Dealing with depression

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  • čas přidán 15. 05. 2023
  • “But you don’t look depressed...” PSA: Signs of depression are not always obvious or outward-facing.
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  • @loveg7330
    @loveg7330 Před 9 měsíci +13641

    Depression can look like the funniest person in the room

    • @isaultra3405
      @isaultra3405 Před 3 měsíci +336

      Robin Williams. Rest in peace ⚘

  • @rulyu97
    @rulyu97 Před 11 měsíci +21529

    Tbh both are accurate. The 1st is just when i failed to hold it

    • @gues.t
      @gues.t Před 10 měsíci +386

      That's why she said what depression can ALSO look like

    • @pogsauce9253
      @pogsauce9253 Před 10 měsíci +138

      The 1st actually feels quite nice once in a while.

    • @I-am-a-trash-cuber
      @I-am-a-trash-cuber Před 10 měsíci +12

      Same

    • @Thzea_starrr
      @Thzea_starrr Před 9 měsíci +35

      Same,just now I had my first breakdown and no one's there for me:)...just how I need it be😊
      School is tough.... oh btw I hope your alright now❤

    • @realzawfishankhan
      @realzawfishankhan Před 9 měsíci +3

      True

  • @tommyjones7096
    @tommyjones7096 Před 8 měsíci +6202

    People think of depression as deep sadness, but it's really deep despair.
    Sadness is hurting because you're unhappy. Despair is becoming numb to sadness, joy, anger, fear, etc. because you see no point to any of it.
    It's how so many people with depression can still remain functional and how so many of their family members & friends can be blindsided when they end it all.
    "But they didn't seem depressed!"

    • @himynameis3138
      @himynameis3138 Před 7 měsíci +85

      Playing charades makes it all harder too. Speak up and get help.

    • @trineseDMVbeauty
      @trineseDMVbeauty Před 5 měsíci +68

      YOU DEFINITELY HIT THE HEAD ON THE NAIL WITH THAT POINT....GOD BLESSINGS EVERYONE ❤🙏🏾

    • @manaswi_yt
      @manaswi_yt Před 5 měsíci +34

      What you wrote is 💯 true

    • @user-el4yq5bf4j
      @user-el4yq5bf4j Před 5 měsíci +55

      To the point... accurate.... The numbness and the pointless ness

    • @PersisP
      @PersisP Před 5 měsíci +30

      I think you are describing resignation as a mental attitude that can follow a long period off despair. Despair is a strongly choatic feeling and very emotional while the numbness you can up in is the opposite of that. Depression can be many things but often its someone pushing through in survival mode while shutting their feeling off

  • @jujubee2903
    @jujubee2903 Před 7 měsíci +875

    Don’t forget the smiles with tired eyes behind them

  • @The_strange_floof_is_weird
    @The_strange_floof_is_weird Před rokem +7087

    Smiles through the pain , at least that's what I deal with

  • @f50koenigg
    @f50koenigg Před 9 měsíci +4463

    What I hate about it is when you open up about it to the people you are close with and they just shrug you off and give you advice like it is easy to just snap out of it and be happy.

    • @starslit725
      @starslit725 Před 7 měsíci +50

      Yesssss

    • @Fortheloveofguac
      @Fortheloveofguac Před 7 měsíci +149

      I feel EVERY BIT of this comment plus on top of that it just makes you feel even more alone

    • @reginamushi6582
      @reginamushi6582 Před 7 měsíci +100

      Most of them have never experienced the levels of depression that others have, or they have and found it easy to deal with...that's why it's easier for them to tell you get over it

    • @reginamushi6582
      @reginamushi6582 Před 7 měsíci +54

      They forget we are all different ❤

    • @vanessab2392
      @vanessab2392 Před 7 měsíci +30

      True. They tell you oh just be happy. You're like what?!

  • @AnimeAddict1225
    @AnimeAddict1225 Před 8 měsíci +328

    My depression made me a dead man.
    Like a soldier who fear nothing and now have nothing to lose and love. And not even afraid of death.

    • @divyaprasad8520
      @divyaprasad8520 Před 5 měsíci +8

      Pls do trt magnesium glycinate.. some times vitamin deficiencies can cause these..

    • @Popokatlpetl
      @Popokatlpetl Před 4 měsíci +1

      Me to.

  • @sarahwieland3243
    @sarahwieland3243 Před 8 měsíci +1603

    Exactly! My
    Psychiatrist once told me I was a high functioning morbidly depressed individual. He was spot on. I just hid my depression thru my work. I was always working and “doing”.

  • @feliciatran5667
    @feliciatran5667 Před rokem +766

    To all the people who are clinically depressed, I’m so sorry to hear that 😢😢 it is not easy to fight with it at all

    • @-Materixl_.gurl-
      @-Materixl_.gurl- Před rokem +20

      Thank you❤...it...means a lot

    • @devanshgupta4107
      @devanshgupta4107 Před 11 měsíci

      .

    • @Newbie122
      @Newbie122 Před 11 měsíci +10

      Chant -
      Hare Krishna Hare Krishna Krishna Krishna Hare Hare
      Hare Ram Hare Ram Ram Hare hare
      And be happy

    • @Hello.mate.
      @Hello.mate. Před 11 měsíci +6

      Thank you so much that really means a lot and it is really hard

    • @Cristell_slayer
      @Cristell_slayer Před 10 měsíci +4

      Ty…

  • @wcueislife
    @wcueislife Před 10 měsíci +857

    I hide it until I get to my room. Then I cry for hours

    • @AlbenianKomrad
      @AlbenianKomrad Před 9 měsíci +24

      Hey, Life is as realistic as death, what life has that its better is that you can eliminate the suffering and feel only Pleasure, death is lame and stupid, there was a point for you to live and that is for you to have fun, So Focus on that!

    • @isa-lk4lj
      @isa-lk4lj Před 9 měsíci +10

      you got this

    • @dlaminiprincess
      @dlaminiprincess Před 9 měsíci +4

      Ur not the only one.

    • @monikawangai8719
      @monikawangai8719 Před 8 měsíci +12

      Same, i can't wait to get home and just cry

    • @kayesmusicals
      @kayesmusicals Před 8 měsíci +13

      I can totally understand. I was in same condition few years back. Please go to doctor speak your heart out. It is curable. You are not alone ❤ I wish for your good health 💟🙏

  • @yourlocal_puppeteer
    @yourlocal_puppeteer Před 6 měsíci +206

    This is so true. I was sitting in my room crying and then my friend texted me so I wiped my tears and started joking with her even though I’m really sad and want to just sleep

  • @benmorgan8752
    @benmorgan8752 Před 8 měsíci +171

    Depression hits hardest when you’re alone

  • @hamzamohammed3795
    @hamzamohammed3795 Před rokem +2494

    Depression is not shown to others because it is seen as embarrassing so it's actually likely to be both. You get on with your day without showing any emotions to just break down or feel low in your room where no one will give you a reaction.

    • @V1d3oMxls
      @V1d3oMxls Před 10 měsíci +30

      yeah but my sister has her own bed in my room so I cant breakdown unless she sleeps somewhere else.

    • @Alexxis2004
      @Alexxis2004 Před 10 měsíci +58

      @@V1d3oMxlsgo outside, breakdown in the warm shower. Let it out, don't keep it all bottled in like I did.

    • @Black.Sabbath
      @Black.Sabbath Před 9 měsíci +15

      ​@@V1d3oMxlsYou can breakdown in silence

    • @VampJKwillkilleveryhuman
      @VampJKwillkilleveryhuman Před 9 měsíci +3

      Yes it's me

    • @shortact_8809
      @shortact_8809 Před 9 měsíci +2

      help me

  • @albertamichelini2777
    @albertamichelini2777 Před 11 měsíci +685

    I understand this feeling unfortunately. And the worst thing is when they call you selfish.

    • @Cinnamonroll010
      @Cinnamonroll010 Před 10 měsíci +68

      EXACTLY, today I went to like a family trip and we took a lot of photos and my mother and father were like you always don't engage in family you are so selfish because I wasn't giving a genuine smile. I am struggling with depression and anxiety and I'm not the person to tell my parents or friends about stuff like this. I'm always on my desk studying not interacting with anyone in the house because I want to keep myself busy and they always assume why.

    • @SprEsper
      @SprEsper Před 9 měsíci +12

      My only friend is toxic to me and he says I'm selfish..

    • @isa-lk4lj
      @isa-lk4lj Před 9 měsíci +5

      ​@@Cinnamonroll010I'm sorry to hear that... remember that, sooner or later, things will get better

    • @pullpulse123
      @pullpulse123 Před 8 měsíci +16

      You are not selfish. You are not alone.

    • @midoritherandom
      @midoritherandom Před 8 měsíci +6

      I still remember how shattered I felt inside when they called me selfie and dishonest

  • @katenoone6296
    @katenoone6296 Před 9 měsíci +220

    I’m so sorry for anyone struggling. It’s been so long. God bless u all

  • @AmericanDumbass
    @AmericanDumbass Před 9 měsíci +70

    Life hit different 2014-2019 i will never get that back

    • @_Ifty
      @_Ifty Před 7 měsíci +2

      for real bro 😭

    • @beatrix-ec1xf
      @beatrix-ec1xf Před 4 měsíci +14

      After high School no joke it feels like it's been all down hill

    • @rohandhanota9944
      @rohandhanota9944 Před 4 měsíci

      I miss the good old days of childhood, back when you just were living in the moment and had very achievable dreams. Now it is all suffering sometimes. Looking back in the past to see how fun it was versus looking now really can put you down sometimes. Best advice I can give as a 17 year old teenager, is to live in the moment, and don't give a rat's nest about people's expectations or the future sometimes. Slacking off and cruising around can be good for you sometimes. Think about doing less work and responsibilities, because as a teenager right now, I like to live life slowly and not push myself hard. That way, you have a breathing room and things that you live for. I am a car enthusiast who drives a manual car perfectly, bicycle racer, and good FPS gamer. Even though none of these things will get me a career or help me get a job, I view them as an identity and purpose of who I am, and do not let anyone take away your passions from you. Sure, the past was awesome, with the golden age of video games and childhood, but think about all of the advancements you made so far, remember how scary it was to get in trouble as a child, or remember how messed up things could be, and how weak you were. As you get older, appreciate the advantages and advancements you made in life, things you learn are invaluable. Heck, if you are a gamer, wait for GTA 6. It is on the horizon and it sure has made people, including me, feel some motivation and a desire to be in the best shape when the game drops. Despite all of this, it can still be hard to not feel down at times, including myself, especially with the things wrong today as well as nostalgia, but try your best and keep distracting yourself with things you enjoy, and maybe consider having a slight ego and drive to be the best at what you do, that way, you keep getting distracted from negative thoughts. Even with the future seeming bleak, look at technological innovations and our ancestors, imagined how hard it was to live back then. Appreciate the little things. Technology advances at a rapid rate, and the only way to witness them is to stick around. Most importantly, take care of yourself, sleep being the most neglected. Give your body a chance to heal yourself. It will process negative emotions to help you feel better and overcome them. Your body, with adequate rest, will take care of you as it is designed and willing to do so as long as you let it do so. If things get out of hand and you feel suicidal, don't listen to your negative thoughts and isolation behavior, get some help with professionals, and believe me, once you realize that someone cares for you, you will immediately change and begin to trust and open up. It may seem embarrassing, but your body and brain will forget about those things, and you will feel a relief with human connection and validation. Easier said than done, but hopefully things get better. Good luck to you all.

    • @AmarisLW
      @AmarisLW Před 3 měsíci

      ​@@beatrix-ec1xfI agree

  • @lavenders9744
    @lavenders9744 Před 11 měsíci +923

    Imagine working so hard and it doesnt reflect in your results

    • @cris_meow
      @cris_meow Před 11 měsíci +57

      It sucks so much, I'm so scared of it

    • @Sam.Brownyy
      @Sam.Brownyy Před 10 měsíci

      I don't like this shit

    • @reeshiarya4283
      @reeshiarya4283 Před 9 měsíci +51

      Its takes the life out of you

    • @4492
      @4492 Před 9 měsíci +13

      Yeahhh....no idea what that's like....😢

    • @angtheascender4620
      @angtheascender4620 Před 9 měsíci +52

      I’m literally sick of trying, and chasing goals, and coming up with reasons to like living. I hate to say it that way but I feel like that’s what life is, finding something to live for and enjoy life about.
      I realize that on the inside there’s something missing or underdeveloped and I just can’t live life like a mentally healthier person can. I have to try extra hard just to be a healthy person on a baseline level which makes having daily life goals on top of that EXTRA strenuous, but no one knows the work I do every second of everyday. THATS the painful part. They just judge the pouting and the “deer in headlights” look on my face, but I’m not only sad but I’m tired. I’ve been at this all my life and sometimes I feel like I’m just not there yet. I wish I could just turn my brain and emotions off, maybe I can get more done. I’ve just become worse as a human as the years gone by. Self preservation and survival has been the name of the game, I don’t even think I’m capable of loving myself and others like I use to feel when I wad younger. That childlike heart is wilted.

  • @Whos_Aesthetic_magda
    @Whos_Aesthetic_magda Před 10 měsíci +203

    I just stare at the wall. tears on my face and overthinking everything.. I try to stop crying but when I think about the problem I feel weak and let it all out.. the worst part is that I hide it from everyone

    • @dlaminiprincess
      @dlaminiprincess Před 9 měsíci +8

      Ur not alone.

    • @pullpulse123
      @pullpulse123 Před 8 měsíci +8

      Me too. Don’t hide it, tell someone you trust. Or a mental health professional. You shouldn’t have to hold it in.

    • @KetzalySantos
      @KetzalySantos Před 8 měsíci +8

      I understand, tell someone you trust. If you have no one, I recommend telling Jesus. He can take away all your pain, burdens, EVERYTHING your bottling in. Jesus died for you for a reason. God bless you. 🩷 Is it okay if I pray for you?
      Just know the Holy Spirit can guide you to the right paths. Jesus loves you, my friend. If you need anyone to talk to, you can too me, if your comfortable with it! ❤❤

    • @manojdewan5850
      @manojdewan5850 Před 8 měsíci +2

      ​@@pullpulse123Same 😢Nobody cares for me

    • @Whos_Aesthetic_magda
      @Whos_Aesthetic_magda Před 7 měsíci +2

      @@KetzalySantos I’m a Muslim 😓

  • @ur.local_sam
    @ur.local_sam Před 8 měsíci +138

    "“The prettiest smiles hide the deepest secrets."

  • @Monstervolging
    @Monstervolging Před 8 měsíci +35

    First is when people don't give a shit about your cries for help. Second is when you give up on looking for help from people and just cope with it.

  • @user-uk6ow2gf2j
    @user-uk6ow2gf2j Před 10 měsíci +509

    I get called bubbly and likeable at work but they don't know what I'm really going thru

    • @anxme4843
      @anxme4843 Před 8 měsíci +13

      Literally me

    • @Fluffymck
      @Fluffymck Před 8 měsíci +9

      Hate being called it

    • @sherrytzasherrytza4793
      @sherrytzasherrytza4793 Před 8 měsíci +34

      I'm sorry to hear you're not feeling well inside. I always wondered if bubbly people were really happy all the time, or they were just putting on a brave face, to not burden others. I low key envy you. Because, my sadness peaks through, it shows on my face despite my best efforts to hold it all in. Not that I wanna hide it completely, but I'd like to be able to chose when and who I share this with, lol 😅

    • @decemberlotus
      @decemberlotus Před 7 měsíci

      ​@@sherrytzasherrytza4793I would rather not burden anyone

    • @itsybitsytosan5662
      @itsybitsytosan5662 Před 7 měsíci +1

      🥺

  • @zarkos2313
    @zarkos2313 Před 9 měsíci +525

    Anxiety happens when you think you have to figure out everything all at once.
    Breathe . You're strong. You got this Take it day by day.

    • @starshot5172
      @starshot5172 Před 8 měsíci +9

      That's true tbh

    • @dasunra1640
      @dasunra1640 Před 8 měsíci +8

      Day by day ? I say take it moment by moment present. Be the Observer of your thoughts and emotions. Know what is your pain body and how to heal it. Learn about how to abide in the inner-body. Learn the power of now. This is all practical. Human suffering is created for the most part because we are identified with the mind. If we don’t choose to wake up now, we will be awoken in time with greater suffering.

    • @darwinvisaya9149
      @darwinvisaya9149 Před 8 měsíci +4

      Like my mom always say to me: one task at a time, one day at a time🥺🥺

    • @LukeRev480
      @LukeRev480 Před 6 měsíci

      Not always, it depends on the cause. Mine just creeps in whenever I get a flare from the chronic disease.

    • @PrincessSharifa434
      @PrincessSharifa434 Před 4 měsíci

      Thank you

  • @trolleez
    @trolleez Před 8 měsíci +63

    As someone who has had depression, the 1st one is also accurate. Depends on if the person will try to hide it or not.

    • @narlywaves2371
      @narlywaves2371 Před 4 měsíci +9

      The first one is very accurate. We stigmatize people who look sad. I don't trust people claiming to have smiling depression. You can't hide depression. It doesn't make sense.

    • @FronteirWolf
      @FronteirWolf Před 3 měsíci +1

      Yeah my mum had yo use her best negotiation skills to get me out of bed to do something I enjoy.

  • @Three_therians_in_a_den
    @Three_therians_in_a_den Před 4 měsíci +201

    Here are a few reasons why you shouldn’t give up:
    1. To see your family again
    2. To see here someone say “I love you”
    3. To adopt your dream pet
    4. Go on your first date
    5. Have your first kiss
    6. Be a good gf/bf
    7. Get married
    8. Laugh so hard until you cry
    9. Watch your fav til toker/ CZcamsr/streamer etc
    10. Make new friends
    11. Cry in your room
    12. Fall asleep in a new place
    13. Eat ice cream on a hot day
    14. Drink hot chocolate on a cold day
    15. Tell someone you love them
    16. Comfort a friend
    17. Tell a really bad joke but still laugh
    18. Have a movie night
    19. Eat
    20. Make a smoothie
    21. Catch up with friends
    22. Visit family
    23. Explore
    24. Go on a vacation
    25. Stay up late
    26. Get a good test result
    27. Try something new
    28. Retire
    29. Hang out with your pet
    30. Tell your friend you can’t come bc your busy but really you don’t want to go
    31. Do something nerve wrecking
    32. Spread a rumour at school that it’s haunted
    33. Laugh off something embarrassing at school
    34. Try a new sport
    35. Have children
    36. Hold your child for the first time
    37. Skip school
    38. Play video games on a public holiday
    39. Watch wholesome videos on CZcams
    40. Be yourself
    41. Go on a walk
    42. Watch a pet devour its food
    43. Meet the love of your life
    44. Have a crush
    45. Have a celebrity crush
    46. Read a comment that gives you 100 reasons to stay alive
    47. Learn that by the time your an adult you would have spent 90% of your time with parents
    48. Cry
    49. Laugh
    50. Watch your favourite artist live
    51. Listen to your favourite song
    52. Make your favourite food
    53. Read a good book
    54. Read a bad book
    55. Try alcohol for the first time
    55. Experiment with food
    56. Make a potion from shampoo
    57. Fall over
    58. Discover who you are
    59. Discover your family history
    60. I love you
    61. I love your hair
    62. I love your eyes
    63. I love when u laugh
    64. I love when u cry
    65. I love your arms
    66. I love your hands
    67. I love your legs
    68. I love your kindness
    69. I love how you point at this number
    70. I love how you are unique
    71. I love your bad days
    72. I love your good days
    73. I love your mid days
    74. I love your smile
    75. I love how you love yourself and me
    76. I love how you Dave your fears
    77. I love how you look
    78. I love your height
    79. I love your face
    80. I love your feet
    81. I love your cooking
    82. I love your creativity
    83. I love your taste of music
    84. I love your art
    85. I love your hobbies
    86. I love your personality
    87. I love your knees
    88. I love your pets
    89. I love your family
    90. I love your reasons you love me
    91. I love your country
    92. I love your videos
    93. I love your reasons you love your friends
    94. I love every mistake you made
    95. I love every moment of you
    96. I love that you’ve made it this far
    97. I love your jokes
    98. I love your kids
    99. I love doing your favourite hobby
    100. I LOVE YOU AND YOU SHOULD NEVER GIVE UP❤

  • @johnhoover9767
    @johnhoover9767 Před 10 měsíci +69

    People will never understand what we go through….

    • @ZanaLuka
      @ZanaLuka Před 4 měsíci +1

      I don't know if it's but I have
      E to keep a secret from my mom and my heart it's telling me go tell ur mom I did the last night 🌙 but I used to cry eve
      Cry night.so I understand

  • @biancamoore413
    @biancamoore413 Před 9 měsíci +142

    For all the people who are dealing with this I am so sorry you deserve peace and happiness and so much more. You are important. You are not a waste. You’re beautiful you are handsome you are smart and talented. What do you feel and what you think what’s in your mind, and in your heart is important you deserve to be listen to you deserve happiness

    • @kellygirl1776
      @kellygirl1776 Před 7 měsíci +8

      Thanks for the support I really appreciate it! GOD bless you 🙏🙏

    • @gabbysade6477
      @gabbysade6477 Před 6 měsíci +4

      Needed this💗. Thank u love🙏🏾

  • @Vlad_Shv
    @Vlad_Shv Před 3 měsíci +16

    Depression LOVES people who don't move! You dotta move! Life = movement!

  • @I_love_harry-potter
    @I_love_harry-potter Před 6 měsíci +5

    I do both.
    Nothing makes me TRULY happy 😔

  • @Jmitch767
    @Jmitch767 Před 9 měsíci +25

    If you lose someone in your family sibling mother father you will always be half sad everyday. It never ever goes away. It’s a weird feeling honestly

    • @pmaurya3577
      @pmaurya3577 Před 3 měsíci +5

      So true. A part of us just goes away with them. 😢

  • @user-be2pg1uv5h
    @user-be2pg1uv5h Před 9 měsíci +75

    The first one is how my depression feels 😢 the second one is what I try to be so no one notices it... 😭

  • @applejellypucci
    @applejellypucci Před 3 měsíci +6

    I embrace my sadness now, rather than try to go against it. If I get a burst of energy before it kicks in, I use that to get things done especially with 2 small children under 5. Hang in there everyone.

  • @soulassassin0g
    @soulassassin0g Před 8 měsíci +113

    People think I'm an introvert but the truth is I just want to be alone a lot.

    • @NicoleKim-cc3kf
      @NicoleKim-cc3kf Před 5 měsíci +4

      Same, I’m introvert too

    • @Yami-mugoni613
      @Yami-mugoni613 Před 4 měsíci +13

      That what’s a introvert is they enjoy being alone

    • @ryemiranda6800
      @ryemiranda6800 Před 4 měsíci +5

      Well unfortunately my country is an extrovert country and people here are extroverted. Now i feel like im the only one who is introverted being forced to be extroverted

    • @rakantopinibl5736
      @rakantopinibl5736 Před 3 měsíci +1

      Same

  • @AlphaHaze
    @AlphaHaze Před 9 měsíci +49

    Depression don't have looks. It can be inside of anyone no matter what they look or what they are doing.

  • @erwinverwimp82
    @erwinverwimp82 Před rokem +118

    Depression is no joke. I know. Kind regards from Belgium.

    • @discipleofjesus719
      @discipleofjesus719 Před rokem +3

      I hope you’re doing okay friend. You are so strong for dealing with this because it can be really hard. But never give up and know that you can work through it. There is always hope. I’ll pray for you friend. Jesus loves you, as shown by His life, death, and resurrection to give us all eternal life. He is there for you too
      “The Lord is close to the broken-hearted and saves those crushed in spirit”
      Psalm 34:18

    • @Newbie122
      @Newbie122 Před 11 měsíci

      Chant -
      Hare Krishna Hare Krishna Krishna Krishna Hare Hare
      Hare Ram Hare Ram Ram Hare hare
      And be happy

  • @kris2455
    @kris2455 Před 9 měsíci +18

    Sometimes people with depression are those most smiling and showing joy in the workplace all the time...because they overdo the acting to make it convincing. Nobody is happy all the time. So this is how you can spot it as well

  • @faith-pr1fn
    @faith-pr1fn Před 9 měsíci +13

    I always seem cheerful on the outside but I’m actually crying on the inside

  • @godzillagames2739
    @godzillagames2739 Před 10 měsíci +68

    Every day I have to put a smile on my face and if I don’t force a smile I cry uncontrollably

    • @rosie6
      @rosie6 Před 10 měsíci +6

      Please don’t suffer alone. Talk to someone you trust, supressing everything is not good for you, you can vent to me if you don’t mind? Your not alone ❤

    • @karag4487
      @karag4487 Před 9 měsíci +2

      You can vent here bro, you're not alone

    • @countryduo2534
      @countryduo2534 Před 6 měsíci +1

      Hugs

    • @linseybrownlie3680
      @linseybrownlie3680 Před 5 měsíci +1

      Me too

  • @Theboitheycalledlost
    @Theboitheycalledlost Před 11 měsíci +76

    I often like to smile and make people laugh a lot. Just those small interactions help a lot inside.

  • @brioche8123
    @brioche8123 Před 6 měsíci +5

    I think this is part of the reason some people don’t even know they’re depressed! It can also look like anger and irritability.

  • @lakshadhipathikalpana5288
    @lakshadhipathikalpana5288 Před 5 měsíci +24

    The word'' depression'' ,first time i heard that word from my frnd ...i never knew wht it was.. life was very hard for me in my 18... i never knew i had been going through one ,its like i am swimming in ocean without knowing its a ocean...i thought its just water ,u just have to swim to survive..but it was diffrent...now i am ok,but really deep inside not. Just living with a flow. Guys whoever is going through this , take help, dont loose urself ,u r stronger than u think,speak to urself, love urself ,ask urself how precious u r ,stop hurting urself . sending lots of love and prayers ❤❤❤

  • @felichaamanda1359
    @felichaamanda1359 Před 11 měsíci +96

    I told my family and friends i feel like a failure when they ask me "are you okay?" And they said I'm seeking for attention/it's all in your head/you have nothing to feel depressed. Then i hand them the result from the psychiatrist that said i have a severe depression. Since then, i never told anyone about my feeling.
    Don't ask someone "are you okay?" when you don't mean it guys.. it hurt..

    • @juneautumn3067
      @juneautumn3067 Před 10 měsíci +10

      I regret telling my family. The end

    • @roseashley7650
      @roseashley7650 Před 10 měsíci +3

      ❤❤❤

    • @karag4487
      @karag4487 Před 9 měsíci +1

      ​@@juneautumn3067why?

    • @baeldaikokuten_yj6792
      @baeldaikokuten_yj6792 Před 9 měsíci +1

      They only ask if you’re okay but they never suspect that it would be depression. Many people like to anyhow say when they know almost nothing about depression like smiling depression 😢

    • @realeffingdeal9419
      @realeffingdeal9419 Před 9 měsíci

      I should never have told my family

  • @e.diaz8280
    @e.diaz8280 Před 10 měsíci +34

    I'm depressed when I get up everyday and look for a job.
    Life sucks

    • @HamzaAli55659
      @HamzaAli55659 Před 9 měsíci +6

      Same here dude 😢

    • @KetzalySantos
      @KetzalySantos Před 8 měsíci +5

      Life does sucks. But know that Jesus can help you! You can (if you want) place you trust in Him! He died for you and loves you so much, it’s hard to explain. His love is amazing. When we follow Him, It doesn’t mean our lives are PERFECT, we will go through stuff and the devil is real, sadly. Can I pray for you? I’m not gonna force you, you can choose. ❤

  • @charlottenorth8522
    @charlottenorth8522 Před 6 měsíci +6

    I just make sure no one knows then I sit in my bedroom crying myself to sleep and dealing with all these thoughts

  • @user-wy7cp5se4u
    @user-wy7cp5se4u Před 6 měsíci +19

    Lord Jesus, may we come to You always. Amen.

  • @mentalhealthcareus
    @mentalhealthcareus Před 10 měsíci +40

    Remember, you are not alone - seeking help and support is a brave step toward overcoming depression.

  • @Billie115
    @Billie115 Před 10 měsíci +15

    We can be happy too just that happiness doesn't last

  • @DogMommy.
    @DogMommy. Před 8 měsíci +17

    Exactly how I feel . I'm literally in bed just feeling so down. 😢

  • @AndresRivero-qo6de
    @AndresRivero-qo6de Před 7 měsíci +2

    It’s scary when we live in a world that don’t know what people don’t even know what a mental health problem is..

  • @michaellopez1152
    @michaellopez1152 Před 11 měsíci +71

    It's hard and I hate when people tell me to get counseling. I just feel like they just want to hand me over to someone else instead of helping with the pain.

    • @brightpurpose1869
      @brightpurpose1869 Před 10 měsíci +28

      When I tell my daughter to consider counseling is because I really don’t have the skills or tools to help her heal. Most times it is well intentioned to advise to reach for help.

    • @andrewp5732
      @andrewp5732 Před 9 měsíci +6

      I’m saying this as someone with depression and a slew of other things:
      Assuming you’re an adult, it’s your responsibility to go get help. Depression is a treatable illness. Medication will help you chemically, counseling will help with coping skills.
      Sometimes you do just need a friend for a shoulder to cry on, and a good friend will be there for that when it’s needed. But if you’re not taking steps to help yourself, no one else is going to be able to help you, and you’re just going to become an energy vacuum for the people in your life
      If you’re still a kid, that’s a different story. You still need to get help, but you’re going to need help to get help. Talk to a parent. If your parents don’t help, talk to any adult who you trust. Preferably someone at school maybe with some kind of authority who isn’t afraid to go to your parents and suggest getting you treatment. Get the ball rolling.
      Either way, best of luck. Be strong and get treatment.

    • @baeldaikokuten_yj6792
      @baeldaikokuten_yj6792 Před 9 měsíci +11

      They are telling you to go counselling because it’s for your own good. They have no skills to help you that’s why they want you to go to counselling

    • @brodyhill5350
      @brodyhill5350 Před 9 měsíci +2

      Counseling does help, but then you’ll be more depressed when you get the bill.

  • @supertechofficial7043
    @supertechofficial7043 Před 10 měsíci +24

    This world was just lacking for love, everyone needs that. The moments you spend with people you shall cherish it every second. Most of all people ignore being open hearted and that explains why people get depressed.

    • @LukeRev480
      @LukeRev480 Před 6 měsíci +3

      The problem is fear of being open-hearted to wrong people. You end up getting more hurt.

  • @Jennifer-gr7hn
    @Jennifer-gr7hn Před 6 měsíci +5

    It can also look like smiles, joy, people pleasing, humor, and life of the party....missing a whole lot here.

  • @zeldius3397
    @zeldius3397 Před 9 měsíci +7

    Many people don't show what they're dealing with, and unfortunately many people who we see as "normal", suffer from so much shit that they end up taking their own life which is honestly really sad to know people around us could reach to this extent without us seeing any kind of red flag

  • @JakeWalker23664
    @JakeWalker23664 Před 10 měsíci +22

    What depression really looks like: *insert a person smiling with their friends and dancing*

  • @XxSakura_playsxX
    @XxSakura_playsxX Před 11 měsíci +30

    In the outside I'm happy, but in the inside im heartbroken....

  • @ademvoli4406
    @ademvoli4406 Před 8 měsíci +7

    The "what people think depression looks like" part was me everyday

  • @divyayadav6748
    @divyayadav6748 Před 5 měsíci +4

    It becomes even more difficult when you have to show everyone that everything is okay while only you know how tough it's....
    You can't even show to your family because you don't wanna stress them and also because they won't understand

  • @DoctorCharlesSophy
    @DoctorCharlesSophy Před 9 měsíci +7

    The invisible struggles of depression can indeed make it a challenging battle, often hidden behind a façade.

  • @Phoenix-ov5gg
    @Phoenix-ov5gg Před 9 měsíci +6

    People say ‘depression is like being sad all the time’ because that’s the easiest way to explain it, for me at least it’s not like that, in fact I have a complete absence of emotion, pleasure etc. it feels you you are just sitting in a cold bare corridor waiting to grow old and die.
    Interestingly I don’t experience dreams and don’t recall anything upon waking. And I get headaches.

  • @bb-3653
    @bb-3653 Před 4 měsíci +1

    The first one is usually the pit you hit when your in extreme depression

  • @Eman__7
    @Eman__7 Před 9 měsíci +11

    I was in a deep depression back in 2020. I used to go to work and do my tasks with my face full of tears. I remember also couple of times when I used to cook lunch for myself with my eyes full of tears and a dead feeling inside.. it was a horrible couple of weeks until I started therapy for the first time in my life. So I relate to the video. However, I would also say that depression is a phase not a temporary one week feelings !!.. so if you reach my level or the level in this video I would urge you to seek help as soon as possible. Most of the times it will spiral to much worse situation going from this level.. unless u reach out for help and used all the resources available to u.
    Be safe and take care of yourself and your emotions ❤

  • @crystalcarls489
    @crystalcarls489 Před 10 měsíci +6

    My emotional pain seems to have a stronghold on me, its grip unyielding and relentless. It's like a dark shadow, always lurking in the corners of my mind, ready to surge forth at the slightest provocation. No matter how hard I try to run from it, to hide from it, it always finds me. It's a relentless cycle that appears to know no end, a vicious circle of emotional distress that I can't seem to shake off.

  • @Sam13o31
    @Sam13o31 Před 11 měsíci +36

    Depression helps me to focus on my goals and work harder

    • @KS-li2on
      @KS-li2on Před 9 měsíci +1

      This is my experience. It is insane. I am healthier now, but I am not driven to goals that could kill someone from overworking. Or maybe I am so used to being on the edge that healthy feels too easy. Like something will snap or I am in a delusion. But that is just the fun of perspective and doesn’t actually mean much- just a life shift. 😅

    • @strangerthings4233
      @strangerthings4233 Před 9 měsíci

      Wow, what the hell. Same thing happened to me

    • @BlairyBlair222
      @BlairyBlair222 Před 9 měsíci

      Me too. It pushes me. I hate that depressice feeling and its worth the hard work to get out of it.

    • @samratsaharoy5868
      @samratsaharoy5868 Před 9 měsíci

      ​@@KS-li2onhow explain

    • @ezramassey8041
      @ezramassey8041 Před 8 měsíci

      Wow...depression completely strips most people. Good for you

  • @lowochi
    @lowochi Před 6 měsíci +1

    Some of the worst things I heard when I got diagnosed with severe anxiety and depression was: "why don't you just be happy?", "you aren't depressed unless you have tried to take your own life", "you're just such a selfish human being" or "stop being lazy and get up".
    If you are currently depressed and heard any of these comments, just know that there exist people who understand what you are going though and we wish you the best. Depression does not disappear over night, it's something you often need a professional to solve. Just know that you are worth it and even when you feel like nobody loves you, there's at least 1. And that will be me. Stay strong ❤

  • @XiaomiRedmi-es1ot
    @XiaomiRedmi-es1ot Před 5 měsíci +1

    Depression is basically burning from inside, being paralyzed, becoming totally numb and feeling stuck with incredible inner pain & having demons within your head killing you mentally, physically and emotionally. Its insanely difficult to battle depression especially if you are own your own. To anyone with depression or anxiety, I swear to God you are not alone and you are loved and you deserve so much more love and respect. Please don't give up. Seek help. People will take care of you but you need to take that first step. Do it for yourself.

  • @angelaaldas5591
    @angelaaldas5591 Před rokem +32

    True. And you can add a lot of crying too.

    • @discipleofjesus719
      @discipleofjesus719 Před rokem +1

      I’m sorry to hear friend. My heart goes out to you and I want you to know that you can work through this 🤍 surround yourself with love and support because you deserve it. God loves and cares for you. He is there for you, and I am too if you need to talk
      “For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life” John 3:16

    • @-Materixl_.gurl-
      @-Materixl_.gurl- Před rokem +3

      I am crying right now

    • @Jrlokerfloorx
      @Jrlokerfloorx Před rokem +6

      Unless you can't cry

    • @97AshleyRose
      @97AshleyRose Před 10 měsíci +1

      Yep today is one of those days I’m paralyzed and can get out of bed or have a desire to do anything now crying but have learned to live with it so days aren’t as bad as others

  • @SirBorkYT
    @SirBorkYT Před 10 měsíci +10

    This is very true, and is very important to keep in mind. There are probably, no, definitely at least one person who you see every day, or many times during the week, that is suffering through something, and you probably don't realize. It is always a good idea to check in with your friends, keep an ear out for how they are speaking or what they are saying, how much energy they have, and if its more or less than normal, so you can help them.

  • @simonefilter1890
    @simonefilter1890 Před 8 měsíci +4

    What it can also look like:
    Laughing and smiling with your fellow students.

  • @Ryvilgames
    @Ryvilgames Před 8 měsíci +20

    “Your too young for depression’’
    so I hide it

  • @BuizelCream
    @BuizelCream Před 9 měsíci +30

    The 1st is actually my style of depression. Normally, I am a very productive individual who has a vision and chases their goals, and I have many passions and topics to study and research. The 2nd one is actually me at my best. And then I reward myself with either video games, or long brisk walking, or hanging around with fun and interesting friends and family.
    So when I am depressed, I am everything but productive. I go moody and lazy and uninspired. I shut myself away. No activity whatsoever. No distractions either. Just completely feeling my feelings, and I absolutely hate being in this dark moment. It feels so paralyzing.

    • @hcneyblcx
      @hcneyblcx Před 8 měsíci +1

      you are me.

    • @narlywaves2371
      @narlywaves2371 Před 4 měsíci

      This is actually depression. The idea of high functioning depression is a load of ...... When you meet a high functioning depression person they shame you and stigmatize you. I'll never trust another functioning depression person ever again. They play games and are narcs. You can't fake depression. It's impossible.

  • @uncensoredcornishgirl87l16
    @uncensoredcornishgirl87l16 Před 6 měsíci +3

    I have clinical depression with psychosis. I get good and bad days, the bed days are normal due to my health in general but we can smile, act fine and physically seem normal. We all cope differently, there is no right or wrong way. Sending hugs 🤗

  • @rachelgless3123
    @rachelgless3123 Před 7 měsíci +1

    I’m crying with you - life is so hard. When supports don’t exist it’s unbearable. People need to be there for one another with kindness and compassion❤. It’s difficult to understand mental health if you don’t suffer from it…

  • @Collette-it9ft
    @Collette-it9ft Před 7 měsíci +1

    I am going through the deepest depression of my life. I'm trying so hard to find a reason to keep going

  • @CarrieonZepeto
    @CarrieonZepeto Před 8 měsíci +3

    “Try not to feel their pain feel yours”
    -UNKNOWN

  • @BlairyBlair222
    @BlairyBlair222 Před 9 měsíci +16

    Depression and anxiety is completely normal. Life is full of unknowns and it can get overwhelming. Not everything is about buying shit and looking good.

    • @FronteirWolf
      @FronteirWolf Před 3 měsíci +2

      When I'm depressed, like during a depressive illness, I am anything but normal. I want to sleep 24 hours a day and really don't want to get out of bed even when my legs are on fire with cramp.

  • @xxLoving.myselfxx
    @xxLoving.myselfxx Před 3 měsíci +2

    1st one: me home alone
    2nd one: me around ppl

  • @Guiiizmo96
    @Guiiizmo96 Před 7 měsíci +2

    I left my job this year after 10 years cause I hated it, in fact I didn't know what to do with my life since I got a severe depression. The meds did'nt help at all I just did'nt get panic attack anymore. I started back school for a new career thinking it would be easier for my mental health but since I left my job things just got worst. Stress and anxiety is eating my last piece of soul. My dad is bipolar and alcoholic, he never really talked with me about it. I'm 28 now and I've never been so clueless about who I really am.

  • @gamingwithmichael7888
    @gamingwithmichael7888 Před 9 měsíci +7

    i just smile so nobody expects anything

  • @jtime5041
    @jtime5041 Před 5 měsíci +3

    Depression can looks different in different people

  • @belugacat7781
    @belugacat7781 Před 6 měsíci +1

    thats the thing when im having depression in hard times and when I talk abt it to someone close all they say is " u don't look depressed u don't know what Ive gone through stop lying "

  • @all4honor
    @all4honor Před 6 měsíci +2

    Depressed people have the best songs in their playlists 😢

  • @fabianramos6556
    @fabianramos6556 Před rokem +19

    I always smile through pain

    • @Fatalym
      @Fatalym Před rokem +2

      Do you need someone to talk to?

    • @chicken1w
      @chicken1w Před 8 měsíci +1

      Me i say ouch

  • @Kevin_Knows
    @Kevin_Knows Před 5 měsíci +3

    Us on the outside: *smiling*
    Us on the inside: *deep sadness*

  • @Gacha_Gurlies
    @Gacha_Gurlies Před 7 měsíci +1

    I absolutely hate it when you have sad or have anxiety or lack confidence and people say, “just push yourself and try to be be more confident, it’s not that hard!” Or “cheer up, there’s nothing to be sad about, just try to be a bit happier” because it’s really not that easy.

  • @dhdhde4582
    @dhdhde4582 Před 5 měsíci +1

    I feel you my mom is also depression patient for 25 years seing her suffering break my heart

  • @brodyhill5350
    @brodyhill5350 Před 9 měsíci +5

    Depression looks like… having a mother in law say you’re lazy.
    Depression can be so different from one person to the other.

  • @feliciadjones9390
    @feliciadjones9390 Před 3 měsíci +2

    Depression is a type of selfishness that you have to fight through because it's a tactic that the enemy uses to enter your mind to take control of.

  • @sussy_cat43
    @sussy_cat43 Před 8 měsíci +1

    School is making me overthink all of this it drives me to depression and insanity quickly

  • @shanaazabrahams1319
    @shanaazabrahams1319 Před 5 měsíci +1

    There is just way too much positivity about depression. Can I just be depressed without feeling guilty about it? I will get through it.

  • @BadBoySupreme6969
    @BadBoySupreme6969 Před 10 měsíci +38

    To whoever reads this,
    I love you.
    I love your smile.
    I love your laugh.
    I love your personality.
    I love your hair (or lack thereof).
    I love your insecurities.
    I love your accomplishments.
    I love your failures.
    I love your eyes.
    I love your beauty.
    I love your handwriting (or the way you communicate).
    I love the way you dance.
    I love you on your happy days.
    I love you on your sad days.
    I love you on the days you feel lonely.
    I love you on the days you feel helpless.
    I love you on the days you feel like no one cares.
    I love you on the days you feel forgotten.
    I love you on the days you feel unmotivated.
    I love you on the days you feel loved.
    I love you on the days you feel sick.
    I love you on the days you feel motivated.
    I love you on the days you feel depressed.
    I love you on the days you feel stressed.
    I love you on the days you feel crazy.
    I love you on the days you feel hopeful.
    I love you on the days you feel cuddly.
    I love you on the days you feel clingy.
    I love you on the days you feel amazing.
    I love you on the days you feel beautiful.
    I love you on the days you feel like a failure.
    I love you on the days you feel angry.
    I love you on the days you feel aggressive.
    I love you on the days you feel horrible.
    I love you on the days you feel safe.
    I love you on the days you feel unsafe.
    I love you on the days you feel vulnerable.
    I love you on the days you feel weird.
    I love you on the days you feel ok.
    I love you when you're healthy.
    I love how you sing (or hum or feel the music).
    I love your taste in music.
    I love your taste in movies.
    I love your taste in tv shows.
    I love the way you move.
    I love the way you act.
    I love you when you cry.
    I love you when you're kind.
    I love you when you're mean.
    I love you when you're alone.
    I love you when you can't feel.
    I love you when you feel too much.
    I love you when you can't take life anymore.
    I love you when you feel like it's too much.
    I love you when you're asleep.
    I love you when you have nightmares.
    I love you when you have dreams.
    I love how you believe.
    I love you when you believe in yourself.
    I love you when you don't believe in yourself.
    I love you when you hate yourself.
    I love you when you love yourself.
    I love the way you think.
    I love your problems.
    I love your solutions.
    I love how you support.
    I love you when you're in pain.
    I love you when you're hurt.
    I love your promises.
    I love your secrets.
    I love your attitude.
    I love you sass.
    I love your creativity.
    i love your voice (or lack thereof).
    I love your hand gestures.
    I love your stories.
    I love your wounds.
    I love your scars.
    I love your face.
    I love your past.
    I love your future.
    I love your present.
    I love your outfits.
    I love your style.
    I love your art.
    I love your honesty.
    I love you when you lie.
    I love you when you're tired.
    I love you when you're energetic.
    I love how you look.
    i love how you cook.
    I love you when you're adventurous.
    I love you when you're scared.
    I love your imperfections.
    I love your perfections.
    I love you when you worry.
    I love you when you talk (or communicate).
    I love your opinions.
    I love you when you have a headache.
    I love you when you have a stomach ache.
    I love you when you help others.
    I love you when you need help.
    I love you when you're mature.
    I love you when you're immature.
    I love you in the hard times.
    I love you in the easy times.
    I love you when life is meh.
    I love you when you're responsible.
    I love you when you’re not responsible.
    I love you for you🙃❤️

  • @PRIME_DETECTIVE
    @PRIME_DETECTIVE Před 10 měsíci +15

    Im proud of all of you

    • @omaewamoushinderuu
      @omaewamoushinderuu Před 9 měsíci +6

      Thank you for that. ❤ I'm very proud of you too. Wherever your journey leads you, may God be with you

  • @ng6635
    @ng6635 Před 3 měsíci +1

    its hard to tell if someone is depressed cause you can never really tell cause everyone deals with it differently

  • @maitreyi8303
    @maitreyi8303 Před 5 měsíci +1

    I have both type of depression
    When alone cry a lot when people's are there tears in my eye

  • @user-pz4tz6yg7c
    @user-pz4tz6yg7c Před 10 měsíci +6

    I always put a smile on so no one knows my fav song to cope with it is murder my feelings what I did and people make jokes about it and I laugh but at home I cry myself to sleep

    • @rosie6
      @rosie6 Před 10 měsíci

      😢don’t suffer alone man, there must be someone u can vent to, u can vent to me if you like❤ Hugs x

  • @tinnisvoice4228
    @tinnisvoice4228 Před 9 měsíci +4

    As the classic clown of the class, my friends don't even know that I'm struggling with depression cuz im always smiling😅

  • @trishoolin__7908
    @trishoolin__7908 Před 8 měsíci +2

    Its very tough to handle depression especially when you feel alone. Lost friends, relationship, job they comes again and again in mind. There is only one way to out from this if we make new friend, it can be anyone who also feeling like this. Depressive person can handle other depressive one. Try to make friend online start talking with each other on chat from anywhere any country or from different countries. I am also feeling depressed I also don't know what to do. This was my opinion may be by this comment someone initiate to start talking with me. I am also very alone. May be by talking we can make ways to be happy who knows the future nobody. In life everyone has different education different countries different languages when we start talking each other may be we can change each other's life. God help those who help themselves. 🙏

    • @ranjinibhaskaran1204
      @ranjinibhaskaran1204 Před 6 měsíci +2

      Going through the same... Lost friends.. relationship..job.. ended up feeling like a total failure .. people say I'm overthinking...when that's not the thing. Under medication n therapy but loneliness is a killer. I dread to wake up.
      It's scary to be alone . Its scary to wake up... Suicidal thoughts creep in coz im tired of trying to be strong. It's tiring.. silence is deafening. Especially when people around u don't understand what anxiety n depression is n they just say oh stop overthinking n cheer up it's even more annoying.. coz no one understands

  • @Campdog44
    @Campdog44 Před 8 měsíci +1

    I've seen both of these versions in my ex partner. Alcohol and drugs certainly didn't help her but she wouldn't stop.

  • @Squirrel-zq6oe
    @Squirrel-zq6oe Před 8 měsíci +5

    I just isolate myself. Drink Kratom. Wear headphones in public. Stay in my room at home.

  • @rijd2304
    @rijd2304 Před 11 měsíci +8

    The book "30 Days to Reduce Depression" by Harper Daniels has great mindfulness meditations.

  • @im.just.a.girl.1
    @im.just.a.girl.1 Před 6 měsíci +2

    I’m depressed, but I try not to show it because I don’t wanna cause problems. I pretend I’m happy and go about my day, but the second I’m alone in my room, I lay down, start overthinking and sometimes crying.

    • @priyankarai7227
      @priyankarai7227 Před 6 měsíci

      Bt body will not support after sometime stress cause anexiety in body hiding is good untill body .....

  • @sadly.single.introvert.
    @sadly.single.introvert. Před 4 měsíci +1

    Both are true. The first is jsut whn i cant hold it in anymore. Which is most of the time, you could say.