sacrifices werent enough.
That’s crazy because that’s how I feel ❤
Especially the bum ass brother.
Definitely not ungrateful. How did you even get that from this?
Right let them miss her. They’ll learn.
Exactly, it appears that they all rely on her to be responsible so they don't have to be, and that can cause resentment. She's not a bully, she unappreciated.
That brother would get out my house immediately! She needs a break and deserves so much more
The mom is to blame
She made the eldest the parent
And put all the responsibilities on her
The sister is drained. She was adultified by her mom as a young child and forced into a parental role because of the circumstances that she was born into. She has always been there to give and give to her whole family, yet never be able to receieve anything back and its starting to reflect in the arguments she has with her family when she says these toxic things to them. Its sad that her siblings don't even realize how this is not her fault and the mom needs to take accountability instead of antagonizing her own daughter.
Thank you ❤
As the youngest, this one hit me and made me emotional 💗 As I grew up, I went from her mindset to thanking my older siblings in tears because they made sacrifices I couldn’t imagine now that I’m the age they were.
I’m starting to love koramo because he truly sees people… The way he said that she doesn’t deserve this I was like Thhhhaaaannkkk youuuuuuuuuuuuu 😭😭😭😭😭
No thank you fr❤
I'm am older sibling and this brought tears to my eyes. Karamo you bring some issues to your platform that people realize they need to be healed from. I appreciate your content
The burden of the eldest daughter is not for the weak. I feel for this poor baby, I hope she can find peace and feel appreciated💓💓💓💓
Thank you so much ❤
Wow Karamo has me crying. I'm an oldest sibling who has had to carry the family and not have time to find myself or do things for myself. She looks so exhausted and Karamo did something her family rarely did and I can see how much that meant to her. Deep rooted issues between siblings always end up happening because of the parents, I wish more siblings could realize that you can all experience different versions of the same parent in one household
Thank you for seeing me ❤
@@marquisabland7163 - 100% saw you and myself - I'm on a similar journey, with the challenging brother to boot!
I hate calling taking care of my family a burden, but it is what it is. A cousin who is also in an identical position once told me that it's important to keep something in reserve for yourself, because if I fail, we all fail. So don't feel guilty about the difficult decisions you've had to make, they will thank you... Eventually! I see the comments about dropping your brother, all I can say is don't - He needs professional help and we need to find that time to find it for them, mum doesn't have the strength - but you do and must... Losing a sibling, no matter how troubled they are, isn't worth baring.
I also recognise the rage your sister described, and yeah that monster exists in me too... All I can say I that councilling is actually nessesary - we can rationalise this away as being a frivolous expense, but it's nessesary for our survival - find time and resource to strengthen yourself in this way.
Best of luck to you and your family ❤
I feel the oldest sister’s pain. I’m the oldest by 7 years. While being a straight A student, graduating Magna Cum Laude from College, and going to Law School…I did everything for my siblings. I raised them…cooked, clean, bought school clothes, paid cell phone bills, defended them against my abusive mother…everything! I took custody of my youngest brother when my mom was in her drug addiction. Now that we are all grown, I’ve been super disappointed when I’ve needed them. After many hurt feelings, I learned that they will never reciprocate my love and actions. I also learned that I am not their parent and I don’t want to be…they will make the choices that they want to. As for me, I set boundaries now and never stretch myself more than I care to. I also have a child that I have to pour into. I no longer take pride in being everyone’s everything… I just want to good to myself.
@misjuiceefroot "I just want to be good to myself". I love that. I hear you. I'm at the same point in.my life after decades of pain, frustrationan and resentment.
I'm the eldest of 5 (now 3), was raised as a mini-Mom, was able to run a household by 16, and 5 years later took on expenses my parents should have covered. Felt so proud and responsible back then. Felt so used, misunderstood and unappreciated later on.
I'm now totally free from it all. It took a while, but finally there.
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The oldest sister is free now. RUN GIRL.
Her tears are calling for help... my Lord
She’s literally the parent. She done took in everyone down to her momma. She’s angry, she’s upset, she loves her family obviously but she needs to stop carrying them. She does not have to sacrifice her life for them. They done sucked her DRY!
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A wise man once said to me if you can find the meanest person in a crowd you’ve found the one with the biggest heart. I too go through this yet they put so the burdens on u consistently while throwing labels on u, killing yourself esteem, F’ing up your mental, and have will leave you high and dry then play victim. Doing do it to yourself. U owe nobody nothing but u owe yourself everything. Anybody going through this I pray for peace clarity and strength for you.
Sending cyber hugs to your soul. 🫂❤❤❤
Thank you so much that means a lot to me ❤I haven’t seen the show but reading the comments just brings tears to my eyes
This show has impacted many people's lives. Thank you for this platform. Keep helping everyone
The problem started with the head...mom..she had her daughter taking the role of co parenting with her mom instead of being a daughter..was heartbreaking to watch and the brother needs to have several seats
Exactly!!
I was there in person for this episode, I cried when he acknowledged big sis. We love Karamo
Wow how long is the show usually ?
I get both sides. Everyone’s hurting and doesn’t know how to express it without hurting each other even more. It’s a cycle and I’m glad Karamo helped them see that
I understand only one side. The siblings and mom are SELFISH
This almost always happens to the oldest! I want to hug her. That’s why I go out of my way to love on my big sister and tell her how much I love and appreciate her. With therapy, I think they’ll be alright.
Thank you so much this means a lot to me ❤
@@marquisabland7163girl you are still a BULLY!! i don’t care how much love you are receiving !!! you need MENTAL HELP!! that is not okay to be hitting your own family !! i’m for sure not gonna ride past the bullying part like everyone else
Marquisha, we love you so much. Thank you so much for coming on the show and bringing awareness to us older siblings in our community who don’t often get seen and appreciated but are just viewed as a well that people can keep taking from. We admire your vulnerability here because that takes courage. I pray one day you find people who will just pour into you, that you would not always have to be strong with, people who will carry you when you are weak as well. I really believe in good karma and I know for a fact it is coming your way❤
The way an older sibling, especially a daughter, loves their younger siblings when they assist in the raising and care is indescribable. I felt the older sister's heart so much. I really hope their relationship grows and strengthens ❤️
Thank you ❤
Everyone needs to get out her house and leave her be in PEACE, She’s never had it, let’s start with THAT
Amen
@@caramelzz38mmines31 it’s SIMPLE I hope she found her peace and I hope everyone’s doing well
@@ohhmhi8904 Right I hope so too!!
That mother is USELESS!!! And that should have been highlighted more in this clip. She has not been responsible for her own choices and makes her oldest fix everyone elses problem. She made her oldest the safety net and that is NOT her job and is unfair. Her mother needs to apologize and that oldest daughter needs to cut EVERYONE off financially with help and possibly all together for a few yrs so they can figure it out themselves. Im sure she doesnt have any kids of her own because THEY ARE ALL HER CHILDREN and thats BS. Girl i understand you completely. Let them fend for themselves and get back on your own feet to do whats best for you. You deserve it and you will feel lighter and be happier in general.
The siblings and sadly the mother too was trying to jump down that girl throat not even considering what she’s going through and what’s she done. She’s clearly the glue that holds everyone together and I’m glad Karamo clocked it quickly! I hope they learn how to communicate and move forward in a healthy manner.
Thank you❤
I’m SO GLAD he saw what they are putting that girl through ❤
That poor girl, everyone is UNGRATEFUL, looking after people and then they turn around and speak on you like this.
Nobody understands what the oldest girl goes through
Bum mentality and laziness created this mess. The mother dropped the ball completely. The lines were blurred and the older daughter was the parent and the rock. Nobody allowed her to take the burden off of her shoulder so that she can just be a sister. There is a lot of resentment the older has and I pray she gets help and set firm boundaries and don’t allow them in her house.
People are just unappreciative; she is raising the whole family but nothing good in return, just hurt and pain. They are all against her but she is always there for everyone. All will be good. Once they realize they have lost a golden hand they gonna regret it.
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My oldest sister was put in the very same position and held a lot of animosity towards us growing up. She felt like she never had a chance to experience all the things us as younger siblings did. Only now as an adult i can actually understand why she was the way she was. Aloha from Hawaii 🤙🌺🌴🌈
Marquisa is fed tf up! Period point blank!
The mother is trifling. She put the burden on the oldest daughter to raise her kids.😢
I am so glad Big Sis got heard through Karamo and also glad Mom was open and honest about her shortcomings raising her kids. I pray they learn each other better and heal through all this beyond the show cos that's where the real work comes. Nothing but love.
Thank you for this ❤
@@marquisabland7163you are most welcome Queen. It is never easy having to shoulder all of that responsibility. I wish you all the very best ❤
The audacity of their mother to call her bully!!!
Awww this is so sweet lowkey 🥺🥺 they love each other so much. It’s just a communication thing
the audacity of the brother to make those awful remarks while living at her house tryna “get back on his feet” girl he would’ve been out my house
I was in the audience in this taping. My face turned pretty red when she said “what kind of person feeds Chinese food to a dog?!” I guess I thought that was normal…😩
LMAOOOOO😂😂😂
Be feeding my dog my leftovers at times😭😭😭
That was funny
Karamo is the best. I could watch his shows all day. The wisdom from this man.
The brother really is goofy though.
😂😂😂
😭😭 making a video about his sister he living is crazyyy
She’s been parentified her whole life even until this point, and they’re still trying to squeeze more out of her. Wild.
She sacrificed her childhood to help everyone else, but nobody made sacrifices for her. She went out her way for everybody but nobody went out their way for her. Even for something as little as watching her dog.. the little sister is ungrateful because she has her sister AND her mom. Marquesa only has herself. Props to Karamo for seeing that👏🏽. The sister only wants her around when its beneficial for her. And the brother in her house saying when he gets back on his feet he wants to cut her off is crazy because the little sister has a lot of talk yet she didn't take him in?
Did that man child just say “when I get back on my feet” while living in her house? Did he really say that while sleeping in her house and eating her food? The mom is definitely at fault here! Sitting there all nonchalant with not a care in the world🙄.
The mom is the issue. She really needs to take it to the source. I'm tired of older siblings being labeled a bully for having to carry everyone's weight.
Kamaro Did A Awesome Job at Perceiving what was going on in this situation..
That girl gotta be tough bc the momma wasn’t tough. That girl has had to raise two children at a young age and never really experienced a childhood for herself. She has now gotten herself a shell made outta steel bc of the disappointment her mom has done to her over and over again.
I'm 7 minutes in, and the youngest is giving spoiled brat to me.
I swear, I felt the same thing
She is the entitlement with dog situation was disgusting how do you drop off 1 of your sisters dog with a friend girl 👋.
Just rambling on like girl shut up
@@antoinettejohnson2188then complain they don't have a sister relationship. When is she going to start being a sister and not just a responsibility
Examples like this is why PARENTS need to raise their own kids. It robs the kids of their own youth and it’s not right. If you can’t afford to take care of your own kids, don’t have them.
Facts!!
Two things can be true at one time. It's possible that she feels overwhelmed and moreso the matriarch of her family vs her own mom. In addition, her family seems a little entitled. So, she might be lashing out when they come at her sideways.
I mean bro would be moving into mom's house since they gang up on her so nicely
This was such a relatable episode. Ppl don’t understand the weight on your shoulders when you feel like you have to carry the entire family. I’m glad Karamo actually acknowledged it
First of all that younger sister needs to appreciate what her older sister did for her ungrateful ass! She had to be her Mother, when their Mom couldn't! She kept her safe and did what she could and she was a damn child herself! So yeah she is angry because she is hurt and she ain't get to be a child! Smh!
As an older sibling that does not mean we must act like that towards the little kids bc they didn’t ask for us to do that. The littles did not but that responsibility on us older ones. Her anger should be directed towards her mother not the younger ones
I’m the youngest and me and my sister HAD the SAME dynamic as these pretty ladies. My sister had to be tough and thought I had an easy life, while I was struggling and thought she was a bully. After years of conflict, we are finally sisters🤞🏿I understood her pain she went thru for years and I’m still learning.. And she understands how she affects me with her words and actions. I now try to help my sister with anything she asks. Because I know if she’s asking me, she really NEEDS HELP. And now our relationship is great. She still has a habit of trying to mother me but I learned to just appreciate her advice and take it or leave it. No need for arguments. I love her so much now❤❤❤❤
This is my story too - I’m the oldest and my sister and I had the same dynamic. I learned how to put everyone’s needs above my own and felt so angry and resentful. I was always in that motherly role because my mom was always working - it wasn’t until I was in my 20’s that I started seeing her as a sibling. I see both of their sides - individual therapy helped us alot. I’m so thankful I have my sister and we have such a better relationship now.
The mom sitting there doing nothing is a perfect picture of how useless she has been as a mother the entire time
This is so personal for me! I’m the oldest and I had a lot of responsibility because my mother was a single mom who was legally blind so I took up a lot of responsibilities with my siblings. Whenever anything went wrong the blame went on me 😞
I hear you. Went through the same thing. So grateful to God I've grown past and beyond that without any resentment whatsoever neither towards my Mom/Parents or my siblings 🙏🏾
I've never had teary eyes on a Karamo show, but this. 😢😢 Never expected this outcome from Karamo. Wow! Karamo is a genius - bravo.
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Big sister run! Baby girl find your tribe!!!!
They want her to be used, but have a smile on her face about it
As soon as the younger sister said she couldn’t watch 2 dogs at the same time and dropped one of them off at a friends house i knew she was immature and selfish…
When she told her that up front, the eldest should've moved on to find another solution to her problem. Lucky she didn't drop both at a shelter. The oldest lacks respect. She's just like the mother- fake n bs thinking they getting over with the soft voice like they aren't bullies in real life.
@@MsBossy2UBustasyou sound absolutely crazy and I hope you’re young with this mindset, this girl has financially and maternally supported a sister who isn’t her child and you mean to tell me she couldn’t watch two dogs? That’s why the oldest distanced herself and opted for harsh language instead because that surface level communication that they’re already used to. If you could watch one of them you could’ve watched both, simple, it may not have been EASY TO DO but it wasn’t EASY for the oldest to make the sacrifices shes made.
She do everything for everyone, don’t nobody do nun for her
This episode kinda hit me personally. I have similar issues but way more toxicity. My mother would never be able to admit to anything negative.
I agree with karamo for being on the oldest side ! 👏🏾
The sister has been parentified i completely get where she's coming from, at the same time that's not her siblings fault so i get whats happening but shes doing SO MUCH for them, like calling her a bully and ganging up on her WHILE STILL BENEFITTING FROM HER AND BEING IN HER HOUSE LIKE i feel so bad for her
why am i crying with these strangers ??😭😭
She didn’t deserve any of this from her family. She’s the type that could go no contact and the family would be oblivious acting like they didn’t know why!😡
Karamo baby this is why I love you!!!!! Thank you! Because from the dog situation I was disagreeing with the baby sister. And I was hoping you would see right through that family and that you did. Thank you so much for standing up for her. You can tell she’s a good sister and a good person.
Thank you
It was the “and that’s why I did it, you shouldn’t have put that on me” for me 😭 like ma’am huh
Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it
there is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.
this is helpful, I will look her up. I hope this works for me too, I really miss her.
This is hands down my favorite talk show host! He teaches me so much!
Crying whilst writing , KARAMO thank you for getting people! I’ve never been to a show, concert, etc bc of anxiety but I’d love to come o your show one day!
He helps so many people and changes lives down to the viewers!
I hate how people always have to find THE bad person for every situation.. What I love here is that Karamo listened to every single one of them and when you do, you just realize that the problem is deeper. each one has to work on themselves in order to have a healthy family relationship.. I feel that. hope the best for them because there is obviously love
As the oldest, i understand the oldest sister. Me and my sister went through a period where she hated me and i didn't know why. She eventually told our mom it was bcuz i bullied her growing up. I told her i was a child as well. U cant hold me accountable for things i did when i was 10. I did everything for my sister. Im a beautician and she barely pays me. We have a great relationship now but it was a tough road. Thanks Karamo for speaking for the oldest child who takes on all of the responsibility
Oh my this touched my soul,as an elder sister,my sister calls me mom(jokingly),I practically raised her when my mom and step dad died when we were only 5 &3.It is hard y'all, exhausting,you get angry,tired but then again we always talk it out, because I have only got 1 sister but I also learnt , sometimes let them learn on their own,you don't always have to the one to solve their problems,starr by letting everyone fend and provide for themselves,they are grown.Work on your peace, healing ,trauma away from the family and then just then,it is good mom acknowledged everything Karamo was saying and that she apologized to the firstborn.all the best family.
Im at 8:47 and the whole show up until that point she said little to nothing and barely reacted to anything anyone said only for her to come to complete tears soon as karamo started to actially see her😩😭 omg karamo so special hope he have this show forever she completely broke soon as he told her sorry and she didn't deserve anything that happened on that stage now let me finish watching ❤❤❤
As a older sibling I can feel her pain every one except the oldest to get it right the first time and that’s not how things is
Older sister helped raise everybody, and no one has learned to express gratitude. She’s the backbone.