Think Faster, Talk Smarter with Matt Abrahams
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- čas přidán 14. 11. 2023
- Many of us dread having to convey our ideas to others, often feeling ill-equipped, anxious, and awkward. Experts help by focusing on planned communication experiences; yet, most of our professional and personal communication occurs in spontaneous situations that leave us flustered and stumbling for words. Together, we’ll explore science-based strategies for managing anxiety, responding to the mood of the room, and making content concise, relevant, compelling, and memorable. By the end of this class, you’ll know how to navigate the situation like a pro and bring out your very best.
Matt Abrahams, ’91, lecturer in organizational behavior, Graduate School of Business
Key titles
#1. Tame the Anxiety Beast.
#2. Maximise Mediocrity. (So you can achieve greatness)
- Reduce cognitive load.
#3. Mind Your Mindset.
- i) Not yet ii) Yes, and. iii) Next play iv) Missed take
#4. Don't just do something... stand there
- Listen; Pace. Space. Grace
#5. STRUCTURE Your Spontaneity
- What? So What? Now What?
#6. The F-word: FOCUS
- Have a Goal: Know, Feel, Do. (What do I want the audience to Know, How do I want them to Feel, What do I want them to Do)
- Sentence starters, pitch (structure): What if you could... So that... For example... That's not all...
For everyone that is watching this video. Your time for greatness is coming!
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I appreciate this, thank you. Right back atcha!
@@dianacao4431 Yes! It is now! See you at the top in no time.
Step 1. Manage Anxiety,
Step 2. Get out of our own way,
Step 3. See it as an Opportunity
Step 4. Listen Well
Step 5. Messaging
Excellent video. The best tips for better speech I have ever heard include
1. Be knowledgeable on many topics and be a subject matter expert in your area.
2. Prepare your speech. Think about what you are going to say. There is no shame in writing your speech out.
3. Read out loud every day. Just as a singer will not improve with mouthing the words silently an orator needs to practice saying words.
4. Speak slow.
5. Smile and look very comfortable.
6. Concentrate fully on your speech to get in the zone. Don't get distracted and don't lose focus.
7. Role model a great speaking. Watch videos from Obama, Jay Leno, Josh Hawley and other great speakers. Watch their head, hands and other body movement.
8. Practice giving speeches preferrable out loud or at very least in your mind.
9. If you are given a tough question, answer it in frameworks rather than being potentially wrong with the answer.
10. Ask clarifying questions before you give your answer.
Thx sir
It's funny because your advices may work but are very rigid and prepared in advance.
But the video was about improvisation, being in the present, truly listening to your audience 😅
@@Phileas_40 except for my #2 all of the guidance I gave prepares you advance for when you have improvise . Other guidance gave like smiling and focusing helps you during your speech.
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exceptional advice....I appreciate 🎉
This is God sent. I blush and perspire and it has really destroyed my life. I am 38 years old now and still faces this issue. Somehow as a younger person I thought, that it would go away as I grow older, but it never did. I just came home after having dinner at a friends place and while socializing my anxiety kicked in and I blushed and started perspiring again. Went home dejected, fired up my P.C and decided, my time's better spent learning Japanese then wallowing in self pity, but for some reason the app won't open. So opened CZcams and this was in my recommendation. I will use this knowledge and better myself from this day onward. Thank You
Came here to say I blush over my face and neck too. And the sweat from my armpits drenches my shirt lol.
The symptoms you describe are actually an indication of your intelligence.
Only frauds and really stupid people are convinced they´re smart.
I always try to remind myself that I’m just trying to help the people I’m presenting to. If you’re just there to help, and focus on that, you can take yourself out of the equation.
Yes that is his step 3.
Absolutely, agreed!
I found you in CZcams by amazing accident, and I have been watching three videos on a road, I'm going to give a class for medical interpreters in Montana, and all your videos that I watched help me to feel more confident and get more ideas for my next class in March 2024. God bless your knowledge 🙏
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Yah! You are the One of greatest speakers I have ever heard.
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Cool Thanks...
It always surprises me how many people have a hard time with small talk. This info is necessary!
To this day, i didn't know what small talk means. I am glad i have searched it on here and came across this treasure of communication skills.
I believe I’ve seen him do this lecture before and still amazing.
One of the rare time I open my note book to study a talk.
Thanks for the content. It’s so valuable
Amazing presentation again from Matt!! I've been trying to follow him since the presentation 9 years ago and it really helps me
I’m brand new to sales and struggle with social anxiety. I really appreciate your videos. They are very helpful!
I really love the way he narrated I'm like when I have to talk I go freeze so it's really good for me to exercise this to reduce my condition
🎉 Thank you CZcams and Stanford Alumni for this free lecture and class... I've learned what was much-needed for my success in the future ❤. #thinktillyousweat
Outstanding lecture! I wish Matt had been my professor in college. Very engaging to the very end and extremely useful. There are clear applications across my life communicating with my family, in my roles in business development and in podcasting. Thanks, Matt!
These are really good advices. "Structure is a tool", I love this.
I am not a native English speaker, yet your ideas was clear and concise. It has helped me in my endeavor to get over anxiety in speaking and in maximizing mediocrity to achieve greatness. i wish you the best in your book and lectures. Your lectures and methodology will help millions of folks.
I really appreciate for sharing this great lecture.
This is the first time I have watched the video that I engaged from the beginning to the end and also want to comment immediately in the box here although I have listened to a large amount of video in the past. I felt it so fascinating because it is such a informative source that I can apply in reality. All of these things come up from my mind and I am so grateful for CZcams as it recommended me hearing your sharing. Thank you 🎉🎉
Purchased the audio book. Thank you.
Thank you Matt. I hope to one day come back and repeat, reflect and seek feedback, from others and myself. Anyone else what like to share there feedback?
Matt thanks a lot for this conference and video resource. It's super useful, loved the pitching framework... I'll practice practice practice!
Love this guy! He's like a serious Steve Martin, very engaging speaker!
Well said! 100% agree.
This was also a wonderful video to learn from. I get real tense when attempting to "say the right things"; so thank you for uploading this content for others to evolve from
Thank you for sharing!
“I’m still a Work in Progress” love your openness here. 😂
Wow!!! So glad I found you again!!!! Thank you
I have been listening to your podcast on spotify for 2 years...now i get to see you :) thank you for the show...and love your voice and pace!
It’s dificult to gasp the fact that we as a society need a “ how to have a conversation” course. It’s like teaching droids how to behave. Makes me sad. I appreciate the content nonetheles
I was thing this??? Why is it a class to talk. Everyone is different and every situation is subtly different… I feeel like he’s teaching how to be deceptive!!!
@kadutho because being able to communicate under high stress situation is a important skill set that should have been taught when we were kids but unfortunately was not. It’s not about “how to have a conversation “ but how to effectively bring across what’s in my mind to someone different from me and be able to connect with him through words
thank you Steve Martin!
😂 lol he does look like him
This is Matt Abrahams
@@jycegaming8530 Hi Matt Abrahams! This is dad!
Steve martin without jokes
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This was useful-thank you.
Thank you so much sir 🙏
I found you in CZcams by amazing accident, and I have been watching three videos on a road, I'm going to give a class for medical interpreters in Montana, and all your videos that I watched help me to feel more confident and get more ideas for my next class in March 2024. God bless your knowledge
I have heard many talks on this talk and this is the best so far, it makes the sense straight away. I have already watched it multiple times and will listen to it again and again. Thanks a lot for such a life changing coaching on communication skills
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Structure mindset and messaging..thanks
Very helpful! Thank you!
Thank you! Appreciated.
When i was teaching HS Drama 1, i was not teaching acting... i was teaching "how to speak publicly" and "make friends". Sure, we did it through games and scene work, but i think it helped.
Love is a gift that comes to my mind 🤔
Wish I had this lecture fifty years ago.
Hopefully u may have 50 years after this.. So 🥂
Seriously, pretty fantastic! 🎉
Knowledge is power
🎉 thanks for the advice, as we speak I have a problem my mind just shut especially presenting sermon
Thanks more for this tips ,thanks again you faced me to the right way
Great Teacher ❤
I watched his video 9 years ago, and still good till this day
Sick ass time traveler lol
This was so good thank you
His pitch was awesome 👌
1)What? So what? Now what?. 2)Tell me the time, don’t make me a clock. 3) Structure/focus. pitching: what if you could, so that, for example, and that’s not all
Remember to do the following six things each time someone puts you in the spot. Brilliant.
Edit: Okay most of this stuff is actually pretty good.
Absolutely need to slow things down!
It,s First english vedio i ever completed
- manage anxiety
- get out of Our Own Way
- see it as an opportunity
- listen well
- structure your responses
Speaking in the moment - is something that I struggle the most. I’m frozen all the time 😢 And I am in my 30s
I love Steve Martin
Amazing❤
Next play ❤️
That was my problem in my last job interview, I felt so embarrassed 😢
This is really great. But i fell asleep really fast also xD.
I love Steve Martin.
That's good conversation
be present oriented
Our internal thought processes may not always align perfectly with external communication. We might have a clear understanding of our thoughts internally, but conveying them to others requires translating them into a format that may not capture all the nuances of our internal experience.
exhale, cold bottle,
be present with walking, song, counting backwards, and tongue twister (i slip a sheet),
be mediocre,
what, so what, now what
Me in the toilet cubicle: “I slit a sheet…”
My colleague in the next one: 👀👀👀
6:00 manage anxiety
8:00 find sources of anxiety
00:00:01:How to speak better in the moment if you have recently had to
00:01:34:6 Steps to Be Better at Talking in the Moment
00:04:10:How do you feel when you watch a nervous speaker present now I
00:06:29:Thermo Regulators for Your Body
00:07:28:How to manage anxiety if I didn't talk about a
00:09:44:How to maximize mediocrity in the moment we get in our own
00:11:32:When I am evaluating and judging everything I'm saying as
00:12:57:How to play a simple improvisation game with me
00:15:10:Step How we want to do well and we want to make sure we
00:17:01:How to see things opportunities the first comes from this notion of growth mindset
00:19:57:How to move to the next play if you're an athlete
00:22:56:Listening most of us are not good listeners we listen just enough
00:24:51:Three Things Pace Space Grace to listen well you have to give yourself
00:26:19:How to listen better if you don't respond right away
00:28:43:Why I was teased mercilessly because Matt rhymes with everything okay
00:31:17:This is a yes thumbs up yes thumbs down no no
00:34:04:Where are we going do I have the right shoes on should I go
00:35:14:3 simple questions what so what now what the what is your idea your
00:37:19:Structure is incredibly helpful in spontaneous communication in the new book
00:38:40:It is much better to be Compact and concise in what you're
00:40:48:How to speak more effectively in the moment what if you could feel
00:42:24:Do you see how easy that was do you see how the structure helped
Buddy made me feel like an idiot right off the bat with that Fs question
3:45 Tame the anxiety beast
are those his...?😂 btw it's a really nice lecture..ill apply this in my work😊
“Of” los of OF
Ss matter of Fact: The Best Tool...
Anyone can explain to me about the 6F?
Nvm I got it in my fifth replay 😂😂
Here you go - Finished Files are the result oF years oF scientiFic study combined with the experience oF many years
Guys I can’t find the fffs even when I pause
The other three are from 3 'of ' present in the sentence
Executive summary: be present, be present, mistakes are the main way to learn, be more present.
Think faster , talk smarter
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I am that person
Dr Siamak Baghai Arassi
Good morning sir
How did he find 6 Fs in that "quote"?
Search again it's 6F
Count "of" also contacted F
I am seeing this and I think they are actually 5 Fs in there
Despite the title talk faster I feel like this video is 2hrs long , may because I'm a slow listner 🙂
still findinf only 5 "f"s
MQU❤
Abhi 2024 meh aa video dak raha hoo
Instructions unclear, I failed the interrogation for the triple homicide
More then 44 minutes without using mmm, hmm, aaand , incredible🎉
I freeze 🥶 ?????
Am I the only one? But I can only find 3 Fs not 6😢
you probably skipped over the word “of” it was in the sentence 3 times
Takeaway tongue twister : I slit a sheet , a sheet I slit , and on that slitted sheet I sit 😅
9/10 Indian telephone scammers agree
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there are 5 f’s tho
Speak* smarter.
Don’t think about it…
How many fs?
Just 1, Me. I did not pass the intro quiz.
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maybe a tip on keeping nips from getting piercing hard... 🤣
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