Muslim Parents in need of desperate advice 😰 (Full Podcast)

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  • We sat down with Shaykh Wesam Charkawi from Abu Hanifa institute to discuss all things related to Muslim parenting in the modern day.
    00:00 Introduction
    00:50 What is the role of a Muslim parent today?
    06:30 Distinguishing between the role of the mother and the father
    10:30 Success within single parent families
    19:00 Generational impact on parenting styles
    22:00 How to measure success while parenting
    27:15 The use of punishment within discipline
    31:50 The dangers of emotional escalation
    41:00 Balancing between being a parent and a friend
    46:19 The dangers of social media on our children
    55:00 Providing halal alternatives to our children
    58:30 The personal spiritual toll of being a parent
    01:03:50 Blameworthy diversion from Allah
    1:06:00 Community involvement as a parent
    1:12:06 Practical tips for every Muslim family
    1:19:00 Closing remarks
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  • @OnePathNetwork
    @OnePathNetwork  Před rokem +12

    What piece of advice did you find most beneficial? Post the timecode below 👇

    • @kalsoumkhan6648
      @kalsoumkhan6648 Před rokem +5

      At 22:00 onwards wonderful 👌 but especially 25:00 couldn’t agree more on being emotionally in tune with our children. We can’t let their emotional imbalance control ours, our job is to guide them gently… has made me calmer towards my 2 year old (my fourth child alhamdullilah but I seem to be losing patience, so this reminder really helped me, I can’t let his melt downs melt me… love it) we can’t take their anxieties/angers personally

    • @kalsoumkhan6648
      @kalsoumkhan6648 Před rokem +4

      15:40 this story always tears me up in a sweet way 🥲

    • @amorboucenna7193
      @amorboucenna7193 Před rokem +3

      One of the best video i have watched very beneficial advices masha'allah

    • @teffygr5947
      @teffygr5947 Před rokem +2

      • Allah is always first -
      • Caring for your own and others will nurture the way in which Allah will take care of you and those you love, especially with what we can't control -
      • Islam is adherence, submission and acceptance -
      • The importance and benefits of emulating our Prophet s.a.w. -
      Options of Hijarah -
      • Set up your home -
      * Have a Musualah
      * Have a good library:
      Quran
      Seerah: Men, Women and Children around the Messenger
      Hadith
      * Do things together
      • Having and nurturing a loving relationship with each other 24/7
      • Clear Info - guidance, actions, consequences

    • @tanvirahmed325
      @tanvirahmed325 Před rokem +1

      1.06 : community involvement as a parents.

  • @crooklyndodger8171
    @crooklyndodger8171 Před rokem +128

    SubhanAllah. I'm sitting in my room bout to cry because of my children. I can't bear them anymore vallahi I'm so exhausted. I feel like I'm losing sanity sometimes. This video came exactly when I needed it alhamdulillah.

  • @mohammedIbnsadiq
    @mohammedIbnsadiq Před rokem +23

    Whoever spends his time guarding his money; out of fear of poverty, is already poor!.” - Ibn al-Jawzi

  • @MuhammadIsmail-tk7hb
    @MuhammadIsmail-tk7hb Před rokem +18

    Please pray for me Allah grant me a job then I can support my parents

    • @lalucimot5946
      @lalucimot5946 Před rokem +1

      May Allah make it easy for u

    • @Karim_Napaai
      @Karim_Napaai Před rokem +1

      Allah grant you your hearts request and fill it with barakah for you and your family. Amin 🤲🏿

  • @mmml991
    @mmml991 Před rokem +20

    MashaAllah this video really resonated with me and my idea of how parenting should be, I can’t really say I was raised in this fashion when it was really almost the opposite and I have seen the dangers of what this way of parenting could lead to based on my experience of it with how I handle things, how I envied other kids relationships with theirs and how I saw MY parents while growing up, at some point Astagafurullah I even started to hate them because of the disproportionate amount of anger and violence as opposed to love and guidance, and that made me very hesitant about opening up to my parents about issues I was have at school where I didn’t have anyone to protect me from those that would hurt me and I couldn’t report to the school because even when I was that young I knew it would beat no fruit and with no older siblings at home or an older sibling like person around to confide in I was completely alone and felt I had no support at home and in school at the beginning of it all, and what’s worse is I knew I then had just myself so I had to be the one to defend myself and would have too but I couldn’t because I knew if I did the school would tell my parents how I was in that type of situation I wouldn’t receive any support or comfort but would instead worsen my situation back home so at that point it went from me being alone at home and school to both places being against me and because of that helplessness at some point I was even questioning life itself but out of fear of going to jahannam I decided to bear with it a little longer till I graduate and go to university abroad where I can be at peace finally and separate myself from that family and school.But Alhamdulillah as I grew up I started thinking for myself and I saw that even without showing it how they should have my parents did love me and I decided to forgive them and let go of all the hate and resentment I had in me from all the abuse and the absence of the will to live I had had at that point in my life, But I am thankful for them instilling that fear of Allah in me because even though my iman was low I had that fear and along the way Allah guided me from the road of destruction and ruined I was headed to because of how my personality was warping to that of compassion and understanding of the bigger picture of why people do what they do. And now I’m someone who fears no one (not parents, former oppressors or more powerful individuals) but Allah and someone who shows more love to my parents and serve them more then I did before because I know they didn’t know what they were truly doing (because I know if they ever did know the situation I was in and how I felt they would be deeply saddened), and the best qualities have gain and am improving upon is being someone considerate of others (looking from all points of view and likely reasons for certain behaviors of others) and a longing for a stronger iman because I’m absolutely in love with this religion and in complete agreement with it the more I learn from it because it fulfills me and gives me proper direction and I am so thankful to Allah that I’m experiencing this so early on in life because I know if Allah hadn’t put certain things and ideas in my path so early on because if not I would have been one of the worst of people with the most evil tendencies and ways of thinking (which I’m still culling from me person till this day, but it does get easier the more I learn and put things into practice). All this and I’m only just in University Masha Allah

    • @mahdianimates7241
      @mahdianimates7241 Před rokem +1

      Indeed Ma sha allah. Jazakallah Khair for sharing this with us. You have mentioned a personal story to help some of us connect to it and thorugh your journey in life, You have faced multiple challanges yet you remained strong and Allah did guide you become a better person. You had no human support,which is really just beyond explaination of how deep the pain and struggle was. You were even merciful and understanding to not hate your parents bur rather serve them and be mind and compassionate to them. You story has many lessons, Allah is always here so do not lose hope and fear Him, Be compassionate towards your parents and believe that there is a good ened to every journey of hardship if you strive fo khayr. Once again, Jazakallah Khair!!

  • @BlueSkyFluffyClouds
    @BlueSkyFluffyClouds Před měsícem

    Jazakumullahu khayran khatira. What an amazing podcast. May Allah grant me the wisdom, motivation and istiqomah to implement those amazing nuggets of knowledge into action. May Allah grant us all harmonious, happy, Sakinah households ❤

  • @mmml991
    @mmml991 Před rokem +8

    Thanks to all the brothers and sisters that sat through my long story (with all the grammatical errors I probably made), I just couldn’t help but tell it because of the emotion I felt from this discussion.

  • @sameeranjum3733
    @sameeranjum3733 Před rokem +5

    Jazak Allah Brothers! It’s a very powerful Podcast I ever came across, what the most Muslim parents needs, to practice the Islam at home the way Allahs Prophet (may peace be upon him) taught us.

  • @kalsoumkhan6648
    @kalsoumkhan6648 Před rokem +3

    One of the best advise from an Islamic perspective I’ve come across !! Thank you so much for this, wonderful wonderful reminder and motivation to keep grinding at this parenting game. May Allah reward you all Immensely, Allahumma baarik lakom ❤️❤️❤️

  • @pokpikchan
    @pokpikchan Před rokem +1

    20:28
    This is a big problem. It is okay to fail. Because success and failure is given by ALLAH (swt).
    Unfortunately after an occurrence we are drowned by a lot of negative words and judgements and that by our parents too.

  • @sehar0821
    @sehar0821 Před rokem +2

    JazakAllah khair. I wish I had this mindset when I raised my kids.

  • @omersayeed1547
    @omersayeed1547 Před rokem +4

    After a long time, such a deep conversation took place, where all the aspects related to parenting were discussed absolutely fantastic, especially when the host and Sheikh touched on the psychological and spiritual categories and challenges and reasonable sounding solutions in light of Islam. May accept the podcast and viewers as well, a guide to straight path. Ameen

  • @MuslimHomeschoolersUnite

    جزاكم الله خيرا

  • @naiz9983
    @naiz9983 Před rokem

    Jazakillah khairn

  • @subhani1162
    @subhani1162 Před rokem

    bara ka allahu feekum !
    amazing 👍

  • @tanvirahmed325
    @tanvirahmed325 Před rokem

    May Allah blessing you all.

  • @nanamkdroubi731
    @nanamkdroubi731 Před rokem +2

    تبارك الله عمل رائع

  • @roubaissa6996
    @roubaissa6996 Před rokem

    Ma sha Allah. This was very beneficial.

  • @javariaahmad7072
    @javariaahmad7072 Před rokem +3

    This is very insightful 👏 really helpful 👍

  • @joseelanorro1152
    @joseelanorro1152 Před rokem

    Beautiful video mashAllah, The sheikh speaks amazingly mashAllah

  • @Emal789
    @Emal789 Před rokem

    So much needed conversation!!!

  • @MT-uh9mv
    @MT-uh9mv Před rokem

    Jazakullahu khairan for this

  • @Bruce_Wayne01
    @Bruce_Wayne01 Před rokem +1

    Jazak ALLAH brother's 🌹🌹

  • @official_potato8323
    @official_potato8323 Před rokem +2

    Assalamualaikum! This video is very insightful, thanks so much!

  • @Muslimaonly
    @Muslimaonly Před rokem

    Amazing advice mashallah. Love this video - Jazakullah kheir

  • @minalkb4045
    @minalkb4045 Před rokem

    Beautiful advices for both parents and futur parents MashaAllah

  • @tanvirahmed325
    @tanvirahmed325 Před rokem

    Ma Sha Allah

  • @mohamedshahin2009
    @mohamedshahin2009 Před rokem

    May Allah reward you paradise جزاكم الله كل خير

  • @Racoon_movies
    @Racoon_movies Před rokem

    Subhana'Allah wa bihamdhi, Subhana'Allah la'adhim ❤️

  • @azbc9303
    @azbc9303 Před rokem

    Thank you!

  • @TheWeatherStudio1
    @TheWeatherStudio1 Před rokem

    Great podcast! Very relevant to today's society.

  • @3boys1family
    @3boys1family Před rokem

    Jazakum Allahu khairan for the very important and needed topic!

  • @tanvirahmed325
    @tanvirahmed325 Před rokem

    Ma sha Allah. Keep going on brother.

  • @zareenapakermohd5194
    @zareenapakermohd5194 Před rokem

    MashaaAllah Alhamdullilah this is EXACTLY what I’m looking for and need!!! Tks sooooooo much and it’s so apt because I AM desperate🥲! Also the questions posed by the extreme left host are spot on👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾. Thanks again for doing this guys and your guest speaker is so lucid Alhamdullilah

  • @MA-gm3wd
    @MA-gm3wd Před rokem

    MashaAllah watabarakallah

  • @cucinasi
    @cucinasi Před rokem +2

    social media makes your child needing to create 2 identities - real world identity and virtual identity - which is a really difficult and challenging thing to do for a child with limited skills - advice to delay them as much as possible with staged, strategized, slow and gradual exposure until they can take off their "support wheels" and ride the bicycle independently.
    -Tips-
    *good library and prayer (musalla) corner*
    *dedicated laptop and phone charging/use corner*
    --
    books/figurines/crafts on
    - Allah's names and attributes
    - Prophet Muhammad
    - women around the messenger
    - men around the messenger
    - children around the messenger
    - heroes/heroines in islam
    - hadith "read-aloud"/readings
    ---
    *family tradition*
    - do things together/experience things together
    ---
    - eat together
    - salah together
    - hiking together
    - masjid together
    - community work together
    ---
    for a 2-parent household (may Allah give you strength and smiles, single parents/single caretakers)
    - love your husband and love your wife. mindfully showing grace and kindness and playfulness to each other through ups and downs is a really powerful tool for a child's upbringing. (be mindful on the age of 4-7 years where they generally start getting awareness)
    - dads and moms, its tough. but thats among the many nature of ibadah. and dunya is designed to be a test before the barzakh realm. (note to self as a mother of an almost 2 years old daughter)

  • @DC-ek6ib
    @DC-ek6ib Před rokem

    Bismillah! I love the quality of your video and the camera yas 2160 Pixels!!!!! Wow I love it

  • @jahidulalam5466
    @jahidulalam5466 Před rokem +1

    Love from Bangladesh

  • @Mar-Gor
    @Mar-Gor Před rokem +1

    Alhamdo li Allah, he give as Hidayah even if we make sins. we ask always allah forgiveness

  • @sheharasaterninas1815

    Allahumma Barik

  • @yul9737
    @yul9737 Před rokem +2

    Good podcast and good sheikh. it is very difficult to educate children, especially in the western cultural environment. if you have tried, the last thing is to ask Allah swt for help to take care of our children at tahajjud prayer, Allah willing, become a good and successful child like the prayer of prophet ibrahim to many of his descendants become prophets. With our prayers as parents have a sense of optimism and confidence

  • @Boubacar-Basse-dev
    @Boubacar-Basse-dev Před rokem

    May Allah reward you all ! Also where did you get your art ?!

  • @jewelweed6880
    @jewelweed6880 Před rokem +1

    Yes! Delay introduction to social media. Foster critical and independent thinking skills first and give them time to form who they are and then slowly introduce it in stages. Teach them how to keep themselves safe. How to balance their time. The quick videos and easy dopamine can shorten attention spans and that's not good.
    Some people argue - and I might be phrasing this wrong - that if you protect them, when they are grown and independent they will go nuts and rebell by doing all these thing they were taught not to or were not allowed to do. But I know that's not always the case. So I wonder what causes one to grown up and totally rebel and give up large chunks of positive stuff they were taught, when another grows up and any rebellion is...less personally damaging or extreme.

  • @abdualrefaee109
    @abdualrefaee109 Před rokem

    MashaAllah

  • @ispartali3210
    @ispartali3210 Před rokem

    Masallah

  • @daasguy99
    @daasguy99 Před rokem +8

    An honest advise. Please don't talk and cut off your guest it breaks the concentration of the speaker and the listener. We have examples of sahabi( R.A ). They listened to Rasool Allah p.b.u.h in absolute silence.
    Please don't take it as an attack but an advice to by fellow brothers. May Allah improve us in all aspects and except our efforts in the way of Allah. Jazakallah Khair

    • @saajiddaya2152
      @saajiddaya2152 Před rokem +1

      Good advice. Best feeling is to just let wiser people speak (not saying that Kamal and the other guy aren't wise, they're much wiser than me, but compared to scholars, we're all just students). I'm not exaggerating. It just feels good to be given advice to. Like you're being molly coddled and taken care of.
      If anyone gets what I mean

  • @RayOfHope8
    @RayOfHope8 Před rokem

    ❤️❤️❤️

  • @sajjadhussain.
    @sajjadhussain. Před rokem

    In Pakistan one company name Timelenders they have some workshops about Strategic Vision, Strategic Time Management, Sleep Management, etc and its according to ISLAM they created now they start Strategic Parenting if someone knows urdu they can learn and teach in English because my life is changed with Strategic Vision, Strategic Time Management, Sleep Management as Muslim so I am waiting for Strategic Parenting they will start soon .

  • @farahdiba4233
    @farahdiba4233 Před rokem +4

    As a single mom sometimes I feel my parenting is not gonna work .. sometimes so hard . Maybe I can't explain everything properly. He's only 7 years old. But I don't want my relationship to be ruined with my boy. But he goes to islamic school. He knows about faith alhumdulilah..I feel something he will always miss out from me . I feel I'm not giving him proper parenting.

    • @uswomanmothers
      @uswomanmothers Před rokem +4

      Try your best,Ask Allah to help you to guide him and to make him righteous.I have some of your feelings,we just want them to be good.Duas duas duas,

    • @farahdiba4233
      @farahdiba4233 Před rokem

      @@uswomanmothers Jazakallah

    • @Idris.1994.Norway
      @Idris.1994.Norway Před rokem +2

      Don’t know your situation but what about remarrying your ex? If he is a good muslim man.

    • @farahdiba4233
      @farahdiba4233 Před rokem

      @@Idris.1994.Norway he's not ..that's why the problem started.

    • @farahdiba4233
      @farahdiba4233 Před rokem

      @@Idris.1994.Norway and also he moved on. he's married now. And I don't want to experience again same situations.

  • @tehmina4349
    @tehmina4349 Před rokem +1

    Could someone tell what the books he recommended were?

  • @RamatuBello-uz1br
    @RamatuBello-uz1br Před měsícem

    Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullah Wa Barakatuh.
    Please do include me in your prayers, i want to raise children who will be a very good ambassadors of islam and also to get a job so i can help many people out there

  • @JustMusaTM
    @JustMusaTM Před rokem +1

    First 🥇

  • @daliasultana1310
    @daliasultana1310 Před 8 měsíci

    What is the name of this sheikh?

  • @zeeshanriaz9074
    @zeeshanriaz9074 Před rokem

    What is the name of sheikh?

  • @user-ol1nx7pl4g
    @user-ol1nx7pl4g Před 5 dny

    Sorry...🤔Did brother Kamal just say he's a father of two 🧐? 0:18

  • @OnePathNetwork
    @OnePathNetwork  Před rokem +1

    Hide Yo' Kids | The Muslim Family Podcast with Sheikh Mohammad Elshinawy 👉🏼 czcams.com/video/C1sI8cwJ0sc/video.html

  • @raniaa5949
    @raniaa5949 Před rokem

    ‏سلام

  • @zohrasiddiqi4729
    @zohrasiddiqi4729 Před rokem

    Department of Education??? Don’t forget schools support trans teachers in the name of freedom of expression.May Allah protect our Children. Islam has all the answers for parents and children.

    • @mohammedjafer9265
      @mohammedjafer9265 Před rokem

      You can find Umar r.a hating on those we settle in a disbelieving land

  • @JustMusaTM
    @JustMusaTM Před rokem +2

    There's really no one in the comments

  • @kevibushi6664
    @kevibushi6664 Před rokem

    Alla is good nevre no as for facy feed

  • @zazak
    @zazak Před rokem

    Assalamualaikum ... stop referring to a child as a kid and children kids... that is for those that worship the baphomet.. we are human not goats...

  • @tanvirahmed325
    @tanvirahmed325 Před rokem

    May Allah blessing you all.

  • @nanamkdroubi731
    @nanamkdroubi731 Před rokem

    تبارك الله عمل رائع