Boyfrnd ENTP, friendly sister INTJ at the same time I have a slightly controlling mother INTJ and i like INFJ in moderation.. I didn't like other INFPs .. And i find ENFPs interesting, very open and charming speak what they think.. I want to be like ENFP.. i am trying to be more open and quick witted than to feel misunderstood and worried about what others tell
INFJs, INTPs, INTJs. I get mostly along with intuitives because of the low sensing and lack of Se :D. Mostly introverts as well, because I think extraverts tend to think I don't want to be their friend, because I can be rather timid with new people and it can take time for me to be more open. Types I admire and would like to know better: ENTPs, ENTJs, ENFJs, I don't know many people of those types but they seem interesting for sure. I have to say though, I do get along with ESFJs and ISFJs and I love making them laugh, but I can't really relate with them in discussions that much, because I generally prefer deeper topics that have to do with intuition and perhaps Fi, and xSFJs (and SJs and SPs in general) prefer to conversate about concrete stuff, and I'm not good at saying anything in those *Se*nsing topics lol.
My best friend is an ENFJ and my favorite aunt is an ISFJ. I'm not sure about other types because I haven't convinced many people to take the test.. Edit: My boyfriend is an INFJ đ
as an INFP, i have really strong bonds with ENFP's. they bring out my most comfortable self, and although i envy their confidence and extroverted-ness sometimes, they're dear friends to my heart and they bring out my confident self
Same here bro, but my ENFP's one is my ex. We didn't have contacted to eachother for half years. I think we can't go along with eachother. Im still can't move on. đ
I'm an INFP girl and an ENTP guy recently "adopted" me, and that description is so freaking accurate. Our friendship just seems odd to me; I kind of feel like I'm his personal project or something. It's like he's trying to fix me and he's always nagging at me to be less lazy and to finish stuff on time. He's always trying to get me to get out of my comfort zone to improve myself, and although it is helpful, I feel so annoyed by it.
From what I experienced, it's their way to try to "help" you, most of the times, unsolicited help. I recomend you trying to voice that you feel that way. Sometimes it's hard for them to understand feelings, but they'll make the effort if they care for you
Ask help where u want their help and then they will learn how to help u.. i have an entp boyfrnd and he is like this he made me take another career path but then I told him strongly i don't want it and that doesnt make a change in me.. and he understood, now he helps me do what I want to do.. tells me what to do next..But if I don't feel right about what he tells me to do, i will do something that I want to do and he feels happy when I do something and it works somehow..He makes me active and want to take action..He did many things to me career wise and in all aspects.
ENTPs are very misunderstood but most of all, they are so underrapreciated!! They are very critical and opinionated in a way thats overbearing at times but you know whats fun about that? If you want to have fun with them, just call them out on their preferences/opinions and tell them that they suck!! lol. He'll be like why..? Tell him well, because this kind of food or music is just trash dude like wtf this is much better obviously because this and that..! You have to be able to own yourself and be willing to put yourself on the receiving end of this but what you need to keep in mind is that FOR THEM ITS FUN LOL. You can tease them and dissagree with them on absolutely anything and they'll LIKE you for it! As long as you're not straight out mean, you can be as playfully rude as you want and they won't be bottered by it LOL. Hell even if you need to be seriously rude just to make a point they'll respect you for it and wont be disconcerted one bit! Take it as an opportunity to express strong opinions and also to stand for yourself no matter how much logic they use to prove you wrong because MORALITY is their BLINDSPOT so if you feel a certain way about something and internally you know why and how much its important just stand your ground no matter what and be willing to express that this is something beyond any sort of argumentation. Lead Fi's idealistic decision-making is definitely something they struggle to understand and they will always question it, just don't take it personnaly and don't budge when you feel its not right to do so!
I'm INTJ and my boyfriend is INFP â€â€ i am so in love with his intellect â€â€ he's so smart and makes u think a lot! He doesn't want me to stay in a small state, he constantly wants me to improve and think and I love him
An INFP male here that got adopted by an ENFP female... we think the same things more than not... similar interests and communication just effortless... we just work. It has been so refreshing and we just act like absolute children! Love every waking moment with them! Can't wait to see what adventures we go on next!
As an INFP I get along pretty well with INFJs, they're basically my "best friends". I find them trustworthy and we give each other plenty of space, do not expect immediate responses from each other. My second favourite type at the moment is the INTP. I enjoy how sincere and genuine they are, I usually have a difficult relationship with criticism, but I somehow appreciate the criticism that comes from my close INTPs, most of the time it is really eye-opening. I have an ok relationship with ENFJs, but I find it hard to trust them or believe them at times. ENFPs? I kind of get them, but they're just to hyper-active for me. ESTJ? You know what, not too bad! They're kind of harsh, but they are definitely sincere. I would probably recruit one for my team.
Omg most of my close friends are infjs and I'm an infp. We get along soo well. Recently met a guy who's an infj and I've never felt this interested in a guy in my life. That mind is just wow! Their intellect and emotional intelligence is out of this world.
@i .candy they're processing stuff in their mind. Talk to them and see. As an infp, i tend to talk to people a lot specially the quiet ones ans discover the infjs that way.
My partner is INFP, I am an INTJ. it took me 8 years of knowing him, and a pandemic to start talking to him. I have never known love like this could exist. It is perfect and scary. The silence and and the internalizing of emotions, especially in a long distance relationship is extremely hard. I am not giving up on him, but I am worried, I am not there for him the way he needs me to be. đđ
@@PapaGolfRomeo Long distance is hard. INFPs do well with a lot of reassurance. We tend to get in our own heads a lot and you INTJs can be difficult to read. You hold your cards close to your chest and while you feel very deeply, I know it's a challenge to express yourself. I encourage you to make an extra effort to be more open about your feelings when talking to your boyfriend and ask him if there is anything he needs from you. I highly recommend the 5 love languages book. My husband and I listened to it when we drove home from our honeymoon and it has been a blessing in our marriage. The book helps you to identify how you feel loved. (Quality time, physical touch, acts of service, words of affirmation, and gifts). Once you both know what your love languages are, you can devise ways to love each other in their own love language. I wish you lots of happiness together, and I hope this helps!
@@bunny_0288 Thank you for your response. I did lower my guard alot, to the extent that I could type as an INFP when I am with him, just so that I could be what he needs me to be, open and a safe haven for him. But, He rejected me last night. So, There's That. Trying Not to think about it right now, because the moment I start feeling this, I am gonna crumble. Wish me luck and thank you for responding. Have a wonderful life ahead with your partner. Good Luck!
INFP married to an ESFJ and very happy. It's the best relationship I've ever had, he's the best. I feel like I don't deserve him. Also I have friends who are an INFP-ENTJ couple and they are great together.
Thatâs so great to hear! Iâm an ESFJ (female), thatâs getting to know an INFP (male), and they say this pairing is âChallenging Opposites,â so itâs always nice to hear that this pairing has a chance of success :)
I have very strong romantic connection with enfj and best friends with Esfj. I get along with almost everyone until they try to control or cross my boundaries đđđ
"Control or cross boundaries" ESTJ's do this as a habit and apparently God given right. I've clashed the most with a family member of this type. He annoys the hell out of me and I frustrate the hell out of him. He's the irresistable force, I'm the immovable object.
I like the dynamic with INTJ, they are the best match in my opinion. Can be rlly hard to grab their attention but xD infp clumsiness and awkward expressions are rlly hard to miss. Like basically put infp and intj in a room together and they will notice eachother đ€Ł.
INFP hanging happily in a corner by themselves thinking up some thought or scenario in their head and quietly laughing. INTJ sees and thinks "that person's acting weirder than me." INFP notices INTJ who has now been unknowingly staring for 3mins straight. INTJ realizes INFP has noticed INTJ. Conversation starts between them on said INFP thought because INTJ needs to know. Friendship ensues.
@@skatingfairyrolls right! A healthy infj-infp relationship wouldn't feel controlling, but rather mutually beneficial. But in the case of a toxic INFJ, that person would be quite condescending upto the point of controlling, since they often feel a need to guide their partner and assume they know what the best decision is, in the case of a toxic relationship, they may take advantage of INFP's indecisiveness. The quality of the relationship also depends on the person's individual characteristics, insecurities and life experiences and choices rather than only their personality type.
@@yoricusrex I'm also an INFP man, but I learned to appreciate it. I guess it helps not to compete with other people with different personalities because in the end we as INFPs have different needs. đ€ One advice, look for ENFJ people, they tend to be understanding of these things and since they are extroverted it creates a fun dynamic đ
I like how you present every personality in a positive light, it feels like you really see the good in every potential human behaviour (which, I feel, if I'm not mistaken, is very INFJ in the most inspiring way).
Yeah, total different channel to the one I had a doubtful pleasure to watch yesterday. There was guy reading on the internet people comments about MBTI and was passive-agressive towards these comments, was laughing out loud from them and sometimes I think he even offended some people. There were many critical comments about INFPs under his video and he liked all of them xd And I was like: 'Where the hell I am? Who the fuck are you?!'. I think he presented himself as psychologist xd Fucken awesome psychologist!...
That is awesome Dave. I am an INFP and my father was an ISTP. We always had an incredibly close bond despite our differences. I feel blessed having had him as a father.
ENFJ woman are fantastic. I have two of them as my best friends and I learned alot from them. As a INFP woman I am really happy for their support and friendship.
So, seen from the other side: I'm an ISFJ and INFPs seems to be my favourite people! First of all they seem to need someone to take care of them. Also this FI-thing seems to make me able to trust them more than other people (ISFPs are different though, they always seem ever so slightly annoyed and that makes me nervous) They are both poetic and gentle. I have a hard time interacting with bossy or insensitive people so I often find INFPs to be the opposite of that.
I don't know many ISFJ types but your comment makes me feel as though any of us INFP types have missed out by not having one or more in our lives. Thanks Jeanette.
My paternal grandmother is a ISFJ. She does't have a close relationship with both her sons. It must be because my uncle is very cold and my father very sentimental. She is a evan tempered person, quaiet and peaceful. I guess is why she much prefers her greandchildren and great greandchildren because all of us 6 have a evan tempered personality. But she is a very caring grandmother and great grandmother for all her 3 grandchilderen (2 woman and a man) and great greandchildren (3 boys that are the children of my cousins).
The feeling is mutual. ISFJs know exactly what to do (amazing to an indecisive INFP). They prioritize everything so easily, and have noble motives. The encouragement I give to ISFJs is a good investment. The world benefits when ISFJs are true to their nature.
I am INFP, my best friend so ENTJ. We've been friends 10 years now! And the INFP INTJ is so true, another great friend of mine is INTJ and you really summed up our friendship! He's such a great guy, we get along so well, not a single disagreement, and if we do, we talk about it so civilly, such a smart guy too, I can't wait to see how he changes this world đ
As an INFP I LOVE ESFPâs... They make me feel so alive! I never get tired of them... though they can definitely be a lot! Also, my best friend is an ISFJ and we just get each other. We have been best friends since we were four years old and we will be friends for life... Itâs a very deep friendship. I am definitely more sensitive than her, but she keeps me grounded and doesnât judge me at all.
I totally relate!! I had a crush once with an ESFP, and it was so fresh ! Also I liked how we could feel each others without saying that straight forward. At least this is what I perceive from him, I don't know if it was a two sides view because we never talked about that. And my Sister is an ISFJ. We had a hard time when we were teenagers but now it is like my best friend. We often say how much we care for each other. I am truly grateful to have such a sister. She is very tough even if she do no realize it. I really admire how she care for others. She is in the medical field . I am very proud that such a person exist to take care of others. I respect her a lot.
Iâm and infp and my boyfriend is an intp. Iâve never been more in love but yes, weâve had many fights because I thought he was being âinsensitiveâ but thatâs not true. He always tells me his intentions are all good and once I got this in my head I became less sensitive and the less sensitive over his âcriticismâ (which as you mentioned he does because heâs trying to help), the more I understand him and myself.
Iâm an INFP and my daughter (old soul) is an INFP. We get along fantastically 99% of the time, both recognising our own strengths and weaknesses. Sometimes I lean in her, other times she leans on me. Works brilliantly for us!
As an INFP (I think), my favorite might be the ENFJ! They are really genuine and so bold about caring for other people! At least, this is my impression of family & friends Iâve had over the years who seemed to be ENFJ... They are fun to visit with and there is always something meaningful they are trying to understand. Of course, everyone is different and I know every personality can be genuine & caring... Iâve had a tough time understanding people with dominant T, especially extraverted thinking. Learning about personality has helped me so much, and Iâve learned to feel loved when they try to âfix thingsâ for me. The extraverted thinkers in my life can be very self sacrificing- I try to watch for this so I donât inadvertently take advantage of them by making them think something is wrong by complaining ... Because they will try to fix things right away! đ
I'm an ENFJ, and yes, I do take special care of INFPs. INFPs are really strong and loving people, but they need supportive people around them who can make them fell safe, loved, and understood. ENFJs respond instinctively to people who have those kids of needs, so we are naturally drawn to INFPs.
My son is an INFJ and I am an INFP... yes... you said it perfectly... we are each other's mentor... he tries too heart... he stresses himself out at work .. he needs my support.. on the other hand.. he gives me a different perspective ... and we have great and deep discussions... we are both creative and support each other with that too.. much love to you Eric!! â€ïž
You are a genius, Erik! Just tonight I was reassuring my INFP partner that there is no reason for him to be stressed by his 2000-mile move to where I am. I told him I would be here no matter what. I could feel his relief because he so wants to make me happy. Anyway, thank you for this awesome video! đ
As an INFP, I dated another INFP and there were aspects that were pure bliss because of that nearly instant emotional connection, but it was difficult for us to reconcile our strong opinions and differences because we are a stubborn bunch about the things we care about, and they don't align well--or we put too much emphasis on something that's personal to other people--it can be very tough to reach us. It teaches an important lesson that the things we're strongly attached to via (Fi) aren't as universal as we typically believe.
Ive also dated my own type, infj, and it can be very intense and hard to see yourself so deeply in another person, and to be frustrated by the flaws they have, that you know are also in yourself. It can also be hard to feel misunderstood by your own type, to want to be seen, but to feel that even though they are the same type as you, they dont get it completely. But its absolutely worth it and everyone should have friends of the same type!
Been with my intp boyfriend for a year and Iâve seen him cry once (Iâm an infp). Although we are super different because Iâm emotion driven and heâs logic driven, we work super well together. Heâs rly sweet. I canât wait for him to be able to be more emotional around me.
My best friend is intj... but he likes enfp girls and I like entj guys (I'm infp).. we talk for hours and we get each other so well. Entj - they LEARN and improve on their weaknesses if they really love you... I've seen it happen... But how you described ISTJ made me want one...
I am an INFP and I just found out recently that most of the people I am closest with are INFPs as well. I guess somehow infpâs energy attracts another infp very well.
Iâm an INFP and my Boyfriend is a ENTJ. I think we are a match made in heaven đŻ!! For some reason, ENTJ men have always been highly attracted to me đ€·đœââïžđ„°
Erik!! This was sooooo accurate! Im really close to an infj and an enfp and u described our dynamics so precisely... great pointers you gave! ..I'm not done with the video.. so I'm looking forward to what u have to say about the esfj đ
Iâm an INFP and my friend is either an ENFP or ESFP (Not sure which) we are very attracted to each other, we are very different but also have our similarities. I like the ways that we are different. Sometimes I wish we could just hang out at home, but at the same time she has led me on some memorable adventures and I feel more alive when she is in my life. If we donât talk for a long time I feel like Iâve stopped living in a way, stopped taking risks
Moonbeam, what makes you think that she is ENFP versus ESFP vice versa? There are huge differences between these types. Please stop trying to rely on her so much. Co-dependency is toxic. For both of you. It can be so restrictive. Try and meet new people and have fun. Use what you learnt, that is appropriate, in the social context. For example - what value can you bring to others' lives that can be fun yet valuable? Think of sport, cuisine, entertainment, fundraising, sightseeing etc.
"A bit woo woo about something.". I love it! Never heard that phrase but I know exactly what it means. It explains a lot in my life. I will always chuckle whenever I think about that. Thanks Erik Thor đ
Wow this video is so interesting and insightful!! To theoretically learn about the relationships between infp and tye other types is just- mindblowing! Not to even mention that you made every personality type sound awesome in their own way
Loved this video I felt like you were talking about me personally throughout lol :P all of yalls explanations drastically helped me realize and understand many of my shortcomings and misunderstandings that had been destroying the relationship with the most important person in my world and ironically it was these missed significancies in my partners personality because I was so focused on my view of things, that the wedge was literally being driven deeper by my own hand. After understanding why I feel the way i do, and why my partner does the things she does, and her motives and my feelings are entirely unrelated - I have begun healing and restoring our sense of peace. INFPs out there please understand that no matter how justified and steadfast you may FEEL about what you perceive to be happening, the motives of those who can swing your mood are not always what YOU would be motivated by. This is a paramount understanding whose importance may not be fully grasped in scope yet, that must be respected. Not everyone else thinks and acts the same way you do... Your partner may rush off without saying she loves you because the only thing on her mind in that moment is something needs to URGENTLY GET DONE. It has nothing to do with you INFP.... quit taking things SO PERSONALLY. The world doesn't revolve around how it makes you feel. And appriciate those who stand by you through your tantrums and outbursts, you may get over them easily but they may not, and still yet here they are doing all the little nuanced things that make you feel special. Your partner can love you and not show you in a way that you fully realize yet... Keep trying. To understand them and yourself. These videos are a good start. Apply them. Use them when you feel triggered. Your partners differences are what make you so drawn to them. Cherish these things, dont turn them into toxic reasons to abandon hope. What does your heart tell you about why this person still shows up at 2am just to spend 20 minutes with you when they should be sleeping - just because you felt lonely. LOVE THEM BACK DUMMY, We are lucky to have the ones who are capable to make us think outside our box. They are the ones who will push you to greatness, and enjoy it right alongside you. Much love. Never give up. â€
It depends on the specimen I guess. I used to be in a relationship with one. It was wonderful at first. But with times our conflicts were more and more serious. I was not able to express myself clearly enough. He never understood my view and feelings when it was about our relationship. For his side of view, my life was too much chaos and he needed more structure and action. We were great to realize projects together. Not so much to relate emotionaly, quite destructive for both hapiness sides. We did have a lot of fun together. At least until conflicts were too serious
Loved this!! It made me think I must not have met the right ESFJs yet (or enough healthy ESFJs) bc that description was not at all relatable for me...but good to know đ€
Merci Erik for your video, it is really interesting. Here are a few words about one of my closest friend (Aussie INFJ) and my partner (Indian ENTP). I am a French INFP female. One of my closest friend is INFJ (she is Aussie) and we were doing this remote drinks on Sat evening because of France lockdown, and we agreed that this society is made for extroverts and and we are comfortable with the way things are these days (not the virus of course - btw, I hope all is well with all of you), but the international chaos that is created by all this situation because it looks like our inner life. Also staying home and social distancing is not very different from our daily life, so we decided we could be "social distancing consultant and to keep busy at home during lockdown" :-) I agree with you with the fact that INFJ can appear as manipulative and I do tell my INFJ friend to step back a bit because I can feel she is too intrusive and trying to make me things do that I don't feel like doing, and then it's all ok. On the opposite, she asks me to listen to her and tell my mind, but not too much because she feels it's too brutal for her but I can't lie, even if it does not serve me too much, it's against my values and I just won't do it. But this honesty makes that we are close friends as well. My partner is ENTP (Indian national) and as he is a journalist, he is always checking news, and we debate about pretty much everything. Needless to say, as an INFP, it is exhausting to have to make an argument of everything but also very intellectually stimulating. Also, his view of things and life is so refreshing for me, he is very logic and I'm not too logic for him so I have to make sure that I build arguments and it helps me at work. Another thing is that I don't know how to make a decision for small things (which happens quite often), he helps me because he takes decision in 30 seconds and I know its in my best interest, so I gain a lot of time and I feel liberated ! Another very important thing is that he respects my freedom and private space and this is PRICELESS!!! Thank you for taking time to read this loooooooooooong message :) Have a great week and thank you for your great videos! Florence
You explained my type really well. I've big boundaries and I need time to open up too. To be with an INTP is very overwhelming in some ways. I dated an INTP (researched it later) and he was so on and off, I was really confused and felt rejected and then I rejected him and so on. He was the FIRST man to called me (after I run away on the first date) to see me again. I'll never forget that and it makes me cry because I was so anxious. And I think he was really anxious too. But we were perfect for each other I guess. I'm an "artist" and I draw him after dating. He criticized me for posting MY art (because it shows him), I felt not good for being in that position to delete the art-post. But as I deleted it, he was ok with me...I just wanted him to know I didn't hate him and he didn't have to block me or something like that. INTPs (my thoughts) tend to be a little childish and raw. I like that, but to get confi with another type it needs time. It ALWAYS needs time...I told him frequently "we need time"....so. I see the problems coming and then boom...it happens. It's always timing what is an asshole, not the just the types and judging or feeling pushed.
I'd really like to meet an ENTJ. Speaking as an INFP guy, I don't even care if it lead into a relationship or not, I just think it would be so fun to interact with someone like that. I've been lucky enough to have friends an family who understand me and give me space, but nudge me outside my comfort zone every once in a while. I just feel like I could learn so much from and ENTJ, someone who's punctual and holds other people to the same standards, someone who actively pursues their goals. I have no motivation and I live inside my imagination, so I'd enjoy a friend who keeps me grounded, yet understands me. And if we have a fulfilling friendship that leads into something bigger, then I'd be happy with that.
i used to find entj's the most interesting, recently come to realise estj are actually not bad and more similar than i thought really ! lately i really really like *NFJs x) but i click best with ENFPs i think XD .. enjoyed the video ^^
@@basedneeble7350 I am an INFP (even though I took key2cognitive yesterday n got INFJ .. some say it's the Ni Fi loop but i think it's my high Te :'}} it happens when infps are under stress and anxiety (there are three leves to it high Te is the last level ^^;; n i am sorry i really forgot the reference or source ! ) I would aways say a healthy infp is more like an Enfp and an anxious infp is more ike an infj .... long answer would think INFP/INFJ would cut it ^^; ..
I noticed a pattern in people Iâve befriended over the years. The positive ones are: Esfp, enfp and enfj. I feel so comfortable around these. The extroverted energy does not even bother me. I take breaks, but I always wanna go with these types wherever they wanna go happily eventually. I met one entj once who surprised me. We had a rocky start and then we fixed it and it became harmonious. Iâm so used to estjâs not willing to work with me that entj took me off guard.
I am an infp and I am all alone...I am just watching this to give myself fake temperorary hope.. I am scared a little bit. The good thing about CZcams comments is no one sees and even if anyone does, it strangers..
If you ever feel alone ask yourself this: Do other people feel that way? Who feels that way? Look around you. There is always someone else who is alone.
Your filming space reminds me of the basement of the bookshop in the tv series 'You'. I love it haha. Is this a library or your house?? If the latter.. awesome, I'd love a room like this đ€Ł
I have lots of different filming rooms in my apartment building, at the moment I'm filming downstairs in the shared common rooms of my apartment building because my GF is always home :P
As an INFP, ISFJâs creep me out by getting too much in my biz wanting to know everything for their benefit. Quite overbearing IMO but, then again maybe I havenât met a healthy one.
I'm an INFP too (male). My mum is an ISFJ and I feel like she can be a little bit like that too. But then I've been told of this ENFP girl's ISFJ mother who is completely overbearing with her. And then I've met this other ISFJ girl who seems perfect to me. She respects my boundaries and it's almost like she's too shy to talk to me some days because she feels like I'm so perfect...but she does everything in her power to look after me and make me feel safe with her. To me, it's like I've got this cheat book on how to interact with ISFJs because of growing up with my ISFJ mum. I know how to look after this girl, and she knows how to look after me, so it seems like we're just building each other up the whole time. We seem unbreakable. ...but I'm still a little cautious with this girl because I'm waiting for international flights to open up again to be able to fly overseas so I can finally meet her in real life. She seems incredibly perfect to me, but I won't know for certain until I'm there with her in real life. I just really hope that all of this time and effort doesn't go to waste...
19:28 Lol sorry but with a dad that's an ISTJ I don't really feel completely calm and relaxed with him, in all honestly he kind of makes the whole household a bit tense because he kind of expects things to be done perfectly so I can't always do things on my own timeđą
Diana, sorry to hear that. I had an ISTP father and he was dictatorial in some ways, which is culturally based in addition to his MBTI type. Do you have any interests in common? Can you involve your mother in improving your relationship? Or siblings? My father and I had a special bond despite our diametrically opposing personalities. We had many things in common despite our differences. Our love of literature, music and similar political ideals.
My ISTJ mother is not like that. I guess it diffrent for all. She knows haw to respect my time and way of work and evan if she is the boss at out family business (because she deserves this as the most hard working person and having managing skills plus leading skills) she does not overstep my bounderies and I can say as a INFP I am very stubborn and not easy to work with when it comes to my creativity. It may help if you remind your father in diplomatic and logical way that you have a diffrent way of working and a diffrent mind set.
@@leliavoinea5934 Ive tried and tbh he has relaxed a bit more but he is kind of closed minded in some aspects to me method and my asking why something should be done the way he wants.
@@antoinettenovella1630 We tolerate eachother and my dad is very dictatorial as well (more so since im hispanic and theres alot of sexism involved when theres arguments) and im closer to my mom because we see things more similar (not sure if she is an Intp or Istp because she's taken it multiple times and even i am confused by her personality at times) and I dont think she can really help, she has implied that she is only really staying in the relationship because of me and my brother. But these are all my personal experiences so I hope to find other people that might deter me from having some hesitation towards friendships with these personalities because everyone is individually differentđ€·đ»ââïž
INFP here, my mother is an unhealthy ESFJ, safe to say that's it's tough to deal with her. My favorite co-worker (who's the same age as my mom) is also ESFJ and analyzing her has helped me to look at my mother from a more neutral perspective. Without wanting to offend anyone here, I'm simply gonna share the subjective conclusion I drew from watching my co-worker and my mom. ESFJs have a certain vision of how the world should be, how people should behave and how they themselves should be treated. If it doesn't go along the way they had envisioned it, they lose it. They are the righteous hero of their story and anybody who dares to criticize their way must be an idiot or have bad intentions. They invest a lot of energy in helping others, but it's not for the sake of helping, it's because they base their sense of self-worth on it. So it's really important to them to constantly be praised and told what a good, hard-working person they are. When the people they've helped don't acknowledge them or don't react as thankful as expected, they are heavily insulted and feel betrayed. They are perfectionists, when someone can't live up to their ideal of how stuff should get done or life should be lived, they deem them as incompetent, lazy and annoying. They tend to gossip and complain a lot when they are not content with a situation or with a person's behaviour. I can see how all of what I listed would make it hard to deal with them, I mean my mother is really unbearable sometimes. BUT, there's a flipside to this, like to everything else. And the flipside is love and understanding. I don't like gossiping at all, but the core of ESFJ gossiping is them showing that they put their trust in you, they are not actively trying to give you negative energy, it's a way of showing you that they think you belong to them. So what I do, is listening absent-mindedly until they are done, that's enough for them. Their perfectionism and high standards can be super annoying, but at the end of the day, they are masters at what they're doing, they are amazing at creating order and working with structure, their effiency level at whatever they do is always top tier. To not become a victim to their frustration if you can't live up to their ideals, set some clear boundaries and make it clear to them that you won't become their personified will. Like everyone, they need lots of love. So no matter if whatever they do is actually irrelevant to you or even if you didn't ask for it, simply thank them and say how happy you are that they thought of you and did xyz for you. That will validate them and give them lots happiness and strength. And if you remind them to do more for themselves or to be more mindful (breaking the habit of being affected by "injustice" and then complaining nonstop) they will actually listen to you and consider what you are saying, they are opinionated, but still open-minded enough to hear such things. The INFP will often feel overstimulated by the ESFJ, but having an ESFJ as your "ally" is really wholesome, they will protect you from assholes that want to use you and motivate you to get your shit together with their tough love. Lol, this felt like writing a diary entry.
So, my guy best friend who I like is a esfp and Iâm an infp. When you said looking at them being bold is really inspiring I was like true I like him for being bold so that is super true lol
My dad is an INTP and Iâve learned how to deal with him for the most part. I actually know how to deal with him the most out of the rest of my family but I have those moments of complete irritation when he questions me or knit picks me and tells me I Need to do something... oh boy, the sass comes out and I feel bad đ granted, this has become more of an issue now that Iâm almost 30.
I love your videos I think a lot of what you said is interesting but there's one that I totally disagree on , As an infp I think you're wrong about istjs I think they're a too critical and judgemental , at first maybe they can appear like that but after there's a lot of sides that infps can't agree with it , judgement , too much planning , critiquing , not being comfortable to share your deep thoughts and feelings as they're not interested in them . I just wanted to share this experience as someone that lives with an istj as a sister and knows many istjs . I love your videos , keep going !
Iâm an INFP female and my personal opinion is that T dominant types are not a good match for us feelers. ENFJs are the best match. I avoid ESTJs when they ask me out.
I've seen Jane Eyre and Mr. Rochester typed as an INFP and an ENTJ, so it was especially interesting hearing how that section lined up against their dynamic.
- Vanya and Five from Umbrella Academy - Harvey Specter and Mike Ross - Gohan and Videl - Aaron Warner and Juliette Ferrars - The K-drama leads from The Master's Sun and Noble, my Love. Of course not all of them are romantic pairings.
@@sash8099 Thanks. I only know umbrella academy out of those, but I'll keep the others in mind. I never thought about Vanya and five as being those types, but now that you say it, it makes sense
All the best for you! Maybe try to find one or two persons you trust, who are not intrusive and who are empathetic and who ask what you might need. Interacting with such persons may hopefully help you with establishing some boundaries and being able to live safer and happier.
I donât know if itâs because Iâm a turbulent INFP, but Iâve never been a fan of the ENFJS Iâve met. I find them pushy and overbearing, so itâs interesting to me that they are seen as our âidealâ partnership. I tend to gravitate towards other INFPS, INTPS and ENFPS.
Ah, you're not the only one. I'm also an INFP, and I always feel on my guard around ENFJs and can't relax. I got close to one in a friendship, but mostly from them pushing it, and needless to say, that fell apart terribly. Ironically, one of the friendships I've ever felt the most in-tune with was with an ESTJ, when often times INFPxESTJ pairing can get a really bad rep. But that's the only other type that I've felt like I could just jump inside their brain for a bit and understand them without saying anything, and vise versa, and feel totally at ease. We could disagreed a lot on trivial things, but were always on the same page with big or important things. With the ENFJ I mentioned, it was the exact opposite, on all points mentioned.
I think that I got super lucky. The only ENFJ I know is my best friend. I was in a really bad place when we met and she broke down my concrete walls. She may be a rarity of the ENFJ type, we also share a similar tri-type, but she is just a phenomenally beautiful person. We are of a similar European heritage despite living in the Southern Hemisphere. We had a similar academic history, shared ideals, hobbies and interests. We love the same movies, literature, art, humor and landscapes. Yet we are also very different. She is loud, vivacious and is an incredible leader who inspires her staff with both emotional and cerebral intellect where I prefer to take a backseat despite being very competitive with KPIs.
Same, the only ones I've ever met I have felt are manipulative and judgemental, and I didn't feel like I could relax around them or trust them. Very two-faced as well, they would act so friendly to people and then slag them off to me as soon as they were gone, which made me feel they probably did the same to me when I was gone...
@@teddie552 I felt like this about INFJ maybe similar there's they were very non confrontational maybe that's why, prefer ENFP, INTP and other INFPs too
I am glad it works. It's good. I know an ESTJ with whom I don't get along. Because we are so different. He doesn't get me at all. I feel he is too narrowminded and bossy. He has it in his head how everything should be and if it is not like he has it in his head, it's wrong and he doesn't accept it. But I don't know because I really don't know him that well, maybe if I was romantically involved with him it would be different. Because when in love people try more to get along.
How does your relationship work? How much of yourself & thoughts do you have to keep to yourself, if at all, when interacting with your ESTJ? Iâm an INFJ and I just canât be myself with ESTx types; weâre just too different. And I know everyone is different and has their own ways of communicating, but INFPâs and INFJâs are quite similar, so Iâm wondering how your relationship works, and if you ever feel like youâre listened to and understood. Do you ever feel like youâre missing something, or am I just pecking at nothing and asking nonsense questions lol
@@ninaholm877 it can be a struggle sometimes. He is always on the go and I like to take it easy. I've been able to set boundaries. I have to let him know when I've have enough socializing and need to stay home. I don't mind when he goes out without me. I think our personalities compliment each other. I've learned to be more assertive and he has learned to take it easy once in a while.
@@JakeLikesJoking it can be hard. Sometimes he is just too much and I find myself distancing myself from him. Sometimes I don't feel like he is listening to me so I just quit talking to him. Despite all our struggles and differences, I find that when I'm getting stressed out I need an ESTJ in my life. When I'm close to having a panic attack he steps in and takes control. He always knows what to say or do to prevent me from having a meltdown. When I just want to sit and process things and over think, he gets me up and doing things about the problem. On the other hand I've been able to get him to take things down a notch and relax some. It's been hard, yes. But after 16 years I wouldn't want it any other way.
@@mindireardon8941 I think it is good to have a person who can calm you down when you are overthinking and panicking. My husband is an ISTP and he also is good to calm me down when I am overthinking, panicking and going thru possible worst case scenarios. When I am too emotional and can't think logically, he calms me down by being rational like he is. He also finds ways to find concrete ways to solve my problems when I am lost. I think it might be a little bit same with ESTJ? My husband who is an ISTP, is calm and he is an introvert so we spend very much time at home or in the garden or somewhere in the woods (ha haa), but we have our own adventures.
Hi o have a video suggestion (I know it's kinda mean to ask on a video that has nothing close to the question but I'm really wanting this video, which house dont have to make) could you try to type Bo Burnham? He seems like one that is fun to type
I think inf-yay is best for infp. They are so...their feeling mixed with responsibiloty and their caring nature so helpful to infp. Dont worry about the Yudging, infyays are very tolerant. It doesnt matter what month it is either. Yune, Yuly or even August! Or the Fall, Winter or Efen the Spring months. An INFYAY will love you if you are an INFP! YUST BE HAPPY! Eat a good sandwich...infyay love sandwich that important. Postscript: Just fucking with you dude. Youre a good guy. I enjoy your videos. Sincerely, ENFP
Lol why inf-yay? Im an infp and my husband infj. God knew he was the one for me and me for him..he loves me so much and tells me every day. Superloving, understanding and gives best advice and he has so much wisdom I respect him a lot. We have the best deep interesting conversations. We both like to stay at home. He loves bread and sandwiches itâs true đ he is very simple when it comes to food and happy with everything I make. He thinks Iâm a master chef âșïžI never knew a man like my husband Im so thankful he is mine forever â€
INFPs absolutely need a thinking personality. I knew an ISTJ one time and the relationship dynamic was mind blowing. I admired her patience and calmness and absolutely adored her Si introspective nature. She was my best friend until she moved out of stateđ. Even to this day I can't stop thinking about her
I agreed with you all the way but not the ISTJ one! There is no way to feel relaxed around them.. Maybe it works if the relationship is not that intimate.. The struggle is that I'm an INFP married to an ISTJ
Honestly I have a ISTJ mother and she is also my boss on our family business. As a INFP I have strong bounderies and I am stubborn person on top of that I never back down when it comes to them and is haw I won her respect on the work place.đ As family and as mother and daughter we have a close and strong relationship because we comunicate well but at work we still clash because she is way to logical and I am more of the type that put in first place creativity over practical ideeas.đ
I am infp and I have esfp friend,I have known her for 13 years. We used to fight a lot as kids, with time things have changed a lot. We like to have deep conversations together.
Idk if it's just me but i could listen to this guy for HOURS. I fucking LOVE your accent and your voice, and have no clue why it just makes me smile and feel so god damn happy. I literally cannot listen to you without the most content smile of joy on my face. Keep up the great content man seriously this is a great video full of insights that other videos completely miss, you can really feel the compassion and importance this topic inspires in you and your want to share these healing understandings with the world. So just know that you personally are driving change in real people's lives out there. In mine personally it has moved me from a constant state of worry and disharmony to peaceful and relaxed, and my stressor was truly world breaking, I almost lost the love of my life and an amazing woman who i deeply care for, and I was actively responsible for the hurt we both were experiencing.... Without these insights it was extremely difficult for me to always see her needs and understand them in a way that made SENSE to me. Meaning: was significant in my perception so much so to inspire me to reflect whole heartedly and not relative to what emotion a certain trigger had set off in me. When i saw the fruits of my actions and self centered based emotional understanding, it brought me to tears... Because i was expecting my love to drop and be denied the very things I was demanding she fulfil for me as a condition of her love to be true and not some manipulation. Saying it like that sounds awful but it truly was never meant to be hurtful I thought I was righteous in my interpretation of what I was feeling. I would have not ever seen that her needs are very very very quite different than man, and in order for us both to find balance and happiness there had to be a mutual respect of what eachother needs. I had assumed shr was intentionally denying that to me and all the chaos and fucked up things that migjt happen when an already unstable infp believes that to be true. Needless to say I cried in her arms and explained how sorry I was for everything I had said to her over the weeks and how lucky I was to have a woman who through all the bs I threw her way, was in fact still there, taking my crap, dealing with it, and still finding the compassion to make sure I am ok, taken care of, loved, and felt special. People can be so fucking incredible and exceptional, it amazes me their well of energy must be absolutely endless. Anyway, yes, thankyou for your content, you are doing real healing work in the world and should genuinely feel proud of the things you are creating here. The love you project is infectious and spreads like wildfire, so please don't ever change. Much love my friend â€
Hello! Watching you while having dinner Where is your accent from? I'm curious and I don't distinguish accents well because I'm Spanish I'm an INFP-T - INFP: i tend to connect with other infp but I don't usually find them appealing in a romantic way. I prefer them as friends, for example, my bff is. - INFJ: I'm not sure if i know a infj in person. But majority of people who does videos like this are infj haha - ENFP: one ex was and I was absolutely absorbed by his weirdness and how confident about it he was. But for me it didn't work out, sometimes misinterpreting what we felt and me being too available. He lost interest once he "got" me. Emotional rollercoaster and i didn't felt secured at all. Great friend. - ESFJ: my mom. Communication is difficult but they are very caring. - ESTP: another ex. No understanding at all, like talking to a wall. But well, very hard-working and charismatic. - ENFJ: I admire them but I feel a bit drained at times. I'm idealistic but although I want to take action I like to focus also on other things for my own mental sanity. - ISTP: very calm and peaceful, until they change their mind and decide they don't like you anymore haha. My experience is that he didn't said clearly what he was thinking and feeling. - ESFP: party goers, a stereotype but a reality in the cases I'm thinking of. They like attention and are very charming, but sometimes a bit intimidating for me. - ENTP: my bf. Empathy requires a bit of effort but caring in their own way. They don't know how to handle people crying for example and they'll probably try to make you laugh. Looking back communication is an usual problem. Maybe it's me hahaha yey
INFPs, what personality types are your favourites (beside other infps ofcourse! :P)
I am an INFP and my favorite is my fiance - ENTJ đ what you said is very true!! I have the best conversations with him đ
I love INFJ's, even though they scare me i find them intriguing and loving. I also form strong emotional bonds with ENFP's
Boyfrnd ENTP, friendly sister INTJ at the same time I have a slightly controlling mother INTJ and i like INFJ in moderation.. I didn't like other INFPs .. And i find ENFPs interesting, very open and charming speak what they think.. I want to be like ENFP.. i am trying to be more open and quick witted than to feel misunderstood and worried about what others tell
INFJs, INTPs, INTJs. I get mostly along with intuitives because of the low sensing and lack of Se :D. Mostly introverts as well, because I think extraverts tend to think I don't want to be their friend, because I can be rather timid with new people and it can take time for me to be more open.
Types I admire and would like to know better: ENTPs, ENTJs, ENFJs, I don't know many people of those types but they seem interesting for sure.
I have to say though, I do get along with ESFJs and ISFJs and I love making them laugh, but I can't really relate with them in discussions that much, because I generally prefer deeper topics that have to do with intuition and perhaps Fi, and xSFJs (and SJs and SPs in general) prefer to conversate about concrete stuff, and I'm not good at saying anything in those *Se*nsing topics lol.
My best friend is an ENFJ and my favorite aunt is an ISFJ. I'm not sure about other types because I haven't convinced many people to take the test..
Edit: My boyfriend is an INFJ đ
as an INFP, i have really strong bonds with ENFP's. they bring out my most comfortable self, and although i envy their confidence and extroverted-ness sometimes, they're dear friends to my heart and they bring out my confident self
This is so true . Im an infp and my best friend is an enfp .
Same here bro, but my ENFP's one is my ex. We didn't have contacted to eachother for half years. I think we can't go along with eachother. Im still can't move on. đ
@@thawinwangnuruk9593 why did you break up??
0:42 INFP
2:18 INFJ
4:25 INTP
7:16 ENFP
9:20 ESTJ
12:24 INTJ
13:58 ISFJ
14:43 ESFP
15:54 ENTJ
17:50 ESFJ
18:47 ESTP
19:27 ISTJ
20:14 ENFJ
21:46 ISTP
22:19 ISFP
23:03 ENTP
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What kind of pair is it, INFP and ISTJ?
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I'm an INFP girl and an ENTP guy recently "adopted" me, and that description is so freaking accurate. Our friendship just seems odd to me; I kind of feel like I'm his personal project or something. It's like he's trying to fix me and he's always nagging at me to be less lazy and to finish stuff on time. He's always trying to get me to get out of my comfort zone to improve myself, and although it is helpful, I feel so annoyed by it.
From what I experienced, it's their way to try to "help" you, most of the times, unsolicited help. I recomend you trying to voice that you feel that way. Sometimes it's hard for them to understand feelings, but they'll make the effort if they care for you
Ask help where u want their help and then they will learn how to help u.. i have an entp boyfrnd and he is like this he made me take another career path but then I told him strongly i don't want it and that doesnt make a change in me.. and he understood, now he helps me do what I want to do.. tells me what to do next..But if I don't feel right about what he tells me to do, i will do something that I want to do and he feels happy when I do something and it works somehow..He makes me active and want to take action..He did many things to me career wise and in all aspects.
He sounds controlling.
ENTPs are very misunderstood but most of all, they are so underrapreciated!! They are very critical and opinionated in a way thats overbearing at times but you know whats fun about that?
If you want to have fun with them, just call them out on their preferences/opinions and tell them that they suck!! lol. He'll be like why..? Tell him well, because this kind of food or music is just trash dude like wtf this is much better obviously because this and that..!
You have to be able to own yourself and be willing to put yourself on the receiving end of this but what you need to keep in mind is that FOR THEM ITS FUN LOL. You can tease them and dissagree with them on absolutely anything and they'll LIKE you for it!
As long as you're not straight out mean, you can be as playfully rude as you want and they won't be bottered by it LOL. Hell even if you need to be seriously rude just to make a point they'll respect you for it and wont be disconcerted one bit!
Take it as an opportunity to express strong opinions and also to stand for yourself no matter how much logic they use to prove you wrong because MORALITY is their BLINDSPOT so if you feel a certain way about something and internally you know why and how much its important just stand your ground no matter what and be willing to express that this is something beyond any sort of argumentation.
Lead Fi's idealistic decision-making is definitely something they struggle to understand and they will always question it, just don't take it personnaly and don't budge when you feel its not right to do so!
@@ALX7PB88 that was really helpful, thank you đ
I'm INTJ and my boyfriend is INFP â€â€ i am so in love with his intellect â€â€ he's so smart and makes u think a lot! He doesn't want me to stay in a small state, he constantly wants me to improve and think and I love him
@@sophieevans8432 why?
An INFP male here that got adopted by an ENFP female... we think the same things more than not... similar interests and communication just effortless... we just work. It has been so refreshing and we just act like absolute children! Love every waking moment with them! Can't wait to see what adventures we go on next!
As an INFP I get along pretty well with INFJs, they're basically my "best friends". I find them trustworthy and we give each other plenty of space, do not expect immediate responses from each other. My second favourite type at the moment is the INTP. I enjoy how sincere and genuine they are, I usually have a difficult relationship with criticism, but I somehow appreciate the criticism that comes from my close INTPs, most of the time it is really eye-opening. I have an ok relationship with ENFJs, but I find it hard to trust them or believe them at times. ENFPs? I kind of get them, but they're just to hyper-active for me. ESTJ? You know what, not too bad! They're kind of harsh, but they are definitely sincere. I would probably recruit one for my team.
I am INFP. Daughter is INFJ; we get along great
Omg most of my close friends are infjs and I'm an infp. We get along soo well. Recently met a guy who's an infj and I've never felt this interested in a guy in my life. That mind is just wow! Their intellect and emotional intelligence is out of this world.
@@poohthetabby664 wow, same. I have six besties and three of them are infj
@i .candy they're processing stuff in their mind. Talk to them and see. As an infp, i tend to talk to people a lot specially the quiet ones ans discover the infjs that way.
@i .candy i have three infj friends and all of them are different. Mbti itself doesn't really explain things a hundred percent
Fellow INFP's. Get yourself an INTJ in your life and thank me later
My partner is INFP, I am an INTJ. it took me 8 years of knowing him, and a pandemic to start talking to him. I have never known love like this could exist. It is perfect and scary. The silence and and the internalizing of emotions, especially in a long distance relationship is extremely hard. I am not giving up on him, but I am worried, I am not there for him the way he needs me to be. đđ
@@PapaGolfRomeo Long distance is hard. INFPs do well with a lot of reassurance. We tend to get in our own heads a lot and you INTJs can be difficult to read. You hold your cards close to your chest and while you feel very deeply, I know it's a challenge to express yourself. I encourage you to make an extra effort to be more open about your feelings when talking to your boyfriend and ask him if there is anything he needs from you. I highly recommend the 5 love languages book. My husband and I listened to it when we drove home from our honeymoon and it has been a blessing in our marriage. The book helps you to identify how you feel loved. (Quality time, physical touch, acts of service, words of affirmation, and gifts). Once you both know what your love languages are, you can devise ways to love each other in their own love language. I wish you lots of happiness together, and I hope this helps!
@@bunny_0288 Thank you for your response. I did lower my guard alot, to the extent that I could type as an INFP when I am with him, just so that I could be what he needs me to be, open and a safe haven for him. But, He rejected me last night. So, There's That. Trying Not to think about it right now, because the moment I start feeling this, I am gonna crumble. Wish me luck and thank you for responding. Have a wonderful life ahead with your partner. Good Luck!
Married to an INTJ myself, it is often an amazing combination.
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INFP married to an ESFJ and very happy. It's the best relationship I've ever had, he's the best. I feel like I don't deserve him. Also I have friends who are an INFP-ENTJ couple and they are great together.
Thatâs so great to hear! Iâm an ESFJ (female), thatâs getting to know an INFP (male), and they say this pairing is âChallenging Opposites,â so itâs always nice to hear that this pairing has a chance of success :)
Are you sure you're not Isfp?
@@SS-bu8ez yep very sure.
I have very strong romantic connection with enfj and best friends with Esfj. I get along with almost everyone until they try to control or cross my boundaries đđđ
I stop getting along with someone when the have a streak of horrible behavior, like disrespectfulness.
"Control or cross boundaries"
ESTJ's do this as a habit and apparently God given right. I've clashed the most with a family member of this type. He annoys the hell out of me and I frustrate the hell out of him. He's the irresistable force, I'm the immovable object.
Ezekiel Watters absolutely. You expressed it so precisely. Estjs usually give up in the end.
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Ha. He eventually did give up. We get along ok now. My INFP stubbornness won out.
The second part is soooo true
I laughed at the INTJ-INFP interaction. A couple dreamers is so true.
That's so true thoughđđI had an intj friend and it was the best period of my life!
I like the dynamic with INTJ, they are the best match in my opinion. Can be rlly hard to grab their attention but xD infp clumsiness and awkward expressions are rlly hard to miss. Like basically put infp and intj in a room together and they will notice eachother đ€Ł.
INFP hanging happily in a corner by themselves thinking up some thought or scenario in their head and quietly laughing. INTJ sees and thinks "that person's acting weirder than me." INFP notices INTJ who has now been unknowingly staring for 3mins straight. INTJ realizes INFP has noticed INTJ. Conversation starts between them on said INFP thought because INTJ needs to know. Friendship ensues.
I am an infp and i am in love with intj girl and still confusing to read her
I have crush on my infp friend so i clicked the video to see if he would mention intj-infp relationship lmao -intj
The INFP-INFJ dynamic is so true! My boyfriend is an INFJ and we have that kind of symbiotic relationship đ€
But never felt controlled by an infj right? My boyfriend is infj too and i never felt controlled
@@skatingfairyrolls right! A healthy infj-infp relationship wouldn't feel controlling, but rather mutually beneficial. But in the case of a toxic INFJ, that person would be quite condescending upto the point of controlling, since they often feel a need to guide their partner and assume they know what the best decision is, in the case of a toxic relationship, they may take advantage of INFP's indecisiveness. The quality of the relationship also depends on the person's individual characteristics, insecurities and life experiences and choices rather than only their personality type.
reading so many comments from INFP girls/women
me as an INFP man: đ
It's my first time seeing an INFP manđ
@@howltae more like reading đ€
@@DanielPeik yes yes :D
me too...as an INFP male sometimes I feel like a lab mistake
@@yoricusrex I'm also an INFP man, but I learned to appreciate it. I guess it helps not to compete with other people with different personalities because in the end we as INFPs have different needs. đ€ One advice, look for ENFJ people, they tend to be understanding of these things and since they are extroverted it creates a fun dynamic đ
I like how you present every personality in a positive light, it feels like you really see the good in every potential human behaviour (which, I feel, if I'm not mistaken, is very INFJ in the most inspiring way).
Yeah, total different channel to the one I had a doubtful pleasure to watch yesterday. There was guy reading on the internet people comments about MBTI and was passive-agressive towards these comments, was laughing out loud from them and sometimes I think he even offended some people. There were many critical comments about INFPs under his video and he liked all of them xd And I was like: 'Where the hell I am? Who the fuck are you?!'. I think he presented himself as psychologist xd Fucken awesome psychologist!...
@@oskardiaz6432 omg as an INFP i really wanna see this video...
I'm an ISTP and my best friend is an INFP. We have a great time together.
That is awesome Dave. I am an INFP and my father was an ISTP. We always had an incredibly close bond despite our differences. I feel blessed having had him as a father.
Iâm an INFP and my best friend is an ISTP too!! She understands me so well. Even though she can be a bit tough sometimes
I'm an INFP and my boyfriend is an ISTP. We have the most incredible friendship ever. But when it comes to relationship, it can be tough.
My fav infp istp couple is the mistborn book series
@@CamiKaze22 what's tough about the relationship? And I agree, friendships with ISTPs are pretty awesome as an INFP.
Iâm ENFJ and made the hubby take the assessment: Heâs INFP. *mind blown* but same time not surprising
ENFJ woman are fantastic. I have two of them as my best friends and I learned alot from them. As a INFP woman I am really happy for their support and friendship.
I'm an ENFJ as well and my boyfriend is an INFP
So, seen from the other side: I'm an ISFJ and INFPs seems to be my favourite people! First of all they seem to need someone to take care of them. Also this FI-thing seems to make me able to trust them more than other people (ISFPs are different though, they always seem ever so slightly annoyed and that makes me nervous) They are both poetic and gentle. I have a hard time interacting with bossy or insensitive people so I often find INFPs to be the opposite of that.
Thank you Tâ„T
I don't know many ISFJ types but your comment makes me feel as though any of us INFP types have missed out by not having one or more in our lives. Thanks Jeanette.
thank u.
My paternal grandmother is a ISFJ. She does't have a close relationship with both her sons. It must be because my uncle is very cold and my father very sentimental. She is a evan tempered person, quaiet and peaceful. I guess is why she much prefers her greandchildren and great greandchildren because all of us 6 have a evan tempered personality.
But she is a very caring grandmother and great grandmother for all her 3 grandchilderen (2 woman and a man) and great greandchildren (3 boys that are the children of my cousins).
The feeling is mutual. ISFJs know exactly what to do (amazing to an indecisive INFP). They prioritize everything so easily, and have noble motives. The encouragement I give to ISFJs is a good investment. The world benefits when ISFJs are true to their nature.
I am INFP, my best friend so ENTJ. We've been friends 10 years now!
And the INFP INTJ is so true, another great friend of mine is INTJ and you really summed up our friendship! He's such a great guy, we get along so well, not a single disagreement, and if we do, we talk about it so civilly, such a smart guy too, I can't wait to see how he changes this world đ
Why are you me?? Iâm also an INFP with ENTJ and INTJ as close friends xD
Iâve known my ENTJ friend for almost 10 years now too
@@genuinesiopao6620 are you my long lost twin? Or me from another universe? Wow!
As an INFP I LOVE ESFPâs... They make me feel so alive! I never get tired of them... though they can definitely be a lot!
Also, my best friend is an ISFJ and we just get each other. We have been best friends since we were four years old and we will be friends for life... Itâs a very deep friendship. I am definitely more sensitive than her, but she keeps me grounded and doesnât judge me at all.
I totally relate!!
I had a crush once with an ESFP, and it was so fresh ! Also I liked how we could feel each others without saying that straight forward. At least this is what I perceive from him, I don't know if it was a two sides view because we never talked about that.
And my Sister is an ISFJ. We had a hard time when we were teenagers but now it is like my best friend. We often say how much we care for each other. I am truly grateful to have such a sister. She is very tough even if she do no realize it. I really admire how she care for others. She is in the medical field . I am very proud that such a person exist to take care of others. I respect her a lot.
Iâm and infp and my boyfriend is an intp. Iâve never been more in love but yes, weâve had many fights because I thought he was being âinsensitiveâ but thatâs not true. He always tells me his intentions are all good and once I got this in my head I became less sensitive and the less sensitive over his âcriticismâ (which as you mentioned he does because heâs trying to help), the more I understand him and myself.
Iâm an INFP and my daughter (old soul) is an INFP. We get along fantastically 99% of the time, both recognising our own strengths and weaknesses. Sometimes I lean in her, other times she leans on me. Works brilliantly for us!
I love my isfj mom, she really gives me the care and love I need xD
That is beautiful Akoko, tell her whenever you can. Trust me, time is short and we always regret what is not expressed. Spoil her in kind.
Same. My favourite person in the whole world is my Isfj mother.
My personal favorite is always the ENFJ. I've never felt so understood or happy as when I'm around one.
As an INFP (I think), my favorite might be the ENFJ! They are really genuine and so bold about caring for other people! At least, this is my impression of family & friends Iâve had over the years who seemed to be ENFJ... They are fun to visit with and there is always something meaningful they are trying to understand. Of course, everyone is different and I know every personality can be genuine & caring... Iâve had a tough time understanding people with dominant T, especially extraverted thinking. Learning about personality has helped me so much, and Iâve learned to feel loved when they try to âfix thingsâ for me. The extraverted thinkers in my life can be very self sacrificing- I try to watch for this so I donât inadvertently take advantage of them by making them think something is wrong by complaining ... Because they will try to fix things right away! đ
I'm an ENFJ, and yes, I do take special care of INFPs. INFPs are really strong and loving people, but they need supportive people around them who can make them fell safe, loved, and understood. ENFJs respond instinctively to people who have those kids of needs, so we are naturally drawn to INFPs.
@@moonmon77 I want to know you better. I'm a ENFJ too :). How's life been these days.
My son is an INFJ and I am an INFP... yes... you said it perfectly... we are each other's mentor... he tries too heart... he stresses himself out at work .. he needs my support.. on the other hand.. he gives me a different perspective ... and we have great and deep discussions... we are both creative and support each other with that too.. much love to you Eric!! â€ïž
Iâm an INFP and my boyfriend is an INFJ. Weâre two peas in a pod and I love it.
You are a genius, Erik! Just tonight I was reassuring my INFP partner that there is no reason for him to be stressed by his 2000-mile move to where I am. I told him I would be here no matter what. I could feel his relief because he so wants to make me happy. Anyway, thank you for this awesome video! đ
INTJ, hands down.
As an INFP, I dated another INFP and there were aspects that were pure bliss because of that nearly instant emotional connection, but it was difficult for us to reconcile our strong opinions and differences because we are a stubborn bunch about the things we care about, and they don't align well--or we put too much emphasis on something that's personal to other people--it can be very tough to reach us.
It teaches an important lesson that the things we're strongly attached to via (Fi) aren't as universal as we typically believe.
Ive also dated my own type, infj, and it can be very intense and hard to see yourself so deeply in another person, and to be frustrated by the flaws they have, that you know are also in yourself. It can also be hard to feel misunderstood by your own type, to want to be seen, but to feel that even though they are the same type as you, they dont get it completely. But its absolutely worth it and everyone should have friends of the same type!
Been with my intp boyfriend for a year and Iâve seen him cry once (Iâm an infp). Although we are super different because Iâm emotion driven and heâs logic driven, we work super well together. Heâs rly sweet. I canât wait for him to be able to be more emotional around me.
INTP types are awesome. They walk to the beat of their own drum. Hope it works out well for you Rachie. Keep us updated.
What I think is funny is that I'm an INFP and my bf is an ISTJ, which is the most practical type đ so we balance each other out
My best friend is intj... but he likes enfp girls and I like entj guys (I'm infp).. we talk for hours and we get each other so well.
Entj - they LEARN and improve on their weaknesses if they really love you... I've seen it happen...
But how you described ISTJ made me want one...
I waited the whole time for the entpđđ
This video was really good, I can finally understand a little bit about other personality types as an INFP.
Infp-estj. It's not easy being the son of an estj...
I have two INTJ friends and I absolutely love talking to them. They engage my dreamer mind
I am an INFP and I just found out recently that most of the people I am closest with are INFPs as well. I guess somehow infpâs energy attracts another infp very well.
Iâm an INFP and my Boyfriend is a ENTJ. I think we are a match made in heaven đŻ!! For some reason, ENTJ men have always been highly attracted to me đ€·đœââïžđ„°
Erik!! This was sooooo accurate! Im really close to an infj and an enfp and u described our dynamics so precisely... great pointers you gave! ..I'm not done with the video.. so I'm looking forward to what u have to say about the esfj đ
Iâm an INFP and my friend is either an ENFP or ESFP (Not sure which) we are very attracted to each other, we are very different but also have our similarities. I like the ways that we are different. Sometimes I wish we could just hang out at home, but at the same time she has led me on some memorable adventures and I feel more alive when she is in my life. If we donât talk for a long time I feel like Iâve stopped living in a way, stopped taking risks
Moonbeam, what makes you think that she is ENFP versus ESFP vice versa? There are huge differences between these types. Please stop trying to rely on her so much. Co-dependency is toxic. For both of you. It can be so restrictive. Try and meet new people and have fun. Use what you learnt, that is appropriate, in the social context. For example - what value can you bring to others' lives that can be fun yet valuable? Think of sport, cuisine, entertainment, fundraising, sightseeing etc.
Did you tell her that? Enfps like affirmation and knowing whats on your mind
"A bit woo woo about something.". I love it! Never heard that phrase but I know exactly what it means. It explains a lot in my life. I will always chuckle whenever I think about that. Thanks Erik Thor đ
Wow this video is so interesting and insightful!! To theoretically learn about the relationships between infp and tye other types is just- mindblowing! Not to even mention that you made every personality type sound awesome in their own way
Loved this video I felt like you were talking about me personally throughout lol :P all of yalls explanations drastically helped me realize and understand many of my shortcomings and misunderstandings that had been destroying the relationship with the most important person in my world and ironically it was these missed significancies in my partners personality because I was so focused on my view of things, that the wedge was literally being driven deeper by my own hand. After understanding why I feel the way i do, and why my partner does the things she does, and her motives and my feelings are entirely unrelated - I have begun healing and restoring our sense of peace. INFPs out there please understand that no matter how justified and steadfast you may FEEL about what you perceive to be happening, the motives of those who can swing your mood are not always what YOU would be motivated by. This is a paramount understanding whose importance may not be fully grasped in scope yet, that must be respected. Not everyone else thinks and acts the same way you do... Your partner may rush off without saying she loves you because the only thing on her mind in that moment is something needs to URGENTLY GET DONE. It has nothing to do with you INFP.... quit taking things SO PERSONALLY. The world doesn't revolve around how it makes you feel. And appriciate those who stand by you through your tantrums and outbursts, you may get over them easily but they may not, and still yet here they are doing all the little nuanced things that make you feel special. Your partner can love you and not show you in a way that you fully realize yet... Keep trying. To understand them and yourself. These videos are a good start. Apply them. Use them when you feel triggered. Your partners differences are what make you so drawn to them. Cherish these things, dont turn them into toxic reasons to abandon hope. What does your heart tell you about why this person still shows up at 2am just to spend 20 minutes with you when they should be sleeping - just because you felt lonely. LOVE THEM BACK DUMMY, We are lucky to have the ones who are capable to make us think outside our box. They are the ones who will push you to greatness, and enjoy it right alongside you. Much love. Never give up. â€
I srsly need to know an ENTJ , I feel itâs really exciting and fun to be friend with an ENTJ
It depends on the specimen I guess.
I used to be in a relationship with one. It was wonderful at first. But with times our conflicts were more and more serious. I was not able to express myself clearly enough. He never understood my view and feelings when it was about our relationship. For his side of view, my life was too much chaos and he needed more structure and action. We were great to realize projects together. Not so much to relate emotionaly, quite destructive for both hapiness sides.
We did have a lot of fun together. At least until conflicts were too serious
Yeah, and its also goid becquse usually they want to create a real connection.
INFP-T man here. My longest lasting relationships (and hardest crushes) have been with ENTJ men.
Loved this!! It made me think I must not have met the right ESFJs yet (or enough healthy ESFJs) bc that description was not at all relatable for me...but good to know đ€
Merci Erik for your video, it is really interesting. Here are a few words about one of my closest friend (Aussie INFJ) and my partner (Indian ENTP). I am a French INFP female.
One of my closest friend is INFJ (she is Aussie) and we were doing this remote drinks on Sat evening because of France lockdown, and we agreed that this society is made for extroverts and and we are comfortable with the way things are these days (not the virus of course - btw, I hope all is well with all of you), but the international chaos that is created by all this situation because it looks like our inner life. Also staying home and social distancing is not very different from our daily life, so we decided we could be "social distancing consultant and to keep busy at home during lockdown" :-)
I agree with you with the fact that INFJ can appear as manipulative and I do tell my INFJ friend to step back a bit because I can feel she is too intrusive and trying to make me things do that I don't feel like doing, and then it's all ok. On the opposite, she asks me to listen to her and tell my mind, but not too much because she feels it's too brutal for her but I can't lie, even if it does not serve me too much, it's against my values and I just won't do it. But this honesty makes that we are close friends as well.
My partner is ENTP (Indian national) and as he is a journalist, he is always checking news, and we debate about pretty much everything. Needless to say, as an INFP, it is exhausting to have to make an argument of everything but also very intellectually stimulating. Also, his view of things and life is so refreshing for me, he is very logic and I'm not too logic for him so I have to make sure that I build arguments and it helps me at work. Another thing is that I don't know how to make a decision for small things (which happens quite often), he helps me because he takes decision in 30 seconds and I know its in my best interest, so I gain a lot of time and I feel liberated ! Another very important thing is that he respects my freedom and private space and this is PRICELESS!!!
Thank you for taking time to read this loooooooooooong message :)
Have a great week and thank you for your great videos!
Florence
Bless you Florence.
You explained my type really well. I've big boundaries and I need time to open up too. To be with an INTP is very overwhelming in some ways. I dated an INTP (researched it later) and he was so on and off, I was really confused and felt rejected and then I rejected him and so on. He was the FIRST man to called me (after I run away on the first date) to see me again. I'll never forget that and it makes me cry because I was so anxious. And I think he was really anxious too. But we were perfect for each other I guess. I'm an "artist" and I draw him after dating. He criticized me for posting MY art (because it shows him), I felt not good for being in that position to delete the art-post. But as I deleted it, he was ok with me...I just wanted him to know I didn't hate him and he didn't have to block me or something like that. INTPs (my thoughts) tend to be a little childish and raw. I like that, but to get confi with another type it needs time. It ALWAYS needs time...I told him frequently "we need time"....so. I see the problems coming and then boom...it happens. It's always timing what is an asshole, not the just the types and judging or feeling pushed.
LOVE your video! THANK YOU!
I'd really like to meet an ENTJ. Speaking as an INFP guy, I don't even care if it lead into a relationship or not, I just think it would be so fun to interact with someone like that.
I've been lucky enough to have friends an family who understand me and give me space, but nudge me outside my comfort zone every once in a while. I just feel like I could learn so much from and ENTJ, someone who's punctual and holds other people to the same standards, someone who actively pursues their goals. I have no motivation and I live inside my imagination, so I'd enjoy a friend who keeps me grounded, yet understands me.
And if we have a fulfilling friendship that leads into something bigger, then I'd be happy with that.
Great video, with a lot of good points
i used to find entj's the most interesting, recently come to realise estj are actually not bad and more similar than i thought really ! lately i really really like *NFJs x) but i click best with ENFPs i think XD .. enjoyed the video ^^
You are an INTJ?
@@basedneeble7350 I am an INFP (even though I took key2cognitive yesterday n got INFJ .. some say it's the Ni Fi loop but i think it's my high Te :'}} it happens when infps are under stress and anxiety (there are three leves to it high Te is the last level ^^;; n i am sorry i really forgot the reference or source ! ) I would aways say a healthy infp is more like an Enfp and an anxious infp is more ike an infj .... long answer would think INFP/INFJ would cut it ^^; ..
This is awesome work!
Thanks Erik!
I noticed a pattern in people Iâve befriended over the years. The positive ones are: Esfp, enfp and enfj. I feel so comfortable around these. The extroverted energy does not even bother me. I take breaks, but I always wanna go with these types wherever they wanna go happily eventually.
I met one entj once who surprised me. We had a rocky start and then we fixed it and it became harmonious. Iâm so used to estjâs not willing to work with me that entj took me off guard.
i feel like its teaching me about different personalities and if something to be aware of incase of meeting these kind of personality as an infp
I am an infp and I am all alone...I am just watching this to give myself fake temperorary hope..
I am scared a little bit.
The good thing about CZcams comments is no one sees and even if anyone does, it strangers..
If you ever feel alone ask yourself this: Do other people feel that way? Who feels that way? Look around you. There is always someone else who is alone.
This was great! Thank you! Would you do INTJ? What types go well with INTJ?
This is very good by the way.
Your filming space reminds me of the basement of the bookshop in the tv series 'You'. I love it haha. Is this a library or your house?? If the latter.. awesome, I'd love a room like this đ€Ł
I have lots of different filming rooms in my apartment building, at the moment I'm filming downstairs in the shared common rooms of my apartment building because my GF is always home :P
@@ErikThor What an awesome space:)
As an INFP, ISFJâs creep me out by getting too much in my biz wanting to know everything for their benefit. Quite overbearing IMO but, then again maybe I havenât met a healthy one.
I'm an INFP too (male). My mum is an ISFJ and I feel like she can be a little bit like that too.
But then I've been told of this ENFP girl's ISFJ mother who is completely overbearing with her.
And then I've met this other ISFJ girl who seems perfect to me. She respects my boundaries and it's almost like she's too shy to talk to me some days because she feels like I'm so perfect...but she does everything in her power to look after me and make me feel safe with her.
To me, it's like I've got this cheat book on how to interact with ISFJs because of growing up with my ISFJ mum. I know how to look after this girl, and she knows how to look after me, so it seems like we're just building each other up the whole time. We seem unbreakable.
...but I'm still a little cautious with this girl because I'm waiting for international flights to open up again to be able to fly overseas so I can finally meet her in real life. She seems incredibly perfect to me, but I won't know for certain until I'm there with her in real life.
I just really hope that all of this time and effort doesn't go to waste...
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Lol sorry but with a dad that's an ISTJ I don't really feel completely calm and relaxed with him, in all honestly he kind of makes the whole household a bit tense because he kind of expects things to be done perfectly so I can't always do things on my own timeđą
Diana, sorry to hear that. I had an ISTP father and he was dictatorial in some ways, which is culturally based in addition to his MBTI type. Do you have any interests in common? Can you involve your mother in improving your relationship? Or siblings? My father and I had a special bond despite our diametrically opposing personalities. We had many things in common despite our differences. Our love of literature, music and similar political ideals.
My ISTJ mother is not like that. I guess it diffrent for all. She knows haw to respect my time and way of work and evan if she is the boss at out family business (because she deserves this as the most hard working person and having managing skills plus leading skills) she does not overstep my bounderies and I can say as a INFP I am very stubborn and not easy to work with when it comes to my creativity. It may help if you remind your father in diplomatic and logical way that you have a diffrent way of working and a diffrent mind set.
@@leliavoinea5934 Ive tried and tbh he has relaxed a bit more but he is kind of closed minded in some aspects to me method and my asking why something should be done the way he wants.
@@antoinettenovella1630 We tolerate eachother and my dad is very dictatorial as well (more so since im hispanic and theres alot of sexism involved when theres arguments) and im closer to my mom because we see things more similar (not sure if she is an Intp or Istp because she's taken it multiple times and even i am confused by her personality at times) and I dont think she can really help, she has implied that she is only really staying in the relationship because of me and my brother. But these are all my personal experiences so I hope to find other people that might deter me from having some hesitation towards friendships with these personalities because everyone is individually differentđ€·đ»ââïž
I'm an infp and i get along pretty much with all types except esfj oh God... keep those away from me they're waaay too intruisive.
And ESTJs!!
Could this be because of Si parent/auxiliary? I also feel weird with ESFJs in my life, although I do get along with them... kinda :P
INFP here, my mother is an unhealthy ESFJ, safe to say that's it's tough to deal with her. My favorite co-worker (who's the same age as my mom) is also ESFJ and analyzing her has helped me to look at my mother from a more neutral perspective. Without wanting to offend anyone here, I'm simply gonna share the subjective conclusion I drew from watching my co-worker and my mom. ESFJs have a certain vision of how the world should be, how people should behave and how they themselves should be treated. If it doesn't go along the way they had envisioned it, they lose it. They are the righteous hero of their story and anybody who dares to criticize their way must be an idiot or have bad intentions. They invest a lot of energy in helping others, but it's not for the sake of helping, it's because they base their sense of self-worth on it. So it's really important to them to constantly be praised and told what a good, hard-working person they are. When the people they've helped don't acknowledge them or don't react as thankful as expected, they are heavily insulted and feel betrayed. They are perfectionists, when someone can't live up to their ideal of how stuff should get done or life should be lived, they deem them as incompetent, lazy and annoying. They tend to gossip and complain a lot when they are not content with a situation or with a person's behaviour. I can see how all of what I listed would make it hard to deal with them, I mean my mother is really unbearable sometimes. BUT, there's a flipside to this, like to everything else. And the flipside is love and understanding. I don't like gossiping at all, but the core of ESFJ gossiping is them showing that they put their trust in you, they are not actively trying to give you negative energy, it's a way of showing you that they think you belong to them. So what I do, is listening absent-mindedly until they are done, that's enough for them. Their perfectionism and high standards can be super annoying, but at the end of the day, they are masters at what they're doing, they are amazing at creating order and working with structure, their effiency level at whatever they do is always top tier. To not become a victim to their frustration if you can't live up to their ideals, set some clear boundaries and make it clear to them that you won't become their personified will. Like everyone, they need lots of love. So no matter if whatever they do is actually irrelevant to you or even if you didn't ask for it, simply thank them and say how happy you are that they thought of you and did xyz for you. That will validate them and give them lots happiness and strength. And if you remind them to do more for themselves or to be more mindful (breaking the habit of being affected by "injustice" and then complaining nonstop) they will actually listen to you and consider what you are saying, they are opinionated, but still open-minded enough to hear such things. The INFP will often feel overstimulated by the ESFJ, but having an ESFJ as your "ally" is really wholesome, they will protect you from assholes that want to use you and motivate you to get your shit together with their tough love. Lol, this felt like writing a diary entry.
So, my guy best friend who I like is a esfp and Iâm an infp. When you said looking at them being bold is really inspiring I was like true I like him for being bold so that is super true lol
As an infp i love to live and let live.
Good!
Sweet library
yeah! it's a shared common space, but most of the books are actually mine lol (have so many i just moved most of them downstairs)
My long time bestfriend is ENFJ... Thats on point..
sweet!
My dad is an INTP and Iâve learned how to deal with him for the most part. I actually know how to deal with him the most out of the rest of my family but I have those moments of complete irritation when he questions me or knit picks me and tells me I Need to do something... oh boy, the sass comes out and I feel bad đ granted, this has become more of an issue now that Iâm almost 30.
Isfpppppppp 1# tan taaan đđŒ
I love your videos I think a lot of what you said is interesting but there's one that I totally disagree on , As an infp I think you're wrong about istjs I think they're a too critical and judgemental , at first maybe they can appear like that but after there's a lot of sides that infps can't agree with it , judgement , too much planning , critiquing , not being comfortable to share your deep thoughts and feelings as they're not interested in them .
I just wanted to share this experience as someone that lives with an istj as a sister and knows many istjs .
I love your videos , keep going !
Iâm a infp dating a infj lol đ
My favorite rapper Tom MacDonald is INFP and his girlfriend and business partner is ISFP and they are an amazing power couple.
ENTJâs trumps all others when it comes to comparability with INFPâs ENFJâs are a close 2nd
Iâm an INFP female and my personal opinion is that T dominant types are not a good match for us feelers. ENFJs are the best match. I avoid ESTJs when they ask me out.
Wow infp -intp is correct ...
Can we INFP's and ENFJ's start our own dating service lol? It's too obvious. Then we can help everyone else!
i definitely need help!
I am an infp and I found that my relationship with an istj has been the least stressful
my istj friend feels like the only person Ive ever been comfortable to be myself with
I m an infp girl...I want some enfj to call my friend...đ
I've seen Jane Eyre and Mr. Rochester typed as an INFP and an ENTJ, so it was especially interesting hearing how that section lined up against their dynamic.
- Vanya and Five from Umbrella Academy
- Harvey Specter and Mike Ross
- Gohan and Videl
- Aaron Warner and Juliette Ferrars
- The K-drama leads from The Master's Sun and Noble, my Love.
Of course not all of them are romantic pairings.
@@sash8099 Thanks. I only know umbrella academy out of those, but I'll keep the others in mind. I never thought about Vanya and five as being those types, but now that you say it, it makes sense
@@pamdawkins13 Yeah Entjs are usually depicted as villains so it's hard to find a TV show or movie of them as a main lead.
@@sash8099 It's too bad really. With the energy and motivation they tend to have, they could make really interesting protagonists.
M.Rochester isn't ENTP ?
And then I don't have boundaries and I just isolate myself to feel safe.
What do you mean by that Zzul Ma?
All the best for you! Maybe try to find one or two persons you trust, who are not intrusive and who are empathetic and who ask what you might need. Interacting with such persons may hopefully help you with establishing some boundaries and being able to live safer and happier.
New sub.
Man i realised something about other infps and myself, our eyes wander a lot when we have a monologue
My best friends are 1 INFP and 3 ENFPs :)
I donât know if itâs because Iâm a turbulent INFP, but Iâve never been a fan of the ENFJS Iâve met. I find them pushy and overbearing, so itâs interesting to me that they are seen as our âidealâ partnership. I tend to gravitate towards other INFPS, INTPS and ENFPS.
Ah, you're not the only one. I'm also an INFP, and I always feel on my guard around ENFJs and can't relax. I got close to one in a friendship, but mostly from them pushing it, and needless to say, that fell apart terribly.
Ironically, one of the friendships I've ever felt the most in-tune with was with an ESTJ, when often times INFPxESTJ pairing can get a really bad rep. But that's the only other type that I've felt like I could just jump inside their brain for a bit and understand them without saying anything, and vise versa, and feel totally at ease. We could disagreed a lot on trivial things, but were always on the same page with big or important things. With the ENFJ I mentioned, it was the exact opposite, on all points mentioned.
I think that I got super lucky. The only ENFJ I know is my best friend. I was in a really bad place when we met and she broke down my concrete walls. She may be a rarity of the ENFJ type, we also share a similar tri-type, but she is just a phenomenally beautiful person. We are of a similar European heritage despite living in the Southern Hemisphere. We had a similar academic history, shared ideals, hobbies and interests. We love the same movies, literature, art, humor and landscapes. Yet we are also very different. She is loud, vivacious and is an incredible leader who inspires her staff with both emotional and cerebral intellect where I prefer to take a backseat despite being very competitive with KPIs.
Same, the only ones I've ever met I have felt are manipulative and judgemental, and I didn't feel like I could relax around them or trust them. Very two-faced as well, they would act so friendly to people and then slag them off to me as soon as they were gone, which made me feel they probably did the same to me when I was gone...
@@teddie552 I felt like this about INFJ maybe similar there's they were very non confrontational maybe that's why, prefer ENFP, INTP and other INFPs too
I'm an INFP and my husband is an ESTJ. He is loud and social and I am quiet and like alone time. We are completely different but it works.
I am glad it works. It's good.
I know an ESTJ with whom I don't get along. Because we are so different. He doesn't get me at all. I feel he is too narrowminded and bossy. He has it in his head how everything should be and if it is not like he has it in his head, it's wrong and he doesn't accept it. But I don't know because I really don't know him that well, maybe if I was romantically involved with him it would be different. Because when in love people try more to get along.
How does your relationship work? How much of yourself & thoughts do you have to keep to yourself, if at all, when interacting with your ESTJ? Iâm an INFJ and I just canât be myself with ESTx types; weâre just too different. And I know everyone is different and has their own ways of communicating, but INFPâs and INFJâs are quite similar, so Iâm wondering how your relationship works, and if you ever feel like youâre listened to and understood. Do you ever feel like youâre missing something, or am I just pecking at nothing and asking nonsense questions lol
@@ninaholm877 it can be a struggle sometimes. He is always on the go and I like to take it easy. I've been able to set boundaries. I have to let him know when I've have enough socializing and need to stay home. I don't mind when he goes out without me. I think our personalities compliment each other. I've learned to be more assertive and he has learned to take it easy once in a while.
@@JakeLikesJoking it can be hard. Sometimes he is just too much and I find myself distancing myself from him. Sometimes I don't feel like he is listening to me so I just quit talking to him. Despite all our struggles and differences, I find that when I'm getting stressed out I need an ESTJ in my life. When I'm close to having a panic attack he steps in and takes control. He always knows what to say or do to prevent me from having a meltdown. When I just want to sit and process things and over think, he gets me up and doing things about the problem. On the other hand I've been able to get him to take things down a notch and relax some. It's been hard, yes. But after 16 years I wouldn't want it any other way.
@@mindireardon8941 I think it is good to have a person who can calm you down when you are overthinking and panicking. My husband is an ISTP and he also is good to calm me down when I am overthinking, panicking and going thru possible worst case scenarios. When I am too emotional and can't think logically, he calms me down by being rational like he is. He also finds ways to find concrete ways to solve my problems when I am lost. I think it might be a little bit same with ESTJ? My husband who is an ISTP, is calm and he is an introvert so we spend very much time at home or in the garden or somewhere in the woods (ha haa), but we have our own adventures.
Swedish accent! My fellow Swede, salute :D
Yes! An IKEA buddy!
Hi o have a video suggestion (I know it's kinda mean to ask on a video that has nothing close to the question but I'm really wanting this video, which house dont have to make) could you try to type Bo Burnham? He seems like one that is fun to type
I feel like Iâve only been in relationships with INTP lol
Hi!đđ My name is MariĂĄngeles and I am an INFP. My eneagram type is 7-9-4
I think inf-yay is best for infp. They are so...their feeling mixed with responsibiloty and their caring nature so helpful to infp. Dont worry about the Yudging, infyays are very tolerant. It doesnt matter what month it is either. Yune, Yuly or even August! Or the Fall, Winter or Efen the Spring months. An INFYAY will love you if you are an INFP! YUST BE HAPPY! Eat a good sandwich...infyay love sandwich that important. Postscript: Just fucking with you dude. Youre a good guy. I enjoy your videos. Sincerely, ENFP
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I feel like you are making fun of me with the Ys lol
Lol why inf-yay? Im an infp and my husband infj. God knew he was the one for me and me for him..he loves me so much and tells me every day. Superloving, understanding and gives best advice and he has so much wisdom I respect him a lot. We have the best deep interesting conversations. We both like to stay at home. He loves bread and sandwiches itâs true đ he is very simple when it comes to food and happy with everything I make. He thinks Iâm a master chef âșïžI never knew a man like my husband Im so thankful he is mine forever â€
As infp, i desire esxp.
My best Friends are ISTP and INTP xD
INFPs absolutely need a thinking personality. I knew an ISTJ one time and the relationship dynamic was mind blowing. I admired her patience and calmness and absolutely adored her Si introspective nature. She was my best friend until she moved out of stateđ. Even to this day I can't stop thinking about her
I agreed with you all the way but not the ISTJ one! There is no way to feel relaxed around them.. Maybe it works if the relationship is not that intimate.. The struggle is that I'm an INFP married to an ISTJ
Honestly I have a ISTJ mother and she is also my boss on our family business. As a INFP I have strong bounderies and I am stubborn person on top of that I never back down when it comes to them and is haw I won her respect on the work place.đ As family and as mother and daughter we have a close and strong relationship because we comunicate well but at work we still clash because she is way to logical and I am more of the type that put in first place creativity over practical ideeas.đ
I am infp and I have esfp friend,I have known her for 13 years. We used to fight a lot as kids, with time things have changed a lot. We like to have deep conversations together.
sometimes fighting is fun too
Idk if it's just me but i could listen to this guy for HOURS. I fucking LOVE your accent and your voice, and have no clue why it just makes me smile and feel so god damn happy. I literally cannot listen to you without the most content smile of joy on my face. Keep up the great content man seriously this is a great video full of insights that other videos completely miss, you can really feel the compassion and importance this topic inspires in you and your want to share these healing understandings with the world. So just know that you personally are driving change in real people's lives out there. In mine personally it has moved me from a constant state of worry and disharmony to peaceful and relaxed, and my stressor was truly world breaking, I almost lost the love of my life and an amazing woman who i deeply care for, and I was actively responsible for the hurt we both were experiencing.... Without these insights it was extremely difficult for me to always see her needs and understand them in a way that made SENSE to me. Meaning: was significant in my perception so much so to inspire me to reflect whole heartedly and not relative to what emotion a certain trigger had set off in me. When i saw the fruits of my actions and self centered based emotional understanding, it brought me to tears... Because i was expecting my love to drop and be denied the very things I was demanding she fulfil for me as a condition of her love to be true and not some manipulation. Saying it like that sounds awful but it truly was never meant to be hurtful I thought I was righteous in my interpretation of what I was feeling. I would have not ever seen that her needs are very very very quite different than man, and in order for us both to find balance and happiness there had to be a mutual respect of what eachother needs. I had assumed shr was intentionally denying that to me and all the chaos and fucked up things that migjt happen when an already unstable infp believes that to be true. Needless to say I cried in her arms and explained how sorry I was for everything I had said to her over the weeks and how lucky I was to have a woman who through all the bs I threw her way, was in fact still there, taking my crap, dealing with it, and still finding the compassion to make sure I am ok, taken care of, loved, and felt special. People can be so fucking incredible and exceptional, it amazes me their well of energy must be absolutely endless. Anyway, yes, thankyou for your content, you are doing real healing work in the world and should genuinely feel proud of the things you are creating here. The love you project is infectious and spreads like wildfire, so please don't ever change. Much love my friend â€
thanks so much for your heartfelt comment
"Black sheep dressing like a white sheep" hahah I feel so called out. xD
(Infp here) My mom is an intp so I'm kinda used to the critique in some way. XD
Hello! Watching you while having dinner
Where is your accent from? I'm curious and I don't distinguish accents well because I'm Spanish
I'm an INFP-T
- INFP: i tend to connect with other infp but I don't usually find them appealing in a romantic way. I prefer them as friends, for example, my bff is.
- INFJ: I'm not sure if i know a infj in person. But majority of people who does videos like this are infj haha
- ENFP: one ex was and I was absolutely absorbed by his weirdness and how confident about it he was. But for me it didn't work out, sometimes misinterpreting what we felt and me being too available. He lost interest once he "got" me. Emotional rollercoaster and i didn't felt secured at all. Great friend.
- ESFJ: my mom. Communication is difficult but they are very caring.
- ESTP: another ex. No understanding at all, like talking to a wall. But well, very hard-working and charismatic.
- ENFJ: I admire them but I feel a bit drained at times. I'm idealistic but although I want to take action I like to focus also on other things for my own mental sanity.
- ISTP: very calm and peaceful, until they change their mind and decide they don't like you anymore haha. My experience is that he didn't said clearly what he was thinking and feeling.
- ESFP: party goers, a stereotype but a reality in the cases I'm thinking of. They like attention and are very charming, but sometimes a bit intimidating for me.
- ENTP: my bf. Empathy requires a bit of effort but caring in their own way. They don't know how to handle people crying for example and they'll probably try to make you laugh.
Looking back communication is an usual problem. Maybe it's me hahaha yey
He's Swedish, I believe.
@@Aetherius21 thanks!
Dutch!
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