My worst photoshoot experience. I cried.
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It sounds like the other photographer intentionally did multiple things to keep you from getting to the photo shoot. They were happy until they realized they’d failed. That’s what happened based on your retelling of the events.
Taylor’s happiness disappeared the instant she realized her spiteful actions hadn’t worked.
I felt the exact thing!!!
Agree 1000% if you weren’t going to ask the model for her she was going to make sure you didn’t have your shoot either! PS are you still friends with her? Just curious 🙃
I agree
As a photographer, Taylor would know how important that was to JK and that she cared about being professional and having that opportunity.
I’m going with Taylor was a guy, there had been some dating fun going on, and that’s one reason she couldn’t feel justified being firm.
You were absolutely justified in not asking the model to also shoot with your friend, it would have put them in an uncomfortable position to where they felt like they had to say yes out of politeness to you.
Right... and that could have led to the model "possibly" not wanting to shoot with Jess again because of the inconvenience of it all.
@@lilrizq Also, Jessica said this was an agency signed model, meaning her agency could have gotten upset if the other photographer was using photos from a shoot they didn't approve of for self-promotion, and then mistrust Jessica as a result.
Plus this was Taylor's chance to ask the model in person to work with him some other time. He could then come up with his own concept not just take Jessica's idea.
@@dacekundrate4391 Yes, especially if they were doing a great job at the BTS and being in a great mood, the model would be more inclined to shoot with them in the future.
@@THEMODELGENE Yep... that would be even worst. In the end... Jess made the right and professional choice.
“Taylor” was not a friend. And most likely saw you as competition or a “frienemy.” Not only is that behavior childish, they absolutely knew what they were doing. Glad it worked out for you, but for your sake, I really hope you are no longer in contact with “Taylor” because their behavior seems very unpredictable. I would def not want someone like that in my circle. Toxic. That’s the word!
I was pretty much going to say all of this!
Exactly my thoughts, too. Lose this guy, he'll just make your professional life hard. That evening he probably tried not to choke on his own envy. Good riddance!
Well said, it's okay to distance yourself from unappreciative people. And even move on and walk away from them. Keep climbing the ladder and keep surrounding yourself with amazing people. Your videos and tutorials are so inspiring. I love them! Thank you!!!
Show us a picture of taylor and it could explain everything..
@@ninooliastro2285 I have to agree. Although she is being unappreciative too. The phone and the friend service wasn't up to her requirements. She had a paper map and still relied on her friends and her phone service to "allow" her to leave for the train because of lack of confidence. Understandable, I have issues too and rely on phones and friends, but MATH was the issue here. Even if you leave at 5 to catch a train at 5:30 traveling an hour away to a 6:30 appointment, you will be late.
Let’s be honest, “Taylor” did all of that on purpose so you couldn’t shoot with the model. I am the same way when it comes to getting to places on time (meaning being there at least 30 minutes early). “Taylor” should have taken initiative to find talent to photograph themselves, and to burn a bridge simply because you didn’t ask is mind blowing to me!
One thing I’ve always stuck to is, never rely on someone else to get you somewhere on time; it’s unbelievable how many people (except Taylor, she was doing that on purpose) do not think being late is disrespectful, it shows a lack of respect of others time.
And a lack of professionalism. Hes obviously not professional
I was thinking the same thing! Also something I do when I travel is to save the map offline. Internet can go at any time.
@@ChattieCathie Non of Them were being profesional …lol
@@gissibelmar No. Jessica wasnt either but she was at least trying. Of course I dont know for sure but it seems like shes a professional
@@gissibelmar How exactly was the model unprofessional? And Jess took full responsibility for her part in not getting to the photo shoot on time, in case you weren't listening. Also, she said that this took place a few years ago, meaning that she was in her 20s, she was admittedly soft-spoken, introverted and a little meek.. Someone with her personality type doesn't have an easy time handling someone who is extroverted, assertive, AND actively trying to sabotage their photo shoot. She spoke up 3 separate times trying to leave earlier, which is very difficult for someone with her personality type. She didn't feel like she would be able to find her way back in a foreign country without the help of the people she was with. She felt that she was at their mercy. This "Taylor" person who confidently took the lead to head back to the train station, seemingly led them in the wrong direction on purpose, or was too proud to admit at some point that they were completely lost... And then everything afterwards, him not shooting the video, him pouting and making everyone on set uncomfortable, and even being pouty and grumpy afterwards.
In hindsight were there things that Jess could have done to be more professional? Sure. But at the time, no, not really. She went to a foreign country to meet up with some photographer friends (or so she thought), and to do a photo shoot. There was no way at that time she could have forseen any part of this situation happening. I'm sure that she learned many valuable lessons from this awful and traumatizing experience, including not to trust people so easily.
But I would love to know how you personally think that EVERYONE involved was unprofessional?
Jokes on Taylor because they left a bad impression on the model. Now the model probably wouldn’t want to work them in the future. Honestly, if Taylor didn’t waste their time trying to sabotage you, and actually put in the work to network etc… They could’ve built up the courage to ask the model themselves for the shoot they wanted. Instead they choose to be sneaky and manipulative. Which you are not responsible for. I love your CZcams channel, you’re such a sweetheart, and I’m glad things worked out for you!
It would have been simple to just ask for an introduction. Like nice to meet you and oh this is my friend Taylor they are also a photographer they do xyz types of shoots. Then Taylor would have the opportunity to say yes I’ve seen your instagram and I would love to work with you as well
The same thing occurred to me. Use the shoot as an opportunity to network and get your own shoot, instead of being a weird spiteful saboteur.
It's so sad when someone who's supposed to be your friend wants to see you fail. Taylor sounds incredibly self centered and jealous of you. You deserve better friends. That model is a sweetheart to have waited as long as she did and for comforting you.
You are amazing and far more kind than you believe. Stay strong.
I agree. Taylor sounded very jealous in this case and uninterested in being a good positive friend.
t's so sad when someone who's supposed to be your friend wants to see you fail=not a friend
“You’ve got to learn to leave the table when love is no longer being served.” - Nina Simone
Yeah..😮💨
I know you are a really nice person and don´t think bad of others but Taylor was clearly sabotaging your photoshoot. Just because you wouldnt do something to a friend doesnt mean they wouldnt do it to you. It sounds they were jealous and then mad because you got to do the photoshoot anyway. I am glad you could do the photoshoot!
I've found that it's extremely hard to be friends with other photographers for the most part. There's way too much jealousy and sabotage going on. Don't get me wrong there are always exceptions, but I've found they're few and far between. They also work better if you don't live and work in the same area.
totally
I'm a wedding photographer and the whole "community over competition" mentality is such a farce. There's no community here, just competition, sabotage, and snubbing.
It’s stupid to be jealous because it’s a creative industry and no two photos are ever the same so what’s there to be jealous about. If Taylor was a real friend and helped Jess get there in time she probably could have had a 10 min shoot with the model but no, let’s be weird and jealous
"Taylor" wasn't even envious..., "Taylor" was 100% jealous and tried to sabotage you. What a horrible situation and I'm sorry you had to go through that. If anything, it was a learning experience. Glad things turned out good with the model and you were able to do the photo shoot. Blessings!
It's my worst nightmare to be in a situation where someone is waiting for me and I can't communicate with them what's going on. I'm so sorry you had to go through all that stress!! But you're so talented and personable that you made the way worth it 😊.
The sad thing is that if Taylor had been a true friend and did what they could to help you that day they would have met the model, had a good time, and maybe would've been able to form their own connection with them. But instead they just decided to be petty
I was thinking the same thing esp as Jess was visiting. He/she were defo sabotaging, wouldn't trust anyone if i had only known them a day
When you asked to leave, and got some resistance, I know this was going to be a problem. I hate traveling with people that don’t have my best interest in mind. (As I have theirs in mind)…
Taylor was sabotaging your day.
The truth lies in "Taylor's" behavior: Aloof and unbothered while out when you were pressed for time. Then happy and excited when it was obvious you'd be late. And then pissy when you were able to do the photoshoot after all.
Yes, my dear Jessica, they were trying to sabotage you. 😡
You are a very sweet and caring person for trying to be as professional as you could with the model, and as polite as you could to your friend, but in my opinion that person is no friend to you.
All I’m hearing is sabotage. I’ve had people like that in my life before. Trust and believe, this wasn’t accidental. This was done to screw you over and I’m glad the model was still there and you were able to shoot.
I’m a professional photographer myself and to me, it seems this “Taylor” person set your up to fail. I’m so sorry this happened to you.
When you said that your friend didn’t care that you were late… I can relate. It sucks when you’re really upset and stressed about something (that wasn’t caused by you!), and people who are to blame just chilling and having the best time. You clearly said more than once that you would be more comfortable to leave earlier, and they didn’t listen you and didn’t even bother to care about your gentle complain. This is disrespectful and I’m sorry it happened to you. 🥺
From the time you started the story… I was like “Taylor” is jealous. “Taylor” is not a friend! She displayed that through her actions and what she said. She wanted to see you fail because she didn’t have the photo shoot with the model. Don’t say friend, she really is not your friend. It is sad that she can’t be happy for you when you worked hard to get a photo shoot with this model. She stayed at that store looking around on purpose. Yes, definitely trying to sabotage you. Shame on her.
Not she but he. Taylor is a guy.
@@appleorange4465 thanks
@@appleorange4465 Jessica did say she though too so i wasn't sure either..mind you wether it was a he or she doesn't really matter..they were still being underhanded & trying to mess jess up & Jessica is so lovely..
He was intentionally delaying time so that the photoshoot wasn't going to happen. He was all jolly when you were running out of time, and when you arrived and managed to do the photoshoot, he was mad. It says a lot.
In the worst case they did tried to sabotage you. In the better case, you just had a very selfish and irresponsible friend who didn't really took your work seriously. Really hate this kind of toxic people
True, if Taylor was a real photographer she should have did the work like Jess did and called the Agency booker and booked this model on her own.
I've also learned this the hard way: if you're traveling to an area you've never been before, download the map to your phone before you go, so even if you have poor internet connectivity, your map will as least work. It's so unbelievably frustrating trying to use something like Google Maps when you can't get good enough access for it to work. I do this before every trip now.
I would've taken a different approach. If something like this happens in the future, this might help:
- instead of telling them "can we wrap this up, we really need to go"
- say "I'm gonna go because I don't want to leave the model waiting, but you're all free to stay if you want"
That usually does the trick because they have the option to stay, or to join you, and most of the time they'll choose to join.
She did mention that she did not feel comfortable taking the train back on her own. There could have been various reasons for this. I hear what you are saying though but everyone approaches situations differently. Hindsight is 20/20. I am just glad Jess was willing to share her story with us. I think it is safe to say that "Taylor" is not much of a friend.
Amateur Photographer here, so maybe I am really off about this:
But isn’t it like a commonly known/unspoken rule between photographers that you DO NOT ask to join in on some one else’s photoshoot? Especially last minute!? Somewhere I got the idea that, Out of respect for the other photographers work and creative vision, you would NEVER even think to ask such a thing like that.
If a photographer friend of mine even wants to share a shoot with me, I feel so honored!
My thoughts as you told the story where that “Taylor” was jealous and in fact, was trying to sabotage you by purposely making you late. They were happy that they succeeded, then sad when they learned that they hadn’t. And then spent the rest of the evening being passive aggressive and making people question what was wrong with them. I am mostly just impressed that you continue to call them your photographer “friend” because at best they are a frenemy
I had almost the same thing happen to me! I asked my photographer friend to come take BTS of me for a paid shoot. During the photoshoot I looked back and she was taking photos of my model for herself. Then I find she posted all of them to social media before my model got my photos. The video she took was 3-4 second long clips because she said that's all I needed for TikTok. I've been in the industry 10 years and still can't make friends who aren't toxic.
Oooooffff!!! Whelp, now you know to have contracts!
When you told that "Taylor" was acting weird after you did the photoshoot, i instantly saw the red flags. My ex bestie was like this. If something didn't go according to her plans, and her plans weren't simple her plans were vile, she'll make faces and would try to make us feel bad as if we did something wrong.
So you don't wanna support my work and then try ruin my moment then if it didn't get ruined you try to make me feel bad ?
Jessica please stay away from her just in case. She is a really really weird person.
And you did right by not asking model about it, Taylor should have done that by herself.
People are horrible sometimes...
It happens Jess☹️ If nothing else it's some great data for the next photoshoot to be successful👌🏾
Seemed like "Taylor" and her friends were trying to sabotage you. To me... it would have been unprofessional to ask this model at the last minute, "can my photographer friend shoot with you too"? I wouldn't have did that either.
I feel like because your such a humble, hard working person... whoever is running the show up there in the skies knew what this so called "friend" was trying to do. And therefore pushed hard for you to make it to your shoot before the model left the location.
It absolutely sounds like sabotage. I'm so sorry your photographer "friend" did this to you.
Your experience rang so many bells with me, loads of coincidences. My former friend shares a name and the same lax relationship with timekeeping and consideration for others as your associate. They also had a tendency to disappear into themselves when the focus was no longer on them and sulk and withdraw in a manner I assume was to make others feel bad for not focusing on them. Everything you described about the awful experience you had bought unpleasant memories of this person flooding back. The fact that they also have a photography background was the greatest coincidence. In fact, if your experience was in Ireland, I'd have bet my house it was the same person! But I'm glad you had an ultimately positive shoot with that model and I hope your stress levels abated quickly! I can only imagine that the experience of shooting with a lovely person like yourself made it worthwhile for the model too and all was forgiven x
Yep. Anyone who's ever had a "friend" like this (and has hopefully gotten away from them) was hearing alarm bells going off and seeing red flags flying through the air during this video.
You're too nice of a person, Jessica! I'm so glad you managed to do the photoshoot, but I hope you're not dealing with Taylor anymore. She's not your friend and you don't need that toxicity in your life.
Really sorry about what happened. If there’s one thing I’ve learned in the photography industry is that it’s loaded with haters. Very rarely you’ll stumble across someone that’s a genuine friend that understands just because I asked about a location or equipment doesn’t put me in a better position or make me a better photographer. Petty weirdos.
Honestly, if u had this important photoshoot which you planned for long time ago and she was that important to you, you shouldn't have gone on that trip. Many things could go wrong, let alone go with people u don't know much (taylor u met newly i think). That Taylor was super selfish.
I’m so so sorry you went though such a frightening and stressful situation. Taylor is an uncaring, envious, mean-spirited person and definitely doesn’t care about others or the professionalism of your brand. I honestly feel so upset for you that you went through all of this. I’m a photographer based in metro-Detroit as well and would have cried my eyes out too. I’m so glad that model was understanding and compassionate - and that everything worked out well for you. Sidenote: I would be HONORED if you would please consider mentoring me; your so gifted, kind, honest, hard-working, and down to earth. Your beautiful spirit and drive will cause you to succeed and for your business to thrive ❤️🙏😘 - Fernelle Davis xoxo
Girl when i tell you that Taylor got so mad cause their plan failed... and I BET that if you said yes for them to also take photos with the model you would've got there in time and who knows... maybe even there they would try to sabotage you in other ways...
That person was really jealous of you and it wasn't your friend for sure! I totally get your atittude of not saying yes, it sounds like this "friend" wanted to do this big photoshoot with a professional model the easy way, taking advantage of your hard work and time of scheduling with the model.
*the evil is defeated*
I used to have a friend like this. used to.
be careful who you call a friend. you’ll know who really is when you need it.
You had every right to say no to that other person asking to tag along with your photo shoot.The agency model only agreed to to do a photo shoot with you. I found this story interesting because I can relate somewhat. I was in a hurry to find this studio and was super late because I couldn't find it. I finally found it but it was so tough and stressful for me because I was hauling my big, heavy studio gear for more than an hour looking for this place. Plus I couldn't reach my model. When I finally found the studio, I collapsed and had a huge pain in my back. I told my make up artist to call an ambulance. I never got in contact with the model. And I never cancelled it. I never told her the story that I was sent to the emergency room. But she is still cool with me. She is awesome! But at the time I was so stressed.
What can I say - that model is a saint!
I was sure the model was going to leave before you got there, how stressful!
Taylor seems like a classic narcissist. Not only making you late but making the photoshoot and dinner plans all about them. Ugh so toxic.
If your situation was known from the day prior a colleague, and a true friend would do whatever needs to be done to help you succeed. Even if it means cutting your day trip short or even pre planning the day to make sure you hit all the places you want to see within your time constraints. That means knowing the train schedules and the stations.. 😉
Jessica as always so professional 💛
I think it was jealously some people struggle watching other successful people around.
When she said that he asked her if he can work with the model too 🚩 🚩 the only conclusion I can get is Professional Jealousy…
Thanks for sharing this for everyone to learn from. Here is what I learned: communication is so important. Every person benefits when from communicating the “why” behind the “what”. People are won over or at least influenced by the “why”. Misunderstanding, hurt feelings, bitterness, all thrive in the dark. Jessica, thanks for the reminder!
Wow, what a great friend 💀
But seriously, you shouldn't feel like what you felt about 'Taylor' and how they acted in any way makes you a bad/judgemental person. What you felt was valid because they were very obviously trying to sabotage your opportunity. It's very difficult when you're in the situation yourself, especially when you're more of a pacifist type and a decent person, because you almost always never realize these things and end up blaming yourself. I was in a similar situation with a girl who I though was a very good friend and had my best interests at heart because I had hers in mine. It took other actual real friends' perspectives for me to see things as they were, and I realized with horror how riddled our decades-long friendship was with her sabotaging me at every given opportunity. I eventually managed to distance myself from her and I hope you stay away from "Taylor", too, as they're sure to only give you more grief as time passes. It's crazy, but it has teached me so much and has helped me develop genuine relationships in my adult life - so I guess that's one positive thing to come out of it. It's just crazy how people can be like that! I will never ever understand it. 🤯
This is exactly why I keep my shoot days free of extra things and people that will tie my time and focus up. From the day before I am 100% focused on logistics and the shoot itself and I make sure I am not distracted by others and other activities.
I've been burned before by outside or indirect influences and now only have me, my model and any one person who is there dedicated to the shoot. Never Ever rely on anyone to get you somewhere on time or expect to do you a favor during the shoot... it is why I rather work alone where I am in control of time, place and actions.
This was a horror story and glad your model was sympathetic. Models are amazing in that they (most of them) know what it takes and the unpredicted glitches that can arise. It seems your friend had some jealousy issues with you and your photoshoots with models, it seems like he was trying to sabotage your photoshoot for his ego.
THOSE are friends not worth having.
I'm a model myself and I can absolutely guarantee that I'd never work with that type of person... Especially after hearing about how your so-called "friend" made you bawl your eyes out like that!
I felt like we were two friends out on a coffee date while we tell each other stories. You seem so kind and caring and I can see you have such a heart for what you do, not only the art side but also the relational side of things. I love watching your videos! When I have the day off work I usually put one of your vids on and it feels like nice company haha. Im so happy things ended up working out and you were able to explain to the model what went down. Just keep on being you! If you see this i wish you nothing but the best! And I cant wait for the next upload!
P.s. I recently watched Princess Diaries again haha, one of my favourite childhood movies, and theres a line where Joe says to Mia, "You should know that no one can make you feel inferior without your consent" a quote by Eleanor Roosevelt. So just always remember who you are, and keep on shining your light !
Personally, I would NOT go on a trip the same day I have a job scheduled. Especially a trip where I'm relying on other people to get me back on time. I understand you just wanted to see the country, but work is work.
I would totally pass, make sure I get my rest and show up at the location at least 15 min early.
I believe this was a big lesson for you.👍
The comment I was looking for :) No shade on Jessica - life's lessons are rarely learnt by anything but experience, and I've no doubt this was a game-changer on *so* many levels!
This is so unserious on so many levels. Hundreds of things might have gone wrong. But to schedule a long far away trip on the same day and planning to come back minutes before...and then blaming someone else is something. Even from hygienical point of view this is ridiculous. But that's the problem, if it was a real lesson, it would have been embarrassing to post this blaming someone else.
I just wasn't sure why you referred to them as your friends. People like that will never be a friend to you. I feel your pain when it comes to being late to a shoot, because it's so unprofessional. But hey, life happens. Our career isn't over when we check at least 2 out of 3 things off the list. It's about being favourable, on time, and delivering quality. You seem to be a likeable person who enjoys doing her job and I trust the outcome of your work was more than satisfactory. Thanks for sharing your story!
Don't get me wrong I'm not blaming you but sometimes you just don't have to be nice 24/7 and keel saying "ok" when someone doesn't want to leave when you are in a hurry and you just must say "ok sorry I have to go but you stay here"
And let me be clear: 100% it's not your fault. It's the person who keep wanted to "check out something".
This has been happening to me because I simply didn't know how to say no to my friends and they f...ked me over so many times. Long story short they weren't my real friends. I didn't have lots of friends that's why when I finally got a few friends I was always nice, never want to upset them & I was always "yeah ok no problem".
Also I was nice to people who weren't my friends because I never wanted people to talk behind my back that I'm a b...tch. so yeah I'm over that now and much happier when I don't try to be ok with everything just so others don't get upset.
This person was clearly jealous that you worked with this model.
Yeah when it comes down to your job and reputation being on the line being nice because you don’t want to bother “friends” isn’t your top priority but i definitely understand why she didn’t want to be the party pooper.
Taylor is just jealous of you or even ur success. A true friend would definitely be happy for you. I'm happy for you!
I have been binge watching your videos over the course of the last few days and you are just so kind and compassionate from what it seems like I sure wish this hadn't of happened but I'm glad you learned and grew and look at you now
This is so relatable. You have no idea! I appreciate you posting this story.
I'm hating your "friend", maybe I don't know what your friend was thinking but I really think there was some malicious, thank god the model had some empathy with you, empathy that clearly your friend didn't
Jessica, you're the nicest, most understanding photographer I've ever encountered anywhere, based on what I've endured. Taylor was sabotaging you, for sure. Wouldn't surprise me if the whole day trip was a planned ploy in their scheme. I wish there were more photographers like you out there. I'd so hire you. I don't think you would give me a hard time about my automatic blinking, nor sneer and get annoyed at my face.
Total sabotage, sounds to me that they were jealous. You tried to leave 3 times! This person knew what they were doing! I’m sorry that happened Jessica! But now hopefully your gonna be more comfortable in saying your needs too!!
I actually noticed that for me the courage to say what you feel/want is coming with years. I'm 30 now and I'm way braver to answer with saying no or asking what I want. :)
I wouldn't have toxic people around me. Seems like this Taylor is not someone you should hang around with.
PS: I have been a subscriber since you had around 200k followers and seen your journey so far. You have influenced me in pursuing photography as a career and I am greatful I came across your channel. The videos are fun, engaging and filled with positive energy. You're a very kind and gentle person and it would be a shame to see people take advantage of your kindness.
I wouldn't be surprise if this has happen in Paris, or France. Here photographers are killing each other, jealous of everyone. Yeah, that's really bad behavioure
I absolutely agree with you not allowing "Taylor" to shoot with your model. Not only would it put the model in an uncomfortable situation, but you put so much work and energy into planning, location scouting, and styling this shoot only for someone else to join in last min and use your hard work for personal gain. I would be extremely upset as well. Non-photographers may not understand, but when something goes wrong on a shoot day it can be extremely embarrassing and will be seen as a reflection of your professionalism and character. So happy that your model was understanding and kind! xx
A similar thing happened to me with “Taylor” asking to shoot with the model as well!
I went to a photography workshop, which was totally worth it, but I spent almost 1.000$ to go to that workshop, it was in another city and the workshop it self wasn’t that cheap, even tho the photographer who was giving the workshop gave me a good amount of discount since the location had changed and I was doing the full workshop! It took the whole day! It started at like 9 am and finished at 7-8pm! Then when I came back to my place, my photographer friend came up to me and asked me to teach everything from the workshop to him, for free, just cuz he was always helping me and giving me tips and stuff, even tho I invited him to come with me to the workshop and he said no cuz he had already had an disagreement with the workshop photographer. So I just turned to him and said “I invested a good amount of money and time into this workshop, I don’t think it’s fair for me to give the info to you for free just like that, so sorry, it’s a no” and of course he got mad and stopped talking to me 🫠
But time heals everything, after like one year and a half we started talking again and now we gucci 😆
Wow, I'm not that generous giving people second chances lol I hope he will have some more respect for you in the future.
@@Shirumoon hahahaha the workshop host actually told me I’m too good and ppl may try to take advantage of that and told me I should be more cold 😂
That’s a bit different. Info is free and sharing wouldn’t cost you anything except your time. It’s not fair of him to expect you to, but it’s not like it’s a faux pas for him to ask, like it would be if it was a shoot you were going to.
Pretty sure "Taylor" tried to sabotage your entire shoot because they were jealous or something. And then when it didn't work they got angry.
My gosh, girl! You... are... such a sweet soul. I remember in my younger days when I used to think the best of EVERYBODY... until I got burned too many times. Now, I'm just a bitter older man. That being said, don't ever change, HOWEVER... stay wise to people's actions and behavior and move accordingly. It is without a doubt, that "Taylor Ain't So Swift With His/Her Shifty Moves" tried to sabotage your opportunity, AND THEN tried to sour the atmosphere during and after the accomplish shoot. I'm glad that you managed to photograph the model but most importantly, I am glad that you explained to her what happened.
I'm so happy you had the shoot with her in the end! I hope she sees this and she'll be like aww
That just is so so unfortunate. I would have literally been sick to my stomach. I hate it when the ones I'm with don't have any regard for my plans.
I think your friends are right about Taylor or at the very least she was upset for nothing. She didn't acknowledge that you weren't okay on the train and didn't seem to care about you getting back in time, and you said her demeanor changed when she saw the model was still there. So I think in some way she wanted you to miss the shoot.
Sometimes we suffer trying to be nice with someone, but we need to be bossy to get what we want. Now I think 'Taylor' was trying to sabotage you, unfortunately. Probably he had never succeed contacting this professional model, so he tried to make things difficult for you.
the friendship between photographers is really not easy to...... thank you for sharing this experiences.
Jessica, sweetheart, if everyone acted more like you, this world would be a better place.
Pleasee, she was salty as hell. I smelled the attempt to sabotage as soon as you said she kept wanting to tour the city KNOWING this was a huge opportunity for you. I’m so glad the photo shoot was still secured, Taylor sounds like a selfish brat who didn’t get what she wanted hence committing a malicious act of intentionally ruining something important to you. Despicable.
Don’t let other people bring you down ❤️
A true friend would always support you and notice when your stressed out and need to go, this was not a friendly thing this person did. Ps I’ve waited 2 and half hours before for a photo shoot in the freezing winter that one actually hurt
I think your “buddy” was jealous and tried to sabotage your shoot since they couldn’t join in and then when their plans failed they got mad. Not nice of them.
If someone ever asked you for a favor and you don’t wanna say yes but you don’t know how to say no just tell them “let me look into it“ or “I don’t know but I can check it out“. That gives you some time to figure out if you really want to say yes or no and if you do wanna say no how you go about saying it. It’s now on your time and not theirs. And if they keep bugging you about it just tell them you haven’t had a chance to look into it yet.
How about being an adult and say the truth.
I relate to this so much, to not quite being able to set boundaries and feeling stressed out by trying to make sure everyone’s happy and okay. I think you’re so cool by the way, you seem like such a creative, funny, humble and yet confident person. A great friend, who deserves better friends than that if I may say so 😅 Judging from your story at least.
Jessica I hope you know that I wish I could give you a huge hug right now, if you consented to one that is, I'm so sorry this happened at all. I hope you don't tell people your plans, and what you're looking forward to anymore, because people do be very jealous of others, you didn't deserve all of that stress :( I'm sorry.
Starting with the obvious: You must have left such a great impression on her for the model to wait an hour. I would only wait that long for someone that I liked - a lot. Life happens, and sometimes it does not work in your favor. I think you pointed out all of the ways that you could have prevented the situation in the future. As for your "friend", that is not friend behavior. A good friend, and someone who always has your best interest in mind, would never do any of those thing Taylor did. You're a good friend which is why during that moment (and even now based on the excuses you are giving them during the retelling) is why you did not assume they were trying to sabotage your success out of their jealousy. I am so happy to hear that you had the heart-to-heart with the model, the shoot went wonderful, and you have grown. Keep up the good work, and keep advocating for yourself!
Remove friends who are not friends, your life only gets better, even if you end up with three people or less.
Some people will destroy even the possibility of your success - sad that you had to learn the lesson hard by who you still repeat as a 'friend' years later. But know that the people who you stomp on climbing up are the ones you see falling down, cause someone with that same spirit comes after them. You have a kind spirit and heart. Respect is about being on time. That is your responsibility and accountability as a professional and a person.
this is why i don't like other photographers very much and I'm super glad that it worked out for you in the end. I have some horror stories myself
Taylor is similar to my cousin Loxy (her nickname), I’ll make it short. So I caught my other cousins talking sht about me days before the day I met with Loxy who was not involved with the negative talks about me, and I’ve know Loxy to be the trusted one, she’s very mature and motherly, she’s a nurse, I remembered her speech during a family get together that money isn’t everything, life is, because she had patience who were rich and still died of COVID, so my impression of her is someone I could tell things with, that she would listen to me and help me out, so I told Loxy about the negative talks my other cousins said that I’ve heard, but UNEXPECTEDLY, she acted all nervous, her nose was red and she was sweaty could not look at me, and tried to change the topic, talked to my aunt next to her at the time, then I repeated what I said, and she said IGNORE THEM, they’re just really stressed but when I tried to come in to the topic, she started acting as if I’m crazy for speaking out about it. Then after a month she was exposed that she was behind all of it, she was caught by our other family member who wasn’t involved in the circle she was brainwashing to be against me. She burst out crying, saying she was scared she is seeing my talent and beauty that I’ll replace her spot, because her spot in the family is she’s the most popular and trusted one, everyone is always excited to see her as she comes, and me minding my own business, wanting to be a host of the next family gatherings happened to trigger her, I even thought she’d be proud of me, as someone being the next host of the family after her, because I was passionate about it. Not only that, I was passionate about film making and animating, and podcasting,I REMEMBERED THE DAYS WHEN SHE WAS NOT YET EXPOSED, when I told her about those things I’m passionate about, she was offering me to become a makeup artist, she ignored what I said, I SAID NO OF COURSE and dint think of it much, I just assumed we just have completely different interest, maybe she sees my interest simply differently like how I see makeup jobs differently that I’m not really interested in. BUT PUTTING ALL PIECES TOGETHER AFTER SHE WAS EXPOSED and her bursting out, her taking pictures of herself on social media like how I used to pose BUT WITH BRANDED CLOTHINGS, and call people’s attention on social media whenever I’m shining on the things I post, it all made sense.
Be true to yourself. Do what works for you and not someone els in protecting your profession and yourself especially when you are on an assignment/job that took you a great deal of time and effort to set up. Yes it is always difficult and painful when a friend is no longer a friend. You have to take care of yourself because no one else will always be their for you except you. Friends will always come in and out of your life. But you will always be their for you. You can learn from painful experiances if you let yourself. Continue to practice being a Profesional which is a neverending learning experiance. Know Thyself, stay with 1st intention/gut feeling in what you should do. You cant please everyone, and hang in there.😊
Also the fact that even after all that you are rising above it and changing their name to protect them speaks volumes of your integrity and compassion......"Taylor" deserves a teachable moment but I'm glad you are choosing kindness.
I love your positivity. Whether it was sabotage or not, ppl just don't like others' success:(
Protect ya self for that evil eye !
God bless you. That is a tough situation to be in. I’m an early person too and I freak out when I’m late. I’ve only ever worked with people maybe once and it was with other photographers who were trying to model. Got treated like crap safe to say but never again. I do nerd and nature photography now anyway and am happy. Working with models are already stressful and having that other stress on top of you really sucks.
Wow! I felt crushing anxiety just hearing your retelling. I let people go way too far because I give them the benefit of doubt, but don't let them walk all over you. I'm having to learn this myself. If you are still in contact with "Taylor", keep them at arm's length and out of your inner circle of friends. Much love.
Red flags all across the board. Your so pure at heart Jess.
I think I found it on your instagram! the photos you took in the photoshoot you're talking about in the video. IT"S STUNNING!
lol I really love how you don't want to think that way about other photographers, because that suits your positive and flexible personality!
I've had a "friend" who was always jealous and trying to one up me. She also never really cared about how or what I was doing. Needless to say, we don't hang anymore. It's not your fault, this sucks. Only thing you can do is protect your boundaries.
Jess, I am so sorry this happened to you and I agree with the general consensus here in that Taylor did this intentionally. If you were here hanging out with me in the UK I'd be the one driving you to your shoot to make sure you got there ahead of time! I hate people who are late and I hate being late myself. Typically I'll be there ahead of time, like Cherelle, around 30 mins early. Don't let this experience ruin your trust in people, we're not all like this! *hugs you* x
You have really good storytelling skills. I would love to hear more of your stories.
I’ve been in situations like this while abroad. It is so distressing and stressful and infuriating to be at the mercy of your traveling companions (“friends”), having them calm and unaffected by your distress, AND to feel like you are somehow at fault because you should have done x, y, or z, you could have prevented it, etc., etc. (you were NOT at fault, btw-not at all responsible for this person’s manipulative behavior.) It is so awful. And to have this done to you out of spite and jealousy? My heart breaks for you. I know it’s in the past, but what a painful, bittersweet memory.
Okay your experience had me on the edge of my seat! Sorry you had to go through that. Taylor is definitely not someone trustworthy, the first red flag was them asking for you to connect them (before the shoot even happened!) then continually pushing off the time for their own self interest. She was also clearly envious - hence her demeanor changing when the shoot did finally go on. Not worth the connection. I’m pissed for you but so glad it worked out in the end ❤️ If you ever need a BTS/2nd shooter (I’m Lebanese in LA), I’d love to help & I’ll make sure we get there on time haha.
Ma'am you are too precious and lovely to have deserved that treatment. Here's to better projects with wonderful people that are as lovely as you.
Aww Don’t Cry Your Truly Amazing Keep up the Good Work❤️ and Please Post More Americas Next Top Model Vids🙏🏾Very Entertaining 👏🏾
Jessica, you are soooo kind. I would’ve confronted “Taylor” about what they (not in front of the model, of course)
Wow! That’s crazy that a fellow photographer would even consider sabotaging you. Idk that’s just so inconceivable. If they did that, our friend lagoons would be in jeopardy. This industry can be rough and you don’t hurt your fellow photographers but you help them out. Just blow away by that. I loved that your pushed through to get to your shoot and that you won the model over with your sincerity despite the attempt of others to hurt you and your reputation. Your shoots are great and watch your channel often. Love your composition ideas.
you are too sweet Jessica! I hate that people have taken advantage of your niceness and then used it to try and sabotage you. I'm glad that the model could see that it wasn't your fault because oof. jealousy can be soooooo ugly.
Hii jess! Do you have or can you do a quick vid about how you got into traveling internationally for photography and what its like??
taylor is a very jealous person, a bad friend & couldn’t believe someone would still wait over an hour to shoot with you. you’re too hard on yourself. take it for what it is & trust your gut!!! everything you said was right. also you are AMAZING. i hope you believe in yourself as much as i do! i, and so many others, look up to you. & i’m so sorry this happened to you!
this reminds me of one time when an artist booked with me for a bts music video and I invited my “friend” who was an inspiring photographer to come with, the day comes and this “friend” brings their camera with them to also do a shoot with the artist. I didnt say anything about it but thats something Id never do, dont take your friends moment and try to make it yours, just be supportive and do a shoot with the same person another day
A difficult but important lesson to learn. A fun day is fun but in a professional situation we all need to take it seriously. I’ve been on both sides throughout the years, different profession but similar circumstances.