This video was such a blessing. I got evicted today after trying everything i could do. I have to move in with my aunt 7 states away. I feel like such a loser having to pull my kid out of her tech school to God knows what. But this was the first video I saw when I got home. So thank you.
Sending you good vibes. You continue to envision the life you want and never stop believing. Thoughts turn into things. ❤️🤎🩷🙏🏾🙏🏾
I have been there. I am wishing you strength and positivity. Please believe that things can and will get better. Take care of yourself.
We need a starting over group for women 40 and over. 🤔
Divorced last year after 17 years of marriage. I have a 27 year old daughter and my son will be entering college in the fall. I never imagined this part of my life but I recognize I have a blank canvas I get to fill in with the beauty I imagine
Wishing you an abundance of blessings as you start this new chapter of your life ♥
Peace - " Blank Canvas - " I Get to Fill In With the Beauty I Imagine" That is Beautiful! Thank You.
I just left Mauritius three weeks ago so I know how warm it can get. Enjoy your time there. I liked Mauritius. Hope to visit again.
I lost my husband suddenly in 2022. It sent me in a tailspin. He was the breadwinner and my situation is financially precarious. I’m still mourning, but reevaluating my new identity outside of being a wife. I have creative talents and skill sets that I have to tap into. It’s really scary, but I’m still breathing.
I subscribed to your channel over a year ago...maybe 2 years ago. I rarely watched your videos because I was afraid that it would challenge everything that I thought for over 30 years. I also joined your Facebook group and tangentially sat in jealousy of all of the women who were taking control of their lives. I'm 55 years old, unmarried, childless, unemployed, and my passport is expired.
Today I watched your video all the way through and I cried, but I am also inspired. I'm not afraid.
Thank you. ❤
continue to watch Stephanie and her circle of friends/family to find energy and new ideas to implement so I can make changes in my favor… it gets challenging sometimes and I want to give up before I even get started..: but these women and families have given me a new way to look at life through a different lens and though im much older I know it’s possible.. let’s stay encouraged together!
Sis know that you deserve the life you dream of! Sending you love and grace!
Sending you prayers, positive vibes, and peace as you navigate the next chapter. You got this!
I've always hated the terms....
"Black girl magic"
"Black Excellence"
"Strong black wine"
Suggests that if you haven't achieved XYZ that you aren't worthy of that "title" or you aren't successful.
Almost 3yrs ago I started over at 53yrs & moved from Detroit where I grew up to Myrtle Beach where I had never been. I'm starting my speaking career!
Hard work has gotten us in lots of trouble!
Florida Commissioner, BW, hard working Regina Hill 58 years old was arrested for elder exploitation of a 96 years old friend.
Now, this is a word. It really, really has. Overdoing it has wreaked havoc on our ability to exist naturally.
I want to start over . I realized i don’t want to further my current career. I feel stuck in it because that’s the only thing i know !! I realized i would love to travel full time and start a business again but i keep letting self doubt paralyze me… this video was right on time !!!!
I'm 39 AND AFTER failed relationships and jobs that didn't work ....I'm now bouncing around from moms house to whatever friend will let me crash
..im about 2 steps away from the shelter...I'm ALLL EARS
38, about to leave a failed relationship. No job. But I'm ready to leave.
Now is the time to think/do something COMPLETELY different to get new results.
I did a positivity challenge when nothing was going "right" and it changed my life.
Sending Virtual Hugs Beautiful Ladies. 🙏🏾🤗
Housesitting is definitely for you. There’s so many places that want you to stay for months. Some event don’t mind if you eat their food.
Start Over As Many Times as YOU Need to Sis! The Clock ⏰ Is Yours‼️👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
While you are on a losing streak, might as well lose the useless stuff or people. Thanks, Stephanie for that info.
Well, I'm 54 and I've always been a late bloomer. I had a "good" job that I didn't like, but it paid well. I decided to bite the bullet and buy a house for stability as I grow older. Pre-approved for the house, laid off last year and still looking. Living with relatives, some are happy to help, some aren't. This definitely isn't how I imagined my life at this stage, but it's time to reimagine things. To all who are starting over, you're not alone in your anger, disappointment, sadness, or uncertainty. I'm sending prayers for doors and opportunities to open for you, hold on ladies, take a deep breath, cry, and pivot. Things will work out well for us. ❤
Buy a house NOW while you have W2's reflecting you worked. No one is asking for 2024 taxes to prove employment. They are going of last year. So buy the house now. Once you have the keys, RENT those rooms out. Look into a!rbnb. You can rent 1 room while you live in the other on the other side of the house and that will pay your mortgage.
I'M STARTING OVER!! A LITTLE FEAR, BUT NO GUILT OR SHAME!! I'M SOO THANKFUL FOR YOU❤
Just walked away from my traditional 9/5 to pursue my passion and God has been blessing me every since I still have not told my mom! I am 52 btw my kids are grown and I am single
This is making me rethink if I want to buy a home. I left my last relationship and left behind a ton of valuable items. He thought I cared about material items as much as he did. It felt so good to let all of that stuff go. ❤
I'm looking forward to aging. The clarity is EVERYTHING!!
BEST LUCK MATURE QUEENS👸🏻👸🏾👸🏾👸🏿
Ladies who are down on themselves, things will look up, I have a 32 year old son that i am roommates with, I know his job doesnt pay enough for him to get his own, and I dont mind 1 bit...things are not as easy as they used to be, its hard now, really hard, just dont ever give up
The feeling of failure or defeat gets so heavy, the older I get. I have done everything possible in trying to dig myself out of dead-end jobs, and yet nothing has prevailed, even with a degree. I’m starting over and moving to GA in April, in hopes of a fresh start and better network opportunities in entrepreneurship.
My husband of 28 years passed away last year and I am now starting over. I have been watching your videos and feel empowered to make a change in my life and starting over. Like you said the best is yet to come 😊 Thank you so very much for sharing.
I had a medical condition. I had to learn how to walk again. And I am getting better and walking better. And glad to get back in my life right.
Yes. Pretending has drained me also. This is a great topic and encouraging Thank you for your channel this is a great community ❤
I needed to hear this. I'm feeling guilty about my sabbatical today and some shame. But I needed this break and career change so much and most people don't understand how I feel about it.
I am 11 months into my 2nd career break. I am glad that you are pushing through those feelings and going for the gusto. 😊
Thank you Stephanie! Sitting here on a balcony in San Jose Costa Rica because you broadened my mind🔥🔥❤️🔥‼️ Thank you 🙏🏼
11:43 "I decided to start anew, to strip away, what I had been taught." - Georgia O'Keefe
A word was shared!!! Thanks, Stephanie! I've hated hearing Black Excellence. It's almost sacrilegious to go against trite phrases that bind us to narratives that don't serve us. Thank you for sharing!
Ive been watching your videos for over a year now. I am 58. I had a future planned with who I thought was the love of my life that just ended after 10 years. I am mourning, yet optimistic about my future nomad life. I have always wanted to travel around the world and the creator has made it easier for me to do just that. Thank you for sharing with us Stephanie. This video is right on time!
This resonated with me so much. Im on the cusp of 40 working 3rd shift at a job that doesnt pay well yet dictates my life. Im going to be in a living situation I dont want . I gotta shed some thing litterally and emotional. This video was a sign
Awesome message!!! I am 50 years old starting over after raising my three adult children as a single Mother. We relocated to another state twenty four years ago. I'm back home living with my Senior Mother helping pay her bills since she cannot work anymore. This break was well needed.
I am starting a new, God willing I will be 50 on the 29th of March. I can say I'm looking forward to the next chapter in my life.
82nd year in Queretaro since 2021. No problems. Thanks Great parents
Querétaro is wonderful! Have you met other Black women there? There's a great community of women from the US living there.
I really appreciate your videos. I do feel ashamed because I quit my job then got fired from my last job. I am just trying to start over and figure out where my life is headed again. Thanks for always looking out for bw, we appreciate it.
I just turned 30, but I still feel like this is so perfect for me. I resonate with a lot of what you said, so thank you for this video! 🙏🏽
Peace - My grandma told me "you are just starting" at 30. So you hearing this is great. The earlier you get jewels the better awareness and choices you have.. Blessings!
Stephanie, I so needed to hear this message. I am in my 40's and things are not working out for me as I would like, it has me reflecting that this juncture in my life is perhaps the universe pointing me to move into a different direction.
GO with instinct every time! Don’t “pause” & let some Nutter come along & talk you out of your best life. People believe they’re sane because they’re just meeting all watermarks (house/apt/car/-job/children).
What they never admit is that monkey-see/monkey-do is NOT a key to happiness. What they never display-out of fear & guilt-is that the whole society wants them to drop dead of exhaustion! So they can all emotionally release & feel like they did the right things rightfully.
But when you reflect, ask yourself, WHO has ever been trained or educated to “care” about BW? WHO is best-qualified to be executive director of my own life? Almost all of us can compare notes & scars, anytime, about how, “Girl! I just soldiered-on!” “I didn’t let him/her stop me! (from slaving-away for a paycheck!!)” “We’re STRONGER than that!” etc., etc. JUST to get right back onto a treadmill that was never intended for us to be rewarded, treated, thanked properly, or even given a nice break on.
Listen to that heartfelt clarion & let your God & the universe lead you out of Collective Insanity into Clarity, where few of us go. IF you let the world STOP, right where you are, your own mind will take you where you SHOULD be. And it isn’t despair, drudgery, or misery with people trained to sell us exactly that-trained by TV, by internet, by every definition they “know” of how to watch us suffer, then laugh about it. Which IS KRAZY!
I know you’ll come out of the current slump! But don’t LET it be to get into another one afterward by systemic design. Break out of the grind by letting “things” you’re supposed to care about go! Don’t wait for a survey of approval & don’t TELL people what they have earned no rights to know. Just map out a plan, quickly, quietly & secretly (safely though) & keep powering-through that-as if your favorite boyfriend depended on it! Don’t tell him, either, though.
When you look up again, you’ll be back in-charge, working your plans step-by-step, & well on your way to better-no disruptions & emergencies allowed. I was 40 once. It doesn’t come back.
Best Wishes & Best Regards, Sincerely. 🌸🌷
Laid off, was over tired, currently a caretaker...but way less stressed. I do need money 💰....I'm listening.
*I hope to be able to go back on the road, so I can get my life of ease again. I feel stuck right now. Drained and not fully happy. Nomad life wasn't easy, but I had ease in my life.*
Heyyyyy from a friend in the future here. Im 35 and I resonated with everything here although it was for 40 and up crew. Im in the process of a few transition and it would be easy to go back to certain thing
I’m 37 recently separated had to move back to my home state with my 3 children but I have not lost hope and never will!! I’m resetting and putting a plan in motion! Thank you Stephanie because of you I KNOW my sabbatical is in my near future!!
Hi Stephanie! Thank you so much my Dear! I'm preparing for the Leap of Faith!❤❤🎉🎉
Non contracted weeks ago and appreciate Your humanity to US United Sistren! Packing a six bedroom home! Getting of non- profit discrimination organizations! Getting rid of beliefs and other things!🎉 Grief work is good.
I think you have done an outstanding job Stephanie Perry. Bravo!!❤️
I’m an avid consumer of YT, esp. things concerning BW, and when I tell you this is one of the BEST vids I’ve ever experienced! Thank you, Stephanie!
*No. 2 - re: continuing losing streaks when you lose something (not by choice) I lost my beloved sis suddenly on 12/30/23 and decided if she had to go (in the physical) a whole lotta other stuff would, too! I screamed w/ joy when you gave that advice! Blessings to you!!!! 😘😘😘)*
Reached out for help last year, now living back where I grew up. Starting over and grateful for the chance to do so.
Wow, Stephanie you hit the nail on the head. Making hard changes in your fifties is really hard but I found myself actually making those changes this year. I feel so much happier and will be traveling to Europe this year.
Thank you 🙏🏾 kindly for allowing us to acknowledge the losses. “Use this time to use this time to get rid of some other things to”…
Is it sad that I almost cried listening to this video? Your words described me to the T and spoke to my soul. I needed this. I need to book a consultation with you very soon.
Good day Stephanie: I finally get your message. I have been feeling so lost and after watching some of your videos, while subscribing and then finding myself unsubscribing out of FEAR of rejection, this video has hit me deep. I am now a permanent subscriber and I just want to thank you for encouraging us as black women. ❤❤❤
Thanks for sharing your story!!! I needed to hear this message. This is an important message for Black Women over 40 🙌🏾
Hi Stephanie, this was a great topic. I really needed to hear it. So many of us as black women have been there for others, but are screaming on the inside. I’m finally taking time off for myself, to just doing nothing. After letting go of some things, my head is clearer, I can finally think & plan. I’m finally getting my passport again after letting the first one expire. I never thought I would be able to afford to travel out of the country again. Now, I’m planning on my first Housesitting experience. Thanks again
Focus on the future and have faith. That declutter idea sounds awesome 👏 to me.
Stephanie I just wanted to say, since I'm first learning of your devastating loss - I am so sorry that happened to you.🙏🏾❤💕❤ Thank you for being so open and always providing encouragement for me and us.💗
Outstanding❤️ Bravo to you for helping other Black Women with your gifts and knowledge. Bravo 🎉💯❤️
Thank you for this video. I needed to hear this!
Thank you Stephanie (as always) for consistently sharing yiur LIFE, and words of wisdom, and inspiration💜💜💜
Thank you for sharing such excellent wisdom ❤
Thank you for sharing your perspective and experience Stephanie. You're so encouraging and I'm so proud of all that you've accomplished and, more importantly, all that you've become!!!
On point as always. Thank you.
Your channel and content is so refreshing
Stephanie, I really needed this. I lost my dad this past week and it has been HARD.
Condolences on your loss. I lost my dad in July of 2022 and I'm still processing. Take it one day at a time. We'll be alright.
Lost mom and dad Aug-Oct 2023 . My condolences. It has been hard for me still trying to find my way. We’re in it together
@@arleneth1307 Thank you for your condolences 🙏🏽❤️ sending healing prayers.
@@leleerazzberryg8151 Thank you for your kind words. Sending love ❤️ and healing your way.
This video came to me just in time. Thank you so much. ❤
Luv it! 2 thumbs up. So many take aways. This shifted my perspective and I feel so much better. Thank you 😊
You are glowing!! Great vlog & message.
o m g i can listen to you speak forever!! thank you for your message stephanie
AWSOME video!!! Thsnks Stephanie!❤❤
Thank you so much Stephanie.
This was inspiring. Thank you
Thank you Stephanie, for speaking facts, facts and more facts!
Stephanie! The power in your message.
This conversation uplifted my spirit today…thanks, Stephanie.🤗🌹
Your content is so refreshing! Thank you.
You are speaking to me. Im not sure what I want to do OR not do but resting in knowing that it is ok to start over is so encouraging. I really needed this today. Thank you!
Thank So Much For This Video ....
Great video thank you
Great video as usual I’m starting over and I’m so lost
This is so good! I love your frankness, transparency, and how you took the risk to delve into the world of "what if."
Thank you 🙏🏾 so much for this video ❤
Thank you, Stephanie for giving voice/ language to what I was experiencing starting over at 58.
Yes visualize dream life...i am also decluttering
Thank you for this video as well as others. Looking for friends like minded
So proud of you and Ms. Dowe. The fact that you’re a fellow Veteran makes me even more proud of you. I’m with you, “Hard work has never been my purpose “.
I’m a Marine Corps veteran looking forward to my divorce and relocation. Starting over sounds like a blessing.
I loooooove this intro...speaking to my life right now.
Thank you so much.
Great video!!! I took a sabbatical last year after quitting my job and having my husband walk out of our marriage! I just needed time to rest and as much as I wanted to travel or just pack up and leave, I didn’t! I just took time to cry, reflect, deflect, etc. I know I’m
not going to work myself to death for the foreseeable future! I’m waiting to get my youngest off to college so I can figure out my game plan for myself. It’s MY time (almost) and time to move on and forward!!! I will be 49 this year and I’m just taking it day by day!
hello , great share , so true thank you , for sharing🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰..........
I'm planning a sabbatical and normalizing free time has been a great step toward that. I let go of extracurriculars, commitments to groups/people... Sometimes i feel bad but honestly it feels so good to just be still.
Any advice for those who are in there early 30s and has been on survival mode pretty much their whole lives now burnt out . And want more to live then being apart of this matrix ,hustle and bustle society?
This whole video is a journal entry for real! ❤
Thank you
Thank you ❤
Best advice ever!!! ❤
Thank You Stephanie.💙 I’m Wishing Chanel Morris 4604 All The Very Best On Her New Journey. Sending HUGS To Her🌹xox You Will Be Alright, Chanel. I’ll Be Thinking Of You and Sending Positive Vibes! I Started Over a Few Years Ago and Now Living My Best Adult Life. God’s Blessings To You, Chanel.💕x
Girl, I went through the 30s nonsense too. I feel you.
Pretending is exhausting. Thanknyou!
HI My Friend (in my head)
Guuuurrl, YOU are so On Point! I'm on a serious transformation journey, I definitely need to declutter.
I love , love, love to travel for cultural experiences and I'm brainstorming on incorporating that into my practice & monetizing it
I'm 56 and making major changes in my life while enjoying life to the fullest now.
I'm not going to lie though, I can use interacting with like minded souls
This is NOT a one size fits all .... each person's situation is completely different.
I never thought my life better at 65 . My life is good much before that.
There is a Black content creator that says "Black Excellence is exhausting, I embrace Black mediocrity follow me for more tips and advice" and once I processed what she said I stepped off my high horse/soap box, feet kicked up, resting, relaxing on the couch. No more overdoing it for myself or anyone else either. When people say BW take the cape off, that includes the Black Excellence cape!